面对突如其来的困境，以德报怨是化解之道。

Faced with an unexpected predicament, returning kindness for grievances is the way to resolve it.

1. 即便他仍然不能感知你的好，你这样做了，说明你们的境界不一样，格局不一样，智慧不一样。

1. Even if he still cannot perceive your goodness, doing so shows that your levels, perspectives, and wisdom are different.

2. 有仇不报非君子，就是说君子面对仇人或仇恨必然奋起反抗，才称得上君子。打不还手骂不还口，甚至打了左脸还送上右脸去给人打，是君子能忍的度。这种能忍，被打的人确实错了，自认为挨打是应该的。或者打的人是或亲人或朋友；或者力量悬殊，毫无抵抗力。

2. Not avenging one's enemies is not the way of a gentleman, which means that a gentleman must necessarily rise to fight against his enemies or resentment in order to be considered a gentleman. Not returning a punch for a punch, not retaliating in words, even if one's left cheek is struck, offering the right cheek for someone to strike as well, is the extent of tolerance that a gentleman can have. Such tolerance implies that the person being struck is indeed wrong, believing that being struck is something they deserve. Alternatively, the person striking may be a relative or a friend; or there may be a significant disparity in strength, making the person struck utterly defenseless.

3. 生活中我们会遇到各种各样的烦心事，也会遇到形形色色的人，有好人，有坏人；有善人，有烂人；有垃圾人，也有温暖如玉的君子。

3. In life, we encounter all sorts of troubles and a variety of people, including good ones and bad ones; kind-hearted people and scoundrels; trashy individuals, as well as gentlemen who are warm and noble as jade.

4. 别人怎么对待我，我无能为力，我怎么对待别人，却是我的品性和修行。最有格局的做法，是善待一切为难你的人，帮助一切讨厌你的人，赞美一切说你坏话的人。

4. I have no power over how others treat me, but how I treat others is a reflection of my character and cultivation. The most magnanimous approach is to be kind to those who put you in difficult situations, to help those who dislike you, and to praise those who speak ill of you.

5. 所以，对那些为难你的人，讨厌你的人，说你坏话的人，最好的处理方式就是以德报怨。

5. Therefore, the best way to deal with those who trouble you, those who dislike you, and those who speak ill of you is to show kindness in return for their ill will.

6. 因为很多事情都得有个度，很多话都跟它所处的那个场合那个环境那个时间段都是相关的，所以说很少有放之四海而皆准的绝对性的真理。什么事情都是要讲究辩证法的，非黑就是白的简单算术在现实生活中是非常少见的。

6. Because many things need to be measured by their degree, many words are related to the context, environment, and time period they are in, so there are rarely absolute truths that apply universally. Everything requires dialectics; the simple arithmetic of being either black or white is very rare in real life.

7. 以德报怨，绝不是懦夫所为，而是强者的表现。举两个例子：张绣发动了一场针对曹操的战斗，杀死了曹操的儿子、侄子和爱将，后来张绣归顺曹操，曹操既往不咎，还推荐张绣做了车骑将军，一直给予高官厚禄，安度晚年。

7. To repay enmity with kindness is not the act of a coward, but rather a manifestation of strength. Here are two examples: Zhang Xiu launched a battle against Cao Cao, killing Cao Cao's son, nephew, and beloved general. Later, Zhang Xiu submitted to Cao Cao, who forgave him without seeking revenge, and even recommended Zhang Xiu to become the General of Chariots and Cavalry, granting him high-ranking positions and generous salaries, allowing him to enjoy his later years in peace.

8. ​无法重来的一生，请尽量快乐自在，永远要相信一切美好都在不远处。”

8. This is a life that cannot be replayed, so please try to be happy and at ease. Always believe that all the beautiful things are not far away.

9. 一个顽皮的小孩子骂你，你最好的回应不是骂他，而是给他一个拥抱。一个不知好歹的人讨厌你，你最好的回应不是讨厌他，而是尽心尽力的帮助他，让他感到自己的无知和浅薄。一个人总是嘀嘀咕咕说你的坏话，你应该经常在人前人后夸奖他，让他感到自惭形秽和无地自容。

9. When a mischievous child curses at you, the best response is not to curse back but to give them a hug. If someone unappreciative dislikes you, the best response is not to dislike them in return, but to help them wholeheartedly, making them feel their ignorance and shallowness. If someone always whisper bad things about you behind your back, you should often praise them in public and in private, making them feel ashamed and without a place to hide.

10. 与恶龙缠斗，你也会变成恶龙，凝视深渊过久，深渊也会回以凝视。每个人的频率和磁场都不一样，我们难免遇到一些和自己格格不入的人，碰见一些对我们并不友好的人，甚至时时处处总想着刁难我们的人，对这些人最好的回应，就是不要一般见识。如果你怒了，愁了，或者以其人之道，还治其人之身，那说明你和他们是同样层次的人，说明你的生命能量太低端，你的格局太狭窄，你的素质太低下，你的智慧太浅薄。

10. If you struggle with a fierce dragon, you will also become a dragon. If you gaze into the abyss for too long, the abyss will gaze back at you. Each person has a unique frequency and magnetic field, and it is inevitable that we will encounter some people who do not fit in with us, some people who are not friendly to us, and even some people who always think of ways to trouble us. The best response to these people is not to take them lightly. If you get angry, worry, or try to retaliate with their own methods, that means you are at the same level as them. It means your life energy is too low, your outlook is too narrow, your quality is too low, and your wisdom is shallow.

11. 非常喜欢的一段话：“情绪是朵难养的花，撑不住的时候，允许自己枯萎几天，然后继续好好生活。

11. A very favorite quote: "Emotions are a difficult flower to nurture; when they can no longer bear it, allow yourself to wither for a few days, and then continue to live well."

12. 这不是一种软弱，而是一种强大。那些为难你，讨厌你，说你坏话的人，才是真正的可怜人，他们认识不到自己的低下和猥琐，他们不明白自己正在造孽，他们正在做损耗自己福报的事情，不要跟他们一般见识，就好像我们不必在乎一只蚂蚁的张牙舞爪，不必理会一只苍蝇的横眉怒目。

12. This is not weakness, but strength. Those who trouble you, dislike you, and spread rumors about you are truly pitiful people. They fail to recognize their own lowliness and nastiness, they don't understand that they are committing misdeeds, and they are doing things that are eroding their own blessings. Do not be on the same level as them; it's like we don't need to care about a ant's fierce display or ignore a fly's angry frown.

13. 别人如何待我，是我的因果；我待别人如何，是我的修行。

13. How others treat me is my karma; how I treat others is my cultivation.

14. 有一个刺客去刺杀刘备，事情败露，刘备却对他嘘寒问暖，关心备至，刺客无地自容，心服口服。

14. There was an assassin who went to assassinate Liu Bei, but the plot was uncovered. However, Liu Bei showed great concern for him, expressing both warmth and care. The assassin felt so ashamed that he couldn't help but submit to Liu Bei's kindness.

15. ​在这纷繁的世界里，我依然好好的活着。生活中有人送来鲜花，有人扔来泥巴，我不炫耀鲜花，也不在意泥巴，而是用泥巴种下鲜花。

15. In this complex world, I am still living well. In life, some bring flowers, while others throw mud at me. I do not boast about the flowers nor do I care about the mud; instead, I plant flowers with the mud.

16. 非常释怀的一段话：“人这一生，总有人在渡你，有人爱你护你，把你放在第一位，有人伤你气你，让你受尽委屈，不管别人如何待你，全是在渡你。

16. A very relieving statement: "Throughout one's life, there are always people who guide you, who love and protect you, putting you first, and there are also those who hurt and anger you, making you endure all sorts of injustices. No matter how others treat you, it's all part of their journey of guiding you."

17. 如果力量悬殊，被打的人又是被冤枉的，仇恨的种子一旦种下，那么”君子报仇，十年不晚”“有仇不报非君子”就会在心中蔓延，直至爆发。若说“有仇必报”是君子行为，那么“有仇不报，有恩必报”甚至“以德报怨仇”，必定是圣人的行为。冤家宜解不宜结，冤冤相报何时了。

17. If there is a significant disparity in strength and the person who is beaten is innocent, once the seeds of hatred are sown, phrases like "A gentleman's revenge can wait ten years" and "A person who does not avenge their grievances is not a gentleman" will spread in their heart until they erupt. If "revenge must be avenged" is considered a gentlemanly behavior, then "not avenging grievances but repaying kindness" or even "repaying resentment with virtue" must be the behavior of a sage. Enemies should be resolved rather than established, and endless cycles of revenge will never end.

18. 仇是可以化解的，作为真君子，可以化干戈为玉帛，不报仇反而以德报怨，可以尊其为圣人。圣人，一定是至善至美的人，即“才德全尽谓之圣人”，不是普通人，而是德高望重、有大智的人，超越了一般普通人的有我境界，达到了人类最高最完美的忘我利人境界。

18. Enmity can be resolved. As a true gentleman, one can transform weapons into jade, and instead of seeking revenge, one can repay ill will with virtue, thereby being honored as a sage. A sage is certainly a person of ultimate goodness and beauty, which means "a person with complete talent and virtue is called a sage," not an ordinary person. Rather, a sage is one of great moral stature and wisdom, transcending the egocentric realm of ordinary people, and reaching the highest and most perfect境界 of selflessness and concern for others.

19. 别人如何待我，是我的因果；我待别人如何，是我的修行。有缘躲不过，无缘碰不到，缘起则聚，缘散则散，随缘而至。”

19. How others treat me is my karma; how I treat others is my cultivation. Destiny cannot be avoided if there is a connection, and it cannot be encountered if there is no connection. When the connection arises, we gather; when it dissipates, we disperse. We go with the flow.

20. 原因是：君子的定义不是老好人，而是爱憎分明的人。正所谓“以德报德，以怨报怨”，如果受到对方的伤害，一定要作出正当的回应。比如你的权利受到侵害，一定要为自己的利益作出努力。必要时拿起法律武器。这是成为一名“君子”的必要条件。

20. The reason is that the definition of a gentleman is not someone who is overly kind and good-natured, but someone who knows how to differentiate between right and wrong. As the saying goes, "Repay good with good and evil with evil." If you are harmed by someone, you must make a proper response. For instance, if your rights are violated, you must strive for your own interests. In necessary cases, you must resort to legal means. This is a necessary condition to become a "gentleman."