探寻成年人的黄金法则：稳固情绪、勇攀高峰与灵魂充实

Seeking the golden rules for adults: stable emotions, climbing the peaks, and spiritual fulfillment.

1. 看不到将来的希望，就激发不出现在的动力，NMA会摧毁人们的信心，使希望泯灭。NMA就像一剂慢性毒药，吃了这副药的人会慢慢地变得意志消沉，失去任何动力，则成功就会离运用NMA的人越来越远。

1. Without the hope of the future, there can be no motivation in the present. NMA can destroy people's confidence and extinguish hope. NMA is like a chronic poison, and those who take this medicine will gradually become despondent, lose any motivation, and success will become increasingly distant from those who use NMA.

2. 简朴是低调做人的根本：在生活上简朴些、低调些，不仅有助于自身的品德修炼，而且也能赢得上下的交口称誉。

2. Modesty is the foundation of discreet behavior: living a simple and modest life not only helps in cultivating one's moral character but also earns widespread praise from all around.

3. 她也认认真真干，把墙壁、地板擦拭得光洁锃亮，将粪便清理干净。还自费买来除臭剂，熬夜给厕所编了一个草帘子。

3. She also worked diligently, polishing the walls and floors to a shiny brightness and cleaning the feces thoroughly. She even bought deodorant at her own expense and stayed up all night to weave a grass curtain for the toilet.

4. 莫言对此毫不介意。

4. Mo Yan takes no offense to this.

5. 因此，我们需要理性分析当前的困境，制定合理的计划，并在执行这些计划时保持耐心和恒心。

5. Therefore, we need to rationally analyze the current predicament, formulate reasonable plans, and maintain patience and perseverance in implementing these plans.

6. 在“愚”中等待时机：大智若愚，不仅可以将有为示无为，聪明装糊涂，而且可以若无其事，装着不置可否的样子，不表明态度，然后静待时机，把自己的过人之处一下子说出来，打对手一个措手不及。但是，大智若愚，关键是心中要有对付对方的策略。常用“糊涂”来迷惑对方耳目，宁可有为而示无为，万不可无为示有为，本来糊涂反装聪明，这样就会弄巧成拙。

6. Waiting for opportunities in "foolishness": Great wisdom appears foolish. Not only can it show activity as inactivity, and intelligence as confusion, but it can also act as if nothing matters, feigning ambiguity, not stating one's position, and then calmly wait for the right moment to reveal one's exceptional qualities, catching the opponent off guard. However, the key to this approach is to have a strategy against the opponent in mind. It is common to use "confusion" to confuse the opponent's attention. It is better to show activity as inactivity rather than inactivity as activity. It is not advisable to pretend to be clever when actually being confused, for this would turn cleverness into foolishness.

7. 毛羽不丰时，要懂得让步：低调做人，往往是赢取对手的资助、最后不断走向强盛、伸展势力再反过来使对手屈服的一条有用的妙计。

7. When the feathers are not full, one should know how to make concessions: being modest in demeanor is often a useful strategy to win the support of opponents, to continuously grow stronger, expand one's influence, and in the end, make the opponents submit.

8. 成功人士的首要标志就是他的心态，如果一个人的心态是积极的，乐观的面对人生，乐观的接受挑战和应付困难，那他就成功了一半。

8. The primary mark of a successful person is their mindset. If a person has a positive mindset, facing life with optimism, accepting challenges and dealing with difficulties with optimism, then they have already succeeded halfway.

9. 高尔基说：天才就其本质而论，只不过是对工作过程的热爱而已。

9. Gorky said: In essence, genius is just a love for the process of work.

10. 在推销员中，广泛流传着一个这样的故事：两个欧洲人到非洲去推销皮鞋，由于炎热的非洲人向来都是打赤脚。第一个推销员看到非洲人都打赤脚，立刻失望起来：“这些人都打赤脚，怎么会要我的鞋呢。”于是放弃努力，失败沮丧而回；另一个推销员看到非洲人都打赤脚，惊喜万分：“这些人都没有皮鞋穿，这皮鞋市场大得很呢。”于是想方设法，引导洲人购买皮鞋，最后发大财而回。

10. Among salespeople, there is a widely spread story: Two Europeans went to Africa to sell leather shoes. Since the people of Africa have always been barefoot due to the heat. The first salesman, upon seeing that all the Africans were barefoot, immediately became despondent: "If everyone is already barefoot, how can they possibly want to buy my shoes?" He then gave up his efforts, returned in a state of defeat and despondency; while the other salesman, upon seeing that all the Africans were barefoot, was overjoyed: "These people don't have any leather shoes, so the market for these shoes is huge." He then thought of various ways to guide the Africans to buy leather shoes, and finally returned with great wealth.

11. 稻盛和夫说：工作中修行，是帮助我们提升心性和培养人格的最重要、也是最有效的方法。

11. Kazuo Inamori said: Practicing while working is the most important and most effective method to help us elevate our character and cultivate our personality.

12. 即使面对逆境，也要保持积极乐观的心态，相信自己一定能够克服困难。

12. Even in the face of adversity, maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, and believe in your ability to overcome difficulties.

13. 而有的人能管控好自己的情绪，坦然面对发生的情况。不悲不喜，不愠不怒，从容不迫地把问题处理好。

13. While some people are able to manage their emotions well, facing what happens with calmness. They do not feel sadness or joy, nor anger or resentment, and handle the issues with composure and calm.

14. 多读书，多旅行，多思考，让自己拥有广阔的精神世界，让灵魂变得更加充盈，饱满，完美。

14. Read more, travel more, think more, broaden your spiritual world, and let your soul become more full, plump, and perfect.

15. 规避风头，才能走好人生路：老子认为“兵强则灭，木强则折”、“强梁者不得其死”。老子这种与世无争的谋略思想，深刻体现了事物的内在运动规律，已为无数事实所证明，成为广泛流传的哲理名言。

15. To avoid the limelight is the key to walking the path of life well: Laozi believed that "a strong army will be destroyed, a strong tree will be broken," and "the overbearing will not die a natural death." This strategy of not seeking conflict with the world, which Laozi held, profoundly reflects the inherent laws of things and has been proven by countless facts, becoming a widely spread philosophical maxim.

16. 班库柏并不比去年强壮多少，那些坏蛋的凶悍也没有收敛多少，不同的是他的心态已经有了改变。他已经学会克服恐惧、不怕危险，再也不受坏蛋欺负。从现在开始。他要自己来改变自己的环境他果然做到了。通过运用PMA，班库柏战胜了懦弱，战胜了恐惧，最终成为全美最受尊敬的法官之一。通过运用PMA，库柏还取得了比这更大的成就．那就是把隐形护身符翻到了PMA的一面，最终获得了成功的秘诀。

16. Bancroft is not much stronger than last year, and the ferocity of those scoundrels hasn't diminished much either. The difference is that his mindset has changed. He has learned to overcome fear, no longer fears danger, and is no longer bullied by the scoundrels. From now on, he is determined to change his environment himself, and he has indeed done so. By applying PMA, Bancroft overcame his timidity, conquered his fears, and ultimately became one of the most respected judges in the United States. By applying PMA, Cooper also achieved a greater accomplishment – he flipped the amulet of invisibility to the side of PMA, and ultimately obtained the secret to success.

17. 诸葛亮幼年丧父，随叔父迁居南阳，后来隐居卧龙岗。

17. Zhuge Liang lost his father at a young age and moved to Nanyang with his uncle. Later, he retreated to live in the Wolgang Mountain.

18. 一个人在生活中老是寻找消极的东西的话，NMA就会成为一种难以克服的习惯，这时即使出现好机会，这个消极的人也会看不见抓不着，他会把每种情况都看作一种障碍，一种麻烦。障碍与机会有什么差别呢？关键在于人们对它的态度而定。积极的人视挫折为成功的踏脚石，并将挫折转化为机会，消极的人视挫折为成功的绊脚石，任机会悄悄溜走。面对同样的机会，充分使用PMA的人能获得人生中有价值的东西，而充分运用NMA的人则看着幸福渐渐远去，心里懊悔，却不见有任何行动。

18. If a person is always on the lookout for negative things in life, NMA (Negative Mental Attitude) can become an insurmountable habit. In such cases, even when good opportunities arise, this negative person will be unable to see or grasp them. They will view every situation as an obstacle or a trouble. What's the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? It all depends on the attitude people have towards it. Positive individuals view setbacks as stepping stones to success and convert them into opportunities, whereas negative individuals see setbacks as stumbling blocks to success, allowing opportunities to slip away silently. When faced with the same opportunities, those who fully utilize PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) can gain valuable things in life, while those who fully employ NMA will watch happiness slip away, feeling regretful but taking no action.

19. 如果一味地去尝试做出大而冒险的决策，可能会面临更大的风险和问题。

19. If one persists in trying to make bold and risky decisions, they may face even greater risks and problems.

20. 弟子问王阳明：情绪不好，愤怒怨恨怎么办？

20. The disciple asked Wang Yangming: What should one do when feeling bad and angry or holding resentment?

21. “实”是力量之源。实，只有实，才能建立良好的人际关系，形成相互信任、尊重、理解、支持的氛围；反之，会互相猜忌，各自为阵，一盘散沙。只有实，才能心往一处想、劲往一处使，形成班子团结干事、部门齐心协力、民警奋发努力的格局。我们要讲实实在在的团结，团结才有力量，不仅班子要团结，部门要团结，民警与民警之间更要团结。团结是讲原则的团结，不是不讲原则立场的好人主义，更不是拉帮结派、结党营私，而是发自内心，出于对同志负责、对工作负责、对人的尊重的团结。做人“实”，相互信任、风清气顺、凝心聚力；做事“实”，单位进步、个人进步、协调发展。只有团结干事，才能出实效、出战斗力，才能圆满完成厅党委交给我们的任务，实现既定工作目标。

21. "Reality" is the source of strength. It is only through reality, and reality alone, that we can establish good interpersonal relationships, create an atmosphere of mutual trust, respect, understanding, and support; conversely, we would be suspicious of each other, acting in separate camps, like scattered sand. Only through reality can we think and act with one heart and one mind, forming a pattern of unity and hard work among the team, departmental cooperation, and police officers striving hard. We must talk about real unity; unity is what gives us strength. Not only should the leadership be united, but departments should also be united, and officers with each other should be even more united. Unity is unity with principles, not good-heartedness without principles or stance, nor is it about forming factions or private cliques; rather, it is a unity that comes from the heart, out of responsibility to our comrades, to our work, and to the respect of others. To be a person of reality, we must have mutual trust, a clear atmosphere, and unite our efforts; to do things in reality, the unit will progress, individuals will progress, and there will be coordinated development. Only through united efforts can we achieve real effects and combat power, can we complete the tasks entrusted to us by the Party Committee of the Department perfectly, and achieve the predetermined work objectives.

22. 周国平说：“人生最重要的事，就是安顿好自己的灵魂，照看好自己的生命。”

22. Zhou Guoping said, "The most important thing in life is to settle your own soul and take care of your own life."

23. 艾文班·库柏是美国最受尊敬的法官之一，但他小时候却是个懦弱的孩子。库柏在密苏里州圣约瑟夫城一个准贫民窟里长大。他的父亲是一个移民，以裁缝为生，收入微薄。为了家里取暖，库柏常常拿着一个煤桶，到附近的铁路去拾煤块。库柏为必须这样做而感到困窘。他常常从后街溜出溜进，以免被放学的孩子们看见了。但是那些孩子时常着见他。特别是有一伙孩子常埋伏在库柏从铁路回家的路上袭击他，以此取乐。他们常把他的煤渣撒遍街上，使他回家时一直流着眼泪。这样，库柏总是生活在或多或少的恐惧和自卑的状态之中。有一件事发生了，这种事在我们打破失败的生活方式时总是会发生的。库柏因为读了一本书，内心受到了鼓舞。从而在生活中采取了积极的行动。这本书是荷拉修阿尔杰著的《罗伯特的奋斗》。在这本书里，库柏读到了一个像他那样的少年的奋斗故事。

23. Irving B. Cooper was one of the most respected judges in the United States, but he was a shy child when he was young. Cooper grew up in a semi-slum area in St. Joseph, Missouri. His father was an immigrant, making a living as a tailor with a meager income. To keep the family warm, Cooper often carried a coal bucket to pick up coal pieces from the nearby railway. Cooper felt embarrassed about having to do this. He would often sneak out and into back alleys to avoid being seen by children coming home from school. However, those children often saw him. Especially, a group of them would hide and ambush Cooper on his way home from the railway for amusement. They would often scatter his coal slag all over the street, making him cry tears of frustration as he walked home. Thus, Cooper always lived in a state of fear and inferiority, to varying degrees. An event occurred, an event that always happens when we break free from a lifestyle of failure. Cooper was inspired by a book, which prompted him to take positive actions in his life. The book was "Robert's Rival" by Horatio Alger. In this book, Cooper read the story of a young boy who struggled just like him.

24. 很多人认为，优于莫言的作家比比皆是，如余华，陈忠实，贾平凹等，莫言实在配不上这项大奖。

24. Many people believe that there are plenty of writers who are superior to Mo Yan, such as Yu Hua, Chen Zhongshi, Jia Pingwa, etc., and Mo Yan truly does not deserve this grand prize.

25. 这个故事意义非常深刻：如果你不满意自己的环境，想力求改变，则首先应该改变自已。即“如果你是对的则你的世界也是对的”。假如你有积极的心态，你四周所有的问题就会迎刃而解。

25. This story carries a very profound meaning: if you are not satisfied with your environment and wish to strive for change, the first thing you should change is yourself. That is, "If you are right, then your world is also right." If you have a positive mindset, all the problems around you will be easily resolved.

26. 3我们在一项任务刚开始时的心态决定了最后有多大的成功，这比任何其他因素都重要。

26. 3 The mindset we have at the beginning of a task determines how much success we ultimately achieve, which is more important than any other factor.

27. 这种闲庭信步的态度，让莫言在轮番的诋毁和攻击中，潇洒出尘，不受缠绕。

27. This leisurely stroll attitude allowed Mo Yan to remain elegant and untainted amidst repeated slanders and attacks, unfettered by entanglements.

28. 做人要懂得谦逊：谦逊能够克服骄矜之态，能够营造良好的人际关系，因为人们所尊敬的是那些谦逊的人，而决不会是那些爱慕虚荣和自夸的人。

28. One should know how to be humble: Humility can overcome arrogance, and it can foster good interpersonal relationships. People respect those who are humble, never those who are vain and boastful.

29. 这就是一念之差导致的天壤之别。同样是非洲市场，同样面对打赤脚的非洲人，由于一念之差，一个人灰心失望，不战而败；而另一个人满怀信心，大获全胜。

29. This is the great difference caused by a mere thought. In the same African market, facing the barefoot Africans, due to a mere thought, one person becomes despondent and loses without a fight; while the other person is full of confidence and achieves a complete victory.

30. 自怨自艾只会让人们沉溺于痛苦的情绪中，无法积极面对问题。

30. Self-reproach and self-pity only lead people to be immersed in painful emotions, and they are unable to positively face the problems.

31. 在低调中修炼自己：低调做人无论在官场、商场还是政治军事斗争中都是一种进可攻、退可守，看似平淡，实则高深的处世谋略。

31. Cultivate oneself in modesty: Being modest in one's demeanor is a strategy that can both attack and retreat, and is seemingly plain but actually profound, whether in the official world, business, or in political and military struggles.

32. 以宽容之心度他人之过：退一步海阔天空,忍一时风平浪静。对于别人的过失，必要的指责无可厚非，但能以博大的胸怀去宽容别人，就会让世界变得更精彩。

32. Measure others' faults with a宽容 heart: Take a step back, and the sky becomes vast; endure for a moment, and the waves will be calm. Necessary reprimands for others' mistakes are not to be criticized, but if one can show a vast tolerance, the world will become more colorful.

33. 因为对工作认真的态度，杨绛无论身处何种环境，都能得到众人的认可和赞誉。教育界和文化界肯定她，乡间的老农颂扬她，一起下放劳动的人，夸她是一个放得下身份，做事靠谱的女先生。

33. Because of her serious attitude towards work, Yang Jingdao can gain the recognition and praise of everyone regardless of the environment she is in. The education and cultural circles recognize her, the old farmers in the countryside praise her, and the people she worked with during the down-to-the-rural-areas movement commend her as a lady who is willing to放下 her status and is reliable in her work.

34. 人们大概注意到结婚多年的夫妇行为逐渐变得一样，甚至连外貌也相似，而心态的同化是最明显不过的。跟消极心态者相处得久了，你就会受他的影响。接触消极心态者就象接触到原子辐射如果辐射剂量小，时间短，你还能活，但持续辐射就要命了。

34. It is probably noticed that after many years of marriage, couples gradually begin to behave similarly, even their appearances become similar, and the assimilation of their mindset is the most obvious. Living with someone who has a negative mindset for a long time will inevitably influence you. Dealing with a negative mindset is like being exposed to atomic radiation; if the dose is small and the exposure is brief, you can still survive, but prolonged radiation is fatal.

35. 好好工作，创造人生价值，生活好。

35. Work hard, create value in life, and live well.

36. 选择了PMA的人，则会达到成功的彼岸，选择了NMA的人，会导致失败。

36. Those who choose PMA will reach the shore of success, while those who choose NMA will lead to failure.

37. 做人不能太精明：低调做人，不耍小聪明，让自己始终处于冷静的状态，在“低调”的心态支配下，兢兢业业，才能做成大事业。

37. One cannot be too cunning in life: live modestly, do not show off your cleverness, and keep yourself in a calm state. Under the支配 of a "modest" mindset, be diligent and industrious, only then can you achieve great undertakings.

38. 做人不要恃才傲物：当你取得成绩时，你要感谢他人、与人分享、为人谦卑，这正好让他人吃下了一颗定心丸。如果你习惯了恃才傲物，看不起别人，那么总有一天你会独吞苦果！请记住：恃才傲物是做人一大忌。

38. Do not be proud and arrogant because of your talent: when you achieve success, you should thank others, share with them, and be humble, which just gives others a sense of reassurance. If you get used to being proud and arrogant, looking down upon others, then one day you will have to swallow the bitter fruit alone! Remember: being proud and arrogant because of one's talent is a great taboo in being a person.

39. 谦卑处世人常在：谦卑是一种智慧，是为人处世的黄金法则，懂得谦卑的人，必将得到人们的尊重，受到世人的敬仰。

39. Humility is always present among people: Humility is a form of wisdom, the golden rule of dealing with others, and those who understand humility will surely gain the respect of people and be revered by the world.

40. 我们必须面对这样一个事实，在这个世界上成功卓越者少，失败平庸者多，成功卓越者活得充实、自在、潇洒，失败平庸者过得空虚、艰难、猥琐。

40. We must face the fact that in this world, there are few successful and outstanding individuals, while many are unsuccessful and ordinary. Successful and outstanding individuals live a fulfilling, comfortable, and graceful life, while unsuccessful and ordinary individuals lead a hollow, difficult, and ungraceful life.

41. 打造好自己的精神世界，才能更好地引领现实生活。读好书，交好友，多旅行，不断丰富灵魂，成为更好的人。

41. Build your own spiritual world to better lead your real life. Read good books, make good friends, travel more, continuously enrich your soul, and become a better person.

42. 塞尔玛一再读这封信，觉得非常惭愧，她决定要在沙漠中找到星星。塞尔玛开始和当地人交朋友，他们的反应使她非常惊奇，她对他们的纺织、陶器表示兴趣，他们就把最喜欢但舍不得卖给观光客人的纺织品和陶器送给了她。塞尔玛研究那些引人人迷的仙人掌和各种沙漠植物、物态，又学习有关土拨鼠的知识。她观看沙漠日落，还寻找海螺壳，这些海螺壳是几万年前，这沙漠还是海洋时留下来的--原来难以忍受的环境变成了令人兴奋、留连忘返的奇景。

42. Selma read the letter over and over again, feeling very ashamed, and decided to find the stars in the desert. Selma began to make friends with the locals, whose reactions surprised her greatly. She showed interest in their weaving and pottery, and they gave her their most cherished textiles and pottery that they were reluctant to sell to tourists. Selma studied the fascinating cacti and various desert plants and phenomena, and also learned about ground squirrels. She watched the desert sunsets and sought out the shells of snails, which were left behind when this desert was once an ocean tens of thousands of years ago -- the originally unbearable environment had transformed into an exciting, unforgettable sight.

43. 第三节 你是对的，则世界就是对的

43. Section 3: If you are right, then the world is right.

44. 假使他极为注意身体的缺陷，或许他会花费许多时间去洗“温泉”喝“矿泉水”，服用“维他命”，并花时间航海旅行，坐在甲板的睡椅上，希望恢复自己的健康。他不把自已当作婴孩看待，而要使自已成为一个真正的人。他看见别的强壮的孩子玩游戏，游泳，骑马，做各种极难的体育活动时他也强迫自己去参加打猎，骑马玩耍或进行其他一些激烈的活动，使自己变为最能吃苦耐劳的典范。他看见别的孩子用刚毅的态度对付困难，用以克服惧怕的情形时，他也就用一种探险的精神，去对付所遇到的可怕的环境。如此，他也觉得自已勇敢了。当他和别人在一起的，他觉得他喜欢他们并不愿意回避他们。由于他对人感兴趣，从而自卑的感觉便无从发生。

44. If he paid extreme attention to his physical defects, he might spend a lot of time taking "hot spring" baths, drinking "mineral water," taking "vitamins," and spending time on sea voyages, lounging on deck chairs, hoping to restore his health. He didn't treat himself like a baby but wanted to become a genuinely strong person. When he saw other strong children playing games, swimming, riding horses, and engaging in various extreme sports activities, he forced himself to participate in hunting, horseplay, or other intense activities to become an example of the most hardworking and enduring person. When he saw other children dealing with difficulties with a determined attitude and overcoming their fears, he would approach the terrifying environments he encountered with a spirit of adventure. In this way, he also felt brave. When he was with others, he felt that he liked them and did not want to avoid them. Because he was interested in people, the feeling of inferiority did not arise.

45. 耻笑讥讽来不得：言为心声，语言受思想的支配，反应一个人的品德。不负责任，胡说八道，造谣中伤，搬弄是非等等，都是不道德的。

45. Laughter and satire are unwelcome: words are the expression of one's heart, language is dominated by thoughts, and reflects a person's character. Unresponsible, idle talk, spreading rumors, gossiping, etc., are all unethical.

46. 因此，成功学的始祖拿破伦·希尔说，一个人能否成功，关键在于他的心态。成功人士与失败人士的差别在于成功人士有积极的心态，即PMA（Positive Mental Attitude）。而失败人士则运用消极的心态去面对人生。消极的心态，即NMA（Negative Mental Attitude）（在美国成功学领域PMA与NMA已成为替代积极心态与消极心态的专有名词）。成功人士运用PMA黄金定律支配自己的人生，他们始终用积极的思考、乐观的精神和辉煌的经验支配和控制自己的人生，失败人士是受过去的种种失败与疑虑所引导和支配的，他们空虚、猥琐、悲观失望、消极颓废，最终走向了失败。

46. Therefore, the father of success literature, Napoleon Hill, said that whether a person can succeed depends on his mindset. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people lies in the fact that successful people have a positive mindset, known as PMA (Positive Mental Attitude). In contrast, unsuccessful people use a negative mindset to face life. A negative mindset, referred to as NMA (Negative Mental Attitude) in the field of American success literature (where PMA and NMA have become proprietary terms to replace positive and negative mindsets). Successful people apply the PMA golden rule to govern their lives, always using positive thinking, optimism, and brilliant experiences to control and guide their lives. Unsuccessful people, however, are guided and controlled by past failures and doubts, leading them to feel empty, despicable, pessimistic, and despondent, ultimately leading to failure.

47. 难怪有人说，我们的环境--心理的、感情的、精神的--完全由我们自已的态度来创造。当然，有了PMA并不能保证事事成功，但PMA肯定会改善一个人的日常生活，但并不能保证他凡事心想事成，只有当PMA和十六个成功定律的其他定律紧密结合后，才会达到成功的彼岸，反之，实行NMA的人则一定不能成功。拿破尔·希尔说，从来没有见过持消极心态的人能够取得持续的成功。即使碰运气能取得暂时的成功，那成功也是昙花一现，转瞬即逝。

47. It's no wonder that some say our environment—psychological, emotional, spiritual—is entirely created by our own attitudes. Of course, having a PMA does not guarantee success in everything, but it will definitely improve a person's everyday life. However, it does not guarantee that everything will go as planned. Only when PMA is closely combined with the other 16 laws of success will one reach the shore of success. Conversely, those who practice NMA will definitely not succeed. Napoleon Hill said that he has never seen someone with a negative mindset achieve sustained success. Even if luck brings temporary success, it will be fleeting and short-lived.