在幽深的痛楚根源，执念如同无形的镣铐，如何束缚着我们的心灵？这，或许是一场关于自我救赎的探索之旅。

In the profound source of pain, obsession acts like intangible shackles, binding our souls. This may be a journey of exploration about self-redemption.

1. 曾经你深爱一个人，为了她可以付出一切，倾尽所有，把她看得最完美，最纯洁，最美好，于是你走进感情的死角，痛苦不堪，不能自拔。

1. Once, you deeply loved someone, willing to give everything for her, exhausting all your resources, seeing her as the most perfect, purest, and loveliest. As a result, you walked into the dead-end of romance, suffering greatly, unable to pull yourself out.

2. 一念起，万劫不复。一念落，从容自在。

2. When a thought arises, it leads to a countless cycle of suffering. When a thought subsides, one is at ease and free.

3. 转变思维，走出自己的执念，我们才能远离痛苦，拥抱快乐。

3. Change our mindset, let go of our attachments, and we can then distance ourselves from pain and embrace happiness.

4. 当你的心情不好的时候，这六种治愈方式，会为你的生活带来意想不到的改变。

4. When you're feeling down, these six healing methods will bring unexpected changes to your life.

5. 真正的真相就是他不爱你，尽管如此，他还是偷走了你的心。

5. The true truth is that he doesn't love you, yet he still stole your heart.

6. 放不下执念的人终究是意难平，一腔恨意无处发泄，想报复他，让他过的不开心。

6. Those who cannot let go of their obsession are eventually at a loss, filled with a sense of injustice, with nowhere to vent their hatred, longing to retaliate against him and make him unhappy.

7. 《魔力》这本书里也提到感恩的力量，当你夜深人静心里默默感恩时，就会感觉心情很放松，能感觉到心里石头落地的声音，而且自己获得了很大的能量，不信你试试。

7. The book "Magic" also mentions the power of gratitude. When you silently express gratitude in the quiet of the night, you will feel very relaxed, and you can hear the sound of the weight in your heart falling, and you will also gain a lot of energy. Try it and see if you don't believe it.

8. 执念意思是指坚持固定的观念、情感或念头，不能轻易放下或解脱的状态。它代表着对某种想法、欲望或信念的执着和固守，常常带有一种强烈的情感和执着的意味。执念可能导致我们陷入痛苦、焦虑或困惑之中，阻碍我们的内心平静和自由。

8. The term "obsession" refers to the state of persistently holding onto fixed ideas, emotions, or thoughts, which cannot be easily let go or released. It represents the attachment and adherence to certain thoughts, desires, or beliefs, often with a strong emotional and persistent nature. Obsession can lead us to be trapped in pain, anxiety, or confusion, hindering our inner peace and freedom.

9. 如果他爱你，怎么会和你分手，怎么会在感情中让你那么痛苦。

9. If he loves you, how could he break up with you, how could he make you so unhappy in the relationship?

10. 生活就像鞭子，我们为了生活急匆匆赶路；却错过了沿途最好的风景，也忘记了该如何好好去爱这个世界。生活不只有眼前的苟且，还有诗和远方。如果生活太苦闷，左冲右突还是找不到出路，生命被困在了原地，就去看看外面的世界吧！你看到的世界越大，见到的人越多；你的心胸就会开阔，格局就会变大；你的思维和想法，就会发生改变；人生的结局也就不同。来一场说走就走的旅行，看看祖国的大好河山，亲近大自然，呼吸新鲜的空气，吐故纳新，心情变好了，视野开阔了，心平了，气顺了，人生就会朝着积极的方向努力。

10. Life is like a whip, we rush through it to make a living; yet we miss the best scenery along the way and forget how to truly love this world. Life is not just about the mundane struggles at hand; it also encompasses poetry and the distant horizon. If life becomes too burdensome and no matter how hard we try, we still can't find a way out, and our life seems trapped in place, then go out and see the world! The bigger the world you see, the more people you meet; your mind will broaden, your perspective will expand; your thoughts and ideas will change; and the outcome of your life will be different. Take a trip on a whim, explore the magnificent landscapes of our motherland, get close to nature, breathe in fresh air, discard the old and embrace the new, and your mood will improve, your outlook will broaden, your heart will be at peace, and your energy will flow smoothly, and your life will strive in a positive direction.

11. 生活平淡，不如淡泊宁静，在岁月静好中感受人生的小确幸。

11. Life is plain, better to be indifferent and tranquil. In the peaceful flow of time, feel the small joys of life.

12. 走出内心的执念，学会给自己松绑，人生才能过得轻松和温暖。

12. Let go of the inner obsession, learn to free yourself, and life can only be lived comfortably and warmly.

13. 《终身成长》这本书里提到，人的思维分为固定型思维和成长型思维，固定型思维逃避失败，一旦失败自己会一直沮丧。而成长型思维则勇敢挑战失败，视失败为成长的营养，一旦失败，只会总结反思自己，从失败中吸取教训和力量。

Chapter 13: The book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" mentions that people's thinking is divided into fixed mindset and growth mindset. People with a fixed mindset tend to avoid failure and become constantly discouraged when they face it. In contrast, those with a growth mindset bravely challenge failure, viewing it as a nutrient for growth. When they encounter failure, they only summarize and reflect on themselves, drawing lessons and strength from the failure.

14. 不要自欺欺人说对方还很爱你，相信对方和你分离有苦衷，这些都是屁话。

14. Don't deceive yourself into thinking that the other person still loves you deeply, and believe that there is a reason for their separation from you; these are all nonsense.

15. 正如古语所言：智者无为，愚者自缚。

15. As the ancient saying goes: The wise do nothing, while the foolish bind themselves.

16. 万般放下，顺其自然，我们才能走出执念的漩涡，经营好自己的生活。

16. By letting go of all attachments and going with the flow, we can escape the whirlpool of obsession and manage our lives well.

17. 允许别人不喜欢你，允许别人冷落你，嘲讽你，伤害你。

17. Allow others to not like you, to ignore you, to mock you, and to hurt you.

18. 网络上看过一段话：

18. I saw a sentence on the Internet:

19. 好的音乐和歌声，都是精神的滋补品，都是心灵的净化剂，能够引起思想的共鸣和对美好未来的憧憬！当你感到苦闷和疲惫的时候，听听音乐，唱唱歌，放松的就是自己的心情，为自己的痛苦烦恼找个出口。每个人都能在音乐中，找到碰撞心灵的音符；也许欢乐，也许忧伤，也许感动到泪流满面；歌以咏志，生活的欢乐忧伤，人生的悲喜忧戚，都能在歌声中找到那一份情感的寄托。沉醉歌声中的美好，你就会忘掉现实的一地鸡毛，人生所有的不愉快，都会烟消云散。好的音乐，是有力量的，能够给自己精神的支撑和鼓舞，让生活有了浪漫的气息。

19. Good music and singing are both spiritual nourishment and purifiers of the soul, capable of evoking resonance in thought and aspirations for a better future! When you feel depressed and tired, listen to music and sing songs to relax your own mood and find an outlet for your pain and烦恼. Everyone can find notes that resonate with their soul in music; perhaps joy, perhaps sadness, or perhaps being moved to tears. Songs express aspirations, and the joy and sorrow of life, the ups and downs of human experiences, can all find an emotional寄托 in songs. Immersed in the beauty of singing, you will forget the trivialities of reality, and all the unpleasantness in life will fade away. Good music is powerful, it can provide spiritual support and encouragement to oneself, giving life a romantic touch.

20. 高赞回答说：“就像心中藏着一把火，日日夜夜都在灼烧自己。”

20. Gao Zan replied, "It's like having a fire burning in one's heart, scorching oneself day and night."

21. 一，做一个观察者，而不是经历者。

21. One, be an observer rather than an experiencer.

22. 我们无法改变命运，但可以改变对待命运的态度，平静而坦然地接受生命中发生的一切。

22. We cannot change fate, but we can change our attitude towards it, and calmly and composedly accept everything that happens in life.

23. 修炼一个强大的内心世界，不让任何人和事纠缠自己，伤害自己。

23. Cultivate a strong inner world, allowing no one or thing to entangle or harm oneself.

24. 俗话说，当局者迷，旁观者清。

24. As the saying goes, those involved are confused, while those watching are clear.

25. 在感情领域也同样适用，固定型思维恋人拒绝承认失败、拒绝原谅恋人、拒绝内心的成长。成长型思维的恋人在感情失败后能够原谅对方，反思自己，继续成长。

25. The same applies in the emotional realm as well. Fixed-mindset lovers refuse to admit failure, refuse to forgive their loved ones, and refuse to grow internally. Growth-mindset lovers are able to forgive their partners after a failed relationship, reflect on themselves, and continue to grow.

26. 报复他的最好方式就是离开他后，自己活得更好。

26. The best way to get revenge on him is to live a better life after leaving him.

27. 放下执念，是人生最重要的修行，也是对自己最好的成全。

27. Letting go of attachment is the most important practice in life, and also the best way to fulfill oneself.

28. 如果你遇到了合适的恋人，这些爱又会重新回到恋人身上，不仅不会减少，还会增多，你一点都没有吃亏。吃亏的是他，他失去了一个真正对他好的人。与有情人做快乐事儿，你再也想不起曾经受过的痛苦。

28. If you meet a suitable lover, these loves will return to the lover, not only without diminishing, but even increasing, and you will not lose anything. The one who loses out is him, as he has lost someone who truly cares for him. Doing joyful things with a beloved person, you will never remember the pain you have endured.

29. 如果你觉得难以放下执念，你就出去旅游下，见识下外边的世界，你就会觉得天地如此广阔，自己的事儿是如此渺小，有助你放下执念。

29. If you find it hard to let go of your attachments, go on a trip and see the outside world. You will then realize that the universe is so vast and your own matters are so insignificant, which can help you let go of your attachments.

30. 或者，你追求每一个目标，为它废寝忘食，誓死不渝。而其实，这个目标并不伟大，不值得你如此拼命。

30. Or, you pursue every goal with such dedication that you neglect sleep and food, vowing to stick to it no matter what. However, the goal itself is not great, and it does not deserve your desperate struggle.

31. 执念太深的人，走进了一个死角。自己走不出来，别人也闯不进去，在不断的内耗和纠结中折磨自己。

31. People with too much obsession have gotten themselves into a dead end. They can't get out on their own, and others can't闯 into it either, torturing themselves in continuous internal conflict and indecision.

32. 执念是指对某一事物坚持不放，不能超脱当执着的时候就会有怨念，唯有放下执着才会自在哲学上这样定义它，一个人过分专注于某事某物，长时间沦陷于某种情绪，这一情结就会成为有形，将之束缚住现也用作表示对某种追求的长期坚持，不轻易言弃。

32. The term "obsession" refers to the persistent attachment to something, being unable to detach oneself. When one is overly fixated, resentment often arises. Only by letting go of the obsession can one be at ease. In philosophy, it is defined as such: when a person becomes overly focused on something or someone, and gets immersed in a certain emotion for a long time, this emotion becomes tangible, binding them. It is also used to express the long-term pursuit of something, not easily giving up.

33. 一个人的精神面貌，往往反映了自己的生活状态。越是生活不如意的时候，就会变得精神萎靡，油腻邋遢，甚至不修边幅，一副无精打采的样子，说明了自己的不幸和落魄。一个人要想改变自己，就要先打起精神，让自己内心充满力量。能够从内到外，都有饱满的精气神，才能够为自己带来好运气。一个人的穿衣打扮，就是精神面貌的具体表现，没有人喜欢你的邋遢和不修边幅；把自己打扮得漂漂亮亮的，收拾得神清气爽，就会有好的精神状态，改变的就是自己的心情。精心打扮自己，就是对心灵最好的治愈。

33. A person's mental appearance often reflects their state of life. The more unsatisfactory their life is, the more likely they are to become spiritless, greasy, and slovenly, even to the point of not paying attention to their appearance, looking disheartened, which indicates their misfortune and downfall. If one wants to change themselves, they must first pick up their spirits and fill their hearts with strength. Only by having a full of vitality from the inside out can they bring themselves good luck. A person's attire and appearance is a specific manifestation of their mental appearance. No one likes a person who is untidy and pays no attention to their appearance; by dressing up beautifully and tidying up to look composed, they will have a good mental state, and what changes is their own mood. Dressing up meticulously is the best cure for the soul.

34. 不正视“他不爱你”这个事实，你永远也放不下执念。

34. Not facing the fact that "he doesn't love you" will prevent you from ever letting go of your obsession.

35. 三，冲破自我牢笼，走向更好的生活。

35. Three, break free from self-imposed constraints and move towards a better life.

36. 放下执念，顺其自然，我们才能走出思维的桎梏，打开崭新的人生。

36. Let go of attachment and follow nature; only then can we break free from the shackles of thought and open up a new life.

37. 原谅他才能忘记他，他有他的想法和选择，感情本身是双方的，不能一厢情愿，内心释然。

37. Forgive him to forget him, he has his own ideas and choices. Emotions themselves are mutual, not one-sided, and only then can one be at peace within.

38. “恨”是一种特殊的记忆，如果你恨一个人，就是反复念想，难以忘记。

38. "Hate" is a special kind of memory; if you hate someone, it's something that keeps recurring in your thoughts and is hard to forget.

39. 事业不顺，不如学会转弯，另辟蹊径，又是一道新的风景。

39. If your career is not going well, it's better to learn to make a turn, take a new path, which is also a new scenery.

40. 然而，在一个理智的局外人看来，那个人并不值得你如此付出，她可能有很多残缺之处，并不能匹配你的人生。

40. However, to a reasonable outsider, that person is not worth the effort you are putting into it. She may have many shortcomings and is not a match for your life.

41. 既然伤害已经发生，你的伤口已经形成，最重要的是想办法先养好伤口。

41. Since the injury has already occurred and your wound has formed, the most important thing is to figure out a way to heal the wound first.

42. 雍正皇帝总是喜欢带年幼的乾隆去看万里长城，然后询问他的感悟。乾隆说，感宇宙之苍茫，觉自己之渺小。（原话记不住了，意思同）

42. Emperor Yongzheng always liked to take the young Qianlong to visit the Great Wall of the万里, and then ask him about his reflections. Qianlong said, he felt the vastness of the universe and realized his own minuteness. (The exact words are forgotten, but the meaning is the same.)

43. 一个人之所以痛苦烦恼，那是因为你的心灵都被不快乐的事情占满了，都被自己的欲望占满了。心灵一旦荒芜，就会风沙漫天；你看不到海阔天空，也闻不到鸟语花香；你看到的都是阴天和暗黑。如果生活压得你喘不过来气，就要学会放空自己；能够把一切都放下，该放的放，该忘的忘，什么也不要管，就是对自己的拯救和解脱。人生除死无大事，想得越多，压力越大；欲望越多，痛苦就越多；管它什么得失成败，管它什么功名利禄，放下！放下！通通都放下！一生一切都是不可得，都是梦幻空花，都是如露亦如电，都是虚无的，都是空的，何必那么执着？

43. The reason why a person suffers and is troubled is because the mind is filled with unhappy things, and is overwhelmed by one's own desires. Once the mind becomes barren, the sands of life will be blowing everywhere; you can neither see the vastness of the sea nor the fragrance of the flowers and the songs of the birds; all you see are overcast skies and darkness. If life is so oppressive that you can't breathe, you must learn to empty yourself; be able to let go of everything, to let go what should be let go, to forget what should be forgotten, not to worry about anything – this is the salvation and liberation for oneself. There are no major events in life except death; the more you think about it, the greater the pressure; the more desires you have, the more pain you will have; regardless of gains and losses, successes and failures, status and wealth, let it go! Let it go! Let all of it go! Everything in life is unattainable, all are like dreams and empty flowers, like dew and lightning, all are void, all are empty, why be so obsessed?

44. 要克服生活的焦虑和沮丧，得先学会做自己的主人。接纳自己是最重要的一步，脱离自卑与沮丧，修正错误认知，才能步入正确的生活轨道。理性分析自己的优缺点，或者寻求心理导师，为自己做一个正确的心理导向。

44. To overcome the anxiety and depression of life, one must first learn to be the master of oneself. Accepting oneself is the most important step, to detach from inferiority and depression, correct erroneous cognition, and then one can step onto the right track of life. Analyze one's strengths and weaknesses rationally, or seek guidance from a psychological mentor, to provide a correct psychological orientation for oneself.

45. 二，放下抗拒心，允许一切穿过自己。

45. Second, let go of resistance, and allow everything to pass through oneself.

46. 允许事情不如人意，允许自己的人生有失败，挫折，痛苦，烦恼。

46. Allow things to not go as planned, allow your life to have failures, setbacks, pain, and worries.

47. 在前一段恋情中，你学会了真正去爱一个人，这样的爱不会消失只会转移。

47. In the previous relationship, you learned to truly love someone, and this love does not disappear but only shifts.

48. 既然如此，我来告诉你报复一个人最好的方式。

48. Since that is the case, let me tell you the best way to get revenge on someone.

49. 樊登老师说：“很多人都是用最脆弱的部分主宰了自己的人生，想自如轻松地生活在这个世界上，唯一的办法是拔掉这根刺。”

49. Fan Deng said, "Many people are dominated by the weakest part of themselves in their lives. The only way to live freely and easily in this world is to pull out this thorn."

50. 可以尝试以下方法摆脱执念：

50. You can try the following methods to let go of obsession: