在纷繁复杂的世界中，如何保持一颗平静之心？——

In the complex and chaotic world, how to maintain a peaceful heart? —

1. 生活中我们有时候面对不顺心的事时总会心烦意燥，这会严重影响我们的 社会 关系和身心 健康 。那么，怎样养成平心静气的心境呢？

1. Sometimes when we face things that are not to our liking in life, we tend to get frustrated and restless, which can severely affect our social relationships and physical and mental health. So, how can we cultivate a composed and tranquil mindset?

2. 心境变，处境即变 。人生有的时候就是我们会笑笑别人，然后我们被别人笑笑，所以不管我们经历了多痛的事情，到最后都会渐渐的被遗忘，因为没有什么能抵得过时光！有时候不要把世界看得太孤单了，正如我们有的时候正在想念某些人，也总会有某些人在一直想念我们。

2. The change of mind, the change of circumstances. Sometimes in life, we laugh at others, and then we are laughed at by others. So no matter how painful the things we have experienced are, they will gradually be forgotten in the end, because nothing can surpass the passage of time! Sometimes, don't see the world as too lonely. Just as we sometimes miss certain people, there are always certain people who are missing us all the time.

3. 因此，要养成平心静气的心境就需我们用一颗坦然的心面对一切，不以物喜，不以己悲。

3. Therefore, to cultivate a calm and composed mindset, we need to face everything with an indifferent heart, neither being overjoyed by material things nor being saddened by personal circumstances.

4. 所以我们在实际的生活中，如果事与愿违，我们一定要相信，一定是另有安排，现在、此刻发生的一切都是最好的安排！

4. So in our actual lives, if things do not turn out as we wish, we must believe that there is another arrangement, and that everything happening now, at this moment, is the best arrangement!

5. 时代的一粒灰，落在个人头上，就是一座山。命运的一场恶作剧，可能会让一个人万劫不复，百身莫赎。

5. A speck of dust from the era, falling on an individual's head, becomes a mountain. A cruel prank of fate might lead someone to an irretrievable state, where a hundred bodies cannot atone.

6. 人生需要“归零”。每过一段时间，都要将过去“清零”，让自己重新开始。不要让过去成为现在的包袱，轻装上阵才能走得更远。人的心灵就像一个容器，时间长了里面难免会有沉渣，要时时清空心灵的沉渣，该放手时就放手，该忘记的要忘记。删除心灵的垃圾，每天刷新自己，这样才能重获新生。

6. Life requires "resetting." After a period of time, one should "reset" the past and start anew. Don't let the past become a burden on the present; only by lightening your load can you travel further. The human mind is like a container; over time, it is inevitable that there will be sediment at the bottom. You should constantly clear out the sediment in your mind, let go when it's time to let go, and forget what needs to be forgotten. Remove the trash from your mind, refresh yourself every day, and only in this way can you be reborn.

7. 当一个人忽略你时，不要伤心，每个人都有自己的生活，谁都不可能一直陪你。最尴尬的莫过于高估自己在别人心里的位置，其实你明明知道，最卑贱不过感情，最凉不过人心。是你的，就是你的。有的东西就像手中沙，越是紧握，就会流失得越快。努力了，珍惜了，问心无愧。其他的，交给命运。

7. When someone ignores you, don't be heartbroken. Everyone has their own life, and no one can accompany you all the time. The most embarrassing thing is to overestimate your place in someone else's heart. In fact, you know well that the most despicable is emotion, and the coldest is people's hearts. What is yours is yours. Some things are like the sand in your hand; the more tightly you grasp them, the faster they will slip away. You have tried your best, cherished them, and have no regrets. The rest, leave to fate.

8. 一是要强化自身的学习，只有学习才能养成平和的好心态。 任何事情都是有因果关系的，这就叫种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆。要想有一个和平的心态，就只有从读书提高自身的修养做起，大凡有修养的人都是能静心读书学习的人，这个浮躁的 社会 ，一个人不读书，不学习是没有良好心态的。有道是：腹有诗书气自华。这里的”气自华“就是一种素养，也是一种气度，更是一种心态，能静心静下来读书，原本就是一种可贵的神，何况读书又提升了自身的知识和学问，这样的人是何等的不简单。

8. Firstly, it is important to strengthen one's own learning, for only through learning can one cultivate a peaceful mindset. Everything has cause and effect, which is known as "sow a seed, reap a crop." To have a peaceful mindset, one must start by improving oneself through reading. Generally, people with修养 are those who can focus and study. In this restless society, a person who does not read or learn cannot have a good mindset. As the saying goes: "A person with books and poetry exudes a natural charm." Here, the "natural charm" refers to a kind of accomplishment, a kind of demeanor, and more importantly, a kind of mindset. Being able to focus and calm down to read is already a valuable virtue, and what's more, reading also enhances one's knowledge and scholarship. Such people are truly extraordinary.

9. 忘记是很痛苦的，从前如是，今天也如是。不过，以前的痛苦是因为记不起，今天的痛苦，却是怕自己无法忘记。今天，是一个新的开始，你可能因为某个理由而伤心难过，但你却能找个理由让自己快乐。人越往上走，心应该越能往下沉，心里踏实了，脚下的路才能走得安稳。

9. Forgetting is painful, as it was in the past, and as it is today. However, the pain in the past was due to the inability to remember, while today's pain is the fear of not being able to forget. Today is a new beginning. You may be sad and upset for some reason, but you can also find a reason to make yourself happy. As people climb higher, their hearts should be able to sink lower. When the heart is grounded, the path beneath the feet can be walked safely.

10. 自我释放，看淡一切。生活中本来没有太多要求，不幸的是现实生活中的人有意或无意地放大了奢望从而造成心浮气燥。其实我们的生活每天无需太多的物质需求，简单是古老先贤们留给我们的最大法宝，可惜的是，让现代人过多的物欲横流给弄丢了。

10. Self-liberation, take everything lightly. Life itself does not have too many demands. Unfortunately, in reality, people either intentionally or unintentionally amplify their desires, leading to restlessness and impatience. In fact, our lives every day do not require too many material needs. Simplicity is the greatest treasure left to us by the ancient sages, but unfortunately, excessive material desires of modern people have led to its loss.

11. 在自己的世界里修篱种菊，坐卧随心。内心清净的人，一开始就赢了。

11. In his own world, he repairs the fence and plants chrysanthemums, sitting and lying as he wishes. A person with a tranquil mind wins from the start.

12. 告诉孩子哀痛、失望、气愤除了影响自己还会影响别人的情绪；

12. Tell the child that sadness, disappointment, and anger not only affect one's own emotions but also those of others.

13. 活着，要学会接纳，所有爱恨情仇，都是生命一部分，别用情感来选择，莫拿标准去衡量，只有斑斓多姿，才能领略各异风景；要懂得宽容，外界与他人，没谁是你的假设，佛以悲胸阔，人因谅得友，聚散天定，对错随心；要坦然淡忘，往昔心灵的负重，重叠为精神的枷锁，唯有放下，方不至于太累。

13. Living, one must learn to accept. All loves, hatreds, and emotional entanglements are a part of life. Don't choose based on emotions, and don't measure with standards. Only by embracing the colorful and diverse can one appreciate the varying landscapes. You must understand tolerance; no one in the outside world or among others is your assumption. The Buddha has a compassionate broad chest, and people make friends through forgiveness. The coming together and parting are predetermined by fate, and right and wrong are influenced by one's heart. You should be calm and forget the heavy burdens of your past soul, which become the shackles of your spirit. Only by letting go can you avoid being too burdened.

14. 三是要有自律精神，做人要见贤思齐才能积极进取。 人与人之间是有差距的，孔子说：”三人行必有吾师。”做人就要学习别人的长处，补自己之短，只有这样才能使自己保持积极向上的心态，这个 社会 做人最需要的不是做加法，而是做减法，这个减法就是自律精神，就是要管住自己的嘴，管住自己的腿，管住自己的言行，只有管住了自己，哪么就是自律的人，自省的人。做人要像荷花一样：“出污泥而不染”。如此你就是一个平心静气的人了，能宁住寂寞的人了。

14. Thirdly, one must have the spirit of self-discipline. In order to make positive progress, one should strive to emulate the virtues of the wise. There are differences between people. Confucius said, "Among any three people, there must be someone I can learn from." As a person, one should learn from others' strengths and compensate for one's own weaknesses. Only in this way can one maintain a positive and upward mindset. In this society, what is most needed in terms of personal conduct is not addition but subtraction. This subtraction is the spirit of self-discipline, which means controlling one's mouth, one's legs, and one's words and actions. Only by controlling oneself can one be considered self-disciplined and self-reflective. As a person, one should be like a lotus flower: "Emerging from the mud yet unsoiled." If you can do this, you will be a calm and composed individual, someone who can endure solitude.

15. 人在世间，爱欲之中，独生独死，独去独来。当行至趣，苦乐之地，身自当之，无有代者。

15. In the world, amidst love and desires, one is born alone, dies alone, departs alone, and comes alone. When it is time to move to the realms of joy and suffering, one must bear it oneself, with no one else to take one's place.

16. 这个世界上没有什么事是放不下的，痛了，你自然就会放下。

16. There is nothing in this world that cannot be let go of. When you hurt, you will naturally let it go.

17. 我们可一辈子不登山，但你心中要有一座山，它使你总往高处爬，它使你总有个奋斗的方向，它使你任何一刻抬起头都能看到自己的希望。

17. We may not climb mountains all our lives, but you must have a mountain in your heart. It makes you always strive for higher, it gives you a direction to fight for, and it allows you to see your own hope whenever you lift your head.

18. 我们曾如此渴望命运的波澜，到最后才发现：人生最曼妙的风景，竟是内心的淡定与从容……我们曾如此期盼外界的认可，到最后才知道：世界是自己的，与他人毫无关系。

18. We had so eagerly yearned for the ups and downs of fate, only to find out in the end that the most charming scenery in life is the calmness and composure within us... We had so much anticipated external recognition, only to realize in the end that the world is our own, having nothing to do with others.

19. 不要滥交，有三两个知己足已，别妄想和谁都能成为好朋友；

19. Do not have too many acquaintances; a few close friends are enough. Don't delude yourself into thinking you can become good friends with everyone.

20. 人心越宁静，越能客观地认识世界。不是没有能力看透，只是心太乱。＂非淡泊无以明志，非宁静无以致远＂。静能生智，智者所以不惑，除了学问，更重要的是心静。想要把世界看清，就要沉淀自己的心。心乱一切乱，别让一颗小石子击碎心智。

20. The quieter the mind, the more objectively one can understand the world. It's not that one lacks the ability to see through things; it's just that the mind is too chaotic. 'Without dispassion, one cannot clarify one's ambitions; without tranquility, one cannot achieve great things.' Calmness begets wisdom, and wise people are not confused. Apart from knowledge, it is more important to have a calm mind. To see the world clearly, one must settle one's own heart. When the mind is chaotic, everything is chaotic. Don't let a small pebble shatter your mental strength.

21. 茶凉了，就别再续了，再续，也不是原来的味道了；人走了，就别再留了，再留下，也不是原来的感觉了；情没了，就别回味了，再回味，也不是原来的心情了。慢慢的都会远，渐渐的都会淡，拥有时，好好珍惜，离开了，默默祝福，人生的旅途，没有人是应该要陪你走到最后的。

21. If the tea gets cold, don't keep adding more; even if you do, it won't have the original taste anymore. If someone leaves, don't try to keep them; even if you do, it won't be the same feeling. If love is gone, don't keep longing for it; even if you do, it won't be the same heartache. Slowly, everything will fade away, and gradually, everything will become distant. Treasure what you have when you possess it, and silently bless them when they leave. In the journey of life, no one is supposed to accompany you until the end.

22. 留一点好处让别人占，留一点道路让别人走，留一点时间让自己思考。

22. Leave a bit of benefit for others to enjoy, leave a bit of path for others to walk, and leave a bit of time for yourself to contemplate.

23. 其实生活总会给我们答案，但不会马上把一切都告诉我们，它总会通过一些事实的发生来告诉我们：这是上天最好的安排！

23. In fact, life will always give us answers, but it won't tell us everything at once. It will always tell us through some events that this is the best arrangement by heaven!

24. 有时候这个世界很大很大，大到我们一辈了都没有机会遇见，有时候这个世界又很小很小，小到一抬头就看到了你的笑脸，所以在遇见时一定要感激，相爱的时候就好好珍珍惜，转身的时候呢，一定要优雅，挥别的时候一定要微笑。

24. Sometimes this world is so vast, too vast for us to meet in a lifetime. Sometimes it's so small, so small that you can see your smiling face just by looking up. Therefore, always be grateful when you meet, cherish each other when in love, and be graceful when turning away, and always smile when saying goodbye.

25. 古人云：万般皆下品，惟有读书高。这个高是什么意思，就是人生之最好和最美，可是，有的人想读书，知道读书好，就是读不进书，不想读书，这样就只能做粗人、做浮躁之人了，与寂寞宁静无缘了。更难享受人生的平心静气的心境了。读书能提高人知识和学问，能提升人的修养，要做一个好人、做一个有积极意义的人，惟一的选择是从读书开始。人离开了读书就会浮躁无知，自私而任性。

25. The ancients said: "All things are inferior, only reading is high." What does this "high" mean? It refers to the best and most beautiful in life. However, some people want to read, know that reading is good, but they cannot read, and they do not want to read. In this case, they can only become rough people and restless individuals, and they will have no chance of solitude and tranquility. It will also be more difficult for them to enjoy the calm and peaceful state of mind in life. Reading can enhance one's knowledge and scholarship, and can elevate one's character. To be a good person and to be a person of positive significance, the only choice is to start with reading. Without reading, people will become restless and ignorant, selfish and capricious.

26. 情执是苦恼的原因，放下情执，你才能得到自在。

26. Attachments are the source of suffering; only by letting go of attachments can you attain freedom.

27. 人生的一切不是算来的，而是善来的；不是求来的，而是修来的。胸襟的宽窄，决定命运的格局，你能包容多少，就能拥有多少。凡事看得开、想得透、拿得起、放得下，学会隐忍性情，懂得克制欲望，退却时理智，谦让时大度，除却杂念私心，少些攀比计较，才会随缘自适。

27. All things in life are not calculated, but come from virtue; not sought for, but cultivated. The breadth of one's mind determines the pattern of one's destiny; the more you can tolerate, the more you can possess. With an open mind and a thorough understanding, be able to take and let go of things. Learn to endure your temperament, understand how to control your desires, retreat with reason, and be magnanimous when yielding. Eliminate selfish thoughts and desires, and reduce comparisons and calculations, and you will be able to adapt to circumstances and be at ease.

28. 那些离开了你的人，不管当时是出于什么原因转身离去，也许曾彷徨过犹豫过挣扎不舍过，但至少在他决定要走的那个瞬间，他觉得没有你他会过得更好。

28. Those who left you, no matter what reasons they turned away from you at that moment, may have hesitated, been hesitant, or struggled to hold on, but at least in that instant when they decided to leave, they believed that they would be better off without you.

29. 世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用，但非我所属。

29. The world was never meant to be yours, so there is no need for you to discard it. What you should discard is all the attachments. All things are for my use, but not for my ownership.

30. 镇定自若、满不在乎、处之泰然、不动声色、视若等闲、泰然自若、不慌不忙、沉着镇定、慢条斯理

30. Calm and composed, indifferent, matter-of-fact, emotionless, treating it lightly, self-assured, unhurried, composed, deliberate.

31. 学会换位思考。试着站在别人的立场上看问题，学会谅解别人。

31. Learn to think from others' perspectives. Try to view problems from the standpoint of others and learn to forgive them.

32. 不执着于拿起，也就无所谓放下，人生有一种淡然的态度，叫“有亦可，无亦然”。

32. Not clinging to picking up, there is no need for letting go. In life, there is a calm attitude called "either with or without is fine."

33. 他的表现从容不迫沉着镇定，说明他具有临危不乱把生死置之度外的大无畏的革命精神。

33. His composure and calmness in his performance indicate that he possesses the fearless revolutionary spirit of maintaining composure in the face of danger and placing life and death beyond concern.

34. 都说时光飞逝，其实时间一直都在，只是我们自己的心在变，情在变。人们常说抵挡不过时间，其实是时间抵挡不过我们的善变。

34. They always say that time flies, but in fact, time has always been there; it's just that our own hearts and emotions change. People often say that they cannot resist time, but it is actually time that cannot withstand our fickleness.

35. 学佛，要从“放下”开始；先放下见思烦恼，再放下尘沙烦恼，最后放下根本无明。

35. To cultivate Buddhism, one should start with "letting go"; first, let go of the烦恼 (disturbances) of views and thoughts, then let go of the烦恼 (disturbances) of dust and sand, and finally let go of the root ignorance.

36. 他无论遇到怎样头绪纷繁的事,总是能有条不紊、从容不迫地处理好。

36. No matter how tangled and complex the situation he encounters, he always manages to handle it in an orderly and composed manner.

37. 尔勿崇饮，狂药非佳味，能使谨厚性，化作凶顽童。

37. Do not indulge in excessive drinking, for strong drugs are not a good taste. They can transform a cautious and respectful person into a rebellious and stubborn child.

38. 多一些宽容，多一些大度 ，挥一挥手，笑一笑，一切的不愉快都会成为过去。因为无能为力，所以顺其自然，因为心无所事，所以要随遇而安，心简单，我们的世界就会特别简单。

38. Show more tolerance and magnanimity; wave a hand, smile, and all the unpleasantness will become a thing of the past. Because we are powerless, we should go with the flow; because our hearts are at ease, we should be content with what comes our way. A simple heart makes our world particularly simple.

39. 妇专委特邀心理问答专家志愿者 李颖 :

39. Invited volunteer psychological question and answer expert of the Women's Special Committee: Li Ying:

40. 生活如水，人生似茶。会有人说你好，也会有人说你不好，但只要我们做人做事问心无愧，就不必执着于他人的评判。当有人对你施不敬的言语，请不要在意，更不要因此而起烦恼，因为这些言语改变不了事实，却可能搅乱你的心。心如果乱了，一切就都乱了。

40. Life is like water, and life is like tea. Some people will say good things about you, while others will say bad things. But as long as we conduct ourselves and our affairs with a clear conscience, we should not be obsessed with others' judgments. When someone speaks to you with disrespect, do not take it to heart, and do not let it cause you to be troubled, because these words cannot change the facts, but they may disturb your mind. If your mind is disturbed, everything will be in disarray.

41. 狂妄的人有救，自卑的人没有救，认识自己，降伏自己，改变自己，才能改变别人。

41. The proud are redeemable, but the humble are not. One must know oneself, conquer oneself, and change oneself in order to change others.

42. 从容不迫的举止，比起咄咄逼人的态度，更能令人心折。三毛

42. A composed demeanor is more likely to win people's admiration than a confrontational attitude. — Sanmao

43. 淡定的人，不在乎太多的身外之物，而是执着于自己脚下的路。心若旁鹜，淡看人生苦痛，淡薄名利，心态积极而平衡，有所求而有所不求，有所为而有所不为，不用刻意掩饰自己，不用势利逢迎他人，只是做一个简单真实的自己。即使失意，也无所谓得失，坦坦荡荡，真真切切，平平静静，快快乐乐。

43. A calm person does not care too much about material things beyond themselves, but is dedicated to the path beneath their feet. If their heart is elsewhere, they calmly view the sorrows of life, are indifferent to fame and wealth, maintain a positive and balanced mindset, have desires but also have non-desires, do what they should and avoid what they shouldn't, without the need to刻意 conceal themselves or flatter others, simply being a simple, genuine self. Even if they fail, they do not worry about gains or losses, living openly and sincerely, calmly and happily.

44. 痛苦是比较出来的，幸福是珍惜得来的。越是计较，心理越不平衡，越不平衡，烦恼越多，我们因此变得不从容。

44. Suffering is comparative, while happiness is gained through appreciation. The more we计较, the more unbalanced our psychology becomes, and the more unbalanced we are, the more烦恼 we have, and therefore, we become less at ease.

45. 这样从容不迫地吃饭，必须有一个人在旁侍候，像饭馆里的堂倌一样。

45. To eat so leisurely, there must be someone attending to you, just like the waiters in restaurants.

46. 靠兴趣 “怡”情 ：当生活繁琐、失意的时候，不如尝试一下 “采菊东篱下，悠然见南山” ，将生活的悠然自得融入心境。

46. Relieve one's spirit through interest: When life is mundane and disheartening, why not try "Picking chrysanthemums under the eastern hedge, leisurely seeing the South Mountain" (a line from a poem), and integrate the tranquility of life into one's mindset.

47. 当反方得意洋洋的时候小明从容不迫地反驳说：好的书能提高自己的知识，即使是不好的书，只要从批评的角度来看也能从中得到知识!

47. While the opposite side was gloating, Xiao Ming calmly反驳 said: Good books can enhance one's knowledge, and even bad books can provide knowledge if viewed from a critical perspective!

48. 有些人此刻还在高谈阔论，下一刻可能就发生一起惨烈的车祸，有些人此刻正在享受生活，可能突然就遭遇一场天崩地陷的地震，有些人正在为了养家糊口而努力，却突然遭遇一场战争。

48. Some people are still talking grandly at this moment, and a tragic car accident may happen the next moment. Some people are enjoying life at this moment, but may suddenly encounter an earthquake that shatters the earth. Some people are working hard to support their families, but suddenly face a war.

49. 佛说，苦非苦，乐非乐，只是一时的执念而已。执于一念，将受困于一念；一念放下，会自在于心间。物随心转，境由心造，烦恼皆由心生。有些人，有些事，是可遇不可求的，强求只有痛苦。既然这样，就放宽心态，顺其自然。无论何时何地，都要拥有一颗安闲自在的心，不让自己活得累。

49. The Buddha said, "Suffering is not suffering, joy is not joy, it is just a temporary attachment." To be obsessed with an idea leads to being trapped by that idea; let go of an idea, and you will find peace within your heart. Things change with the mind, and circumstances are created by the mind; all烦恼 come from within the mind. Some people and some things are meant to be encountered but not sought; pursuing them only brings suffering. So, why not ease your mindset and go with the flow. At all times and in all places, cultivate a peaceful and carefree heart, and don't allow yourself to live a burdensome life.

50. 处世皆讲究“道与法”，道即是心，法即是方法、手段。那么，修成平心静气的手段有哪些呢？

50. In dealing with the world, both "the way" and "the method" are emphasized, where the way refers to the mind, and the method refers to the approach or means. Then, what are the means to cultivate a calm and composed mind?

51. 时刻看着脚下。自己的路由自己走，如果再走正路，要时刻看着脚下，否则一不小心就会走偏，还可能会走一条邪路；如果在走一条邪路，更要时刻看着脚下，调整前进的方向，走上正道。

51. Always keep an eye on your feet. Walk your own path and if you are on the right track, always keep an eye on your feet; otherwise, you might accidentally deviate and even end up on a wrong path; if you are already on a wrong path, it is even more important to keep an eye on your feet, adjust your direction of progress, and walk the path of righteousness.

52. 你帮人100分，当有一天你只肯帮80了，他便会清空你所有的恩，宁愿选择只帮他70分的人做朋友。一粒米养恩人，一石米养仇人，老人说的话没错。不要动不动就倾其所有，留一些骄傲与心疼给自己，记得了，最凉不过人心。

52. If you help someone 100 points, but one day you're only willing to help 80 points, they will erase all the favors you've done and would rather choose a friend who is willing to help them 70 points. A grain of rice can sustain a benefactor, but a basket of rice can nurture an enemy; the old saying is not without reason. Don't always give everything you have; leave some pride and concern for yourself. Remember, the coldest thing is the human heart.

53. 钓鱼，最是养性子的法门；急不得，只能慢慢的等；等待风平浪静，等待心静似水，波澜不惊。

53. Fishing is the most effective way to cultivate one's temperament; one cannot be impatient, but must wait slowly; wait for the sea to calm, wait for the mind to be as still as water, and remain undisturbed by waves.

54. 同样的瓶子，你为什么要装毒药呢？同样的心里，你为什么要充满着烦恼呢？

54. Why do you pour poison into the same bottle? Why do you fill the same heart with烦恼 (worry, distress)?

55. 请你用慈悲心和温和的态度，把你的不满与委屈说出来，别人就容易接受。

55. Please express your dissatisfaction and grievances with a compassionate heart and a gentle attitude, as others are more likely to accept them.

56. 平心静气的心境，来自于修行，重在看开和放下。

56. A calm and composed state of mind comes from cultivation, with a focus on letting go and letting be.

57. 根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁？如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去反咬它一口吗？

57. It's not necessary to look back and see who was cursing you. If a mad dog bites you, would you also lie down to bite it back?