探寻人生最佳状态：渐然隐退

Seeking the Best State of Life: Gradually Retiring

1. 学习要为成功的人生奠基。首先，学习是为我们日后的事业和幸福作准备要想使自己事业有成，使家人和个人幸福就必须学习。有这样一个案例：一个母亲的女儿不想学习，天天看电视，母亲非常着急，说你这样下去，将来会没有幸福的。女儿说，我每天这样生活得好好的，看看电视，已经很幸福了。母亲感到很不好回答。她不知道自己能看电视的背后是她父母辛勤劳动的结果，如果一旦中断了经济供需，她就不会感到自己光看电视不学习是幸福的。有的学生会说，我爸爸是什么什么，我家有什么什么，我无论如何都会是幸福的，其不知，一旦意外发生：父母倒下了，家庭变故了，或小偷偷了，失火烧了，地震震了，你就比人家更穷光蛋了。所以我们今天的学习是为成功的人生奠基。没有这个基础，什么美好的人生梦想都是幻影。

1. Learning should lay the foundation for a successful life. Firstly, learning is to prepare us for our future careers and happiness. To achieve success in our careers and bring happiness to our families and ourselves, we must learn. There is a case to illustrate this: a mother's daughter did not want to study, spent every day watching TV, and the mother was very worried, saying that if she continued like this, she would have no happiness in the future. The daughter replied, "I live a good life every day, watching TV, and that is already very happy for me." The mother felt unable to give a satisfactory answer. She did not realize that the reason she could watch TV was because of her parents' hard work. If the economic support were to be cut off, she would not feel happy just by watching TV and not studying. Some students might say, "My dad is something, my family has something, and I will always be happy no matter what." However, they do not realize that if an unexpected event were to occur: the parents fall ill, the family faces a disaster, or a thief breaks in, a fire breaks out, or an earthquake hits, they would be poorer than others. Therefore, our learning today is laying the foundation for a successful life. Without this foundation, all beautiful dreams of a fulfilling life are mere illusions.

2. 这个阶段主要以探索学习为主，年轻人刚从学校出来或出来没几年，还在适应职场的阶段，需要在这个阶段通过不断尝试，来寻找或确认自己希望从事的职业；同时也要在这个阶段学会脱离父母的资助，通过工作实现自我生存。

2. At this stage, the focus is mainly on exploratory learning. Young people who have just graduated from school or have been out for a few years are still in the process of adapting to the workplace. They need to go through continuous attempts in this stage to find or confirm the profession they wish to pursue. At the same time, they also need to learn to be independent from their parents' financial support and achieve self-sufficiency through work.

3. 分配任务和责任：旅行中有很多事情需要处理，如预订酒店、购买机票、制定旅行计划等。如果情侣能够平等地分配任务和责任，并且能够相互支持和协作完成任务，这说明他们之间的责任心和合作精神很强。

3. Task and Responsibility Allocation: There are many things to handle during a trip, such as booking hotels, purchasing airplane tickets, and planning the itinerary. If a couple can equally distribute tasks and responsibilities, and can support and collaborate with each other to complete tasks, this indicates that they have a strong sense of responsibility and spirit of cooperation between them.

4. 大多数人在这个阶段，都已经逐渐找到了自己想做的工作，并且稳定于某个职位。但不少人会在这个阶段觉得无趣，或者厌倦，有些还会失落和焦虑。

4. At this stage, most people have gradually found the job they want to do and settled into a certain position. However, many feel bored or tired of it, and some even experience feelings of sadness and anxiety.

5. 总之，无论在什么阶段，我们都要清楚自己内心真正的渴望，并为之付诸行动，将命运握在自己的手上，让职场曲线尽可能地永不落帷幕。

5. In summary, at whatever stage we are, we must be clear about our true inner desires, and take action towards them, holding the reins of our destiny in our own hands, and ensuring that the curve of our career never closes its curtain.

6. 这个时候，你可以利用业余时间学习一项自己感兴趣的新的技能，并尝试着将其作为“职场第二春”的支点。这个年龄段的人，往往拥有丰富的行业阅历，很适合转型成为教练、导师、咨询顾问之类的角色。你可以学习一些相关的知识和课程，然后逐渐发展，最终转而追求生命中的另一条事业线。

6. At this time, you can take advantage of your leisure time to learn a new skill that interests you and try to use it as a fulcrum for your "second spring in the workplace." People at this age often have rich experience in their industries, which is very suitable for a career transition into roles such as coaches, mentors, or consultants. You can learn relevant knowledge and courses, and then gradually develop, eventually pursuing another career path in life.

7. 了解不同文化和习惯：旅行可以让情侣了解不同的文化和习惯，这有助于他们更好地理解彼此的背景和价值观。如果情侣能够尊重彼此的文化和习惯，并且能够在旅行中互相学习和包容，这说明他们之间的理解和包容能力很强。

7. Understanding Different Cultures and Habits: Traveling allows couples to get to know different cultures and habits, which helps them better understand each other's backgrounds and values. If a couple can respect each other's cultures and habits and be willing to learn and tolerate from each other during travel, this indicates that they have a strong ability to understand and tolerate each other.

8. 有人特别喜欢在工作群里表现自己，但自己的任何表现都会被别人看的明明白白，从而决定自己和同事们之间的关系。你赞美领导，别人会说你阿谀奉承，奴颜媚骨，丧失人格；你表现积极，别人会认为你爱出风头，自以为是；你提出批评意见，别人会觉得，你故意和大家不对付，不合群，不上道，不懂事。

8. Some people especially like to show off in work groups, but any of their actions will be clearly seen by others, thereby determining their relationships with their colleagues. If you praise the leader, others might say you are sycophantic, obsequious, and lacking in character; if you show积极性, others may think you are seeking attention and self-righteous; if you voice critical opinions, others might feel that you are intentionally causing discord with everyone, not fitting in, not mature, and not understanding things.

9. 庸俗的人用热闹填补空虚，厉害的人用独处成全自己。

9. The vulgar use excitement to fill their emptiness, while the formidable use solitude to perfect themselves.

10. 有些人会觉得工作没有满足自己的兴趣，这时候就可以尝试在工作外，满足对兴趣的需求。我们此前的文章介绍过“斜杠青年”，你完全可以做一名“斜杠青年”，在确保主业的工作保障基础上，选择尝试部分副业，兼顾工作、生活和爱好。

10. Some people may find that their job does not satisfy their interests, in which case they can try to satisfy their need for interests outside of work. Our previous articles have introduced the concept of "slash youth," and you can definitely be a "slash youth." On the basis of ensuring the security of your main job, you can choose to try some part-time jobs, balancing work, life, and hobbies.

11. 要强化自我激励，使自己的人生充满成功。要使自己产生无穷的学习内动力，重要的还是自我激励，自负加压。有的学生说，我每天都光想是顺心如意的，喜欢听到表扬自己，可别遇到烦恼的事，如果老师总表扬别人不表扬自己，那也会很难受。我们确需得到别人的肯定或赞扬。但更多的还是要自我激励。古时候，越王勾践为了复国强民，曾一度忍辱负重，卧薪尝胆是他对成就伟业的自励。我们中学生要成就学业，也要时常提醒自己，要警钟长鸣，持之以恒，要有人生的理想和追求。为此，我们可以把奋斗目标或激励自我奋进的誓言警语写成字条，贴在显眼处，也可以与同学开展学习竞赛进行互相激励，以达到增强学习信心和内动力的目的。

11. To strengthen self-motivation and make one's life full of success. To generate endless learning motivation, the most important factor is still self-motivation, adding pressure to oneself. Some students say, "I just want everything to go smoothly every day, I like to hear compliments about myself, and I don't want to encounter troubles. If the teacher always praises others but not me, it would be very uncomfortable." We indeed need to receive others' affirmation or praise. But more importantly, we still need self-motivation. In ancient times, King Goujian of Yue, in order to restore his country and strengthen his people, once endured disgrace and carried heavy burdens, and lying on a bed of fire and tasting bile was his self-motivation for achieving great achievements. As middle school students, we also need to achieve academic success and often remind ourselves to keep the bell of vigilance ringing, to persevere, and to have life ideals and pursuits. For this purpose, we can write down our goals or motivational slogans to encourage ourselves, and place them in prominent places, or hold learning competitions with classmates to motivate each other, in order to achieve the goal of enhancing learning confidence and inner motivation.

12. “清静无为是吾家，一琴一剑一杯茶。羽衣常带烟霞色，不染人间桃李花。”

12. "Quietude and inaction is our family's way, with one lute, one sword, and a cup of tea. My robes are always dyed with the colors of mist and clouds, untainted by the flowers of peach and plum in the world below."

13. 有人说：“人最好的状态就是销声匿迹，半隐身。人除了赚钱，其实是不需要有太多社交的，赚钱以外我们最需要的是安静，是免打扰，是独处，是享受生活。所以，我们要低调，清醒，悦己，越己。”

13. Some say, "The best state of a person is to be unseen and semi-invisible. Apart from making money, a person really doesn't need too much social interaction. What we most need beyond making money is quietness, uninterrupted time, solitude, and enjoying life. Therefore, we should be modest,清醒, self-pleasing, and self-improving."

14. 工作群一般都是用来布置任务和安排工作的，遇到和自己有关的内容，就跟在别人后面回复“收到”，跟自己无关的内容，一律不要做出任何反应。非必要不在工作群发布任何消息，也不要在工作群里回应和互动，销声匿迹，不动声色，全心全意做好自己的事情。

14. Work groups are generally used for assigning tasks and arranging work. When encountering content related to oneself, simply reply "Received" after others. For content that has nothing to do with oneself, do not react at all. Avoid posting any messages in the work group unless necessary, and also refrain from responding or interacting within the group. Remain silent and unseen, and focus wholeheartedly on doing your own tasks.

15. 生活是自己的，和其他人毫无关系。不必在人群之中招摇过市，不必把自己的得意和失意分享给别人，我们要学会在一个人的世界里独善其身，不打扰别人，也不接受别人的打扰。

15. Life is one's own, having nothing to do with others. There's no need to show off in a crowd, nor is there a need to share one's triumphs and setbacks with others. We should learn to be content in the world of one's own, neither disturbing others nor accepting interference from others.

16. 学习的反馈体系 学习的反馈体系就是说学习每前进一步，要有总结，有反思，有反馈。要学会清晰地判断自己的学习状况，包括前一阶段，本阶段以及以后阶段的学习情况。判断是预测，执行是实践，反馈是反思和总结，只有这样，才能一步一个脚印，踏踏实实，步步提升。

16. Learning Feedback System - The learning feedback system refers to the need for summary, reflection, and feedback with each step forward in learning. One must learn to clearly judge one's learning status, including the learning situation in the previous stage, the current stage, and the future stage. Judgment is prediction, execution is practice, and feedback is reflection and summary. Only in this way can one move forward step by step, firmly and steadily, and continuously improve.

17. 忍耐，也是这个阶段需要重点学习的内容。羽翼丰满后，再展翅高翔，也不迟。

17. Patience is also a key aspect that needs to be emphasized at this stage. It's not too late to spread your wings and soar high once you've grown strong.

18. 生活不需要喧嚣和热闹，不需要你来我往，你争我斗和各种利益博弈，我们更需要清清静静生活，认认真真过好自己的小日子。

18. Life does not require noise and bustle, nor does it need constant interaction and competition, or various games of interests. What we need more is a tranquil and peaceful life, to sincerely enjoy our own simple days.

19. 学习的动力体系 我们讲学习要有动力体系的目的就是希望同学们在学习的过程中找到学习的主动权，为自己的学习注入内动力，使学习目的明确，促使我们去获得学习的成功，斗志昂扬，朝气蓬勃，满怀信心，愉愉快快地去学习。

19. System of Motivation for Learning The purpose of discussing the system of motivation for learning is to hope that students can find the initiative in the learning process, inject internal motivation into their own learning, clarify the learning objectives, and motivate us to achieve success in learning. It encourages us to be full of spirit, energetic, confident, and to study happily and joyfully.

20. 每天都要有一个时间安排表 高考状元们都有自己每天的时间安排表，或叫一日学习生活常规。如早自习50分钟，前面的时间自学非规定科目的内容，然后再上学科自习；三饭后以及各公共时间都有具体的安排，每天坚持写一篇作文，每天安排一定的时间预习、复习巩固课程，或补差计划；别人吃饭时去抢饭，你可以要求自己进行20—30分钟的强化练习，处理生活琐事时间安排到最佳最短时间，晚自习后坚持20分钟总结巩固和写日记，然后到操场跑10分钟，简单一洗刷，便驰然而卧。每个人都要根据自己的特点进行科学安排，最好与高考的时间安排相对应更好。

20. Have a daily schedule every day. The top students in the Gaokao (China's college entrance examination) all have their own daily schedules, also known as daily study and life routines. For example, they have an early self-study session of 50 minutes, where they study non-mandatory subjects before proceeding to subject-specific self-study; they have specific arrangements for meals after the three main meals and during other public times. They stick to writing an essay every day, and allocate certain time for previewing, reviewing, and reinforcing courses, or making up for any gaps in their knowledge. While others are eating, they can choose to engage in 20-30 minutes of intensive practice. They schedule their daily chores in the shortest possible time. After the evening self-study session, they spend 20 minutes summarizing and reinforcing what they've learned, write a diary, then go to the playground for a 10-minute run. After a quick wash-up, they can relax comfortably. Everyone should arrange their time according to their own characteristics, and it's even better if it corresponds with the schedule of the Gaokao.

21. 你可以选择通过提高自己的能力，或者学习一门新的技能，然后跳槽去新的领域。不过我并不建议这样的选择，尤其是35岁以上的人，因为从现实角度来说，这个阶段选择转型的沉没成本实在太高。

21. You can choose to improve your own abilities or learn a new skill and then switch to a new field. However, I do not recommend such a choice, especially for those over 35, because from a practical perspective, the sunk cost of choosing a career change at this stage is too high.

22. 中学生的在校学习一般包涵五个基本体系：即学习的动力体系，学习的计划体系，学习的执行体系，学习的反馈体系，学习的保障体系。这五个基本体系涵盖了中学生在校学习的整个流程，如果都能正常发挥它们的作用，必将收到事半功倍的学习效果。

22. The school learning of middle school students generally includes five basic systems: namely, the motivation system of learning, the planning system of learning, the execution system of learning, the feedback system of learning, and the support system of learning. These five basic systems cover the entire process of middle school students' school learning. If all of them can function normally, they will surely achieve twice the results with half the effort.

23. 有人喜欢在朋友圈晒各种各样的美好，美食，美景，美人，千方百计展现自己光鲜的一面，其实这恰恰是一种虚荣和虚伪，别人并不会因此而认可你。有人喜欢在朋友圈倾说各种各样的不如意，经济的贫穷，生活的困顿，工作的压力，别人并不会因此而和你共情。

23. Some people like to share all kinds of beauty, delicious food, scenic views, and beautiful people on their social media circles, trying their best to showcase their glamorous side. In fact, this is exactly a form of vanity and hypocrisy, and others will not recognize you because of this. Some people prefer to vent their various misfortunes on social media circles, such as economic poverty, life's hardships, and work pressure, but others will not empathize with you because of this.

24. 职业生涯可以分为4个阶段：探索期、建立期、维持期、卸任期。

24. A career can be divided into four stages: Exploration, Establishment, Maintenance, and Transition.

25. 因此在这个阶段，可以首先根据自己的知识技能（如参考大学专业），从事自己可以胜任的岗位，并在过程中不断拓宽边界，修炼职场中的基本功，如职场交流、情绪管理、诚实守信、自我约束等。

25. Therefore, at this stage, one can first engage in positions that they are capable of handling based on their own knowledge and skills (such as referring to university majors), and continuously expand their boundaries in the process. They should also cultivate the basic skills required in the workplace, such as workplace communication, emotional management, honesty and trustworthiness, self-discipline, and so on.

26. 要重视考试，把考试作为检验思维方法的极好机会。不要厌烦考试，要一逢到考试就兴奋起来，想到是检验自己的时刻到了，只有通过考试才会发现自己的薄弱环节和存在的问题。平时要把小考当高考，高考时才能把高考当小考。只有通过一次次的小考，才能把自己的心理状态调整到最佳状态，将来才能适应高考。有条件时，还可以自己搞自我模拟考试。关上门，谁也不要打扰，进行准现场的计时、限量考试，有的同学拒绝考试或厌烦害怕考试，那高考怎么办？你能拒绝高考吗。有一个考生，高考前发高烧，考得也很好，没受什么影响，这主要是心态起了作用。所以，要珍惜每一次考试。

26. Exams should be valued and regarded as an excellent opportunity to test one's thinking methods. Do not become tired of exams; instead, become excited whenever an exam approaches, as it is the time to test yourself. Only through exams can you discover your weaknesses and the issues you need to address. In everyday life, treat small exams as if they were the college entrance examination, and only then can you treat the college entrance examination as a small exam. It is only through numerous small exams that you can adjust your mental state to the best possible condition, and then you will be able to adapt to the college entrance examination. If conditions allow, you can also conduct self-simulation exams. Close the door, and do not allow anyone to disturb you. Conduct a timed, limited exam in a quasi-realistic setting. Some students refuse to take exams or become weary and afraid of them; what then about the college entrance examination? Can you refuse the college entrance examination? There was a candidate who had a high fever before the college entrance examination but still performed well, and it did not significantly affect his performance, mainly due to his mindset. Therefore, treasure every exam opportunity.

27. 很多人在这个阶段已经退休了，那么就从心所欲，做些自己喜欢的事情，享受生活就好。也会有小部分人，在大半辈子的探索过程中，在事业中探寻到了人生真正的欢喜，那么继续工作也无妨。

27. Many people have retired at this stage, so just do what you like and enjoy life at will. There will also be a small number of people who, during the exploration of the latter half of their lives, have found true happiness in their careers, so there is no harm in continuing to work.

28. 美国作家梭罗，远离了大都市，一个人搬到偏僻的瓦尔登湖畔隐居。在那里开荒种地，读书写作，散步思考，活得非常自由而惬意。他说：我宁可一个人走在一只南瓜上，也不想和一群人挤在天鹅绒的坐垫上。

28. The American writer Thoreau, having moved away from the big city, settled alone by the secluded Walden Pond to live in seclusion. There, he cleared land, cultivated, read, wrote, took walks, and pondered, living a very free and contented life. He said: "I would rather walk alone on a pumpkin than be crowded with a group on velvet cushions."

29. 应对旅行中的困难：旅行中可能会出现很多问题，如迷路、错过航班、食物过敏等。如何应对这些问题可能会测试情侣的耐心和应变能力。如果情侣能够相互支持和理解，并且能够一起克服困难，这说明他们之间的沟通和合作能力很强。

29. Dealing with travel difficulties: Many problems may arise during travel, such as getting lost, missing flights, food allergies, etc. How to deal with these issues may test the patience and adaptability of a couple. If a couple can support and understand each other, and can overcome difficulties together, this indicates that they have strong communication and cooperative abilities.

30. 要珍惜每天临睡前的必修课——总结反思一天的学习情况。可以把全天学习的知识要点进行较为系统的复习回想，回想主要收获和心得，回想不起来时，可以偷看一下书，接通思维链条，直到完整回顾。许多高考状元都是这样，可以说是英雄所见略同。要象过**一样一步一步地回忆，其中出现的思维短路，必是薄弱的环节，及时把它补回来，强化了，薄弱的知识就不薄弱了，这一点请同学们一定要重视去做。 此外，阶段性的总结复习也不可少。知识由识记到遗忘，由输入到输出，由掌握到迁移，都应引起高度重视。有个清华的学生说，他每月要做一次学习分析报告，对阶段性的学习进行总结和反思，从中总结经验，查找不足，作出下一阶段的学习安排。

30. It is important to cherish the mandatory lesson before going to bed every day – to summarize and reflect on the day's learning. You can systematically review and recall the key points of the whole day's learning, remember the main gains and insights. If you can't recall, you can quickly glance at the book to reconnect the chain of thought, until you can review it completely. Many high school students who excel in college entrance exams do it this way, which can be said to be a hero's similar insight. Like going through a film, you should recall it step by step. The moments of thought short-circuiting are undoubtedly the weak links. It is important to fill these gaps in time, strengthen them, and make the weak knowledge not so weak. This is something that students must pay attention to and do. In addition, periodic summary and review cannot be neglected. From memorization to forgetting, from input to output, from mastery to transfer, all should be highly valued. A student from Tsinghua University once said that he would make a monthly learning analysis report, summarizing and reflecting on the阶段性 learning, summarizing experiences, finding shortcomings, and making arrangements for the next stage of learning.

31. “尽量不要让别人，知道你的状态，无论好与坏，好了有人嫉妒，坏了有人嘲笑！最好的生活就是，不嫉妒别人，不看轻自己，岁月静好，别来无恙！ ​”

31. "Try not to let others know about your condition, whether good or bad; when it's good, there's jealousy, and when it's bad, there's mockery! The best life is not to be jealous of others, not to belittle oneself, to let the years pass quietly, and to be unharmed!"

32. 学会在工作群里销声匿迹，不让自己搅入是非的漩涡之中，也能获得极大的自由。

32. Learn to fade into obscurity in the work group, not letting yourself be drawn into the whirlpool of trivial disputes, and you can also gain immense freedom.