岁月静好，时光如水。在这个纷繁复杂的世界里，我们渴望找到一方宁静的角落，展现最优雅的坚韧。本书将带你走进这样的境界，感受生活的真谛，品味内心的宁静。

Years pass quietly, time flows like water. In this world full of complexities, we long for a peaceful corner to display the most elegant resilience. This book will lead you into such a realm, experiencing the essence of life and savoring the tranquility within.

1. 不管心情多烦，都不要责备。当你责备的时候，就是关系破解的开始。即使后来破镜重圆，裂痕永远都在。

1. No matter how troubled your mood is, do not scold. When you scold, it is the beginning of the breakdown of a relationship. Even if it is mended later, the crack will always be there.

2. 不要因为爱人的沉默和不解风情而郁闷，因为时间会告诉你，越是平凡的陪伴，就越长久。

2. Do not be upset because of your loved one's silence and lack of romance, for time will tell you that the more ordinary the companionship, the longer it lasts.

3. 一切问题，最终都是时间问题。一切烦恼，其实都是自寻烦恼。

3. All problems, in the end, are time-related issues. All worries are actually self-inflicted.

4. 郑小珊拂袖而去，宴会也不欢而散。

4. Zheng Xiaoshan swept her sleeves and left, and the banquet ended without any joy.

5. 我想要的未来，有房子住，不用多大，最好窗外有阳光；早晚有酸奶，一天能吃上苹果，有锅给我煮汤，偶尔能逛逛公园，一年能陪爸妈几次；有工作，有本，有单反，有书看，有歌听；朋友偶尔奔过来聚一起，偶尔能到处走走，有这样，就很幸福了。

5. The future I want is one where I have a house to live in, not necessarily a big one, as long as there's sunlight streaming through the window; there's yogurt in the morning and evening, I can have an apple every day, there's a pot for me to cook soup, and occasionally I can visit the park. I can visit my parents a few times a year. I have a job, a book, a DSLR camera, books to read, and music to listen to; friends come over occasionally to gather, and occasionally I can go out and explore. With all this, I would be very happy.

6. 当你做小的决定时，应当依靠你的大脑，把利弊罗列出来，分析并作出正确的决定；当你做大的决定，如寻找终身伴侣或寻找理想时，你就应该依靠你的潜意识，因为这么重要的决定必须由你的心灵深处的最大需要为依据。——弗洛伊德

6. When you make small decisions, you should rely on your brain, list the pros and cons, analyze, and make the correct decision; when you make big decisions, such as finding a lifelong partner or seeking an ideal, you should rely on your subconscious because such important decisions must be based on the deepest needs of your soul. - Freud

7. 只要心里还存着不甘心，就还不到放弃的时候。

7. As long as there is still a feeling of不甘, it is not yet time to give up.

8. 提高自己的情绪内存，懂得稳定自己的情绪。不要被情绪干扰，丧失理性，随意指责别人，造成损人损己的局面。

8. Enhance your emotional memory and learn to stabilize your own emotions. Do not let emotions interfere, lose your rationality, arbitrarily blame others, and create a situation where both others and yourself are harmed.

9. “知道我的人反正知道，不知道的，随他们怎么想。人生在世，冤屈总是难免的，虽是一番屈辱，却是好一番锤炼。”

9. "Those who know me already know, and those who don't, let them think what they will. In life, it's inevitable to encounter injustice. Although it's a great deal of humiliation, it's also a good test of character."

10. 如果决定离开一个人，行动要快一点，快刀斩乱麻；如果决定爱上一个人，时间拉长一点，看清楚是否适合你。

10. If you decide to leave someone, act quickly, cut the Gordian knot; if you decide to fall in love with someone, take your time, and make sure it's suitable for you.

11. 在二十出头的生命里，做一件到八十岁想起来都还会微笑的事。

11. Do something in your early 20s that will still bring a smile to your face when you're 80 years old.

12. 人生最遗憾的，莫过于，轻易地放弃了不该放弃的，固执地，坚持了不该坚持的。

12. The greatest regret in life is probably giving up too easily what should not be abandoned, and stubbornly persisting in what should not be.

13. 有时候，你的出言不逊，会给对方留下很深的伤害。即便后来相逢一笑泯恩仇，也回不到原来的样子了。

13. Sometimes, your impolite words can leave a deep wound on the other person. Even if you later laugh and forget the grudge, you can't return to the original state.

14. 不敢说出口，因为我胆小，因为如果你拒绝，我以后就不能够再见到你了，宁愿默默的爱着你，不能让你知道，直到，直到你投进别人的环抱。

14. I dare not say it out loud because I am shy, because if you refuse, I won't be able to see you again in the future. I would rather silently love you, not letting you know, until, until you fall into someone else's embrace.

15. 饥荒年月，全家人在饥饿和死亡的威胁中战栗不安，他带着全家挺了过来。

15. During the years of famine, the whole family shivered with fear and uncertainty in the face of hunger and death, and he led the family through it.

16. 《增广贤文》说：“利刀割肉疮犹合，恶语伤人恨不消。”

16. The "Expanded Collection of Virtuous Sayings" says: "A sharp knife can cut through flesh, but the scar still heals; harmful words can wound a person, but the resentment never fades."

17. 所谓永恒的爱，是从花开一直到花落，从红颜一直爱到白发。

17. So-called eternal love is from the blooming of flowers to their falling, from the prime of youth to the graying of hair.

18. 我很想知道，当我的名字滑过你耳朵，你脑海中会闪现些什么。

18. I'm curious to know what flashes through your mind when my name slides over your ears.

19. 一生至少该有一次，为了某个人而忘了自己，不求有结果，不求同行，不求曾经拥有，甚至不求你爱我，只求在我最美的年华里，碰到你。

19. In a lifetime, one should at least once forget oneself for someone, without seeking a result, without expecting to be together, without longing for possession, and even without hoping that they love you. Just hoping to meet you in the most beautiful years of my life.

20. 你不必逞强，不必说谎，懂你的人自然会知道你原本的模样。

20. You don't have to pretend to be strong or lie, those who understand you will naturally know your true self.

21. 人生一世，难免会遭到误解，委屈，诽谤，你都不值得去辩解。因为懂你的人，不用解释。不懂你的人，何必解释。所谓：此心光明，亦复何言！

21. In this life, it is inevitable to be misunderstood, wronged, and slandered. There is no need for you to defend yourself. Those who understand you do not need an explanation, and those who do not understand you, why explain? As the saying goes: "If one's heart is bright, what more is there to say!"

22. 你应该保有内心世界的安宁。那么无论外界如何嘈杂，你都有一个清静的地方。

22. You should maintain the tranquility of your inner world. Then, no matter how noisy the outside world may be, you will always have a peaceful place within you.

23. 在人生的旅途中，有条捷径当然是件好事。但当人生的捷径上人满为患的时候，我们不妨绕点弯路。这样，或许能更快地到达目的地。

23. In the journey of life, it's certainly a good thing to have a shortcut. But when the shortcut in life is overcrowded, why not take a detour? This way, perhaps we can reach our destination even faster.

24. 人一旦开始走就停不下来了。现在开始像一棵胡乱生长的树，努力，迷茫。希望能有一个枝桠可以开出可爱的花朵，长出繁密的树荫，夏天给我遮太阳，秋天给我果子吃。自己做自己的树吧，这样也能给别人乘凉。

24. Once a person starts walking, they cannot stop. Now, I am like a tree growing wildly, striving but confused. I hope to have a branch that can bloom with lovely flowers, grow into a dense canopy, shading me from the sun in summer and providing fruit for me in autumn. Be your own tree, and in this way, you can also provide shade for others.

25. 每个人都会有一段异常艰难的时光，生活的窘迫，工作的失意，学业的压力，爱的惶惶不可终日。挺过来的，人生就会豁然开朗;挺不过来的，时间也会教会你怎么与它们握手言和，所以你都不必害怕的。过得去的是经验，过不去的是经历，对你都有裨益。

25. Everyone will have a period of extremely difficult times, where life is strained, work is disappointing, academic pressure is immense, and love is a constant source of anxiety. Those who make it through will find their life suddenly becomes bright and open; those who don't will be taught by time how to reconcile with them, so there's no need to be afraid. What you can get through is experience, what you can't is an experience, both of which are beneficial to you.

26. 能管理好自己的情绪，你就是优雅的，能控制好自己的心态，你就是成功的。

26. If you can manage your own emotions, you are elegant; if you can control your mindset, you are successful.

27. 如果最糟糕的结果就是会被某人拒绝，那就值得一试。

27. If the worst that can happen is that someone might reject you, then it's worth a try.

28. 难过的时候，不需要倾诉，不需要安慰，不需要批判，不需要声讨，独自做回顾，像上映一场一场默片。朋友无法陪你看完，但会在门口等你散场，然后傻笑着去另一个地方。再难过，有好基友在身旁，就可以顺利逃亡。一路陪你笑着逃亡。

28. When you're sad, you don't need to pour out your feelings, seek comfort, make criticism, or launch an attack. Just reflect alone, like watching a silent movie one scene at a time. Your friends can't accompany you through the whole movie, but they'll wait for you at the door after the show, then傻笑着 go to another place. Even if you're very sad, with good friends by your side, you can easily escape. They'll accompany you and laugh your way through the escape.

29. 怜悯容易，因为它是优越感;宽容不易，因为你实际承认了被伤害。

29. Compassion is easy because it is a sense of superiority; tolerance is difficult because you actually admit to being hurt.

30. 任何一件事情，只要心甘情愿，总是能够变得简单。早安~

30. Any matter, as long as one is willing, can always become simple. Good morning!

31. 有一次，曾国藩父亲过寿，邀请郑小珊参加。当日曾国藩因琐事纠缠，焦头烂额，心情烦闷。

31. On one occasion, when Zeng Guofan's father celebrated his birthday, he invited Zheng Xiaoshan to attend. On that day, Zeng Guofan was preoccupied with trivial matters, feeling overwhelmed and in a bad mood.

32. 如果，不幸福，如果，不快乐，那就放手吧;如果，舍不得、放不下，那就痛苦吧。

33. 有些失去是注定的，有些缘分是永远不会有结果的。爱一个人不一定会拥有，拥有一个人就一定要好好去爱他。

32. If you are not happy, if you are not joyful, let go; if you can't bear to let go, then endure the pain. 33. Some losses are inevitable, and some relationships will never have a happy ending. Loving someone doesn't necessarily mean you will possess them, but if you have them, you must love them well.

34. 人生就是：定性，知事，选梦，遇人，择城，终老。

34. Life is about: defining oneself, understanding things, choosing dreams, meeting people, choosing a city, and spending one's old age.

35. 7最美好的不是未来，是今天。阳光这么好，何必自寻烦恼。

35. The best is not the future, but the present. With such beautiful sunshine, why trouble oneself unnecessarily?

36. 杨绛却始终不发一言，她好像一个事外人，不理会，也不关注。不辩解，也不闹心。那些批评者见不能撼动杨绛分毫，自讨没趣，也就不再折腾。

36. Yang Jiang remained silent all along, as if she were an outsider, neither paying attention nor caring. She neither defended herself nor felt troubled. Seeing that they could not shake Yang Jiang in the least, the critics, feeling a sense of frustration, stopped their antics.

37. 其实哪有过不去的坎，给自己留点痊愈的时间。比起火急火燎的打败自己，不如洒脱点的说无所谓。

37. In fact, there are no insurmountable obstacles; give yourself some time to heal. It's better to be carefree and say it doesn't matter, than to be in a hurry to defeat yourself.

38. 生活的真谛在于宽恕与忘记。宽恕那些值得的人，忘记那些不值得的人。

38. The essence of life lies in forgiveness and forgetting. Forgive those who are worthy, and forget those who are not.

39. 一些事，只配当回忆。一些人，只能做过客。既不回头，何必不忘。既然无缘，何必誓言。这个世界那么脏，谁有资格说悲伤。

39. Some things are only worthy of being memories. Some people are only meant to be guests. If you don't turn back, why should you forget? Since there's no destiny, why make a vow. In this world, it's so dirty, who has the资格 to say they are sad.

40. 每天早晨，提醒自己，生命短暂而美好，没时间纠结，没时间计较。

40. Every morning, remind yourself that life is short and beautiful; there is no time to worry or to be overly concerned.

41. 有的人把心都掏给你了，你假装看不见，因为你不喜欢;有的人把你的心掏空了，你假装不疼，因为你爱。

41. Some people give you their whole heart, and you pretend not to see it because you don't like it; some people empty your heart, and you pretend not to feel the pain because you love them.

42. 曾国藩在京城做官的时候，有一位同乡好友郑小珊。两人情投意合，来往密切。

42. When Zeng Guofan served as an official in the capital, he had a hometown friend named Zheng Xiaoshan. The two were very close and had a close relationship.

43. 清者自清，浊者自浊。不解释，也是一种体面。对于不懂自己的人，自以为是的人，任何纠缠都是弱智，任何解释都是多余。

43. "Cleanliness is its own purifier, and impurity is its own accuser." There is no need for explanation; it is also a form of dignity. For those who do not understand themselves or those who are self-righteous, any entanglement is愚蠢, and any explanation is superfluous.

44. 把手握紧，里面什么都没有，手松开，你拥有的是一切。

44. Hold tight, and there's nothing inside. Let go, and everything you have is all there is.

45. 一件心事，想开了，固然很好。一件心事，怎么想也想不开，干脆将它丢掉。

45. It's good to put a worry behind you once you've thought it through. But if you can't seem to shake off a worry no matter how hard you try, just let it go.

46. 人这一生，每个人都要在自己的苦海中泅渡。如果你诉苦，只会让自己呛水。闭紧嘴巴努力游，才是抵达彼岸最好的方式。

46. In this life, everyone must swim through their own sea of suffering. If you complain, it will only make you choke on water. Staying silent and swimming hard is the best way to reach the other shore.

47. 如果爱上，就不要轻易放过机会。莽撞，可能使你后悔一阵子;怯懦，却可能使你后悔一辈子。

47. If you fall in love, don't easily let go of the opportunity. Rashness might make you regret for a while; but timidity could make you regret for a lifetime.

48. 学会沉默，专注自己，才是最顶级的人间清醒。

48. Mastering silence and focusing on oneself is the ultimate clarity in the human world.

49. 世上最糟糕的感受，就是不得不怀疑先前深信不疑的东西。

49. The worst feeling in the world is having to doubt something you once deeply believed in.

50. 一个人可以没有好成绩，好实习经历，好背景，好简历。但只要他准确知道自己是谁，周围的人如何看待自己，这个人就是优秀的。优秀不是你有多牛逼，而是你有多了解自己。

50. A person can lack good grades, a good internship experience, a good background, and a good resume. But as long as they accurately know who they are and how others perceive them, this person is outstanding. Excellence is not about how amazing you are, but about how well you understand yourself.

51. 有人伤害你，你却原谅他。有人背叛你，你却想挽回。有人不爱你，你却讨好他。你的脑子里在想什么？

51. Someone harms you, but you forgive them. Someone betrays you, but you want to win them back. Someone doesn't love you, but you flatter them. What is going on in your mind?

52. 人生本来就是一场即兴演出，没有做不成的梦，只有不早醒的人。

52. Life itself is an improvisational performance; there are no unattainable dreams, only those who don't wake up early.

53. 冯仑说：“伟大是管理自己，不是责备别人。”

53. Feng Lun said, "Greatness is about managing oneself, not blaming others."

54. 人们的悲欢并不相通。你的肝肠寸断，可能是别人眼里的矫揉造作。你的喋喋不休，可能是别人眼里的无聊透顶。

54. People's joys and sorrows are not connected. Your heart is broken, which might be seen as melodramatic by others. Your constant chatter might be perceived as utterly boring by someone else.

55. 不要将你的东西为了某一个特别的时刻而预留着，因为你生活的每一天都是那么特别。

55. Do not reserve your things for a particular moment, because every day of your life is so special.

56. 一时间，很多人对杨绛投来质疑的目光，纷纷评判她的是非对错，热闹非凡。

56. At that moment, many people cast suspicious glances at Yang Jiang, eagerly judging her right and wrong, creating a lively and lively scene.

57. 不管生活多苦，都不要诉苦。当你诉苦的时候，大部分人幸灾乐祸，剩下的一小部分漠不关心。

部分 57. No matter how bitter life may be, do not complain. When you complain, most people will take pleasure in your misfortune, and the rest will remain indifferent.

58. 曾经，我想和你分享我所有的秘密，但现在，你成了我心底的秘密。

58. Once, I wanted to share all my secrets with you, but now, you have become the secret in the depths of my heart.

59. 福贵的一生，苦出天际，却从不诉苦。在阳光和知了声充斥的农村，七十岁的福贵一边耕田，一边和拔秧的父母嬉戏笑骂，完全找不到抱怨和悲伤的痕迹。

59. Fugui's entire life was filled with suffering, reaching the heavens, yet he never complained. In the countryside filled with sunlight and the sound of cicadas, at the age of seventy, Fugui was tilling the fields while playing and laughing with his parents who were uprooting seedlings, completely without any trace of complaint or sadness.

60. 如果你希望一个人爱你，最好的心理准备就是不要让自己变成非爱他不可。你要坚强独立，自求多福，让自己成为自己生活的重心，有寄托，有目标，有光辉，有前途……总之，让自己有足够多可以使自己快乐的源泉，然后再准备接受或不接受对方的爱。

60. If you wish for someone to love you, the best psychological preparation is not to become indispensable to him. Be strong and independent, seek your own happiness, make yourself the center of your own life, have a place to rely on, have goals, have brilliance, have a promising future... In short, let yourself have enough sources of joy, and then be ready to accept or not accept the love from the other person.

61. 后来，儿子在医院被过度抽血致死，女儿难产而死，妻子病死，女婿意外而死，外孙子吃蚕豆撑死。漫漫人世间，只剩下他和一头老水牛相依为命。

61. Later on, the son died of excessive bloodletting in the hospital, the daughter died in childbirth, the wife died of illness, the son-in-law died in an accident, and the grandson choked to death while eating broad beans. In the long journey of life, there was only he and an old water buffalo left, depending on each other for survival.

62. 不要因为害怕被人误解，而把自己过得很卑微。

62. Do not live in a state of humility out of fear of being misunderstood by others.

63. 倘若心中愿意，道路千千条。倘若心中不愿意，理由万万个。

63. If willing in the heart, there are a thousand paths. If not willing in the heart, there are ten thousand reasons.

64. 不要害怕改变，尽管你可能会因此失去一些好的东西，但你也可能会得到一些更好的东西。

64. Do not be afraid of change, for although you may lose some good things in the process, you might also gain something even better.

65. 记住，每天的太阳都是新的，不要辜负了美好的晨光。

65. Remember, each day's sun is new; don't waste the beautiful morning light.

66. 乐观一点，用力微笑吧!隐晦的日子总敌不过我们阳光的心态 。

66. Be optimistic and smile with all your might! Mysterious days can never overcome our sunny mindset.

67. 不管误会多深，都不要解释。不解释，不是默认，而是不屑。不说话，不是软弱，而是不值得。

67. No matter how deep the misunderstanding is, do not explain. Not explaining is not an admission, but a sign of disdain. Not speaking is not weakness, but unworthiness.

68. 杨绛一生受过很多误会，甚至冤屈，但她说：

68. Yang Jiang has experienced many misunderstandings and even injustices throughout her life, but she said:

69. 事后，曾国藩写日记反思自己，认为心情再差，也要充分尊重别人，而不是那别人的情绪的宣泄口。

69. Subsequently, Zeng Guofan wrote in his diary to reflect on himself, believing that even in the worst of moods, one should fully respect others rather than becoming an outlet for their emotional venting.

70. 感觉累的时候，也许你正处于人生的上坡路。坚持走下去，你就会发现到达了人生的另一个高度。

70. When you feel tired, perhaps you are on the uphill climb of life. Persist in walking forward, and you will find that you have reached another height in life.

71. 这部译作，一直被学界奉为翻译的经典，还被作为国礼送给西班牙贵宾。

71. This translation has been revered by the academic community as a classic in translation and has also been gifted as a national present to distinguished Spanish guests.

72. 人生，都有“艰难”这个副产品，却也有时间这副良药，将不幸变成有幸，是生活给我们最好的礼物。

72. Life comes with the byproduct of "difficulty," but also with time, this healing balm that can turn misfortune into fortune. This is the best gift life gives us.

73. 小时候画在手上的表没有动，却带走了我们最好的时光。

73. The watch I drew on my hand as a child hasn't moved, yet it took away our best moments.

74. 单身不可怕，可怕的是连喜欢的人都没有，甚至是去喜欢人的心气儿都没有。

74. Being single is not可怕, what's可怕的 is not having someone to like, or even the will to like someone.

75. 沉默是金，我们不必用语言去刷存在感。

75. Silence is golden; we don't need to use words to boost our presence.