握紧情感管理之舵，循循善诱成长轨迹，勇攀创新峰巅，编织梦想蓝图。

Grasp the helm of emotional management, follow the growth轨迹, dare to scale the peak of innovation, and weave the blueprint of dreams.

1. 人虽然渺小，人生虽然短暂，但人有主观能动性，有自己的智慧和力量，可以修身，可以完善自己，可以让自己由弱小变得强大。

1. Although humans are small and life is short, humans possess the subjective initiative, their own wisdom and strength, and can cultivate themselves, improve themselves, and transform from weakness to strength.

2. 一个人强大自己最好的方式，就是情绪有节，成长有道，拼搏有勤。朝着自己向往的境界全力以赴，讲究方法和策略，就能把这辈子活得酣畅淋漓。

2. The best way for a person to strengthen themselves is to regulate their emotions, grow in a proper manner, and strive diligently. By giving their all towards the realm they aspire to, and by being meticulous about methods and strategies, they can live this life to the fullest and with zest.

3. 《礼记•中庸》有云：

3. As stated in the "Book of Rites" (Liji) - "The Doctrine of the Mean":

4. “喜怒哀乐的情感没有发生，可以称之为中；喜怒哀乐的感情发生了，但都能适中且有节度，可以称之为和。中是天下最为根本的，和是天下共同遵循的法度。达到了中和，天地就会各安其位，万物便生长发育了。”

4. "When there is no occurrence of emotions like joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure, it can be called 'moderation.' When these emotions arise, but all of them are moderate and in control, it can be called 'harmony.' Moderation is the most fundamental in the world, and harmony is the common principle that the world follows. Once achieving a balance between moderation and harmony, the heavens and earth will settle into their proper places, and all things will grow and develop."

5. 一个人最根本的能力，就是驾驭自己情绪的能力。掌控不了情绪的人，生活的一点风吹草动都会让自己惴惴不安，任何一种不如意的事情，都会让自己惊慌失措。真正厉害的人，泰山崩于前，而面不改色，黄河决于口，而心不惊慌。不管遇到什么人，发生什么事，遭遇什么样的环境，都可以处变不惊，从容不迫，镇定自若，游刃有余。

5. The most fundamental ability of a person is the ability to control their own emotions. Those who cannot control their emotions will feel anxious and restless at the slightest breeze or rustle in life. Any unfavorable event will make them panic and lose their composure. Truly formidable individuals can remain unflustered in the face of a collapsing Taihang Mountain or an overflowing Yellow River. No matter who they meet, what happens, or what kind of environment they encounter, they can remain calm, composed, and skillful in handling the situation.

6. 即便自己的情绪忍不住发生了，也能让它保持在一个适中而有节制的状态，不会破坏事态的发展，也不会伤害自己的身心健康。

6. Even if one's emotions cannot be contained, they can be kept in a moderate and controlled state, without disrupting the development of the situation or harming one's physical and mental health.

7. 《礼记•中庸》有云：“要博学多才，就要对学问详细地询问，彻底搞懂，要慎重地思考，要明白地辨别，要切实地力行。要么不学，学了没有学会绝不罢休；要么不问，问了没有懂得绝不罢休；要么不想，想了没有想通绝不罢休；要么不分辨，分辨了没有明确绝不罢休；要么不实行，实行了没有成效决不罢休。”

7. The Book of Rites, Zhongyong says: "To be widely learned and versatile, one must inquire into learning in detail, understand it thoroughly, think carefully, distinguish it clearly, and act sincerely. Either do not learn at all, or do not rest until one has learned; either do not ask, or do not rest until one has understood; either do not think, or do not rest until one has thought through; either do not distinguish, or do not rest until one has made it clear; either do not act, or do not rest until one has achieved results."

8. 想要尽快的成长，让自己变得越来越强大，有足够的底气和能力应对人世间的风霜雨雪，必须要抢抓一切时间和机遇去成长，去努力，去奋斗。广泛的学习，用丰富的知识武装自己的大脑；详细的询问，从根本上解决自己的困惑，掌握人生的智慧；明白的辨别事物的本质，不让自己陷入迷途，用清明的理性面对一切问题；把道理搞明白了，就要全心全意去实践，去行动，去落实，让道理在生活中开花结果。

8. To grow up as quickly as possible and become increasingly strong, to have enough confidence and ability to face the vicissitudes of life, it is necessary to seize every moment and opportunity to grow, to strive, and to fight. Broaden your learning, arm your mind with rich knowledge; ask in detail to fundamentally resolve your confusion and grasp the wisdom of life; clearly distinguish the essence of things, avoid getting lost, and face all problems with clear rationality; once the principles are understood, one must wholeheartedly practice, act, and implement them, allowing the principles to bloom and bear fruit in life.

9. 遵行正确的方式去成长，我们才能变得越来越好。

9. By adhering to the correct way of growth, we can become better and better.

10. “别人一次就能做成的事情，自己做一百次；别人要十次能做好的事情，只要自己肯做上千次一定也能做好。如果真能这样做，即便愚笨也会变得聪明，即使柔弱也会变得刚强。”

10. "What others can accomplish in one attempt, I must do a hundred times; what others can do well in ten attempts, I can certainly do well in a thousand attempts if I am willing to do so. If one truly does this, even the foolish will become wise, and even the weak will become strong."

11. 业精于勤荒于嬉，行成于思毁于随。

11. Skill is acquired through diligence and lost through idleness; character is formed through thoughtfulness and destroyed through carelessness.

12. 只要你可以聚焦某一件事情，倾注你的全部精力和时间，千磨万击，千锤百炼，持续深耕，最后一定会创造奇迹。

12. As long as you can focus on a single thing, pour all your energy and time into it, endure countless trials and tests, and continuously delve deep, you will definitely create a miracle in the end.

13. 所谓成功，就是把简单的事情重复做，重复的事情用心做，用心的事情坚持做，把勤奋进行到底，把用心的重复坚持到底，就会爆发出滴水穿石的力量，柳暗花明又一村，守得云开见月明。

13. What is considered success is to repeatedly do simple things with dedication, to do repetitive tasks with care, to persistently do things with a sincere heart, to persevere in diligence, and to persist in the repeated, careful actions. In this way, one will unleash the power of water滴石穿，find a new village after a dark alley of willows and flowers, and see the moon clear after waiting for the clouds to disperse.

14. 导语：一个成年人遇到问题或困难时，如果暴怒哀伤或萎靡沮丧，就是把情绪管理的责任交给了别人。成长是管理好自己情绪的关键，需要自己有成长的自觉意识。在家庭中，需要我们通过与家人之间的互动沟通，通过孩子成长的过程，来重新观照自己、觉察自己、调整自己和管理自己。

14. Introduction: When an adult encounters problems or difficulties, if they become raging, sorrowful, or despondent, it means they have delegated the responsibility of emotional management to others. Growth is the key to managing one's emotions well, and it requires self-awareness of personal growth. In the family setting, we need to reexamine ourselves, become aware of ourselves, adjust ourselves, and manage ourselves through interactions and communication with family members and through observing the process of the children's growth.

15. 孩子小的时候，制度可以稍微严点，让孩子知道我们的要求。但随着孩子年龄的增加，我们应给孩子更多的决定权，以调动孩子的积极主动性，即提供给孩子一个从你要我做到我应该做的思维转变的土壤。

15. When children are young, the system can be a bit stricter to let them know our expectations. However, as children grow older, we should give them more decision-making power to stimulate their proactive initiative, that is, to provide the soil for children to shift from "you ask me to do" to "I should do" thinking.

16. 孩子是引爆你愤怒的导火线，而不是给你产生愤怒的原因。他不应该对你的情绪负责。孩子的行为启动了你内心的程式，要求你依照它编排的内容去做，虽然这个自动发生的反应，你无法选择，但是你可以选择不遵从它的指示。你可以倾听自己的内心，排除冲动，以便更好的关心孩子，不受惯反应的干扰。

16. Children are the trigger for your anger, not the cause of it. They should not be held responsible for your emotions. Their behavior activates the internal program in you, prompting you to act according to its content. Although you cannot choose this automatic response, you can choose not to follow its instructions. You can listen to your inner voice, overcome impulse, in order to better care for your child without being disrupted by habitual reactions.

17. 降低自己的压力焦躁水平我之所以放到第一条可见它的重要性。因为如果我们的压力焦躁水平比较高，任凭我们有多好的情绪管理能力，星星之火都可以燎原。

17. Reducing one's stress and anxiety levels is placed at the top of the list, which shows its importance. Because if our stress and anxiety levels are high, regardless of how good our emotional management skills are, a small spark can ignite a great fire.

18. 年龄小的孩子很缠人，也比较情绪化，一点小事，动不动就哭闹。带过小小孩的家长都知道，带孩子太让人身心疲惫了，上班可比带孩子轻松多了。再加上家务，所以每到星期五晚上我好像感到暴躁情绪已堵到了喉咙口，马上就要火山爆发了。注意到这个问题，我采取了一些措施去缓解自己的压力。

18. Young children can be very clingy and emotional, easily upset over trivial matters and prone to crying and tantrums. Parents who have taken care of young children know that it is incredibly exhausting, both physically and mentally, and much easier than working. Add household chores to the mix, and by Friday evening, I seem to feel a surge of irritability clogging my throat, ready to erupt like a volcano. Noticing this issue, I have taken some measures to relieve my stress.

19. 每周末给自己2至3小时放松的时间，一杯咖啡加一本好书是我最享受的事。老公海归回来之后，每周星期六早上，我就把儿子扔给老公，自己去书店，一杯咖啡、一本书，一个小时之后，明显感到已经到了喉咙口的情绪在慢慢下降，然后在外面走走或商场逛逛。回到家，我有一种被充了电精神焕发的感觉，觉得又有足够的精力可以对付下一周了。而且很奇怪，精神状态好时，看儿子，怎么看怎么可爱，他的不是我好像也更能包容，有点情人眼里出西施的感觉，发火点自然就高了。

19. Every weekend, I give myself 2 to 3 hours of relaxation time. A cup of coffee and a good book are the most enjoyable things for me. After my husband returned from studying abroad, every Saturday morning, I leave our son with him and head to the bookstore. With a cup of coffee and a book, after an hour, I can feel the tension that was sticking in my throat slowly easing. Then, I go for a walk outside or逛逛 the shopping mall. When I come back home, I feel like I've been recharged and refreshed, feeling that I have enough energy to face the next week. And it's quite strange; when I'm in a good mood, looking at our son, he just seems adorable in every way, and even the things that bother me seem more tolerable to me, as if I'm seeing him through rose-colored glasses. This naturally raises my tolerance threshold for him.

20. 我觉得每周有2～3个小时属于自己的时间非常重要，大家可以选择做任何让自己放松的事，例如跑步、健身、做瑜伽、会朋友、美容、看书、逛商场等等。我老公喜欢打高尔夫，冬天滑雪，晚上有时跟朋友们打德州扑克。我很支持他去，他回来后情绪也好了很多。所以有兴趣爱好很重要，它对帮助调剂生活情趣、减轻生活压力、管理情绪有很大的作用。

20. I believe it's very important to have 2 to 3 hours of personal time each week, during which everyone can choose to do anything that relaxes them, such as running, exercising, practicing yoga, meeting friends, beauty treatments, reading, shopping, and so on. My husband enjoys playing golf, skiing in winter, and sometimes playing Texas Hold'em poker with friends at night. I fully support him in these activities, and he always returns in a much better mood. Therefore, having hobbies is very important, as it plays a significant role in helping to adjust the fun of life, alleviate the pressure of life, and manage emotions.

21. 你给孩子的最好礼物就是照顾好自己。当你照顾好自己，你就是以身作则地示范一个有坚韧力的人、一个幸福、热爱生活的人、一个充满爱心的人、一个有生活意义的人的是怎样生活的。如果我们的全部生活都以孩子为中心，我们就会使自己的生活黯然失色、缺少情趣和追求，孩子也因此不会对他们的未来满怀憧憬和希望。

21. The best gift you can give to your child is to take care of yourself. When you take care of yourself, you are setting an example of how a person with resilience, a happy, life-loving person, a compassionate person, and a person with a meaningful life lives. If we make our entire life revolve around our children, we will dim our own life, lack interest and pursuit, and as a result, the children will not look forward to their future with full of dreams and hopes.

22. 老公海归期间找了个阿姨帮我打扫卫生、每天做晚餐。即使后来老公回美国了，我们还是保留阿姨每星期来一次打扫卫生，它对减轻我的压力有了太大的帮助，也给我更多的时间做我喜欢做的事，这是我认为最明智的投资之一。

22. During my husband's time studying abroad, I hired an elderly woman to help me clean the house and prepare dinner every day. Even after my husband returned to the United States, we continued to have the elderly woman come once a week to clean. It has been of tremendous help in alleviating my stress and has given me more time to do the things I enjoy. This is one of the wisest investments I have made, in my opinion.

23. 夫妻双方需要互相沟通，了解自己及对方的压力焦虑水平。多体贴对方，尽力帮助对方减轻压力。每星期都给对方放2～3个小时的假，让各自都有放松的时间，心情好了，家庭关系一定会有所改善。而和睦的家庭有益于改善每个家庭成员心情，由此减少发火的机率，从而走向良性循环。

23. Both husband and wife need to communicate with each other, understand their own and each other's stress and anxiety levels. Be more considerate of each other and try to help each other relieve stress. Give each other 2 to 3 hours of free time every week, so that each has time to relax. With a good mood, the family relationship will definitely improve. A harmonious family is beneficial to improving the mood of each family member, thereby reducing the chance of losing temper, and thus moving towards a positive cycle.

24. 曾有一个妈妈告诉我，她几乎每天都在送两个孩子去各种各样的兴趣班中，累的心力交瘁，自己连喘气的机会都没有，发现自己为一点小事就动不动发脾气，发完又内疚，自己会躲在车里哭。我建议她砍掉

24. A mother once told me that she almost every day sends her two children to various interest classes, feeling exhausted both physically and mentally, with no chance to even breathe. She found herself easily losing her temper over trivial matters, feeling guilty afterward, and would hide in her car to cry. I suggested that she cut back on

25. 二个孩子的兴趣班，她说：那些兴趣班都是孩子喜欢的啊，孩子是不同意砍的。我告诉她：妈妈对一个家的气氛起了决定性的作用，一个不快乐的妈妈，很难有快乐的孩子。一个情绪不好有心结的孩子一定会影响孩子在其他方面的健康发展。很多孩子的行动偏差，表面上是孩子表现不好，其实是孩子有情绪心结。没有良好的情绪管理的家长会影响亲子关系。权衡一下，砍掉

25. For her two children's extra-curricular classes, she said: "All those classes are things the kids like, and they wouldn't agree to cut them. I told her: 'A mother plays a decisive role in the atmosphere of the home, and an unhappy mother is hard to have happy children. A child with a bad mood and emotional knots will definitely affect the child's healthy development in other aspects. Many children's behavioral deviations, which appear as poor performance on the surface, are actually rooted in emotional knots. Parents without good emotional management can affect the parent-child relationship. Weigh the situation and cut them out."

26. 二个兴趣班的利是否显而易见呢另外也要让孩子明白，爸爸妈妈的身心健康也很重要，孩子在选择报兴趣班时也应该考虑爸爸妈妈的时间安排，全家不是都以孩子为中心转的。

26. Are the benefits of attending two interest classes obvious? Also, it is important for children to understand that the physical and mental health of parents is also very important. When choosing to enroll in interest classes, children should also consider the time arrangements of their parents. The whole family does not revolve solely around the child.

27. 孩子如同一张白纸，他们的一言一行受到周围环境的影响。越小的孩子，受环境影响的程度越大。因此，从某种角度来说，孩子之所以产生问题行为，并不是孩子主动使然，而是被动影响与积累的结果。不过，孩子的行为也极具可塑性，只要家长掌握正确的方法，便可以很好的塑造与调整孩子的行为。心理学研究表明，对事情的理解与可控感可降低人们对事情的消极情绪反应。因此，家长一方面要增强对孩子不良行为的理解，另一方面要提高自己对控制孩子行为方向的自信心。这样，在面对问题时，家长所激活的愤怒、烦躁等消极情绪会得到明显减弱。

27. Children are like blank slates, their every word and action being influenced by their surroundings. The younger the child, the greater the extent of the influence of the environment. Therefore, from a certain perspective, the problem behaviors that children exhibit are not necessarily due to their own initiative, but rather the result of passive influences and accumulations. However, children's behavior is highly malleable, and as long as parents master the correct methods, they can shape and adjust their children's behavior effectively. Psychological research shows that understanding and a sense of control over a situation can reduce negative emotional responses to it. Therefore, parents should, on one hand, enhance their understanding of their children's undesirable behaviors, and on the other hand, boost their own confidence in directing their children's behavior. In this way, when facing problems, the negative emotions such as anger and frustration that parents may activate will be significantly weakened.

28. 当家长对孩子的行为产生愤怒时，自我放松是调整情绪的有效办法。其中最容易操作的方法就是深呼吸，在很多电视剧中，我们经常能看到剧中人物在发怒时，用深呼吸的方法暂时控制自己的情绪。实际上，心理咨询也经常采用放松方法来调节来访者的情绪。这种方法是具有科学依据的，因为，人的情绪会引发生理反应，如生气时面红耳赤，害怕时脸色苍白。反过来，人的生理反应同样也会影响人的情绪，如喝酒会觉得兴奋，按摩会觉得轻松等。而深呼吸会让自己的身体从消极情绪的状态回到正常状态，因此会让人的情绪变得更加平静，从而更为理智的解决问题。在深呼吸的同时，放松全身，并在头脑中想一想孩子行为的正常性与可塑性，会更好的缓解自己的情绪。此外，绘画也是一个家长可以运用的放松方法，很多家长会说，我不会画画，这个方法不适合我。其实，这里的绘画，是既可以自由涂鸦，又可以细致描绘，没有美术技巧的要求，可自由随意的创作。

28. When parents feel愤怒 towards their child's behavior, self-relaxation is an effective method for adjusting emotions. The easiest method to operate is deep breathing, which we often see characters in TV dramas use to temporarily control their emotions when they are angry. In fact, psychological counseling also often uses relaxation techniques to regulate the emotions of visitors. This method is scientifically supported because people's emotions can trigger physiological responses, such as blushing when angry or pale when scared. Conversely, people's physiological reactions can also affect their emotions, such as feeling excited after drinking or feeling relaxed after a massage. Deep breathing allows the body to return from a state of negative emotions to a normal state, thus making people's emotions more peaceful and enabling them to solve problems more rationally. While breathing deeply, relax the whole body and think about the normality and malleability of the child's behavior in your mind, which will better alleviate your own emotions. In addition, painting is also a relaxation method that parents can use. Many parents may say, "I can't draw, this method is not suitable for me." In fact, the painting here refers to something that can be freely doodled with, as well as meticulously detailed, without requiring artistic skills, and can be freely and随意ly created.

29. 家长在面对孩子所造成的一片混乱时，怒火往往一下子被引燃，从而立即产生打骂等不适当的教育方法。这时，暂时离开是缓解情绪的有效方法。孩子产生不良行为的情境也是引发家长情绪产生的来源之一，而离开这种刺激情绪的情境，会降低家长的愤怒，并可以脱离情绪，去思考更多方面的问题。因此，家长在愤怒时，应暂时离开孩子一分钟，去冷静一下，放松自己的情绪，想一想解决问题的有效办法。这样，当家长再回到孩子身边时，会采用更为理智的方法解决问题。

29. When parents face the chaos caused by their children, their anger often flares up instantly, leading to inappropriate educational methods such as hitting and scolding. At this time, temporarily stepping away is an effective way to calm down. The situations in which children exhibit negative behavior are also one of the sources that trigger parents' emotions. By leaving such stimulating emotional situations, parents' anger can be reduced, and they can detach themselves from emotions to think about more aspects of the problem. Therefore, when parents are angry, they should temporarily step away from their children for a minute to cool down, relax their emotions, and think about effective ways to solve the problem. In this way, when parents return to their children, they will be able to address the issues in a more rational manner.

30. 所以，家长们，请你们适当管理好自己的情绪，冷静处理孩子的各种问题。让那些有用的理论和方法能够更有效的帮助孩子们的成长。

30. Therefore, parents, please manage your own emotions appropriately and calmly handle your children's various issues. Let those useful theories and methods help children's growth more effectively.

31. 职场人的情绪管理对于个人的职业生涯和心理健康都有着重要的影响。

31. Emotional management for professionals has a significant impact on both personal career development and mental health.

32. 建立积极的心态：保持积极的心态可以帮助我们更好地应对工作中的挑战和压力。可以通过积极的自我暗示、鼓励自己、寻求他人支持等方式来建立积极的心态。

32. Cultivate a positive mindset: Maintaining a positive mindset can help us better deal with challenges and pressures at work. We can establish a positive mindset through positive self-suggestions, encouraging ourselves, and seeking support from others.

33. 学会放松：学会放松可以帮助我们缓解工作中的紧张情绪和压力。可以通过冥想、瑜伽、按摩、听音乐等方式来放松自己。

33. Learn to Relax: Learning to relax can help us alleviate tension and stress from work. We can relax ourselves through methods such as meditation, yoga, massage, listening to music, etc.

34. 与他人交流：与他人交流可以帮助我们获得支持和理解，缓解工作中的情绪和压力。可以与同事、家人、朋友等交流自己的情绪和问题。

34. Communication with others: Communicating with others can help us gain support and understanding, and alleviate emotional and stress related to work. You can share your emotions and problems with colleagues, family members, friends, etc.

35. 建立工作与生活的平衡：建立工作与生活的平衡可以帮助我们更好地管理情绪和压力。可以通过规律作息、锻炼身体、培养兴趣爱好等方式来建立工作与生活的平衡。

35. Establishing a Balance between Work and Life: Establishing a balance between work and life can help us better manage our emotions and stress. This can be achieved through regular routines, physical exercise, cultivating hobbies, and other methods.

36. 寻求专业帮助：如果自己的情绪和压力无法自行缓解，可以寻求专业帮助，例如心理咨询、心理治疗等。

36. Seek professional help: If one's emotions and stress cannot be alleviated on their own, it is advisable to seek professional assistance, such as psychological counseling or psychotherapy.

37. 总之，职场人的情绪管理需要从多个方面入手，包括对自己情绪的认知、建立积极心态、放松自己、与他人交流、建立工作与生活的平衡等。

37. In summary, emotional management for professionals requires approaching it from multiple angles, including self-awareness of emotions, cultivating a positive mindset, relaxing oneself, communicating with others, and establishing a balance between work and life.

38. 学会面对挫折：职场中会遇到各种挫折和挑战，学会面对挫折可以帮助我们更好地处理情绪和压力。可以通过思考解决方案、寻求他人帮助、从失败中吸取经验等方式来应对挫折。

38. Learn to face setbacks: In the workplace, we will encounter various setbacks and challenges. Learning to face setbacks can help us better handle emotions and stress. We can cope with setbacks by thinking of solutions, seeking help from others, and drawing lessons from failures.

39. 建立自信心：建立自信心可以帮助我们更好地面对工作中的挑战和压力。可以通过充分准备、自我肯定、学习新知识等方式来建立自信心。

39. Build self-confidence: Establishing self-confidence can help us better face challenges and pressure at work. Self-confidence can be built through means such as thorough preparation, self-assertion, and learning new knowledge.

40. 注意工作绩效：注意工作绩效可以帮助我们更好地应对工作中的压力和情绪。可以通过合理规划工作、定期评估工作绩效、与领导和同事沟通等方式来提高自己的工作绩效。

40. Pay attention to work performance: Focusing on work performance can help us better cope with stress and emotions at work. We can improve our work performance by means of reasonable work planning, regular evaluation of work performance, and communication with leaders and colleagues.

41. 学会适当表达情绪：学会适当表达情绪可以帮助我们更好地与他人沟通和合作。可以通过掌握适当的表达方式、避免抱怨和指责、尊重他人意见等方式来适当表达情绪。

41. Learn to express emotions appropriately: Learning to express emotions appropriately can help us communicate and collaborate with others more effectively. This can be achieved by mastering appropriate expression methods, avoiding complaints and accusations, and respecting others' opinions.

42. 总之，职场人的情绪管理需要不断地进行实践和调整，通过多种方式来缓解情绪和压力，保持良好的心态和健康的心理状态。

42. In summary, the emotional management of professionals requires continuous practice and adjustment, utilizing various methods to alleviate emotions and stress, and maintain a positive mindset and a healthy psychological state.