在纷繁复杂的世界中，我们常常被各种价值观念所包围。而一书，将带领我们深入探索断舍离的精髓，教我们如何从内心深处摆脱那些束缚我们的情感枷锁，拥抱更加自由、轻松的生活。

Amid the complex and chaotic world, we are often surrounded by various values and ideologies. A book will lead us to delve deep into the essence of decluttering and teaching us how to break free from the emotional shackles that bind us from the depths of our hearts, embracing a more free and relaxed life.

1. 高中时期的衣服都是统一的校服，没有看出贫困差距。人人都是平等的。但是大学时候有了穿衣自由，有许多同学就会穿价格不菲的衣服。相对于金钱不富裕的学生来说，内心是有些自卑的。长期处于这种情况下就会出现各种心理问题，我们需要做的是自我心理，暗示自己是优秀的。衣服只是外表，真正高贵的是自己的心灵。

1. During high school, everyone wore the same school uniforms, and there was no visible difference in poverty. Everyone was equal. However, in college, we had the freedom to choose our clothes, and many students would wear expensive clothes. Compared to students who were not well-off financially, they felt a bit inferior in their hearts. Long-term exposure to this situation can lead to various psychological problems. What we need to do is to reinforce our self-confidence, reminding ourselves that we are outstanding. Clothes are just a superficial aspect; what is truly noble is one's own spirit.

2. 远离那些在经济上消耗你的人，否则，你们的感情只会被对方利用，这段关系只会成为不断索取你，消耗你的关系。

2. Keep away from those who drain you economically. Otherwise, your feelings will only be exploited by the other person, and this relationship will only become a continuous process of taking from you and draining you.

3. 我们可以没有朋友， 但不能有消耗自己的假朋友，我们可以孤独终老，但不可以在乌七八糟的人际关系之中彻底沉沦。

3. We can do without friends, but we cannot have fake friends that drain us. We can grow old alone, but we cannot utterly sink into a mess of poor interpersonal relationships.

4. 降低逾期，“同事”是一种很脆弱的关系。什么是同事？简单来说就是一起共事的人，很多人会发现，处得很好的同事，一经离职、调岗、调离；慢慢地就失去了联系。还有就是平时的“铁哥们”，当发生直接利益竞争时，以前的关系可能瞬间分崩离析，所以我觉得，对于同事关系，还是顺其自然，一切随缘，平日里能帮忙就帮忙，不能帮就抱歉，平平淡淡，从从容容。

4. Reducing defaults, "colleague" is a very fragile relationship. What is a colleague? Simply put, it's someone you work with together. Many people find that when good colleagues leave their jobs, change positions, or are transferred, contact gradually fades away. There are also the "close friends" from daily life. When direct interest competition occurs, the previous relationship may collapse instantly. Therefore, I think that for the relationship between colleagues, it's best to go with the flow, let everything happen naturally. If you can help, do so; if you can't, apologize. Live a simple and calm life, with ease and composure.

5. 和一个情绪不稳定的人在一起，你也会变得不稳定，你的整个生命磁场都会受到影响， 手足无措，动荡不安。

5. Being with an emotionally unstable person will also make you unstable. Your entire life's energy field will be affected, leaving you at a loss and in a state of unrest.

6. 一个人最高级的断舍离，就是离开一切让你掉价的感情。

6. The highest level of decluttering for a person is to detach from all the feelings that devalue you.

7. 谁挣钱都不容易，借钱应急可以理解，但如果想通过借贷的方式把你的钱财占为己有，或者处心积虑的占便宜， 我们一定要远离这样的人，不能任由他无限度的索取自己。

7. It's not easy for anyone to make money. Borrowing money for emergencies is understandable, but if someone wants to take your money by borrowing or has a sinister intent to take advantage, we must definitely keep away from such people and not allow them to demand from us endlessly.

8. 不得罪、不偏袒，不要故意针对谁，工作的本身在于职责，并不是与仇人开战，不加入什么小团体，重心放在工作的质量和提升自我技能上面。

8. Do not offend or show favoritism, do not deliberately target anyone. The essence of work lies in responsibility, not in waging war against enemies. Do not join any small groups, and focus on the quality of work and the improvement of self-skills.

9. 你接近什么样的人，耳濡目染之下，就会变成什么样的人。

9. The kind of people you get close to, under the influence of constant exposure, will shape you into becoming that kind of person.

10. 有些人可能很有能力，可能与你同频共振，情投意合，但是素质特别低下，说话是污言秽语，行为上猥琐不恭，怎么看都是痞子做派，小人风格，烂人格调！

10. Some people may be very capable and might resonate with you on the same frequency, feeling emotionally aligned, but their素质 is particularly low. They use filthy language, behave in a sly and disrespectful manner, and no matter how you look at it, they exude a gangster-like demeanor, a style of pettiness, and a rotten personality!

11. 步入大学生活是会有些无助的，因为到处都是新同学离开了高中时候的舒适圈，我们需要重新的结交朋友。这个时候遇到困难就很容易产生抵触难过孤单的不良情绪。我们需要多与同学交流自己的内心，把自己的伤心发泄出来。俗话说，快乐分享给他人就会获得双倍快乐，痛苦分享给他人就会减半痛苦。

11. Entering college life can be somewhat helpless, as everywhere there are new classmates who have left the comfortable circle of high school and we need to make new friends. When encountering difficulties, it is easy to develop negative emotions such as resistance, sadness, and loneliness. We need to communicate more with our classmates about our inner thoughts and vent out our sadness. As the saying goes, sharing joy with others will double your happiness, and sharing pain with others will halve your pain.

12. 与恶龙缠斗，你也会变成恶龙。凝视深渊过久，深渊将回以凝视。

12. When you fight with a evil dragon, you will also become a evil dragon. Gaze into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will gaze back at you.

13. 学者梁宏达说，当你想要借钱给别人的时候，一定要有这样一个心理， 你已经不准备要回来了，因为借出去的钱大概率是要不回来的，你只有做好给的准备才能借钱出去。

13. Scholar Liang Hongda says, "When you want to lend money to others, you must have this mindset: you are not prepared to get it back, because there is a high probability that the money lent out will not be recovered. You can only lend out money if you are prepared to give it away."

14. 如果一个人情绪特别暴躁，或者起伏变化不定，那它就像一个不定时的炸弹，不知道什么时候就会危害到你的安全。况且这种情绪就像一个黑洞，可以把你吸附进去，吞噬掉，毁灭掉，暗无天日，万劫不复。

14. If someone is particularly irritable or their mood fluctuates unpredictably, it's like a time bomb, never knowing when it might threaten your safety. Moreover, such an emotion is like a black hole, which can suck you in, consume you, and destroy you, leaving you in darkness and eternal suffering.

15. 人为财死，鸟为食亡。

15. A man dies for money, a bird dies for food.

16. 拒绝标签化社交，生活中不难发现，一旦我们对别人贴上标签，那不免形成偏见，而且很可能一提到这个人，你就睡气得牙痒痒，从心理学上说，这种偏见叫“证实偏差”。就比如，你听别人说xx同事会打小报告，你就觉得他会打小报告，虽然他没有打过小报告，但你跟他相处就觉得他会打小报告，评价一个人要动态评论，不要让标签化毁了你们的关系。

16. Refuse to label social interactions. It is not difficult to find in life that once we label someone, it is inevitable to form biases. Moreover, it is likely that when you mention this person, you feel irked and your teeth are itching. Psychologically speaking, this bias is called "confirmation bias." For example, if you hear that a colleague of yours likes to report others, you may think he will do so. Although he has never done so before, you feel that he will when you interact with him. When evaluating a person, you should make dynamic comments, and do not let labeling destroy your relationship.

17. 高尚是高尚者的墓志铭，卑鄙是卑鄙者的通行证。活在这个世界上，我们可以没有什么惊天动地的成就， 但一定要守住自己的底线和良知，拥有一定的道德操守。如果有一个人道德品质特别低下，你必须要及时远离，不能让他在精神领域对你造成玷污和污染。

17. Nobility is the epitaph of the noble, and baseness is the passport of the despicable. Living in this world, we may not achieve anything spectacular, but we must definitely uphold our own bottom line and conscience, and possess a certain moral integrity. If there is a person with particularly low moral品质, you must distance yourself from them in a timely manner, and not allow them to stain and pollute your spiritual realm.

18. 从高中三年的封闭式管理进入稍微开放的大学生活，有许多学生是不适应的。她们不适应的不仅仅是节奏紧凑的学习生活，更不适应的是可以自由交流情感的表达方式。这也造成了许多大学生一直存在着心结。下面我们来谈一谈如何解决大学生的情感问题？

18. From the three years of closed management in high school to the somewhat open university life, many students are not adapted to it. What they are not adapted to is not only the intensive study life but also the way of expressing emotions that allows for free communication. This also causes many university students to have lingering emotional knots. Let's talk about how to solve the emotional problems of university students below.

19. 当我们产生彷徨无助孤单抑郁等不好的心情的时候，我们需要转移自己的注意力。例如我们可以去打游戏或者把自己投入到学习当中去，来分散自己的注意力。从而把自己从悲伤的情绪中带出来。我们不要把悲伤过度扩大，也不能忽视悲伤任由它发展。我们需要做的是正视他，然后努力的解决它，或者是削弱负面情绪的产生。

19. When we experience feelings of confusion, helplessness, loneliness, and depression, we need to shift our focus. For example, we can play games or immerse ourselves in studying to distract ourselves. This helps us pull ourselves out of the sadness. We shouldn't exaggerate our sadness or ignore it and let it develop unchecked. What we need to do is to confront it, and then strive to solve it, or to weaken the generation of negative emotions.

20. 一位作家说，一段很坏的关系，不仅消耗你的能量，还会把你的感情，你的生命力，你的动力，你身体的种种机能都一点点耗尽。

20. A writer said, a very bad relationship not only consumes your energy but also gradually drains your emotions, vitality, motivation, and various functions of your body.

21. 敬而远之，对于那种人品有问题，爱占小便宜，天天嚼舌根的，这种人到哪里都会有矛盾，这种人就不要想着改变他，自己也改不了、改不完、也没必要，这种人就减少交集，躲着点就好，避免私交，对于这种人就是不得罪，不闹僵，“万事留一线，日后好相见”，不走近，毕竟眼不见为净嘛。

21. Keep a respectful distance from those who have problematic character, love to take advantage of small things, and constantly gossip. Such people will always be involved in conflicts wherever they go. Don't even think about trying to change them; you can't change them completely, and it's not necessary. Just reduce your interactions with them, keep your distance, avoid personal relationships, and don't provoke or escalate with them. "Keep a thread open for future encounters," as the saying goes. Don't get too close, after all, out of sight is out of mind.

22. 君子乐得做君子，小人枉自做小人。

22. A gentleman enjoys being a gentleman, while a small person is in vain for being a small person.

23. 不管是爱情，还是友情，如果对方的道德品质不过关，那你一定要和他划清界限， 哪怕付出一些经济成本，也在所不惜。

23. Whether it's love or friendship, if the other person's moral quality is not up to scratch, you must draw a clear line between you and them, even if it means incurring some economic costs, you should not hesitate.

24. 我们要远离一切在情绪上侵蚀自己的人，让自己始终乐观豁达，积极向上。

24. We should keep away from everyone who emotionally wears us down, and always maintain an optimistic and open-minded attitude, striving to be positive and upward-looking.

25. 大学生的情感问题也是非常严重的，我们需要时时刻刻的关心他给他最多的尊重和包容。不要觉得大学生情感问题是个小事情，它是会严重影响到学生的身心健康发展。我们需要尊重他们并且呵护他们，这样他们才能在大学期间度过美好的4年。

25. Emotional issues among university students are also very serious, and we need to show constant concern, giving them the utmost respect and tolerance. Do not think of the emotional issues of university students as trivial matters; they can severely affect the physical and mental health development of the students. We need to respect and care for them so that they can enjoy a wonderful four-year period during their university years.

26. 乐嘉曾说，凡是跟你伸手借钱的人都不值得交往，不是骗子，就是无能之辈。你把钱借给他，唤不起他对你的真实和感恩，对方只会觉得你好忽悠，好单纯， 产生一种可以轻松拿捏你的成就感。

26. Le Jia once said, anyone who asks you for a loan is not worth getting to know, either a fraud or an incompetent person. If you lend him money, it can't唤起他对你的真诚和感激之情， the other party will only feel that you are easy to deceive, naive, and feel a sense of achievement that they can easily manipulate you.

27. 近朱者赤，近墨者黑。

27. "Those who keep company with the red will turn red, and those who keep company with the black will turn black."

28. 理性待人，待事、说话做事不带有任何情绪，公事公办，不说别人坏话，不打别人小报告，懂得拒绝，不要苦了自己，快乐了别人，对待自己不认同的事，不轻易的做出评价，不传谣，不信谣，不贬低别人。

28. Treat people and things rationally, speak and act without any emotions, handle official matters professionally, do not talk negatively about others, do not snitch on others, know how to refuse, do not suffer for others' happiness, and do not easily make judgments about things you disagree with. Do not spread rumors, do not believe in rumors, and do not belittle others.

29. 能力范围内礼仪待人，尽量展现友好和利他，对于同事，能帮就帮，一些无伤大雅的小利让就让了，礼仪待人，懂规矩，打造自己的职业口碑。

29. Treat others with etiquette within your capabilities, try to show friendliness and altruism, help your colleagues whenever possible, let go of minor benefits that do not harm the situation, be polite, understand the rules, and build your own professional reputation.

30. 一个人最大的财富就是情绪稳定。

30. The greatest wealth of a person is emotional stability.