——开启通往卓越之路

—— Open the path to excellence

1. 城府，本来是褒义，原指人的胸怀像古人的深宅大院一样，后来演变成贬义词，形容某人心机重，不漏声色，难以揣测。职场火锅觉得，城府，应该是一个中性词，形容某人沉稳、藏得住事、有实力、低调、有办法。如果此人是好人，就是褒义词，智慧低调；如果此人最后证明是坏人，就是贬义词，阴险狡诈。城府，应该是一个中性形容词。如何做到呢？主要有三点：

1. "Chengfu," originally a positive term, refers to a person's broadmindedness like ancient people's deep courtyard, but later evolved into a negative term, describing someone with heavy cunning, unexpressive in their emotions, and difficult to fathom. The workplace hotpot believes that "chengfu" should be a neutral word, describing someone who is calm, able to keep secrets, has strength, modest, and resourceful. If this person is good, it is a positive term, wise and modest; if this person is proven to be bad in the end, it is a negative term, cunning and crafty. "Chengfu" should be a neutral adjective. How to achieve this? There are mainly three points:

2. 就象《红楼梦》里的贾家，“贾不假，白玉为堂金作马”说的是当年宁荣二公鼎盛时期，堪称富贵已极。贾家传承到第三代，依然手握正一品将军和正三品将军两个爵位。

2. Just like the Jia family in "Dream of the Red Chamber", the saying "The Jia family is not false, with jade as the hall and gold as the horses" refers to the peak period of the two elder brothers Ning and Rong, which can be said to be extremely wealthy. The Jia family passed down to the third generation, still holding two titles: the First Rank General and the Third Rank General.

3. 真正城府沉的人，是善于控制情绪，知道在什么样的场合使用什么样的表情和情绪的人，甚至他们会为了取得别人的信任，而故意暴露自己的心理弱点。

3. A truly deep and cunning person is skilled at controlling their emotions, knowing which expressions and emotions to use in different situations, and even deliberately exposing their psychological weaknesses to gain others' trust.

4. 不骄傲，是在做人态度上的克制。克制自以为是的傲慢，克制要显示自己能力的冲动。

4. Not being proud is about self-restraint in one's attitude towards others. It involves controlling one's arrogance in thinking oneself superior and克制 the urge to showcase one's abilities.

5. 诚如胡适先生所说：“昨日种种，皆成今我，切莫思量，更莫哀。从今往后，怎么收获，怎么栽。”

5. As Mr. Hu Shi said, "All that has happened yesterday has become today's me. There is no need to think about it, and there is no need to grieve. From now on, as you harvest, so you plant."

6. 首先必须学会闭嘴。古人说：“沉默是金”我不是忽悠你，是绝对的金玉良言。

6. First and foremost, one must learn to shut up. The ancients said, "Silence is gold." I'm not fooling you; it's truly golden advice.

7. 多言无益，言多必失。不说话，谨言慎行，是对自己的保护。

7. Words are of no benefit when said in excess, and excessive talking is bound to lead to mistakes. Not speaking, or speaking sparingly and cautiously, is a form of self-protection.

8. 子张问他的老师孔子，怎么样才能做官？

8. Zi Zhang asked his teacher Confucius, "How can one become an official?"

9. 名过其实，为了维护这个虚名，你要付出更多额外的努力，才能支撑起门面。

9. Overstated in name, in order to maintain this虚名, you will have to put in more extra effort to uphold the facade.

10. 不轻易笑，不轻易把自己的喜怒哀乐表现在脸上，学会控制自己的情绪，学会控制自己的脾气。

10. Do not laugh easily, do not easily express one's joy, anger, sadness, or joy on one's face. Learn to control one's emotions and learn to control one's temper.

11. 第一个目的，讲了让别人高兴，如果你的话别人不高兴，那就不讲。

11. The first purpose is to make others happy. If your words make others unhappy, then don't say them.

12. 便宜货只是在付款的那一瞬间让人开心，却在使用的每一个瞬间都让你不开心；好东西只有在买单的片刻会让人心疼，却在使用的每一刻都让人觉得很值。

12. Bargain deals only bring joy at the moment of payment, but every moment of use is unpleasant; good things may cause a pang at the time of purchase, yet each moment of use feels very worthwhile.

13. 口口声声说自己不想麻烦别人,却时时事事都在麻烦别人，看似在尽量避免麻烦别人，但实际上是希望享有“别人来帮自己”的权利，但不愿承担“感激或者回报”的义务。

13. They always claim that they don't want to trouble others, but they are constantly causing trouble to others. It seems like they are trying their best to avoid troubling others, but in reality, they hope to enjoy the right to have others help them, but are unwilling to take on the obligation of expressing gratitude or repayment.

14. 做人要有底线，触及你的底线的时候，不要客气，无论是谁。

14. One should have a bottom line in life. When someone crosses your bottom line, don't be polite, regardless of who it is.

15. 第一次是在《欢乐颂》中看到的话，感觉挺有道理的。和志同道合或者说智商高的人辩论才能提升自己，而与傻瓜争论除了贬低自己还有什么意义呢？

15. What I felt was quite reasonable when I first saw it in "Ode to Joy." Debating with people of similar ideals or high intelligence can enhance oneself, but what is the point of arguing with fools, other than to belittle oneself?

16. 无论是生活中还是工作中发生的事情，不要当众表态，不要发表意见和自己的看法，这样可以保持你的神秘感，有神秘感的人，别人不敢轻易的侵犯你。

16. Whether it's something that happens in life or at work, do not express your opinions or views publicly. This can maintain your mystique, and people who are mysterious are less likely to easily intrude upon you.

17. 可见，矜持自满要不得，累人虚名要不得。做人还是多多克制人前显胜之心，争荣夸耀之心，保持谦虚谨慎的态度，才能长治久安，稳妥前行。

17. It is evident that arrogance and self-satisfaction are not to be sought after, nor is the pursuit of empty fame. In life, it is better to control the desire to excel and show off in front of others, and to maintain a humble and cautious attitude. Only in this way can one achieve long-term stability and safely move forward.

18. 不要巴结和讨好任何一个人，不要想着为了以后要得到别人的帮助或认可，而使劲地讨好。因为爱你的人，不需要讨好，对你不好的人，不管你做什么都是不好的，还不如做真实的自己。

18. Do not flatter or please anyone, do not think about ingratiating yourself for future help or approval. Because the people who love you do not need to be pleased, and those who are not good to you will not be good regardless of what you do. It's better to be yourself.

19. 城府深是对自己很好的一道防护网。保护好自己，就是城府深的表现。

19. Having a deep mind is a good protective barrier for oneself. Protecting oneself is a manifestation of having a deep mind.

20. 守住你的秘密，不要把自己的心里话说给别人听。

20. Keep your secrets and don't share your inner thoughts with others.

21. 从说话看做人，一个人说不说假话，说不说违心的奉承话，说不说伤人心的狠话。人群里能不能保守秘密，会不会信口开河，甚至热衷八卦，都是你人品的折射。

21. From the way a person speaks, you can discern how they are as a person. Do they tell lies, say insincere flattery, or say hurtful words? Whether they can keep a secret in a crowd, whether they are prone to talking without thinking, or even if they are fond of gossipy rumors, all these reflect on your character.

22. 不是很重要的事，不要第一时间回复，要学会晾一下再说。

22. Not an important matter, don't reply immediately; learn to cool down and think about it before responding.

23. 那么它最恨的是什么呢？那肯定是不修德行的人和事，而这其中，“贪”则是它反复提及的，要谆谆告诫世人，远离“贪婪”之心，少行“贪鄙”之事。

23. So, what does it most hate? It must be the lack of moral integrity and actions. Among these, "greed" is repeatedly mentioned, urging people to earnestly warn the world to keep away from the heart of "greed" and to do less of those "greedy and despicable" acts.

24. 看破不要说破，兵不血刃，锦上添花再落井下石，卧薪尝胆忍受胯下之辱，别人砸一块石头，垫在脚下做根基，最好的报复是活的更精彩。对谁都笑脸相待，千万别给我机会，有机会就置你于死地。

24. Understand but don't reveal, fight without bloodshed, add luster to the brocade and then throw stones into the well, endure the shame of being humiliated under the saddle, others throw a stone, use it as a foundation beneath their feet; the best revenge is to live even more vibrantly. Treat everyone with a smile, please don't give me an opportunity; if you have one, use it to put you to death.

25. 你的情绪无论是高兴、生气、愤怒、无奈都不要表现在脸上。

25. No matter if you are happy, angry, frustrated, or resigned, do not let these emotions show on your face.

26. 觉得他人的要求的时候要委婉，不要轻易得罪人。

26. When feeling others' demands, be polite and do not easily offend people.

27. 学会不对别人掏心掏肺，不感情用事，不对人性抱有幻想。逢人说话留三分。能不说话，就不说话。

27. Learn not to pour your heart out to others, not to act impulsively based on emotions, and not to have illusions about human nature. Leave three parts of what you say for the other person. If you can, don't speak at all.

28. 有些懂的东西要装不懂，给别人表现的机会，也可以掩盖自己的实力。

28. Sometimes, one needs to feign ignorance about certain matters to give others a chance to showcase their abilities, and this can also serve as a cover for one's own strength.

29. 你只有把摆在面前的事情一件一件做成了、做好了，你才有可能接近那个更加理想的自己！

29. Only when you complete and do well each task that is in front of you, will you have the possibility to approach the more ideal version of yourself!

30. 你可以什么都听，但不能什么都信；你可以随心所欲，但不要随波逐流。你的内心再强大一点，就不会听风就是雨；知道的事再多一点，就不会人云亦云。

30. You can listen to anything, but you cannot believe in everything; you can do as you please, but do not follow the crowd. Strengthen your inner self a bit more, and you won't be swayed by every wind; know more about things, and you won't just echo others.

31. 棋如人生，凡是一个人能够成长的迅速，那一定是他经历的磨难足够多；凡是一个人能够胸有城府，那么一定是他经历的多，被打击的多。

31. Chess is like life. The faster a person can grow, the more hardships they must have experienced; and the more a person can keep their cool, the more they must have experienced and been defeated.

32. 如果争吵可以解决问题，那么泼妇一定是个高薪职业；如果靠吼可以搞定一切，那么驴将统治世界。

32. If brawling could solve problems, then shrewishness would be a high-paying career; if shouting could handle everything, then donkeys would rule the world.

33. 有些人很会伪装自己的心理，但实际上呢，仍然逃不过“装”的范畴，只要是伪装的，就总有被发现的一天，这种人说不上城府深。

33. Some people are very good at masking their psychological state, but in reality, they still can't escape the category of "posing." As long as it's a facade, there will always be a day when it's discovered. Such people can't be said to be deeply cunning.

34. 相反，如果你是憋不住，巴拉巴拉说了一大通，然后再做，你就是把主动权交给人家了。因为人家已经知道了你的计划啦，那些蛰伏在你身边，嫉妒你、讨厌你的坏人，就会设法对付你，给你下绊子，泼冷水，制造难题，总之就是让你做不成，还看你笑话。

34. On the contrary, if you can't hold back and blabber on a lot before acting, you are handing over the initiative to others. Because they already know your plan, those bad guys lurking around you, who are envious of you and dislike you, will try to deal with you, put obstacles in your way, pour cold water on you, create difficulties, in short, prevent you from succeeding and then mock you.

35. 学会察言观色，看别人动作表情决定什么该说，什么不该说，什么时候该离开了。

35. Learn to observe others' words and expressions, and determine what to say, what not to say, and when to leave based on their actions and expressions.

36. “括囊顺会，所以无咎。”译 谨言慎行，不要显摆你的能耐和伟大志向，顺应时机，这样才能免罹祸殃。

36. "To keep one's mouth shut and to be in harmony with the circumstances, this is the way to avoid blame." Translation: Speak and act cautiously, do not show off your abilities and grand ambitions, and be in tune with the timing. This is how one can avoid misfortune.

37. 首先倾听别人的意见，然后再决定自己是否发表意见，发表什么样的意见，记住了，只为自己的利益发声。

37. First, listen to others' opinions, and then decide whether to express your own views and what kind of views to express. Remember, only speak out for your own interests.

38. 小人是怎样使坏的呢？一是钻空子；二是见风使舵；三是用否定别人的方式来提升自己的存在感；四是无风能掀起三尺浪。

38. How does the little one do harm? First, by taking advantage of loopholes; second, by changing direction with the wind; third, by boosting one's sense of existence by negating others; fourth, by causing a stir of three feet without any wind.

39. 学会控制脾气，平心静气，把脾气压下去，把火收回来，喜怒不形于色。

39. Learn to control your temper, stay calm and composed, suppress your anger, and keep your emotions in check, not letting joy or anger show on your face.

40. 书中以22个故事为主线，直击功利社会和残酷现实的镜头，拆穿你的自怜、自卑、自欺和自相矛盾，告诉你理想的生活是：高效的社交、干净的圈子、自律的生活，以及相处不累的人。送给不够圆滑也不够世故、不够成熟又不够幼稚、不想变坏也不想太乖的你。

40. The book is centered around 22 stories, directly hitting the lenses of a utilitarian society and残酷 reality, exposing your self-pity, self-doubt, self-deception, and contradictions. It tells you that the ideal life is: efficient social interactions, a clean circle of friends, self-disciplined living, and people with whom it's not tiring to be around. A gift for those who are neither smooth nor worldly-wise, neither mature nor overly immature, neither wanting to go bad nor wanting to be too compliant.

41. 我所谓的“稳重”，就是能在无谓的争辩中全身而退，能对他人不如己意的言行保持克制，也能对不伤筋骨的挑衅一笑置之。

41. What I mean by "stability" is the ability to withdraw from meaningless disputes without harm, to maintain self-control in the face of others' words and actions that are not to one's liking, and to laugh off provocations that do not cause any real injury.

42. 最好的心态是:喜欢的东西照常喜欢，但允许自己暂时无法拥有；反对的事情依然反对，但接受它们客观存在。

42. The best attitude is: continue to like the things you like as usual, but allow yourself to temporarily not have them; continue to oppose things you are against, but accept their objective existence.

43. 通篇读来，觉得《素书》在告诉我们一个道理：做人要节制！

43. Reading through the entire text, it seems that the "Book of Simplicity" is conveying a lesson to us: one should be moderate in life!

44. 不要滔滔不绝的演讲，你把知识传播给别人，别人也不给你钱，何必呢。

44. Don't talk endlessly. You spread knowledge to others, and they won't pay you for it either, so why bother?

45. 有些事情不说透，打个比喻，剩下的让别人去悟。

45. Some things are not fully expressed; to put it metaphorically, the rest is left for others to figure out.

46. 不把话说绝了，不把事做绝了，凡事留一线，日后好相见。

46. Don't say things to the point of no return, and don't act to the point of no reconciliation. Leave a thread of hope for future encounters.