在快速发展的现代社会，培养成年人的社交智慧显得尤为重要。如何换位思考，成为沟通的桥梁，是这一时代赋予我们的重要课题。本文将探讨换位思考在社交智慧中的重要性及其应用。

In the rapidly developing modern society, cultivating adults' social wisdom has become particularly important. How to think from others' perspectives and become a bridge of communication is an important issue bestowed upon us by this era. This article will explore the importance of empathy in social wisdom and its application.

1. 指责他人错了，其实就是否认了他人。而赞美却避免了这一系列问题的发生。

1. To blame others for being wrong is essentially to deny them. However, praise avoids this series of problems.

2. 换位思考，理解不同层次的人，不做武断的评论，是一种智慧。

2. Thinking from others' perspectives, understanding people of different levels, and not making arbitrary comments is a sign of wisdom.

3. 就比如说，在职场当中经常会因为利益的关系，与同事发生矛盾，这个时候如果你能控制好自己的情绪不会因为一时的冲动做出鲁莽的事情，那么，还可以和同事之间保持一种友好的关系在以后的相处过程当中，还可以运用这样的关系为自己创造更多有利的条件，正所谓凡事留一线，日后好先见这是最基本的人情世故，谁都有有求于别人的时候。

3. For instance, in the workplace, conflicts with colleagues often arise due to issues of interest. At such times, if you can control your emotions and refrain from acting impulsively, you can still maintain a friendly relationship with your colleagues. In the future interactions, you can leverage such relationships to create more favorable conditions for yourself. As the saying goes, "leave a thread of kindness for future encounters." This is the most basic etiquette of human interaction; everyone has times when they need help from others.

4. 懂得换位思考，设身处地为他人着想，是成年人最好的社交态度。

4. Understanding perspective-taking and considering others' situations from their own point of view is the best social attitude for adults.

5. 高情商的另一种表现是管理好他人的情绪，做到这一点，你就能收获和谐的人际关系。跟控制自己的情绪一样，管理他人情绪首先要认识他人情绪，在这个基础上才能管理好他人情绪，这里离不开同理心。

5. Another manifestation of high emotional intelligence is managing others' emotions. By doing so, you can enjoy harmonious interpersonal relationships. Just as controlling one's own emotions, managing others' emotions first requires recognizing their emotions, and on this basis, you can effectively manage their emotions. Empathy is indispensable in this process.

6. 一位女孩被父母抛弃，形同陌路。二十年后，女孩名校毕业，前途无量。

6. A girl was abandoned by her parents, becoming a stranger to them. Twenty years later, the girl graduated from a prestigious university, with boundless prospects ahead.

7. 苏轼曾和王安石亦师亦友，互相欣赏。

7. Su Shi was both a teacher and a friend to Wang Anshi, with mutual appreciation for each other.

8. 人际交往中，不管你多么关心他，爱护他，你对他有多好，多真，假如一味以指责的方式去对待他，他是绝对不能接受的，更不会领情。

8. In interpersonal communication, no matter how much you care for him, love him, or how good and sincere you are to him, if you keep treating him with a way of blame, he will absolutely not accept it, let alone be grateful.

9. 友人告诉他，黄州的这种菊花结瓣不稳，往往随风而落。

9. A friend told him that the chrysanthemum petals in Huangzhou are often unstable, falling with the wind.

10. 一位作家说：“你永远不可能真正了解一个人，除非你穿上他的鞋子走路。”

10. A writer said, "You can never truly understand a person unless you walk a mile in their shoes."

11. 你要想让一个人充满热情，就要让他真切的感觉自己重要。人类本质里最深远的驱动力就是“希望具有重要性”。

11. If you want to fill someone with enthusiasm, you need to make them truly feel that they are important. The deepest motivation in human nature is the "hope for importance."

12. 在日常的生活当中，让我感触最多的就是，当你情绪占上风，智商为零。所以智商，在情绪面前就变得微不足道，只有情商高的人才能更好的整合自己的优势条件创造更多的个人价值，智商是帮助你找到最佳解决问题的办法，情商是教你怎么合理运用这种办法。

12. In everyday life, what touches me the most is that when emotions take the upper hand, your IQ drops to zero. Therefore, in the face of emotions, IQ becomes negligible, and only those with high emotional intelligence can better integrate their advantageous conditions to create more personal value. IQ helps you find the best way to solve problems, while emotional intelligence teaches you how to reasonably apply this method.

13. 对于别人的质疑，盲人说，我虽然看不见，但可以照亮别人。既给别人行了方便，又避免自己被撞到。

13. In response to others' doubts, the blind person said, "Although I cannot see, I can illuminate others. I help others with convenience and also avoid being bumped into myself."

14. 一个有修养的人，都会换位思考，心怀悲悯。而不是站在道德制高点上，指点江山，自以为是。

14. A cultivated person will always think from another's perspective and have compassion in their heart. They will not stand on a moral pedestal, pointing fingers and feeling self-righteous.

15. 同理心就是了解他人感受的能力，说直白点就是换位思考的能力。我们在体会自己的感受和他人的感受时，大脑神经系统的活动几乎是一样的，利用同理心我们能准确把握别人的心理，让我们和别人保持情绪一致，这样别人才能听得进去你的话。

15. Empathy is the ability to understand others' feelings, put simply, it is the ability to put oneself in another's shoes. When we experience our own feelings and those of others, the activity of our brain's nervous system is almost identical. By using empathy, we can accurately grasp others' psychology, keep our emotions in sync with others, and only then can others be receptive to what we have to say.

16. 和懂得换位思考的人相处，让人如沐春风，如饮佳酿，美妙无穷。

16. Being with someone who understands the importance of empathy is like basking in the spring breeze, sipping fine wine, and experiencing endless delight.

17. 站在别人的位置上，了解别人的不易，尊重别人的选择，是一种修养，一种智慧，一种善良。

17. Standing in someone else's shoes, understanding the difficulties they face, respecting their choices, is a virtue, a form of wisdom, and a kindheartedness.

18. 换位思考，存在即是合理。不要讥讽老鼠打洞，也不要苛责凤凰涅槃。

18. Think from another's perspective, existence is reasonable. Do not mock the mouse for digging a hole, nor criticize the phoenix for its rebirth.

19. 大多数人都会有这样的习惯，即使错了，也不会轻易认错。弟子规中讲到：“人不安，勿话扰。”意思是说当一个人情绪浮躁的时候，你不要跟他讲什么大道理，特别是一个人在气头上的时候，即使你是对的，她也很难听得进去。因为没有人会喜欢被别人认为是傻子，因为这实在是一种非常糟糕的感觉，更不要表现的比别人聪明。

19. Most people have the habit of not readily admitting their mistakes even when they are wrong. The 'Disciple's Rule' states, "Do not disturb a person when they are restless." This means that when someone is in a restless or upset state, it is not advisable to lecture them on moral principles, especially when they are in a fit of anger. Even if you are right, they are likely to find it hard to listen. Because no one enjoys being considered a fool by others, as it is a very unpleasant feeling, let alone appearing smarter than others.

20. 很多时候，我们的不以为然，是因为不知别人的高度。我们的轻薄狂妄，是因为不知对方的深浅。

20. Often, our disbelief is because we are unaware of others' heights. Our frivolous arrogance is because we are ignorant of the depth of others.

21. 心里装着别人，会为别人考虑，自己也会获得福报。

21. Carrying others in one's heart, considering others, will bring blessings to oneself as well.

22. 苏轼想起从前对王安石的讥笑，非常惭愧。原来无知的是自己。

22. Su Shi remembered his past mocking of Wang Anshi and felt very ashamed. It turned out that it was himself who was ignorant.

23. 一位作家说：“善良比聪明更珍贵。因为聪明是一种天赋，而善良是一种选择。”

23. A writer said, "Goodness is more precious than intelligence. Because intelligence is a gift, while goodness is a choice."

24. 在情绪要爆发的时候，你能够从当下跳出来看自己，像一个旁观者一样意识到自己的情绪状态。

24. When emotions are about to burst, you can step back from the present and observe yourself as if you were a bystander, realizing your emotional state.

25. 打洞是老鼠安身立命的本事，涅槃是凤凰的高级追求。

25. Making holes is the fundamental skill for mice to settle and survive, while nirvana is the advanced pursuit of the phoenix.

26. 他想起老朋友，老客户，打算写信给他们，集思广益，找到化解危机的智慧。

26. He remembered his old friends and loyal customers, and planned to write to them, pooling their wisdom to find a solution to the crisis.

27. 孔子又说：“己欲立而立人，己欲达而达人。”

27. Confucius also said, "If you wish to establish yourself, you must also help others to establish themselves; if you wish to achieve your own goals, you must also help others to achieve theirs."

28. 渴求他人的注意，并希望他人感到自己重要，这也许是人性的一大特征。因为，要满足他人的愿望，你只需学会一点，真诚地赞赏别人。

28. The desire for others' attention and the hope that others feel one's importance may be one of the great characteristics of human nature. Because, to satisfy others' desires, you only need to learn one thing: sincerely appreciate others.

29. 央视直播过这么一个调解案例。

29. CCTV has broadcasted a mediation case like this.

30. 写罢，扬长而去。

30. After writing this, he left with a flourish.

31. 诚然，女孩冷漠的背后，不知有多少次肝肠寸断，多少回痛苦煎熬。如果我们处在她的位置，估计比她更无情。

31. Indeed, behind the coldness of girls, there are countless times of heart-wrenching pain and countless rounds of suffering. If we were in her position, we might be even more ruthless than her.

32. 在我看来情商比智商更重要，情商可以帮助我们管理自己和他人的情绪，提高自己在社交、健康、婚姻等方面的情商，关注自己的情绪管理，让我们更成功。

32. In my view, emotional intelligence is more important than intelligence quotient. Emotional intelligence can help us manage our own and others' emotions, improve our emotional intelligence in social interactions, health, marriage, and other aspects, focus on our emotional management, and make us more successful.

33. 换位思考，推已及人，是源自灵魂的高贵。

33. Thinking from others' perspectives and extending oneself to others is a noble quality that originates from the soul.

34. 你怎么对别人，别人就怎么对你。

34. You get treated how you treat others.

35. 于是，他变卖家产，买了邮票把信件发出去。而且在每个信封内，放了2美元，让给他回信的人买邮票。

35. So, he sold his belongings, bought stamps, and sent out the letters. Moreover, he placed 2 dollars in each envelope for the person who would write back to buy stamps.

36. 信写好了，他才发现，自己连买邮票的钱都捉襟见肘。他想到，自己都买不起邮票，对方肯定也不愿花钱买邮票给自己回信。

36. He finished writing the letter and realized that he didn't even have enough money to buy a stamp. He thought, if he couldn't afford to buy a stamp, the other person would definitely not want to spend money on a stamp to write back to him.

37. 古人说：“君子如玉，触手可温。”

37. The ancients said, "A gentleman is as jade, touching it feels warm."

38. 自己是燕雀，还嘲笑大鹏鸟的万里遨游。

38. Yourself a sparrow, yet mocking the great鹏 bird's ten-thousand-mile journey.

39. 父母前来相认，诉说当年弃养的无奈，以及这么多年失去女儿的痛苦。

39. The parents came to recognize their child, expressing the helplessness of giving up the child in the past and the pain of losing their daughter all these years.

40. 评价一个人的时候，先了解他的情况，站在他的立场和处境，想想自己能做得如何。

40. When evaluating a person, first understand their situation, stand in their shoes and think about what you can do.

41. 我们发现在组织中职位越重要的人，状态就会越好，正是因为他在骨子里坚信自己在组织发展中的重要性。而要想让他人感觉到重要并富有工作热情，就要满足他人性中最殷切的需求即渴望被人肯定。欣赏他人，对于自己喜欢的人，比较容易做到，但对于自己厌恶的人，就很难做到了。

41. We find that the more important a person's position is within the organization, the better their condition tends to be, as they deeply believe in their own importance to the organization's development. To make others feel important and passionate about their work, one must satisfy their most urgent need, which is the desire for recognition. It is easier to appreciate others who are liked, but it is difficult to do so for those who are disliked.

42. 但在这个世界上每一人都是自己的冠军，每个人都有自己的特长，你能看到并真诚的欣赏他，你就成为他人生辉煌中最好的见证者。无论对方多么有学识，也无论对方多么有才华，他是不会喜欢与一个紧盯自己缺点的人交往的，更不会把他当成知己好友，倾诉衷肠。

42. But in this world, everyone is their own champion, and everyone has their own special talents. If you can see them and sincerely appreciate them, you become the best witness to their辉煌 in life. No matter how learned or talented the other person may be, they will not like to associate with someone who constantly focuses on their shortcomings, let alone consider them as a close friend to confide in.

43. 不知他人苦，莫劝他人善。不知他人品，莫论他人非。

43. Do not advise others to be good if you do not know their struggles. Do not comment on others' shortcomings if you are unaware of their character.

44. 人心都是相互的。你怎么对待别人，别人就怎么回应你。

44. People's hearts are reciprocal. How you treat others, others will respond to you in the same way.

45. 我们对别人的看法，往往囿于自己狭隘的认知。

45. Our opinions of others are often confined by our narrow cognition.

46. 智商高不等于情商高，情商的本质是管理自己的情绪。当情绪不受控制的时候，它就像脱缰的野马，会出现感性压倒理性，情绪失控的情况。想想你和他人争执时的状态、当你被最好的朋友忽视时，当你在工作中的利益被损害时，你的第一反应是什么，很愤怒，之后有两种结局，一种是不管不顾发泄了自己的情绪，另一种是控制住了自己情绪，理清来龙去脉争取了最大利益。哪一种处理方式更好呢，明显是后一种，谁也不想总是被冲动的情绪带着跑，高情商的人懂得管理自己的情绪，这样才能做出更明智的决定。

46. High IQ does not necessarily mean high EQ. The essence of emotional intelligence is to manage one's own emotions. When emotions are not under control, they are like a wild horse that has broken its reins, leading to situations where emotions overwhelm reason and emotional chaos occurs. Think about your state when you are in an argument with someone, when your best friend ignores you, or when your interests at work are damaged. What is your first reaction? Very angry. There are two possible outcomes: one is to vent your emotions without any regard, and the other is to control your emotions, sort out the situation, and fight for the greatest benefits. Which method is better? Clearly, the latter is better. No one wants to be constantly driven by impulsive emotions. People with high emotional intelligence know how to manage their emotions, which allows them to make more wise decisions.

47. 自己不愿意承受的东西，就不要施加给别人。

47. Do not impose on others what you are not willing to endure yourself.

48. 人都有认知的差异。

48. People all have differences in cognition.

49. 《庄子•秋水》里有一则故事。黄河涨水，开阔无垠。河神以为，自己主管的水域是天下最大的。等他看到大海后，恍悟自己狭隘浅薄，贻笑大方。

49. There is a story in "The Autumn River" from Zhuangzi. When the Yellow River overflowed, it was vast and boundless. The river god believed that the waters under his jurisdiction were the largest in the world. However, after seeing the sea, he suddenly realized his own narrow-mindedness and shallowness, and was laughed at by the wise.

50. 一日，苏轼造访王家，在书房看见王安石写的咏菊诗：“昨夜西风过园林，吹落黄花满地金。”

50. One day, Su Shi visited the Wang family and saw a poem about chrysanthemums written by Wang Anshi in the study room: "Last night the west wind swept through the garden, blowing down the chrysanthemum flowers that covered the ground like gold."

51. 上世纪30年代，美国遭遇经济大萧条。克顿经营的齿轮厂濒临破产。

51. In the 1930s, the United States faced the Great Depression. The gear factory operated by Kerton was on the brink of bankruptcy.

52. 女孩回应，你没有我的经历，没有资格对我评头论足。

52. The girl replied, "You don't have my experiences, so you're not qualified to comment on me."

53. 后来，苏轼被贬黄州，与友人秋日赏景。见菊花花瓣飘落满地，金黄耀眼，十分惊异。

53. Later, Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou and spent autumn days with friends appreciating the scenery. He was greatly surprised to see chrysanthemum petals falling all over the ground, their golden hues dazzling.

54. 主持人指责女孩，心肠太冷，不理解父母生活的艰难。

54. The host criticized the girl, accusing her of having a cold heart and not understanding the difficulties of her parents' lives.

55. 换位思考，以心换心，才能得到真心的回馈。

55. Only by thinking from others' perspectives and exchanging hearts can one receive genuine responses.

56. 收到信的人都很感动，因为2美元远超一张邮票钱。

56. The recipient of the letter was deeply moved because $2 is far more than the cost of a stamp.

57. 生命是一种回声。

57. Life is an echo.

58. 一个盲人在夜里赶路，手里总要打一盏灯笼。

58. A blind person always carries a lantern in hand when traveling at night.

59. 孔子说：“己所不欲，勿施于人。”

59. Confucius said, "Do not do to others what you would not have them do to you."

60. 善良的人，都能换位思考，处处为他人着想，照顾他人的感受，成全他人的关切。

60. Good people can put themselves in others' shoes, always think of others, care for others' feelings, and satisfy others' concerns.

61. 因为情商可以让你更好地认识自己，更好地与他人相处，更好地实现自己的梦想。情商可以让你更快乐，更健康，更成功，更幸福。情商可以让你更有信心，更有魅力，更有影响力，更有尊严。情商可以让你更有创造力，更有智慧，更有品味，更有格调。

61. Because emotional intelligence allows you to better understand yourself, better interact with others, and better achieve your dreams. Emotional intelligence can make you happier, healthier, more successful, and more fulfilled. It can give you more confidence, more charm, more influence, and more dignity. Emotional intelligence can also make you more creative, wiser, more refined, and more sophisticated.

62. 苏轼轻蔑一笑，心想，堂堂宰相，竟连菊花不落瓣的常识都不知道。

62. Su Shi sneered, thinking to himself, A dignified prime minister, yet he doesn't even know the common sense that chrysanthemum petals do not fall off.

63. 承认错误虽是件好事，但愿意承认错误的人终究很少。由此，也等于证明你要别人认错，是一件蠢事。不要轻易批评别人，更不要逼别人认错。

63. Admitting mistakes is a good thing, but people who are willing to admit their mistakes are ultimately very few. This also proves that asking others to admit their mistakes is a foolish thing to do. Don't criticize others lightly, and definitely don't force others to admit their mistakes.

64. 大家想起克顿做人处事的种种好处，不仅积极给他出谋划策，还有人给他投资，有人下订单，有人帮他做广告。

64. Everyone remembered all the good qualities of Keton in his dealings and conduct, and not only actively offered him advice and plans, but some even invested in him, others placed orders, and still others helped promote him.

65. 爱出者爱返，福往者福来。

65. Love begets love, and good will brings good fortune.

66. 女孩始终表情冷漠，不理会父母的哭诉。

66. The girl remained expressionless, ignoring her parents' wails.

67. 想成就自己，获得尊重，就要懂得成就和尊重别人。

67. To achieve oneself and gain respect, one must learn to achieve and respect others.

68. 你为别人着想，别人也会为你助力。

68. If you think of others, others will also help you.

69. 克顿的企业再次焕发生机，风生水起。

69. Keton's enterprise has once again been revitalized, flourishing like the wind and water.