在这个喧嚣的世界里，我选择了低社交，享低乐，走出简单真我。

In this noisy world, I have chosen low socialization, enjoying low-level happiness, and stepping out of the simple true self.

1. 人际关系的本质是利益交换，你既然是一个普通人，没有足够的价值，没有给强者创造利益的手段，没有足够多的筹码，你凭什么向上社交？就比如你一厢情愿想跟马云交朋友，马云会搭理你吗？你对自己所在城市的市长、省长巴结讨好，他们会正眼看你一下吗？所以，向上社交是普通人的绝路。那么，为什么不能够平等社交？可以的，只是你得到的资源会特别少，跟你身份、地位、资源同等的人，关系往往特别脆弱，就比如你和自己的同事之间，就是这种关系。别人有的，我们几乎都有，我们有的，别人几乎也都有，谁也不比谁好到哪里去，谁也不比谁矮一截，所以交际价值不是很大。

1. The essence of interpersonal relationships is exchange of interests. Since you are an ordinary person, without enough value, without means to create benefits for the strong, and without sufficient chips, how can you climb the social ladder? For instance, if you want to make friends with Jack Ma, will Jack Ma pay any attention to you? If you flatter and讨好 the mayor or the governor of your city, will they even look at you with respect? Therefore, trying to climb the social ladder is a dead end for an ordinary person. Then, why can't we engage in equal socializing? It is possible, but the resources you get will be particularly few. The relationships with people of the same status, position, and resources are often particularly fragile, like the relationships between you and your colleagues. We almost have what others have, and they almost have what we have. No one is significantly better off than anyone else, and no one is much worse off than anyone else. Therefore, the value of socializing is not very high.

2. 普通人有普通人的活法，不必仰望精英的生活方式。

2. Ordinary people have their own way of living, and there is no need to look up to the lifestyle of the elite.

3. 普通人的人生就是如此！追求高级快乐，可以促进内分肽的分泌，比如深度思考，让自己有一种收获智慧的快乐，比如读书学习，让自己有一种收获知识的快乐，比如为了某个目标而奋斗，让自己感受到了生命的价值感和成就感。但是这些都是一个普通人无法触及的快乐，或许也是发自骨子里不喜欢的快乐，追求高级就是强人所难！

3. This is the life of an ordinary person! Pursuing higher-level happiness can promote the secretion of endorphins, such as deep thinking, which brings the joy of acquiring wisdom; reading and learning, which brings the joy of acquiring knowledge; and striving for a certain goal, which makes one feel the value and sense of achievement in life. However, all these are joys that an ordinary person cannot easily attain, and perhaps they are joys that one dislikes deeply in their bones. Pursuing the high-level is asking for the impossible!

4. 充斥互联网的文化，绝大部分都是精英文化，让我们像精英一样向上社交，积累人脉；追求高级快乐，提升自己；追求诗和远方，让生活充满一种浪漫的审美。这种文化很美好，很正能量，很符合主流价值观，但是不一定适合我们普通人。

4. The culture prevalent on the Internet is predominantly elite culture, which encourages us to socialize like the elite, accumulate connections; pursue advanced happiness, enhance ourselves; seek poetry and the distant, filling life with a romantic aesthetic. This culture is beautiful, full of positive energy, and in line with mainstream values, but it may not necessarily be suitable for ordinary people.

5. 不必想着向上社交，对那一些自以为优越的人低眉顺眼，向下社交更让我们感到畅快自如，至少可以给自己提供更多的情绪价值。

5. There's no need to think about upward social climbing, kowtowing to those who think they are superior. Downward socializing makes us feel more relaxed and at ease, at least it can provide us with more emotional value.

6. 不是向上社交不好，而是普通人没有任何能量向上社交。

6. It's not that upward social mobility is bad, but rather that ordinary people have no energy for upward social mobility.

7. 普通人在琐碎的生活之中，睡个懒觉，刷刷手机，看看短视频，打打游戏，几个好朋友在一起喝一顿大酒，玩上几圈麻将，只要不赌博，不太过于放纵自己，有什么不可以的？

7. In the midst of the trivialities of everyday life, why not enjoy a lazy morning, swipe through your phone, watch some short videos, play some games, have a big drink with a few good friends, and play a few rounds of Mahjong? As long as you don't gamble and don't overindulge, what's wrong with that?

8. ​在这个过程中，认知和德行都会提升，这些才是关键。要知道，命中若有馈赠，暗处必有抽离。对于普通人而言，那种没有大钱，但小钱不断的人，才是真正有福之人。”

8. In this process, both cognition and virtue will be enhanced, and these are the key factors. Remember, if there is a gift in destiny, there will be a withdrawal in the shadows. For ordinary people, those who don't have a lot of money but have a continuous stream of small amounts are truly blessed individuals."

9. 为什么要向下社交？因为你比圈子里的其他人更有优势，你会掌握话题的主导权，掌握这个圈子的走向，别人都会尊敬你，欣赏你，佩服你，甚至崇拜你，为你马首是瞻，你就可以调动这些资源为你所用。刘邦、刘备、朱元璋、洪秀全，不都是这样子的吗？

9. Why engage in downward socializing? Because you have more advantages than the others in your circle. You will have the control over the topic, determining the direction of the circle. Others will respect you, admire you, and be impressed by you, even idolize you. They will follow you wherever you lead, and you can mobilize these resources for your own use. Isn't this what Liu Bang, Liu Bei, Zhu Yuanzhang, and Hong Xiuquan did?

10. 并且，快乐只是内心的一种感受，不应该存在高级和低级之分。人生短暂，让自己以一种舒服的状态活着，是每一个生物的自然属性而已。

10. Moreover, happiness is merely an inner feeling and should not be categorized into higher and lower levels. Life is short, and allowing oneself to live in a comfortable state is merely the natural attribute of every living being.

11. 反其道而行之，更适合我们普通人的现实抉择。

11. Doing the opposite is more suitable for the realistic choices we ordinary people make.

12. 不必一定要追求什么高级快乐，快乐没有高级和低级之分，只要让自己感到惬意的，自己的能力可以够得着的快乐，我们就好好地体验和享受吧。

12. There is no need to chase after some high-level happiness. Happiness does not have levels of high and low; as long as it makes us feel comfortable and the happiness we can achieve with our abilities, let's experience and enjoy it well.

13. 弘一法师说：“普通人不要再去求大富大贵了，因为福祸相依。大富贵意味着大劫难，要是真来了，德行不够的话，是接不住的，要一步一个脚印地累积财富。

13. Master Hongyi said: "Ordinary people should not seek great wealth and status anymore, because blessings and disasters are interdependent. Great wealth and status mean great disasters, and if they truly come, without enough virtue, one cannot bear them. Wealth should be accumulated step by step."

14. 当我们认清自己的能力边界和现实处境，把自己定义为一个普通人的时候，我们注定只能和世界上99%的人一样的命运格局。什么向上社交，高级快乐，跟我们的生活毫不兼容。

14. When we recognize our own limitations and the reality of our situation, and define ourselves as ordinary people, we are destined to have the same destiny as 99% of the people in the world. As for upward social mobility and high-level happiness, they are completely incompatible with our lives.