在纷繁的世界中，我们如同迷失的旅人，渴望探寻自我救赎之道。放下过去，拥抱自由，或许，这就是我们寻找的答案。

In the complex world, we are like lost travelers, longing to seek the path to self-redemption. Letting go of the past and embracing freedom, perhaps, this is the answer we are searching for.

1. 当所有的浪漫归于自然，宁静致远，岁月改变青春的脸，你还会不会陪我一起慢慢变老

1. When all romance returns to nature, tranquility extends to the far reaches, and time alters the face of youth, will you still accompany me as we age slowly together?

2. 当然，这不意味着内向这一特质等同于社交焦虑。其实，很多内向者并不是孤僻的、不善言辞的，相反他们可能口才很好，能够灵活地处理各种社交关系，而他们不参与活动只是他们的自主选择。

2. Of course, this does not mean that the trait of being introverted is equivalent to social anxiety. In fact, many introverts are not shy or uncommunicative; on the contrary, they may have excellent oratorical skills and be able to handle various social relationships flexibly. Their choice not to participate in activities is simply an autonomous one.

3. 多和亲人朋友和同事沟通、交流，建立良好的互动；

3. Communicate and interact more with family, friends, and colleagues to establish good interaction.

4. 有时候我们会责备自己不够努力，不够认真，不够圆滑，其实人生所有的选择和行动，都是早已形成的秉性决定的。自律不是一种习惯，而是一种天分。坚持不是一种品质，而是一种天赋。有的人无论怎么强求自己，都无法做到持续自律和坚持。有的人对某件事情有某种天然的兴趣，不怎么苛求都能做到持之以恒。

4. Sometimes we blame ourselves for not being hardworking enough, not serious enough, or not smooth enough, but in fact, all the choices and actions in life are determined by the inherent character we have already formed. Self-discipline is not a habit, but a talent. Perseverance is not a quality, but a gift. Some people, no matter how much they try to force themselves, cannot achieve sustained self-discipline and perseverance. Some people have a natural interest in certain things, and can persevere as long as they are not too demanding.

5. 建立社交关系，对于每个人的生活来说是非常必要的，然而，每个人对社交的需求确实存在差异。整体来说，有些人不愿主动参与社交活动，可能有以下原因：

5. Establishing social relationships is very necessary for everyone's life, however, there are indeed differences in the needs for socialization among individuals. Overall, some people may be unwilling to actively participate in social activities, and this could be due to the following reasons:

6. 很多时候自我封闭的人，总是在外界环境刺激之后，无奈的暗示和加重自己的判断：我做不到，我就是这样的。

6. Many times, individuals who are self-enclosed tend to reluctantly hint at and exacerbate their own judgments after being stimulated by external environmental factors: I can't do it; that's just how I am.

7. 真的没有人会细心到照顾你的情绪，所有坏的好的你都得自己接受。保持一颗清醒的头脑，不依赖别人。

7. No one will be considerate enough to take care of your emotions; you will have to accept both the good and the bad on your own. Maintain a clear mind and don't depend on others.

8. 社交关系有强有弱，不同的社交关系拥有不同的意义。弱关系常常能提供更多信息，这些信息在特定的时候会产生巨大的价值；而强关系则与我们的归属感、幸福感紧密相关。对社交来说，我们的孤独感和幸福感，取决于社交互动的质量，而不是数量。

8. Social relationships vary in strength, and different social relationships hold different meanings. Weak relationships often provide more information, which can be of great value at specific times; while strong relationships are closely related to our sense of belonging and happiness. For social interactions, our feelings of loneliness and happiness depend on the quality of social interactions, rather than the quantity.

9. 一个人的时候，可以看清楚很多东西和感受，不再依赖任何人，只想勇往直前。为大家分享不再依赖任何人的说说，一起来看看吧！

9. When alone, one can see and feel many things clearly, no longer dependent on anyone, and just want to forge ahead courageously. Let's share some sayings about not depending on anyone and take a look together!

10. 如果说我遇到你，变得更好了的话，那么我想，把这样的自己保留下来，努力地迎接接下来的每一天。说不定我来这座城市，是为了遇见你，而我遇见你的意义，只是与你告别。

10. If meeting you made me a better person, then I think I should preserve such a version of myself and strive to welcome each coming day. Perhaps I came to this city just to meet you, and the meaning of meeting you is only to say goodbye to you.

11. 真让人无语，以后只让自己开心，并不管任何人任何事，也不再有期望和依赖。

11. It's truly exasperating. From now on, I'll only seek my own happiness, regardless of anyone or anything, and no longer have any expectations or dependencies.

12. 晴天请跟我散步，阴天请陪我忧郁，雨天请给我撑伞，冬天请为我取暖。你比我每一个恢宏鲜艳的理想还要美好，还要让人神往。

12. On sunny days, please walk with me; on cloudy days, please share my melancholy with me; on rainy days, please hold an umbrella for me; and on winter days, please keep me warm. You are more beautiful and desirable than every grand and vibrant ideal I have.

13. 谁说过的理解人性 从前的我还从未理解过

13. Who said understanding human nature? In the past, I had never understood that.

14. 23人生就像巧克力，你永远都不知道自己会吃到什么味道。

14. Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what flavor you're going to get.

15. 愿你我内心都能强大，不依赖别人，独立又温暖。

15. May both of us have a strong inner strength, not dependent on others, independent yet warm.

16. 比如说，如果我相信我的父母是不会爱我的，那么我很可能就不会把自己展露在他们面前，也许我会把他们当成威胁，这样的总结看上去会很合理，因为我体会不到他们的爱。

16. For example, if I believe that my parents will not love me, I am likely to not reveal myself to them, and perhaps I might consider them as threats. Such a conclusion seems quite reasonable, because I do not feel their love.

17. 生命是一条孤独的河流，只有自己才是人生的摆渡人。人的一切痛苦，一切抑郁，一切焦虑，都只有一个原因：期待！

17. Life is a solitary river, and only oneself is the ferryman of life. All the pain, all the depression, all the anxiety that a person experiences stem from only one cause: anticipation!

18. 当时不明白为什么40岁的人会这样冷淡慵懒、好像对什么都不大感兴趣的样子。等到自己到了那个年纪也慢慢的成了那个样子，就完全懂了。

18. At the time, I didn't understand why a 40-year-old person would be so indifferent and lazy, as if he wasn't interested in anything. It wasn't until I reached that age and gradually became like that myself that I completely understood.

19. 社交活动是我们与他人之间的互动，我们无法对每个人的内心拥有充足的认识和把握，所以社交本身就包含着很多不确定性，这也意味着每个人都可能会出现困难、窘迫、甚至失败的情况，因此要对自己多一些包容和理解，不必用过高的要求来限制自己。

19. Social activities are interactions between us and others, and we cannot have a full understanding and grasp of the innermost thoughts of everyone, so social interactions inherently involve a lot of uncertainty. This also means that everyone may encounter difficulties, embarrassment, or even failures. Therefore, we should be more包容 and understanding towards ourselves, and not restrict ourselves with overly high expectations.

20. 你的一生中经历过许多人、停停走走、分分合合，都拿你要记住，最后留下的只有我。

20. Throughout your life, you have met many people, experienced starts and stops, separations and reunions. Remember, only I will remain at the end.

21. 内向和外向的差别在于心理能量指向的方向：内向者的能量指向内部，他们对内心世界的兴趣更大，所以他们通常更喜欢安静和独处。

21. The difference between introverts and extroverts lies in the direction of their psychological energy: introverts direct their energy inward, showing greater interest in the inner world, and therefore they usually prefer quiet and solitude.

22. 永远都不要强求自己，做好当下的事，一切尽力而为，对于自己可以抵达的高度，顺其自然吧。

22. Never force yourself to be more than you are, do your best in the present, and let nature take its course with the heights you can reach.

23. 22我想追求高山所追求的天空，达到长河所到达的海洋，拥有幽兰所拥有的气节，获取太阳所获取的豪气。于是我振臂高呼：“我要独立！”走向独立，我是不系之舟！走向独立，我是不羁之马！走向独立，我是不群的鹰隼！

23. 22 I wish to pursue the sky that the mountains aspire to, reach the ocean that the long rivers attain, possess the integrity that the delicate orchids embody, and acquire the grandeur that the sun acquires. Thus, I raise my arms and shout: "I want to be independent!" On the path to independence, I am a boat without a mooring! On the path to independence, I am a horse untamed! On the path to independence, I am an eagle that soars apart from the flock!

24. 我要不动声色地长大，要自己做所有决定，要自己一个人也过得很好，不再依赖任何人，不再轻易感动，不再诉苦抱怨，不再说出任何心里话，不再动任何感情。

24. I want to grow up without showing any emotion, making all my own decisions, living well on my own, no longer depending on anyone, no longer easily moved to tears, no longer complaining or whining, no longer revealing any inner thoughts, and no longer being moved by any emotions.

25. 不依赖别人 只相信自己

25. Independent of others, trust in oneself only.

26. 有的人表面一套，背后一套，阳奉阴违，这种人，你敢和他深交吗？

26. Some people act one way on the surface and another way in private, openly opposing what they secretly agree with. Are you brave enough to have a close friendship with such a person?

27. 女人最先衰老的往往不是容颜，而是那不顾一切地闯劲，不依赖别人，让自己永远对世界好奇，保持对生活的热爱，保持对未知的尝试，这是我对女人极致性感的定义

27. The aspect that often ages first in a woman is not her appearance, but rather that unyielding spirit that charges ahead without hesitation, not relying on others, keeping an eternal curiosity about the world, maintaining a passion for life, and embracing the attempt of the unknown. This is my definition of a woman's ultimate sensuality.

28. 以为会回到以前看来是我自作多情了 对不起 。

28. Thinking I would return to the past, I now realize it was all my own imagination. Sorry.

29. 有的人虽然独居、很少见人，但他们仍然在少量的社交中获得了满足；有的人虽然整天聚会，但却依然感到孤独。而且随着年龄的增长，人们对社交质量的要求会越来越超越对数量的要求。一项研究发现，相比于20岁时，30岁的人会更需要建立有意义的、重要的和亲密的 社会 连接(Carmichael Duberstein，

29. Some people, although they live alone and see few people, still find satisfaction in limited social interactions; others, although they are constantly attending gatherings, still feel lonely. Moreover, as people age, their demands for the quality of social interactions increasingly surpass the demand for quantity. A study found that, compared to when they were 20 years old, individuals at 30 years of age have a greater need to establish meaningful, significant, and intimate social connections (Carmichael & Duberstein,).

30. 依赖，某种程度上是种心理作用。因为在这个世界上，没有人谁离不开谁，也没有谁要靠谁。当你越来越独立，你不再需要任何人。因为曾经我需要依赖的时候，你不在。

30. Dependence, to some extent, is a psychological phenomenon. Because in this world, no one is indispensable to anyone else, and no one relies on anyone else. As you become more and more independent, you no longer need anyone. Because when I needed to depend on someone, you were not there.

31. 有些人之所以对社交感到焦虑和畏缩，可能与他们过去的经历有关。有些人曾经在共同场合中遭受过应激性、羞辱性的事件，或是有被虐待、被忽视的经验，比如在课堂上背诵课文磕磕巴巴，被老师责难，比如在家庭聚会上遭到父母公开的责骂等，这些负面事件会让当事人对人际关系感到不安全，并可能对某些特定的社交场合感到恐惧。

31. The anxiety and shyness some people feel towards socializing may be related to their past experiences. Some have suffered from stressful and embarrassing events in public settings, or have experienced abuse or neglect, such as stuttering while reciting a text in class and being scolded by the teacher, or being publicly reprimanded by their parents at family gatherings. These negative events can make the individuals feel insecure about interpersonal relationships and may cause fear of certain specific social situations.

32. 积极地学习、工作，充实的生活会减少人的不良情绪；

32. Actively learning and working, a fulfilling life will reduce people's negative emotions.

33. 你决定坚强、私立、不再依赖任何人，你就这样走了很久很久，忽然一脚踩空摔了一跤，你趴在地上哭了起来，不仅因为很疼，还因为你觉得永远都不会有人扶你起来了。

33. You decided to be strong, independent, and no longer dependent on anyone. You walked like that for a very long time, but suddenly, you stepped into an empty space and fell down, crying on the ground. Not only because it hurt a lot, but also because you felt that no one would ever help you get up.

34. 避免惰性的滋生，适当变换新的环境，新鲜事物会激发人的活力与潜能；

34. Avoid the breeding of inertia, appropriately change to a new environment, and new things will stimulate people's vitality and potential.

35. 有的人素质低下，讲话也是低俗，在你看来就是三观不合的人，你会和他有交集吗？

35. Some people have low quality and their speech is also vulgar. To you, they are people whose three views and values don't align. Would you have any交集 with them?

36. 你越不相信的东西，它越会发生 。。。。 是真的。

36. The more you don't believe in something, the more likely it is to happen... It's true.

37. 父母爱不爱你不重要，伴侣爱不爱你不重要，子女爱不爱你不重要，亲戚朋友爱不爱你不重要，唯一重要的就是自己爱自己，你失败了，挫折了，委屈了，不开心了，唯一可以渡你的，只有你自己，其他任何人都指望不上。如果你对任何人心怀指望，那你就错了，最后一定会为自己的错误买单。

37. It doesn't matter if your parents love you or not, if your partner loves you or not, if your children love you or not, if your relatives and friends love you or not. The only thing that matters is to love yourself. When you fail, face setbacks, feel aggrieved, or are unhappy, the only one who can help you through it is yourself. You can't rely on anyone else. If you place any hope on anyone else, you are wrong, and you will have to pay for your mistakes in the end.

38. 有时候在生活发生较大改变时，有些人也会对社交感到不安。因此生活的改变常常意味着新的 社会 角色，如果在之前的生活经历中，他们对新角色缺乏了解，他们很容易感到不适应，所以会在面对不确定性时采取退缩的姿态。

38. Sometimes, when there are significant changes in life, some people may also feel socially unease. Therefore, changes in life often mean new social roles. If, in their previous life experiences, they lack understanding of the new roles, they are prone to feeling out of place, and thus, they tend to retreat when faced with uncertainty.

39. 所以在我们状态不好的时候， 如果你希望自己独处，那尊重自己的选择 ， 如果你发现自己仍然在心灵深处有对关系对表达的渴望，那么你需要为自己的这份渴望付出行动 。

39. So when we are not in a good state, if you wish to be alone, respect your choice. If you find that deep down in your heart, you still have a desire for relationships and expression, then you need to take action to fulfill this desire of yours.

40. 16不累到极点，怎会懂的休息，不跌倒谷底，怎会寻找出路

40. If one is not exhausted to the extreme, how can they understand the need for rest? If one has not fallen to the bottom of the valley, how can they seek a way out?

41. 等待雨，是伞一生的宿命；等待你，是我一生的追求。

41. Waiting for the rain is the destiny of an umbrella; waiting for you is my lifelong pursuit.

42. 也就是说，他们已经否定打开自己的内心，面向世界的可能性。

42. That is to say, they have already denied the possibility of opening up their hearts to the world.

43. 于是 封闭关系就像是一个有点自暴自弃，孤独，但始终害怕与其他人靠近的状态 。

43. Thus, a closed relationship is like a state of somewhat self-righteousness, loneliness, but always afraid of getting too close to others.

44. 比如在人群中，自我意识强的人会觉得自己好像始终被“注视”着，觉得其他人在看着自己，所以他们特别在意自己的一举一动，无法真正放松下来，也就很难在人际互动中达到“忘我”的状态，也就很难享受到社交的乐趣。而万一发生了不太愉快的事，他们也更容易将事情归咎在自己身上。因此，自我意识强的人会刻意地减少参与社交，当自己独处时才会更放松 (Crozier, Russell，

44. For example, in a crowd, individuals with a strong sense of self-awareness may feel as though they are constantly being "watched," sensing that others are observing them. Therefore, they are particularly conscious of their every move, struggle to truly relax, and find it difficult to achieve a state of "forgetting oneself" in social interactions, making it hard to enjoy the pleasures of socializing. Moreover, if an unpleasant incident occurs, they are more likely to blame themselves. As a result, highly self-aware individuals may deliberately reduce their participation in social activities, feeling more relaxed only when they are alone (Crozier, Russell).

45. 你变得独立了，不再依赖任何人了就生活变得自由！ 有什么方法可以让自己的生活变得自由？

45. You have become independent and no longer depend on anyone, and your life has become free! What are some ways to make your life more free?

46. 未来还是要靠自己，不依赖别人，不抱怨现状。

46. In the future, one still has to rely on oneself, not depend on others, and not complain about the current situation.

47. 为什么对现在的年轻人来说，建立社交关系、参与社交活动变得如此困难？为什么明明内心有着社交的渴望，最后仍停留在自我封闭的状态里？怎样更好地调整状态，让自己能有效地建立社交关系？

47. Why has it become so difficult for young people today to establish social relationships and participate in social activities? Why do they end up staying in a state of self-isolation despite having a desire for social interaction? How can one better adjust their state to effectively build social relationships?

48. 这一次我一定要自我治愈，不再依赖转情任何人，希望我可以顺利的自我治愈。加油！

48. This time, I must definitely heal myself and no longer rely on transferring my feelings to anyone else. I hope I can heal myself smoothly. Keep up the good work!

49. 如果世界上没有了爱情，那么多好。/suanming/huangli/

49. If there was no love in the world, that would be so much better. /suanming/huangli/

50. 第二杯半价 不用，我一个人

50. Half price for the second cup? No, I'll be fine on my own.

51. 另外，人们在社交媒体上常常更在乎自我展示，对自己进行一定的美化，遮掩真实的自我状态，一方面增强了 社会 对比和同辈压力，另一方面也让人与人之间更真实的信息交互和人际交流变得困难。

51. Additionally, on social media, people often place more emphasis on self-presentation, beautifying themselves to some extent, and concealing their true self-states. On one hand, this has intensified social comparisons and peer pressure. On the other hand, it also makes it more difficult for people to engage in genuine information exchange and interpersonal communication.

52. 多参加跑步、爬山等户外运动，使自己拥有 健康 的身心。

52. Participate in outdoor activities such as running and hiking more often to maintain a healthy body and mind.

53. 不要选择那个更好的人，而要选择那个能把你变好的人

53. Don't choose the better person, choose the one who can make you better.

54. 不要觉得自我封闭是一种错，也不要在乎别人怎么看你，自己活得开心是最重要的。

54. Don't think of self-isolation as a mistake, and don't care about what others think of you. Living a happy life is the most important.

55. 你一定有过这样的时候吧，想要倾诉，却发现身边无人。所以，你习惯了孤独，学会了坚强。 不再依赖任何人。

55. You must have had such a time when you wanted to confide, but found no one around. So, you got used to solitude, and learned to be strong. No longer dependent on anyone.

56. 不依赖别人，是现阶段要努力的点你也可以说这是我的矫情

56. Not depending on others is the point we should strive for at this stage. You can also say this is my pretension.

57. 从今天起所有的困难委屈打碎了咽到肚子里不再向任何人展现自己的脆弱，不再依赖任何人也不再需要任何人。

57. From today on, all difficulties and grievances are swallowed down, no longer showing anyone my vulnerability, no longer depending on anyone, and no longer needing anyone.

58. 治愈自我封闭的办法只有一个，那就是接受自我封闭。

58. The only way to cure self-isolation is to accept it.

59. 虽然封闭自我看上去就像是一件不好的事情，但你的意愿是怎样的，在这个时代我们很看重心灵的自由， 如果我们要强迫自己必须要心灵打开，如果我们要求自己必须要关系融洽，这种自我的强迫感会让我们疲惫而有压力 。

59. Although shutting oneself off seems like a bad thing, what is your will? In this era, we greatly value the freedom of the soul. If we force ourselves to open up emotionally, if we demand that we must have harmonious relationships, this sense of self-imposition will make us tired and stressed.

60. 说起社交，我们很容易想到的是聚餐、派对、唱K等等，但实际上有些社交方式是安静的、舒适的，因为社交的本质是人与人之间的互动，互动的方式有很多，不要总是盯着那些常见的、固定的社交方式。比如你可以和对方商量更合适自己的方式，是两个人选择僻静的小店，还是一起约到湖边散步，甚至不必出门以长篇幅的消息或邮件进行更深入的交流和互动(Alboher,

60. When it comes to socializing, what often comes to mind are things like dinners, parties, karaoke, and so on. However, some social activities are quiet and comfortable. After all, the essence of social interaction is between people, and there are many different ways to interact. Don't always fixate on those common, fixed social activities. For example, you can discuss with the other person which method is more suitable for you, whether it's choosing a quiet little shop together or going for a walk by the lake, or even not having to go out at all to engage in more in-depth communication and interaction through lengthy messages or emails (Alboher,

61. 3我宁愿靠自己的力量，打开我的前途，而不愿求有力者垂青。雨果

61. I would rather open my own future with my own strength than seek favor from the powerful. Victor Hugo

62. 以后的人生我一定会百分之百为自己负责，不再依赖任何人。而我也要成为飘的坚强后盾。我在一天，就必为她遮风挡雨。

62. In the future, I will definitely take full responsibility for myself to 100%, no longer depending on anyone. And I also want to become the strong support for the drifting. As long as I am there, I will definitely shield her from the wind and rain.

63. 31女孩子不需要明白太多的道理，只要知道体重越来越轻，钱包越来越鼓，自己越来越开心就好。

63. 31. Girls don't need to understand too many truths, as long as they know that their weight is getting lighter, their wallets are getting fuller, and they are getting happier.

64. 今天开始我不再依赖任何人了，有依赖就有期待，不喜欢这样的自己。

64. Starting today, I no longer depend on anyone. Dependence brings expectations, and I don't like this version of myself.

65. 突破封闭想法的关键在于增加自己内在的弹性和灵活 ，所以这个过程很像是我们从 一个紧绷的僵化的状态当中，变成一个比较灵动的，轻松的像是一个喜剧演员 。

65. The key to breaking through fixed ideas lies in increasing one's inner resilience and flexibility, so this process is very much like transitioning from a state of tension and rigidity to a more dynamic and relaxed state, akin to that of a comedic actor.