在浩瀚的自律至高境界中，保持谦逊，避免自我膨胀与贬低他人，是我们永恒的追求。

In the boundless realm of self-discipline, to maintain humility, avoid self-inflation and belittling others, is our eternal pursuit.

1. 《百年孤独》写道：“这个世界上但凡有人群聚集的地方，所谈论的话题无外乎三个，拐弯抹角地炫耀自己，添油加醋地贬低别人，互相窥探地搬弄是非。”

1. "One Hundred Years of Solitude" states: "In this world, wherever there are gatherings of people, the topics of conversation are usually three: cunningly boasting about oneself, embellishing others to belittle them, and spreading rumors by snooping around."

2. 一个人只有提升自己的思想境界，增进修养，才能克服这三大劣根性。守住心，管住嘴，就是养好了生命中的上等风水。

2. One must elevate their level of thought and cultivate self-improvement in order to overcome these three root vices. Keeping a firm hold on one's heart and controlling one's mouth is the way to cultivate the superior feng shui in life.

3. 古话说：“木秀于林，风必摧之。堆出于岸，流必湍之。”一个人如果总显得高高在上，与众不同，一定会受到众人的觊觎，嫉妒和嫌弃，没有什么好结果。

3. As an old saying goes: "When a tree stands out among the forest, the wind will surely摧 (destroy) it. When a heap is raised above the bank, the stream will certainly 湍 (rush) over it." If a person always appears to be elevated and different from others, they are sure to be coveted, envied, and disliked by everyone, leading to no good outcome.

4. 明朝成化年间，江南四大才子之首的唐伯虎进京参加会试。在考前的一次聚会上，他对着众多考生大放厥词，声称状元非自己莫属。这让大家面面相觑，第二天就有人到朝廷告发，说唐伯虎事先知道考题，有舞弊之嫌。朝廷当即把唐伯虎逮捕入狱，并严禁他科考入仕。

4. During the Chenghua period of the Ming Dynasty, Tang Buqu, the leading talent among the Four Great Scholars of Jiangnan, went to the capital to participate in the imperial examination. At a gathering before the exam, he boldly declared to the many candidates that the position of the top scholar, the zhuangyuan, was his for the taking. This left everyone looking at each other in astonishment. The next day, someone reported to the court that Tang Buqu had prior knowledge of the exam questions and was suspected of cheating. The court immediately arrested Tang Buqu and strictly prohibited him from taking the civil service exams.

5. 一次炫耀，丢了前程，让人遗憾。

5. Once there was a show-off, who lost his future prospects, and it is truly regrettable.

6. 项羽进入关中后，有人劝他在此建都，因为这里据山川之险，有帝王之气，可以统揽九州，威慑群雄。但项羽却说，我如今富贵了，就应该到家乡父老面前炫耀炫耀。要不然就像穿着锦衣在黑夜里行走，有什么意思呢。

6. After Xiang Yu entered Guanzhong, some people advised him to establish his capital here, as it was surrounded by mountains and rivers, exuding an imperial aura, which could enable him to dominate the nine provinces and intimidate the heroes. However, Xiang Yu replied, "Now that I am rich and famous, I should show off to my hometown's people and elders. Otherwise, what's the point of wearing brocade clothes and walking in the dark?"

7. 为了表达自己的炫耀欲，项羽放弃关中，给后来的失败埋下伏笔。

7. In order to express his desire for showmanship, Xiang Yu abandoned Guanzhong, thereby laying the groundwork for his later defeat.

8. 人的价值，只有在人群中才能显现。每个人都希望自己能高人一头，获得别人的欣赏和尊重。可自发的炫耀，处处显示自己的优越感，就是在某种程度上压低别人，突出自己，只会让别人反感，给自己找不痛快。

8. The value of a person can only be realized among others. Everyone hopes to stand out and gain others' appreciation and respect. However, if one boasts spontaneously and constantly displays their sense of superiority, it is to some extent lowering others and highlighting oneself, which will only make others feel resentful and bring oneself discomfort.

9. 不炫耀自己，是一种修养。是对别人的尊重，也是真正的自尊。

9. Not showing off is a form of cultivation. It is a sign of respect for others and true self-respect.

10. 一个有涵养的人，不会揭别人的短，挖苦别人的缺陷，不会通过贬低别人，来彰显自己的优越。贬低别人，其实是无知和狭隘的表现。

10. A person of cultivation will not expose others' shortcomings, mock others' defects, nor seek to highlight their own superiority by belittling others. To belittle others is actually a manifestation of ignorance and narrow-mindedness.

11. 《三国演义》中，诸葛亮离开荆州前，告诉关羽防守荆州的八字诀：“东和孙权，北抗曹操。”然而关羽心高气傲，根本不把东吴看在眼里。孙权为了结好关羽，想和关羽做儿女亲家，让自己的儿子迎娶关羽的女儿，哪知关羽对孙权极为藐视，竟说，老虎的女儿怎能嫁给犬子呢？

11. In the "Romance of the Three Kingdoms," before Zhuge Liang left Jingzhou, he told Guan Yu the eight-character slogan for defending Jingzhou: "East with Sun Quan, North against Cao Cao." However, Guan Yu was proud and arrogant, and he didn't take the Eastern Wu seriously at all. In order to get along well with Guan Yu, Sun Quan wanted to become his son-in-law, having his son marry Guan Yu's daughter. But to his surprise, Guan Yu looked down upon Sun Quan immensely and even said, "How can the daughter of a tiger marry the son of a dog?"

12. 吕蒙和陆逊相继做东吴的都督，关羽都不以为意，他把吕蒙视为没什么本事的病秧子，把陆逊看做呆头呆脑的书呆子。结果，关羽在和曹军作战的时候，被这两个他看不起的人算计，抄了他的后路，夺取荆州，关羽也被擒杀。

12. Lu Meng and Lu Xun successively served as the commanders of the Eastern Wu. Guan Yu did not take them seriously. He regarded Lu Meng as a weakling with no real talent and considered Lu Xun to be a naive bookworm. As a result, when Guan Yu was fighting against the Cao army, he was outwitted by these two people he looked down upon, who ambushed him from behind and seized Jingzhou. Guan Yu was captured and killed as well.

13. 每个人都有优势，也都有缺陷和不足。我们不要因为自己拥有某一方面的优势，就洋洋自得，和别人的不足比较，自以为了不起，这其实是一种愚蠢。

13. Everyone has strengths, as well as weaknesses and shortcomings. We should not be complacent because we have an advantage in a certain area, comparing it with others' shortcomings and thinking ourselves extraordinary. This is actually a form of foolishness.

14. 歌德说：“我尊重每一个独立的灵魂，虽然有些我并不认同，但会尽可能地去理解。”每个灵魂都是值得尊重的，都有自己独特的光芒。不随意贬低别人，是一种涵养，一种境界。

14. Goethe said, "I respect every independent soul, even though some I may not agree with, I will try to understand them as much as possible." Every soul is worthy of respect and has its own unique light. Not belittling others at will is a cultivation and a realm.

15. 《增广贤文》说：“来说是非者，便是是非人。”

15. The "Addition to the Exemplary Sayings" states: "He who speaks of others' affairs is a person of affairs."

16. 一个喜欢搬弄是非的人，心思阴险，工于算计，惯于用语言中伤和陷害他人，属于防不胜防的小人。

16. A person who loves to meddle in others' affairs, with cunning thoughts and adept at calculating, is accustomed to using words to wound and陷害 others, and belongs to a cunning person who is hard to defend against.

17. 曾国藩组建湘军之时，帐下缺少文案师爷，这时一个叫鲍玉升的人前来应聘。鲍玉升原是湖南巡抚衙门的师爷，文笔隽秀，才情兼茂，是文案师爷的不二人选。曾国藩就和鲍玉升闲聊起来，得知他是因为和巡抚衙门另一名师爷左宗棠有矛盾，才离职来此，就向他询问起左宗棠的一些情况。

17. When Zeng Guofan was organizing the Xiang Army, he was short of a literary aide. At this time, a man named Bao Yusheng came to apply for the position. Bao Yusheng was originally a literary aide in the office of the Hunan Governor, with elegant writing and abundant talent, making him the ideal candidate for a literary aide. Zeng Guofan started chatting with Bao Yusheng casually and learned that he had resigned due to a conflict with another literary aide, Zuo Zongtang, in the governor's office. He then inquired about some details of Zuo Zongtang.

18. 哪知鲍玉升说起左宗棠，就怒从心头起，把他说得一无是处。不如不学无术，献媚取宠，为非作歹等等。鲍玉升不知道的是，曾国藩和左宗棠是好友，对彼此的心性和为人早已熟悉。听了鲍玉升的话后，曾国藩赶走了他，他不愿意接受一个搬弄是非的小人在自己身边。

18. But Bao Yusheng, when he spoke of Zuo Zongtang, his anger flared up and he spoke of him as having no virtues at all. He criticized him for being unlearned and unskilled, for flattering others to gain favor, and for doing evil deeds, etc. What Bao Yusheng did not know was that Zeng Guofan and Zuo Zongtang were close friends, and they were already familiar with each other's character and conduct. After hearing Bao Yusheng's words, Zeng Guofan sent him away, unwilling to keep a meddler and a mischief-maker close to him.

19. 舌头最柔软，但又是最锋利的武器，能伤人、杀人于无形。任何一个群体，一旦出现搬弄是非的人，就会互相猜疑，埋怨，敌对，从而陷入无休无止的内耗之中。

19. The tongue is the softest yet the sharpest weapon, capable of harming and killing without leaving a trace. In any group, once there is someone who spreads rumors and mischief, suspicion, complaint, and enmity will arise among members, leading to endless internal strife.

20. 不搬弄是非，是一个人最好的社交自律，也是一种教养。

20. Not spreading rumors is the best social self-discipline for a person, and it is also a sign of upbringing.

21. 而人际关系的烦恼，绝大多数都是语言引起的。

21. The vast majority of烦恼 in interpersonal relationships are caused by language.

22. 正所谓：“是非只为多开口，烦恼皆因强出头。”

As the saying goes: "The reason for disputes is merely because people open their mouths too much, and troubles come from pushing themselves forward too strongly."

23. 人生最顶级的自律，就是提升自己的格局和修养，管住自己的嘴，不炫耀自己，不贬低别人，不搬弄是非。

23. The highest level of self-discipline in life is to elevate one's character and修养, to control one's tongue, not to boast about oneself, not to belittle others, and not to meddle in other people's affairs.

24. 在社交中，懂得谦卑，顾及别人的体面，说正派话，做正派人，就会越来越被人喜欢，越过越好。

24. In social interactions, if one understands humility, respects others' dignity, speaks decently, and behaves properly, they will be increasingly liked and lead a better life.

25. 第一，低调做人，是一种谦逊智慧的人生态度。它上善若水，善于处下，善于避让，善于调和，善利万物而不争，目标专一而不改；它海纳百川，有容乃大，取人之长，容人之短，见贤思齐，见不贤能自省，不断积累，充实自我；它知敬知畏，尊重自然，尊重生命，尊重他人，也尊重自己，以谦恭的态度对待一切，行事有度，懂得节制，知道谦让；它懂大局，会团结，能合作，虚心听取不同意见，热心为别人服务，是人们心中的公仆等等。

25. Firstly, being modest in one's demeanor is an attitude of life that embodies humility and wisdom. It is as good as water, adept at staying in the lower position, skilled in avoiding conflict, good at reconciliation, and benefits all things without contention, with a focused and unchanging goal; it embraces the vastness of rivers and seas, and is magnanimous, taking the strengths of others, tolerating their weaknesses, aspiring to be as virtuous as the virtuous, and being able to reflect on oneself when encountering the unvirtuous; it knows respect and awe, respecting nature, life, others, and oneself, treating everything with a humble attitude, acting with moderation, understanding self-restraint, and knowing when to yield; it understands the big picture, knows how to unite, can cooperate, is open to different opinions, is eager to serve others, and is regarded as a public servant in the hearts of people, etc.

26. 第二，高调做事，是一种积极有为的精神状态和责任担当。它如宇宙，周而复始，刚健运行，驰而不息，化育万物，从不间断，从不辍止；它如太阳，发光发热，热情燃烧，放射能量，驱散黑暗，照耀世界，积极奉献，不图回报，不谋私利；它像大地，托起山河，承载万物，孕育生命，坚强不屈，自强自立，气度恢宏，善于担当；它像一团火焰善于燃烧，它像一座高山善于挺立，它像一棵大树善于生长，它像一只雄鹰善于翱翔，它像一朵鲜花善于绽放，它像一把利剑善于披荆斩棘等等。

26. Secondly, doing things with high profile is a positive, proactive state of mind and a sense of responsibility. It is like the universe, which operates in cycles, vigorous and ever-moving, ceaselessly nurturing all things, without interruption, without cessation; it is like the sun, shining and radiating heat, burning with passion, releasing energy, dispelling darkness, illuminating the world, actively contributing without seeking returns, without pursuing personal gains; it is like the earth, supporting mountains and rivers, bearing all things, nurturing life, strong and unyielding, self-reliant, with a magnanimous demeanor and a readiness to take on responsibilities; it is like a flame that excels in burning, like a high mountain that excels in standing firm, like a large tree that excels in growing, like an eagle that excels in soaring, like a flower that excels in blooming, like a sharp sword that excels in clearing the way through thorny paths, and so on.

27. 具体来说，为人低调，不是自我贬低，也不是自暴自弃，自甘堕落，无所作为，而是能够正确认识自己，摆正位置，团结他人，善于忍耐，积蓄力量，强大自我，打好基础，增强能力；做事高调，也不是装腔作势，自我张扬，贪图虚荣，谋求名誉，而是发挥使命，敢于担当，能够尽责，服务大众，贡献社会，实现人生的价值和意义。

27. Specifically, being low-profile is not about self-deprecation, nor is it about giving up or descending into decay, doing nothing, but rather about correctly understanding oneself, finding the right position, uniting others, being good at endurance, accumulating strength, strengthening oneself, laying a solid foundation, and enhancing capabilities; being proactive in one's actions is not about putting on a show, self-aggrandizement, seeking superficial glory, or pursuing fame, but rather about fulfilling one's mission, being willing to take responsibility, being able to fulfill one's duties, serving the public, contributing to society, and realizing the value and significance of life.