在“容量与计较：界定人生格局的界限线”这篇短文中，我们将探讨人们如何通过内心容量和外在计较来塑造自己的人生格局。界限线的划定，既是对自我认知的深化，也是对生活态度的抉择。让我们一同走进这个话题，寻找内心的平衡与生活的和谐。

In the short essay "Capacity and Calculations: The Boundary Lines That Define the Scope of Life," we will discuss how people shape their life's scope through their inner capacity and external calculations. The delineation of these boundaries is both a deepening of self-awareness and a choice in life attitude. Let us delve into this topic together, seeking inner balance and harmony in life.

1. 深情从来都是被辜负，只有薄情才会被反复思念。

1. Deep affection is always betrayed, only superficial affection is repeatedly missed.

2. 眼内有尘三界窄，心中无事一床宽。

2. The eyes are filled with dust and the three realms feel narrow; the heart is without trouble and a bed feels spacious.

3. 保姆直言自己没有困难，但她的偷摸行为一直没有改变。

3. The babysitter openly claimed she had no difficulties, but her stealthy behavior had never changed.

4. “宽容，是对自己涵养的修炼，偶尔计较，是告诉别人我不傻，前者是格局，后者是底线。我有不伤人的教养，但不是你伤我的理由，我可以笑着和你讲道理，也可以翻脸和你讲规矩。”

4. "Tolerance is the cultivation of one's character. Occasionally being meticulous is a way to tell others that I am not foolish. The former is about one's breadth of vision, and the latter is about one's bottom line. I have the breeding not to hurt others, but that is not a reason for you to hurt me. I can talk sense with you and laugh while doing so, or I can turn on you and talk about the rules."

5. 怀念不一定就要相见，喜欢不一定就要在一起，你要相信，每一种距离都有它存在的意义。

5. Missing someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to see them, and liking someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to be together. You have to believe that every kind of distance has its own significance.

6. 人生难免会遇到一些委屈与困难，与其耿耿于怀，郁郁不得志还不如坦荡出自，只有经历过风雨的洗礼，才能成就波澜不惊的自己。

6. Life inevitably encounters some injustices and difficulties. It's better to be straightforward and not brood over them, feeling frustrated. Only after being washed by the trials and tribulations can one achieve a calm and composed self.

7. 低端看才能，中端瞧品德，高端重格局。所谓格局，指的是一个人的眼光、胸襟、胆识等心理要素的内在布局。有大格局才有大视角，做事才有大手笔，做人才有大气魄。

7. At the low end, one looks at talent; at the middle end, one considers character; at the high end, one values a person's overall perspective. What is meant by "overall perspective" refers to the internal layout of psychological elements such as a person's vision, breadth of mind, courage, etc. Only with a big overall perspective can one have a broad vision, act with a grand style, and be a person of great ambition.

8. 他在你心里涨价的同时你在他心里掉价的程度比猪肉还快。

8. The rate at which his value increases in your heart is faster than the depreciation of pork in his heart.

9. 给自己一些时间，原谅做过很多傻事的自己，接受自己，爱自己，过去的都会过去，该来的都在路上。

9. Give yourself some time, forgive the many foolish things you have done, accept yourself, love yourself. The past will pass, and the things that are meant to come are on their way.

10. 人生就是一场漫长的自娱自乐。讨别人欢心只是小聪明，每天都能讨到自己的欢喜才算大智慧。

10. Life is a long-lasting entertainment of oneself. Pleasing others is a small cleverness, but only if one can find joy in oneself every day counts as great wisdom.

11. 人生最重要的不是已经失去的，也不是尚未得到的，而是此刻拥有的。

11. The most important thing in life is not what has been lost, nor what has yet to be gained, but what is possessed at this moment.

12. 但马未都发现，保姆有小偷小摸的习惯。今天拿走他们家几头蒜，明天顺走一个壁橱上的小物件。

12. However, Ma Weidu found that the babysitter had a habit of sneaking small items. Today, she took a few garlic bulbs from their home, and tomorrow, she took a small item from a cabinet.

13. 我需要的是能陪我到死的爱人，而不是让我去浪费青春的碍人。

13. What I need is a lover who can accompany me until the end, not someone who makes me waste my youth.

14. 最后，马未都只好把她辞退。

14. Finally, Ma Weidu had no choice but to dismiss her.

15. 人生面对诸多考验， 在重要节点或关口，人的眼光、 胸襟、 胆识等心理要素的内在布局更能展现力量， 让高下之分立显。

15. Life is faced with many trials. At critical points or turning points, the internal arrangement of psychological elements such as one's perspective, breadth, and courage, is what better showcases strength, making the difference between the high and the low immediately apparent.

16. 每个人都是月亮，总有一个阴暗面，从来不让人看见。

16. Everyone is like the moon, with a dark side that is never shown to others.

17. 太多的人拥有的理所当然，失去的却措手不及。临危不乱是态度，也是格局，人生本就是选择与被选择的过程，投资便是盈与输的较量。

17. Too many people take for granted what they possess, yet are caught off guard when they lose it. Remaining calm under pressure is both an attitude and a mindset. Life itself is a process of choosing and being chosen, and investment is a contest between winning and losing.

18. 希望 世上除了生死，其它都是小事。不管遇到了什么烦心事，都不要自己为难自己;无论今天发生多么糟糕的事，都不要对生活失望，因为还有明天。

18. Hope that in this world, everything except life and death is trivial. No matter what troubles you encounter, don't make yourself suffer; and no matter how bad things may happen today, don't lose hope in life, for there is always tomorrow.

19. 没有人值得你流泪，值得让你这么做的人不会让你哭泣。

19. No one is worth you shedding tears over, and the person who is worth it wouldn't make you cry.

20. 为值得的人赴汤蹈火，对闲杂人等别在乎太多。如此，你的善良才显矜贵。

20. Be willing to go through fire and water for the worthy, and don't worry too much about the trivial matters. Only then will your kindness appear precious.

21. 整体宽容，偶尔计较。宽容是善待别人，计较是保护自己。

21. Overall, be宽容, but occasionally be particular. Compassion is treating others kindly, and being particular is about protecting oneself.

22. 世界上每个人都在完成两大积累——知识与经验的积累;资本与信誉的积累。当你自认已完成这两大积累时，那你想要做什么都会成功。

22. Everyone in the world is completing two major accumulations——accumulation of knowledge and experience; accumulation of capital and credibility. When you believe that you have completed these two major accumulations, then whatever you want to do will be successful.

23. 健康的活着，平淡的过着，开心的笑着，合理的忙着，就是一种完美，就是一种财富，就是一种快乐，就是一种幸福。

23. To live healthily, to live a simple life, to laugh happily, to be busy reasonably, is a perfection, a wealth, a happiness, and a form of bliss.

24. 成功者说:让自己停止烦躁，学会适应一切逆境 …因为逆境是成功的阶梯，痛苦和委屈是人生最宝贵的经历。一个人的心胸和格局也都是被痛苦和委屈给撑大的。

24. Successful people say: Let yourself stop being restless, learn to adapt to all kinds of adversities... Because adversities are the ladder to success, and pain and injustice are the most valuable experiences in life. One's breadth of mind and scope are also expanded by pain and injustice.

25. 气量大了，格局提升了，人生就会更加惬意自如。

25. With a larger character and a higher perspective, life will become more comfortable and free.

26. 做有用的事，说勇敢的话，想美好的事，睡安稳的觉。把时间发生在进步上，而不是抱怨上。

26. Do useful things, speak brave words, think beautiful thoughts, and sleep peacefully. Spend your time on progress, not on complaining.

27. 成长就是这样，痛并快乐着。你得接受这个世界带给你的所有伤害，然后无所畏惧的长大。

27. Growth is like this, painful yet joyful. You have to accept all the injuries this world brings to you, and then grow up without fear.

28. 和聪明人交流，和靠谱的人恋爱，和积极的人共事，和幽默的人随行。人生若能如此，就是最大的幸福。

28. Communicate with intelligent people, date reliable individuals, work with positive people, and travel with humorous companions. If life can be like this, it is the greatest happiness.

29. 宽容是一种格局，可以净化心灵，提升生活品质，但过度的宽容，有人就会利用你的宽容，成为天底下最不珍惜你的人。

29. Tolerance is a perspective that can purify the soul and enhance the quality of life, but excessive tolerance can be exploited by some people, making them the least grateful to you in the world.

30. 世界大了，什么人都有。并不是所有人都懂得我们的宽容，他还以为我们是软柿子，可以肆意霸凌，随意拿捏，任意欺负。

30. The world is vast, and there are all kinds of people. Not everyone understands our tolerance; he even thinks we are like soft persimmons, that can be bullied and manipulated at will.

31. 马未都没有发火，也没有戳穿，他对保姆说，如果你有什么困难，可以和我说，我会帮助你，包括经济上的帮助。

31. Ma Weimin did not lose his temper or expose it. He told the保姆, "If you have any difficulties, you can talk to me, and I will help you, including financial assistance."

32. 我们总是喜欢拿“顺其自然”来敷衍人生道路上的荆棘坎坷，却很少承认，真正的顺其自然，其实是竭尽所能之后的不强求，而非两手一摊得不作为。

32. We always like to use the phrase "go with the flow" as an excuse for the thorns and difficulties on the path of life, yet we seldom admit that the true meaning of "go with the flow" is not to force things after making every effort, but rather to not act out of laziness or inaction by simply throwing up our hands.

33. 一个人的格局观是限制一个人发展的天天框框，如果你的格局观不大，想要发展成功，超过格局的事情那是不可能的，毕竟树在好也长不过禁锢着它的盆。

33. One's perspective on the layout is the daily frame that restricts a person's development. If your perspective on the layout is not broad, it is impossible to achieve success in development by going beyond it, after all, even if a tree grows well, it cannot grow taller than the pot that confines it.

34. 《人民日报》这段话，字字入心：

34. This passage from the People's Daily is deeply moving, word by word:

35. 马未都又找到她说，你做保姆的表现很出色，但有些行为还是得注意，我想有必要提醒你。

35. Ma Weidu found her again and said, "You've done a great job as a babysitter, but there are still some behaviors that need to be paid attention to. I think it's necessary to remind you."

36. 大喜大悲看清自己，大起大落看清朋友。没有一个足够宽容的心，就看不到一个春光明媚的世界。

36. Great joy and great sorrow reveal oneself, great rise and fall reveal one's friends. Without a heart that is sufficiently tolerant, one cannot see a world filled with bright spring sunshine.

37. 人生在世，忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空。懂得忍让和宽容，才不会被烂人烂事裹挟，被生活的一地鸡毛困扰，也是一个人涵养和格局的体现。然而，宽容不是做老好人，没有底线的善良和讨好。当别人触犯自己的底线，就要学会反击。

37. In life, enduring for a moment brings calm as the wind and sea, stepping back opens up a vast sky and space. Understanding tolerance and patience prevents being swept away by bad people and things, or being troubled by the trivial matters of life, which is also an embodiment of a person's cultivation and perspective. However, tolerance is not about being a pushover or having limitless kindness and pleasing others. When others cross one's bottom line, one must learn to fight back.

38. 如果不能在一起，就不要给对方任何希望任何暗示，这才是最大的担当，分开了，不去打搅让对方安然生活，这才是最后的温柔。

38. If you cannot be together, do not give the other person any hope or hint, for that is the greatest responsibility. After separating, do not disturb them and let them live in peace; this is the ultimate gentleness.

39. 人的一生：选对伴侣幸福一生;选对老师智慧一生;选对环境快乐一生;选对行业成就一生。人若把自己框在一定的范围内，就容易限制了自己的思维和格局。

39. A person's life: choose the right partner for a happy life; choose the right teacher for a wise life; choose the right environment for a joyful life; choose the right field for a successful life. If a person confines themselves within a certain scope, it is easy to limit their own thinking and perspective.

40. 记住该记住的，忘记该忘记的，改变能改变的，接受不能接受的。生命的精彩在于：把握现在，微笑向暖。

40. Remember what needs to be remembered, forget what needs to be forgotten, change what can be changed, and accept what cannot be accepted. The wonder of life lies in: grasping the present, and smiling towards warmth.

41. 作家、画家陈丹青说：

41. Writer and painter Chen Danqing said:

42. 对一个人最好的放下，就是无论再想念也不会去打扰。终有一天你会知道，失去比拥有更踏实。

42. The best way to let go of someone is to not disturb them, no matter how much you miss them. One day, you will know that losing is more solid than having.

43. 保姆似有若悟，面露尴尬，但一段时候后，依然我行我素。

43. The保姆 seemed to have a sudden realization, showing embarrassment on her face, but after a while, she still went about her business as usual.

44. 生活中经常看到这样的现象：两家关系不错的邻居，因为房檐滴水的位置而大打出手，彻底决裂。各自成家的亲兄弟，因为争夺一条田埂，而恶语相向，拳脚相加，老死不相往来。兄弟姊妹多的家庭，会因为觉得父母对自己爱比别人少，就对父母不搭理，不孝顺，非常冷漠。

44. In life, it is often seen that two good neighbors can end up in a fierce fight over the position of a dripping eave, leading to a complete break. Brothers who have set up their own families may resort to bad language and physical violence over a strip of farmland, and they may never communicate with each other again until the end of their lives. In a family with many siblings, some members may feel that their parents love them less than others and therefore show indifference and a lack of filial piety towards their parents.

45. 海纳百川，有容乃大。

45. Embrace the vastness of rivers and oceans, for greatness lies in tolerance.

46. 朋友之间闹翻了就各自安好，没有必要诋毁对方，人生哪有那么多一辈子的知己，记住彼此付出真心的那一刻就够了。

46. When friends have a falling out, it's best to part ways amicably. There's no need to defame each other. In life, there aren't that many lifelong friends. Just remember the moment when both of you put your hearts into it is enough.

47. 必须有一个圈子。无论如何做都是画地为牢：不加入一个圈子，就成为所有人的敌人;加入一个圈子，就成为另一个圈子的敌人;加入两个圈子，就等于没有加入圈子;

47. There must be a circle. No matter how you do it, it's like being confined within a set boundary: not joining a circle makes you the enemy of everyone; joining a circle makes you the enemy of another circle; joining two circles is equivalent to not joining any circle.

48. 你不必如此刻意迫切的向我炫耀，有些东西，我不是没有，是不需要炫耀。

48. You don't have to show off to me so desperately and eagerly. There are some things I don't lack, and I don't need to show them off.

49. 收藏家马未都的家里有一位保姆，非常能干，办事利索，很受马家喜欢。

49. Collector Ma Weidu has a housekeeper at home who is very capable, efficient, and is well-liked by the Ma family.

50. 人生没有彩排，每一天都是直播，不仅仅收视率低，而且工资不高。

50. Life has no rehearsal, every day is live, not only with a low viewership rate, but also with a low salary.

51. 我们最先衰老的从来不是容貌，而是那份不顾一切的闯劲。

51. The first thing that ages us is never our appearance, but rather that unyielding spirit of going all out without a second thought.

52. 一个人的一生会遇到很多选择，并不是所有的选择你都要抓住了，还是要懂得适当的放弃，只有懂的放弃才能迎来真正属于自己的东西。

52. In one's life, many choices will be encountered. Not all choices need to be grasped; one still needs to understand the art of giving up appropriately. Only by understanding how to give up can one truly welcome the things that belong to oneself.

53. “我几乎从来不生气，因为我认为没有必要，有问题就去解决。不要让别人的错误影响自己，但我不生气，不代表我没有脾气。我不计较，不代表我脾气好，如果非要触摸我的底线，我可以告诉你，我并非善良。”

53. "I almost never get angry because I think it's unnecessary. If there's a problem, just solve it. Don't let others' mistakes affect you, but not being angry doesn't mean I don't have a temper. I don't hold grudges, but that doesn't mean I have a good temper. If you have to test my bottom line, let me tell you, I am not kind-hearted."

54. 所有人都在等着你长大，却并没有人陪着你长大，也没有人在乎你是怎么长大的。

54. Everyone has been waiting for you to grow up, but no one has been with you through the process of growing up, and no one cares about how you grew up.

55. 如果不涉及原则底线和核心利益，其他种种，我们最好睁一只眼，闭一只眼，不要太较真，不要太纠结，懂得放下，不以为意，云淡风轻，潇洒自在。

55. If it does not involve fundamental principles and core interests, we had better keep one eye open and the other closed, not be too particular, not be too entangled, learn to let go, not take it to heart, be carefree and relaxed.

56. 如果不懂宽容，事事计较，只会让自己的世界越来越狭窄，让内心越来越扭曲，整天在鸡毛蒜皮，鸡零狗碎之中纠缠沉沦。

56. If one does not understand tolerance and always holds grudges, it will only make one's world narrower and narrower, distort one's inner self more and more, and be entangled and immersed in trivial matters all day long.

57. 无论你活成什么样子，都会有人对你说三道四，让自己不断变强，就是最好的蔑视。

57. No matter how you live your life, there will always be people who have something to say about it. Making yourself stronger and better is the best way to show disregard for their opinions.

58. 如果碰到小人，烂人，垃圾人，做了违背我们底线，或者关涉核心利益的事情，我们不能服软，害怕，退缩，一定要维护自己的合法权益。即便翻脸，也在所不惜。

58. If we encounter scoundrels, trash people, or despicable individuals who do things that violate our bottom line or involve core interests, we cannot cave in, be afraid, or retreat. We must坚决 uphold our legitimate rights and interests. Even if it leads to a breakdown in relations, we should not hesitate.