在青少年时期，面对校园欺凌，如何守护孩子的心灵不受伤害？让我们共同探讨这一重要话题。

During the adolescent years, how can we protect our children's hearts from harm when faced with school bullying? Let's discuss this important topic together.

1. 其次，孩子的心理健康不容忽视，家长要安抚孩子情绪，教会孩子进行自我保护，在学校遇到学生欺凌，不要激怒对方，试着通过警示性的语言击退对方，发生冲突时要及时找老师解决；同时，家长要保持冷静，和孩子进行共情，告诉孩子学生欺凌是违法的，鼓励孩子勇敢将事情说出来。

1. Secondly, children's mental health should not be neglected. Parents need to calm down their children's emotions, teach them how to protect themselves, and when encountering bullying in school, do not anger the other party, try to scare them away with warning language, and find a teacher to resolve conflicts in a timely manner. At the same time, parents should remain calm, empathize with their children, tell them that student bullying is illegal, and encourage them to courageously speak out about the incident.

2. 和孩子一起讨论骗子的手法和防范措施，让他们知道骗子可能会利用人们的善意和同情心来进行欺诈。

2. Discuss with your children the methods used by scammers and the preventive measures, so that they are aware that scammers may exploit people's goodwill and sympathy to commit fraud.

3. 可以事先将目前遇到的问题及希望改善的部分写在纸上，接着与学校老师说明，并耐心聆听老师的看法。可以依据状况请校方提出反霸凌的具体措施，监督改善霸凌行为。

3. You can write down the current problems you are facing and the parts you wish to improve on paper beforehand. Then, explain these to the school teachers and be patient to listen to their opinions. Depending on the situation, you can ask the school to propose specific anti-bullying measures and supervise the improvement of bullying behaviors.

4. 得知孩子遭受霸凌的当下，相信家长都是非常气愤难受的，但是 切忌用以暴制暴的方式对待霸凌者 。因为孩子也可能会有样学样，而失去了以更合宜的方式解决问题的机会。

4. When parents learn about their child being bullied, it is natural for them to feel angry and upset, but it is crucial to avoid dealing with the bully in a violent manner. Because children may also learn by imitation, and they may miss out on the opportunity to resolve the problem in a more appropriate way.

5. 最好的方式是什么呢？第一点，从小努力培养自己的孩子。从文化知识，思维能力，到学习意志，情商方面，都要把自己的孩子培养好，让他成为班级里的学业优秀者，成为被老师器重的人，这样同学就不敢霸凌他。

5. What is the best way? Firstly, work hard to cultivate your own children from a young age. Cultivate them in cultural knowledge, thinking abilities, learning willpower, and emotional intelligence. Make sure your child becomes an outstanding student in the class, someone valued by the teachers, so that their classmates will not bully them.

6. 若霸凌事件已严重影响孩子的生活及人际关系，请学校辅导室协助转介进行个别咨商；若有严重的忧郁、焦虑、自杀等状况则应转介至精神科评估。若孩子已受伤或是被威胁恐吓，而家长及学校都无法解决，请报警寻求协助。

6. If bullying incidents have severely affected the child's life and interpersonal relationships, please ask the school counseling office to assist in referring for individual counseling; if there are serious conditions such as severe depression, anxiety, or suicidal tendencies, then referral to a psychiatric evaluation should be made. If the child has been injured or threatened and neither the parents nor the school can resolve the issue, please call the police for assistance.

7. 关于校园霸凌这个问题真的非常需要重视，因为被欺负的人有时候受到的伤害真的会影响到他的将来，而且这些打人的为什么却可以相安无事的的快活，而被欺负的人却要带着阴影活着，我觉得校园的领导老师都要认真严肃对待这些事情。

7. The issue of bullying in schools really needs to be taken very seriously, because the harm suffered by the victims can sometimes affect their future. Moreover, why can the bullies live happily ever after without any trouble, while the bullied have to live with shadows? I think that school leaders and teachers should treat these matters with seriousness and solemnity.

8. 在生活及校园中遇到霸凌，不敢跟别人说，担心说了会使霸凌状况变得更糟。孩子往往会以逃避的方式解决冲突，等到孩子跟家人说想要「转班」、「转学」等状况时，往往是霸凌情形已经非常严重，孩子可能也有严重的心理创伤。因此，我在进行个别咨商时，面对这些遭遇校园霸凌的个案而要进行通报时，都会给孩子一个预防针：「在这件事情上，你已经很努力了，也靠自己的力量撑过许多难熬的时刻。但如果不把事情说出来，反而会助长霸凌者的行为，说出来并不危险，隐忍不说才是最危险的。接下来请爸妈和学校协助解决，总会想到合适的方法的」。

8. When encountering bullying in life and on campus, children often dare not speak up to others, fearing that speaking out might make the bullying situation worse. Children tend to resolve conflicts through avoidance. When children express to their families their desire to "change classes" or "change schools," it is often because the bullying situation has already become very serious, and the child may also have suffered severe psychological trauma. Therefore, during individual counseling, when I need to report cases of students who have experienced campus bullying, I always give the child a precaution: "On this matter, you have already put in a lot of effort and have managed to endure many difficult moments on your own. However, not speaking out about it may actually encourage the behavior of the bullies. Speaking out is not dangerous; it is the silence that is the most dangerous. Now, please let your parents and the school assist in resolving the issue, and we will certainly find an appropriate solution."

9. 家长需要以身作则，向孩子传递诚实、守信的价值观，同时要让孩子了解社会上存在的欺诈行为，提高他们的警惕性。

9. Parents need to set an example by conveying values of honesty and trustworthiness to their children, while also making them aware of the fraudulent activities that exist in society to raise their vigilance.

10. 一是忽略孩子的感受。比如，孩子挨打了感到很委屈，家长却说：小孩子难免磕磕碰碰，不要这么娇气。

10. The first is to ignore the child's feelings. For example, if the child feels wronged after being beaten, the parent might say: Children are bound to bump into things, don't be so delicate.

11. 如果环境四周无人，用力反抗可能引来更激烈的暴力行为，因此较合适的回应方式是顺从霸凌者的话语，然后分散注意力，寻找机会逃走，而不是一直留在原地忍受霸凌。

11. If there is no one around the environment, resisting forcibly might attract more violent behavior, so a more appropriate response is to comply with the bullies' words, then divert attention, look for an opportunity to escape, rather than staying in place and enduring the bullying.

12. 关于校园霸凌问题，看来就是在这样的社会文化背景下应运而生的，它具有攻击性的特点，并与暴力有着千丝万缕的联系。我国对于校园暴力行为、偏差行为的研究在教育学、社会学、心理学等领域都已经有了体系性的成果， 并在法律法规上有一定的规则可考，但对于校园霸凌的探讨却少之又少。

12. Regarding the issue of bullying in schools, it seems to have emerged in such a social and cultural context. It has characteristics of aggression and is closely linked to violence. In our country, there have already been systematic achievements in the research of violent behavior and deviant behavior in the fields of pedagogy, sociology, and psychology. There are also certain rules in laws and regulations that can be referred to. However, there is a lack of discussion on campus bullying.

13. 最后特别提醒：告诉孩子上下学与同学结伴而行，尽量不要独自待在厕所、操场等偏僻场所。

13. Special reminder at the end: Tell your children to go to and from school in groups with classmates, and try to avoid staying alone in secluded places such as restrooms and playgrounds.

14. 孩子是以大人为榜样的，所以身为家长要反思了，如果是自己的孩子欺负别人家的就要先从自己身上找找原因，不要一味的去指责孩子

14. Children take adults as role models, so parents should reflect on this. If their own child is bullying someone else's child, they should first look within themselves for the reasons, and not just blame the child.

15. 未成年人的世界是非常残酷的，他们并不是看上去纯真可爱的样子，而是内心充满各种权衡、算计和欲望的。为了满足自己，就会凭借自己的优势，去欺负别的孩子。

15. The world of minors is very cruel. They are not as innocent and lovely as they appear on the surface; instead, their hearts are filled with various calculations, schemes, and desires. In order to satisfy themselves, they would take advantage of their own strengths to bully other children.

16. 遇到霸凌时，首先冷静看看周围是否有人，如果有人，要大声呼救！无论周围的人是否认识你，只要大声呼救，霸凌者也是会害怕的。

16. When encountering bullying, first stay calm and look around to see if there is anyone around. If there are people, shout for help loudly! No matter whether the people around you know you or not, as long as you shout for help loudly, the bully will also be scared.

17. 可见，以上方式都不可取。

17. Clearly, all of the above methods are not advisable.

18. 培养自尊自信的人格，强大自己的气场。自信来自能力，能力来自经验，而经验来自学生脚踏实地做事。所以，家长一定不要代替孩子做所有的事。

18. Cultivate a personality of self-esteem and confidence, and strengthen your aura. Confidence comes from ability, ability comes from experience, and experience comes from students being down-to-earth and doing things themselves. Therefore, parents should never take over all the tasks for their children.

19. 让孩子学会独立处理问题，提高他们的判断力。这样，孩子在面对欺诈行为时，能够更好地保护自己。

19. Teach children to handle problems independently and enhance their judgment. This way, when children face fraudulent behavior, they can better protect themselves.

20. 那么，如何才能预防自己孩子在学校被霸凌？有人说让孩子学会反击，打回去，这样做也许会让孩子变成行凶者，毫无理性，不计后果的对别的孩子实施报复。有人说找学校和对方家长解决，如果学校和对方家长真的管用，孩子霸凌事件也就不会层出不穷了。有人说到公安局报案，到媒体曝光，你以为未成年施暴者会害怕吗？他还是未成年人，不会被伤筋动骨，他都不会害怕。

20. So, how can one prevent their child from being bullied at school? Some say to teach the child to fight back and hit them, but this might turn the child into a perpetrator, acting irrationally and without considering the consequences as they seek revenge on other children. Others suggest dealing with the issue by involving the school and the other child's parents; if both the school and the other parents were really effective, there wouldn't be a constant stream of bullying incidents. Some even mention reporting to the local police station or exposing the issue to the media. Do you think the minors who are bullying will be afraid? They are still minors; they won't be seriously injured, and they won't be afraid.

21. 很多家长因为平日工作繁忙，一定程度上抽不出很多时间给孩子，甚至在农村有些孩子一年都看不见打工在外的父母，更别提感受父母的关心和爱。但是作为家长，应该给孩子足够的安全感，要让孩子知道，不管遇到什么难题，都有父母陪着自己度过。当父母注意到孩子情绪不对或者身上有伤痕时，一定要搞清楚出现这种现象的原因，可以侧面的向老师了解情况，也可以抽时间去学校探查。父母赚钱都是为了给孩子更好的将来，但是如果因为自己对孩子关心较少而忽略了孩子的情况导致了霸凌事件的发生，那这样的父母是不合格的。父母赚钱都是为了给孩子更好的将来，但是如果因为自己对孩子关心较少而忽略了孩子的情况导致了霸凌事件的发生，那这样的父母是不合格的。鼓励孩子有正能量，我们不欺负别人，但别人敢惹我们的话绝对不要害怕，利用自己学的招数打败他们，还可以增强孩子的自信心。

21. Many parents, due to their busy work schedule on weekdays, are unable to spare much time for their children, and in some rural areas, children may not even see their working parents for a whole year, let alone feel their parents' care and love. However, as parents, it is important to provide children with enough security and make them know that no matter what difficulties they encounter, their parents will be there to accompany them through them. When parents notice that their child's mood is off or there are injuries on their body, they must find out the cause of this phenomenon. They can indirectly ask teachers for information or take time to visit the school. Parents earn money to give their children a better future, but if they neglect their children's situation due to less concern and this leads to bullying incidents, such parents are not qualified. Earning money is for the better future of the children, but if, due to less care for the children, their situation is overlooked and leads to bullying incidents, these parents are not qualified. Encourage children to have positive energy, we do not bully others, but if others dare to provoke us, we should not be afraid. Use the skills they have learned to defeat them, which can also enhance the children's self-confidence.

22. 霸凌事件不是一时半刻就能解决，需要父母、校方持续沟通合作，才能守护孩子远离暴力。

22. Bullying incidents cannot be resolved in a short period of time; it requires continuous communication and cooperation between parents and schools to protect children from violence.

23. 第三点，教孩子学会正常的待人接物的能力，懂得为他人着想，不给别人添麻烦，同时也有自己的脾气和性格，别人惹到自己，敢于告诉父母和老师。

23. The third point is to teach children the ability to interact with others normally, to understand the importance of considering others, not causing trouble to others, and at the same time, to have their own temperament and personality. If others provoke them, they should dare to tell their parents and teachers.

24. 许多被霸凌的孩子会以为隐忍一时就没事了，然而霸凌事件的影响，包括：难以与人建立关系、难以信任他人、自杀、自卑，变得有暴力倾向……却都是更深远的影响着孩子往后的人生。

24. Many children who are bullied tend to think that enduring the bullying for a while will make it all right, but the impact of bullying, including: difficulty in building relationships with others, difficulty in trusting others, suicide, low self-esteem, and becoming prone to violence...all these have a more profound impact on the child's future life.

25. 孩子与同学发生矛盾后，家长最容易犯的错误有以下几点：

25. After a child has a conflict with a schoolmate, the most common mistakes parents are likely to make include the following points:

26. 我们要坚定的站在孩子的身边，给予孩子足够的爱和安全感。要让孩子明白，无论什么时候，发生什么事情，父母是他最坚强的依靠。安抚孩子的情绪，理解并同情孩子的遭遇，给予孩子更多的陪伴，帮助孩子重建信心。

26. We must firmly stand by the side of our children, providing them with enough love and security. We need to make our children understand that no matter when and what happens, their parents are their strongest support. Comfort the emotions of the children, understand and empathize with their plight, give them more companionship, and help them rebuild their confidence.

27. 让孩子观看有关安全教育的视频，了解骗子的行为特征和防范方法，提高他们的自我保护意识。

27. Let the children watch videos about safety education to understand the characteristics of fraudsters and the methods of prevention, and to enhance their awareness of self-protection.

28. 家长对孩子身上的伤害应及时拍照留存，必要时可进行司法鉴定；在学校的取证需要家长与学校进行配合，让孩子知晓对于欺凌行为应该提高注意；与学校进行沟通，与施暴者进行谈话并记录。

28. Parents should take photos and keep them as evidence of any injuries on their child immediately, and judicial identification may be required when necessary; collecting evidence at school requires cooperation between parents and the school, and the child should be made aware of the need to pay attention to bullying behavior; communicate with the school, talk to the perpetrator, and keep a record of the conversation.

29. 在校内外不要拉帮结派，以免和一些喜欢惹是生非的人走得太近。

29. Do not form factions within or outside of school to avoid getting too close to some people who like to stir up trouble.

30. 如果父母不负责任，没有出息，把孩子扔到一边，不管不顾，那么，孩子被霸凌也是难免的事。

30. If the parents are irresponsible, have no ambition, and abandon their children, ignoring and neglecting them, then it is inevitable that the child will be bullied.

31. 与同学友好相处，平时说话要讲分寸，给别人留面子。

31. Get along well with classmates, speak with decorum in daily conversations, and give others face.

32. 河北邯郸被杀害的孩子拥有这几个特征：留守儿童，爷爷奶奶带，平时成绩不好，性格老实，身体比较弱。这些特征完全都是被霸凌的条件。

32. The children killed in Handan, Hebei, had these characteristics: left-behind children, cared for by grandparents, poor academic performance in school, honest personality, and relatively weak physique. All these features are completely conditions for bullying.

33. 在生活中我们发现，在学校成绩好的同学，一般是不会被霸凌的，因为背后有老师撑腰。家长比较横的同学，一般也不会被霸凌的，因为后果非常严重。

33. In life, we find that students with good grades in school are generally not bullied because they have teachers backing them up. Students whose parents are relatively strong-willed are also generally not bullied, as the consequences are very severe.

34. 面对霸凌，大多数的孩子遇到霸凌时会因害怕而退缩，会选择隐忍不说，但越是退缩，可能会使霸凌者的行为更变本加厉。因此一定要教育孩子，勇于向别人求救。

34. In the face of bullying, most children tend to retreat out of fear when encountering bullying, choosing to endure in silence. However, the more they retreat, the more likely it is to exacerbate the behavior of the bullies. Therefore, it is essential to educate children to be brave in seeking help from others.

35. 教育孩子在面对陌生人时，要保持警惕，不要轻易相信陌生人的话。同时，要教导孩子如何拒绝陌生人的要求，以及在遇到危险时要懂得保护自己。

35. Teach children to remain vigilant when facing strangers and not to easily believe what strangers say. At the same time, instruct children on how to refuse strangers' requests and how to protect themselves when encountering danger.

36. 通过模拟场景，让孩子在安全的环境中了解骗子的手段和特点，并提高他们的警惕性。

36. Through simulated scenarios, allow children to understand the methods and characteristics of con artists in a safe environment, and enhance their vigilance.

37. 面对孩子被霸凌，家长首先应与学校进行联系，将情况告知学校，让学校采取措施，以免让孩子再受到欺凌；

37. When faced with the situation of their child being bullied, parents should first contact the school, inform them of the situation, and request the school to take measures to prevent the child from being bullied again.

38. 可以跟孩子说：「你似乎遇到一些困难，我很担心你，可以跟我说说发生什么事吗？」了解孩子遇到的状况和内心感受，接着询问孩子希望你怎么做，接着整合家中的意见后，开始执行保护孩子的行动，例如：陪孩子上下学、与老师沟通、寻求警方协助。

38. You can say to the child, "It seems like you're facing some difficulties, and I'm really worried about you. Can you tell me what happened?" Understand the situation and inner feelings the child is experiencing, then ask the child what they hope you will do. After integrating the opinions at home, start implementing protective actions for the child, such as: accompanying the child to and from school, communicating with teachers, and seeking police assistance.

39. 霸凌和被霸凌，只有零次和无数次。如果你发现孩子被霸凌了，一定要不惜一切代价，让对方感到害怕，付出代价，绝不能心慈手软。否则你的孩子将会受到更加严重的霸凌，并且再也不敢指望你为他做主了。

39. Bullying and being bullied are only zero times or countless times. If you find that your child is being bullied, you must do everything in your power to make the bully afraid, pay a price, and never show leniency. Otherwise, your child will face even more severe bullying, and they will never dare to hope for you to take their side again.

40. 要培养优秀的孩子，父母必须舍得付出。要培养勇敢的孩子，父母必须首先勇敢。要培养出不怕问题的孩子，父母必须敢于面对问题，并拥有优秀的解决问题的能力。

40. To raise outstanding children, parents must be willing to make sacrifices. To raise brave children, parents must first be brave themselves. To raise children who are not afraid of problems, parents must be courageous in facing issues and possess excellent problem-solving abilities.

41. 让孩子辨别坏人，不让诈骗团伙利用，家长可以通过一下方式来增强孩子的辨别能力，有利于保护自己：

41. Teach children to distinguish between bad people and prevent them from being exploited by fraud rings. Parents can enhance their children's ability to discern through the following methods, which are beneficial for self-protection:

42. 校园霸凌问题一直存在的，普遍是那些坏学生或者这些学生家庭有问题才会出现这样的事情，遇到这样的只能教育为主，

42. The problem of bullying in schools has always existed, and it is generally associated with bad students or students from problematic families. When encountering such situations, education should be the main approach.

43. 加强体育锻炼，强身健体，让霸凌者不敢轻易靠近。

43. Strengthen physical exercise, build physical fitness, and make bullies dare not come close easily.

44. 即使再忙再累， 每天至少拨出15分钟与孩子共处 ，平时就和孩子养成谈心、分享生活日常的习惯，当孩子遇到霸凌，就能即时发现状况，即早处理。

44. No matter how busy or tired you are, set aside at least 15 minutes each day to spend with your child. Cultivate the habit of talking and sharing daily life with your child. This way, when the child encounters bullying, you can discover the situation immediately and deal with it as soon as possible.

45. 二是随意评判。比如孩子在外面受了气挨了打，家长却说：肯定是你的不对，要不人家为什么只打你不打别人？这样的评判，会让孩子即使在外面受了委屈也不敢回家诉说

45. The second point is arbitrary judgment. For example, if a child is bullied or beaten outside, the parent might say: "It must be your fault, otherwise why would they only beat you and not others?" Such judgments would make the child dare not report the injustice they suffered outside, even if they are wronged.

46. 孩子，为什么你被霸凌了却不愿意跟我说？

47. 进行个别咨商及亲职咨询累积十年的辅导经验中，发现许多孩童遭遇霸凌后都不跟父母说。问孩子为什么呢？孩子的回答是：「我在小时候曾跟妈妈说，但妈妈要我别想太多，过一天就好了」、「跟爸妈说一点用都没有，他们认为那是我的问题」。

46. Child, why did you get bullied but didn't want to tell me? 47. In the cumulative ten years of counseling experience in individual and parenting consultations, it was found that many children who were bullied do not tell their parents about it. When asked why, the children replied, "When I was little, I told my mother, but she told me not to overthink it, it will be okay the next day," or "There's no point in telling my parents; they think it's my own problem."

48. 第二点，家长要时不时到学校去接孩子，或者去参加一些学校的活动，让孩子的同学看到，你是他背后最坚定的靠山，欺负他没好果子吃。

48. Secondly, parents should occasionally go to the school to pick up their children, or attend some school activities, so that the children's classmates can see that you are the most solid support behind them, and that bullying them will not end well.