面对恶意，展现你的独特光芒——别人的负面评价，是你成功的证明。

Face malice with your unique brilliance — others' negative evaluations are proof of your success.

1. 别人笑我太疯癫，我笑他人看不穿。不见五陵豪杰墓，无花无酒锄作田。

1. Others laugh at me for being too crazy, but I laugh at them for not seeing through. I do not see the tombs of the heroic figures of the Wuling, only flowers and wine turned into farmland.

2. 让内心世界强大到混蛋，你就赢了。

2. Make your inner world strong enough to tolerate bastards, and you've won.

3. 别人孤立你，诋毁你，嫉妒你，非议你，恰恰说明他对你的忌惮，也证明了你自己的价值，因为一个毫无价值，毫无立场，毫无能力的人，是入不了别人的法眼的，更不会处心积虑地来恶心你。

3. If someone isolates you, slanders you, envies you, and talks about you behind your back, it actually shows their jealousy of you and proves your own value. Because a person who has no value, no stance, and no ability will not catch the attention of others, nor will they go to such lengths to make you feel uncomfortable.

4. ，就是脾气越来越小。曾经的我们，遇到令你不愉快的人，让你为难的事，以及那些突如其来的意外和伤害，就会暴跳如雷，歇斯底里，气急败坏。可是后来，我们渐渐学会了收敛脾气。即便内心再有情绪，也会维持着基本的体面，做到谨言慎行，说话得体，行为合理。一来，我们开始懂得，身体是自己的，若被气坏了，吃亏受罪的也只是自己。况且用别人犯的错误来惩罚自己，是不值得的。而若是因此跟自己较劲，更是没必要的。二来，我们开始明白，生气既解决不了问题，还会让事态变得越来越糟糕。因为无论遇到再棘手的事，你都必须要去面对，而当你情绪不好时，就更容易做出错误的判断、选择和决定。再者，我们开始领悟，时间和精力有限，所以没必要为了鸡毛蒜皮的小事，纠缠不清、耿耿于怀。也不必为了那些曲解、误会和诋毁而大动干戈，只要做到心安和坦荡即可。其实脾气越大，越暴露出你的修为不够、格局小、境界低。当你在社会中摸爬滚打久了以后，就会渐渐磨平身上不该有的棱角，削平身上过度的锐气，然后心平气和地去为人处世，而不是以脾气去暴露自己的无知，浅薄和幼稚。一个人成熟的第二个标志，就是期待越来越少。曾经的我们，对待任何人和事，都怀着满心的期待。我们以为只要努力，就可以取得想要的好成绩。我们以为，只要真心，就可以换来真意。我们以为，只要做好人，就一定会遇到好事。可直到我们受了委屈，栽了跟头，碰了壁以后，才发现：原来努力只是成功的必要，但不是唯一条件。你努力了可能会成功，但不努力，一定不会成功。所以你只管去耕耘，去奋斗，去竭尽全力，即便最终没有如愿以偿，至少你也做到了了无遗憾。原来我们待人真诚，对方却不一定会将心比心，甚至会还以虚情假意。所以你要降低对别人的期待，更不能高估你跟任何人的关系，因为往往期待越高，伤害越深。希望越大，失落越大。保持一颗平常心，就会减少许多不切实际的幻想和它可能带来的巨大的落空感。原来，善良是我们应该有的品质和修养，但这并不代表，一个善良的人就不会遇到坏人坏事。你没办法掌控别人的言行，你只能管好自己，只要心中存有正气和正义，厚道做人，清白做事，做到问心无愧就好。当你慢慢减少对别人，对结果，对外在一切的期待，就不会去纠缠，去执着，去强求，就会变得更加理性、清醒和睿智。一个人成熟的第三个标志，就是心态越来越好。曾经的我们，但凡有点不如意，就容易抱怨。遇到比自己过得好的人，就喜欢去比较，遇到暂时的困境，就容易陷入低迷的状态中。那时的我们满身的负能量，仿佛全世界，都在跟我们作对，也没有一件让你觉得满意顺心的事。可你越去指责，去攀比，去沉沦，反而会过得越来越不顺。于是后来：你学会了不抱怨。可以改变的，就改变；不能改变的，就接受。不去做毫无意义的内耗，既是为了及时止损，也是为了不影响他人。你学会了不攀比。大多数时候，我们只看到了别人的甜，却看不到别人背后隐藏的苦。幸福是一种知足常乐的感受，而非沟壑难填的欲望。你学会了往好的方面想。其实任何事，都有两面性，你多去关注它积极、乐观、阳光的那一面，就能吸引来同等能量的东西。慢慢地你会明白，其实一个人过得好不好，跟他所遇到的人，所经历的事，所处的环境，并没有太大关系。而是跟他的心态有关。心态不好，世界就会变得黯淡无光；心态好了，人生也就开阔明朗了。而一个人的成熟，就是从内在去自省，去调整，去疗愈，而不是从外在刻意寻求难以觅得的安慰和帮助。

4. It's that our temper has become smaller and smaller. In the past, when we encountered unpleasant people, difficult situations, and sudden surprises and injuries, we would react with anger, frustration, and a fit of rage. However, later on, we gradually learned to control our temper. Even if we have emotions inside, we maintain a basic level of dignity, speaking and acting appropriately. Firstly, we realized that our bodies are our own, and if we let ourselves be upset, we are the ones who suffer. Moreover, using others' mistakes to punish ourselves is not worth it. And if we are fighting with ourselves because of this, it is even more unnecessary. Secondly, we began to understand that getting angry does not solve problems and can only make things worse. Because no matter how difficult a situation is, you have to face it, and when you are in a bad mood, you are more likely to make wrong judgments, choices, and decisions. Moreover, we began to comprehend that time and energy are limited, so there is no need to argue over trivial matters or hold grudges. We don't have to resort to extreme measures for misunderstandings, defamation, or accusations; it's enough to have a peaceful and open heart. In fact, the more irritable you are, the more it exposes your lack of cultivation, narrow perspective, and low level. After you have been struggling in society for a long time, you will gradually smooth out the unnecessary sharp edges and excessive sharpness, and then treat people and things with a peaceful and composed attitude, rather than exposing your ignorance, shallowness, and immaturity with your temper. The second sign of maturity is having fewer expectations. In the past, we had high expectations for everyone and everything. We thought that with effort, we could achieve the desired success. We believed that with sincerity, we could get genuine feelings. We thought that by being a good person, we would definitely meet good things. But only after experiencing injustice, setbacks, and obstacles did we realize: effort is a necessary condition for success, but not the only one. You may succeed with effort, but you will definitely not succeed without it. So, just work hard, strive, and give it your all. Even if you don't achieve what you want in the end, at least you won't have any regrets. We thought that being sincere would always be reciprocated, but we found out that it's not always the case. So, you should lower your expectations of others and not overestimate your relationship with anyone, because the higher the expectations, the deeper the pain. The bigger the hope, the bigger the disappointment. Maintaining a calm heart will reduce many unrealistic fantasies and the possible huge sense of disappointment that comes with them. Kindness is the quality and cultivation we should have, but it doesn't mean that a kind person won't encounter bad people and bad things. You can't control others' actions and words; you can only control yourself. As long as you have righteousness and justice in your heart, be honest in your dealings, and do things without a guilty conscience, that's enough. When you gradually reduce your expectations of others, the results, and everything external, you won't be entangled, obsessed, or强迫, and you will become more rational, clear-minded, and wise. The third sign of maturity is having a better mindset. In the past, whenever we encountered something unsatisfactory, we were prone to complain. When we encountered people who seemed to be doing better than us, we liked to compare, and when we encountered temporary difficulties, we were prone to falling into a low mood. At that time, we were full of negative energy, as if the whole world was against us, and there was nothing that made us feel satisfied and content. But the more you blame, compare, and sink into despair, the more difficult your life will become. So later on: you learned not to complain. Change what can be changed, and accept what can't be changed. Don't waste your energy on fruitless internal disputes, which is both to prevent further losses and not to affect others. You learned not to compare. Most of the time, we only see others' sweetness, but not the bitterness hidden behind. Happiness is a feeling of contentment, not an unquenchable desire. You learned to think positively. In fact, everything has two sides. The more you focus on its positive, optimistic, and sunny side, the more you can attract things with the same energy. Slowly, you will understand that a person's well-being has little to do with the people they meet, the experiences they have, or the environment they are in. It is more related to their mindset. A bad mindset makes the world seem dark and dull; a good mindset makes life open and bright. And a person's maturity is from the inside, self-reflection, adjustment, and healing, rather than seeking difficult-to-find comfort and help from the outside.

5. 别人给你的任何恶意，都是你优秀的证明。不要在别人的评价和眼光里精神内耗，不要因为别人的任何表现而影响到自己的心情，世界是自己的，和其他人毫无关系。

5. Any malice given to you by others is proof of your excellence. Don't waste your mental energy in others' evaluations and eyes, and don't let others' actions affect your mood. The world is your own, and has nothing to do with others.

6. 别人恶心你的同时，也消耗了自己的能量，浪费了自己的时间、精力和心情。他愿意内耗自己来排斥打压你，足以证明你的优秀和价值。

6. While others make you feel disgusted, they are also depleting their own energy, wasting their time, effort, and mood. Their willingness to consume themselves to排斥打压你, is enough to prove your excellence and value.

7. 稻盛和夫说：“别人孤立你，说明你强大；别人诋毁你，说明你优秀；别人嫉妒你，说明你出众；别人非议你，说明你有能力，强者永远孤独，弱者才喜欢合群。”

7. Kazuo Inamori said, "If others isolate you, it means you are strong; if others defame you, it means you are outstanding; if others envy you, it means you are exceptional; if others criticize you, it means you are capable. The strong are always alone, while the weak prefer to be in a group."