在繁华的都市中，大格局者往往懂得低调节制，以温和的姿态面对生活的起伏。他们心态平和，情绪细腻，内心如同港湾，总能给予他人温暖与力量。本文将探讨这一独特群体，揭示他们如何在喧嚣世界中保持内心的宁静与和谐。

In the bustling metropolis, those with grand vision often know how to regulate their emotions and face the ups and downs of life with a gentle demeanor. They maintain a peaceful mindset, have delicate emotions, and their inner hearts are like harbors, always able to offer warmth and strength to others. This article will explore this unique group, revealing how they maintain inner tranquility and harmony in the midst of the noisy world.

1. 刘备因为徐庶和水镜先生的举荐，三次拜访茅庐，延请诸葛亮出山。

1. Liu Bei visited the thatched cottage three times, inviting Zhuge Liang to come out and serve, due to the recommendation of Xu Shu and Master Shuijing.

2. 合自己体型的方法饮食、运动，恐怕是土型人一生当中永远的、最大的挑战。

2. Eating and exercising in a way that fits one's body type may be the eternal and greatest challenge for an earth-type person throughout their life.

3. 也许在我周围的人眼里，我是一个坚强的人。但是当我坚强的时候，我会考虑别人的感受。如果对方很坚强，不考虑你的感受，那么你们的关系值得考虑。

3. Perhaps in the eyes of the people around me, I am a strong person. However, when I am strong, I consider others' feelings. If the other person is also strong and does not consider your feelings, then the relationship between you two is worth considering.

4. 给孩子最好的教育是什么？不是买学区房，不是请家教，而是夫妻恩爱互敬。只有父母相爱，孩子才会有安全感，才能更专心地学习成长，才能学会如何爱自己，如何爱他人。

4. What is the best education for children? It's not buying a school district house, nor hiring a tutor, but rather the mutual love and respect between husband and wife. Only when the parents love each other, will the child have a sense of security, be able to focus more on learning and growth, and learn how to love oneself and how to love others.

5. 火处南方。有丙丁之分。形同而气质之清浊。随时变易。

5. Fire is located in the south. It is divided into Bing and Ding. They may have the same form but differ in quality, which can change with time.

6. 木性人面色青。长瘦而露骨。上宽下窄。肩耸背直。身量高长。脚步高压有声。说话直硬倔强。语声直短。齿音。坐立时不斜不倚。气度轩昂。

6. People with a wooden nature have a blue complexion. They are long and thin with prominent bones. Their upper body is wide while the lower body is narrow. Their shoulders are sloping and their backs are straight. They are tall and slender. Their steps are heavy with a sound. Their speech is straightforward, rigid, and stubborn. Their voice is direct and short. They have a distinct dental accent. When sitting or standing, they do not lean to one side or the other. Their demeanor is dignified and grand.

7. 有四条规矩，父母应该从小就给孩子立起来。第一，不能有粗野、粗俗的行为；第二，不是自己的东西不能随便拿；第三，不能随意打扰别人；第四，做错了事情要道歉，且有权利要求别人道歉。

7. There are four rules that parents should establish in children from a young age. First, there should be no coarse or vulgar behavior; second, one should not take things that do not belong to them arbitrarily; third, one should not disturb others at will; fourth, when one has done something wrong, an apology should be made, and one has the right to demand an apology from others.

8. 母亲是孩子 探索 世界的后盾，只有母亲给予孩子足够的爱和安全感，孩子才能够更好地适应外部世界， 健康 成长。

8. The mother is the pillar behind the child's exploration of the world. Only when the mother provides the child with enough love and a sense of security can the child better adapt to the external world and grow up healthily.

9. 所谓教养，并不是指有多高的文化修养，而是基本行为方式中的道德修养，与文化教育程度无关。孩子有没有教养，和父母本身的道德修养有直接关系。父母缺乏修养，孩子长久模仿后，会逐渐内化为不良品行，而品德高尚、有修养的父母教育出的孩子，人格发展更健全，处事更得当。

9. What is referred to as breeding is not about how high one's cultural修养 is, but rather the moral cultivation in one's basic manner of behavior, which has nothing to do with the level of cultural education. Whether a child has breeding is directly related to the moral cultivation of the parents themselves. If the parents lack cultivation, after a long time of imitation, the child will gradually internalize bad habits. In contrast, children educated by parents with noble character and cultivation will have a more sound personality development and handle things more appropriately.

10. 善良是一种回声。你付出的善意，最终会回到你的身上。

10. Kindness is an echo. The kindness you give will eventually return to you.

11. 我觉得应该不喜欢吧。我有个朋友，她自身条件不错，是个白领，男生虽然挺有钱，但学历和工作都没女生好，我知道女生很喜欢这个男生，但却总会摆出一副高高在上的样子，想让男生拜倒在她的脚下，可是男生也是很有自尊的，即使对她有好感，但受不了她总是颐指气使的感觉，终于有一天，男生受不了和她提出分手，这时女生才慌了，低声下气求男人不要离开她，甚至求他们共同的朋友替她说情，但已经晚了，男生后来再也没有见过她，据说找了一个温柔体贴的小女人。我想这才是男人所希望的另一半的样子吧。

11. I think she should not like it. I have a friend who is quite good-looking and works as a white-collar worker. Although the guy is quite wealthy, his education and work experience are not as good as the girl's. I know the girl likes the guy, but she always acts like she's above everyone else, wanting the guy to bow down to her. But the guy also has a lot of self-respect. Even though he has a crush on her, he can't stand her always bossing him around. Finally, one day, the guy couldn't take it any more and broke up with her. That's when the girl panicked, begging the guy not to leave her in a humble and desperate manner, even asking their mutual friends to intercede on her behalf. But it was too late. The guy never saw her again, and it's said that he found a gentle and caring woman. I think that's the kind of partner men hope for.

12. 土型人在《周易》中为坤卦，坤卦象地，秉地土之气，性阴而质顺。“坤为地，为母。”“柔顺利贞”。“坤，顺也。”所以，土型人的性格厚道柔顺。

12. In the I Ching, the people of the earth type are represented by the坤 (坤) hexagram, which symbolizes the earth, embodying the essence of the earth and soil, and is characterized by being yin in nature and of yielding quality. "The Gua坤 represents the earth, the mother." "It is soft, yielding, and steadfast." "The Gua坤 represents yielding." Therefore, the character of people with the earth type is generous and yielding.

13. 五行人的性格，长相，特征 40分 既然你爱好周易我来告诉你： 五行人性

13. The personalities, appearances, and characteristics of the Five Elements people, 40 points: Since you have an interest in the I Ching, let me tell you about the personalities, appearances, and characteristics of the Five Elements people:

14. 三国时，祢衡面见曹操。因为曹操没有让他就坐，他感到受了轻慢。于是情绪上脑，仰天长叹：“天地虽阔，何无一人！”

14. During the Three Kingdoms period, Nie Heng met with Cao Cao. Because Cao Cao did not allow him to sit down, he felt slighted. As a result, his emotions overwhelmed him, and he sighed to the heavens: "Although the sky and earth are vast, why is there no one?"

15. 什么是五行性格学说？ A金

15. What is the theory of the Five Elements personality? A Metal

16. 比如，祖父母抚养大的孩子数学较差、情绪控制能力较差、往往缺乏爱心，易出现发怒、叛逆、悲伤等情绪；与父母抚养长大的孩子相比，他们身体状况并不差，但却更容易出现注意力不集中和多动症的情况。

16. For example, children raised by grandparents tend to have poorer math skills, weaker emotional control, and often lack compassion, and are prone to displaying emotions such as anger, rebellion, and sadness; compared to those raised by their parents, they do not have a worse physical condition, but they are more likely to suffer from attention deficit and hyperactivity disorders.

17. 闪电尽管只有一瞬间的功夫，但是给人的震慑之力丝毫不亚于惊天动地的雷声。你的个性较为急躁，脾气就像闪电一样来得快去得快。而且，你的身上有种雷厉风行的魄力，有时行事冲动，难免会误大事。因此，在做事的时候你需要把行动放慢，真正做到三思后行。

17. Although lightning lasts only for a moment, the awe-inspiring power it exerts is not inferior to the deafening roar of thunder. You have a rather impetuous personality, and your temper rises and falls as quickly as lightning. Moreover, you possess a commanding presence that is swift and decisive, sometimes acting impulsively which may lead to missing important opportunities. Therefore, when handling matters, you need to slow down your actions and truly practice the saying of 'threefold reflection before action.'

18. 为了保护坠儿，和顾全贾宝玉的脸面，平儿禀告管家的王熙凤说：

18. In order to protect Diao'er and preserve Jia Baoyu's dignity, Ping'er informed Wang Xifeng, the manager of the household, saying:

19. 各种五行人的面相和性格 “木主仁, 其性直, 其情和, 其味酸, 其色青 木盛的人长得丰姿秀丽, 骨骼修长, 手足细腻, 口尖发美, 面色青白 为人有博爱恻隐之心, 慈祥恺悌之意,清高慷慨, 质朴无伪 木衰之人则个子瘦长, 头发稀少, 性格偏狭, 嫉妒不仁木气死绝之人则眉眼不正, 项长喉结, 肌肉干燥, 为人鄙下吝啬

19. The facial features and personalities of people belonging to the five elements: “Wood represents benevolence, its nature is straightforward, its emotions are harmonious, its flavor is sour, and its color is green. People with a strong wood element are graceful and beautiful, with long and slender bones, delicate hands and feet, pointed mouth, and beautiful hair. Their complexion is pale and white, and they have a compassionate and kind-hearted nature, a generous and magnanimous spirit, and are honest and sincere. People with a declining wood element are thin and tall, with sparse hair, narrow-minded, and envious and unkind. Those whose wood element is completely depleted have crooked eyebrows and eyes, a long neck, a prominent Adam's apple, and dry muscles, and they are mean and stingy.

20. 后来，对手公司遭遇危机，老师罢课，400多名学生要求退费。对手无奈，只好向俞敏洪求助。

20. Later, the rival company encountered a crisis, the teacher went on strike, and over 400 students demanded a refund. Unable to bear it any longer, the rival company had to seek help from Yu Minhong.

21. 父亲做家务的态度，将会影响孩子的职业选择，尤其是对女儿的择业影响更大。

21. The attitude of the father towards household chores will influence the child's career choice, especially having a greater impact on the daughter's career selection.

22. “我往大奶奶那里去的，谁知镯子褪了口，丢在草根底下，雪深了没看见。今儿雪化尽了，黄澄澄的映着日头，还在那里呢，我就拣了起来。”

22. "I was on my way to Grandmother's place, but little did I know that the bracelet had slipped off, falling under the grass roots. With the snow deep, I didn't see it. Today, as the snow has melted away, the yellow glow reflects the sunlight, and it's still there, so I picked it up."

23. 火性人面红，上尖下宽多丰盈。坐立摇摆不安。行动疾而摇。脚步急快。说话急躁或着理。语音尖高破。舌音。气度岸然。

23. People with a fiery temperament have red faces, with the top being pointed and the bottom wide and full. They are restless when sitting or standing, swaying back and forth. Their movements are quick and restless. Their pace is fast. They speak in a hurried or argumentative manner. Their voice is sharp and piercing. They have a strong accent. They have an imposing demeanor.

24. 心肠好的人，不记人小过，不指人瑕疵，能照顾别人的体面，帮助别人渡过难关。

24. A kind-hearted person does not hold others' minor faults against them, does not point out others' flaws, can take care of others' dignity, and help others get through difficult times.

25. 全场顿时鸦雀无声，犹如暴风雨来临前的寂静。

25. The entire hall fell into a deathly silence, as still as the calm before a storm.

26. 乙木人好怒。阴气藏于筋。按生理说。好怒伤肝。肝气不舒。血无所藏。头迷眼干。两臂沉重。四肢麻木无力。胸肋痛疼。胃腹膨胀。此乃受阴木之灾。欲病愈须变阴木为阳木。要生出仁德心。亲亲仁民而爱物。合群爱众。能受屈。遇事服人。问性问主意。以疏淘阴气。久则甲木生矣。

26. People of the Wood element are prone to anger. Yin energy is hidden in the tendons. According to physiological theory, anger harms the liver. Liver Qi is not relaxed, and blood has nowhere to be stored. The head feels dizzy and the eyes are dry. The two arms are heavy, the limbs are numb and weak, and there is pain in the chest and ribs. The stomach and abdomen are bloated. This is caused by the disaster of Yin Wood. To recover from illness, one must transform Yin Wood into Yang Wood. One must cultivate benevolence and righteousness. Love the people and cherish things. Be friendly to the group and love the people. Be able to endure hardships. Yield to others in all matters. Seek advice on nature and will. To disperse and refine the Yin Qi. Over time, the birth of Jia Wood will occur.

27. 只有夫妻恩爱和睦，家庭环境的氛围才温馨安全，孩子才能更 健康 地发展。如果孩子生活在乌烟瘴气、冷战暴力的家庭中，身心很难得到 健康 发展。可以说，如果夫妻和睦，儿女自然良善；如果夫妻有隔阂，儿女也必将敏感。

27. Only when the couple has a loving and harmonious relationship can the family environment be warm and safe, and the children can develop more healthily. If children live in a family filled with smog and cold war violence, it is difficult for their physical and mental health to develop properly. It can be said that if the couple is harmonious, their children will naturally be good; if there are misunderstandings between the couple, their children will also be necessarily sensitive.

28. 罗翔教授说：“人的本性就是骄傲和傲慢，但真正有韧性的人，他的姿态一定是谦卑的。”

Prof. Luo Xiang said: "The nature of humans is pride and arrogance, but for a truly resilient person, their posture must be humble."

29. 而这点正是土型最大的致命伤，因为土型人生性习于慵懒的生活，要改变常规，按照适

29. And this is the greatest fatal flaw of the Earth type, because people of the Earth type are naturally accustomed to a lazy lifestyle, and it is difficult to change from the norm and follow suit.

30. 不管出于什么原因，当祖父母不得不承担起孙辈的抚养责任时，孩子将在父爱和母爱缺失的家庭环境下长大已经是不可更改的事实。那么，我们此时只能考虑如何将隔代 育儿 的不良影响降到最低。

30. Regardless of the reasons, it has become an irreversible fact that children will grow up in a family environment lacking both paternal and maternal love when grandparents have to take on the responsibility of raising their grandchildren. At this point, we can only consider how to minimize the adverse effects of grandparental childcare.

31. 水主智, 其性聪, 其情善, 其味咸, 其色黑 水旺之人面黑有采, 语言清和,为人深思熟虑, 足智多谋, 学识过人 太过则好说是非, 飘荡贪* 不及则人物短小, 性情无常, 胆小无略, 行事反覆”

31. Water governs intelligence; its nature is intelligent, its emotions are kind, its taste is salty, and its color is black. People with a strong water element have a dark complexion with a certain charm, speak in a clear and harmonious manner, are thoughtful, intelligent, and full of strategies, and excel in knowledge. Too much of it leads to a tendency to gossip and be wandering and greedy. Too little of it results in a short and unremarkable physique, with capricious temperament, being timid without tactics, and acting erratically.

32. 父亲们不要再以为做家务和自己无关，也不要认为自己只要事业有成，就能给孩子传递成功的正能量。殊不知，在你口口声声说自己尊重女性，支持男女平等，并鼓励女儿去挑战更高的职位时，你端坐在沙发上看妻子处理家务的姿态就已经让女儿失去择业的信心。

32. Fathers should no longer think that household chores have nothing to do with them, nor should they believe that as long as they are successful in their careers, they can pass on positive energy of success to their children. Little do they know that while they are constantly boasting about respecting women, supporting gender equality, and encouraging their daughters to challenge higher positions, the way they sit on the sofa and watch their wife handle the household chores has already made their daughters lose confidence in choosing their careers.

33. “在你演讲之前，我得提醒你，你只是一个鞋匠的儿子。”

33. "Before you give your speech, I must remind you that you are the son of a cobbler."

34. 俞敏洪为了避免矛盾升级，选择隐忍。

34. Yu Minhong chose to bear with it to avoid the conflict from escalating.

35. 在阴阳五行中解析人的性格 所谓命，就是一个人生下来，这一生要做什么，是当农民呢，还是做官，或是商人……这就像一个人生下来就是宝马汽车，或者是自行车一样，是注定的。而运呢，运就是人在世界上所经历过的各个时间段，运又分大运、小运，大运五年一更换，小运一年一换、流年则是我们所经历过的每一年。命运合在一起就像是一辆车行驶在路上一样，所经过的路就是大运，路是平坦的，就顺，崎岖不平的就曲折坎坷。 有人说自己的命运自己掌握，也有人说命运是注定的，是改变不了的，这两种观点只能说是各对一半，如果命运真的是能靠自己把握的，试问天下间除了傻瓜跟精神病患者以外，有谁不想好好把握自己的命运出将入相，光宗耀祖，光耀门楣。有人会说，既然是命中注定，那如果不去工作，不去赚钱，钱能从天上掉来吗，事实上，每个人都不是孙悟空，都在五行之中，每个人出生后，八字已定，其一生的大运也就注定，八字的金木水火土与一生的大运也都将受到地球磁场的支配，很多人应该有过这样的感受，当行到好运的时候，由于受到地球磁场的影响，自然也就会有很大的动力去拼搏，去努力，遇到的都是自己的贵人，都是对自己帮助很大的人，由于运气行的好，跟命里阴阳五行平衡了，睡觉都能睡得特别香，当大运行得不好，整个人也就会变得很颓废，缺少努力赚钱的动力，遇到的都是小人，处处跟自己作对，要婚姻没婚姻，要事业没事业，经常失眠。北宋宰相吕蒙正所著时运赋更能说明这一切，万般皆是命，算来不由人，蛟龙未遇，潜身于鱼虾之间，君子失时，拱手于小人之下，天不得时，日月无光，地不得时，草木不长，水不得时，风浪不平，人不得时，利运不通。 命运到底是注定还是能改变，来打个比方，比如一只鸡，从蛋壳出生后可以通过后天的精心饲养，使它成长得更好，更大，更强壮，但是鸡始终是鸡，再怎么努力饲养也不可能养成鸭或变成牛，每个人都可以通过后天的努力和改变去实现属于自己命中注定的最大的成功，但不是每个人去努力都可以做将军，不是每个人去努力都可以当皇帝，命运合在一起就可以看到很多的现实故事，有的人命理格局高的，虽说做了官，但运气行的不好，所以官做的很不顺，处处有人给他穿小鞋，官越做越小。而有些人命理格局低，则是农民，可是运气行的好，所以生活很幸福，种地风调雨顺，打工年年有余。 易经是中国流传了五千多年的魁宝文化，是任何人都无可置疑的，周易算命不是为了简单的了解自身的命运，而是在知道命运的基础上还要知道去做到如何趋吉避凶，破祸成福。比如某人八字金旺木衰，最宜行东方木运，事业方位上也最适合在自己出生地为准的东方城市发展，所谓财在东方人往西，走错方向失良机，如果这个人不懂周易的，又往出生地的西方发展，加上大运不好的那不是破财就是疾病，就算大运很好的，本来应该一年赚1千万的，可能只赚了5百万，方位差一线，富贵不相见，可见算命的境界不在于算得准，而是应该在算得准的基础上如何做到改变命运，趋吉避凶，少走弯路，以尽快求得属于自己命中的最大富贵，快速走向属于自己的成功彼岸。

35. Analyzing a Person's Character in the Theory of Yin and Yang and the Five Elements What is commonly referred to as "fate" is the predetermined path a person is to take in life, such as whether to become a farmer, an official, or a businessman... It's like being born as a BMW car or a bicycle, predetermined. As for "fortune," it refers to the various time periods a person experiences in the world. Fortune is divided into "major fortune" and "minor fortune," with major fortune changing every five years and minor fortune every year, while "the year of the flow" refers to each year we experience. The combination of fate and fortune is like a car driving on a road; the roads it travels on represent major fortune. If the road is flat, it will go smoothly; if it is rugged, it will be winding and bumpy. Some people say that they can control their own fate, while others say that fate is predetermined and unchangeable. Both viewpoints can only be said to be half correct. If fate really could be controlled by oneself, who, besides fools and mentally ill individuals, wouldn't want to grasp their own fate to become a leader, to glorify their family, and to shine with pride? Some might say that if it is predetermined, then without working or earning money, how can money just fall from the sky? In fact, no one is like Sun Wukong, who can change their nature. Everyone is under the influence of the five elements of metal, wood, water, fire, and earth, and their major fortune is predetermined from birth. The elements of the eight characters will also be subject to the Earth's magnetic field. Many people have felt this: when experiencing good fortune, influenced by the Earth's magnetic field, there is naturally a strong motivation to strive and work hard. The people they meet are all their benefactors, those who greatly help them. Because of good fortune, when the yin and yang of the five elements are balanced, they can sleep soundly. However, when the major fortune is not good, the person will become very despondent, lacking the motivation to earn money. The people they encounter are all villains, constantly working against them. They may lack marriage, lack a career, and often suffer from insomnia. The Treatise on Fortune by the Northern Song Dynasty Prime Minister Lü Mengzheng better illustrates this. All things are predetermined, and it's not up to human will. If a dragon has not met its time, it hides among fish and shrimp. A gentleman loses his time, and bows down to the lowly. The heavens do not have good fortune, the sun and the moon lose their light; the earth does not have good fortune, the grass and trees do not grow; water does not have good fortune, the waves and storms are restless; people do not have good fortune, their fortune does not flow smoothly. Whether fate is predetermined or changeable, let's use a chicken as an analogy. After a chicken hatches from an egg, through careful feeding, it can grow better, larger, and stronger, but it will always be a chicken. No matter how hard one tries to feed it, it can't be turned into a duck or a cow. Everyone can strive and change to achieve the greatest success predetermined by their fate, but not everyone who tries can become a general, and not everyone who tries can become an emperor. The combination of fate and fortune can show many realistic stories. Some people have a high level of fate and character, and although they have become officials, their fortune is not good, so they do not have a smooth career, constantly facing obstacles. Some people have a low level of fate and character, and are farmers, but their fortune is good, so they live a happy life, with good weather for farming and a surplus every year. The I Ching is a treasure of 5,000-year-old Chinese culture, which is beyond dispute for anyone. The purpose of fortune-telling with the I Ching is not simply to understand one's own fate but also to know how to avoid misfortune and turn adversity into fortune. For example, if someone's eight characters show a surplus of metal and a deficiency of wood, it is most beneficial to have an eastern wood fortune, and their career is most suitable for developing in the eastern region from where they were born. The saying goes, "Money is in the east, and people go to the west; if they go in the wrong direction, they miss a good opportunity." If this person does not understand the I Ching and goes to the western region of their birthplace, coupled with bad fortune, it could result in either loss of money or illness. Even if the fortune is good, they might only earn 5 million instead of the expected 10 million. A slight difference in direction can mean the difference between wealth and poverty, and thus, the level of fortune-telling is not just about accuracy, but also about how to change fate, avoid misfortune, and take fewer detours to quickly achieve the greatest wealth in one's destiny and swiftly reach the shore of success that belongs to oneself.

36. 己土好怒。阴气藏于肉内。按生理说。怨人伤脾。脾胃软弱。膨闷胀饱。上吐下泻。胃口痛疼。或大肚子病。及伤元气等症。是为受阴土之灾。欲变阴土为阳土。须明因果。遇事生出信心，宽宏大量。问性问信实。常则化为阳土矣。

36. The earth element is prone to anger. Yin energy is hidden within the flesh. According to physiological principles, resentment harms the spleen. Weakness of the spleen and stomach leads to bloating, stuffiness, and fullness. There may be vomiting and diarrhea, pain in the stomach, or even diseases with a large abdomen, as well as depletion of vital energy and other symptoms. These are considered to be受灾于 Yin earth. To transform Yin earth into Yang earth, one must understand cause and effect. When faced with situations, one must cultivate faith, be magnanimous, inquire into one's nature, and be truthful. With constant practice, the Yin earth will transform into Yang earth.

37. 然而，林肯却温和地回应道：

37. However, Lincoln responded gently:

38. 祢衡因为自己的脾气，付出了代价。最后被人所杀，一代才子就此陨落，让人扼腕。

38. Yi Heng paid the price for his temper. In the end, he was killed by others, and a generation of talented individuals thus fell, leaving people feeling regretful.

39. 《红楼梦》中，平儿是王熙凤的通房大丫头。她秉性平和，与人为善。在贾府里能好评不断，左右逢源。

39. In "Dream of the Red Chamber," Ping'er is Wang Xifeng's senior serving maid. She is of a peaceful and kind nature, and gets along well with people. In the Jia Mansion, she enjoys constant praise and is successful in every endeavor.

40. 夫妻关系是孩子认识世界、了解爱情、理解婚姻的第一通道，夫妻关系才是家庭的核心。一个人的父母关系如何，也在很大程度上决定了他们的子女会怎样对待伴侣，而这也逐渐成为择偶标准之一。

40. The relationship between husband and wife is the first channel through which children learn to understand the world, love, and marriage; the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family. How a person's parents' relationship is also largely determines how their children will treat their partners, and this is gradually becoming one of the standards for choosing a partner.

41. 密歇根大学教授菲考斯卡和康纳尔大学教授丹尔丰经过研究发现，那些由祖父母抚养长大的孩子，学习成绩、社交能力、情绪控制等方面都要比由父母抚养长大的孩子差。即便是祖父母的经济条件、教育背景、婚姻情况比孩子的亲生父母要好，抚养方式也和孩子父母的抚养方式相似，结果依然是如此。

41. Professor Fikfak of the University of Michigan and Professor Delfon of Cornell University have found through research that children raised by their grandparents perform worse in terms of academic achievement, social skills, and emotional control compared to those raised by their parents. Even when the grandparents' economic conditions, educational background, and marital status are better than the biological parents, and the parenting style is similar to that of the children's parents, the results remain the same.

42. 《易卦》又说：“坤以藏之”，说明秉土地之本质，藏而不露，因此，土型的性格基本上偏于内向型。

42. The I Ching also says, "The坤 hides it," which indicates that the essence of the earth conceals itself and does not reveal itself. Therefore, the personality of the earth type is basically introverted.

43. 第二次，顶风冒雪而往，依旧无功而返。

43. For the second time, they braved the wind and snow to go there, only to return without any achievement.

44. 父母在教育孩子的同时，也是在教育自己。因为我们的一言一行都会影响孩子，所以我们要谨言慎行；因为我们的格局和情绪都在影响着孩子，所以我们要自我修炼。要知道，父母的成长，也是孩子的进步。

44. While parents are educating their children, they are also educating themselves. Because everything we say and do will influence our children, we must be cautious in our words and actions; because our mindset and emotions also have an impact on our children, we need to cultivate ourselves. Remember, the growth of parents is also the progress of the children.

45. 虽然母性是本能，但是没有哪个母亲天生就懂得如何去爱孩子。事实上，一个女性初为人母，她会如何与孩子相处，最终会和孩子发展成什么样的关系，其实都和她自己小时候的成长环境与经历有直接关系。如果一个女性在童年和成长期受到过伤害，或者没有得到足够的关爱，那么当她为人母后，极有可能与自己的孩子发展出一段“有毒”的亲子关系。

45. Although motherhood is instinctive, no mother is born knowing how to love her child. In fact, how a woman interacts with her child as a new mother and the type of relationship she eventually develops with her child are directly related to her own upbringing and experiences as a child. If a woman has experienced trauma or has not received enough love during her childhood and upbringing, it is highly likely that she will develop a "toxic" parent-child relationship when she becomes a mother.

46. 俞敏洪说：“大家都不容易，能帮一把是一把。”

46. Yu Minhong said, "Everyone is not easy, and every bit of help is a help."

47. 能包容万物，管控脾气，温柔敦厚。

47. Capable of embracing all things, controlling one's temper, gentle and considerate.

48. 土型人在前进的过程中倘若领先独行，会迷失方向，惟有追随领袖之后，才会因执着正道而祥和有益。所以，土型人要想成大业，要么找一个“靠山”，在领袖指引下创业，会有大的建树。要么甘居第二，辅佐>>

48. If a person of the Earth type leads alone without following a leader, they may lose their way. Only by following a leader can they maintain harmony and benefit from their steadfastness in the right path. Therefore, for a person of the Earth type to achieve great undertakings, either they should find a "pillar of support," start a venture under the guidance of a leader, and achieve significant accomplishments. Or they can choose to be a subordinate, assisting...

49. 为人父母，你的一言一行都被孩子看在眼里，记在心里。你孝顺父母，你的孩子以后也会孝顺你；你对家庭负责，你的孩子以后也会爱家顾家；你遇事冷静沉着，你的孩子也会形成稳重从容的性格；你脾气暴躁，你的孩子也会变成一个脾气暴躁的人。你就是孩子的表率，你的言行决定了孩子今后的性格发展。

49. As a parent, every word and action of yours is watched and remembered by your children. If you are filial to your parents, your children will also be filial to you in the future; if you are responsible for your family, your children will also love and care for the home; if you remain calm and composed in difficult situations, your children will also develop into a steady and composed personality; if you have a quick temper, your children will also become someone with a quick temper. You are a role model for your children, and your words and actions determine the development of your children's character in the future.

50. 比如，孩子抓起一个东西玩，还会拿来给你。此时他可能还不会说话，但他已经在用行动和你交流。如果你敷衍或无视，就失去了孩子要向你表达的讯息。按照“3T”法则，你应该和孩子沟通交流，给孩子讲这个东西的颜色、大小、形状、重量。此时，你与孩子的互动是在帮助他建立和连接大脑神经元。

50. For example, when a child picks up something to play with and brings it to you, he may not be able to speak yet, but he is already communicating with you through his actions. If you ignore or dismiss this, you miss the message the child is trying to convey. According to the "3T" rule, you should communicate with the child, telling him about the color, size, shape, and weight of the object. At this moment, the interaction between you and the child is helping to establish and connect brain neurons.

51. 结果显示，如果父亲在家中和母亲一样承担家务，女儿在择业时轻易不会受到性别束缚，更有勇气选择CEO（首席执行官）、军官等传统男性职业；而如果父亲在家中不做家务或很少做家务，女儿在择业时更倾向于选择教师、护士，甚至是家庭主妇等传统女性职业。

51. The results show that if the father shares household chores at home as much as the mother, daughters are less likely to be constrained by gender stereotypes in their career choices and are more courageous in choosing traditional male professions such as CEOs (Chief Executive Officers) or officers. On the other hand, if the father does not do household chores or does very little of them, daughters tend to opt for traditional female professions such as teachers, nurses, or even housewives when making career choices.

52. 父母对待生活认真而努力，孩子就能获得更多面对困难的勇气和力量；父母对待生活有趣而自然，孩子就能养成热爱生命的态度和习惯；父母对待生活豁达而乐观，孩子就能形成更大的格局和世界观。

52. If parents take life seriously and work hard, their children can gain more courage and strength to face difficulties; if parents approach life with fun and naturalness, their children can develop an attitude and habit of loving life; if parents deal with life with openness and optimism, their children can form a broader perspective and worldview.

53. 一番话让曹操恼羞成怒，不仅没有给他授官，还想法设法羞辱于他。

53. A few words made Cao Cao so angry that he not only failed to grant him an official position, but also tried his best to humiliate him.

54. “留守儿童”和“留守老人”是当下中国一个常见的 社会 现象，越是经济落后的偏远地区，这种现象发生的概率就越高。为了维持生计，年轻力壮的人纷纷外出打工，将孩子留给老人抚养。可是，隔代抚养方式对孩子的成长状况是不利的。

54. "Left-behind children" and "left-behind elderly" are common social phenomena in contemporary China, and the likelihood of this phenomenon is higher in economically backward and remote areas. In order to make a living, young and strong individuals go out to work, leaving their children in the care of the elderly. However, the way of grandparental care is detrimental to the growth of the children.

55. 相较于父亲，母亲更能帮助儿子提高阅读和写作能力，而阅读能力是学习其他一切知识的基础。

55. Compared to the father, the mother is more capable of helping her son improve his reading and writing skills, and reading ability is the foundation for learning all other knowledge.

56. 火形。火型之人特征是什么样呢？皮肤呈现出一种红色，背脊的>>

56. The fire-shaped person. What are the characteristics of a person with the fire shape? Their skin shows a reddish hue, and their back has >>>

57. 第五种是不可靠型母亲。孩子与这种母亲相处时，会感到十分迷茫。因为这种母亲总是对孩子持有不同的看法和评价，有时候会对孩子关爱有加，鼓励赞赏，有时候又会对孩子恶言相向，批评贬低。这让孩子觉得无所适从，不知道自己应该如何做才能获得母亲的好感。

57. The fifth type is the unreliable mother. When children interact with such a mother, they often feel confused. Because this type of mother always has different opinions and evaluations of the child, sometimes showing excessive care, encouragement, and praise, and sometimes using harsh words, criticism, and belittlement. This leaves the child feeling lost, unsure of how to act to win the mother's favor.

58. 洪兰教授在演讲中还指出：当你教育一个男童，你教育的只是一个男童；但是当你教育一个女童，你教育的是整个家庭和下一代。可以说，母亲的文化水准决定民族的未来。这也是为什么我们要更加注重女性教育的原因。洪兰教授甚至还幽默地说：“与其花钱教 育儿 子，不如栽培你的媳妇！”

58. Professor Hong Lan pointed out in her speech: When you educate a boy, you are educating just one boy; but when you educate a girl, you are educating an entire family and the next generation. It can be said that the cultural level of mothers determines the future of the nation. This is also the reason why we need to pay more attention to women's education. Professor Hong Lan even humorously said, "It's better to cultivate your daughter-in-law than to spend money on educating your son!"

59. 他不仅接受了对手公司的所有学生，还帮他们的老师安排了工作，让对手顺利度过危机。

59. He not only accepted all the students from the rival company, but also helped their teachers find jobs, allowing the rival to smoothly weather the crisis.