在这个瞬息万变的时代，成人的世界充满了无尽的挑战与机遇。金钱、阅读与睡眠，这三者如同三把钥匙，解锁着人生的不同面向。它们不仅塑造了我们的日常，更在潜移默化中影响着我们的成长与幸福。今天，就让我们一同揭开这把“三把钥匙”的神秘面纱，探寻成年人的顶级自律之道。

In this era of rapid change, the world of adults is filled with endless challenges and opportunities. Money, reading, and sleep, these three are like three keys that unlock different aspects of life. They not only shape our daily lives but also subtly influence our growth and happiness. Today, let's unveil the mysterious veil of these "three keys" together and explore the ultimate path of self-discipline for adults.

1. 蔡康永不止一次地提起，你说什么话，你就是什么样的人。

1.蔡康永不止一次地提起，You are what you say.

2. 社会是一个金字塔，上层的人享受着充分的物质和精神资源供应，越往下走，这种供应就越少，到了底层，拼尽全力，也只能勉强谋生。

2. Society is a pyramid, with those at the top enjoying abundant supplies of both material and spiritual resources. As one moves down the pyramid, these supplies become increasingly scarce, and at the very bottom, even after exerting all efforts, one can only just scrape by to make a living.

3. 闵子骞说，以前我不读诗书，不明礼仪，容易胡思乱想，所以精神，神态都不好。自从和师兄弟们一块学习，我懂得了很多道理，思想变得纯正，心境变得平和，没有了精神内耗，当然整个人的状态就会好起来。

3.闵子骞 said, "In the past, I did not read poems and books, so I was not aware of etiquette, and it was easy for me to indulge in wild thoughts. As a result, my spirit and demeanor were not good. Since studying with my brothers and fellow students, I have come to understand many principles, and my thoughts have become pure. My mind has become peaceful, and there is no internal waste of spirit. Of course, the overall state of my being has improved."

4. 正如叔本华所说：“ 有智慧的人比普通人有了更多的需求，他们需要阅读、观察、学习、思考，以及亲身实践，总之，他们需要自己的时间不受侵扰。”

4. As Schopenhauer said, "Wise people have more needs than ordinary people; they require reading, observation, learning, reflection, and hands-on practice. In short, they need their own time to be undisturbed."

5. 自省，孔子提出的对提升自我道德修养和自我认识的方法:“见贤思齐焉，见不贤而内自省也。意思是说，遇到贤良的人我们要认真学习，向他看齐:遇到不贤良的人，我们就要以他为参照，反省自己是否也有同样的毛病。

5. Self-reflection, the method proposed by Confucius for improving self-moral cultivation and self-awareness: "When we encounter the virtuous, we should study diligently and strive to be like them; when we encounter the unworthy, we should use them as a reference to introspect whether we also have the same flaws." This means that when we meet virtuous individuals, we should diligently learn from them and aim to emulate them; when we encounter individuals who are not virtuous, we should use them as a point of reference to reflect on whether we also possess similar shortcomings.

6. 为什么我们上学时学到的东西，毕业之后就很少记得？

6. Why is it that the things we learn in school are rarely remembered after graduation?

7. 钱钟书曾写给杨绛一段很美的文字：“没遇到你之前，我没想过结婚，遇见你，结婚这事我没想过和别人。”

7. Qian Zhongshu once wrote a very beautiful passage to Yang Jiang: "Before I met you, I had never thought about getting married. After meeting you, the thought of getting married to anyone else never crossed my mind."

8. 态度决定成败，无论情况好坏，保持积极态度，世界会以另一个面貌展现在你面前。

8. Attitude determines success or failure. No matter how good or bad the situation is, maintaining a positive attitude will reveal the world to you in a different light.

9. 看**、书籍，其实是一件很重要的事情。能够提高你的眼界，开阔你的思维。有时候在很大程度上，我们的眼界、思维格局都是来自与书籍和纪录片。

9. Reading books, in fact, is an important thing. It can broaden your horizons and expand your thinking. Sometimes, to a large extent, our horizons and thinking patterns come from books and documentaries.

10. 自律是一种不可或缺的人格力量，没有它，一切纪律都会变得形同虚设。自律是一种信仰、一种素质，一种自爱、一种觉悟，让人感到幸福快乐、内心强大，永远充满积极向上的活力。

10. Self-discipline is an indispensable personality strength without which all discipline would be as if it were non-existent. Self-discipline is a belief, a quality, a form of self-love, a realization, that brings happiness and joy, inner strength, and an eternal vitality that is positive and upward.

11. 真正优秀的人懂得独处，利用闲暇时间提升自己。

11. Truly excellent people know how to be alone, using their leisure time to improve themselves.

12. 拥有独处的能力,是一个人成熟的重要标标志之一。

12. The ability to be alone is one of the important signs of a person's maturity.

13. 物质的贫穷能摧毁你一世的尊严，精神的贫穷却能耗尽你几世的轮回。读书是充实精神最好的方式，可以丰富和强化一个人的精神世界，不管面对任何问题，可以心平气和，从容不迫，游刃有余。

13. Material poverty can destroy your dignity for a lifetime, but spiritual poverty can exhaust you across several lifetimes. Reading is the best way to enrich the spirit, as it can enrich and strengthen a person's spiritual world. No matter what problems one faces, reading can help maintain a peaceful and composed demeanor, dealing with them with ease and proficiency.

14. 另外一个最重要的， 是随时记录自己的灵感 。读书时突发的灵感一定要写下来，好想法稍纵即逝，写下来才会格外深刻。

14. Another most important thing is to keep a record of your inspirations at all times. When inspirations strike while reading, make sure to jot them down, as good ideas can be fleeting; writing them down will make them particularly profound.

15. 大脑非常低效，不擅长记忆，如果没有好的学习方法，学到的东西也只能学完即忘。

15. The brain is very inefficient at memory, not good at retaining information. Without good study methods, what is learned can only be forgotten as soon as it is learned.

16. 这个世界上的资源极其有限，你不争不抢，就只能穷困潦倒，蹉跎一生，一事无成，落魄失意。我们要管住自己，不断提升自己的能力和价值，这样才能追求到更好的生活。

16. The resources in this world are extremely limited. If you do not compete or seize them, you will only end up in poverty, waste your life, achieve nothing, and be down and disappointed. We must control ourselves, continuously enhance our abilities and value, and only then can we pursue a better life.

17. 不要活在别人的嘴里，也不要用自己的嘴巴去评判别人的生活。

17. Do not live in the mouth of others, nor use your own mouth to judge others' lives.

18. 一个人最高级的自律，在任何场合情况下都自觉遵守道德规范。比如买票要排队，走在马路上要遵守交通规则。进入图书馆，保持静默。在公交车上不大声喧哗，不吃带气味的零食等自我约束。

18. The highest level of self-discipline for a person is to consciously abide by moral norms in any situation or place. For example, one should queue up when buying tickets, follow traffic rules when walking on the streets, maintain silence when entering a library, avoid loud talking on buses, and refrain from eating smelly snacks, etc.

19. 自律能提高自身素质，树立自尊自强意识，对社会，对集体，对同事都有责任感，正确处理生活中的人际关系。

19. Self-discipline can enhance one's quality, establish a sense of self-respect and self-improvement, and have a sense of responsibility towards society, the collective, and colleagues, and properly handle interpersonal relationships in life.

20. 快乐是肤浅的能够让你成长的只有痛苦。幕颜歌说过:伤害你的人从来没想过帮助你成长，真正让你成长的是你的痛苦和反思。经历本身没有特殊意义，让它变得有意义的是你的坚强。

20. Happiness is superficial; only suffering can help you grow. As Mu Yan Ge said, the people who hurt you never intended to help you grow. It's your pain and reflection that truly lead to growth. The experience itself has no special meaning; it's your strength that makes it meaningful.

21. 优秀的人都是相似的，都离不开这四种能力，养成受益无穷。

21. Outstanding people are all alike, all离不开 these four abilities, and cultivating them will bring endless benefits.

22. 白岩松说:"一个人的收人和他的不可替代性成正比，越不可替代，收人越高，越可以替代，收入越低”。当你被替代的时候，你还有另外的一技之长。或者深耕一项专业，成为那个领域的顶级者。

22. Bai YanSong said: "A person's income is proportional to their irreplaceability; the more irreplaceable they are, the higher their income; the more replaceable, the lower their income." When you are replaced, you still have another skill. Or, delve deeply into a professional field and become the top expert in that domain.

23. 春秋时期有一个叫闵子骞的人，他拜孔子为师的时候，精神萎靡，面色蜡黄，形容枯槁，一筹莫展。

23. During the Spring and Autumn period, there was a man named Min Ziqian who, when he became a disciple of Confucius, was in a state of despondency, with a sallow complexion, emaciated, and at a loss for any solution.

24. 专注某一领域，长期坚持，把时间花在重要的事情上。

24. Focus on a specific field, persist for a long time, and spend your time on important matters.

25. 当学到一个新知识，主动和以往的知识进行联结，思考这些知识还能用在什么地方。

25. When learning a new piece of knowledge, actively connect it with the knowledge you have previously acquired, and think about where else these knowledge can be applied.

26. 独处的时候多做“主动性 娱乐 ”，比如读书，运动，棋类 游戏 等都是促进自我成长的“主动性 娱乐 ”，这些 娱乐 可以促进我们大脑不断思考，不失为一种“自我投资”。

26. When alone, engage in more "active entertainment," such as reading, exercising, and playing board games, etc., which are all forms of "active entertainment" that promote self-growth. These forms of entertainment can stimulate continuous thinking in our brains, which is not a bad way to "invest in oneself."

27. 能用钱解决的问题，就别用人情人情，你还不清，钱你还的清。就像你搬家找朋友，你欠了别人人情，然后你还要请朋友吃顿饭，你请人家吃的那顿饭都可以让你拔搬家公司搬家了。有时候你会发现，不是所有的朋友都适合欠他的人情的。

27. If something can be solved with money, don't use favors. You may not be able to repay favors, but you can always repay money. Just like when you move and ask friends for help, you owe them a favor, and then you have to invite them out for a meal. The meal you invite them to can even cover the cost of hiring a moving company. Sometimes you may find that not all friends are suitable to owe them a favor.

28. 君子学问渊博，每日反省自己，才能做到通达，为人处世不出错。

28. A gentleman has profound knowledge and reflects on himself every day, only then can he be insightful and not make mistakes in dealing with people and matters.

29. 荀子说：“君子博学而日参省乎己，则知明而行无过矣。”

29. Xunzi said, "A gentleman should have extensive learning and reflect on himself daily; then he will be wise and his actions will not be wrong."

30. 世人慌慌张张，不过图碎银几两，偏这醉银几两，能解世间万千惆怅。有钱走遍天下，没钱寸步难行。

30. People are in a hurry in this world, all for a few pieces of silver, yet it is these few pieces of silver that can alleviate the myriad worries of the world. With money, one can travel the world, but without it, one can hardly move an inch.

31. 看事情不要看表面，很多事情不是非黑即自的。要学会理性分析思考，看透事实。

31. Don't judge things by their surface appearance, as many things are not simply black or white. Learn to analyze and think rationally, and see through the facts.

32. 恋爱不是生活的必须品,只是生活的调味料。不要因为一个人决定自己的人生。不要牺牲自己的快乐,去维护一段难过过的关系。当你足够优秀,自然会有优秀的人奔你而来。

32. Love is not a necessity of life, but only a seasoning. Do not decide your life based on one person. Do not sacrifice your happiness to maintain a relationship that has caused you pain. When you are sufficiently outstanding, excellent people will naturally come to you.

33. 一个人最高级的自律是在任何诱惑面前，都能够管住自己的行为，遵循法律自我约束。

33. The highest form of self-discipline for a person is to be able to control their behavior in the face of any temptation and to follow the law and self-restrain.

34. 你有没有发现，生活中很多无谓的争吵和误解，都是嘴快惹的祸。

34. Have you noticed that many meaningless disputes and misunderstandings in life are caused by a quick tongue?

35. 如果你知足常乐，对现在的生活比较满意，也需要一定的金钱来面对人生的风险。比如自己和家人可能突发的疾病，可能发生的一切意外，以及生老病死，衣食冷暖，没有钱，什么问题都解决不了。

35. If you are content with life and satisfied with your current situation, you still need a certain amount of money to face the risks of life. For example, sudden illnesses of yourself and your family, any unforeseen events that may occur, as well as the cycles of life such as birth, old age, illness, and death, the warmth and coldness of clothing and food – without money, you cannot solve any problems.

36. 没有谁的人生是容易的。

36. No one's life is easy.

37. 庄子说：“独来独往，是谓独有；独有之人，是谓至贵。”

37. Zhuangzi said, "To come and go alone is called being unique; those who are unique are the most precious."

38. 读书时多做读书笔记， 读书笔记不是摘抄 ，而是把印象深刻的片段用自己的话表述出来，如果讲不清楚就说明自己没有真正学会。

38. When reading, take more notes. Reading notes are not just copying; they are expressing the memorable segments in your own words. If you cannot explain them clearly, it indicates that you have not truly learned them.

39. 白岩松在《白说》里面提到：佛教讲苦集灭道，什么意思？

39. Bai Yansong mentioned in "Bai Speaks" that Buddhism talks about the Four Noble Truths of suffering, its cause, its cessation, and the path to its cessation. What does that mean?