在快节奏的生活中，我们渴望掌握独立生活的秘诀，摆脱物质与精神的枷锁。这，便是我们踏上自我探索之旅的起点。

In the fast-paced life, we yearn to master the secrets of independent living and break free from the shackles of material and spiritual constraints. This is the starting point for our journey of self-exploration.

1. 生活的秘密就是，你今天和某个人喝茶聊天很快乐，于是你明天想要再来一次，但却发现不那么快乐，甚至于昨天跟你喝茶谈天的人已经不在了。活着就是赶不上和来不及，赶不上每一天的日出和巴士，赶不上四季交替股票涨跌，来不及在你落泪前拥抱你，来不及跟谁郑重告别。

1. The secret of life is that you may be very happy having tea and chatting with someone today, and you wish to do it again tomorrow, but you find it's not as joyful, even that person who shared tea and talks with you yesterday is no longer there. Living is about not being able to catch up and not having enough time – not being able to catch the sunrise and the bus of each day, not being able to catch up with the stock market's ups and downs with the changing of seasons, not having enough time to hug you before you shed tears, not having enough time to say a solemn farewell to anyone.

2. 如果你不爱一个人，请放手，好让别人有机会爱她。如果你爱的人放弃了你，请放开自己，好让自己有机会爱别人。有的东西你再喜欢也不会属於你的，有的东西你再留恋也注定要放弃的，爱是人生中一首永远也唱不完的歌。人一生中也许会经历许多种爱，但千万别让爱成为一种伤害。

2. If you do not love someone, let go so that someone else has a chance to love her. If the one you love gives up on you, let go of yourself so that you have a chance to love someone else. Some things, no matter how much you like them, will never belong to you; some things, no matter how much you cherish them, are destined to be abandoned. Love is a song that is never finished in life. In a person's life, one may experience many kinds of love, but never let love become a source of hurt.

3. 要相信世界上一定有你的爱人，无论你此刻正被光芒环绕被掌声淹没，还是当时你正孤独地走在寒冷的街道上被大雨淋湿，无论是飘着小雪的清晨，还是被热浪炙烤的黄昏，他一定会穿越这个世界上汹涌的人群，他

3. You must believe that there is definitely someone who loves you in this world, whether you are now surrounded by brilliance and immersed in applause, or you are walking alone on a cold street drenched by a heavy rain, whether it's a morning with light snowflakes, or an evening scorching under the heatwave, he will definitely cross through the bustling crowd of this world, and he will...

4. 习惯着彼此的语言，重复万遍也不觉厌倦；等待着彼此的晚安，只因为心里那份惦念。

4. Getting accustomed to each other's language, repeating it a thousand times never feels weary; looking forward to each other's goodnight, just because of that lingering concern in the heart.

5. 无论何种感情，不要成为一种负累。若形成压力，总要逃离;若造就牵绊，总会失去。在意，却不刻意;珍惜，却不痴迷。

5. No matter what kind of emotion, don't let it become a burden. If it creates pressure, always seek to escape; if it forms ties, you will inevitably lose. Be concerned, but not overly deliberate; cherish, but not obsessed.

6. 愿你有一个灿烂的前程，愿你有情人终成眷属，愿你在尘世获得幸福。——海子

6. May you have a brilliant future, may your beloved ones be united in the end, and may you find happiness in this world. — Haizi

7. 人在发脾气的时候其实内心是惧怕的，既怕承担后果，更怕失去对方。所以我们会选择相对安全的人来发泄怒火，而这个相对安全的人，往往是最善待和包容我们的人，也是我们最亲的人。亲情不该被这样挥霍，不要把最坏的脾气，留给最亲的人。

7. When people lose their temper, they are actually feeling afraid in their hearts, both afraid of facing the consequences and afraid of losing the other person. That's why we tend to vent our anger on relatively safe individuals, and these individuals are often the ones who are the most kind and包容 towards us, as well as the closest to us. Family ties should not be treated in such a manner. Do not reserve your worst tempers for your closest family members.

8. 如果可以，我真想和你一直旅行。或许是某个古朴的小镇，或许是某座灿烂辉煌的大都市。我们可以沿途用镜头记录彼此的笑脸，和属于我们的风景。一起吃早餐，午餐，晚餐。或许吃得不好，可是却依旧为对方擦去嘴角的油渍。风景如何，其实并不重要。重要的是，你在我的身边。

8. If possible, I really would like to travel with you forever. Maybe it would be some quaint little town, or perhaps some dazzling metropolis. We could capture each other's smiles and the scenery that belongs to us along the way with our camera. We could have breakfast, lunch, and dinner together. We might not eat very well, but we would still wipe the oil from each other's lips. It's not the scenery that matters, really. What's important is that you are by my side.

9. 一走过他们，走向你。他一定会找到你，你要等。

9. Once past them, head towards you. He will definitely find you, just wait.

10. 咖啡苦与甜，不在于怎么搅拌，而在于是否放糖;一段伤痛，不在于怎么忘记，而在于是否有勇气重新开始。不管有没有人爱，我们也要努力做一个可爱的人。不埋怨谁，不嘲笑谁，也不羡慕谁，阳光下灿烂，风雨中奔跑，做自己的梦，走自己的路。

10. The bitterness and sweetness of coffee do not lie in how it is stirred, but in whether sugar is added; the pain of a wound does not depend on how it is forgotten, but on whether one has the courage to start anew. Whether loved or not, we should still strive to be an adorable person. We do not blame anyone, mock anyone, or envy anyone. We shine in the sunshine, run in the rain, chase our own dreams, and walk our own path.

11. 女人很多时候是在完成自己的任务，即便是精神和物质独立了也是需要另一半的。这是大部分女人的做法，它不需要任何理由。几千年沉淀下来的思想不是说改变就能改变的。

11. Women often have their own tasks to complete, even when they are both spiritually and materially independent, they still need their partner. This is the approach taken by the majority of women, and it does not require any justification. The thoughts that have accumulated over thousands of years are not something that can be changed overnight.

12. 总是活在一些极致的情绪里，某一段时间会对生活充满了信心，但突然在某一瞬间，你又会全盘推翻。你有信心时，无所不能，而你推翻这一切的时候，也是百分之百的灰心。

12. Always living in extreme emotions, for a while you may be full of confidence in life, but suddenly at a moment, you will completely overturn everything. When you are confident, you can do anything, and when you overturn all this, it is also 100% disheartening.

13. 生命的意义在于快乐。获取快乐的诀窍，就是不依赖任何人，用心灵去感知一切美好。

13. The meaning of life lies in happiness. The secret to obtaining happiness is to depend on no one and to perceive all the beauty with the heart.

14. 要独立到不依赖任何一个人，不期待除自己以外的温暖，独立到一个人可以生活的更好。

14. To be independent to the point of not depending on anyone, not anticipating warmth from anyone other than oneself, and to be independent to the extent that one can live a better life on one's own.

15. 自由不是想干什么就干什么，而是想不干什么就有能力不干什么。——伊曼努尔·康德

15. Freedom is not doing whatever one wants, but having the ability not to do what one does not want to do. - Immanuel Kant

16. 有时候你觉得怎么都忘不掉一个人，或许只是因为你忘不掉那些美好的时光和穷尽一切付出的自己，失恋最可怕的地方不是失去一个人，而是失去那个人的同时，也丧失了喜欢人的能力，勇气和信心。如果觉得前面已无路可走，就反问自己，是真的走不出去，还是自己不想走出去。

16. Sometimes you feel like you can't forget someone no matter what, maybe it's just because you can't forget those wonderful moments and the exhausted version of yourself you were when you gave everything. The scariest thing about heartbreak isn't losing someone, but losing the ability to love, the courage, and the confidence to do so at the same time. If you feel like there is no way forward, ask yourself, is it really impossible to move on, or do you just not want to?

17. 以前也会因为偶然的惊鸿一瞥对某个人怦然心动，可随着年龄的增长，发现越来越难毫无缘由的喜欢一个人。爱情观从一见钟情变成了日久生情。学会了用心而不是用眼睛去分辨喜欢与否。

17. In the past, one might have been captivated by a fleeting glimpse of someone, feeling a sudden affection. But as age grows, it becomes increasingly difficult to like someone without any apparent reason. The view of love has shifted from love at first sight to love that blossoms over time. I have learned to discern affection through the heart rather than the eyes.

18. 以前总觉得幸福是你打个喷嚏都有人来嘘寒问暖，皱下眉都有人把天上的星星摘下来，睡不着有人陪你疯，无聊有人陪你闹。纵容你所有的无理取闹，包容你所有的胡搅蛮缠，最重要的是，他还觉得这一切理所当然 。现在，我不再会那么想了，我觉得只要想哭时，能找到一打电话的人，就是幸福 。-- 夏七夕

18. In the past, I always thought happiness was that someone would come to comfort you when you sneezed, would take the stars from the sky when you furrowed your brow, would accompany you when you couldn't sleep, and would make trouble with you when you were bored. They would indulge all your unreasonable behavior and tolerate all your stubbornness. Most importantly, they would think all of this was natural. Now, I no longer think that way. I feel that if I can find someone to call when I want to cry, that is happiness. -- Xia Qixi

19. 心情不好时，要经常问自己，你有什么而不是没有什么。如果你觉得不爽，你就抬眼望窗外，世界很大，风景很美，机会很多，人生很短，不要蜷缩在一小块阴影里。如果你的生活已处于低谷，那就，大胆走。因为你怎样走都是在向上。

19. When you're feeling down, ask yourself what you have rather than what you don't have. If you feel uncomfortable, look out the window. The world is vast, the scenery is beautiful, there are many opportunities, and life is short. Don't curl up in a small shadow. If your life is at a low point, then, take the bold step. Because no matter how you walk, you are moving upwards.

20. 找一个，畅所欲言的伴，让精神舒缓;守一份，不离不弃的情，让心灵靠岸。

20. Find a companion with whom you can speak freely to soothe your spirit; cherish a love that is unwavering and unyielding to let your soul find a haven.

21. 爱所有人 信任少数人 不负任何人。——莎士比亚

21. Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. — Shakespeare

22. 成功的人找方法，失败的人找借口;要成功就没有借口，要借口就不可能会成功。

22. Successful people find ways, unsuccessful people find excuses; there are no excuses for success, and it's impossible to succeed with excuses.

23. 不要依赖别人的情绪价值，学会自己救自己，自己治愈自己。

23. Do not rely on others' emotional value; learn to save and heal yourself.

24. 当你还没强大到一定程度，没必要到处抱怨你的处境，默默做好你该做的事情，等你变得足够好，自然会有配得上你的人，拉你进更好的圈子，到那时，你会站在新的高度，拥抱更美的风景。

24. When you are not strong enough, there's no need to complain about your situation everywhere. Do what you are supposed to do silently. When you become good enough, there will naturally be people who are worthy of you, pulling you into a better circle. By then, you will stand at a new height, embracing a more beautiful scenery.

25. 与其在意别人的背弃和不善，不如经营自己的尊严和美好。

25. It's better to focus on cultivating one's dignity and beauty rather than worrying about others' betrayal and ill intentions.

26. 有一种爱，明明是深爱，却表达不完美;有一种爱，明知要放弃，却不甘心就此离开;有一种爱，明知是煎熬，却又躱不掉;有一种爱，明知无前路，心却早已收不回来;有一种爱，明知会受伤，却不愿意放手;有一种爱，明知要等待，却傻傻的独自寂寞;有一种爱，明明不联系，却会拼命的想起对方!

26. There is a kind of love that is deeply felt but not perfectly expressed; there is a kind of love that knows it has to let go but is unwilling to leave; there is a kind of love that knows it is torturous but cannot escape; there is a kind of love that knows there is no way forward but the heart has already lost its way; there is a kind of love that knows it will hurt but is unwilling to let go; there is a kind of love that knows it has to wait but foolishly endures loneliness alone; there is a kind of love that, even without contact, will拼命 think of the other person!

27. 爱情就是一场冒险，赢了，厮守一生;输了，那个比朋友更近的人，连朋友都不是。

27. Love is an adventure; if you win, you will be together for life; if you lose, the person who was closer than a friend, is not even a friend.

28. 结了婚嫁了人，最起码可以有一个陪伴自己的人，可以有一个人陪你说说话，陪你散散步。而且她周围的人都结婚了，有的孩子都十几岁了，她不想成为另类，所以想把自己嫁出去。

28. Having gotten married and settled down, at the very least, she can have someone to accompany her. She can have someone to talk to and walk with. Moreover, everyone around her is married, with some of them already having children in their teens. She doesn't want to be an outlier, so she wants to get married herself.

29. 生活中，我们总是把快乐的着眼点放在物质上。想着买一栋别墅，做最豪华的装修。想着买一张宝马，在人前人后有面子。想着要在大城市生活，享受最顶级的基础设施和社会福利条件。我们一辈子都在为更好的物质条件而奋斗，心力交瘁，奔波劳碌，最后忘记了自己为什么出发，一生都痛苦不已。

29. In life, we always focus on material things when seeking happiness. We dream of buying a villa and having the most luxurious decoration. We dream of buying a BMW, feeling proud in front of others. We dream of living in a big city, enjoying the top-notch infrastructure and social welfare conditions. Our entire lives are spent struggling for better material conditions, exhausted both physically and mentally, and in the end, we forget why we started out, leading to lifelong suffering.

30. 走过的路长了，遇见的人多了，经历的事杂了。不经意间，人生最美最曼妙的风景就是内心的淡定与从容，头脑的睿智与清醒。人生最奢侈的就是有一颗不老的童心，一个生生不息的信念，一个健康的身体，一个永远牵手的爱人。一个自由的心态，一份喜欢的工作，一份安稳的睡眠，一份享受生活的美好心情。

30. As the path walked grows longer and the people encountered multiply, and the experiences become more varied, by chance, the most beautiful and enchanting scenery in life is the inner calm and composure, the wisdom and clarity of the mind. The most luxurious thing in life is to have an ever-young childlike heart, an indestructible belief, a healthy body, and a lifelong companion who holds your hand. A free and easy mindset, a job that you enjoy, a stable sleep, and a wonderful mood to enjoy life.

31. 女人的脸不经近看，男人的心不经细看。有些人，身近了，心也就远了。

31. A woman's face is not meant to be seen close-up, and a man's heart is not meant to be examined closely. Some people, when they are close, their hearts also become distant.

32. 别因为害怕孤单而凑合着相拥，也别因为一时的“别无选择”而将就的活着。——许灵子

32. Don't settle for embracing out of fear of loneliness, nor live in a compromise due to a temporary "no other choice." — Xu Lingzi

33. 当你觉得你的付出已是作了最大的退让和牺牲时，别人的心中所想却可能只是这破玩意儿一文不值。别自作多情把自己想得多伟大，给不了被需要的东西，一切皆白搭。

33. When you feel that your efforts have already made the biggest concession and sacrifice, what others may be thinking in their hearts is that this thing is worthless. Don't overestimate yourself and think of yourself as great; if you can't provide what is needed, everything is in vain.

34. 和聪明人交流，和靠谱的人恋爱，和积极的人共事，和幽默的人随行。人生若能如此，足矣。

34. Communicate with intelligent people, fall in love with reliable ones, work with positive individuals, and travel with humorous companions. If life could be like this, it would be more than enough.

35. 我们时常会感觉到心累，只是自己想得太多。我们总说生活繁琐，其实是自己不懂得品味。我们时常业务繁忙，只是自己得不到满足。我们也总是争强好胜，其实是自己虚荣心太强。其实，人生就那么简单。做个单纯的人，走一段幸福的路。

35. We often feel mentally exhausted, but it's just because we overthink. We always complain about the triviality of life, but it's because we don't know how to appreciate it. We are often busy with work, but it's because we can't find fulfillment. We are always striving to be the best, but it's because our ego is too strong. In fact, life is actually quite simple. Be a simple person, and walk on a path of happiness.

36. 我宁愿是一个最渺小的人，心怀梦想以及实现梦想的愿望，也不愿意去做一个失去梦想和愿望的最伟大之人。——纪伯伦《沙与沫》

36. I would rather be the most humble person with dreams and the desire to realize them than the greatest person who has lost his dreams and desires. — Kahlil Gibran, The Sand and the Foam

37. 没有一颗心会因为追求梦想而受伤，当你真心想要某样东西时，整个宇宙都会联合起来帮你完成。

37. No heart is ever broken by chasing dreams; when you truly desire something, the entire universe will come together to help you achieve it.

38. 青春似一江潮水，潮起潮落，褪尽了繁华，疯长了寂寞，幸福一场，只不过是流光莺火，伤感后的喜悦，庆幸不再耿耿入怀，梦，一如美丽的烟火，这一场风花雪月，流离失所，除了爱，我们还拥有什么

38. Youth is like a river of tides, rising and falling, wearing away the splendor, growing loneliness out of control. Happiness is but a fleeting spark of light, joy after sadness, grateful that the regrets no longer weigh on my mind. Dreams, like beautiful fireworks, this romance of wind, flowers, snow, and moon, wandering in search of a home, beyond love, what else do we possess?

39. 以前觉得交朋友最重要，有了好朋友干什么都不愁，后来才知道，好朋友不是通过努力来争取的，而是在各自的道路上奔跑遇见的。 用自己的时间去依附别人，当有一天他们枯萎了，你也将变得一文不值。-- 刘同《向着光亮那方》

39. I used to think that making friends was the most important thing, that with good friends, one doesn't have to worry about anything. Later on, I realized that good friends are not something that can be achieved through effort, but rather, they are encountered while running on one's own path. To use one's own time to depend on others is to become invaluable when they wither away. -- Liu Tong, "Towards the Bright Side"

40. 忘记那个人，不如忘记自己，告诉自己，不是怕他忘记，而是怕他有一天重新把你想起。岁月带走的是记忆，但回忆会越来越清晰。真的有一天，他回过头来告诉你，他一直在惦记你，千万不要相信，因为，他已经不是原来的他，而你，也不再是过去的你。

40. It's better to forget that person than to forget yourself. Tell yourself that it's not because you're afraid he'll forget you, but because you're afraid he might remember you again one day. Time takes away memories, but recollections become clearer and clearer. If, one day, he turns around and tells you that he has been thinking of you all along, never believe him, because, he is no longer the same person he used to be, and neither are you.

41. 孔子的学生颜回，吃着粗茶淡饭，住在简陋偏僻的巷子里，把手臂放在脑袋后面，当枕头睡觉，日子过得非常清苦，别人都忍受不了，但颜回却感到非常快乐。因为颜回的内心世界非常富足，他知书达理，安贫乐道，不在乎物质的奢华享受，只要可以吃饱穿暖，躲避风雨，就可以知足常乐，随遇而安。

41. Yan Hui, a student of Confucius, lived a very frugal life, eating simple tea and plain food, living in a dilapidated and remote alley, placing his arms behind his head as a pillow to sleep. His days were very hard, and most people would not have been able to bear it, but Yan Hui felt extremely happy. This was because Yan Hui's inner world was very rich, he was well-versed in literature and propriety, content with poverty and happy with the path of righteousness, not caring for the luxurious material enjoyment. As long as he could have enough to eat and wear, and be sheltered from the wind and rain, he could be satisfied and happy, content with whatever came his way.

42. 人生没有什么事情是给别人做的。工作不是为了老板，是为了自己长本事赚钱。变美不是为了另一半，是为了自己得瑟摇摆。所有的努力都是你自己的选择，所有的荣耀和耻辱、成长和眼泪都是自己来担。啊，年轻人一定要提早知道这个道理，清心润肺，止咳化痰。琦殿

42. There is nothing in life that is done for others. Work is not for the boss, but for improving one's skills and making money. Becoming beautiful is not for the other half, but for one's own show-off and sway. All the efforts are your own choice, and all the glory and shame, growth and tears are borne by yourself. Ah, young people must understand this truth early on, calming the mind and nourishing the lungs, alleviating cough and phlegm. Qi Dian.

43. 人生没有完美，幸福没有百分。幸福在生活的点点滴滴中，它是来自心灵深处的一种感觉，常常藏在许多的小事物中，多半时候，那是一种触及心灵深处的悸动，小小的悸动，却泛出甜美的感受，于是乎，幸福的滋味便溢了出来。

43. Life is not perfect, and happiness does not have a percentage. Happiness is in the details of life, a feeling that comes from the depths of the soul, often hidden in many small things. Most of the time, it is a gentle stir in the depths of the heart, a small stir that brings out a sweet sensation, and thus, the taste of happiness spills out.

44. 保持阳光心态，积极面对人生。人生就似一本书，只会越读越精，越写越细。等到读懂时，心境开阔，凡事种种都已淡然于心。书无好坏对错，只有优劣之别，概因其书是自我心得，自编自读之物，悟得多时，书中有物，可圈可点;悟得少时可就无韵味可言了。

44. Maintain a positive and sunny mindset, and actively face life. Life is like a book, which becomes more refined and detailed with each reading and writing. By the time it is fully understood, the mind becomes broadened, and all sorts of things become indifferent in the heart. Books have no good or bad, right or wrong; there is only a distinction between quality and inferiority. This is because the book is a personal reflection, self-composed and self-read, and when one gains more insights, there are things in the book that are worth highlighting; but when one gains less, there is little charm left.

45. 地球是运动的，一个人不可能永远处在倒霉的位置!你别看我今天裤穿窿，终有一日龙穿凤!风水轮流转，宁欺白须公，莫欺少年穷!

45. The Earth is in motion, and one cannot always be in a bad position! Don't look at me wearing a hole in my pants today, for one day I will rise like a dragon to a phoenix! The cycle of fortune and misfortune turns, it is better to mock an elderly man with white whiskers than to mock a young person in poverty!

46. 目光如水，但比水更清彻透明;目光如海，但比海更宽广无极。仿佛他眼内的世界，要比眼外的世界深邃得多，幽远得多。

46. His gaze is like water, yet clearer and more transparent than water; his gaze is like the sea, yet broader and boundless than the sea. It seems that the world within his eyes is far more profound and distant than the world outside.

47. 如果你在精神上依赖别人，就会被别人所控制。你的人生只能成为别人的傀儡，你的存在不过是别人的提线木偶，哪有什么快乐可言。

47. If you are emotionally dependent on others, you will be controlled by them. Your life can only become a puppet of others, and your existence is no more than a puppet on strings. Where is there any joy to be found in that?

48. 做聪明的女人要学会三招。第一招叫拒绝，很多事情，你越想要反而得不到，偶尔的拒绝才会让别人犯贱往上凑。第二招叫放弃，有些人和事情不是你想让他好就能好的，已经没办法继续，就一定要放弃，不被贱人所牵绊住。第三招叫装傻，脸聪明的人其实心都傻，心聪明的人最爱装傻。

48. Smart women should learn three moves. The first move is to say no. For many things, the harder you want them, the less likely you are to get them. Only by occasionally saying no will others become more eager to approach. The second move is to give up. Some people and things are not as good as you want them to be, and there is no point in continuing. You must give up and not be tied down by the贱 people. The third move is to pretend to be dumb. People with a smart face actually have a dumb heart, and people with a smart heart love to pretend to be dumb.

49. 快乐是一个人的内心感受，不能被其他人所左右。如果一个人的生活和心情，无时无刻不受到别人的影响和摆布，他就无法获得真正的快乐，因为没有任何人可以给予他稳定的快乐。

49. Happiness is an individual's inner feeling and cannot be influenced by others. If a person's life and mood are constantly affected and manipulated by others, they cannot achieve true happiness, because no one can give them stable happiness.

50. 我只爱对你发脾气，因为我潜意识相信你不会离开我。胡闹原来是一种依赖。

50. I only lose my temper with you because my subconscious believes that you will never leave me. Misbehaving turns out to be a form of dependence.

51. 走在一起是缘分，一起在走是幸福，在一起就拥有了一生相守的幸福;有人说，缘分是前世修来的，是五百次回眸的执着才换来今生的擦肩而过，是千年不变的守候才有了今生的默默相守;有人说，幸福是有形状的，你把它放在心里，它就是心的形状，你把它放在外面，它就虚无缥缈。

51. Walking together is fate, walking together is happiness; being together brings the happiness of lifelong companionship. Some say that fate is cultivated in a past life, that it takes the perseverance of five hundred glances to bring about a chance encounter in this life, and it is the eternal waiting that leads to the silent companionship in this life. Some say that happiness has a shape; if you place it in your heart, it takes the shape of your heart; if you place it outside, it becomes intangible and elusive.

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52. Early morning wishes on WeChat Moments in 2022, encouraging others to use early morning wishes! Good morning greetings, wishing you a fulfilling life! "Early Morning Wishes: It's better to cultivate your dignity and beauty than to worry about others' betrayal and unkindness," hope you will treasure it!

53. 人总是在遭遇一次重创之后，才会幡然醒悟，重新认识自己的坚强和隐忍。所以，无论你正在遭遇什么磨难，都不要一味抱怨上苍不公平，甚至从此一蹶不振。人生没有过不去的坎，只有过不去的人。

53. People always gain a sudden realization and re-understand their own strength and endurance after suffering a severe setback. Therefore, no matter what hardships you are facing, do not keep complaining about the unfairness of heaven and even become utterly disheartened from then on. There are no insurmountable difficulties in life, only people who cannot overcome them.

54. 李银河说：“决定一个人，快乐与否的首要因素，是独立，只要对他人有丝毫依赖，无论是在物质上，精神上，还是情绪上，他就不再能够获得快乐。”

54. Li Yinhe said: "The primary factor in determining whether a person is happy or not is independence. As long as there is any dependence on others, whether it be in terms of material, spiritual, or emotional aspects, they can no longer attain happiness."

55. 在岁月的行程里，我们看到了自己的忙碌，收获着自己的充实，体味着生活的真实，品味着生活的乐趣。即便会遇到暴雨侵袭，会遭受风沙狂卷，一份安然的心境会让我们从容对待，直面一切艰难。放松心态，给心深呼吸，给爱来供氧，给忙碌的节奏加上舒缓的节拍，给紧绷的神经融入音乐的幻彩。

55. In the journey through the years, we see our own busyness, reap our own fulfillment, taste the reality of life, and savor the joys of living. Even when we encounter heavy rains and sandstorms, a serene mindset allows us to face all difficulties with composure. Relax our mindset, give our hearts a deep breath, provide oxygen for love, add a soothing rhythm to the busy pace, and infuse the tense nerves with the幻彩 of music.

56. 身边的朋友越二，你应该越拿出真心，因为越二的人越没有心计。

56. The more eccentric your friends are, the more sincerely you should treat them, because the more eccentric they are, the less cunning they tend to be.

57. 人生，需要有一些时刻，慢下来，静下来，听花开的声音，观叶绽的曼妙。告诉自己，活着，真好。浅浅时光，几许温暖。拥一份恬静安然，用心灵的素笔，轻描流年的芬芳。听风吟起，守住一颗宁静的心，不染悲伤。感谢生命里的懂得，聆听岁月里的美好，一路向暖，静候花开。

57. Life requires some moments to slow down, to be still, to listen to the sound of flowers blooming, and to admire the elegance of leaves unfolding. Tell yourself, it's really great to be alive. In the fleeting moments, there's a touch of warmth. Embrace a serene calmness, and with the simple brush of your soul, gently sketch the fragrance of flowing years. Listen to the wind whispering, guard a tranquil heart, and remain unsoiled by sadness. Grateful for the insights in life, listen to the beauty in the passage of time, walk towards warmth, and calmly wait for the flowers to bloom.

58. 风来听风，雨来赏雨，花落不悲，花开不喜。守着一窗宁静，半点清逸，不问俗情，不需刻骨。纵使老去，惟愿韶华深处，依旧有暗香浮动，那是我写给岁月最美的诗行。

58. When the wind comes, listen to the wind; when the rain comes, appreciate the rain. Do not grieve when flowers fall, and do not be overjoyed when they bloom. Guarding a window of tranquility, with a touch of elegance, without concern for mundane affairs, nor a need for deep attachment. Even as I age, I wish that deep within the essence of youth, there is still a subtle fragrance lingering, which is the most beautiful verse I have written to the passage of time.

59. 你人生中有无数个想要求助于人的时刻，但最后都忍过去了。你跨过了越来越多的障碍，你越来越不爱对人抱怨，也越来越不需要依赖他人，人生中那些本以为无法忘却的人，无法释怀的事，最后都在这一刻终结。你活的越来越像你自己，你不再对过往耿耿于怀，不再活的拧巴，前情旧爱终成过往。

59. There have been countless moments in your life when you wanted to seek help from others, but you endured them all. You have overcome more and more obstacles, and you are less and less inclined to complain about others, and less and less dependent on others. Those people in your life who you thought you could never forget, and those things that you couldn't let go of, all ended at this moment. You are living more and more like yourself, no longer holding on to the past, no longer living in a twisted way, and the previous love and affection have finally become a thing of the past.

60. 我的感情像一杯酒。第一个人碰洒了，还剩一半。我把杯子扶起来，兑满，留给第二个人。他又碰洒了。我还是扶起，兑满，留给第三个人。感情是越来越淡，但是他们每个人，获得的都是我完整的，全部的，一杯酒。——七堇年

61. 好男人的九个准则：1要疼女人,而不是让女人疼；2要宽容,不要斤斤计较；3要勤快,老婆是爱人,不是仆人；4要勇敢,保护女人；5要主动,女人不主动是矜持,男人不主动就是呆子；6要大度；7要爱家,老婆孩子,其实才是人生最重要的部分；8要热情,爱就一个字,请不要只说一次；9要体贴。

60. My emotions are like a glass of wine. The first person spilled it, leaving half. I picked up the glass, filled it up, and left it for the second person. He spilled it again. I still picked it up, filled it up, and left it for the third person. The emotions are getting lighter and lighter, but each person, they all receive my complete, whole, one glass of wine. —— Qijin Nian 61. The nine principles of a good man: 1. To cherish women, not to let women worry about; 2. To be tolerant, not to be overly meticulous; 3. To be diligent, a wife is a lover, not a servant; 4. To be brave, to protect women; 5. To be proactive, women not being proactive is modesty, men not being proactive is dullness; 6. To be magnanimous; 7. To love the family, the wife and children, which is actually the most important part of life; 8. To be passionate, love is one word, please don't just say it once; 9. To be considerate.

62. 人生在世，不可能春风得意，事事顺心。与其讨好别人，不如武装自己;与其逃避现实，不如笑对人生。宁愿为自己做过的后悔，也不愿为自己没做的遗憾。永远不要去羡慕别人的生活，即使那个人看起来快乐富足。

62. In life, it is impossible to always be in high spirits and have everything go one's way. It's better to arm oneself than to please others; it's better to face life with a smile than to avoid reality. I would rather regret what I have done than regret what I haven't done. Never envy the life of others, even if that person seems happy and prosperous.

63. 人生，可以痛苦，更要懂得追求快乐。生活的乐趣，只有简单的心才能充分体会。爱情不能用物质衡量，友情不能用功利衡量，身价不能用身份衡量，生命不能用寿命衡量，幸福不能用财富衡量，快乐不能用娱乐衡量。早安~

63. Life can be painful, but one must also know how to pursue happiness. The joy of life can only be fully appreciated by a simple heart. Love cannot be measured by material things, friendship cannot be measured by功利, worth cannot be measured by status, life cannot be measured by lifespan, happiness cannot be measured by wealth, and joy cannot be measured by entertainment. Good morning!

64. 一个人的世界，很安静，安静的可以听到自己的呼吸声和心跳声。冷了，给自己加件外套；饿了，给自己买个面包；病了，给自己一份坚强；失败了，给自己一个目标；跌倒了，在伤痛中爬起，并给自己一个宽容的微笑。

64. In a person's world, it's very quiet, quiet enough to hear one's own breathing and heartbeat. When cold, add an overcoat for oneself; when hungry, buy a bread for oneself; when sick, give oneself a sense of strength; when failing, set a goal for oneself; when falling, get up from the pain, and give oneself a forgiving smile.

65. 大智慧者必谦和，大善者必宽容，大骄傲者往往谦逊平和。有巨大成就感的人，必定也有包容万物，宽待众生的胸怀。小智者咄咄逼人，小善者斤斤计较，小骄傲才露出不可一世的傲慢脸相。

65. Great wise ones must be humble, great benefactors must be宽容, and those with great pride are often modest and peaceful. Those who have a strong sense of achievement must also have a broad胸怀 that embraces all things and is lenient to all beings. Small wise ones are often overbearing, small benefactors are overly concerned with minor details, and only the small proud ones reveal their haughty, unbeatable faces.

66. 最好的时光，是彼此都在，却可以不见面;最好的感情，是双方都懂，却不用说出来。

66. The best time is when both are present but do not have to see each other; the best relationship is when both understand but do not have to say it out loud.

67. 人拦不住时间，也拒绝不了苦难，所能做的，就是守住自己的善和德，那是一个人骨子里的金子!

67. One cannot stop time nor resist suffering. What one can do is to hold onto one's own goodness and virtue, which is like the gold at the core of a person!

68. 当你喜欢我的时，我不喜欢你，当你爱上我的时，我喜欢上你, 当你离开我的时，我却爱上你，是你走得太快，还是我跟不上你的脚步, 我们错过了一切的惊险与不惊险，我们还要继续错过。 我不了解我的寂寞来自何方，但我真的感到寂寞。你也寂寞，世界上每个人都寂寞，只是大家的寂寞都不同。几米

68. When you like me, I don't like you; when you fall in love with me, I fall in love with you; when you leave me, I fall in love with you. Is it that you are moving too fast, or that I can't keep up with your pace? We have missed all the thrilling and unthrilling moments, and we will continue to miss them. I don't know where my loneliness comes from, but I really feel lonely. You are lonely too, everyone in the world is lonely, just that everyone's loneliness is different. Ji米

69. 独立是一种美德，是女人借以安身立命的根本；独立是一种表白，从些自己的生活自己做主；独立是一个过程，不亲身经历就无法长大；独立是一种尝试学会在选择中寻找真正的幸福；独立是一种心情，有点复杂又有点欢喜；独立是一种生活，独立是女人的名片，它华表自信、坚强、勇敢、乐观和努力。 独立是女人的美德，正如独立是男人的美德一样，独立的女人好比黑夜里的郁金香，默默地散发着属于自己的一缕芬芳。独立的女人是美丽的，是可爱的。 独立的女人是能够让男人们悦目的，也是被男人们所欣赏的。在所有的男人以上中，都渴望自己的女友或妻子成为与自己同进退、心有灵犀的红颜知己，只可惜这样的女人少之又少，这不仅是男人的悲哀，也是女人的悲哀。 独立的女人不卑不亢，没有轻佻的女人的奴颜媚骨，也没有一般市井泼妇的尖酸泼辣，有的只平淡如菊的心境。独立的女人是男人的良师益友，亦是男人心头一颗永远的朱砂痣。 对女人来说，精神独立更为重要因为男人活动在特制中，女人却活在波束宽度里，女人的波束宽度世界是在无比神秘和无比丰富的内心里，女人精神独立是对自己的确认，当女人的精神世界被别人支配时，这个女人就十分悲哀。女人可以在自己的精神世界里建立起一个美好的王国。 女性的性格犹如铜钱；外圆内方，在柔情似水的外表下，跳动着一颗坚强的心。女人精神的动遥是一种不独立的表现，所以女人不要傻，一定要学会在精神上独立王国，完全按自己的感觉来操纵自己，就是在某些小事上也应该这样。 学会遇事冷静，电到危机不能吓得脸色苍白，不知所措甚至痛哭流涕，往男人的肩膀下钻，用眼泪作为捍卫自己的武器。女人应该是独立的，有头脑的，有能力的，应该可以用智、用个性魅力征服危难。更难得的是，她也应该懂得在什么时候安慰男人，并且把男人的自新照顾得很好，赢得他真心的喜爱。 不做男人的附属品；女人不应该是某个男人的附属品，女人应该懂得通过交友、读书、娱乐，不断充实自己的内心，所以即使没有爱情的滋润仍然活得自在而辽阔。女人不应该为不爱自己的男人流泪，更不应该为他的承诺而用一生去守候。无论何时、无论何地女人都要相信自己，不依赖男人也能活得很好。 成功女人一定同时面对情感上的创作。即使如此，她们仍然会善于把挫折转化为事业成功的动力，至少不会一蹶不振。她们知道幽默，知道自我开解，知道原谅，知道轻松。因为，她们把快乐放在自己手心，不系在别人的言行上。 学会独立与坚强；生性懦弱、胆小自卑或是没有主见的女人中不可能有属于自己的独立生活空间的。她要么依傍着父母，要么死死地缠住一个男人直到那个男人将她遗弃。这就是女人不独立的悲剧，没有人愿意成为悲剧中的女主角。 所以女孩子比男孩子更要尽早地学会独立、学会坚强，这样你才可以自由选择你所爱的人、你所爱的事业、你所爱的生活、你所爱的环境。掌握生活和命运的主动权，才能够掌握自己的人生。然而，现实生活中富有独立意识的女孩子相对要少，我们所见所闻的大多数是缺乏独立意识的女孩。 这类女孩子的心理依赖性很强，她们缺乏自立的意识和自主能力。无论是对于生活还是工作她们都习惯性地按照别人设计好的道路往前走。特别是独生女，从小到大在爸爸、妈妈 、爷爷、奶奶的呵护中长大，在学校是听老师的好学生，在单位是遵守纪律的好员工，结婚后成了听话的好老婆。不管是生活里还是工作中，似乎总有人帮助她渡过难关，帮助她解决各种各样的困难。久而久之，当她一个人去面对问题的时候，才在手忙脚乱中去暂态过程这样的事虽人是怎么解决的。当没有人可以提供帮助的时候，她就会感到彻底的无助和绝望。长此以往，她的依赖就会变马别人的包袱和负担，如果有一天那些可以依赖的人都离去，剩下她一个人的时候怎么办呢？ 缺乏责任感；男人从小就接受“男子汉是一家之生要承担责任”、“国家兴亡匹夫有责”等等的教育和培训，而女孩却截然不同，她们从小就享受父母的悉心呵护，却很少想支站出来承担家庭责任，如果家里有兄弟可以依靠，那么女孩子往往天经地义地躲到一旁。责任和权利是一对孪生兄弟，当你决定要行使那些权利的时候，也应该是明白要负起责任，当你肆意挥着一个人对你的爱时，那么对于他你也要有一份呵护的责任。，一人瞭社会中，有很多不同的角色要扮演，在每个角色里你都会感受快乐和悲伤不要因为得而窃喜，也不要因为失而神色黯然。这就是责任，这就是你呱呱坠地时与生俱来的责任，它桨伴随你的一生，女孩也不例外，有的时候似乎更加重大，比如作为母亲。 与上面的那一点相似，只是更加突出地体现了女人的特性，女性天生就比男性更夏群体的主人。在生活中，女人比男人更爱三五成群地聚在一起，一同去逛街、吃饭、健身、旅行，甚至边上厕所、减肥这种事她们都要呼朋友唤友争取大家一起行动。在群体中茶同的目标和行为会给女性带来完全感。这种对骆体的依赖使女人需要一个人行动时，就会感受到过多的阻力，使她们很难摆脱现状和常规去创造新的东西。同时，对他人的依赖性也会使女人失去理智的判断。容易被误导和诱骗。 女人在社会生存的大环境中，一定要有充分的独立性，决不能成为离开男人就无法存在的寄生虫。但是，在两性角色中却不要太过强悍，不要太过严厉，这样会使生活和工作压抑了自己和别人的快乐。当然也不能太依赖太软弱，那样就会失去自我。 女孩子一定要学会独立，要让自己勇敢一些，坚强一些，自信一些，乐观一些，该勇敢的时候，你不能退缩；不该你勇敢的时候，就老老实实做个小女人。生活中处处是没有硝烟的战争，没有人拍着胸脯说自己一定行，只要你在自己的道貌岸然路上大胆地迈进，在面对困难和险阻的时候，忠于梦想，忠于自己，你就会潇潇洒洒，游刃有余。

69. Independence is a virtue, the foundation upon which women find their place and purpose; independence is a declaration, from which they take charge of their own lives; independence is a process, which cannot be grown without personal experience; independence is an attempt to learn to find true happiness in choices; independence is a mood, a bit complex yet joyful; independence is a way of life, and independence is a woman's calling card, embodying confidence, strength, courage, optimism, and diligence. Independence is a virtue of women, just as independence is a virtue of men. An independent woman is like a tulip in the dark of night, silently emitting a scent that belongs solely to her. Independent women are beautiful and lovable. Independent women can be both pleasing to men and appreciated by them. Among all men, many desire their girlfriend or wife to be a bosom friend who shares their ups and downs and is attuned to their thoughts, yet unfortunately, such women are rare, and this is not only a tragedy for men but also for women. Independent women are neither humble nor haughty, without the servile demeanor of a woman or the sharp-tongued vulgarity of the street, but rather possess a tranquil disposition like the chrysanthemum. Independent women are the wise mentors and loyal companions of men, and a permanent scarlet letter on the men's hearts. For women, spiritual independence is even more important because men operate within a predefined space, while women live within the narrow confines. The world within a woman's spiritual breadth is incredibly mysterious and rich. A woman's spiritual independence is her own confirmation, and when her spiritual world is dominated by others, that woman is deeply sorrowful. A woman can build a beautiful kingdom within her own spiritual world. The character of a woman is like a coin; externally round, internally square, beneath the soft and gentle exterior beats a strong heart. A woman's spiritual mobility is a manifestation of non-independence, so women should not be foolish and must learn to be independent in spirit, to control themselves completely according to their own feelings, even in small matters. Learn to remain calm in the face of difficulties, do not let fear turn your face pale, be at a loss, or even cry in despair, seeking refuge in a man's shoulder, using tears as a weapon to defend yourself. Women should be independent, intelligent, capable, and should be able to conquer difficulties with wisdom and personal charm. It is even more commendable that they also know when to comfort a man and take good care of his renewal, winning his true love. Do not be a man's appendage; women should not be an appendage to any man. Women should understand that through making friends, reading, and entertainment, they should constantly enrich their inner selves, so even without the nourishment of love, they can live freely and broadly. Women should not weep for a man who does not love them, nor should they spend a lifetime waiting for his promises. At all times and in all places, women must believe in themselves and live well without depending on men. Successful women must face emotional creativity at the same time. Even so, they are still good at turning setbacks into the driving force for career success, at least they will not be overwhelmed. They know humor, know how to console themselves, know how to forgive, know how to relax. Because, they place happiness in their own hands, not attached to others' words and actions. Learn to be independent and strong; women with a naturally weak, timid, and inferior character, or those without a strong will, cannot have their own independent space. They either rely on their parents or stubbornly cling to a man until he abandons them. This is the tragedy of women's lack of independence, and no one wants to be the leading lady in a tragedy. Therefore, girls should learn independence and strength earlier than boys, so that you can freely choose the person you love, the career you love, the life you love, and the environment you love. To master the initiative of life and destiny, you can master your own life. However, in reality, girls with a strong sense of independence are relatively rare, and most of what we see and hear are girls lacking in independence. Such girls have a strong psychological dependence, lacking the awareness of self-reliance and autonomy. Whether it is life or work, they are accustomed to following the path designed by others. Especially for only children, they grow up in the doting care of their parents, grandparents, and are good students in school, good employees in their units, and good wives after marriage. Whether in life or work, it seems that there is always someone to help them through difficulties and solve various kinds of problems. Over time, when she has to face problems alone, she will be in a state of confusion and chaos, trying to figure out how to solve such temporary situations. When no one can provide help, she will feel completely helpless and desperate. Over time, her dependence becomes a burden and a burden to others. What should she do if all the people she depends on leave and she is left alone? Lack of responsibility; men are educated from a young age to take on the responsibility of being the head of the family and the responsibility of the nation's prosperity or decline. Girls, however, are completely different. They enjoy their parents' careful care from a young age and rarely think of taking on family responsibilities. If there are brothers to rely on, girls often naturally retreat to the side. Responsibility and rights are like twin brothers. When you decide to exercise those rights, you should also understand that you must take on the responsibility. When you arbitrarily use the love someone has for you, you should also have a nurturing responsibility towards them. In society, there are many different roles to play, and in each role, you will experience joy and sorrow. Do not be overjoyed because of gains or despondent because of losses. This is responsibility, the responsibility that comes with you from birth. It accompanies you throughout your life, and girls are no exception. Sometimes it seems even more significant, such as when they are mothers. Similar to the above point, but it more prominently reflects the characteristics of women. Women are naturally more inclined to be the leaders of a group. In life, women are more likely to gather in groups to go shopping, eat, exercise, travel, even to go to the bathroom or lose weight, they will call friends to try to act together. Having a common goal and behavior in a group gives women a sense of belonging. This dependence on the group makes women feel too much resistance when they have to act alone, making it difficult for them to break away from the status quo and create something new. At the same time, dependence on others can also make women lose rational judgment, and they are easily misled and deceived. In the great environment of social survival, women must have full independence and cannot become parasites who cannot exist without men. However, in the roles of the sexes, they should not be too strong or too strict, as this will suppress the joy of life and work for both themselves and others. Of course, they should not be too dependent or too weak, as this would result in the loss of the self. Girls must learn to be independent, to be braver, stronger, more confident, and more optimistic. When it is time to be brave, you cannot retreat; and when it is not your time to be brave, you should be a docile little woman. Life is full of smokeless wars, and no one boasts about being sure of success. As long as you boldly move forward on your chosen path, and remain loyal to your dreams and yourself when facing difficulties and dangers, you will be able to handle things with ease and grace.

70. 有时候一个人遇见另一个人真的会有改变，无论对方是不是足够强大，只要这个人愿意去接纳，去寻找，去突破，人生就会有更多可能性。你总等着别人来救你，只会坐以待毙。你主动伸出手去抓东西，也许能浮上岸。--刘同《向着光亮那方》

70. Sometimes meeting another person can really change one's life, regardless of whether the other person is strong enough, as long as one is willing to accept, seek, and break through, there will be more possibilities in life. If you always wait for others to save you, you will only die passively. If you take the initiative to reach out and grab things, you may be able to float to the shore. -- Liu Tong, "Toward the Bright Side"

71. 女人到了一定的年龄，就需要找一个与自己跟方面都比较合适的人结婚生子，这样才能有一个家，让自己不至于是浮萍，也让家人放心。

71. When a woman reaches a certain age, she needs to find someone who is suitable for her in both aspects to get married and have children. This way, she can have a family, not be like a drifting reed, and also give her family peace of mind.

72. 其实一个女人物质上和精神上都不依赖你，也是需要你的。因为女人的一生还有两个任务要完成的——结婚和生孩子。虽然不是百分之百的女人都这样，但是至少百分之八十的女人是这样的。

72. In fact, even if a woman is not dependent on you in terms of material and spiritual things, she still needs you. Because a woman has two tasks to complete in her life – getting married and having children. Although not all women are like this, at least eighty percent of women are.

73. 陈丹青所说: “什么叫做救自己呢？就是忠实自己的感觉，认真做每一件事，不要烦，不要放弃，不要敷衍。哪怕写文章时标点符号弄清楚，不要有错别字，这就是我所谓的自己救自己，我们都得一步一步救自己。”

73. Chen Danqing said: "What does it mean to save oneself? It means to be faithful to one's own feelings, to do every task seriously, not to be bothered, not to give up, and not to take shortcuts. Even when writing articles, make sure to get the punctuation right, and avoid misspellings. This is what I call saving oneself, and we all need to save ourselves step by step."

74. 珍惜今天，珍惜现在，谁知道明天和意外，哪一个先来。

74. Cherish today, cherish the present, who knows which will come first, tomorrow or an accident.

75. 人的两只眼睛，全是平行的，但却不平等看人。人的两只耳朵是分在两边，却总好偏听一面之词。人只有一张嘴，却总能说出两面话。——甘地

75. Human beings have two eyes that are parallel, yet they are not equal in their perception of others. Their two ears are on opposite sides, yet they always tend to listen to only one side of a story. With only one mouth, they can always say things that favor both sides. – Gandhi

76. 相遇靠缘分，相守靠人心。不是所有的人，都能一直在等;不是所有的情，都能维系一生。许多的名字，越来越模糊;许多的心情，越来越陌生。不是不想念，而是怕自作多情;不是不怀念，而是怕再也回不到曾经。遇见，只是一个开始;珍惜，才能相伴一生， 用心呵护，用爱守望。

76. Encounters rely on fate, and togetherness depends on the heart. Not everyone can keep waiting indefinitely; not every relationship can be maintained for a lifetime. Many names grow increasingly blurred; many feelings become increasingly unfamiliar. It's not that I don't miss you, but I fear overestimating my feelings; it's not that I don't cherish the memories, but I fear never being able to return to the past. Meeting is just the beginning; it is by cherishing that we can accompany each other for a lifetime, by nurturing with care and watching over with love.

77. 每一个强大的人，都咬着牙度过一段没人帮忙，没人支持，没人嘘寒问暖的日子。过去了，这就是你的成人礼，过不去，求饶了，这就是你的无底洞。

77. Every strong person has gone through a period of time when no one helps, no one supports, and no one cares. Once it's over, that's your coming-of-age ceremony. If you can't get through it, beg for mercy, and that's your bottomless pit.

78. 你之所以觉得时间一年比一年过得快，是因为时间对你一年比一年重要。

78. The reason you feel that time goes by faster each year is because time becomes more important to you each year.

79. 我的大学同学是高中的英语老师，各方面都比较优秀，到了适婚的年龄由于各种原因错过了。现在马上快四十岁了，属于迫切地想把自己嫁出去的那一个，每年都会相亲几次。

79. My college classmate is an English teacher in high school, and she is excellent in all aspects. Due to various reasons, she missed her chance when she reached the age for marriage. Now, she is approaching forty and is very eager to get married. She goes on blind dates several times a year.

80. 快乐和物质无关，只有摆脱对名利金钱的执念，才能感受到真正的快乐。

80. Happiness is not related to material things; only by letting go of the obsession with fame, wealth, and money can one truly experience happiness.

81. 一个成功者都是作了大量的牺牲、让步和妥协的。你对自己的个性在妥协，对自己的欲望在妥协，你不能什么东西都由着自己。一个人进入享乐状态，享受人生很容易，创造、付出、牺牲才是难的。因为难，我们要学会约束，把有限的精力孤注一掷。我想一个人一辈子，只能做好一件事。麦家

81. A successful person always makes a lot of sacrifices, concessions, and compromises. You compromise on your personality, compromise on your desires; you can't have everything your own way. It's easy for a person to enter a state of hedonism and enjoy life, but creating, giving, and sacrificing are difficult. Because it's difficult, we need to learn to constrain ourselves and put all our limited energy into it. I think a person can only do one thing well in their lifetime. — Mai Jia

82. 拍拖就应该经历一下异地恋。体会一下欣喜忧愁无从分享，欢笑落泪不能拥抱。隔着屏幕隔着电话隔着书信联系，直到你几乎疯狂。学会拒绝诱惑，学会处理一个人的时间，学会照顾自己……也只有这样，在下一个拥抱，乃至白头偕老，你才会感恩，异地恋不仅是考验着对方的耐心，更是考验了自己的认真。

82. Courting should include experiencing a long-distance relationship. Feel the joy and sorrow that cannot be shared, the laughter and tears that cannot be embraced. Communicate through screens, phones, and letters until you are almost driven mad. Learn to resist temptation, manage your own time, and take care of yourself... Only in this way, in the next embrace, and even in a lifelong partnership, will you be grateful. Long-distance relationships are not only testing the patience of the other person but also testing your own sincerity.

83. 明朝弘治皇帝在年幼的时候，遭遇过一次次强大的政治风波。父亲在土木堡之变中成为俘虏，叔叔登基做了皇帝，不仅废了他的太子之位，还处处想置他于死地。

83. During his childhood, the Hongzhi Emperor of the Ming Dynasty encountered one powerful political storm after another. His father was captured during the Battle of Tumu, and his uncle ascended the throne to become the emperor. Not only did he depose him of his position as the crown prince, but he also sought to kill him at every turn.