在自我探索的旅程中，邂逅喜悦之道，感受生命最佳方式。

On the journey of self-exploration, encounter the path to joy, and experience life in its best form.

1. 一个无人问津的诗人，向禅师倾诉自己的失落，无人欣赏他的作品、无人理解他的感情。

1. A poet ignored by all, confides his despair to the master, his works unappreciated, his feelings misunderstood by none.

2. 诗人道：它只在夜间开放，可惜现在是白天，没人会欣赏它。

2. The poet said: It only opens at night, alas, it is daytime now, and no one will appreciate it.

3. 人活着，心态很重要，有个好的心态，才能活得开心，心态好的人，命都好，因为心态好的人，在遇到问题的时候，不消极，不怠慢，积极乐观地去面对，不急不躁，永远充满活力。

3. For a person to live well, a positive mindset is crucial. Only with a good mindset can one live happily. People with a positive mindset tend to have a good life, as they approach problems with a non-negative, non-indifferent attitude, facing them with positivity and optimism. They remain calm and composed, and are always full of vitality.

4. 取悦自己最好的方式，莫过于以下三点。

4. The best way to please oneself is through the following three points.

5. 2建立良好的人际关系，培育较强的社会归属感。压力更多的是来自人际关系，或着说个体社会归属感缺少而致。

5.2 Build good interpersonal relationships and foster a stronger sense of social belonging. Pressure is more often derived from interpersonal relationships, or rather, from the lack of individual social belonging.

6. 亲戚的小孩报志愿，你非要违逆别人的意愿，说三道四，指手画脚，结果别人根本不搭理你。

6. When your relative's child is declaring their college major, you insist on going against their wishes, gossiping, pointing fingers, and bossing around, only to find that the other person completely ignores you.

7. 正确认识压力的来源，调整对压力的态度。改变产生压力的环境比较困难，但调整对压力的看法、态度与情感却比较容易而有效。

7. Correctly understand the sources of stress and adjust your attitude towards it. Changing the environment that generates stress can be challenging, but adjusting your perception, attitude, and emotions towards stress is relatively easier and more effective.

8. 心理健康的人愉快、乐观、开朗、满意等积极情绪总是占优势，当然也会有悲、忧、愁、怒等消极情绪体验，但一般不会长久；他们能适度地表达和控制自己的情绪，喜不狂、忧不伤、胜不骄、败不馁，谦而不卑，自尊自重，既不妄自尊大，也不退缩畏惧；对于无法得到的东西不过分追求，争取在社会允许范围内满足自己的各种需要；对于自己所能得到的一切都感到满意。

8. A person with good mental health always has a predominance of positive emotions such as happiness, optimism, cheerfulness, and satisfaction. Of course, they may also experience negative emotions like sadness, worry, sorrow, and anger, but these usually do not last long. They are able to express and control their emotions moderately, not being overly elated, not being overly despondent, not being overly proud in victory, not being overly defeated, humble but not obsequious, self-respecting and self-regarding, neither overestimating themselves nor retreating in fear. They do not excessively pursue things that are beyond their reach, and strive to satisfy their various needs within the scope allowed by society. They are satisfied with everything they can obtain.

9. 禅师却说：并不可惜。它开花，只为了取悦自己。

9. The monk said: It's not a loss. It blooms only to please itself.

10. 人世间雪中送炭的少，锦上添花的多。

10. There are few people in the world who provide help in times of distress, and many who add to the splendor.

11. 心理行为符合年龄特征有人的生命发展的不同年龄阶段,都有相对应的不同的心理行为表现,从而形成不同年龄阶段独特的心理行为模式心理健康的人应具有与同年龄段大多数人相符合的心理行为特征,一般都是心理不健康的表现

11. Psychological and behavioral characteristics correspond to age stages: Different age stages in human life development have corresponding different psychological and behavioral manifestations, thus forming unique psychological and behavioral patterns for each age stage. People with good mental health should possess psychological and behavioral characteristics that are in line with the majority of people in the same age group; generally speaking, deviations from this are indicative of poor mental health.

12. 人生要有事情做，才能充实自己，就算自己退休下来了，也不能总是闲着，啥都不动，要经常活动一下，才能对身体好，也能丰富自己的精神世界。

12. Life should be filled with activities to enrich oneself. Even after retirement, one should not always be idle and inactive. Regular movement is beneficial for the body and can also enrich one's spiritual world.

13. 人与人相处，一定要有边界感和分寸感。如果你喜欢多管闲事，其实是干涉了别人的生活，打乱了别人的生活节奏，也可能让自己沾染了别人的因果。

13. When interacting with others, it is crucial to have a sense of boundaries and moderation. If you like to meddle in other people's affairs, it is actually interfering with their lives, disrupting their rhythm of life, and may also lead you to be entangled in their karma.

14. 作家水木然说：“活着不是为了迎合别人，献媚世界，而是为了取悦自己，自得其乐，对着镜子里的自己肃然起敬。”

14. The writer Shui Mu ran said: "Living is not for the sake of pleasing others or flattering the world, but for the joy of oneself, to find joy in oneself, and to pay reverence to the reflection of oneself in the mirror."

15. 学会按照自己的心愿而活，走自己的路，唱自己的歌，让别人说去吧。

15. Learn to live according to your own wishes, walk your own path, sing your own song, and let others talk.

16. 狄更斯说，最好的礼貌是不多管闲事。

16. Dickens said, "The best manner is to mind one's own business."

17. 有一个小故事。

17. There is a little story.

18. 人生，要学会放下，才能笑着迎接未来。放下一件事总比藏着掖着好，放不下的人，总把自己封闭起来，别人进不去，自己又不愿意出来，这样会闷坏自己。别为了不值得的人和事情折磨自己，凡事想开一点，该放下的就放下，学会放下，也是对自己的一种解脱，凡事别想太多，即使人生中有很多不如意的事情，嘴角边的一缕微笑，才是对生活最好的尊重。

18. Life teaches us to let go, so we can smile towards the future. Letting go of something is always better than holding it back. People who cannot let go tend to seal themselves off, neither allowing others in nor willing to come out themselves, which can lead to their own discomfort. Don't torture yourself over unworthy people and things. Think about things more broadly, let go of what you should, and learn to let go. This is also a form of liberation for yourself. Don't overthink things. Even if there are many unpleasant things in life, a smile on the lips is the best respect for life.

19. 不要期待别人，这个世界上没有任何人会为你负责到底，自己才是自己生命的主人。放下对别人的期待，我们才能不失望，不怨恨，不苦恼，以最好的心境和状态，从容过好自己的一生。

19. Do not expect others, for no one in this world will be responsible for you all the way. You are the master of your own life. By letting go of expectations for others, we can avoid disappointment, resentment, and distress, and live our lives calmly and well in the best state of mind.

20. 胡因梦在《生命的不可思议》里感慨道：要想维系一份幸福，期望愈少愈好。生活就是这样，期待越高，失望越多。

20. Hu Yinyin lamented in "The Incredibility of Life": "To maintain a happy relationship, the less expectation, the better. Life is like that, the higher the expectations, the more disappointment."

21. 热爱生活,乐于工作心理健康的人珍惜和热爱生活,积极投身于生活,在生活中尽情享受人生的乐趣他们在工作中尽可能地发挥自己的个性和聪明才智,并从工作的成果中获得满足和激励,把工作看作是乐趣而不是负担他能把工作的过程中积累的各种有用的信息、知识和技能存贮起来,便于随时提取使用,以解决可能遇到的新问题,能够克服各种困难,使自己的行为更有效率,工作更有成效

21. People with a positive outlook on life and a willingness to work value and love life, actively engaging in it and fully enjoying the joys of life. They give their best in their work, utilizing their personalities and intelligence to the fullest, and derive satisfaction and motivation from the results of their work. They view work as a source of joy rather than a burden. They can accumulate and store various useful information, knowledge, and skills during the process of work, making them readily available for use at any time to address new problems they may encounter. They are able to overcome all sorts of difficulties, making their actions more efficient and their work more productive.

22. 有目的适度地调整行为，学习掌握积极的放松方法。

22. Purposefully adjust behavior moderately, and learn to master positive relaxation techniques.

23. 嘴长在别人身上，你管不了，随他去吧。只要你心不妄动，别人的眼光，言论，立场，就伤害不了你。心长在自己身上，只需听凭内心的选择，笃志前行，走向心心念念的星辰大海。

定 23. Others have their own mouths, and you can't control them. Just let it be. As long as your heart doesn't wander, others' eyes, words, and positions cannot hurt you. The heart is in your own body, so just follow your inner choice, be steadfast in your journey, and move towards the stars and oceans that you deeply desire.

24. 然而事实可能是，你落魄时，别人视你如瘟疫，躲得远远的。你失恋时，闺蜜幸灾乐祸，暗自高兴。你成功时，亲友嫉妒你，疏远你。

24. However, the truth might be that when you are down in the dumps, others treat you like a plague, keeping their distance. When you experience a breakup, your best friend revels in your misfortune, secretly celebrating. When you achieve success, your relatives and friends may envy you and distance themselves from you.

25. 世界是自己的，和他人无关。

25. The world is mine own, and has nothing to do with others.

26. 心理健康的人能够面对现实，接受现实，能动地适应现实，进一步改造现实，而不是逃避现实；对周围事物和环境能作出客观的认识和评价，并能与现实环境保持良好的接触；既有高于现实的理想，又不会沉湎于不切实际的幻想与奢望；对自己的力量有充分的信心，对生活、学习和工作中的各种困难和挑战都能妥善处理。心理不健康的人往往以幻想代替现实，而不敢面对现实，没有足够的勇气去接受现实的挑战；总是抱怨自己“生不逢时”或责备社会环境对自己不公而怨天尤人，因而无法适应现实环境。

26. A mentally healthy person can confront reality, accept it, actively adapt to it, and further transform it, rather than avoiding it; can make objective recognition and evaluation of surrounding things and environments, and can maintain good contact with the real environment; has ideals that are above reality without being lost in unrealistic fantasies and desires; has full confidence in their own abilities, and can properly handle various difficulties and challenges in life, study, and work. Unhealthy individuals often substitute fantasy for reality, dare not face reality, and lack the courage to accept the challenges of reality; they always complain about being "not in the right place at the right time" or blame the social environment for being unfair to them, thus failing to adapt to the real environment.

27. 不要指望别人，没有期望，就没有失望。

27. Don't rely on others; without expectations, there is no disappointment.

28. 面对现实,接受现实,适应现实,改变现实心理健康的人能够面对现实,接受现实,并能够主动地去适应现实,进一步地改造现实,而不是逃避现实,对周围事物和环境能作出客观的认识和评价,并能与现实环境保持良好的接触,既有高于现实的理想,又不会沉湎于不切实际的幻想与奢望,他对自己的能力有充分的信心,对生活、学习、工作中的各种困难和挑战都能妥善处理心理不健康的人往往以幻想代替现实,不敢面对现实,没有足够的勇气去接受现实的挑战,总是抱怨自己生不逢时或责备社会环境对自己不公而怨天尤人,因而无法适应现实环境

28. In the face of reality, accepting it, adapting to it, and changing it, mentally healthy individuals are able to confront reality, accept it, and actively adapt to it, further transforming it rather than avoiding it. They can make objective recognition and evaluation of the things and environments around them, and maintain a good contact with the real environment. They have ideals that transcend reality but are not lost in unrealistic fantasies and desires. They have full confidence in their abilities and can properly handle various difficulties and challenges in life, study, and work. On the other hand, individuals with mental health issues often substitute fantasy for reality, dare not face it, lack the courage to accept the challenges of reality, and always complain about being born at the wrong time or blaming the social environment for being unfair to them, thus finding it impossible to adapt to the real environment.

29. 同事和领导发生纠纷，你看不惯，非得跳出来怼领导，结果把同事置于尴尬的境地。

29. When colleagues and leaders have a dispute, you can't stand it and you have to jump in to confront the leader, which ends up putting your colleague in an awkward situation.

30. 如果我们心无定性，轻易被别人的眼光裹挟，那既活不出别人想要的样子，也丧失了自己的独立性，茫然无措，身心俱疲，十分痛苦。

30. If we lack stability in our hearts and are easily swayed by others' opinions, we will neither be able to live out the image others want us to be, nor will we maintain our own independence. We will be confused and at a loss, physically and mentally exhausted, and extremely painful.

31. 不要期待任何人，不要在意任何人的眼光，不去管别人的闲事，认真经营好自己的生活，才是一个人取悦自己最好的方式。

31. Don't expect anything from anyone, don't care about anyone's gaze, don't meddle in others' affairs, and diligently manage your own life. This is the best way for a person to please themselves.

32. 爱管闲事，往往是自作多情，自取其辱，自讨苦吃。

32. Being meddlesome is often a sign of self-involvement, self-inflicted humiliation, and self-endured hardship.

33. 我们曾如此渴望命运的波澜，到后来才发现，世间最曼妙的风景，竟是内心的淡定和从容。

33. We once so eagerly yearned for the fluctuations of destiny, only to find later that the most exquisite scenery in the world is the tranquility and composure of the heart.

34. 根据自我的能力，制定切实可行的工作生活目标。、

34. Formulate realistic and achievable work-life goals based on one's abilities.

35. 这个世上，没有不快乐的事，只有不快乐的心。只有心态平和的人，才能活出最好的自己，生命就是这样，眼里能看到美好，心里能感受幸福！

35. In this world, there are no unhappy things, only unhappy hearts. Only those who maintain a peaceful mindset can live their best lives. Life is like that, with eyes that can see beauty and hearts that can feel happiness!

36. 智力正常智力正常是人正常生活的最基本的心理条件,是心理健康的主要标准,智力是人的观察力、记忆力、想象力、思考力的操作能力的综合

36. Normal intelligence is the most basic psychological condition for a person's normal life, and it is the main criterion for mental health. Intelligence is a comprehensive ability that includes a person's observation, memory, imagination, and thinking power.

37. 人生是自己的主场，别人只是陪衬和看客。为自己而活，按照内心的剧本去表演，才是人间值得。

37. Life is one's own stage, and others are only accompanists and spectators. Living for oneself and performing according to one's inner script is what makes life worthwhile.

38. 接受他人,善与人处心理健康的人乐于与人交往,不仅能接受自我,也能接受他人,悦纳他人,能认可别人存在的重要性和作用他能为他人所理解,为他人和集体所接受,能与他人相互沟通和交往,人际关系协调和谐,在生活的集体中能融为一体,乐群性强,既能在与挚友团聚之时共享欢乐,也能在独处沉思之时而无孤独之感在与人相处时,积极的态度（如同情、友善、信任、尊敬等）总是多于消极的态度(如猜疑、嫉妒、畏惧、敌视等),因而在社会生活中具有较强的适应能力和较充足的安全感一个心理不健康的人,总是自别于集体,与周围的环境和人们格格不入

38. Accepting Others, Good in Social Interaction Mentally healthy individuals enjoy interacting with others, not only accepting themselves but also accepting others, appreciating them, and acknowledging the importance and role they play. They are able to be understood by others and accepted by both individuals and groups, and can communicate and interact with others. Their interpersonal relationships are harmonious, and they can integrate into the collective life, showing a strong sense of community. They can share joy with close friends during gatherings and also feel a sense of togetherness even when they are alone in contemplation. When interacting with others, their positive attitudes (such as empathy, kindness, trust, and respect) are always more prevalent than negative ones (such as suspicion, jealousy, fear, and hostility), which makes them have a strong adaptability and a sufficient sense of security in social life. A mentally unhealthy individual is often distinct from the collective, not fitting in with the surrounding environment and people.

39. 心理健康的人，气质、能力、性格和理想、信念、动机、兴趣、人生观等各方面平衡发展，人格作为人的整体的精神面貌能够完整、协调、和谐地表现出来；他们思考问题的方式是适中和合理的，待人接物能采取恰当灵活的态度，对外界刺激不会有偏颇的情绪和行为反应；他们能够与社会的步调合拍，也能和集体融为一体。

39. A mentally healthy person exhibits balanced development in all aspects such as temperament, ability, character, ideals, beliefs, motives, interests, and outlook on life. The personality, as the overall spiritual appearance of a person, can be fully, coordinately, and harmoniously expressed. Their way of thinking about problems is moderate and reasonable, and they can adopt appropriate and flexible attitudes in dealing with people and things. They do not have biased emotional and behavioral responses to external stimuli; they can synchronize with the rhythm of society and also blend into the collective.

40. 你以为你是在帮助别人，往往是在自作聪明。

40. You think you are helping others, but often you are being too clever by half.

41. 取悦自己，就是想办法让自己活得开心，消除一切不开心的因素。

41. To please oneself is to find ways to live happily, eliminating all factors that cause unhappiness.

42. 在人的生命发展的不同年龄阶段，都有相对应的心理行为表现，从而形成不同年龄阶段独特的心理行为模式。心理健康的人应具有同年龄多数人所符合的心理行为特征。如果一个人的心理行为经常严重偏离自己的年龄特征，一般是心理不健康的表现。

42. At different age stages in the development of human life, there are corresponding psychological and behavioral manifestations, thus forming unique psychological and behavioral patterns for each age stage. A mentally healthy person should possess psychological and behavioral characteristics that are in line with the majority of people of the same age. If a person's psychological and behavioral patterns frequently deviate significantly from their age characteristics, it is generally an indication of mental health issues.

43. 一个心理健康的人能体验到自己的存在价值，既能了解自己，又能接受自己，有自知之明，对自己的能力、性格和长短处都能作出恰当的、客观的评价；对自己不会提出苛刻的、非分的期望与要求；对自己的生活目标和理想也能定得切合实际，因而对自己总是满意的；努力发展自身的潜能，即使对自己无法补救的缺陷，也能泰然处之。一个心理不健康的人则缺乏自知之明，并且总是对自己不满意；由于所定的目标和理想不切实际，主观和客观的距离相差太远而总是自责、自怨、自卑；由于总是要求自己十全十美，而自己却又总是无法做到完美无缺，于是总跟自己过不去，结果心理状态永远无法平衡，无法摆脱自己感到将要面临的心理危机。

43. A mentally healthy person can experience the value of their own existence, understanding and accepting themselves, with self-awareness, and can make appropriate and objective evaluations of their abilities, personality, and strengths and weaknesses. They do not set harsh, excessive expectations or demands on themselves; they can also set realistic life goals and ideals, and thus are always satisfied with themselves. They strive to develop their own potential, and even for their uncorrectable defects, they can deal with them calmly. A person with poor mental health lacks self-awareness and is always dissatisfied with themselves; due to unrealistic goals and ideals, the gap between subjectivity and objectivity is too wide, leading to constant self-blame, self-reproach, and self-contempt. Because they always demand perfection from themselves, yet they are unable to achieve it, they are constantly at odds with themselves, resulting in a psychological state that can never be balanced and never able to escape the psychological crisis they feel is about to face.