在知识的海洋中遨游，我们总能与自我对话，探寻人生的真谛。这一旅程，或许荆棘密布，或许风和日丽，但无论如何，我们都要心怀信念，勇敢前行。

Navigating the ocean of knowledge, we are always able to engage in dialogue with ourselves, seeking the essence of life. This journey may be fraught with thorns or filled with fair weather, but regardless, we must hold onto our beliefs and bravely move forward.

1. 人生在世，谁有谁的难处，日子是过给自己的，不用羡慕别人，也许你羡慕别人的同时，他也正在羡慕你！没有真正的感同身受！

1. In this life, everyone has their own difficulties. The days are lived for oneself, and there is no need to envy others. Perhaps while you are envying someone else, they might be envying you as well! There is no true empathy!

2. 杨绛先生说：“一个女人最重要的能力，不是你把自己打扮得多么漂亮，也不是你赚钱有多么厉害，而是无论发生任何事情，你都有让自己快乐起来的能力！

2. Mr. Yang Jiang said, "The most important ability for a woman is not how beautifully you dress yourself, nor how skillfully you earn money, but the ability to make yourself happy no matter what happens!"

3. 01、水瓶座的朋友们，你们先闭上眼睛，我问你几个问题。你觉得自己的原则性强吗你觉得自己是一个会坚守底线的人吗如果有一个人让你很痛苦，你会选择离开ta吗先别急着回答，把这个答案放在心里咀嚼一下。因为水瓶们在理智的状态下肯定会脱口而出，“强，是，会”，在发生这种情况的时候，ta们也的确会这样处理。但现在的问题是，水瓶并不是一直都能够保持理智的。

3. 01, Aquarius friends, first, close your eyes. I will ask you a few questions. Do you think you have strong principles? Do you consider yourself someone who would stick to your bottom line? If someone is causing you a great deal of pain, would you choose to leave them? Don't rush to answer; let this question linger in your mind. Because Aquarians, when they are in a rational state, would definitely blurt out, "Strong, yes, I would." In such situations, they would indeed handle it that way. But the problem is, Aquarians are not always able to maintain their rationality.

4. 随着年龄的增大，对一些消耗自己的，影响自己心情的事选择了沉默，选择了后退，不再想去理论，争个是非对错，不再抱怨和计较了，只想离这些负能量的人和事远远的，想让自己快乐点。于是没有了争论，即使被冤枉也不想去解释，有些事选择放下，不是为了原谅别人，而是为了放过自己。

4. As I grow older, I choose silence and retreat from things that consume myself and affect my mood. I no longer wish to argue or debate right and wrong, and I stop complaining and being nitpicky. I just want to keep a distance from these negative people and events, and I want to be happier. So, I no longer argue, even when I am wronged, I don't feel like explaining. I choose to let some things go, not to forgive others, but to free myself.

5. 当不顺心的事集中在一起的时候，感觉自己特别委屈，多想有人抱抱自己，哄哄自己，到头来却发现别人都很忙，不良的情绪只能自己去消化，经历多了才发现，大家都很忙，没有人去照顾你的心情，你要学会自渡！该翻篇时翻篇，人人都有执念，但不能执迷不悟！

5. When unpleasant things accumulate all at once, I feel particularly aggrieved and wish someone would hug me and comfort me. In the end, however, I find that everyone is busy. Bad emotions can only be digested by myself. After experiencing a lot, I realize that everyone is busy and no one cares about your mood. You need to learn to help yourself! Turn the page when it's time, everyone has attachments, but one cannot be obsessed!

6. 于是，这个离开的想法就会变得很矛盾很犹豫。带着这种心情，就会拖得他心力憔悴，因为在第一时间没有直接选择离开的话，他就会钻进牛角尖里。“为什么我没有走的冲动啊是不是我还不想离开啊感觉工作不顺会不会是我自己的问题，而不是公司的问题啊那我换了工作是不是还是不开心啊”“那我就先不换了吧。

6. Thus, the idea of leaving becomes very contradictory and hesitating. With this mindset, it can wear him out emotionally, as he will dwell on a dead end if he does not choose to leave immediately. "Why don't I have the urge to leave? Am I not ready to leave yet? Maybe I'm not happy with my job, is it my own problem or the company's? If I change jobs, will I still be unhappy?" "Then, I think I won't change it for now."

7. 这辈子无论怎样度过，其实都是在与自己相处。心情愉悦了，生活也就顺遂了。长大后要懂得如何应对难过的情绪，自己体会冷暖，独自度过悲喜。

7. No matter how one spends this lifetime, it is essentially about being with oneself. When the mood is cheerful, life follows suit. As one grows up, one should learn how to deal with sad emotions, experience the warmth and coldness on one's own, and go through the ups and downs alone.

8. 其中基础篇，该内容就是讲让读者在书写中激活感受。作者一开篇就是举了张爱玲、莫言、余华这些大文豪的作品，以此来说明文学内容最大的特点直击作者内心最深处的灵魂内容，这就是我手写我心的说法。笔者非常赞同作者说法“作者与作家的区别在文章的灵魂，在于有没有写出内心深处难以处理的难题，如果我们可以充分表达内心的冲突，我们每个人都有成为作家的潜质。”此外这篇中，也讲到了书写疗愈的三个阶段，分别是即觉察、发现和疗愈。其中在疗愈部分，作者的观点就是书写自愈力的体现就是写回忆录或者家书，因为这样就是一个自我疗愈的过程，因为在书写的过程中让我们知道了祖辈留给我们的资源和力量，从而使得我们可以接纳自我，才能与过去的自己达成和解，得到自我的重建。

8. In the basic section, the content focuses on awakening emotions through writing. The author starts by citing the works of great literary figures such as Zhang Ailing, Mo Yan, and Yu Hua to illustrate the most distinctive feature of literary content, which is to strike the deepest soul of the author. This is the concept of "writing what one feels in one's heart." The author very much agrees with the statement, "The difference between an author and a writer lies in the soul of the article, in whether or not they have expressed the deep-seated problems that are difficult to handle within themselves. If we can fully express the internal conflicts, everyone has the potential to become a writer." Moreover, this article also discusses the three stages of healing through writing, which are awareness, discovery, and healing. In the section on healing, the author's view is that the manifestation of self-healing power through writing is the writing of memoirs or letters to family members, because it is a process of self-healing. In the process of writing, it helps us understand the resources and strength left to us by our ancestors, allowing us to accept ourselves and reconcile with our past selves, achieving self-reconstruction.

9. 最后第四篇是终结篇也是总结篇，这里就是意图鼓励读者携带资源与力量，走向未来。这里我们可以了解到了书写对于生命的意义是重大的，其中书写疗愈的四大里程碑是：激活感受，找到核心情绪；直面伤痛，开启疗愈之旅；展开对话，生发疗愈力量；重塑自我，实现心理蜕变。从而成就精神人生。

9. The last, fourth piece is both the concluding and summary chapter, here aiming to encourage readers to carry resources and strength into the future. Here, we come to understand that writing holds great significance in life. The four milestones of writing therapy are: activating feelings and finding core emotions; facing pain and starting the healing journey; initiating dialogue and generating healing power; and reshaping oneself to achieve psychological transformation. Through this, one can achieve a spiritual life.

10. 凡事你自己想开了，放下了，不纠结了。到最后事情到底是什么样子的，已经不重要了。因为你已经释然了。

10. When it comes to things, just think it through for yourself, let it go, and don't be obsessed with it. In the end, what the matter really is doesn't matter anymore. Because you have already let it go.

11. 《书写自愈力》这本书情绪管理书，是整合自由书写、精神分析、情绪聚焦、叙事、积极心理学的各种方法，帮助我们读者探索自己的核心议题，并运用书中给出的工具和方法，由心而发地与自己对话，从而疗愈伤痛，让生活更加从容、平和、自在。作为方法论之书，这书的优点在于作者通过用通俗和鲜明的语言将知识传授给大家，另外在这本书中我们还可以看到每章都配有相关书写练习，并且给出范文和写作指导，帮助读者找到并书写被情感缠绕的生命故事。这是活生生的事例，就增强这类型的感染力和实践性。本书适合所有希望超越原生家庭影响，完善自我人格，实现自我价值的人使用。书写，是我们向内的心理医生。希望你也可以通过书写治愈，而得到治愈。

11. "Writing Self-Healing" is an emotional management book that integrates various methods such as free writing, psychoanalysis, emotional focusing, narrative, and positive psychology. It helps our readers explore their core issues and, by using the tools and methods provided in the book, engage in a heart-to-heart dialogue with themselves to heal wounds and lead a more composed, peaceful, and comfortable life. As a methodological book, its advantage lies in the author's ability to impart knowledge to readers through popular and vivid language. Moreover, each chapter of this book is accompanied by relevant writing exercises, along with sample texts and writing guidance, helping readers to find and write life stories entangled with emotions. These are vivid examples that enhance the infective power and practicality of this type. This book is suitable for anyone who hopes to transcend the influence of their family of origin, perfect their personality, and realize their self-worth. Writing is our inward psychologist. I hope you can also heal through writing and gain healing.

12. 有严重的心理疾病的，自然是应该向外找心理医生看的；对于一般人而言，遇到困扰或者不愉快的事情，那自然也是可以向外找亲戚朋友倾诉。但还有一种方法是非常管使的，那就是向内，通过书写去让我们每个体通过这方式得到自我治愈的。这种针对性强的关乎书写自愈力的书籍，这里需要介绍一本由情绪聚焦疗法咨询师 周丽瑗的新作《书写自愈力》，去让大家感觉到书写是你最好的心理医生。因为在书写的过程中是会让我们每一个人都得到反省和重塑的治愈过程。

12. For those with severe psychological disorders, it is naturally advisable to seek the help of a psychologist. For the general public, when faced with困扰 or unpleasant situations, it is also natural to turn to relatives and friends for comfort. However, there is another effective method: turning inward and using writing to allow each individual to heal themselves through this process. Regarding books that focus on the healing power of writing, it is necessary to introduce a new work by the Emotion-Focused Therapy Consultant Zhou Liyan, titled "Writing Self-Healing Power," to let everyone realize that writing can be the best psychological doctor for you. Because the process of writing can bring reflection and healing for all of us.

13. 而在重建自我认同和自尊方面，就介绍了独立和亲密是青春期的两大核心任务。另外也讲到了青春期心理发展五大任务：认知发展、独立性、自我认同、身体稳定性、亲密感建立。而在 我与我最初的梦想和秘密方面，就讲到一些育儿心经，如依恋理论对人格成长的重要性，这里就正面说到了安全依恋型关系是亲子之间的好关系，而不安全依恋是不好的关系，这就体现在回避型依恋、矛盾性依恋和混合型依恋。

13. In terms of reconstructing self-identity and self-esteem, the text introduces independence and intimacy as the two core tasks of adolescence. Additionally, it also discusses the five major tasks of psychological development during adolescence: cognitive development, independence, self-identity, physical stability, and the establishment of intimacy. Regarding my initial dreams and secrets, the text presents some parenting wisdoms, such as the importance of attachment theory to personality development. Here, it is explicitly mentioned that a secure attachment style is a good relationship between parents and children, whereas an insecure attachment is a poor relationship. This is reflected in avoidant attachment, ambivalent attachment, and disorganized attachment.

14. 来到第二篇回顾篇，这里就介绍了如何在回顾过往中完成核心情绪的疗愈。另外作者也提到了在书写中释放核心情绪，如通过检视确认、找到命名、书写体会的方法是可以释放核心情绪的。另外这第二篇也写到了书写生命中的爱与哀愁，就提到了人生发展八阶段理论，也是干货满满的。如18-25岁我们需要解决的是亲密和孤独的冲突。而在25-50岁我们要解决的繁衍和停滞的冲突；50岁以上的我们要解决的自我完善与失望的冲突，这些都是很有启发性的。

14. In the second part, the review section, it introduces how to heal core emotions through reflection on the past. The author also mentions that releasing core emotions through writing, such as through confirmation by inspection, finding names, and writing personal experiences, is a method to release core emotions. In addition, this second part also writes about the love and sorrow in life through writing, and mentions the eight stages of life development theory, which is also filled with practical advice. For example, between the ages of 18-25, what we need to resolve is the conflict between intimacy and loneliness. Between the ages of 25-50, we need to resolve the conflict between reproduction and stagnation; for those over 50, we need to resolve the conflict between self-improvement and disappointment. These are all very inspiring.

15. 而在带着好奇观察自己的部分，就讲到了情绪ABC理论这个干货，以及说到的“动中禅”有两步，那就是放空和做简单重复和有规律的事情。其中放空就谈到了每天抽出15分钟离开熟悉的环境到户外走一走，就能减少焦虑、郁抑和疲惫的感觉，这种放空，对于我们现代人是非常迫切需要的。而在做简单重复和有规律的事情方面。如笔者而言，是有时会在傍晚到江边慢跑的过程中会想着书写的灵感，这自然就是滋养自己和放松的方式。

15. In the part that observes oneself with curiosity, the ABC theory of emotions is introduced as useful information, and it is mentioned that there are two steps to "moving meditation," which are to empty one's mind and to do simple, repetitive, and regular activities. The emptying of the mind involves taking 15 minutes each day to leave the familiar environment and go for a walk outdoors, which can reduce feelings of anxiety, depression, and fatigue. This kind of emptying is very urgent for us modern people. As for doing simple, repetitive, and regular activities, speaking for myself, I often think about writing inspiration while jogging by the river in the evening, which naturally becomes a way to nourish myself and relax.

16. 最终是因为在想要离开的时候犹豫了一下，水瓶就会开始怀疑到是不是自己的问题，从而产生矛盾。而在这种心情之下，ta就会克制住自己的任性，从而开始去反思自己。但问题又来了，如果一家公司，一个环境会让水瓶去反思自己的话，这一定又会是一个不好的公司，不舒适的环境。反思着反思着，水瓶就一定会想到一个点。

16. Ultimately, because of a moment of hesitation when wanting to leave, Aquarius will begin to doubt whether it's their own problem, leading to conflicts. In such a mood, they will克制住自己的任性, and start to reflect on themselves. But the problem arises again; if a company or an environment makes Aquarius reflect on themselves, it must be a bad company or an uncomfortable environment. Reflecting and reflecting, Aquarius will inevitably come to a realization.

17. 而在重新激活丢失的感受部分，值得关注的是情绪粒度的概念，情绪粒度是指一个人区分并识别自己具体感受的能力，其包括感受和表达。而提高情绪粒度就是直接提高人们应对负面情绪的能力。此外作者也说可以通过视觉、听觉、嗅觉、味觉、触觉和心里感觉去识别情绪的。此外这部分也提到了变化三角模型，来说明核心情绪。抑制性情绪和防御的区别，其中核心情绪包括恐惧、愤怒、悲伤、厌恶、快乐、兴奋。这自然也是我们说的喜怒哀乐的情绪了。

17. When it comes to reactivating the lost parts of feelings, it is worth mentioning the concept of emotional granularity, which refers to a person's ability to differentiate and identify their own specific feelings, including experiencing and expressing them. Enhancing emotional granularity directly improves people's ability to cope with negative emotions. Moreover, the author also says that emotions can be identified through vision, hearing, smell, taste, touch, and psychological sensation. Additionally, this part also mentions the Change Triangle Model to explain the core emotions and the distinction between inhibitory emotions and defenses. The core emotions include fear, anger, sadness, disgust, joy, and excitement. Naturally, these are also the emotions we refer to as joy, anger, sadness, and despair.

18. 只要经历过一次的水瓶，就能够知道那种矛盾，对立不断充斥的过程，想要离开，想要放弃但又不舍，觉得放弃了这个痛苦会让自己更加痛苦，从而不敢完全的离开。所谓任性也好，放肆也好，一定是留有退路的，最起码，装傻回来的时候不会太丢人。

18. Anyone who has experienced even once the contradiction and continuous conflict that fills the process can understand it. There is a desire to leave, to give up, yet there is also a reluctance. One feels that giving up this pain would only bring even more pain, and thus dares not leave completely. Whether it's called任性 (temperamental) or放肆 (rebellious), it must always leave a way back. At the very least, coming back while pretending to be foolish won't be too embarrassing.

19. “为什么这份工作让我这么累啊我为什么要把自己逼得这么累啊”基本上想到这一点，也就是离走不远了。最终离开也不是因为一开始觉得在这家公司待的很烦了，而是这一段时间让自己心力憔悴了，从而对环境产生了抗拒，所以水瓶想休息一下，换个环境。

19. "Why does this job make me so tired? Why do I have to push myself so hard?" When someone starts to think about this point, it's usually not far from the time they're ready to leave. The final decision to leave is not because they felt initially that they were extremely uncomfortable at the company, but rather because over this period they have become physically and mentally exhausted, developing a resistance to the environment. Therefore, Aquarius wants to take a break and change their surroundings.

20. 随着接触的人越来越多，经历过的环境越来越多，见过的世面越来越多，水瓶真的会把任性给收起来了。并不是ta对生活低头了，而是ta看透了。年轻的时候，谁惹了自己就怼谁，确实很爽，很有面子。但是呢怼完之后又心软，总是觉得自己是不是太过分了，再面对这个人的时候又会觉得不安，又觉得呢自己没必要为了一个不在乎的人浪费这么多心情。

20. As the number of people they come into contact with increases, and as they experience more environments and see more of the world, Aquarius really starts to put their任性 away. It's not that they have bowed down to life, but rather they have seen through it. In their youth, they would confront anyone who upset them, which was indeed satisfying and face-saving. However, after confronting them, they would soften their heart, always feeling that they might have been too excessive, and then feel unease when facing that person again. They would also think that they don't need to waste so much emotional energy on someone who doesn't care about them.

21. 余生，要与自己好好相处，聆听内心的声音；慢慢来，与生活握手言和，优雅且从容；慢慢来，用自己的方式，活出绚烂的人人性生。允许自己慢慢来，人生才能活得自在。

21. In the remaining years, get along well with oneself, listen to the inner voice; take it slow, reconcile with life with elegance and composure; take it slow, live out the brilliant human nature in your own way. Allow yourself to take it slow, and then you can live a carefree life.

22. 之后就说到了自由书写的原理就是不受拘束，只是纯粹地记录。那么自由书写的重点是什么呢？那就是想到哪里就写到哪里。并在其过程不要删除，不要修改，也不要指望他人能看懂，更不要妄图对文字进行评判。这样就是可以好好自由书写的了。有了这样的自由草稿，我们就会发现整个书写过程就是自我坦诚相见的过程，自然会达到治愈的效果的。此外作者也介绍了自由书写的特色：自己是作品的唯一读者、一场向内的旅程、也是会提升自我察觉能力额。而作为方法论之书，有个事例是非常有必要的，如在讲到自由书写部分，其中《练习：让文字从心流淌》和《范文：给自己的“五分钟”》就是可以让读者通过事例可以更为深刻了解这个自由书写的特点。

22. After that, the principle of free writing was discussed as being unbound and purely about recording. So, what is the focus of free writing? It is to write wherever the thought leads. During this process, there should be no deletions, no modifications, and no expectation that others will understand, nor should there be any attempt to judge the text. This is how one can engage in proper free writing. With such a free draft, we will find that the entire writing process is a process of self-disclosure, which naturally achieves a healing effect. Moreover, the author also introduces the characteristics of free writing: being the sole reader of the work, a journey inward, and also an activity that enhances self-awareness. As a book of methodology, it is necessary to have examples, such as when discussing the part on free writing, "Practice: Let the Words Flow from the Heart" and "Example: The 'Five-Minute' for Yourself" are examples that allow readers to gain a deeper understanding of the characteristics of free writing.

23. 随着年龄的增长，经历的越来越多，经过了社会的历练，遇到了形形色色的人和事，也就明白了一些道理，与自己和解，才能过的不拧巴。和解不代表向生活妥协，而是认清自己，接纳自己，在自己所能做到的范围内，仍旧保持一颗积极且上进的心。你的人生需要的从来不是别人的苟同，而是自己的认可。

23. As we grow older and gain more experiences, go through the trials of society, and encounter all sorts of people and things, we gradually understand some truths. Only by reconciling with ourselves can we live without internal conflict. Reconciliation does not mean compromising with life; rather, it is about recognizing and accepting ourselves, and within the scope of what we can do, still maintaining a positive and ambitious heart. What your life truly needs is not others' agreement, but your own recognition.

24. 因为一次任性，让自己这么纠结，挺没意思的。之后再有人惹了自己，随便阴阳一下，笑嘻嘻的开个玩笑怼一下，意思表达出去就行了，没必要弄得剑拔弩张的，何必呢这么多些年，在哪待不爽了就换个环境，住得不开心了就搬个家，很畅快，想怎么样就怎么样，谁也拦不住自己。

24. It's pretty meaningless to let myself be so tangled up because of one capricious act. From now on, if someone bothers me, I'll just play around with the concept of good and evil, laughingly make a joke and give them a retort, expressing my meaning. There's no need to make things tense. Why make a big deal out of it? For so many years, if you're not happy somewhere, change your environment, if you're not happy where you live, move to a new place. It's so liberating, doing whatever you want, and nobody can stop you.

25. 人生这道题，怎么选都会有遗憾。当情绪反扑时，允许自己枯萎几天，余华说道：“在夜深人静的时候，把心掏出来，自己缝缝补补，然后睡一觉醒来又是信心百倍。无人问津也好，技不如人也罢，你都要试着静下来，自己该干什么就干什么，而不是让烦躁和焦虑毁掉你本就不多的热情和定力。心可以碎，手不能停，该干什么干什么，在崩溃中继续前行，才是一个成年人的修养。”

25. This life is a question that no matter how you choose, there will always be regrets. Yu Hua says, "When emotions surge back, allow yourself to wither for a few days. At night when the world is quiet, take out your heart, patch it up yourself, and then wake up with a sense of confidence after a nap. Whether it's because of a lack of interest from others or being outmatched, you should try to calm down, do what you should do, rather than letting frustration and anxiety destroy the little passion and resolve you have. Your heart may break, but your hands cannot stop. Keep doing what you should do, move forward in the face of collapse, and that is what a mature adult's修养 should be."

26. 总觉得，今天的局面也是自己一手造成的，肯定不是说想要回到过去改变这个局面，而是最起码以后不能再这样了吧。水瓶看透了自己这个性格，放不下包袱，做不到洒脱，没办法安稳。他只能学会这一点，发泄和自愈，让自己达到平衡，达成和解。

26. I always feel that today's situation is also something I have caused myself. Of course, it's not that I want to go back in time to change this situation, but at the very least, can't I stop doing this in the future? Aquarius has seen through this character of his, unable to let go of the burden, unable to be carefree, and unable to find peace. He can only learn this: to vent and self-heal, to achieve balance and reconciliation.

27. 来到来到第三篇对话篇，就是分别讲述了与父亲、母亲、家族的对话而生发疗愈力量。其中尤为值得一提的是与母亲的和解之路的部分，就强调了我们要意识到母亲的局限性，但我们也要允许她做自己，但同时明白这伤害不了我们自己本身。如果说什么是第一步和解的步骤，那就是我们应该学会尽量在于父母的情绪对话中将自己抽离出来。

27. In the third part, the Dialogue, we have separate dialogues with the father, mother, and the family, all of which generate healing power. Particularly noteworthy is the part about the path to reconciliation with the mother, which emphasizes that we should be aware of our mother's limitations, but we also need to allow her to be herself, while understanding that this does not harm us internally. If there is a first step in the process of reconciliation, it is that we should learn to detach ourselves as much as possible from emotional conversations with our parents.

28. 成年人的平静，三分之一是理解，三分之一是妥协，剩下的是算了。有些事，不是不在意，而是在意了又能怎样。

28. The calm of adults is one-third understanding, one-third compromise, and the rest is just let it be. There are some things that are not about not caring, but rather, what can you do even if you do care?

29. 确实换一个环境换一种心情，但是又不好意思去怀念过去，因为毕竟是自己的选择，也只能咬着牙说“这个新地方怎么怎么好，新环境怎么怎么舒服”。不然不就是打了自己的脸吗水瓶看透了什么人生吗其实不是，ta是看透了自己并不是说任性的选择就一定会让自己纠结，但很多时候，太过任性就一定会留下隐患。

29. Indeed, changing an environment can change one's mood, but one is also embarrassed to reminisce about the past, because it was a choice made by oneself, and can only bite the bullet and say, "This new place is so good, the new environment is so comfortable." Otherwise, isn't that slapping one's own face? Aquarius sees through what kind of life? Actually, it's not that. They see through the fact that not every capricious choice will necessarily make them纠结, but often, being too capricious will definitely leave hidden dangers.

30. 不要羡慕任何人的生活，其实谁家的锅底都有灰。生活，不是这样，就是那样，不是别人风光无限，而是他们一地鸡毛没给别人看，所以顺其自然就好。

30. Don't envy anyone's life, for in reality, every pot has its bottom covered in soot. Life isn't about this or that, nor is it because others are constantly shining; rather, it's because they have a lot of messes they don't show to others. So, just go with the flow.

31. 水瓶的原则性的确很强，但是，他并没有太多的原则。水瓶的确会坚守底线，但是他的底线会随着认识不同的人而被拉得越来越低。如果一个人让水瓶很痛苦，水瓶确实是会离开他，但如果离开之后让他更痛苦，他又会回来。任性一定是在自我拉扯的过程感觉到太过痛苦而想要解脱，而并不是说水瓶就是一个会任性的跟着自己性子走的人。

31. Aquarius has a strong sense of principle, but he doesn't have too many principles. Aquarius does indeed stick to his bottom line, but his bottom line can be lowered with the different people he meets. If someone makes Aquarius extremely unhappy, Aquarius will indeed leave him, but if leaving makes him even more unhappy, he might come back. Being capricious is about feeling too much pain in the process of self-tugging and wanting to be released, rather than saying that Aquarius is a person who is capricious and follows his own whims.

32. 作为情绪和自我控制的读物，作者就用通俗和鲜明的语言，去为大家打开如何通过书写自愈力而得到人生的量化和质化的蜕变。作为一份方法论的书，此书的排版非常清晰，让读者可以一目了然地抓到了书中的重点，从而可以让读者高效地学以致用，提升自己的自愈力。此书大抵是分为三篇：：基础篇、回顾篇、终结篇。

32. As a reading material for emotions and self-control, the author uses popular and vivid language to open up how to achieve a quantitative and qualitative transformation in life through the power of writing self-healing. As a book of methodology, this book is very well-organized, allowing readers to quickly grasp the key points and thus learn efficiently and apply what they have learned to enhance their self-healing abilities. The book is roughly divided into three parts: the Basic Section, the Review Section, and the Conclusion Section.

33. 生活是自己的，切不可为难自己，根据实际尽力而为，照顾好自身的健康与情绪，在这场人生中，你便已经赢了多半。

33. Life is your own, never put unnecessary strain on yourself. Do your best according to your actual abilities, take good care of your health and emotions. In this journey of life, you have already won half the battle.

34. 虽然思维不断跳脱，想法不断变化，但是，水瓶却没有做好准备，而你不知道的是，水瓶其实真的是一个在关键的做决策的时候会犹豫不决的人。举个例子，一个水瓶在一家公司待烦了，想走了，如果刚跟同事或领导闹完矛盾，他有充足的理由说服自己离开，他就会马上走。但如果他想了想，跟同事相处挺融洽的，领导也对自己挺好的，虽然工作不顺，但是呢，好像没有理由贸然的离开，不然大家会不会难过啊

34. Although the mind jumps around constantly and ideas change continuously, the Aquarius is not prepared. What you may not know is that Aquarius is actually someone who hesitates when it comes to making crucial decisions. For example, if an Aquarius has had enough of a company and wants to leave, if they have just had a conflict with a colleague or a superior, they have ample reasons to convince themselves to leave and they would leave immediately. However, if they think it over and find that they get along well with their colleagues and their leader is also good to them, although the work is not going smoothly, they might feel there's no reason to leave abruptly. Otherwise, wouldn't everyone be sad?

35. 这些换过的环境，离开的人，其实从来都没有离开过水瓶的脑子。并不是怀念他们，也不是觉得遗憾。就是有的时候会控制不住自己的去想那些，尤其是在当下面对压力，心情不好的时候，就会更加的去忍不住追忆过去。

35. These changed environments, the people who have left, have never really left the Aquarius mind. It's not that I miss them or feel regret. It's just that sometimes I can't help but think about them, especially when faced with pressure and when I'm in a bad mood, I can't help but indulge in reminiscing about the past even more.

36. 02、任性的水瓶最后做出的往往并不是任性的决定。而是ta希望通过任性来让自己达成和解，变得洒脱。因为，水瓶真的是一个太纠结的人了。所以，我们再回到上面三个问题。你觉得自己的原则性强吗你觉得自己是一个会坚守底线的人吗

36. 02: The任性 Aquarius often does not make capricious decisions at the end. Instead, they hope to use their capriciousness to reconcile themselves and become carefree. Because, Aquarius is actually a person who is too纠结. So, let's go back to the three questions mentioned above. How strong do you think your principles are? Do you feel like you are someone who will坚守 your bottom line?

37. 所以，照顾好自己的健康与心情，做好自己的事情，善待重要的人，你所期望的一切，都在来的路上。愿你拥有强大的自愈能力，遇事皆可自渡，认真活成自己的太阳，无需凭借他人的光！

37. Therefore, take good care of your health and mood, do your own things well, treat the important people kindly, and everything you hope for is on its way. May you have a strong ability to heal yourself, be able to cross every difficulty on your own, live seriously as your own sun, and not rely on the light of others!