在压力与崩溃的边缘，沉默、冷漠、孤独的背影，是智慧的觉醒。

On the brink of pressure and collapse, the silent, indifferent, solitary silhouette is the awakening of wisdom.

1. 没有哪一阵暴雨可以坚持一个早上，没有哪一股狂风可以持续一整天，没有哪一种苦难可以连绵一辈子。不管我们面对多少压力，多少苦难，多少委屈，多少艰难，一定要做一个乐观阳光的人，熬一熬总会过去，挺一挺终有阳光。

1. No heavy rain can last for a whole morning, no strong wind can blow the entire day, and no kind of suffering can endure a lifetime. No matter how much pressure, hardship, injustice, or difficulty we face, we must always be an optimistic and sunny person. Perseverance will lead to a brighter future, and as long as we hold on, the sun will eventually shine through.

2. 你好！心事藏在心里，是什么性格？这个问题，如果某个人总把心事藏在心里，不和别人诉说或请教，这个人的性格，属于内向型，自制能力很强，很会处理和解决问题能力，所以，完全不用向别人诉说和请教，祝你生活愉快！

2. Hello! If someone always keeps their inner thoughts to themselves and doesn't share or seek advice from others, their personality tends to be introverted, with a strong sense of self-discipline and excellent problem-solving skills. Therefore, they don't feel the need to share or seek advice from others. Wishing you a happy life!

3. 社交成本高现代社交活动需要花费大量的时间和金钱。比如，聚餐、派对、旅游等活动都需要付出一定的经济代价。对于那些经济条件不太好的年轻人来说，这些社交活动的成本可能会成为他们不愿意参与社交的原因之一。

3. High Social Costs: Modern social activities require a significant amount of time and money. For instance, activities such as dining out, parties, and travel all come with an economic cost. For young people with not-so-robust financial conditions, the cost of these social activities might be one of the reasons they are unwilling to participate in socializing.

4. 每个人都会遇到各种各样的压力，有的人压力特别大，我们一定要及时调整自己，修正自己的心态，想办法恢复自己的状态和能量，不要让自己崩溃和垮塌。

4. Everyone will encounter various kinds of pressures. Some people may face particularly heavy pressures, and we must adjust ourselves in a timely manner, correct our mindset, and find ways to restore our state and energy, to prevent ourselves from collapsing and falling apart.

5. 预想到最坏的结果之后，依然去努力，可以减少焦虑。同样，将细节全部思考清楚，有的放矢，也能够带来一定的控制感。因为不会盲目乐观，在焦虑的时候，我们能够用过去的失败来提醒自己不能放松，同时也可以利用过往的经验来更好地面对现在的困难。

5. After anticipating the worst outcomes and still striving to overcome them, anxiety can be reduced. Similarly, by carefully considering all the details and addressing them with purpose, a sense of control can also be achieved. Because we are not blind optimists, during moments of anxiety, we can use past failures to remind ourselves not to relax, and at the same time, we can utilize past experiences to better confront the current difficulties.

6. 焦虑的产生，与先天的基因、后天的环境都有关系。往往在不知不觉中，我们就从一个无所畏惧的小孩子变成了一个焦虑的成年人。在转行做心理咨询师的时候，我经常觉得自己会失败，设想过无数种最糟糕的结果，后来就干脆抱着“尽力试一下，反正肯定是输”的心态，一步步走到了现在。直到如今，虽然有了一些成绩，我却从来没有觉得自己很厉害，经常还是会焦虑，担心准备不够充分，焦虑专业还不够精进，依然会抱着敬畏的心态，尽力完成每一次咨询。慢慢地，焦虑也变成了一种习惯和动力。 所以说，不要害怕焦虑，焦虑也有好的一面，而且防御性悲观主义者的焦虑，往往是成功的必备素质。

6. The onset of anxiety is related to both innate genes and acquired environment. Often without realizing it, we transform from fearless children into anxious adults. When I switched to becoming a psychological counselor, I often felt like I would fail, imagined countless worst-case scenarios, and later just adopted the attitude of "let's give it a try, anyway, it's bound to be a loss," and step by step, I reached where I am now. Even now, although I have achieved some results, I have never felt that I am very skilled. I still often feel anxious, worrying about not being well-prepared, not being proficient enough in my profession, and I still approach each consultation with a sense of awe, trying my best to complete it. Slowly, anxiety has become a habit and a driving force. So, don't be afraid of anxiety; it also has its positive aspects, and the anxiety of defensive pessimists is often an essential quality for success.

7. 心理 健康 是一种理想，也是一种梦想。这种境界可以追求，但永远不可能真正拥有。实际上，每个人都有病，只不过有的轻有的重罢了。但是，心理医生也给不了您的理想。

7. Mental health is both an ideal and a dream. This state can be pursued, but it can never be truly possessed. In fact, everyone has a disease, just that some are mild and some are severe. However, a psychologist cannot give you your ideal either.

8. 有苦有泪只往心里咽，哪怕强颜欢笑，也要争取以最好的姿态面对生活。让别人永远看到你的笑脸，让自己永远看到坚强的脊梁，默默扛起一切，你终将走出人生的低谷。

8. Endure the bitterness and tears within, even if you have to force a smile. Strive to face life with the best posture you can. Let others always see your cheerful smile and let yourself always see the strong backbone of resilience.默默承担一切, you will eventually overcome the low point in life.

9. 虽然压力很大，但我们能够依靠的只有自己，不必在人群中消磨自己的时间和精力，也不必对虚假的人情世故有所期待，自己的事情自己做，属于自己的路，要靠自己去走。

9. Although the pressure is great, the only thing we can rely on is ourselves. We do not need to waste our time and energy in the crowd, nor should we have any expectations of false human relationships. Our own matters should be handled by ourselves, and the path that belongs to us must be walked by ourselves.

10. 社交对于人的身心健康有很大的影响，适当的社交对于年轻人的成长和发展是非常重要的。但是，社交也需要适度，不能过度追求社交而牺牲自己的利益和健康。

10. Social interaction has a significant impact on a person's physical and mental health. Appropriate social engagement is crucial for the growth and development of young people. However, social interaction should also be moderate, and one should not excessively pursue social activities at the expense of their own interests and health.

11. 第二个问题：并不是所有人都认为社交是很辛苦的。

11. The second question: Not everyone thinks socializing is hard.

12. 人生路上，如果焦虑无法避免，那么不妨就从焦虑中寻找动力。小说家GB斯特恩说过：“乐观的人发明飞机 探索 天空，悲观的人发明降落伞防止坠落。”

12. On the journey of life, if anxiety cannot be avoided, why not find motivation from it? Novelist GB Stern once said, "Optimists invent planes to explore the sky, while pessimists invent parachutes to prevent falling."

13. 在心理学中，个人感受到的压力和效率的关系是一个倒U形的曲线，适度的压力（焦虑）水平能够推动效率达到最高水准，而过高的压力（焦虑）水平则会让焦虑弥漫，让人无法正常思考和感受当下。焦虑症是全球最普遍的心理问题之一，大约每十个人里面，就会有一个人被诊断为焦虑症患者。

13. In psychology, the relationship between the stress felt by individuals and efficiency follows an inverted U-shaped curve. Moderate levels of stress (anxiety) can drive efficiency to the highest level, while excessively high levels of stress (anxiety) can lead to anxiety pervading, making it impossible for people to think and feel in the present. Anxiety disorder is one of the most common psychological problems globally, with approximately one out of every ten people being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.

14. 不一定，焦虑是每个人都有的，多看书散心，看一些风景优美的地方，焦虑可以听一些放松的音乐，或者放松的催眠曲

14. Anxiety is not necessarily something everyone has; by reading more books to distract yourself and visiting some beautiful sceneries, you can alleviate anxiety by listening to some relaxing music or soothing hypnotherapy tracks.

15. 人生这道题，怎么选都会有遗憾所以，就把心掏出来缝缝补补，一觉醒来又是信心百倍，活着就是要逢山开路，遇水架桥自渡是能力，渡人是格局，睡前原谅一切，醒来便是重生。”

15. Life is a question that no matter how you choose, there will always be regrets. So, let's take out our hearts, patch them up, and wake up feeling full of confidence again. Living is about forging paths when you encounter mountains and building bridges when you meet rivers. Self-help is a skill, helping others is a perspective. Forgive everything before going to sleep, and you will be reborn when you wake up."

16. 一些年轻人更喜欢独自一人去旅游，而不是和一群人一起旅游。他们认为这样可以更好地享受旅游的过程，而不是被其他人的需求和喜好所束缚。

16. Some young people prefer to travel alone rather than with a group. They believe that this allows them to better enjoy the travel experience without being constrained by the needs and preferences of others.

17. 我告诉她，可能大家都习惯了她是一个时刻处在“防御性悲观”状态的人，所以，在一些不需要防御性悲观的情境下，大家就会觉得她缺乏愉悦感吧。想象一下，如果一个人在团队工作中，永远只看可能出现的问题，一定程度上也会影响团队士气，对不对？在生活里，总是在计划万一发生坏事怎么补救，却不能享受当下的成果，也会带来问题。

17. I told her that maybe everyone is used to her being in a state of "defensive pessimism," so in situations that don't require defensive pessimism, people might feel that she lacks a sense of joy. Imagine, if someone in a team always focuses on potential problems, it could also affect the team's morale, right? In life, always planning how to deal with bad things that might happen, but not being able to enjoy the achievements of the present, can also bring problems.

18. 社交不是所有人的天性，有些人天生就不擅长社交，这并不是一种缺陷或者不良品质。

18. Social interaction is not the innate nature for everyone; some people are naturally not good at socializing, and this is not a flaw or a bad quality.

19. 诺勒姆教授用她的理论进行了不同的实验。 实验发现，相同的任务里，当防御性悲观主义者将所有的困难都详细地列出来时，他们更能够得到理想的结果；而当乐观主义者完全不去思考可能面对的困难时，他们则能够将自己的最佳实力展现出来。更有意思的是，容易焦虑的人，如果同时能够利用防御性悲观思想，他们往往更容易获得自信，取得成功。

19. Professor Norem conducted various experiments using her theory. The experiments found that, within the same tasks, defensive pessimists who list all the difficulties in detail are more likely to achieve ideal results; whereas optimists, who do not think about the possible difficulties at all, are able to demonstrate their best capabilities. More interestingly, individuals who are prone to anxiety often find it easier to gain confidence and succeed when they can also utilize defensive pessimism.

20. 当狂风在你耳边呼啸时，你只当它微风拂面；当暴雨在你眼前倾泻时，你只当它屋檐滴水；当闪电在你头顶肆虐时，你只当它烟火流逝。只要你有一颗欢喜心，命运的无情就毁灭不了你。

20. When the fierce wind howls in your ears, treat it as a gentle breeze on your face; when the heavy rain pours before your eyes, consider it as the dripping eaves of a house; when the lightning rages above your head, view it as the fleeting fireworks. As long as you have a heart filled with joy, the mercilessness of destiny cannot destroy you.

21. 总之，题主不要为自己挖坑而跳下去，最终使自己上不来。凡事往好处想，适度的焦虑和压力，不一定真的就使身心有病了。

21. In summary, the asker should not fall into a trap they have set for themselves, ending up unable to climb out. Think positively about everything, and moderate anxiety and stress are not necessarily harmful to the body and mind.

22. 让焦虑消失，对成年人来说，简直是一个不可能完成的任务。无论你多么佛系，生活总有办法将你打趴在地。既然一定会焦虑，我们不妨多思考一下怎么利用焦虑的力量。

22. Making anxiety disappear is an almost impossible task for adults. No matter how laid-back you are, life always finds a way to knock you down. Since anxiety is inevitable, why not think more about how to harness the power of anxiety?

23. 要明确自己想要得到什么该怎么去做，要有目标

23. It is important to be clear about what you want to achieve and how to go about it; you need to have a goal.

24. 作家余华说：“当你压力大到快要崩溃的时候不要和别人去讲。无人问津也好，技不如人也罢，都要试着安静下来，去做自己该做的事儿，事情都是被逼出来的，人只有被逼上绝路了，才会有办法。没上绝路以前，不是没想到办法，就是想到了，也不知道该不该去做。

24. The writer Yu Hua said: "When you are under so much pressure that you are on the verge of collapse, don't talk to others about it. Whether it's because no one cares or because your skills are not up to par, you should try to calm down and do what you are supposed to do. Things are all forced out of people, and it is only when people are pushed to the brink that they will find a way. Before reaching the end of the road, it's not that you haven't thought of a way, or that you have thought of it but don't know whether you should go ahead with it.

25. 社交需求有限不同的人对社交的需求是不同的，有些人非常喜欢社交，而有些人则不太需要。对于那些不太需要社交的年轻人来说，他们可能更愿意把时间和精力花费在自己感兴趣的事情上，而不是参加社交活动。

25. Limited Social Needs - Different individuals have varying levels of social needs. Some people are very social, while others have less need for social interaction. For those young people who have a lower need for social interaction, they may be more inclined to spend their time and energy on things they are interested in, rather than participating in social activities.

26. 焦虑症最典型的特点就是担心，而且是担心即将发生或还没发生的事情，指向未来。

26. The most typical feature of anxiety disorder is worry, specifically about things that are going to happen or have not yet happened, focusing on the future.

27. 当你感到压力很大，很无助，一定不要向别人倾诉委屈，绝大多数人会幸灾乐祸，少部分人爱莫能助，无论我们多么艰难，也指望不了任何人，只有自己才是人生的摆渡人。

27. When you feel overwhelmed and helpless, do not vent your grievances to others. The majority will take pleasure in your misfortune, a few may be willing to help, but no matter how difficult our situation may be, we cannot rely on anyone else. You are the only guide in your life's journey.

28. 当你快要承受不住的时候，一定要消灭一切消极和负面的情绪，以乐观豁达的心态，咬紧牙关往前走，撸起袖子加油干，不惧风雨，砥砺前行。

28. When you are on the verge of giving up, you must definitely eliminate all negative and pessimistic emotions. With an optimistic and open-minded attitude, bite the bullet and move forward, roll up your sleeves and work hard, fear not the storms and forge ahead with perseverance.

29. 他来找我咨询的时候，问我：“要怎样才能不那么紧张呢？”

29. When he came to consult me, he asked me, "How can I not be so nervous?"

30. 对于一些有性格缺点的人来说（例如：内向，害羞等），社交可能会带来一定的压力和负担，尤其是在面对陌生人或者不熟悉的社交场合时。不过，社交也是人类交流、建立联系、获得支持和帮助的重要方式，因此适当的社交对于个人的成长和发展也是非常有益的。

30. For some people with character flaws (such as: introverted, shy, etc.), socializing may bring certain pressures and burdens, especially when facing strangers or unfamiliar social settings. However, socializing is also an important way for humans to communicate, build connections, and obtain support and help. Therefore, appropriate socializing is very beneficial to an individual's growth and development.

31. 社交安全性问题现代社会存在各种安全问题，包括网络安全、人身安全等。对于年轻人来说，他们可能会担心参加社交活动会遇到不安全的情况，比如被骗、被盗等。这种担忧也会让他们不愿意积极参与社交活动。

31. Social security issues: In modern society, there are various security issues, including cyber security and personal safety. For young people, they may worry about encountering unsafe situations when participating in social activities, such as being deceived or robbed. This concern may also make them unwilling to actively participate in social activities.

32. 适度的焦虑，会让你表现得更好曾经有位来访者是话剧演员，专攻莎士比亚戏剧，戏份多且台词长，着实不易。舞台上夺目生辉的他，在现实生活里其实是一名重度焦虑症患者。哪怕一部戏已经排练过无数次，演出了十几年，台词都熟记于心了，但每次上台前他都会浑身发抖，汗出如浆，以至于将妆面都弄花了。

32. Moderate anxiety can make you perform better. Once there was a visitor who was an actor in drama, specializing in Shakespearean plays. With many roles and long lines, it was indeed challenging. On stage, he was dazzling, but in real life, he was actually a severe anxiety patient. Even though he had rehearsed a play countless times and performed it for over a decade, he had all the lines memorized, but he would still tremble all over and sweat profusely every time he went on stage, to the point that he would ruin his makeup.

33. 鱼和熊掌想兼得，前怕老后怕虎，想离婚又怕伤了孩子等。这种情况偶然有之，很正常。倘若心理冲突使人痛苦不堪，持续时间很长，这有可能是心理疾病发生了。

33. Wanting to have both fish and bear's paws, being afraid of old age and of tigers, wanting to divorce but afraid of hurting the children, and so on. This kind of situation occasionally occurs and is quite normal. If psychological conflict causes immense suffering and lasts for a long time, it might indicate the onset of a psychological disorder.

34. 题主说的情况，只是大概，具体焦虑什么、压力什么，没说清楚。

34. The situation mentioned by the asker is just a general description. What specific anxieties and pressures are there, it is not clear.

35. 我说：“可能是你不那么在乎每一次演出的时候。当然，你也可以用深呼吸的方法来降低心跳速度，让自己平静下来。但是，正是因为紧张，每次彩排你才会尽全力，每次上台都能那么全身心投入啊，不是吗？”

35. I said, "Maybe it's because you're not as concerned about every performance. Of course, you can also use deep breathing techniques to slow down your heart rate and calm yourself down. But it's precisely because of the tension that you give your all during each rehearsal, and you can be so fully immersed on stage each time, right?"

36. 想知道是否得了焦虑症，最科学的方法就是到正规专业的心理医院进行确诊，一般城市的六院都属于这样的医院，吉林省最权威就数长春六院或者吉大医院。

36. The most scientific way to find out if you have an anxiety disorder is to go to a regular and professional mental hospital for a diagnosis. Generally, the sixth hospital in most cities belongs to such hospitals, and in Jilin Province, the most authoritative ones are Changchun Sixth Hospital or Jilin University Hospital.

37. 社交压力大现代社会的竞争压力越来越大，社交已经不再是一种轻松愉快的活动。年轻人需要面对的社交压力包括：如何打造自己的社交圈、如何保持社交形象、如何应对各种场合下的人际关系等。这些压力让年轻人感到疲惫和焦虑，不愿意积极参与社交活动。

37. The pressure of social interactions is increasing in modern society as the competition pressure becomes greater, and socializing is no longer an easy and pleasant activity. The social pressures that young people need to face include: how to build their own social circle, how to maintain their social image, and how to handle interpersonal relationships in various situations. These pressures make young people feel exhausted and anxious, and they are not willing to actively participate in social activities.

38. 朱莉·诺勒姆教授有一套关于防御性悲观主义倾向的测试题，大家可以用来思考自己化解焦虑的方式。

38. Professor Julie Nolen has a set of test questions about the tendency towards defensive pessimism, which everyone can use to reflect on their own ways of alleviating anxiety.

39. 其实，焦虑作为一种情绪表达，基本上每个人在不同时期都会有，只是程度不同而已，而并不是说你感到焦虑与压力就是得了焦虑症！

39. In fact, anxiety, as a form of emotional expression, is basically something that everyone experiences at different times, just with varying degrees. It does not mean that feeling anxious and stressed is a sign of having an anxiety disorder!

40. 如果我们懂得怎样看待情绪，那么每种情绪都有力量。

40. If we understand how to view emotions, then every emotion has power.

41. 焦虑是一种被严重低估的能量。每个人对焦虑的感受不一样，但大体来说，是一种不确定感以及随之而来的担心。这种担心，通常是建立在我们对未来结果的一种负面预测上。这种悬而不决又隐约带着害怕的心情，会给我们带来强烈的不舒适感，我们的第一反应就是试图消解。

41. Anxiety is a severely undervalued energy. Everyone experiences anxiety differently, but generally speaking, it is a sense of uncertainty and the subsequent worry that comes with it. This worry is often based on negative predictions about future outcomes. This state of suspense, tinged with fear, brings about a strong sense of discomfort for us, and our first reaction is to try to resolve it.

42. 美国心理学教授朱莉·诺勒姆认为，防御性悲观主义者会下意识地将焦虑变成一种动力，将所有对策都考虑清楚，然后坚决执行，同时采取降低内心期待值的方法来有选择性地面对失败。因为期待值低，任何收获都是意外之喜；因为将问题细分和具体化，注意力集中，行动积极且主动，所以更容易成功。在焦虑的时候，防御性悲观主义者不会逃避，也不会拖延，他们通常会选择直面困难，哪怕结果不能改变。

42. American psychologist Professor Julie Norem believes that defensive pessimists unconsciously transform anxiety into a driving force, carefully consider all countermeasures, and then resolutely implement them, while also adopting a method of lowering inner expectations to selectively face failure. Because of low expectations, any achievement is a pleasant surprise; because problems are broken down and concretized, attention is focused, actions are proactive and active, making success more likely. When anxious, defensive pessimists do not avoid nor procrastinate; they usually choose to confront difficulties head-on, even if the outcome cannot be changed.

43. 社交方式变化随着社交媒体的普及，人们的社交方式已经发生了很大的变化。年轻人更喜欢通过社交媒体平台进行社交活动，而不是通过传统的面对面交流。这种新的社交方式虽然方便快捷，但是也会导致年轻人不愿意参与传统的社交活动。

43. Changes in social interaction methods With the popularity of social media, there have been significant changes in people's social interaction methods. Young people prefer to engage in social activities through social media platforms rather than through traditional face-to-face communication. While this new method of social interaction is convenient and quick, it also leads to young people being less willing to participate in traditional social activities.

44. 微信已经成为了很多年轻人的主要社交工具，他们可以通过微信与朋友聊天、分享生活、交流情感等。但是，当他们面对面地与人交流时，会感到不自在和紧张。

44. WeChat has become the main social tool for many young people, through which they can chat with friends, share their lives, and exchange emotions. However, when they communicate face-to-face with others, they may feel uncomfortable and tense.

45. 人生就是一场孤独的旅程，不要对任何人抱有心存幻想的期待和不切实际的妄想，不要指望有人会对你伸出援助之手。当你对别人没有利用价值的时候，没有人会对你嘘寒问暖，关怀备至。

45. Life is a solitary journey. Do not hold unrealistic expectations and delusions about anyone, and do not expect anyone to lend you a helping hand. When you are of no use to others, no one will show you concern and care.

46. 当我们焦虑的时候，一味地告诉自己不要担心，有时候反而会更糟糕。心理学里有个词汇，叫二级焦虑，就是担心自己太焦虑而引发的更大的焦虑。而防御性悲观主义的倾向，可以让我们在焦虑的时候，真实地面对自己的情绪，更主动地去思考解决问题的办法，而不是沉溺在自己的情绪里，被焦虑全面包围。

46. When we are anxious, constantly telling ourselves not to worry can sometimes make things worse. In psychology, there is a term called "secondary anxiety," which refers to the greater anxiety caused by worrying about being too anxious. The tendency towards defensive pessimism can allow us to face our emotions more genuinely when we are anxious, and to be more proactive in thinking about solutions to the problem, rather than getting lost in our emotions and being completely surrounded by anxiety.

47. 了解了这一点后，他终于能允许自己焦虑了，也知道了该怎样面对焦虑。从此，焦虑仿佛变成了动力，他甚至开始有点享受那种舞台上心跳加速的感觉。一点点未雨绸缪，就可以让焦虑的我们将内心的担忧排解而出。也正因为如此，防御性悲观主义是一个积极心理学的概念。

47. Having understood this, he finally allowed himself to be anxious and also knew how to deal with it. From then on, anxiety seemed to transform into motivation, and he even began to somewhat enjoy the sensation of his heart racing on stage. A little foresight can help us release our inner worries, and that is why defensive pessimism is a concept within positive psychology.

48. 我认为不是焦虑症，也许是恐惧症。有事容易紧张，感觉心慌，不敢到大的场合社交，是自己一生平平淡淡，高不成低不就的不敢出头，脸皮薄，胆量小，好象是社交恐惧症。有的是小的时候心里上受过伤。一日被蛇咬十年怕井绳，因紧张心慌毁了自己的前途。前怕狼后怕虎，就怕树叶打破头，一天到晚心里不安，其实那是潜载意识占了思维，到了成年以后成了习惯，是性格懦弱，大是大非面前不敢说话，就怕灾难引火上身，我觉着也是一种小毛病。

48. I believe it's not anxiety, but perhaps it's a phobia. I tend to get nervous in certain situations, feel my heart racing, and am afraid to socialize in large gatherings. It seems like I'm afraid to stand out in life, with nothing extraordinary, neither high nor low, not daring to step forward. I'm shy and lacking in courage, which might be social anxiety. Some people have been emotionally injured since childhood. The saying 'once bitten by a snake, afraid of a rope for ten years' is true for me; I was so scared that I let fear destroy my future prospects. I'm scared of wolves in front and tigers behind, and I'm afraid that a leaf might hit my head. I'm restless all day long. In reality, it's the subconsciousness that dominates my thoughts. After becoming an adult, it has become a habit, a sign of a weak character. I'm afraid to speak up in front of big issues, and I'm scared that disaster might bring trouble upon me. I think it's also a minor flaw.

49. 年轻人的社交需求和方式随着年龄、性格、经历等因素而不同，不能一概而论。

49. The social needs and methods of young people vary with age, personality, experience, and other factors, and cannot be generalized.

50. 一旦确诊，需要改善，那就需要进行系统的治疗，一方面遵医嘱服药，一方面进行心理疏导。

50. Once diagnosed and in need of improvement, systematic treatment is required, which involves both taking medication as prescribed by the doctor and undergoing psychological counseling.

51. 你惊天动地的伤痛，在别人看来，可能只是随手拂过的尘埃。你难以支撑的压力，在别人眼里，可能只是矫情和装腔作势。针不扎在别人手上，永远不会感到锥心刺骨的疼痛。山不压在别人的身上，他永远不会感到那种窒息感和无力感。

51. The earth-shattering pain you feel may seem like just a trivial dust to others. The overwhelming pressure you bear might be perceived by others as mere sentimentality or pretense. If a needle isn't pricked into someone else's hand, they will never experience that piercing, searing pain. If a mountain isn't pressing down on someone else's back, they will never feel that suffocating sense of helplessness.

52. 题主的心理出现焦虑、压力问题，肯定有诱发的原因。其中，或者是在工作期间，或者是在生活当中。其实，现实生活中，每个人都有心理冲突，有时，心理冲突不一定就有病。一般有以下情况：

52. The anxiety and stress issues in the asker's mind definitely have triggering causes. Among them, it may be during work hours or in daily life. In fact, in real life, everyone has psychological conflicts, and not all psychological conflicts necessarily indicate illness. Generally, the following situations may occur:

53. 凡事都有两面性。 虽然防御性悲观可以用来作为焦虑的动力，但是如果在工作中永远只看到可能出现的问题，在一定程度上也是很影响团队士气的。你会被当成负能量发生器，成为团队的压力来源。在生活里，一直在准备补救，而不能享受当下的愉悦，也会带来问题，你会被当成煞风景的怪人，让亲近你的人都感到不自在。

53. Everything has two sides. While defensive pessimism can be used as a driving force for anxiety, if you always see only the potential problems in work, it can also somewhat affect the morale of the team. You might be regarded as a generator of negative energy, becoming a source of stress for the team. In life, constantly preparing for remedies without enjoying the pleasures of the present can also bring about problems. You might be seen as a spoilsport, making those close to you feel uncomfortable.

54. 如果你对以上问题的回答大多数是“Yes”，那你就有可能拥有将焦虑化作动力的能力，好好利用起来吧！

54. If most of your answers to the above questions are "Yes", then you may have the ability to turn anxiety into motivation. Make good use of it!

55. 这个例子提醒我们，如果想要在不同的情况下游刃有余，就要在不同的时候运用不同的情绪武器来分别处理各种问题。焦虑虽然可以是动力，但也是一种内耗，如果不是处在警备状态，就不必时刻带着武器。我们的 情感 工具库里，需要有更多其他的武器，来解决人生中不断出现的新问题。

55. This example reminds us that in order to handle various situations with ease, we need to employ different emotional weapons at different times to deal with various problems. Anxiety can be a driving force, but it is also a form of internal consumption. If not in a state of alert, there is no need to carry weapons all the time. Our emotional toolset needs more diverse weapons to address the constantly emerging new problems in life.

56. 假如人总感觉疲劳、紧张、焦虑、恐惧、心烦，无力承担某些事。另外，躯体有诸多不适，老去医院检查，最终的结果也没结果。即便有点小毛病，医院也不给治疗，如果是这样的话，可以约谈心理咨询师了。

56. If a person always feels tired, tense, anxious, scared, and restless, feeling unable to bear certain things, and has many physical discomforts, repeatedly going to the hospital for checks but with no conclusive results, even for minor issues, the hospital doesn't provide treatment. In such cases, it may be time to consult a psychologist.

57. 什么是压力？当您努力了，但是目标没达到，对于个体就有了压力。比如：无所适从，没有安全感，无能为力，理想化，前途的不确定等。

57. What is stress? Stress occurs when you have put in effort but have not achieved the desired goal, which creates stress for the individual. For example: feeling lost, lacking security, feeling helpless, idealizing, uncertainty about the future, etc.

58. 在焦虑中依然能够保持独立思考，拥有自我察觉的能力，能够帮助你在未来的生活中乘风破浪，是一笔难得的心理财富。哪怕眼前的困难看上去像不可跨越的巨壑，哪怕你处在巨大的焦虑中，这种能力也会让你集中注意力，直至找到最佳的应对方法。

58. The ability to maintain independent thinking and self-awareness amidst anxiety is a rare psychological asset that can help you navigate through life with ease. Even when the difficulties in sight appear insurmountable chasms, or when you are engulfed in immense anxiety, this skill will enable you to focus your attention until you find the best approach to deal with the situation.

59. 余华说：“我不再装模作样地拥有很多朋友，而是回到了孤单之中，以真正的我开始了独自的生活。有时我也会因为寂寞，而难以忍受空虚的折磨；但我宁愿以这样的方式，来维护自己的自尊，也不愿以耻辱为代价，去换取那种表面的朋友。”

59. Yu Hua said, "I no longer pretend to have many friends, but have returned to loneliness, and have started to live alone with the true me. Sometimes, I also find it hard to bear the torment of loneliness; but I would rather maintain my own dignity in this way, than exchange it for those superficial friends at the cost of shame."

60. 我遇见过一名女性，工作中的她抗压能力非常强，简直就是一个问题专家，不管发生什么棘手的事情，她总是能够沉着稳定地解决。久而久之，大家都非常依赖她，也都很敬仰她。但她跟我抱怨说：“平时都对我和气尊敬的同事们，一旦私下里有什么聚会或者放松的活动，都唯恐被我发现似的，更别说主动邀请我了。我有那么恐怖吗？出了问题的时候，都笑脸盈盈地第一个来找我。有好事的时候，怎么就没人跟我分享呢？”

60. I have met a woman who is incredibly resilient in her work, almost like a problem-solving expert. No matter what tricky situations arise, she always manages to handle them calmly and steadily. Over time, everyone has come to rely on her greatly and admire her deeply. However, she complained to me, "My colleagues who are always polite and respectful towards me at work seem to be afraid of being discovered if there's a private gathering or a relaxing activity, let alone inviting me主动. Do I seem that terrifying? When there are problems, they all come to me with a smiling face, the first ones to seek my help. But when there's something good, why doesn't anyone share it with me?"