四句话助你化解不满，焦躁瞬间消散——

Four sentences to help you dissolve dissatisfaction and anxiety, and have your stress vanish instantly.

1. 生活中，我们难免会和各种各样的人打交道，其中就有一些和你格格不入的人，不管是三观，言行方式，还是生活态度。

1. In life, we are bound to interact with all sorts of people, among whom there may be some who do not fit in with you, whether it be in terms of worldviews, ways of speaking and acting, or attitudes towards life.

2. 当我保持那个想法时，会如何反应呢？我感到害怕。因为我不知道我活着是为了什么？我认为我应该知道才对。我的胸口和头部都觉得沉重。我可能找我先生和孩子出气，最后走向冰箱乱吃一顿，再让自己埋醉在电视机前，而且经常延续好几十小时或好几天，我觉得我简直在浪费生命。我认为自己该做的都不是重要的事，我应该做些大事才对的起自己，这让我感到紧张与混乱。当我坚信这想法时，我急着想在死前完成人生目标，但又不知何时会死，只是感到必须赶快完成一件我一无所知的事，我觉得自己很笨而且一事无成，因此越活越泄气。

2. When I hold that thought, how will I react? I feel afraid. Because I don't know why I am alive? I think I should know that. My chest and head feel heavy. I might take out my frustration on my husband and children, then go to the refrigerator and eat whatever is there, and then get lost in front of the TV, often for dozens or even several days. I feel like I am wasting my life. I think the things I should do are not important, I should be doing something great to be worthy of myself, which makes me feel anxious and confused. When I firmly believe in this thought, I am eager to complete my life goals before I die, but I don't know when I will die, I just feel that I must hurry up and complete something I know nothing about. I feel stupid and have nothing to show for myself, so I become more and more discouraged as I live.

3. 不要在乎别人任何的眼光，态度和评价，他高看你一眼，你还是你。他看扁你，你还是你。别人怎么看你，对待你，那是别人的事，你不该管，更不值得陷入精神内耗。

3. Don't care about others' opinions, attitudes, and evaluations. Whether he looks up to you or not, you are still yourself. Whether he looks down on you or not, you are still yourself. How others see you and treat you is their own business. You shouldn't be concerned about it, let alone let it consume your mental energy.

4. 人生要设法远离消极的人，靠近积极的，乐观的，正能量的人，与他们交往，你会受益无穷，不断向上。

4. In life, it is important to try to distance yourself from negative people and get close to positive, optimistic, and positive energy individuals. Interacting with them will bring you endless benefits and continuous upward growth.

5. 万法归宗，就是要有一颗积极乐观的心。心若向阳，一生无恙！

5. The essence of all methods is to have a positive and optimistic heart. If your heart faces the sun, you will have no worries in your life!

6. 不管别人怎么样，只要没有故意伤害到你，你就没必要一般见识。

6. Regardless of what others do, as long as they don't deliberately harm you, there's no need to take offense.

7. “我以为别人尊重我，是因为我很优秀。

7. "I thought others respected me because I was excellent."

8. 不管遇到什么人，必须要有礼貌，至少得先有礼貌，体现你的教养和格局。

8. No matter who you meet, you must be polite, at least to start with, as this reflects your breeding and outlook.

9. 谁人背后无人说，哪个人前不说人。

9. No one is without detractors behind their back, and no one does not speak ill of others in front of them.

10. 世界上只有三件事，自己的事，别人的事，老天的事。

10. There are only three things in the world: your own business, others' business, and God's business.

11. 看不顺眼，其实是自己的心眼小。

11. Disliking something is actually a sign of one's own narrow-mindedness.

12. 经常跟不喜欢的人走在一起，你会心思抑郁，深陷烦恼，暗无天日。

12. Often being together with someone you don't like will make you feel melancholic, deep in烦恼, and surrounded by darkness without any light.

13. 和那些让你舒服的人同行，活成幸福快乐的自己。

13. Travel with those who make you comfortable, and live as a happy and joyful person yourself.

14. 每个人的频率和能量不一样，生命的层次也不一样。

14. Everyone has a different frequency and energy, and there are different levels of life.

15. 俗话说，近朱者赤，近墨者黑。

15. As the saying goes, "Those who keep company with the red will turn red, and those who keep company with the black will turn black."

16. 放宽心态，别人表现如何，和你并不相关。

16. Maintain an open mind, and others' performance has nothing to do with you.

17. 不管别人怎么对待你，你都要不失礼貌，表现出自己的从容不迫和文明教养。

17. No matter how others treat you, you should maintain politeness and demonstrate your composure and civilized upbringing.

18. 我能找到放下这个故事 （或许最初的烦恼只是左脑虚构出来的，而事实并非如此） 的理由吗？ 可以，因为那样只让我非常痛苦，而且当我相信这个故事时，我开始羡慕别人。他们不但找到自己的目的，并且胸有成竹。我会模仿这些人，甚至把他们的目的当成我的目的。和他们交往时，不能不装腔作势同时又刻意跟他们保持距离。 我能否找到理由让我毫无焦虑的，继续编这个故事呢？不，再也不会允许左脑这样编织下去了。

18. Can I find a reason to put this story down (perhaps the initial worry was just a fabrication of the left brain, and the reality is not so)? Yes, because it only brings me immense pain, and when I believe in this story, I start to envy others. Not only do they find their purpose but they also have a confident grasp on it. I would imitate these people, even taking their goals as my own. When interacting with them, I cannot help but put on an act while also deliberately maintaining a distance. Can I find a reason to continue spinning this story without any anxiety? No, I will never allow the left brain to weave such narratives again.

19. 处理好自己的事，不管别人的闲事，更不问老天的事。

19. Mind your own business, don't meddle in other people's affairs, and even less so in the affairs of heaven.

20. 杨绛在《百岁感言》中说：

20. Yang Jiang said in her "Reflections at the Age of 100":

21. 人生一世，心情最贵。任何人都不配让你烦恼。

21. In a lifetime, the most valuable thing is a peaceful mind. No one deserves to make you troubled.

22. 如果我们耿耿于怀，纠缠不休，只会给自己添堵。最理性的选择，就是尊重差异，不要计较。

22. If we keep nagging and harping on, it will only cause ourselves trouble. The most rational choice is to respect differences and not to be overly concerned.

23. 礼貌待人，是讲规矩，讲素质，也表现着自己的善意和诚意。如果对方领情，可以化敌为友。如果对方无视，也展现出了自己的大度从容。

23. Treating others with politeness is about observing rules and qualities, and also demonstrates one's goodwill and sincerity. If the other person appreciates it, it can turn an enemy into a friend. If the other person ignores it, it also shows one's magnanimity and composure.

24. “我们曾如此渴望命运的波澜，到最后才发现，人生最曼妙的风景，竟是内心的淡定与从容；我们曾如此期盼外界的认可，到最后才知道，世界是自己的，和他人毫无关系。”

24. "We once so eagerly sought the fluctuations of fate, only to find out at the end that the most charming scenery in life is the calmness and composure within; we once so eagerly awaited recognition from others, only to realize at the end that the world belongs to us, and has nothing to do with others."

25. 礼貌待人，不仅体现出一个人的情商和修养，还可能在某种程度上影响别人的态度和行为。

25. Treating others with politeness not only reflects a person's emotional intelligence and修养, but may also influence others' attitudes and behaviors to some extent.

26. 切记：礼貌待人，不管别人如何对待你。

26. Remember: treat others with politeness, regardless of how they treat you.

27. 选择与那些让你感到愉悦的人为伍，他们会给你提供积极的情绪价值，让你的生活充满乐趣和快乐。

27. Choose to be with those who bring you joy, as they will provide you with positive emotional value, filling your life with fun and happiness.

28. 慢慢地我明白了，别人尊重我，是因为别人很优秀，优秀的人更懂得尊重别人。”

28. Slowly, I came to understand that others respect me because they are excellent, and excellent people are more aware of respecting others.

29. 若没有我的人生应该要有目的的信念时，我会是怎样的人呢？我不知道，我只知道没有它时，内心会更平安。较少抓狂，那已经够好了。没有这个想法带来的恐惧和焦虑，或许我会更自由些，并且打起精神，快乐地做好眼前的事。

29. What kind of person would I be if I didn't have the belief that my life should be purposeful? I don't know, I only know that without it, my inner peace would be greater. Less疯狂, that's already good enough. Without the fear and anxiety brought by that thought, perhaps I would be freer, and be more spirited, happily doing the things in front of me.

30. 经常跟让你感到愉悦的人在一起，你会内心愉快，悠然惬意，感到生活充满了阳光和精彩。

30. Spending time with people who make you feel joyful will bring you inner happiness, tranquility, and a sense that life is full of sunshine and wonders.

31. 反向思考。我的一生不应该有目的。这表示我一向过得很充实，只是不自觉的而已。或许我的人生除了目前的一切以外，并无其他目的。那种感觉很古怪但可能更真实，是否我正在过的人生就是它的目的呢？这个想法让我感到如释负重。

31. Reverse thinking. My life should not have a purpose. This means that I have always lived a fulfilling life, albeit unconsciously. Perhaps there is no other purpose to my life besides what I currently have. That feeling is strange but might be more true; is the life I am living its own purpose? This thought makes me feel as if a heavy burden has been lifted.

32. 世界上什么样的人都会有。

32. There are all kinds of people in the world.

33. 不要因为别人的行为毁了自己的心情，人最大的愚蠢，就是拿别人的错误惩罚自己。

33. Do not ruin your mood because of others' actions; the greatest foolishness is to punish yourself with others' mistakes.

34. 我们一定要明白一个事实：不会每个人都会合你的口味。

34. We must understand one fact: Not everyone will suit your taste.

35. 鲁迅先生说：

35. Lu Xun once said:

36. 心经也好，圣经也罢；道德经也好，佛经也罢，终究只是教导我们凡事万物看开些，保持内心的平和，才能收获真正发自内心的喜悦。而我们人类，作为宇宙的主宰，虽然一直叫嚣着这些古老的经典，可真正做到却难上加难，车子房子票子，压力山大，注定我们不是那不食人间烟火的神仙眷侣。繁重的生活重担，整个空气里都弥漫着烦恼和浮躁。

36. Whether it's the Heart Sutra or the Bible, whether it's the Tao Te Ching or the Buddhist scriptures, in the end, they are all teachings that urge us to take things lightly, to maintain inner peace, so that we can truly experience joy that comes from the heart. As humans, though we claim to follow these ancient classics, it is incredibly difficult to truly embody them. With cars, houses, and money on our minds, the pressure is immense, and we are destined not to be those immortal couples who shun the world. The heavy burden of life, the whole atmosphere is filled with烦恼 (worry) and浮躁 (restlessness).

37. 你接近什么样的人，日熏月陶之下，也会成为什么样的人。

37. The kind of people you get close to, under the daily and monthly influence, will also shape the kind of person you become.

38. 即便要翻脸，要反击，要对抗，也要先礼后兵，有理有据有节，让别人刮目相看，让对方无地自容。

38. Even when facing the need to turn against someone, to counterattack, or to confront, it is important to first offer respect and then take action. Be rational, grounded, and measured, so as to gain others' respect and make the other party feel shameless.

39. 遇到不喜欢的人，不要一般见识，因为他的存在是合理的，是因缘和合的产物，只是和你不兼容罢了。

39. When encountering someone you don't like, don't harbor general dislikes, for their existence is reasonable, a product of causes and conditions, merely incompatible with you.

40. 龙生九子，各有不同。

40. The dragon has nine sons, each different from the other.

41. 在这个世界上，只要你自己不折腾自己，那么没有任何人可以折腾你。

41. In this world, as long as you don't trouble yourself, then no one can trouble you.

42. 如果你对一个人感到不满，可以主动退场，少和他打交道，甚至不打交道。

42. If you are dissatisfied with someone, you can take the initiative to leave the scene, reduce contact with them, or even avoid contact altogether.

43. 那么，我们就活该承受这些重担吗？难道我们就要在焦灼中忍受这些烦恼吗？如果不，又该怎么办呢？

43. So, are we supposed to bear these heavy burdens by right? Should we endure these troubles in anxiety? If not, what should we do then?

44. 别人的行为，好或者坏，高情商或者低素质，和你毫无关系，根本没有必要因此毁坏自己的心情。

44. Another person's actions, whether good or bad, whether they possess high emotional intelligence or low quality, have nothing to do with you. There is absolutely no need to毁坏自己的心情 therefore.