在情感的潮汐中，格局决定高度。如同一朵浪花，在波澜壮阔的大海中，或沉或浮，或激荡或平静，皆取决于其内在的力量与格局。今日，让我们一同探讨，如何在情感的世界里，以高远的格局，驾驭生活的潮起潮落。

In the tides of emotions, the structure determines the height. Just like a spray of foam in the vast sea, whether it sinks or floats, whether it ripples or remains calm, all depends on its inherent strength and structure. Today, let us explore together how to ride the ups and downs of life with a lofty structure in the world of emotions.

1. 自私的人。自私的人通常只考虑自己的利益和需求，而不关心或考虑其他人的感受或需要，从而在交往过程中表现出不讲道理的行为。

1. Selfish individuals. Selfish people typically only consider their own interests and needs, without caring or considering the feelings or needs of others, thus displaying unreasonable behavior in the process of interaction.

2. 苏轼回应：过往恩怨纠葛，我早已放下，何必计较，你只管放心。

2. Su Shi replied: The past恩怨纠葛, I have already let go of, why should I care about it? Just rest assured.

3. 不讲道理并不一定是由于他们的个性或特点所致，而可能是由于他们的情绪、背景、文化、价值观等因素所引起的。因此，不能一概而论哪种人最不讲道理，但是以下几种人可能更容易表现出不讲道理的行为：

3. Lack of reasonableness is not necessarily due to their personality or characteristics, but may be caused by factors such as their emotions, background, culture, values, etc. Therefore, one cannot generalize about which type of person is the least reasonable, but the following types of people may be more prone to displaying unreasonable behavior:

4. 沉不住气通常指的是一个人情绪容易失控，难以冷静处理问题的特点。这种性格特点往往使人在各个方面都面临一些困境和不利情况。他们可能会受到目前情绪波动的影响，做出轻率的决策，而不是基于客观分析和权衡利弊做出决策。这可能导致犯错的决策，带来不良后果。

4. Not being able to hold one's temper usually refers to a person's tendency to lose emotional control and find it difficult to calmly deal with problems. This character trait often leads to people facing difficulties and adverse situations in various aspects. They may be influenced by their current emotional fluctuations and make hasty decisions instead of making choices based on objective analysis and weighing the pros and cons. This may lead to erroneous decisions, resulting in undesirable consequences.

5. 虽然沉不住气的人在某些情况下可能表现出激情和积极性，但过于情绪化往往会带来更多的负面影响。然而，要克服这个问题并培养内心的稳定性和冷静思考需要时间和努力。通过寻求支持、掌握情绪管理技巧、寻求专业帮助，一个人可以逐渐学会更好地控制情绪，使自己受益于更冷静和理性的决策。

5. Although people who can't keep their cool may exhibit passion and enthusiasm in certain situations, being overly emotional often brings more negative effects. However, overcoming this issue and cultivating inner stability and calm thinking requires time and effort. By seeking support, mastering emotional management skills, and seeking professional help, one can gradually learn to better control their emotions, benefiting from more composed and rational decision-making.

6. 他的学生梁怀王堕马而死，他往自己身上揽原因，认为是自己保护不力，职责有亏。最终，他一直无法释怀，于33岁抑郁而死。

6. His student, Liang Hua Wang, died after falling off his horse, and he blamed himself, believing that he failed to protect him adequately and was negligent in his duty. Ultimately, he could never let go of this burden, and he died of depression at the age of 33.

7. 《苏东坡传》的作者林语堂评价说：“他是一个无可救药的乐天派。”

7. The author of "The Life and Times of Su Dongpo," Lin Yutang, commented: "He was an incurable optimist."

8. 愿我们修炼心境，喂大格局，在这个纷繁复杂的人世间，活成一个悠然自得的乐天派。

8. May we cultivate our inner peace, nurture our broad perspective, and live in this complex and diverse world as carefree and optimistic individuals.

9. “一个心胸开阔的人，他的内心就像一片大海，你丢进去一根火把，它很快就会熄灭；你丢进去一包盐，它很快就被稀释。”

9. "A person with an open heart is like the vast ocean; if you throw in a torch, it will quickly be extinguished; if you throw in a bag of salt, it will quickly be diluted."

10. 鵩鸟入宅，他想起迷信中的灾异之兆，害怕自己早夭，作《鵩鸟赋》，悲叹命运。

10. When a magpie entered his house, he recalled the omens of disaster in superstitions and feared for his own premature death. He composed the "Fengniao Fu," lamenting his fate.

11. 对于高境界的人来说，人不过宇宙间的一粒微尘，连生死都微不足道。

11. To those of high caliber, humans are just a speck of dust in the universe, with life and death being of negligible significance.

12. 格局大的人，境界高，眼界广，心灵阔，就像大海一样兼容万物，像神仙一样悲悯众生。绝不会因为鸡毛蒜皮的事情纠结不休，更不会因为烂人烂事而持续内耗。

12. A person of great stature has a high level of境界, broad vision, expansive mind, and is as inclusive as the ocean, compassionate like the gods, towards all sentient beings. They would never be endlessly entangled over trivial matters, nor would they continue to waste their inner energy due to bad people or things.

13. 他和老农一起耕田，学习耕耘种植的技术。夜间和乡邻们坐在树下讲鬼故事，搞恶作剧互相嬉戏。

13. He worked in the fields with an elderly farmer, learning the techniques of farming and planting. At night, he would sit under the trees with his neighbors, telling ghost stories and engaging in pranks, enjoying themselves through playful mischief.

14. 错失机会：情绪不稳定的人常常因为冲动或过度关注当前情绪而忽略了重要的机会。他们可能在情绪失控的时候作出决定，错过了一些优势的时机。此外，他们也可能因为情绪的影响而无法充分发挥自己的实力和潜力。

14. Missed Opportunities: People with unstable emotions often ignore important opportunities due to impulsiveness or excessive focus on current emotions. They may make decisions when emotionally out of control, missing out on advantageous opportunities. Moreover, they may also be unable to fully utilize their abilities and potential due to the influence of emotions.

15. 但当时的朝堂上，功臣、贵族争权夺利，云诡波谲。汉文帝为了保护他，就把他贬为长沙王太傅，远离京城。

15. But at that time, in the court, the meritorious officials and nobles vied for power and interests, creating a situation of mystery and turbulence. Emperor Wen of Han, in order to protect him, demoted him to the position of Grand Tutor of the King of Changsha, thus keeping him far away from the capital.

16. 当你格局狭小的时候，就像在山脚下，生活处处皆烦恼。当你的格局打开了，就像在山巅上，一切都是浮云过眼，不值一提。

16. When your perspective is narrow, it's like being at the foot of the mountain, where life is full of烦恼 everywhere. When your perspective expands, it's like being on the summit of the mountain, where everything is just a passing cloud, not worth mentioning.

17. 苏轼没有悲观和幽怨，他在海南的槟榔树下，自己动手建了一座茅屋，取名“槟榔屋”，每天寄居屋内，吟诗作画，饮酒喝茶，其乐融融。

17. Su Shi was not pessimistic or resentful. Under the areca nut trees in Hainan, he built a thatched cottage with his own hands and named it the "Areca Nut Cottage." Every day, he lived in the cottage, composing poems and paintings, drinking wine and tea, enjoying a harmonious and pleasant time.

18. 渡汨罗江，他想起被流放的屈原，感同身受，作《吊屈原赋》，感慨人生浮沉。

18. Crossing the Miluo River, he remembered the exiled Qu Yuan and empathized with him, writing the "Elegy to Qu Yuan" and feeling melancholic about the ups and downs of life.

19. 固执己见的人。这些人在自己的想法或观点上非常固执，不愿意听取其他人的意见或建议，从而使得交流和讨论变得困难或无法达成共识。

19. People who are dogmatic. These individuals are very stubborn about their own ideas or viewpoints, unwilling to listen to the opinions or suggestions of others, which makes communication and discussion difficult or impossible to reach a consensus.

20. 如果小肚鸡肠，不能容物，任何坎坷小事，都可能演化为不可预料的伤害。

20. If one is overly meticulous and cannot tolerate things, any minor obstacle may escalate into an unforeseen injury.

21. 破坏人际关系：沉不住气的人在处理人际关系时常常难以控制自己的情绪。他们可能过于敏感或反应过激，容易与他人发生冲突。这可能导致疏远、不和谐的关系甚至破裂，丧失机会与他人建立良好的合作关系和人际网。

21. Destroying interpersonal relationships: People who cannot keep their cool often find it hard to control their emotions when dealing with interpersonal relationships. They may be overly sensitive or react excessively, leading to conflicts with others. This could result in alienation, disharmony in relationships, or even破裂, and lose the opportunity to establish good cooperative relationships and networks with others.

22. 贾谊是西汉鼎鼎大名的才子，学识渊博，满腹经纶，深受汉文帝赏识。

22. Jia Yi was a famous talent of the Western Han Dynasty, with profound knowledge and full of wisdom, deeply appreciated by Emperor Wen of Han.

23. 人生是一个体验的过程，我们要豁达一些，通透一些，乐观一些。这样我们感受到的快乐就会多一些，而感受到的痛苦就会少一些。

23. Life is a process of experiencing, and we should be more open-minded, transparent, and optimistic. In this way, the happiness we feel will be greater, and the pain we feel will be less.

24. 作家何权峰说：“气度变大，抱怨就变少；胸襟变宽，路就变广；格局够大，问题就消失不见。”

24. The writer He Quanfeng said, "As one's breadth of mind grows, complaints become fewer; as one's tolerance expands, the path becomes wider; and as one's perspective is broad enough, problems vanish."

25. 扩大格局，增加自己的情绪内存，才能活得洒脱从容。

25. To live with ease and composure, one must expand one's perspective and increase one's emotional memory.

26. 所以说，不讲道理的行为不是由于某个人的个性或特点所致，而是由于各种因素共同作用的结果。在人际交往中，我们应该以开放、理性、尊重和善意的态度对待别人，并尝试理解和包容别人的行为和想法，以建立健康、积极的人际关系。

26. Therefore, unreasonable behavior is not caused by an individual's personality or characteristics, but rather the result of the combined effect of various factors. In interpersonal interactions, we should treat others with an open, rational, respectful, and kind attitude, and try to understand and tolerate their actions and thoughts, in order to establish healthy and positive interpersonal relationships.

27. 格局小的人，一点风吹草动，鸡毛蒜皮，都会给他造成极大的精神内耗。甚至走进死角，走不出来。

27. People with a narrow perspective will be greatly consumed by even minor things, such as a breeze or a slight movement of grass, causing immense mental exhaustion. Sometimes, they may even find themselves in a dead end, unable to find a way out.

28. 活佛仓央嘉措说：“除了生死，世上没有什么大事。”

28. The living Buddha Changchun Jia措 said, "Apart from life and death, there is nothing of great importance in the world."

29. 生活不可能一帆风顺，我们遇见的人，也不一定都是正人君子。我们总在磕磕绊绊前行，总会和不喜欢的人和事搅和在一起。

29. Life is not always smooth sailing; the people we meet are not necessarily all gentlemen. We are always moving forward with setbacks, and we will inevitably get entangled with people and things we don't like.

30. 把格局放大，生活中的那些委屈，挫败，失落，欺辱，不过像扔进海里的一勺盐，溶解消释，无影无踪。

30. Expand your perspective, and those grievances, setbacks, frustrations, and humiliations in life are no more than a spoonful of salt thrown into the sea, which dissolves and disappears, leaving no trace.

31. 无法接受批评的人。这些人通常很难接受别人的批评或反馈，往往会为了保护自己的自尊心而表现出不讲道理的行为，或者将批评视为攻击而进行反击。

31. People who cannot accept criticism. These individuals usually find it hard to accept others' criticism or feedback and often resort to irrational behavior to protect their self-esteem, or they may counterattack by perceiving criticism as an attack.

32. 昔日的好友章惇，位列宰辅，非但没有帮助他，反而落井下石，利用权力把苏轼放逐海南。

32. Former close friend Zhang Dun, who held a position among the highest ministers, not only failed to help him, but instead took advantage of his power to exile Su Shi to Hainan.

33. 格局小，破事就多。格局大了，破事消失于无形，人生惬意自在。

33. Small mindset, more trouble. With a bigger mindset, troubles disappear into thin air, and life becomes pleasant and carefree.

34. 谁知贾谊不能理解皇帝的良苦用心，他认为自己不被重视，坎坷不顺，于是自怨自艾，牢骚满腹。

34. Who knew that Jia Yi could not understand the good intentions of the emperor. He thought that he was not valued and faced difficulties and setbacks, so he complained and grumbled, full of grievances.

35. 乌台诗案后，苏轼的人生际遇急转直下，一贬再贬，流落天涯。

35. After the Wutai Poetry Case, Su Shi's life took a sharp downturn, being demoted repeatedly and ending up wandering far and wide.

36. 自我限制：沉不住气的人往往对于个人成长和发展产生限制。持续的情绪波动可能使他们缺乏耐心、毅力和决心去追求自己的目标。他们可能因为追求短暂的情绪满足而放弃了长期的成长和进步。

36. Self-imposed limitations: People who cannot contain their emotions often impose limitations on their personal growth and development. Continuous emotional fluctuations may make them lack patience, perseverance, and determination to pursue their goals. They may abandon long-term growth and progress due to the pursuit of temporary emotional satisfaction.

37. 健康问题：持续的情绪失控和压力对身体健康有害。长期的情绪波动可能导致焦虑、抑郁、失眠和其他心理健康问题。此外，情绪化的人可能也更容易受到身体疾病的影响，因为情绪和身体健康之间存在密切的关联。

37. Health issues: Continuous emotional instability and stress are harmful to physical health. Long-term emotional fluctuations can lead to anxiety, depression, insomnia, and other mental health problems. In addition, individuals who are emotionally volatile may also be more susceptible to physical illnesses, as there is a close connection between emotions and physical health.

38. 毛泽东说：“梁王堕马寻常事，何用哀伤付一生。”

38. Mao Zedong said, "It is a common occurrence for a king to fall off his horse, why should one grieve over it for a lifetime."

39. 人生如登山。你在山脚下，看到的是败草丛生，垃圾遍地。当你走到山顶，触目所及都是万里浮云，锦绣山河。

39. Life is like climbing a mountain. At the foot of the mountain, what you see is overgrown weeds and garbage scattered everywhere. When you reach the summit, all you can see are miles of floating clouds and a magnificent landscape.

40. 后来朝廷形势逆转，章惇获罪被贬，苏轼赦免回京，拟受重用。章惇害怕苏轼报复自己，写信数封，恳求他网开一面。

40. Later, the situation of the court reversed, Zhang Dun was accused and demoted, Su Shi was pardoned and returned to the capital, and was intended to be given important assignments. Zhang Dun feared Su Shi's revenge on him, so he wrote several letters, imploring him to show leniency.

41. 情绪化的人。情绪化的人往往更容易因为情绪波动而做出冲动、不理智的决定，也更难以控制自己的情绪，从而影响到人际交往中的讨论和决策过程。

41. Emotional individuals. Emotional individuals often tend to make impulsive and irrational decisions due to emotional fluctuations, and they also find it more difficult to control their emotions, which in turn can affect the discussion and decision-making process in interpersonal interactions.