智慧如炬，人生熠熠生辉！

Wise as a beacon, life shines brightly!

1. 1读懂别人 每个人一踏入这个世界时就哇哇大哭，就给人带来太多的伤害！妈妈为你差点死去，爸爸为你全心付出来养活你自己！亲朋好友为你准备祝贺的礼品和关怀，其他家认为你忙前忙后！他们之所以这样做，只是为了你好好活着！不要感染对你身体不好的东西使你命丧黄泉！使你一天一天在无忧无虑中慢慢长大，供你供你衣食住行、读书上学！他们从来不敢有半点抱怨!但是现实生活中的你，或许小的时候是个乖乖者认真学习，加倍努力！或许你小的时候就是那种反叛型的，贪玩贪闹，中途缀学！在你的心目中你觉得是为他们而活，为什么要为他们而活呀？ 你读懂了你所有的亲人、朋友、老师、同学对你的心吗？他们只是想你活出精彩的人生，你自己对得起自己今后的人生吗？2认识自己，善待自己！现实生活中，许多人都有很多抱怨、很多伤感，抱怨自己为什么没有出生在一个好的家庭；抱怨爱人不理解自己；抱怨家人、朋友、伙伴、同事、上司对不起自己、抱怨老天对他不公平、抱怨你自己的运气不好、抱怨自己的命苦使自己整天内心处在极度的不开心当中！羡慕别人什么都比自己好，自己看不起自己，所以做什么事都不顺心！ 其实，原因是自己不认识自己。试想想，你一出生只要你像一个人样，你的五官并不比别人少，老天每天都是给你24小时的时间，每小时都是60分钟，每分钟都是60秒，并没有少给你什么，这说明公平的！再看看你眼中的所谓有钱人、有地位的人、有权势的人，他们所拥有的身体和时间都跟你一样，唯一不同的是，他们比你付出的多！他们有一个正确的、积极的心态去面对他们身边所发生的事！ 记得7年前我在一家公司做人力资源部主管的时候发生了一件让我现在都感动的事，我刚上任不久 ，公司全体早会，原来早会整队的任务是保安队长， 可他偏偏请假回家 ，所以这个任务就落在我的身上，我没有当过兵，喊口令总是软绵绵的，始终不尽人意，我们总经理连续叫我做了7次 ，还是没做好！他就当作所有人的面痛骂我了一顿，下面的员工笑得前仰后合，当时，我真恨不得找个地洞钻出去，那种滋味真的是走也走不得，留也留不得，但是总经理骂完我后话锋一转“你们笑得那么狂野，有谁上来试试 ？”当时没有一个人敢站出来，随后还表扬了我，直到今天，我非常感谢他，正因为他给了我所谓的难堪，才使我的抗压能力大弧度的提高，是他成就了我，如果没有那次经历，我也就不会在各场培训课中口如悬河，淋漓尽致的发挥！ 从上面的案例中我深深地感悟到，任何事情的发生，只要你用积极的心态去面对，原来也那么美好！我们不要太计较、太在乎，才能让自己好过一点 ，开心一点，才会对得起自己 ！不管别人对我怎样，只要我们能把他往好的方面想，才会感召他的心灵，他才会对我们好一点，如果往坏的方面想，总是觉得别人跟你为难，别人对不住你，死要面子、小肚鸡肠，就会不开心！与其去要求别人怎样，还不如自己改变心态，让自己好过一点，别人对不起你，你总要自己对得起自己啊 ！ 3相信自己，建立自信 别人能成功为什么我们不能成功呢？难道我们真的是运气不好？命中注定？能力不够？还是有人故意害你呢？ 在这里，我要告诉你的答案：绝对不是！上天给我们的都是公平的，只是我们没有好好利用罢了！任何一个人都具有双重性，一重是积极向上的、主动的，这就是内在的真善美！一重是惰性的甚至堕落的，这就是心魔！ 在日常生活中，真善美会让你找到成功的喜悦，通常表现为做顺心的事是积极主动、善于想尽一切办法去达到自己的目的，使自己成功，寻找到快乐；而心魔会不断的阻止你，说你自己不行，你做不到！让你放弃！ 一个人的事业成败与大小完全取决于你自己如何去扮演你自己的角色，也就是你对你自己身体内的真善美和心魔的把控力度！当真善美战胜心魔的时候，你一定会成功！当心魔战胜真善美的时候，你就会碌碌无为，自己看不起自己，完全不会考虑你会成功，你会有精彩的人生！ 我们相信所有的人都想成功，只要你有信心让自己的真善美战胜自己的心魔，你就一定能成功！收获人生的喜悦！ 4树立人生目标 很小的时候，我们每个人都有自己的远大理想，梦想自己的未来、梦想自己的前途，一切都是那么美好！其实那才是你想要实现的人生目标！长大了，才发现自己根本就做不到你甚至觉得小的时候是那么天真可笑！其实你错了，如果你的身体内没有那种潜能，怎么会有那种想法啊？如果你从产生这种理想的时候就开始不做与理想无关的事情，你怎么会做不到啊？原因出在哪儿呢？ 一般人都会把他视为正常现象，所以随着年龄的增长就不停的去修改自己的目标，一个时期内的目标达不成，就降低自己的目标，直至经受一次次失败后，变成没有目标为止。所以只有怨天尤人了！5目标的计划与把控 如果你的人生目标始终没有变过，而且有计划一步一步去实施、去落实，你的人生目标一定会实现！怎样去计划呢？ A首先我们必须考虑到要实现自己的目标，我们必须具备哪些条件？会受到那些干扰？实现这个目标需要多少时间？怎样把一些不利实现目标的因素化为助力，帮助实现自己的目标？ B目标的实现必须分阶段去完成，这些阶段内，你应该做哪些事？什么时候做？怎样做？ C如果实际做的效果与目标相比较有差异时，你如何补救？如何力争去达成？ 只有这样，你的目标才有可能去实现！6心存感激，要有一颗感恩的心 为了得到精彩的人生，实现自己的人生目标，你必须不断感谢你身边曾经打过骂过你的人，因为他们给了你励志！使你不再懦弱！你必须感谢你的父母，是他们给了你健全的身体！你必须感谢你朋友，是他们给了你成功的帮助！你必须感谢你的爱人，是他（她）给了你成功的保障！你必须感谢你的老师和同学，是他们给了你知识和智慧让你快速成功！你必须感谢你的同事，是因为他们给了你成功的方法！你必须感谢社会上所有的人，是因为他们给了你创造奇迹与成功的机会！ 最后祝所有读过这篇文章，想要成功但还没成功的人都能成功，找到属于自己的精彩人生！快乐人生！不妥之处，希批评指正！谢谢！

1. Understanding Others Every person cries loudly when they enter this world, causing too much harm to others! Your mother almost died for you, and your father has dedicated himself to feeding you! Relatives and friends prepare gifts and care for you, and other families think you are busy! They do all this just for you to live well! Don't be infected with things that harm your body and lead to death! Let you grow up day by day without worries, providing for your food, clothing, shelter, and education! They never dared to complain! But in reality, perhaps when you were young, you were a good student who studied hard, or maybe you were a rebellious type who loved playing and skipping school! In your heart, you feel like you are living for them, so why should you live for them? Have you understood the hearts of all your relatives, friends, teachers, and classmates towards you? They just want you to live a fulfilling life, do you think you can live up to your own life in the future? 2. Know Yourself and Treat Yourself Well In real life, many people have a lot of complaints and sadness, complaining about why they were not born into a good family; complaining that their partners don't understand them; complaining that family, friends, companions, colleagues, and superiors have let them down; complaining that the heavens are not fair to them; complaining about their bad luck, their hard life, and the extreme unhappiness in their hearts! Envy others for having everything better than themselves, looking down on themselves, and being dissatisfied with everything they do! In fact, the reason is that they don't know themselves. Think about it, as long as you are born like a person, your five senses are not fewer than others, the heavens give you 24 hours a day, every hour is 60 minutes, every minute is 60 seconds, and nothing is less, which shows fairness! Take a look at the so-called wealthy, well-positioned, and powerful people in your eyes; they have the same bodies and time as you, the only difference is that they have worked harder! They have a correct and positive attitude towards the things happening around them! Remember, seven years ago when I was the director of human resources in a company, there was an incident that moved me even now. I had just started my job, and it was originally the security captain's responsibility to line up the morning meeting. But he just happened to take a leave of absence to go home, so the task fell on me. I had never served in the military, and my commands were always soft, never satisfying, and our general manager called me seven times, but still couldn't do it! He scolded me in front of everyone, and the employees laughed until they were almost rolling on the ground. At that time, I really wanted to find a hole to crawl into. It was really an unbearable feeling. But after he scolded me, he suddenly turned and said, "You all laugh so wildly, who wants to try?" No one dared to stand up, and he even praised me, which I have been grateful for until today. It was because he gave me what I called "embarrassment" that my ability to withstand pressure improved significantly. It was him who achieved my success. If it had not been for that experience, I would not have been able to speak so fluently and vividly in various training courses! From the above case, I deeply realized that no matter what happens, if you face it with a positive attitude, it can be beautiful! We shouldn't be too concerned or care too much, so that we can live a better life and be happier. Only by doing so can we live up to ourselves! No matter how others treat us, if we can think of them positively, we will attract their hearts, and they will treat us better. If we think negatively, always feeling that others are making trouble or not treating us well, we will not be happy! It's better to change our mindset and make ourselves feel better than to demand others to change. After all, we have to be responsible for ourselves! 3. Believe in Yourself and Build Confidence Why can others succeed but not us? Is it really bad luck, fate, lack of ability, or is someone deliberately harming us? The answer I want to give you here is: absolutely not! The heavens give us all fairness, but we haven't made good use of it! Anyone has two sides, one is positive and proactive, which is the true, good, and beautiful inside us; the other is lazy and even degenerate, which is the evil within us. In daily life, the true, good, and beautiful will make you find the joy of success, usually manifested as being proactive, thinking of all kinds of ways to achieve your goals, and making yourself successful, finding happiness; while the evil will constantly hinder you, telling you that you can't do it, that you can't achieve it, and making you give up! The success or failure of a person's career and its scale depend entirely on how you play your own role, that is, how you control the true, good, and beautiful and the evil within you. When the true, good, and beautiful overcome the evil, you will definitely succeed! When the evil overcomes the true, good, and beautiful, you will be aimless, looking down on yourself, and will never consider that you will succeed or that you will have a fulfilling life! We believe that everyone wants to succeed. As long as you have the confidence to let the true, good, and beautiful within you overcome the evil, you can definitely succeed and harvest the joy of life! 4. Set Life Goals When we were very young, we all had our own great ideals, dreaming of our future and prospects, and everything seemed so beautiful! In fact, that's what you want to achieve in life! As we grew up, we found that we could never do what we even thought was naive and funny when we were young! But you're wrong, if you didn't have that potential inside you, how could you have those ideas? If you start not doing things unrelated to your ideals when you have that ideal, how could you not achieve it? What's the problem? Most people will consider it a normal phenomenon, so as we grow older, we keep changing our goals. When we can't achieve our goals in a certain period of time, we lower our goals, and after experiencing several failures, we become goalless, and then just complain about life! 5. Planning and Controlling Goals If your life goals have not changed and you have a plan to implement and implement them step by step, you will definitely achieve your life goals! How do you plan? A. Firstly, we must consider what conditions we need to have to achieve our goals, what interference we may face, how much time it will take to achieve this goal, and how to turn some negative factors into forces to help achieve our goals. B. The realization of goals must be completed in stages. In these stages, what should you do? When to do it? How to do it? C. If the actual results are different from the goals, how do you make up for it? How do you strive to achieve it? Only in this way can your goals be realized! 6. Have a Grateful Heart and Be Thankful To achieve a wonderful life and achieve your life goals, you must continuously thank those who have beaten and scolded you, as they have given you motivation and made you no longer weak. You must thank your parents, as they have given you a healthy body. You must thank your friends, as they have given you the help to succeed. You must thank your lover, as they have given you the guarantee of success. You must thank your teachers and classmates, as they have given you knowledge and wisdom to succeed quickly. You must thank your colleagues, as they have given you the methods to succeed. You must thank all the people in society, as they have given you the opportunities to create miracles and succeed! Finally, I wish all those who have read this article and want to succeed but haven't yet succeeded to achieve success, find their own wonderful life, and live a happy life! Any inaccuracies, please criticize and correct! Thank you!