面对欺凌，如何优雅应对？

How to elegantly deal with bullying?

1. 47一个女人，可以“冷”一点。远离该远离的，拒绝该拒绝的，坚持该坚持的。

1. A 47-year-old woman can be "cold" a bit. Stay away from what should be avoided, refuse what should be refused, and persist in what should be persevered in.

2. 有趣的男人，即使眼前满是阴霾笼罩，依然能拨开迷雾，找到诗和远方；无论遭遇多少挫折和痛苦，依然能胸怀“天生我材必有用，千金散尽还复来”的气度。

2. An interesting man, even when surrounded by gloom, can clear the fog and find poetry and the distant horizon; regardless of the numerous setbacks and pain he encounters, he still maintains the demeanor of "Since I was born with talents, they must be of use, and even if I spend a thousand ounces, they will return."

3. 60一段好的婚姻不是失去自我、单方面付出，而是保持独立，也给对方付出的机会。 爱一个人，可以刻骨铭心，但是一定不能付出所有，要留三分爱自己。 如果你真的低到尘埃里，那时等来的一定不是开满鲜花的喜悦，而是一地鸡毛的悲哀。

3. A good marriage is not about losing oneself and making one-sided sacrifices; it is about maintaining independence and also giving the other person the chance to give. To love someone deeply is possible, but one must never give everything, always reserve a third for loving oneself. If you truly sink to the dust, what you will wait for is not the joy of a field full of blooming flowers, but the sorrow of a mess of feathers.

4. 因为他懂得如何适时地掌控自己的人生，而不是被别人掌控自己的人生。

4. Because he knows how to take control of his own life at the right time, rather than having his life controlled by others.

5. 不管世事无常，还是岁月静好，他都会给她温暖和力量，让她心安以待！

5. Regardless of the ever-changing world or the tranquil years, he will always give her warmth and strength, making her feel at ease and anticipate!

6. 对于女人来说，能令她心动的莫过于一个男人的温柔体贴、关怀备至。

6. For women, nothing can move their hearts more than a man's gentle and considerate care, and his unwavering concern.

7. 39人与人的相遇并不都是缘分，适时断舍离才不算枉费此生。

7. Not all encounters between people are fate; only by making timely decisions to let go and move on can one not waste their life.

8. 要学会享受独处的时光。 没有人能够一直陪在你左右，因此我们要学会一个人独处。如果你学会享受一个人静谧的时光，并去打造自己的精神花园，你将不会那么着急，你会果断离开对你毫无用处的男人，因为你一个人也可以过得很好。当需要做决定的时你也学着相信自己。我始终相信老天一定会在前方指引我们前进的道路，认真倾听，努力争取，老天的指引定会如期而至。

8. Learn to enjoy your time alone. No one can always be by your side, so we need to learn to be alone. If you learn to enjoy the quiet moments of solitude and cultivate your own spiritual garden, you will not be so anxious. You will be decisive in leaving men who are of no use to you, because you can live well on your own. When it's time to make decisions, also learn to believe in yourself. I always believe that the heavens will definitely guide us on our path ahead. Listen attentively and strive hard, and the guidance of the heavens will surely come as expected.

9. 一个成熟的男人，知晓随意乱发脾气，伤人伤己，非明智之举。

9. A mature man knows that losing one's temper without reason harms both oneself and others, which is not a wise act.

10. 相反，一个男人在和女人来往时，会重视自己品格与修养，能够不断完善自己，爱惜自己的羽毛，在女人面前，树立一个良好的形象，答应女人的事情，能够做到，女人最后会觉得这样的男人值得信赖，最后常会愿意对男人袒露自己的内心，会愿意把心交给这样的男人。

10. On the contrary, a man, when interacting with women, values his character and cultivation, is capable of continuously improving himself, cherishes his reputation, and in the presence of women, establishes a good image. He fulfills his promises to women, and in the end, women will find such a man trustworthy. They are often willing to open up their hearts to such men and to entrust their hearts to them.

11. 金庸小说《射雕英雄传》里，郭靖的人生就是因人品好而获得了成功。论资质，郭靖比杨康差了一大截，可是最后学得最上乘武功的是郭靖，而不是杨康。论才貌和财富，高富帅的欧阳克不知道要强出穷小子郭靖多少倍，但白富美的黄蓉最终却选择了郭靖。郭靖的成功，除了勤奋和机遇，最重要的原因是人品好。

11. In Jin Yong's novel "The Condor Heroes," Guo Jing's success in life is attributed to his good character. In terms of talent, Guo Jing is far inferior to Yang Kang, yet it is Guo Jing who eventually masters the most exquisite martial arts, not Yang Kang. Compared to the rich and handsome Ouyang Ke, who is many times stronger than the poor and ordinary Guo Jing in terms of talent, beauty, and wealth, the beautiful and rich Huang Rong ultimately chooses Guo Jing. The most important reason for Guo Jing's success, apart from diligence and opportunity, is his good character.

12. 《增广贤文》说：“但将冷眼观螃蟹，看你横行到几时。”

12. The "Enlarged Collection of Exemplary Sayings" says: "Just observe the crab with a cold eye, and see how long it can continue to wander around."

13. 不管在什么时候，都要把自己放在人生的第一位，因为没人会把你放在第一位。把自己当做最重要的人，不是自私，是智慧。

13. No matter when, always put yourself first in life, because no one else will. Treating yourself as the most important person is not selfishness, but wisdom.

14. 53学会遗忘，把不快乐、痛苦的、已经失去的，都忘了，减轻内心的负累，才能走得更加从容。

14. Learn to forget, let go of the unhappy, painful, and lost things, lighten the burden on your inner self, and you will be able to walk more gracefully.

15. 自信是一个男人的最好气质，我可以能力不大，但能摆正自己的位置，不比较、不自卑，去欣赏自己的价值。

15. Confidence is a man's best temperament. Although my abilities may not be great, I can position myself correctly, not compare or be inferior, and appreciate my own value.

16. 摔倒了，站起来就是了，只要还有前行的勇气，总有不期而遇的温暖，和生生不息的希望。余生还长，请别慌张。

16. If you fall, just stand up. As long as you have the courage to move forward, there will always be unexpected warmth and an ever-flowing hope. Life is long, please don't be in a hurry.

17. 不要跟没有结果的男人浪费时间，女人的青春最值钱。

17. Don't waste time with men who have no results, a woman's youth is the most valuable.

18. 人品好的男人，自带光芒，运气最好，无论走到哪里，总会熠熠生辉。

18. A man of good character shines naturally, has the best luck, and wherever he goes, he always shines brightly.

19. 38爱自己是终生浪漫的开始，忠于自己才是人生第一要务。

19. 38 Loving oneself is the beginning of lifelong romance, and being loyal to oneself is the top priority in life.

20. 没有担当的男人，在生命的无常中胆小懦弱、背信弃义、乃至落荒而逃。

20. A man without courage is cowardly and deceitful in the face of the uncertainty of life, even running away in despair.

21. 习惯所有朋友的渐行渐远，不联系了就不要去懊恼，也不要想是不是自己做的不够好，得罪别人了，是不是别人已经不想和自己联系了。朋友真的是一段时间的，明白了，就一切释然了。

21. Get accustomed to the gradual distancing of all friends. Don't feel regret if you don't keep in touch, nor should you worry if you think you haven't done enough, or if you've offended someone, or if others have lost interest in contacting you. Friends are just a phase of life. Once you understand this, everything will be clear.

22. 答应别人的事，一定做到，信守承诺，注重诚信。人品好的男人，都有一颗感恩的心。无论多么困难，不管多么成功，滴水之恩，必定涌泉相报。不会轻易忘记别人的好，铭记别人的恩情，永远不会为了钱财利益，去伤害帮他的恩人。

22. Promise others and always follow through, keep your promises, and value integrity. Men with good character all have a heart of gratitude. Regardless of how difficult or how successful, a drop of kindness will always be repaid with an ocean of gratitude. They will not easily forget the kindness of others, remember the favors bestowed upon them, and will never, for money or profit, harm those who have helped them.

23. 拾得云：只是忍他、让他、由他、避他、耐他、敬他、不要理他，再待几年，你且看他。

23. Shi De Yun: Just endure him, let him be, leave him alone, avoid him, bear with him, respect him, don't pay attention to him. Wait a few more years, and then watch him.

24. 无趣的人，就算赢得了全世界，却丢失了自己，又有什么意义呢？

24. A boring person, even if they win the whole world, yet lose themselves, what is the meaning of it?

25. 33在这个 " 以貌取人 " 的 社会 ，我们更应该才貌双全。

25. In this society that "judges people by their appearance," we should be even more accomplished in both talents and appearance.

26. 活得有趣，在人间烟火里感受生活的诗意，在一菜一饭中找到人生的乐趣，将每一个日子过得有滋有味，才能理直气壮地说：“我活过。”

26. Live with fun, feel the poetry of life in the hustle and bustle of the world, find joy in every dish and meal, make every day rich and flavorful, and then you can confidently say, "I have lived."

27. 学会控制情绪，冷静处理事情。 人生在世，不如意的事很多。不要为了不值得的人悲伤，不要为了不值得的事生气，很多事当时感觉无法承受，但总有一天会云淡风清。

27. Learn to control your emotions and handle matters calmly. In life, there are many things that go against our wishes. Do not grieve for people who are not worth it, and do not get angry over things that are not worth it. Many things may seem unbearable at the time, but one day, it will all become as light as a cloud passing by.

28. 另外也要看他在公共场合的言谈举止，毕竟修养包括了一个人的素养、素质和内涵。

28. Also, one should observe his demeanor and speech in public, as修养 encompasses a person's education, quality, and inner connotations.

29. 1聪明的女人钱字当头，幼稚的女人情入咽喉，愚人为情所困，智者不入爱河。

29. 1 A wise woman puts money first, a naive woman lets emotions get to her throat, the foolish are ensnared by love, and the wise do not fall into the river of love.

30. 寒山与拾得是佛教的两位高僧，相传是文殊菩萨和普贤菩萨的化身，他们一生豁达，智慧通透，惬意自在。《寒山拾得问对录》体现了他们的处世方式。

30. Han Shan and Shi De are two distinguished monks in Buddhism, who are traditionally believed to be the incarnations of Manjushri Bodhisattva and Samantabhadra Bodhisattva. Throughout their lives, they were open-minded, wise, and lived in ease and contentment. The "Record of Questions and Answers between Han Shan and Shi De" reflects their approach to dealing with the world.

31. 48永远保持爱人的能力，永远有一腔追爱的热情，人生，才能活得精彩。

31. To forever maintain the ability to love and to always have a passionate pursuit of love, is to truly live a vibrant life.

32. 不要把所有心事都埋藏在心里，你要学会说出来。当你把心中的苦闷与委屈宣泄和释放出来以后，你会发现，所有难题都将迎刃而解。

32. Don't keep all your worries and secrets buried deep inside. You need to learn to express them. After you vent and release the bitterness and grievances in your heart, you will find that all the difficulties will be easily resolved.

33. 哪怕是一个相貌平平的人，他也站在了金字塔的最顶端，那是另一种形式的美，也是最高形式的美，无时无刻不再影响着他身边的人。

33. Even someone with an ordinary appearance has stood at the top of the pyramid. That is another form of beauty, the highest form of beauty, which constantly influences those around him.

34. 且行且珍惜，感恩遇见，感恩一切的一切。 珍惜当下，珍惜每一位爱你的人，特别是父母。不能常回家看看，就时不时的给他们打个电话聊聊家常，他们也会很开心。

34. Go on, cherish every step, be grateful for the encounters, and be grateful for everything and anything. Cherish the present, cherish everyone who loves you, especially your parents. If you can't often go home to see them, make sure to call them from time to time to chat about daily life; they will also be very happy.

35. 55无论身心多么疲惫，我们都必须保持浪漫的感觉，形式主义虽然不怎么棒，但总比懒得走过场要好得多。

35. 55 No matter how exhausted we are physically and mentally, we must maintain a sense of romance. While formalism is not very impressive, it is still much better than being too lazy to go through the motions.

36. 1自立。成年后经济上能养活自己，不依靠他人。

36. 1 Be self-reliant. After reaching adulthood, be able to support oneself economically and not rely on others.

37. 张小娴曾说过，不要只爱一个好人，不要只爱一个优秀的男人，不要只爱一个有才华的男人，请你一定要爱一个有担当的男人。

37. Zhang Xiaoxian once said, "Don't just love a good person, don't just love an outstanding man, and don't just love a talented man. Please make sure to love a man who is responsible."

38. 昔日寒山问拾得曰： 世间谤我、欺我、辱我、笑我、轻我、贱我、恶我、骗我，如何处治乎？

38. In the past, Han Shan asked Shide: How should one deal with the world's slander, deceit,侮辱, laughing at, belittling, despising, hating, and cheating of me?

39. 3对于男人的承诺，听听罢了。不要当真，更不要在男人做不到的时候，把以前的承诺拿出来质问男人，于事无补。

39.3 Listen to the promises made to men, but don't take them seriously. And especially don't bring up past promises to question men when they can't fulfill them, as it won't help the situation.

40. 同时，在男人面对诱惑，面对取舍的时候，男人的行为表现，总是让女人失望，对此，女人会觉得男人难以托付，最后女人常会远离这样的男人。

40. At the same time, when men face temptation and have to make choices, their behavior often disappoints women. As a result, women may find men difficult to rely on, and they often end up distancing themselves from such men.

41. 51一个女人美不美，不取决于你在别人的眼中美不美，而取决于你在别人的心里美不美。

41. 51 A woman's beauty does not depend on how beautiful you are in others' eyes, but on how beautiful you are in others' hearts.

42. 二女人必须明白，任何时候都要自尊自重自爱，不妄自菲薄，不苟延残喘，不巴结别人，不轻看自己，不卑不坑，清白做人。爱护好自己，才能得到你想要的爱。

42. The two women must understand that at all times, they must maintain self-respect, self-esteem, and self-love, not indulge in self-deprecation, not merely drag on for the sake of existence, not kowtow to others, not undervalue themselves, not be subservient or deceitful, and lead a virtuous life. By taking good care of yourself, you can attain the love you desire.

43. 10一个女人什么时候最美，当她不在爱任何人，不在意任何事，不再患得患失，停止胡思乱想，满眼都是冷漠的时候，才是最安全的。

43. When is a woman at her most beautiful? It is when she no longer loves anyone, does not care about anything, stops being overly concerned with gain or loss, stops overthinking, and her eyes are filled with indifference – that is when she is safest.

44. 这种镇定自如的气场，真的很有震慑力，更令人心折。

44. This calm and composed aura truly exudes a formidable presence, and it is even more captivating.

45. 简单来说，生活中有10%的事情是我们无法掌控的，而另外的90%却在我们的掌控之中。

45. In simple terms, 10% of the things in life are beyond our control, while the other 90% are within our grasp.

46. 41最好的感情状态是，有你我很幸福，没有你我也有别的幸福。

46. The best emotional state is: I am happy with you, and I can also be happy without you.

47. 无趣的人，多数浅薄狭隘。 与无趣的人相处，往往是一种折磨。

47. People who are boring are often shallow and narrow-minded. Dealing with boring people is often a torment.

48. 4疏远你的人就让他疏远，别去问为什么，因为你听到的全是借口。

48. Let the people who distance themselves from you keep their distance, don't ask why, because all you will hear are excuses.

49. 49不必让恋爱在人生里占据那么重要的地位，许多人没有恋爱，也一样的生活。

49. It's not necessary to let love occupy such an important place in life; many people live their lives just fine without love.