探寻最佳生活状态：心灵松弛的艺术

Exploring the Best State of Living: The Art of Mind Relaxes

1. 就像绷得很紧的弓，一拉就断。而平时处于松弛状态的弓，却有很强大的弹射力。

1. Just like an over-tightened bow that breaks with a single pull, while a bow in a state of relaxation possesses a very strong catapulting power.

2. “一个女人一定要有自己过好日子的能力，要有别人没法拿走的东西，这很重要。”

2. "A woman must have the ability to live well on her own, to have something that others can't take away, this is very important."

3. 一个人痛苦的根源，是追求那些不该有的东西。学会顺其自然的生活，不讨好，不强求，不畏惧，不计较，让身心和思维彻底放松下来，不管在何种境地，何种时候，都可以身心舒适，神清气爽。

3. The root of a person's suffering lies in pursuing things that should not be sought after. Learn to live with nature, not pleasing others, not forcing, not fearing, and not being calculative. Allow the body, mind, and thoughts to completely relax. Regardless of the situation or time, one can enjoy physical comfort and mental clarity.

4. 可是慢慢地年纪大了，很多人都习惯性地变得慵懒起来，内心也开始变得保守，每天只重复做着一些同样的事情，生活自然就显得单调无趣了。你要永远保持用一颗年轻的心，永远不放弃对生活的探索与热爱。

4. However, as people gradually get older, many of them tend to become lazy by habit and their inner selves also start to become conservative, repeating the same routine every day, which naturally makes life seem monotonous and uninteresting. You should always maintain a young heart and never give up on exploring and loving life.

5. 《黄帝内经》有一个养生方式，就是“不妄作劳”。

5. The Yellow Emperor's Inner Canon has a health-preserving method, which is "not to engage in excessive labor."

6. 女人要学会爱自己，不单单是依靠外力的借助来疼爱自己，更多的是要学会自我爱护。别人能给的再多，也不及自己努力出来的有成果和自豪感。所以独自自主，财务自由对一个成熟女性来说，真的很重要。

6. Women should learn to love themselves, not just rely on external forces to pamper themselves, but more importantly, to learn to take care of themselves. No matter how much others can give, it's never as fulfilling or as pride-inducing as the achievements and sense of accomplishment that come from one's own efforts. Therefore, financial independence and being self-reliant are truly very important for a mature woman.

7. 至于让你心情紧绷的社交，比如需要察言观色，说违心的话，喝味同嚼蜡的酒，忍受烂人的咄咄逼人，那么，宁可放弃这样的社交。

7. As for the social interactions that cause you stress, such as having to read people's expressions, saying things against your will, drinking wine that tastes like chewing wax, and enduring the relentless pressure from unpleasant people, then, it's better to give up such social interactions.

8. 这个世界上，没有该结婚的年纪，只有爱到可以结婚的人，没有一成不变、被安排好的人生轨迹。

8. In this world, there is no specific age for getting married; there are only people who are in love enough to get married. There is no unchanging, predetermined path for life.

9. 每个人的生活节奏不同，不要在意别人的角度，听着别人的话，学会自己去安排自己的生活。

9. Everyone has a different pace of life; don't worry about others' perspectives, listen to others' words, and learn to arrange your own life by yourself.

10. 人活到一定年龄，你会懂得，以自己喜欢的方式度过余生，就不会害怕任何人的离去，因为你很清楚，哪怕自己一个人，也可以一样精彩。

10. When you reach a certain age, you will understand that if you spend the rest of your life in a way that you like, you will not fear the departure of anyone, because you are very clear that even alone, you can still live an exciting life.

11. 你这样委屈自己，不见得就能换来感激和幸福。反倒是时间久了，你会慢慢抱怨起自己的命运，尤其是和老公发生矛盾的时候，你会更觉得自己命苦。不要一味地去迁就别人，一定要学会好好爱自己。一个女人只有学会了爱自己，才有能力和精力去爱别人。

11. You may not necessarily gain gratitude and happiness by subjecting yourself to this kind of suffering. Instead, over time, you may start to complain about your destiny, especially when conflicts arise with your husband, and you may feel even more that your life is hard. Do not always accommodate others; you must learn to love yourself well. A woman only has the ability and energy to love others when she has learned to love herself.

12. 能做到的可以适当帮个忙，但千万别养成他们的过度依赖心理。那些好意思为难你的人，更别不好意思拒绝，别委屈自己，一味讨好迁就他们。

12. You can offer some help where possible, but never foster their over-reliance on others. When people take advantage of you and make you feel uncomfortable, don't be afraid to say no either. Don't put yourself out to cater to their whims and make compromises all the time.

13. 会对自己的狠的女人，一般都不会过得太差。在欲望方面，她总能乘胜追击，获得自己想要的一切。

13. Women who are harsh on themselves usually don't fare too poorly. In terms of desire, they are always able to keep pushing forward and obtain everything they want.

14. 生活没有你想象中的那么艰难，只要你觉得足够好，那就是幸福，愿你在未来的日子，活得通透，过得幸福，成为在花丛中笑的最灿烂的那朵花。

14. Life is not as difficult as you imagine. As long as you find it good enough, that is happiness. May you live with clarity and happiness in the days to come, and become the brightest bloom in the midst of the flowers.

15. 随着年龄的渐长，你要学会不再在意别人的评价和眼光，遵循自己的心意，对自己不愿意做的事，无能为力的事，勇敢的说不。人活到一定的年龄，首要的是自己过得舒坦开心。

15. As you grow older, you should learn to stop caring about others' opinions and judgments, follow your own heart, and bravely say no to things you are unwilling to do or unable to accomplish. When one reaches a certain age, the most important thing is to live comfortably and happily.

16. 俗话说：一个人的气质里藏着她读过的书，走过的路。

16. As the saying goes: A person's temperament hides the books they have read and the roads they have walked.

17. 毕竟“书中自有黄金屋，书中自有颜如玉”，人的学习能力并不是一劳永逸的。相反，人一旦远离了学习，那么就会想长久没用剪刀会生锈会变得愚钝。逐渐逐渐地就算丧失掉所有学习的能力。所以时刻保持一个学习的状态，真的非常重要。

17. After all, "There is a golden house in books, and there is a jade-like beauty in books," and a person's learning ability is not permanent. On the contrary, once a person distances themselves from learning, they will think, just like a pair of scissors that has not been used for a long time will rust and become dull. Gradually, even if one loses all their learning abilities. Therefore, it is truly very important to always maintain a state of learning.

18. 生为女子，容貌倾国倾城很难，做活得阳光明媚很易，不去多想，不去烦忧，你只管倾其所有，朝着想要的生活奔跑，老天自有安排。

18. Being born a woman, it's difficult to have a beauty that captivates the whole country, but it's easy to live a sunny and bright life. Don't overthink or worry, just give your all and run towards the life you desire, for the heavens will make their arrangements.

19. “坚定的人，懂得在听不到掌声和肯定的时候，多爱自己一点。”

19. "The steadfast person knows to love themselves a little more when they can't hear applause and affirmation."

20. 一个人总是紧绷着，生命处于收缩别扭的状态，就会活得非常痛苦。只有保持一种松弛感，不管处于什么环境，遇到什么事都不要紧张，这样你才能活的舒服而值得。

20. A person who is always tense and lives in a state of contraction and awkwardness will experience great suffering. Only by maintaining a sense of relaxation, not being tense in any environment or facing any situation, can you truly live comfortably and meaningfully.

21. “对于我们最爱的人，不说永远，只说珍惜。”

21. "For the ones we love the most, we don't say forever, just cherish."

22. 保持一种心灵的松弛感，不紧张，我们才能健康长久。

22. Maintain a sense of mental relaxation, without tension, in order to be healthy and long-lived.

23. 人生也不过短短数十年，忠于自己比什么都重要。一个善于经营自己的女人，是绝不会放过生活和工作的。不管是哪个环节，她都要占有一定的话语权。爱生活，爱自己，就是对生活最好的回馈。

23. Life is but a few decades short, and being loyal to oneself is more important than anything else. A woman who is good at managing herself will never let go of life or work. No matter which aspect, she wants to have a certain say. To love life and oneself is the best return to life.

24. 你一旦紧张，身体里的气脉就不通畅，就会淤堵，久而久之就变成某种疾病。

24. Once you become tense, the Qi channels in your body will not flow smoothly, leading to blockages. Over time, this can develop into some kind of illness.

25. 她们骨子里都有着属于自己的坚强，有着远大的理想和志向，有着人生的追求和拼搏事业的决心。

25. Deep down, they all possess their own strength, have grand ideals and aspirations, pursue life's goals, and are determined to strive for success in their careers.

26. 保持社交的松弛感，和同频共振的人相处，我们才能生活得更好。

26. To live a better life, we need to maintain a relaxed sense of social interaction and be with people who resonate at the same frequency.

27. 松弛感是一种内啡肽，让人在轻松愉快中感受到生活的幸福与满足。

27. Relaxation is a kind of endorphin that makes people feel the happiness and satisfaction of life in a relaxed and pleasant state.

28. 培养自己的兴趣好爱，找到能给自己带来快乐的事情。不要觉得生活无趣，是你自己太无趣。如果你的日常生活只是每天吃饭睡觉，工作玩手机，那么你觉得它无聊就一点都不奇怪了。

28. Cultivate your own interests and passions, and find things that can bring you joy. Don't think that life is boring; it's just that you are too uninteresting. If your daily life is just about eating, sleeping, working, and playing with your phone, then it's not at all surprising that you find it boring.

29. 欲望可以无限大，但每个人的能力，却都是有限的。超出了能力范围的欲望，只会让自己陷入更大的痛苦之中。学会知足，没有必要去盲目攀比。只要在你力所能及的范围内，努力让自己活得更好一些，你就是成功的。知足才能常乐。

29. Desire can be infinitely great, but each person's ability is limited. Desires that exceed one's ability will only lead to greater suffering. Learn to be content and there is no need to blindly compare yourself. As long as you strive to live a better life within your capabilities, you are successful. Contentment leads to enduring happiness.

30. 做自己喜欢的事儿，人生在世，最应该取悦的人只有自己，有喜欢的事儿做，那便很好。

30. Do what you like, in life, the most important person to please is yourself. Having things you like to do is already very good.

31. 这世界上有人几岁就成名赚了第一桶金，有人80岁大器晚成；有人24岁步入婚姻殿堂幸福一生，有人40岁兜兜转转才遇到那个对的人；

31. In this world, some people achieve fame and make their first fortune at a young age, while others don't hit their stride until they are 80. Some people enter the marital殿堂 at the age of 24 and live a happy life, while others wander around until they meet the right person at 40.

32. 同样的，女人的气质里除了书香，还少不了各种香水，化妆品，衣服的味道。

32. Similarly, a woman's temperament is not only characterized by the scent of books, but also by a variety of perfumes, cosmetics, and the smell of clothes.

33. 女人一定要重视自己的工作，要把它当成一件人生大事来看待。许多女人很重视婚姻，却常常不把自己的工作当回事。她们固执地觉得，女人嘛，不需要那么强的事业心，随便找一份还算安稳的工作就可以了，关键是要找一个好老公。

33. Women must take their work seriously and treat it as a major event in life. Many women place great importance on marriage, but often do not take their work seriously. They stubbornly believe that, as women, they do not need such a strong career ambition and can simply find a job that is relatively stable. The key is to find a good husband.

34. 社交是一种礼尚往来的活动，我们不用讨好谁，也不用委屈自己，保持社交的松弛感，让自己处于一种舒服的状态。否则也就失去了社交的意义。

34. Socializing is an activity of mutual respect and reciprocity. We don't need to please anyone or put ourselves in a compromising position. Maintain a relaxed attitude towards socializing and keep yourself in a comfortable state. Otherwise, the meaning of socializing would be lost.

35. 愿所有女人都可以这样，即使身处荆棘，依然能吐露着自己的芳香，用洒脱走过流年的秋冬春夏，走过红尘的静寂欢喜，努力绽放成自己喜欢的模样。

35. May all women be able to do so, even amidst thorns, still able to emit their own fragrance, carefree as they walk through the changing seasons of autumn and winter, spring and summer, and through the serene and joyful hustle and bustle of life, striving to bloom into the form they like the most.

36. 有人说：“女人的心态和性格，决定着她一生的幸福指数。”温柔，是一个女人的天赋风情。

36. Some say, "A woman's mindset and character determine her happiness index throughout her life." Gentleness is a woman's innate charm.

37. 温柔就是强大，那些性格上很温柔的女人，总是微笑面对生活，从不抱怨生活给予的磨难，不自卑，不自傲。

37. Gentleness is strength. Women who are gentle in nature always smile at life, never complain about the hardships life bestows, and neither feel inferior nor proud.

38. 再次保证充足的睡眠。药补不如食补，食补不如睡补。好好睡觉，规律作息，让生命能量得到及时的补充。

38. Again, ensure adequate sleep. Medicinal supplements are not as effective as food supplements, and food supplements are not as effective as sleep supplements. Have a good sleep, maintain a regular routine, and let your life energy be replenished in a timely manner.

39. 我们往往会有这样一种感触，就是觉得日子过着过着就会慢慢变得无聊起来。尤其是随着年龄的增长，这种感觉会变得愈发强烈。年轻的时候，我们充满好奇，敢于尝试，愿意主动去接触很多新鲜的东西，所以自然会觉得生活充盈饱满。

39. We often have a feeling that as time goes by, days tend to become increasingly boring. This feeling becomes even stronger as we grow older. In our youth, we are full of curiosity, brave enough to try new things, and willing to actively explore many new experiences, which naturally makes us feel that life is rich and fulfilling.

40. 人生这么短暂，忽聚忽散，忽生忽死，我们一定要打开自己，努力去拥抱快乐美好的生活，释放那些不愉快的情绪。

40. Life is so short, with sudden gatherings and scatterings, births and deaths. We must open ourselves up, strive to embrace a happy and beautiful life, and let go of those unpleasant emotions.

41. 弘一法师：“畏手畏脚的，基本都过的不好。如果你总是处于紧绷状态，就会一点点地磨掉自己的意志，时时刻刻都在抗争、消耗。在很多优秀的人身上，都有一种独特的魅力：松弛感！”

41. Master Hongyi: "People who are overly cautious and hesitant usually don't fare well. If you are always in a state of tension, you will gradually wear down your willpower, constantly struggling and消耗 yourself. Many outstanding individuals possess a unique charm: that of relaxation!"

42. 走过时光匆匆，应该明白那些处处算计你的人，并不值得深交。慢慢成长中的我们，是时候微笑且坚定地拒绝那些不合理的要求了。

42. As time flies by, it should be clear that those who calculate every move you make are not worthy of close friendship. As we grow slowly, it's time to smile and firmly refuse those unreasonable demands.

43. 女人要对自己好一点，要学会照顾自己，心疼自己。该花的钱要花，不要只想着老公孩子。很多女人给家人花钱的时候从不手软，可一到自己身上，就总想着能省则省，这样做，真的太亏待自己了。

43. Women should be a bit kinder to themselves, learn to take care of themselves, and cherish themselves. Spend the money that should be spent; don't just think about your husband and children. Many women are not sparing with their spending on their families, but when it comes to themselves, they always think about saving as much as possible. This is really a loss to themselves.

44. 有些人赚点小钱养家，温饱度日，开心喜乐，也是一种成就；有些人选择不婚，但奋斗终生，他们也充实，不会孤独；有些人事业有成，婚姻幸福，孩子孝顺，是他的福气，也是他的努力；有些人哪怕一生没有被理解过，但他们并不为此而感到难过，因为他懂自己真正需要什么。

44. Some people earn a little money to support their families, live comfortably, and are happy and joyful, which is also an achievement; some choose not to marry, but strive all their lives, and they are fulfilled, never lonely; some people have achieved success in their careers, have a happy marriage, and have children who are filial, which is their fortune and also their effort; some people may not have been understood all their lives, but they don't feel sad about it because they understand what they truly need.

45. 有人爱的同时，且发现自己爱对人的种感觉很美好，不论是爱情，还是友情，都希望有人能在你心头上，且值得自己深爱。也希望你在某个人的心尖儿上，真心实意，感情的意义就是彼此陪伴，所有的付出都是相互的。

45. While being loved and finding the feeling of loving someone beautiful, whether it's love or friendship, one hopes that someone will be cherished in their heart and be worthy of deep love. Also, one wishes to be on the tip of someone's heart, with sincerity and genuine affection. The meaning of love is mutual companionship, and all the sacrifices are reciprocal.

46. 当你保持最好的状态去工作生活，你会发现生活真的会变得不一样。

46. When you work and live at your best, you will find that life really does become different.

47. 女人要时刻保持学习的状态，去接触新鲜的事物，去探索不一样的世界。也是一款相当不错的保养品呢！

47. Women should always maintain a state of learning, to be exposed to new things, and to explore different worlds. It's also a rather nice skincare product, too!

48. 多培养一些有趣的，能让自己快乐的兴趣爱好。比如种花养鱼，看书写字，旅行摄影等等。它们会给你带来许多不同的人生体验和生活乐趣。快乐需要自己去寻找，而不是每天抱怨，却从不主动去改变。

48. Cultivate more interesting hobbies that can bring you joy. For example, growing flowers and raising fish, reading and writing, traveling and photography, etc. They will bring you many different life experiences and sources of pleasure. Happiness needs to be sought out by oneself, not by constantly complaining while never taking the initiative to change.

49. 无论多爱一个人，都不能卑微到弄丢了自己，爱的目的是让你变得更好，而不是让你遍体鳞伤。爱他人之前，请先学会爱自己，爱你的人总会陪你一起成长。

49. No matter how much you love someone, you should never degrade yourself to the point of losing yourself. The purpose of love is to make you better, not to leave you injured. Before loving others, learn to love yourself first; the person who loves you will always grow with you.

50. 女人应该过的生活状态，心态好生活好，那么女人的状态看起来就会很好，无论是身体上还是外表上都能说明她现在的生活状态非常幸福，下面分享女人应该过的生活状态。

50. The lifestyle and mindset that a woman should embrace are positive and good, then her overall condition will appear to be very good, both physically and externally, indicating that she is currently living a very happy life. Below, I will share the lifestyle that a woman should lead.

51. 其次坚持锻炼。慢跑，走路，游泳，爬山，都是对身体状态一种很好的调节方式。

51. Secondly, adhere to exercise. Jogging, walking, swimming, and climbing mountains are all excellent ways to regulate one's physical condition.

52. 曾仕强教授有一个观点，所有的疾病都是因为紧张而来，如果你不紧张，这辈子大概不会得什么病。

52. Professor Zeng Shizhong has a view that all diseases are caused by tension, and if you are not tense, you are probably not going to get any diseases in this lifetime.

53. 女人可以不潇洒、不聪慧、不可爱、不妖媚，但可以让自己很温柔。女人的温柔，是心灵的投射，是行为上的自然流露。

53. A woman may not be graceful, intelligent, adorable, or seductive, but she can be gentle. A woman's gentleness is a projection of her inner self and a natural expression of her behavior.

54. 温柔不是软弱，不是低眉顺眼的唯唯诺诺，更不是放弃自我去顺从和附和他人，温柔的女人一样可以有自己独特的个性，做一个温柔的女人，让生活多一点快乐，多一份诗意。

54. Gentleness is not weakness, nor is it a meek and compliant demeanor. It is certainly not about giving up oneself to submit to and conform to others. Gentlewomen can also have their own unique personalities. To be a gentlewoman adds more joy and poetry to life.

55. 可是把自己的人生赌在别人的身上，本来就是一件非常冒险的事情。靠山山倒，靠人人跑，你无法保证自己找的人会永远给你想要的幸福安稳。所以，靠自己，才是最明智的选择。

55. However, betting one's own life on someone else is inherently a very risky thing. As the saying goes, when you rely on a mountain, the mountain will collapse; when you rely on people, they will run away. You cannot guarantee that the person you choose will always provide you with the happiness and stability you desire. Therefore, relying on oneself is the wisest choice.

56. 所以一个女人最好的状态，当然少不了独立自主，这是女人的底气，是哪怕我终将会变成一个老女人，但也要变成一个富有的老女人。

56. So the best state for a woman, of course, cannot do without independence and self-reliance, which is a woman's confidence. It is that even if I will eventually become an old woman, I still want to become a wealthy old woman.

57. 女人一定要早早地明白经济独立的重要性，努力工作，努力赚钱，你要做到，即便没有他，你依然可以过得非常好。

57. Women must understand the importance of financial independence early on, work hard, and earn money diligently. You should be able to live very well even without him.

58. 人与人之间，原本就是有差距的。盲目地忽视这些客观存在的差距，一味地只看到别人过着更好的生活，于是就觉得自己也应该得到这一切，这是一种非常不明智的行为。

58. There are naturally differences between people. Blindly ignoring these objectively existing gaps and constantly only seeing that others are living better lives, and then feeling that one should also receive all of this, is a very unwise behavior.

59. 那么，如何才能保持身体的松弛感呢？

59. So, how can one maintain a sense of physical relaxation?

60. 保持心灵松弛感的有效方式，就是豁达乐观的面对生命中发生的一切，想方设法让自己的生活有滋有味，精彩纷呈。

60. An effective way to maintain a relaxed state of mind is to face everything that happens in life with an open and optimistic attitude, and to do everything in your power to make your life flavorful and full of wonders.

61. 如果有人说你必须在24岁结婚，30岁赚够多少钱，坐上什么职位，请你告诉他们：

61. If someone tells you that you must get married by 24, earn a certain amount of money by 30, or take up a particular position, please tell them:

62. 不要把大好的时光都拿去挥霍，人一生总要明白，做过的事没必要后悔，那些要离开你的人怎么都留不住，装睡的人永远叫不醒，薄凉的心永远捂不热。

62. Don't waste the precious time you have. In a person's life, one must eventually understand that there's no need to regret the things you've done, those who are leaving you can't be held back no matter what, and someone pretending to be asleep can never be woken up, and a cold-hearted person can never be warmed.

63. 不要持续做高强度的劳动，学会缓解工作和生活的压力，身心保持一个放松的状态。如果我们的肌肉，筋脉，血管，神经总是绷得很紧，那早晚会出问题。

63. Do not continuously engage in intense labor. Learn to alleviate the pressures of work and life, and maintain a relaxed state of mind and body. If our muscles, tendons, blood vessels, and nerves are always tense, problems will eventually arise.

64. 圈子不同，不必强融。任何一个让你感到不舒服的圈子，都是一个你不应该走进的圈子，你必须从里面剥离出来。

64. Different circles, no need to force yourself to fit in. Any circle that makes you feel uncomfortable is a circle you should not enter, and you must detach yourself from it.

65. 生活不能太闲，人总要有点事儿做做，恰到好处，不慌不忙，内心充实。不论赚多少，花自己赚的钱，过自己的小日子，有底气的生活着。

65. Life should not be too idle. People always need something to do, just the right amount, not in a hurry, and with a sense of inner fulfillment. No matter how much you earn, spend your own money, live your own small life, and live with confidence.

66. 首先要学会调节遇到的压力，在工作和生活之间，有张有弛，有紧有松，不要强求自己。

66. Firstly, one should learn to adjust the pressure encountered, balancing work and life with alternating tension and relaxation, and not put undue pressure on oneself.

67. “真正的爱自己，不是去牺牲掉所有的时间和精力，去打拼什么辉煌的未来，而是在当下，努力去做自己喜欢做的和有趣的事情，让自己的内心充盈着喜悦，让现在的每一天，都以自己喜爱的方式度过。”

67. "True self-love is not about sacrificing all your time and energy to fight for a glorious future, but to strive in the present to do what you enjoy and find interesting, filling your heart with joy, and letting each day pass in a way that you love."

68. 当你拥有足够强大的能力时，就能应对生活的千种变故，遇事冷静，处变不惊。再多困难袭来，也不曾能将你击倒。

68. When you possess enough powerful abilities, you can cope with the myriad changes of life, remain calm in the face of events, and not be startled by changes. No matter how many difficulties come your way, they will never be able to bring you down.

69. 中医认为，百病生于气。

69. According to traditional Chinese medicine, all diseases originate from Qi (vital energy).

70. 不要太在意别人评论，因为人生是活给你自己的，而别人怎么说不重要，因为他们并不会对你的人生负责。

70. Don't worry too much about what others say, because life is lived for yourself, and what others say doesn't matter much because they won't be responsible for your life.

71. 不要拿自己的短处和别人的长处比较；不要去羡慕别人拥有的而轻贱自己拥有的；不要在比较中迷失，不要跟着别人的地图去找自己的路。天外有天人外有人，你不必比他人优秀，你只要比曾经的自己优秀就好。

71. Do not compare your shortcomings with others' strengths; do not envy what others have while belittling what you possess; do not lose yourself in comparison, and do not follow others' maps to find your own path. There are people beyond people and heavens beyond heavens; you do not need to be superior to others, but just better than the past version of yourself.

72. 自律同样考验着女性。当代审美里大多都是以瘦为美，生活这种观念里的人很难做到不顾他人目光生活。所以90%的女性都时常存有这样一种感觉：自己不够瘦。

72. Self-discipline also tests women. In contemporary aesthetics, thinness is often considered beautiful, and it is difficult for those who hold this view of life to live without concerning others' eyes. Therefore, 90% of women often have the feeling that they are not thin enough.

73. “人生太闲，则别念窃生；太忙，则真性不见。”

73. "If life is too leisurely, then other thoughts may creep in; if too busy, then the true nature may not be seen."

74. 但是生命里有些爱情注定可遇而不可求，等不到的人就不要等了，挤不进去的世界就不要硬撑了。

74. But there are some loves in life that are meant to be encountered but not pursued; don't wait for someone who is unreachable, and don't force yourself into a world that you can't fit into.

75. 我们最大的错误就是把最差的脾气和最糟糕的一面都给了最亲近的人，却把耐心和宽容理解给了陌生人，学会好好和身边的人好好说话，好好表达爱，好的情绪留给最亲的人。

75. Our biggest mistake is that we give our worst temper and worst side to our closest people, while we reserve patience and tolerance for strangers. Learn to speak well with the people around you, express love well, and keep good moods for the people you are closest to.

76. 一个性格温柔体贴的女人，懂得换位思考，不会随意发泄自己的不良情绪，不顾及他人的感受，她们一般都会把各种不愉快消化于无形之中。

76. A gentle and considerate woman understands empathy and does not vent her negative emotions impulsively, disregarding others' feelings. They generally absorb various unpleasantness without showing it.

77. 没有人是一座孤岛，我们都离不开一定的社会关系。

77. No one is an island, we all rely on certain social relationships.

78. 保持自律不是为了能有多瘦，而是为了能平衡自己的作息时间，让自己时刻保持最佳状态。迎接每天带来的新挑战。

78. Maintaining self-discipline is not for the sake of being extremely thin, but to balance one's schedule and always be in the best state. Embrace the new challenges that each day brings.