1. 你在乎的人，不在乎你。这确实挺伤人的，这关系本来就不对等，一方无谓的付出又有什么意义？

1. The people you care about don't care about you. This really is hurtful, as the relationship is inherently unbalanced. What meaning is there in one-sided, meaninglessness sacrifice?

2. 如果自己都不爱自己，又会有谁爱你呢？爱美之心人皆有知，不管男人还是女人，其实骨子里都是爱美的，外表的打扮还是必须的，没有了外表的吸引，何来内心的在意呢？

2. If you don't love yourself, who else will love you? The desire to be beautiful is known to all, whether men or women, deep down, everyone loves beauty. Dressing up on the outside is still necessary; without the attraction of the outside, how can there be concern for the inside?

3. 我们经常听到令人羡慕的词：发小、闺蜜，可见这份感情有多么的牢固，能持续坚持下来有多么的不易。

3. We often hear the enviable words: childhood friends, best friends, which shows how strong this emotional bond is, and how difficult it is to sustain and persist in it.

4. 一方单独的付出，这份感情毕竟走不长远。

4. The solitary efforts of one party cannot carry this relationship very far.

5. 举个简单的例子来说：

5. For a simple example, let's take:

6. 给对方适当的隐私空间，有点距离感，让距离产生美感，两个人在一起了，还是会存在一些不想让对方知道的事，不管男的还是女的，都一定要把握住分寸，尊重对方隐么，让对方有一定的自由空间。最忌讳的就是：翻看对方手机内容、跟踪对方去向等。

6. Allow the other person appropriate privacy space, maintain a sense of distance, let distance create beauty. Even when two people are together, there are still some things that one does not want the other to know, regardless of whether it's a man or a woman. It is essential to maintain a sense of measure and respect the other person's privacy, giving them a certain amount of freedom. The most taboo things are: going through the other person's phone content, tracking the other person's whereabouts, etc.

7. 所以长期稳定的感情，一定是双向奔赴，共同珍惜。

7. Therefore, a long-term stable relationship must be a two-way pursuit, with both parties treasuring it together.

8. 俗话说“贫贱夫妻百事哀”并不是没道理的，如果两个人在一起，天天为了吃胞肚子发愁，哪里还有幸福可言呢。只有物质上过得充盈了，我们才有精力去用心体会对方给予的爱，用智慧去品尝生活中的点滴幸福。

8. As the saying goes, "A poor couple has nothing but sorrow." There is some truth to this. If two people are together and are constantly worried about their stomachs, where is there any happiness to be found? Only when we are well-provided for in material terms can we have the energy to fully appreciate the love given to us by the other person, and to use wisdom to savor the small joys in life.

9. 你可能忿忿不平，将心比心，如果对方有什么值得庆祝的事，你一定会尽己所能，全力以赴，为她送上最诚恳最真挚的祝福，并且希望她一切都好。为他准备一个热闹非凡、印象深刻的庆功宴。

9. You might feel resentful, but putting yourself in their shoes, if they have something to celebrate, you would certainly go all out, exerting your utmost efforts, to offer her the most sincere and heartfelt blessings, and wish her all the best. You would prepare an unforgettable, lively celebration banquet for him.

10. 你的期待落空后，心底翻涌起无边的失落来。

10. After your expectations are not met, a boundless sense of disappointment wells up within you.

11. 伤害次数多了后，你会自动抽离，不再维护这样不值得的感情了，因为态度和现实早已给了你答案。

11. After experiencing too many injuries, you will automatically detach yourself and no longer maintain such unworthy feelings, because attitude and reality have already given you the answer.

12. 拥有爱情的人，一般眼里、心里都只有对方，适当约会可以作为生活的调剂品，让两人变得更甜蜜。约会不仅可以增加沟通的机会，而且让两个人回想起以前美好地约会时光，重拾爱慕的回忆，从而增进两个人的感情。

12. Those who possess love usually have only each other in their eyes and hearts. Appropriate dates can serve as a seasoning for life, making the couple sweeter. Dates not only increase the opportunities for communication but also allow the two to recall the wonderful moments of their past dates, rediscover the memories of affection, and thus enhance their feelings for each other.

13. 任何程度的残忍最终会归于平淡，你需要站在一个更高的高度去看待你们的恋爱，或者以一个旁人的眼光去看待，你就会明白一切都只是路过。只是你的内心，任何一个其他人都无法读懂，只有自己知道。忙碌的时候停下来回忆，因为如果你真爱过，是忘不掉的；闲暇的时候尽量忙碌起来，不要沉浸的失恋的痛苦之中。试着找一些自己喜欢的事情做，比如：运动，电子游戏，或者就是忙着工作，把工作做得更加完美。这样，慢慢的你会发现，你是快乐的。遗忘的痛苦，都已成为美好的快乐的记忆。

13. Cruelty of any degree will eventually become mundane. You need to view your love from a higher perspective, or as an outsider might, and then you will understand that everything is just a passing phase. Just your innermost self, which no one else can read, knows. Take a break to recall when you're busy, because if you truly loved, it's unforgettable; and when you're free, try to keep yourself busy and avoid wallowing in the pain of a breakup. Try to engage in activities you enjoy, such as sports, video games, or simply working hard to perfect your job. In this way, you will gradually realize that you are happy. The pain of forgetting has become a beautiful memory of joy.

14. 行动。用你的真心去博得他的关注，要形影不离，却不给他（她）厌烦的感觉，然后时间就会告诉你，他（她）相信爱情，并且已经爱上了你。

14. Action. Win his/her attention with your sincerity, be inseparable without making them feel annoyed, and then time will tell you that they believe in love and have already fallen in love with you.

15. 可一旦在一起后，深入了解，自然渐渐地也就显露出不足，这样我们的爱情就消失了吗？当然不会马上消失，只是会让我们的爱情变淡，只有学会欣赏对方的优点，忘记对方的不足，那么爱情才能保鲜。

15. But once we are together, as we get to know each other more deeply, their shortcomings naturally become apparent gradually. Does this mean our love will disappear? Of course not immediately; it will just make our love fade. Only by learning to appreciate each other's strengths and forgetting their shortcomings can our love remain fresh.

16. 没有哪个人不喜欢惊喜的，特别是重要的一些日子，如生日、情人节、纪念日等等，适当地用礼物表达自己的心意。爱情持久最重要的秘诀就是要会创造惊喜，这样做可以很好地拉近彼此的距离，让对方觉得你一直是在乎他的。

16. No one dislikes surprises, especially on important days such as birthdays, Valentine's Day, anniversaries, etc., where it is appropriate to express one's feelings through gifts. The most important secret to maintaining love is to know how to create surprises, which can effectively bring you closer together and make the other person feel that you have always cared for them.

17. 我如此幸运有一个发小，可以随意打扰、不管我说什么她都能耐心听完，说什么都不用顾忌，能站在我的立场上如此替我考虑的人。这份感情我们共同维护了三十多年，她两个孩子从上小学开始，学习中遇到的问题、升学规划和建议是我参考弄的，她比我处事能力强，我的好多的烦心事都是她开导我的。我们有了一种默契，哪怕很久不联系，一旦一方有事，另一方一定会全力以赴。

17. I am so fortunate to have a childhood friend who can be disturbed at will, who can listen patiently to whatever I say, without any hesitation, and who can consider me from my perspective. We have maintained this relationship for over thirty years. Since her two children started primary school, the issues they encountered in their studies, as well as their college admission plans and suggestions, were all referred to me. She is more capable of dealing with situations than I am, and many of my troubles have been guided by her. We have developed a默契, where even if we don't keep in touch for a long time, once one of us faces a problem, the other will definitely give their all.

18. 遇到这样的感情，是上天的恩赐，一定要好好珍惜，并不是每个人都有这样幸运。你你若真心相待，我便不离不弃，全心投入。

18. Encountering such feelings is a gift from heaven, and it must be cherished, as not everyone is so lucky. If you treat me with sincerity, I will never abandon you and will pour my heart into it.

19. 无论哪一份感情，亲情，爱情，友情，要想长久 经营下去一定是双方共同珍惜，共同维系，一定是双向奔赴。

19. No matter what kind of affection it is, be it family, love, or friendship, in order to maintain it for a long time, it must be cherished and maintained by both parties, and it must be a two-way effort.

20. 一次两次这样的事后，你慢慢的就麻木了。

20. After one or two such incidents, you gradually become numb.

21. 大家都希望被爱、被珍视和被回应，你我都不例外，拿最诚挚的心换最诚挚的心，没有谁就该为对方付出，只有相互感受到对方真诚后，才能相互走到对方心中，才能把彼此的心相互交换。

21. Everyone hopes to be loved, cherished, and responded to, and we are no exception. We should exchange the most sincere hearts with the most sincere hearts. No one should have to pay for the other; only after both parties truly feel each other's sincerity can they reach each other's hearts and be able to exchange their hearts with each other.

22. 感情不是卑微，不是小心翼翼，更不是一方主动讨好，一方无动于衷，而是势均力敌，是彼此陪伴，是相互包容。

22. Emotions are not humble, not cautious, nor is one party making an overture while the other remains indifferent. Instead, they are a match in strength, a companionship between each other, and a mutual tolerance.

23. 在两个人还没有在一起时，我们心中更多地是爱慕，哪里看得到对方的不足呢？据相关调查发现，两个人相爱的产生，一般都是对对方的仰慕、欣赏，再慢慢转换为深深地爱慕。

23. When two people are not together yet, we are more inclined to admire them in our hearts, where can we see their shortcomings? According to relevant surveys, the development of love between two people usually starts with admiration and appreciation for each other, and gradually transforms into deep affection.

24. 但是我可以告诉你，爱情是没有时间的限制的，也许会天长地久，也许不会，这并不意味着不是真爱，因为真爱也可能是瞬间发生的事情。两个人在一起，看到对方，心中就会发自内心的笑，你就已经找到了爱的真谛。时间只会告诉你你们之间的爱情会怎样发展下去。

24. But I can tell you that love has no time constraints; it may last forever, or it may not. This does not mean it's not true love, because true love can also be an instant occurrence. When two people are together and see each other, they will naturally smile from the heart, and that's when you've found the essence of love. Time will only tell you how the love between you will develop.

25. 你特别希望通过的考试考过了，内心高兴无比，你觉得你的好朋友也会为你高兴，为你准备惊喜。甚至你都幻想到了，那个热闹欢快的场景，朋友紧紧的抱住你送上最真挚的祝福。可惜，现实却是，这件事都过去好长好长时间了，你朋友始终不提，不是不知道是装不知道，当然也没为你准备惊喜，也没有给你送祝福。

25. You passed the exam you were particularly eager to pass, and you are overjoyed in your heart. You think your best friend would also be happy for you and prepare a surprise. Even you have fantasized about that lively and cheerful scene, where your friends tightly embrace you and offer the most sincere blessings. Unfortunately, the reality is that this has been a long time ago, and your friend never mentioned it, either because they don't know or because they pretend they don't know. Of course, they also didn't prepare a surprise for you, nor did they send you blessings.

26. 爱情的真谛可以概括为“心有灵犀不点通”，不用语言便可以相互读懂对方。

26. The essence of love can be summarized as "sympathetic minds without words can understand each other." They can read each other without the need for language.

27. 你想要得到爱，就先要学会付出爱，将心比心，领悟人生爱情的真谛才行，爱情面前人人平等，要让爱情变得更持久没有捷径，双方都应该学会包容、欣赏、牺牲。

27. If you want to receive love, you first need to learn to give love, to put yourself in someone else's shoes, and to understand the true essence of love in life. Love is equal for everyone, and there is no shortcut to making love last longer. Both parties should learn to be包容 (tolerant), appreciate, and make sacrifices.