1. 管不住自己的人，注定在颓废和懒散之中一事无成。

1. Those who cannot control themselves are doomed to achieve nothing in a life of decadence and laziness.

2. 业精于勤而荒于嬉，行成于思而毁于随。一个人只有高度自律，才能够摒弃生命中的负能量，不断修行自己，升级能力，创造出自己想要的生活。

2. One becomes skilled through diligence and proficient through leisure, and one's character is shaped by thought but destroyed by carelessness. Only with a high degree of self-discipline can a person discard the negative energy in life, constantly cultivate themselves, upgrade their abilities, and create the life they desire.

3. 而最好的自律，就是不搞女人，不理烂人，不管别人。

3. The best form of self-discipline is to avoid women, ignore the bad guys, and not care about others.

4. 金瓶梅开篇有一首戒色诗：

4. The opening of "The Plum in the Golden Vase" features a poem on the戒色, which is about abstaining from sexual desires.

5. 二八佳人体似酥，腰间仗剑斩凡夫。虽然不见人头落，暗里教君骨髓枯。

5. The perfect figure is like cream, with a sword at the waist slicing through the ordinary folk. Although you don't see heads falling, secretly it makes your bones dry up.

6. 西门庆惹上了潘金莲，最后要了自己的命。色字头上一把刀，一个管不住下半身的人，轻则被色欲掏空了身体，重则毁了性命。

6. Ximen Qing was entangled with Pan Jinlian and ultimately ended his own life. The character 'sex' is like a sword hanging over one's head. For a person who cannot control their lower body, they may be hollowed out by sexual desire, and in severe cases, it can destroy their life.

7. 中医认为，色欲是最耗费生命能量的事情，只有戒色，才能够保全住自己的能量，让自己延年益寿，健康长久。

7. According to traditional Chinese medicine, the desire for sensual pleasures is the most energy-draining activity. Only by refraining from such desires can one preserve their energy, thereby extending their lifespan and ensuring long-term health and longevity.

8. 我们一定要关注自己，把精力用在一些提高自己的事情上，不要对男女之事胡思乱想，蠢蠢欲动，浪费自己的肾精，伤害身体。

8. We must pay attention to ourselves and focus our energy on things that can improve ourselves. Do not indulge in idle thoughts about matters of the flesh, be restless, waste our kidney essence, and harm our bodies.

9. 肾精充盈了，精气神才会好。精气神好了，整个人的状态才会好。让自己每天都保持特别好的状态，神清气爽，龙精虎猛，活力四射，我们才能在风霜雨雪的世界上见招拆招。

9. When the kidney essence is full, one's vital energy and spirit will be good. With a good vital energy and spirit, the overall state of the person will be good. By maintaining an exceptionally good state every day, being alert and energetic, full of vitality, we can respond to the challenges of the world's harsh weather conditions, be it wind, frost, rain, or snow.

10. 作家苏苓说：“不要规劝，让他自己去悟；不要阻拦，让他自己去摔。人在执迷不悟的时候，一切温言善语都不起作用。只有彻骨的疼痛，才能让他凉醒。”

10. Writer Su Ling said, "Do not persuade, let him figure it out himself; do not obstruct, let him fall on his own. When a person is stubborn and does not see the truth, all soft words and kind sayings are ineffective. Only piercing pain can awaken him to his senses."

11. 生活中总有一些小人、烂人、垃圾人，他们自私自利，唯利是图，戾气很重，千万不要招惹他们。如果没有交集，那就远远地走开。如果生活或者工作不得不有交集，那就少说话，少跟他们发生纠纷，能让就让，能避就避，能躲就躲。

11. In life, there are always some small-minded, despicable, and trashy people. They are selfish and profit-oriented, carrying a lot of bitterness. Never provoke them. If there is no intersection, then keep a distance. If life or work forces you to have an intersection, then speak less, avoid disputes with them as much as possible, yield when you can, avoid when you can, and hide when you can.

12. 不要试图叫醒一个烂人，他不仅不愿意醒过来，还会把戾气发泄在你的身上，让你自取其辱，万劫不复。

12. Do not try to wake up a bad person. Not only is he unwilling to wake up, but he will also vent his anger on you, making you suffer shame and fall into an endless abyss.

13. 与恶龙缠斗，你也会变成恶龙，凝视深渊过久，深渊将回以凝视。

13. If you struggle with a evil dragon, you will also become an evil dragon. Gaze into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will gaze back at you.

14. 和烂人纠缠在一起，只会拉低你的素质和人品，让你也变成一个低层次的人。

14. Getting involved with bad people will only lower your character and integrity, making you become a person of low level as well.

15. 不理烂人， 是一个人最顶级的社交自律。

15. Ignoring the nonsense people is the highest level of social self-discipline for an individual.

16. 莫言说：“千万不要有任何改变别人的想法，你拯救不了任何人，你也改变不了任何人。

16. Mo Yan said: "Never try to change anyone's thoughts. You cannot save anyone, nor can you change anyone."

17. ​人，只能被自己改变，以后走任何的路，你只能控制你自己。

17. People can only be changed by themselves. In the future, no matter which path you take, you can only control yourself.

18. ​这世界上大部分的失落，都是因为我们自己没成为更好的自己，却奢求着别人成为更好的别人。”

18. Most of the losses in this world are because we haven't become a better version of ourselves, yet we are greedy for others to become a better version of themselves.

19. 每个人都有自己的因果和命运，你改变不了，也不要去改变，任何试图改变，都是违背天道的行为，一定会自食恶果。

19. Everyone has their own karma and destiny, which you cannot change and should not attempt to change. Any attempt to alter it goes against the laws of nature and will surely bring about bad consequences for oneself.

20. 让花成为花，让树成为树，让别人成为别人，让自己成为自己。一个人要撞南墙，就由他去撞，要走弯路，就让他去走，要吃苦头，就由他去吃，这些都是他命中注定的劫数，你不能阻止他渡劫，否则就必须要为他背负这个劫。

20. Let the flower be a flower, let the tree be a tree, let others be others, and let yourself be yourself. If a person wants to hit the south wall, let him go ahead and hit it; if he wants to take a detour, let him go ahead and take it; if he wants to endure hardships, let him go ahead and endure them. These are all the destined trials in his life. You cannot prevent him from overcoming these trials; otherwise, you will have to bear this trial for him.

21. 管自己是神，管别人是神经病。不要操心任何人的事情，哪怕你的父母亲人、子女伴侣，也要尊重他们自己的命运和选择。

21. Governing oneself is divine, governing others is a form of madness. Do not worry about anyone's affairs, not even your parents, relatives, children, or partners. Respect their own destiny and choices.

22. 生活已经给了我们太多压力，快让我们喘不过气了，我们最需要的是正能量，让自己在忙碌而且充满压力的情况下依然能激情慢慢的往前冲，看到负能量当然要远离，一个负能量的人整天在身边给你灌输的都是让人产生坏情绪的东西，是谁都有可能会抑郁。

22. Life has already given us too much pressure, it's almost suffocating us. What we most need is positive energy, to keep pushing forward with passion even when we are busy and under pressure. Of course, we should distance ourselves from negative energy. A negative person around you all day long is only spreading things that can make you feel bad, and anyone is susceptible to depression.

23. 其实，我挺讨厌这种人的，你不开心，心情低落的时候可以找朋友开导，但是不要自己情绪不稳定，别人的开导也听不进去，还不停的去影响别人，你负担得起吗？

23. Actually, I quite dislike such people. When you're not happy or feeling down, you can seek guidance from friends, but don't let your own emotions be unstable, and not be able to listen to others' advice. Moreover, you keep on affecting others. Can you bear the burden?

24. 我那个得了抑郁症的同事，当时跟我关心很好，他有很多负能量的想法，但我开导他，他能听进去，不会老是对我的话否定，比如他有妄想症的时候，去卫生间都会带着茶水杯，说怕有人趁自己不在的时候，会往自己的杯子里下毒害他，我当时虽然很震惊他有此想法，但还是心平气和的告诉他。

24. My colleague who has depression was very caring towards me at the time. He had many negative thoughts, but I was able to counsel him, and he was willing to listen. He wouldn't always negate what I said. For example, when he had delusions, he would even carry a teacup to the bathroom, saying that he was afraid someone would poison his cup while he was away. Although I was quite shocked by his thought at the time, I still calmly told him.

25. “人的本性都是善良的，害人也是要付出代价的，再说了，人家跟你有很大仇吗？”

25. "The nature of humans is inherently good, and there is a price to pay for harming others. Besides, do they even have a deep grudge against you?"

26. 他不吭声，慢慢的摇摇头，我把杯子从他手里接过来，问他。

26. He said nothing, slowly shook his head, and I took the cup from his hand, asking him.

27. 所以，当你有负能量的想法时，能够听进去他人的劝导，其实就不是很严重的事情，怕就怕自己满身的负能量情绪，却还不自知，还要把这种情绪带给别人。

27. Therefore, when you have negative thoughts, it's not a serious matter if you can listen to others' advice. The real fear is when you are filled with negative emotions but are not aware of it, and still bring this kind of emotion to others.

28. 如果你发现自己有抑郁症状，不要紧张，轻度的抑郁，是可以自己调节的，尽量少自己独处，与朋友聊天，出去玩，多接触大自然，多看些美好的事物，要听进去朋友的劝解，把你的心结告诉关系不错的人，是真朋友一定会帮助你走出来的。

28. If you find yourself with symptoms of depression, don't be anxious. Mild depression can be self-regulated. Try to spend less time alone, chat with friends, go out and play, more contact with nature, see more beautiful things, listen to your friends' advice, tell your innermost thoughts to someone you get along with well, and a true friend will definitely help you get through it.

29. 我离婚后的七年间，我和姐姐在杭州打工她一直向我灌输我娘家对我俩姐妹的不好，这七年我都是感觉打工没有希望，娘家又是绝望，我连家都没有了，天天都在绝望中度过，娘家又回不去，爸妈十几年前就过世，哥嫂就是娘家。天天都在谋划着怎么死，怎么疯狂后自杀，结果，我做到了，做了一件没有伤害到别人只伤害自己的疯狂事情，然后就割腕了，在死亡的边缘人是会大便失禁的，那是因为血流的差不多了身体机能就会失控。割腕前我还吃了大量安眠药。

29. For the seven years after my divorce, I worked in Hangzhou with my sister. During this time, she kept telling me about how bad my parents-in-law were to both of us sisters. For these seven years, I felt that there was no hope in working, and my parents-in-law were a source of despair. I didn't even have a home, spending every day in despair, unable to return to my parents-in-law's home. My parents had passed away over a decade ago, and my brother and sister-in-law were my only family left. Every day, I was planning how to die, how to go crazy and then commit suicide. In the end, I followed through, doing something crazy that only hurt myself and not others, and then I cut my wrists. At the edge of death, one can lose control of bodily functions, including the loss of bowel control, because the blood loss is significant enough to disrupt bodily functions. Before cutting, I had also taken a large amount of sleeping pills.

30. 你感觉到自己抑郁了，说明看到问题了，现在所要做的就是面对问题和解决问题。

30. You feel depressed, which means you have recognized the problem. Now what you need to do is to face the problem and solve it.

31. 果断离那个灌输负能量的朋友远点。近朱者赤近墨者黑，你跟负能量的朋友接触多了，无形之中，你也沾染了很多负能量，因为情绪是可以传染的。即使你是一个乐观积极向上的人，听的抱怨、唠叨多了，接受的负能量多了，你至少也会不开心。

31. Be decisive in keeping your distance from that friend who spreads negative energy. As the saying goes, "Near the red, one becomes red; near the black, one becomes black." The more you interact with negative friends, the more negative energy you will inevitably pick up, because emotions are contagious. Even if you are an optimistic and positive person, if you hear too many complaints and nagging, and absorb too much negative energy, at least you will not be happy.

32. 发掘自己的兴趣爱好，找一件自己喜欢的事儿，专注做下去。人的精力是有限的，当你全心全意去做一件事情，你是很难分心，很难受外界影响的。当你一直坚持做，将这件事做的很好很成功时，你的自信心会大大增强，这个时候那些负能量对你影响会减小。

32. Discover your own hobbies and interests, find something you like to do, and focus on doing it consistently. People have limited energy, and when you wholeheartedly immerse yourself in doing one thing, it is difficult to be distracted and resistant to external influences. As long as you persist and do this well, achieving great success, your self-confidence will greatly increase, and at this point, the negative energy will have less impact on you.