拥抱世界，无论他人人性如何，让我们共同探寻生命的真谛。

Embrace the world, regardless of others' human nature, let us jointly seek the true meaning of life.

1. 不要老是一个人待着，如果你不了解你周围的大部分人，就应该直接去和他们交谈。大部分情况，他们都会同意和你交谈。

1. Don't always be alone; if you're not familiar with most of the people around you, you should go directly and talk to them. In most cases, they will agree to have a conversation with you.

2. 职场似乎是善交际，外向型人的主场，热情大方，善沟通，左右逢源的人同样有好着好人缘。我们怎样去提高 社会 交际能力，首先，做到以下几点：

2. The workplace seems to be the domain of sociable, outgoing individuals, who are warm and generous, good at communication, and adept at making connections. People who are like this also tend to have good relationships with others. How can we improve our social communication skills? Firstly, we should do the following:

3. 如果你的朋友本身就是很优秀的社交高手，不妨模仿他的表达方式和肢体语言，从而形成自己的社交风格。

3. If your friend is already a very skilled social adept, why not imitate his way of expression and body language to develop your own social style.

4. 在家的时候，可以打电话和你的朋友谈话来练习。

4. When you are at home, you can call your friends to talk and practice.

5. 请教了他人问题，或者获得了他人的帮助，一定要说谢谢，这是基本的社交礼仪。

5. When you ask others for help or receive assistance, always say "thank you." This is basic social etiquette.

6. 4当别人给你发短信，记得要回复，不要在心里默认回复了。

6. When someone sends you a text message, remember to reply, don't just assume you have in your mind that you've replied.

7. 提高交际能力非常重要，你有什么办法吗？①真诚的关心他人②经常微笑③记住别人的姓名④聆听，鼓励别人多谈他自已的事⑤谈论他人感兴趣的话题⑥让他人觉得自已很重要。最重要的是第⑥点。

7. Improving communication skills is very important. Do you have any methods? ① Show genuine concern for others ② Frequently smile ③ Remember others' names ④ Listen and encourage others to talk more about themselves ⑤ Discuss topics that others are interested in ⑥ Make others feel important. The most important point is the sixth one.

8. 但是与人相处并不是一件容易的事情，为了避免冲突和矛盾，我们若选择去一味的迎合，就成了自虐。若你想真正的去做自己，不能顾及他人的感受，又成为了自私。与人能够形成很好的联结，是一门学问，我们不禁会问，如何让自己更好的与人交际？

8. However, getting along with others is not an easy task. To avoid conflicts and contradictions, if we choose to constantly cater to others, it becomes self-torture. If you want to truly be yourself and cannot care about others' feelings, it becomes selfish. Forming a good connection with others is an art, and we can't help but wonder, how can we improve our social interaction with others?

9. 思考其中的原因，不是缺少社交机会，而是面临众多会议，活动等外联机会时，无法谈笑风生，大方自然地主动去攀谈展现自己。

9. Reflect on the reasons, not because of a lack of social opportunities, but rather when faced with numerous external engagement opportunities such as meetings and activities, one is unable to chat and interact freely, or approach and introduce oneself naturally and confidently.

10. 不要说的时候滔滔不绝，谈个没完，不说的时候什么也不说。人们不喜欢这样，要不断总结别人说的话，并一直保持谈话。

10. Do not talk endlessly when you're not supposed to, and do not say nothing when you're supposed to talk. People don't like it this way; they should continuously summarize what others have said and keep the conversation going.

11. 人们是 社会 性的动物，我们无法脱离 社会 而单独存在，有时候避免对于孤独的恐惧，我们倾向于去属于某一群体。从需求的理论来看，人们是具有爱和归属的需求，这个归属感也是要使得自己在某一群体享有某种地位和角色。

11. Humans are social animals, and we cannot exist independently of society. Sometimes, to avoid the fear of loneliness, we tend to belong to a group. From the perspective of the theory of needs, people have a need for love and a sense of belonging, and this sense of belonging is also about achieving a certain status and role within a group.

12. 很多人不喜欢职场环境，觉得办公室人际太复杂。但要记住有人的地方就有是非，这些是不可避免的。我们不喜欢的事情多了，不可能事事能顺心，所以，放平心态去做事，正常处理人际是非。改变不了就去适应他。

12. Many people dislike the workplace environment, feeling that office interpersonal relationships are too complex. However, remember that where there are people, there are also disputes and misunderstandings, which are inevitable. There are many things we dislike, and it is impossible to please everything. Therefore, maintain a calm attitude towards work and handle interpersonal disputes and misunderstandings normally. If you cannot change it, then adapt to it.

13. 不要害怕自己的举动看起来滑稽，容易出丑，重要的是知道什么时候该停止。

13. Don't be afraid if your actions look comical or embarrassing; what's important is knowing when to stop.

14. 很多人为了能别人有话题，恨不是把自己家老底都掏出来跟人说，那其实这并不是一件好事。如我曾一位同事，刚入职没一周，就跟大家说她因为未婚先孕，所以只好去流产，坐了半个月的小月子，现在长胖了几十斤。说实话，她这样分享自己的秘密并没有给她带来什么好的人际关系，相反大爱都对她保持一定距离，因为她跟大家不熟，就把自己的隐私告诉别人，会让人觉得，这人不可靠。

14. Many people are so eager to have something to talk about that they would almost expose the secrets of their own homes to others. In reality, this is not a good thing. For example, a colleague of mine, who had just started her job less than a week, told everyone that she had to have an abortion because she was pregnant before marriage, spent half a month on bed rest, and now she has gained dozens of pounds. To be honest, sharing her secrets like this did not bring her any good interpersonal relationships; on the contrary, everyone kept a certain distance from her. Because she was not familiar with everyone, she told others about her privacy, which made people feel that this person is unreliable.

15. 我们曾以为这是一个五彩斑斓的童话世界，当真正涉足以后，感受到了人间冷暖，世态炎凉，如鱼饮水，冷暖自知。但我们不应该消沉悲观，不应该怨天尤人，要以积极乐观的态度，屏蔽人世间的凉薄，体验烟火人间的美好，追求一种热辣滚烫的生活。

15. We once thought this was a colorful fairy tale world, but after truly stepping into it, we felt the warmth and coldness of human life, the vicissitudes of the world, like a fish drinking water, knowing the warmth and coldness by oneself. But we should not be despondent and pessimistic, nor should we blame the heavens or others. We should adopt a positive and optimistic attitude, shield ourselves from the coldness of the world, experience the beauty of the world of smoke and fire, and pursue a hot and boiling life.

16. 别人怎么答应那是他的事，尊重你，善待你，那是他的修养，嘲讽冷漠你，轻视你，那是他的素质。你管不了，也不用管，在别人的世界里顺其自然，在自己的世界里独善其身，全心全意做好自己的事，以最热烈的姿态，和温暖的态度拥抱这个世界。

16. It's his own business how others agree to it; respecting and treating you well is his character, and mocking, being indifferent to, and looking down upon you is his quality. You can't control it and don't need to, just go with the flow in others' worlds and cultivate yourself in your own world. Devote yourself wholeheartedly to your own affairs, and embrace the world with the most enthusiastic posture and a warm attitude.

17. 生活不简单，尽量简单过。

17. Life is not simple, try to live simply.

18. 其实，对于一个交际广泛的人来说，是没有什么原因说“不”的，除非先前已经答应了另外一个更重要的社交活动。

18. In fact, for someone who is widely communicative, there is no reason to say "no," unless they have already agreed to another more important social event.

19. 找个机会单独和某个人谈谈，这样会让他知道你想和他谈话，结果是他也想和你谈话。

19. Find an opportunity to talk to someone alone, so that it will make them aware that you want to have a conversation with them, and as a result, they will also want to talk to you.

20. 有些人不喜欢闹热，喜欢一个人呆着，但要知道，我们人是群居动物，尤其是在职场，融入大家庭，不要显得太特立独行。尤其刚进入职场的新人，和同事吃饭玩乐，是很快进入团队的方式和大家熟络起来。

20. Some people don't like bustling places and prefer to be alone, but it's important to know that humans are social animals, especially in the workplace. It's best to integrate into the big family and not to seem too independent. Especially for newcomers just entering the workforce, eating and having fun with colleagues is a quick way to join the team and become familiar with everyone.

21. 沟通是个体 情感 、态度、需求等心理因素传递和交流的过程，彼此的沟通不仅可以交流思想、 情感 分享，增加彼此熟悉度，更能够较少彼此交往中的冲突。

21. Communication is the process of transmitting and exchanging psychological factors such as individual emotions, attitudes, and needs. Mutual communication not only facilitates the exchange of ideas and sharing of emotions, increasing familiarity between individuals, but also helps to reduce conflicts in their interactions.

22. 自我暴露也称作是自我开放，是指在交往的时候把自己相关的东西显示给他人。心理学家认为，良好的人际关系是在自我暴露逐渐增加的过程而建立的。

22. Self-disclosure, also known as self-opening, refers to displaying one's relevant things to others during communication. Psychologists believe that good interpersonal relationships are established through a gradual increase in self-disclosure.

23. 若想提高自己的交际能力，就是要把你的胆子放大一些，无论干什么事不要顾虑太多，该说就说、该唱就唱、该干就干，只要胆子大了，交际能力一定能上去。

23. If you want to improve your communicative skills, you need to take a bigger leap of courage. Don't worry too much about what you do; just speak when you should, sing when you should, and act when you should. As long as you gain more courage, your communicative skills will definitely improve.

24. 如我们初次与人见面时，可以从简单的封闭式问题开始，但第二个问题时，就应该提一些开放式的问题。举个栗子。

24. When we meet someone for the first time, we can start with simple closed-ended questions, but for the second question, we should ask some open-ended questions. Let me give you an example.

25. 想要与人更好的交际，我们需要与更多的人形成良好的人际关系。人际关系是人与人在沟通和交往中建立起来的直接的心理上的联系。

25. In order to communicate with people better, we need to establish good interpersonal relationships with more people. Interpersonal relationships are direct psychological connections established between individuals through communication and interaction.

26. 我们总会追求平衡，平衡代表的是一种稳定性，对于彼此交往的关系来说，也是一样需要平等的。拥有相似的地位、角色等等的两个人更容易交往。但是当你可以给予对方尊重，让对方感觉到平等安全，地位差距悬殊，也是可以克服的。

26. We always strive for balance, as balance represents a form of stability, and it is also necessary for equal treatment in relationships. Two people with similar status, roles, and so on are easier to interact with. However, when you can show respect to the other person and make them feel equal and safe, it is also possible to overcome significant differences in status.

27. 观察周围的人。他们和你一样，唯一不同的是：他们相信他们自己。建立自信心会对你大有帮助，试着去相信自己的能力。

27. Observe the people around you. They are just like you; the only difference is that they believe in themselves. Building self-confidence will greatly help you, so try to believe in your own abilities.

28. 人们生存的目标除了满足温饱，更重要的是追求一种精神上的快乐和幸福。那么获得幸福和快乐最重要的支持因素是什么呢？许多人会误认为是金钱、权力等等，但其实这些并不是。

28. The goal of people's survival is not only to meet their basic needs for food and clothing, but more importantly, to pursue spiritual joy and happiness. So, what are the most important supporting factors for achieving happiness and joy? Many people would mistakenly believe it is money, power, and so on, but in fact, these are not the case.

29. 简单来说，就是自己做自己注意力的观察者：分别感受与陌生人社交时，注意力全在自己身上和全在对方及环境周遭的区别。

29. In simple terms, it means becoming the observer of your own attention: sensing the difference between when your attention is entirely on yourself during social interactions with strangers and when it is entirely on the other person and the surrounding environment.

30. 大家看，如果你这样问，是不是就可以避免简单的一问一答的枯燥式聊天了呢？

30. Look, if you ask like this, can't it avoid the boring and monotonous style of simple Q&A chatting?

31. 我们知道人际关系的形成，是在逐步的建立中获得的。通过什么方式可以快速的增加彼此的 情感 性呢？ 自我暴露的深度和广度就是人际关系深度的一个探测器， 当评估出我们自我暴露的水平，就可以了解我们对于他人的接纳程度。

31. We know that the formation of interpersonal relationships is achieved through gradual building. How can we quickly increase the emotional bond between each other? The depth and breadth of self-disclosure act as a probe into the depth of interpersonal relationships. When we assess our level of self-disclosure, we can understand the extent to which we are accepting of others.

32. 这一段话也太治愈了：“别人待我如何，是我的因果；我待别人如何，是我的修行。学最好的别人，做最好的自己；少操闲心莫说闲话，干好份内事。人生不是靠心情而活，而是靠心态去生活。”

32. This passage is too healing: "How others treat me is my karma; how I treat others is my practice. Learn from the best others and be the best version of yourself; don't worry about trivial matters and don't speak idle words, do your own duties well. Life is not lived by mood, but by attitude."

33. 当处在某一阶段的两个人，可以选择性的增加自我暴露的程度，这样在心理上会更增加亲密性， 情感 的卷入性也会增强。

33. When two individuals are at a certain stage, they can optionally increase the extent of self-disclosure, which will further enhance their psychological intimacy and strengthen the involvement of their emotions.

34. 不要去完全模仿你周围的人，只需要你认为对你有帮助的就可以了。不要搞得和“邯郸学步”似的。

34. Do not imitate the people around you completely; only do what you think is helpful to you. Don't end up like someone who tries to learn to walk like the people of Handan.

35. 每次参加社交活动，除了认真完成活动本身的工作目的，还要将每次活动当成一次演练自己社交能力的良机。前期出现几次不理想的情况很正常，千万不要灰心。可以将每次经历写下来复盘，以便在未来有改善的机会。

35. Every time you participate in social activities, in addition to carefully completing the work objectives of the activity itself, you should also treat each event as an opportunity to practice your social skills. It's quite normal to encounter several less-than-ideal situations in the early stages, so please don't get discouraged. You can write down each experience for review, so that you have the chance to improve in the future.

36. 个人认为真诚，只要你真诚的面对别人，别人也会觉得这个人完全没有套路，因为每个人现在当今 社会 防备心理特别强，已经见怪不怪那些虚头巴脑的人了，谁都不傻，少些套路来点真诚。

36. Personally, I believe in sincerity; as long as you face others with sincerity, they will also find this person to be completely without tricks. Because in today's society, people's defense mechanisms are particularly strong, and they have already become accustomed to those superficial individuals. No one is naive; less tricks and more sincerity, please.

37. 我们每个人最喜欢谈论的就是自己了。如我男朋友怎么怎么样了，我今天买了一件衣服了……但是其如果你总是聊自己，别人很难提起兴趣跟你聊下去。那所以如果你想与对方接近，与对方建立起朋友关系，那么最好是聊对方，聊她感兴趣的事。那么你肯定能成为众人心目中有趣的人。

37. The one thing we all love to talk about the most is ourselves. Like, how my boyfriend is doing, or how I bought a new outfit today... But if you always talk about yourself, others may find it hard to maintain interest in continuing the conversation with you. So, if you want to get closer to someone and build a friendship with them, it's best to talk about them and things that interest them. Then you'll definitely become the interesting person in everyone's eyes.

38. 记住：变得交际广泛，并不是让你成为所有人的朋友。而是要你有选择地、谨慎交友。这会帮助你结交有质量，而不仅仅是有数量的朋友。

38. Remember: becoming socially extensive is not about making friends with everyone. It is about making selective and careful choices in friendship. This will help you cultivate friends of quality, not just in quantity.

39. 允许任何人对你不好，你只用自己对自己好，自个儿成全自个儿。

39. Allow anyone to treat you poorly, and you should only be good to yourself. Make yourself whole.

40. 5，不是说多就是交流高手，学会倾听才最重要

40.5, It's not that the higher the number, the more skilled you are at communication; learning to listen is the most important.

41. 心理学家通过广泛的调查和研究发现，能够真正让人们感到快乐的是拥有和谐良好的亲密关系，包括亲子、夫妻、亲密朋友等等。

41. Psychologists have found through extensive surveys and research that what truly brings people joy is the possession of harmonious and good intimate relationships, including parent-child, marital, close friendships, and so on.

42. 分析他们的行为，看看他们在做什么。试着吸收他们的一些有益的模式。

42. Analyze their behavior and see what they are doing. Try to absorb some of their beneficial patterns.

43. 我们会发现即使之前非常要好的朋友，很久之后不联系了，也会缺少当初的那份热情了。当彼此不再沟通和联系的时候，自然 情感 的联结就会变少。

43. We will find that even very good friends from the past may lose their initial enthusiasm after a long period of not contacting each other. When there is no longer communication and contact between each other, the natural emotional connection will naturally decrease.

44. 人际关系的建立，就像是两个没有交集的圆圈，通过慢慢的接触和交往，逐渐的形成交集，最后深度的卷入。在这个交往的过程中，需要通过良好的沟通， 情感 的 探索 和联结，才能逐渐形成良好的人际关系。

44. The establishment of interpersonal relationships is like two circles without any intersection. Through gradual contact and interaction, they gradually form an intersection and finally become deeply involved. In this process of interaction, good communication, exploration and connection of emotions are necessary to gradually form a positive interpersonal relationship.

45. 当我的紫葡萄化为深秋的露水，当我的鲜花依偎在别人的情怀，我依然用凝露的枯藤，在凄凉的大地上写下——相信未来。

45. When my purple grapes turn into the dew of deep autumn, when my flowers lean against someone else's affection, I still use the withered vines with condensed dew, and write on the desolate land - Believe in the Future.

46. 不要恶意中伤别人，不要太过自大。这样是不会赢得朋友的。

46. Do not maliciously slander others and do not be overly proud. This will not win you friends.

47. 3，开玩笑有底线，不说随意拿对方短处说笑。

47. 3, Make jokes with limits, don't make fun of someone's shortcomings arbitrarily.

48. 每个人都是一半天使，一半恶魔。你能给别人提供价值的时候，别人就会温柔以待。你无法提供价值的时候，别人就会不屑一顾。你只能麻烦别人的时候，就会受到嫌弃和疏远。

48. Everyone is half angel and half devil. When you can provide value to others, they will treat you kindly. When you cannot provide value, they will look down upon you. When you can only trouble others, you will be disliked and shunned.

49. 多和不同层级的人交流，交换思想，多发表自己的看法，同时也要对他人的想法保持一种思考力和判断力，让自己的大脑做到极度开放，能容纳不同的想法；并且要阅读不同行业的书籍，多了解不同行业的状况。当然这个过程需要时间的积累。加油！

49. Engage in communication with people from different levels, exchange ideas, and frequently express your own opinions. At the same time, maintain a critical thinking and judgmental ability regarding others' thoughts, allowing your mind to remain highly open and capable of accommodating different ideas; and also read books from various industries, gaining more understanding of the situations in different fields. Of course, this process requires time to accumulate. Keep up the good work!

50. 不过，我觉得不管什么样的技巧，最重要的如这本书名我们要学会换位思考，多站对方角度思考，那自然你就不怕没人跟你做朋友，没人跟你聊天了。

50. However, I think that regardless of what kind of skill, the most important thing, as suggested by the title of this book, is to learn to think from another's perspective, to consider more from the other person's angle. Naturally, you wouldn't be afraid of not having friends to talk to or no one to chat with.

51. 我们曾如此渴望命运的波澜，后来才发现，人生最曼妙的风景，是内心的淡定和从容。

51. We had so eagerly longed for the ups and downs of fate, but later on, we realized that the most enchanting scenery in life is the inner calm and composure.

52. 世间只有一种英雄主义，就是看透了生活的真相之后，依然热爱生活。

52. There is only one kind of heroism in the world, which is to still love life after seeing through the truth of life.

53. 午饭的时候，不要只是和一两个好朋友，要和大伙坐在一起。这样你会变得更善于社交，周围也会有很多人。

53. During lunchtime, don't just sit with one or two close friends, but join the group. This way, you will become more sociable and surrounded by many people.

54. 凡事就怕认真，只要准备充分，你一定可以看到自己一次次地不同。

54. What matters is taking things seriously. As long as you are well-prepared, you will definitely see your own differences in each attempt.

55. 总之，快节奏的今天不愿浪费大家太多宝贵时间，其他事例不再赘述。

55. In summary, in today's fast-paced world, we do not wish to waste too much of your valuable time, and therefore will not elaborate on other examples.

56. 社会 交际注意四点：1当有人给你倒水时，手扶杯子，说谢谢。

56. Social communication注意事项: 1. When someone pours water for you, hold the cup with your hand and say "thank you."

57. 例如，如果一堆人在谈论，其中某个人讲了一个笑话，惹得人们都在笑。但是你并没有对他们的会话参与多少，这时，你可以礼貌地附和几片笑声，或者告诉他们你同意他们的观点，这样就可以借机加入到他们。

57. For example, if a group of people is talking and someone tells a joke that makes everyone laugh, but you haven't been much involved in their conversation, you can politely join in with a few laughs, or tell them that you agree with their viewpoint, thus giving yourself an opportunity to join in with them.

58. 从现在起，跟每一座山，每一条河，起一个温暖的名字，尽情听一朵花开的声音，看一片树叶在微风中舞蹈，学一只蝴蝶在花瓣中翩翩起舞。

58. From now on, give each mountain and each river a warm name, fully listen to the sound of a flower blooming, watch a leaf dance in the breeze, and learn from a butterfly fluttering gracefully among the petals.

59. 另外，可以从每天的一点点改变去刻意练习，比如：主动向领导问候，热情向同事打招呼，礼貌向服务员微笑都可以帮助我们适应社交的需要，逐步提升我们的人际沟通能力和信心。

59. Additionally, one can practice deliberately by making small changes every day, such as: greeting the leader proactively, warmly greeting colleagues, and smiling politely to waiters can all help us adapt to social needs and gradually enhance our interpersonal communication skills and confidence.

60. 别人对你好不好，主要取决于自己强不强。与其因为别人的态度而怨天尤人，不如好好修炼自己，沉淀自己，提升自己。

60. Whether others treat you well mainly depends on your own strength. It's better to focus on cultivating yourself, refining yourself, and improving yourself, rather than complaining about others' attitudes and blaming the heavens and others.

61. 题主遇到的问题，其实很多人都会遇到。会聊天的人，与人交流时，越聊越有意思，不会聊天的人，三下二下就把天给聊死了。

61. The problem encountered by the questioner is actually something that many people will face. People who can chat will make the conversation more interesting as they talk, while those who cannot chat will kill the conversation in three or two moves.

62. 请熟人帮助 引导进入社交

62. Enlist the help of acquaintances to guide entry into social circles

63. 问个问题、讲个笑话，随便找个话题和周围的人探讨。不要因为别人讨论你，你就不去谈话了。尽管讲出来，这会帮助你和其他人打成一片，而且这样能让你看起来更善于交际。

63. Ask a question, tell a joke, or pick any topic to discuss with the people around you. Don't stop talking just because others are talking about you. Go ahead and express yourself; this will help you bond with others and make you seem more sociable.

64. 当然了，《所谓会说话就是会换位思考》这本书讲到了一些特定场合的聊天技巧，如在面试时，去参加公司聚餐、商务酒会等等场合我们需要注意的地方。大家如感兴趣可以去看看这本书。

64. Of course, the book "So-Called Speaking is All About Empathy" discusses some chat skills for specific occasions, such as what to pay attention to during job interviews, company dinners, business cocktail parties, and so on. If you are interested, you can go and take a look at this book.

65. 那究竟如何才能与别人愉快的交流呢？

66. 1，与人交谈时，尽量避免运用封闭式的问题，多提一些开放式的问题。

65. How can one communicate happily with others? 66. 1. When conversing with others, try to avoid using closed-ended questions and instead ask more open-ended questions.

67. 很多工作多年的朋友盘点人脉时，发现交流最多的还是现有同事，其次为同城同学，真正因工作结识并有深厚交情的人脉少之又少。

67. Many friends who have worked for many years, when they review their contacts, find that the ones they communicate with the most are their current colleagues, followed by classmates from the same city, and there are very few contacts that were truly made through work and have deep friendships.

68. 主动主动主动，重要的事情说三遍！不管是工作还是生活，我们一定要主动出击，不要让自己太被动。在工作上不要被动做事，没事也要自己找事做，不要怕做多了吃亏，这是好机会锻炼自己，多学习。

68. Actively, actively, actively! It's important to emphasize this three times! Whether it's work or life, we must take the initiative and not let ourselves become too passive. At work, don't do things passively; even when there's nothing to do, find something to do for yourself. Don't be afraid of overworking and losing out, as this is a great opportunity to exercise yourself and learn more.

69. 自我价值是个体对于自己的一种评价和判断，而自我价值保护，是对于否定的评价进行的心理支持。通常我们的自我价值感是通过他人的评价而获得的，若在交往中对方总是否定你，为了避免自我价值的贬低，通常会选择远离和疏远这个人。这就是说明了人们更喜欢他人的赞美，更愿意与能够真心赞美的人做朋友。

69. Self-esteem is an individual's evaluation and judgment of themselves, while self-esteem protection is the psychological support for negative evaluations. Usually, our sense of self-esteem is obtained through others' evaluations. If, in communication, the other person constantly negates you, in order to avoid the devaluation of self-esteem, you would typically choose to distance yourself and alienate this person. This explains why people prefer others' praise and are more willing to be friends with those who can genuinely praise them.