拥抱自我，独立自主：追寻内心满足的生活之道

Embrace yourself, be independent: Seek the path to a life of inner satisfaction

1. 当自己的情绪和别人的情绪对比的时候，先解决自己的情绪，再考虑别人的情绪，不要因为别人而压抑自己的情绪。

1. When comparing one's own emotions with others', prioritize resolving one's own emotions first, and then consider the emotions of others. Do not suppress one's own emotions because of others.

2. 如果你总是因为各种各样的事情而闹别扭，那么，纵然命运多么一帆风顺，也不可能让你感受到生活的幸福和满足。所以心态第一，稳住自己的情绪，是一个人最重要的修行。

2. If you always have a grudge over various things, then, even if fate is as smooth as can be, it is impossible for you to feel the happiness and satisfaction of life. Therefore, maintaining a positive mindset and keeping your emotions in check is the most important practice for a person.

3. 你越是敢想敢干，风风火火，雷厉风行，杀伐决断，别人就越是敬佩你，畏惧你，喜欢你，欣赏你。你越是吞吞吐吐，畏畏缩缩，扭扭捏捏，怕这怕那，别人就越是欺负你，霸凌你，鄙视你，拿捏你。

3. The more daring you are in thinking and acting, the more energetic and decisive you are, the more others will admire you, fear you, like you, and appreciate you. The more hesitant and timid you are, the more people will bully you, harass you, look down upon you, and manipulate you.

4. 不要对任何人有依赖情结，凡事靠自己，也不要想着去帮助和支持别人，每个人都有自己的因果和命运，你往别人那里伸手，必然沾染别人的因果，扰乱了天道，将会背负别人的命运。

4. Do not develop dependence on anyone. Rely on yourself in all matters, and do not think about helping or supporting others. Everyone has their own karma and destiny. If you reach out to others, you will inevitably be entangled in their karma, disrupt the natural order, and bear the burden of others' destiny.

5. 各人自扫门前雪，莫管他人瓦上霜！这不是一种自私，而是遵守天道！

5. Each person should tend to their own doorstep snow, and not meddle with the frost on others' tiles! This is not selfishness, but adherence to the laws of nature!

6. 人活着，就图一个高兴。

6. People live just to seek happiness.

7. 谦让是好事，但是过度的谦让就是怂蛋了。

7. Humility is a good thing, but excessive humility is just wimpiness.

8. 我们首先要学会善待自己，没有必要为了顾及别人的情绪而委曲求全。尊重自己的人，也反馈给他尊敬，看不起自己的人，又何必以热脸贴冷屁股。

8. We first need to learn to treat ourselves well, and there is no need to make sacrifices to cater to others' emotions. Respect yourself and also show respect in return; if someone looks down upon themselves, why should they put a warm face against a cold buttock?

9. 世事千帆过，前方终会是温柔和月光。与万事言和，与独行相安，自律，自醒，自清。”

9. Through the myriad of life's journeys, ahead lies gentleness and moonlight. Make peace with all things, live in harmony with solitude, be self-disciplined, self-aware, and self-purified.

10. 这是一个狼多肉少的世界，如果你不勇敢的去争取自己的利益，就会被别人压榨和压迫，成为底层里最可怜的人。

10. This is a world where there are more wolves than meat, and if you don't bravely fight for your own interests, you will be exploited and oppressed by others, becoming the most pitiful person at the bottom.

11. 我有一位同事，对飞扬跋扈的领导非常不满意，就在大办公室里骂骂咧咧。有好心的同事提醒他，小心有人给领导传话。同事回应道：“如果我不骂，我心里憋着不高兴。我骂了，领导不高兴。宁可领导不高兴，也绝不允许自己不高兴。”

11. I have a colleague who is very dissatisfied with his overbearing boss and has been cursing and grumbling in the large office. Some well-meaning colleagues reminded him to be careful about someone passing on his words to the boss. The colleague responded, "If I don't curse, I feel upset inside. If I do curse, the boss gets upset. I would rather the boss be upset than let myself be upset."

12. 人生短短几十年，忽聚忽散，忽生忽死，就像蝼蚁一样，我们何必把自己活成别人思想和价值观的囚徒，不要在乎任何人对自己的任何看法，怎么开心就怎么过，怎么潇洒就怎么活，讨好自己，不问他人。

12. Life is but a few decades short, constantly gathering and dispersing, constantly being born and dying, just like ants. Why should we live ourselves into prisoners of others' thoughts and values? Don't care about any opinions others have of you. Live as you wish to be happy and live freely as you wish. Please yourself and don't ask others.

13. 一段非常通透的话：

13. A very transparent statement:

14. “万事不如意，睡得着就过得去。凡事先讨好自己，至于别人，分交情，看心情。人人都有苦衷，事事都有无奈，不要羡慕别人的辉煌，也不要嘲笑别人的不幸，晨起暮落，是日子，奔波忙碌，才是人生。

14. "Nothing goes as planned, but as long as you can sleep well, you can get through it. Always please yourself first, and as for others, it depends on your relationship and mood. Everyone has their own sorrows, and every matter has its helplessness. Don't envy others' brilliance, nor mock others' misfortunes. The rising and setting of the sun is just the passage of time, but it is the hustle and bustle of life that truly defines it."

15. 应该争取的利益，一定要当仁不让。不属于自己的好处，也不必羡慕嫉妒恨。不要为了照顾别人的利益诉求，而放弃了自己合理、合法、合情的诉求，那样不会赢得别人的尊重和感激，只会让别人看不起你。

15. One must assertively pursue the interests that one should definitely claim. One does not need to envy or harbor resentment for benefits that do not belong to oneself. Do not give up your reasonable, legal, and emotionally justified claims in order to cater to others' interests, as this will not earn respect and gratitude from others; instead, it will only make others look down on you.

16. 比如一个人犯下很大的罪过，上天要惩罚他，给他降下了灾难，你如果看着他可怜，帮助他化解了这场灾难，那么，上天的惩罚将落在哪里呢，天道的威严又如何捍卫呢？

16. For instance, if a person commits a great sin and heaven decides to punish him, bringing down disasters upon him, if you see him in a pitiful state and help him to resolve this disaster, where will heaven's punishment fall? How can the majesty of the Tao be upheld?

17. 照顾好自己的情绪，给自己一份好心情，生活才可能阳光灿烂。

17. Take care of your own emotions, give yourself a good mood, and life may shine brightly.

18. 生命是一条孤独的河流，只有自己才是人生的摆渡。

18. Life is an solitary river, and only oneself can be the ferryman of one's life.

19. 没有原则的善良，只会被别人得寸进尺。没有底线的软弱，只会被他人任意拿捏。

19. Benevolence without principles will only be taken advantage of by others. Weakness without limits will only be manipulated at will by others.