在纷繁复杂的世界中，清醒之人是那些懂得避战的风度之士。他们不与人为敌，不与世俗争锋，以明智的选择，守护内心的平和与宁静。

In the complex and intricate world, the清醒之士 are those who possess the grace to avoid conflict. They do not make enemies of others, nor do they compete with the world, choosing wisely to protect their inner peace and tranquility.

1. 102如果有人错过机会，多半不是机会没有到来，而是因为等待机会者没有看见机会到来，而且机会过来时，没有一伸手就抓住它。 ——罗曼·罗兰

1. If someone misses an opportunity, it is often not because the opportunity never came, but because the person waiting for the opportunity did not see it coming, and when the opportunity came, they did not reach out and grab it. ——Romain Rolland

2. 即使是不成熟的尝试，也胜于胎死腹中的策略。

2. Even an unripe attempt is better than a strategy that dies in the womb.

3. 有些人本来就是杠精，以反驳为能事，有些人和你三观、立场、见识完全不同，争来争去，不过是浪费口舌，自取其辱，自讨苦吃。有时候，你让人下不了台，别人因此生恨，报复你，那就是自取其祸。

3. Some people are naturally argumentative, making it their specialty to refute others. There are those whose worldviews, stances, and insights are completely different from yours. Debating back and forth is just a waste of words, bringing upon oneself disgrace and suffering. Sometimes, if you make someone feel unable to maintain their dignity, they may harbor resentment and seek revenge against you, which is inviting disaster upon oneself.

4. 79飞着的鸟总会捕到什么。 ——佚名

4. A flying bird will always catch something. ——Anonymous

5. 25俗话说：知无不言，言无不尽；俗话又说：祸从口出，沉默是金。看来说话还真是一门大学问，我们需要把握交谈中的尺度，更要懂得什么该说什么不该说。

5. 25 As the saying goes, "When you know everything, you should say everything; and another saying says, 'Disaster comes from the mouth.' Silence is golden." It seems that speaking is indeed a complex art. We need to grasp the measure in conversations and also understand what should be said and what should not be said.

6. 119每人都有一个好运降临的时候，只看他能不能领受；但他若不及时注意，或竟顽强地抛开机遇，那就并非机缘或命运在作弄他，其实惟有归咎于他自己的疏懒和荒唐；我想这样的人只好抱怨自己。 ——乔叟

6. Every person has a time when good fortune comes their way, but it all depends on whether they can receive it; but if they do not pay attention in time, or even stubbornly reject the opportunity, it is not fate or chance playing tricks on them; in fact, it can only be attributed to their own laziness and folly. I believe such people can only complain about themselves. ——Geoffrey Chaucer

7. 26我们多数人的毛病是，当机会朝我们冲奔而来时，我们兀自闭着眼睛，很少人能够去追寻自己的机会，甚至在绊倒时，还不能见着它。 ——卡耐基

7. 26 The problem with most of us is that when opportunities come charging towards us, we stubbornly keep our eyes shut, and few people are able to pursue their own opportunities. Even when we stumble, we still can't see it. — Carnegie

8. 28金钱再多也无法阻止死亡，长相再美也不能讨好阎王，声名再大也要经过生死。因此人生不要太贪，不要活得太累。

8. No matter how much wealth one has, it cannot prevent death; no matter how beautiful one's appearance, it cannot please King Yama; no matter how great one's reputation, one must still face life and death. Therefore, do not be overly greedy in life and do not live in too much fatigue.

9. 87我们如海鸥之与波涛相遇似地，遇见了，走近了。海鸥飞去，波涛滚滚地流开，我们也分别了。 ——泰戈尔

9. 87 As we meet, like seagulls encountering waves, we draw near. The seagull flies away, and the waves roll on, separating us. – Tagore

10. 59对于那些实际上影响我们一生的前途和我们的最后归宿的事件，我们甚至也只能知道其中的一部分。还有数不清的大事——假如称之为大事的话——差点儿发生在我们身上。然而却在我们身边掠过，没有产生什么实际效果。甚至也没有反向任何亮光或阴影到我们的心上，使我们察觉到它们的接近。 ——霍桑

10. 59 For those events that actually affect our destiny throughout our lives and our final destination, we can only know a fraction of them. There are countless major events — if we can call them that — that almost happened to us. However, they merely swept past us without having any real impact. They did not cast any light or shadow on our hearts, either, making us aware of their proximity. — Hawthorne

11. 76不管人们怎样夸耀自己的伟大行动，它们常常只是机遇的产物，而非一个伟大意向的结果。 ——拉罗什富科

11.76 No matter how people may boast of their great deeds, they are often the result of chance rather than the outcome of a grand intention. ——La Rochefoucauld

12. 12糟蹋了机会，怨不得别人，是你自己的事。 ——佚名

12. Wasting an opportunity is your own affair, not something to blame others for. ——Anonymous

13. 9谁在夺取了胜利之后又征服了自己，谁就赢得了两次征战。

13.9 He who conquers after gaining victory and subdues himself has won twice in battle.

14. 3把一切失望和沮丧都抛弃，成功之路就在你的脚下。

14.3 Abandon all despair and despondency, for the path to success lies at your feet.

15. 48不常联系的人，就不要硬找理由再联系了，就像不喜欢吃的菜，勉强吃到嘴巴里也会逼自己吐出来，朋友随缘，不可强求。

15. If you don't often contact someone, don't force yourself to find an excuse to reach out to them, just like how you wouldn't force yourself to eat a dish you dislike, as it would make you want to vomit. Friends come naturally, and they cannot be强迫 sought.

16. 一个人幸福快乐的根源在于他愿意成为他自己。

16. The source of a person's happiness and joy lies in their willingness to be themselves.

17. 30事业有成，且别以为是“命运”之神为你带来的。“命运”之神本身没有这个力量，而是被“辩别”之神支配的。 ——约翰·多来登

17. At the age of 30, you have achieved success in your career, and do not think it is the "goddess of fate" that has brought it to you. The goddess of fate itself does not have this power, but is governed by the "goddess of discernment." — John Dowie

18. 4机会对于不能利用它的人又有什么用呢？正如风只对于能利用它的人才是动力。

18. What is the use of opportunity for those who cannot make use of it? Just as wind is only a driving force for those who can make use of it.

19. 21努力追求是修行，彻底放下也是修行；带着不要的心，做出最大的努力，能接受一无所有才能更勇敢热烈地追求，并在得到的那一刻感恩知足，即便再次失去亦是心满意足。

19. Striving hard is a form of practice, as is completely letting go; with a mindset of not caring, one can make the greatest effort. Being able to accept having nothing allows for braver and more passionate pursuit, and to be grateful and content in the moment of achievement, even if it is lost again, one's heart is still satisfied.

20. 如果你希望成功，以恒心为良友，以经验为参谋，以小心为兄弟，以希望为哨兵。

20. If you wish to succeed, make constancy your friend, experience your guide, caution your brother, and hope your sentry.

21. 50机会每个人都有的，但许多人不知道他们碰到过它。 ——佚名

21. Everyone has a 50-50 chance, but many people don't know they've encountered it. ——Anonymous

22. 忍别人所不能忍的痛，吃别人所别人所不能吃的苦，是为了收获得不到。

22. Enduring pain that others cannot bear and suffering hardships that others cannot tolerate is for the sake of gaining what others cannot obtain.

23. 2每当我看着天空，我就不再喜欢说话；每当我说话时，我不敢再看天空。

23. 2 Whenever I look at the sky, I no longer feel like talking; whenever I talk, I dare not look at the sky anymore.

24. 10在转世的路上，彼岸的鲜花盛开。根本没有性别的迹象。月亮很亮，风轻轻地吹着，给了他一顿告别晚餐。

24. On the path to reincarnation, the flowers on the other shore are in full bloom. There is absolutely no sign of gender. The moon is bright, the wind blows gently, providing him with a farewell dinner.

25. 使用双手的是劳工，使用双手和头脑的舵手，使用双手、头脑与心灵的是艺术家，只有合作双手、头脑、心灵再加上双脚的才是推销员。

25. Those who use both hands are laborers, those who use both hands and the mind are steersmen, those who use hands, mind, and heart are artists, and only those who cooperate using hands, mind, heart, and also feet are salesmen.

26. 信任别人，归根结底就是信任自己的判断。只有非常自信的人，才能给予别人非常的信任。

26. Trusting others, at its core, is about trusting one's own judgment. Only very confident people can extend great trust to others.

27. 在岁月中跋涉，每个人都有自己的故事，看淡心境才会秀丽，看开心情才会明媚。

27. As we traverse the years, each person has their own story. Only by letting go of our attachments can our hearts become serene, and only by embracing happiness can our mood brighten.

28. 118进步，意味着目标不断前移，阶段不断理新，它的视野总是不断变化的。

28. Progress means that the goal is constantly moving forward, the stages are constantly reorganized, and its perspective is always changing.

29. 66生活对我们每个人来说，都充满着通过新的努力和新的姿态脱颖而出的第二次发展机会。人们不应限制自己，固守一隅。对于第二次机会，所需要的是及时认识并果断行动的能力。愿人人都成为生活的幸运儿。

29. 66 Life is filled with a second development opportunity for each of us, emerging through new efforts and new attitudes. People should not limit themselves and stick to one corner. For the second chance, what is needed is the ability to recognize it in time and act decisively. May everyone become a lucky person in life.

30. 63工作会有的，面包会有的，爱情会有的，家也是会有的，只是需要时间，只是需要耐心，可遇而不可求的东西就不要挣扎，你只需要踏踏实实地往前走。

30. There will be work, there will be bread, there will be love, and there will be a home too. It just takes time and patience. Don't struggle for things that can't be pursued; just walk steadily forward.

31. 54同时追两只兔子的人一只也逮不到。不要贪图无所不有，否则你将一无所有；不要试图无所不知，否则你将一无所知；不要企图无所不能，否则你将一无所能。

31. He who chases two rabbits catches neither. Do not seek to possess everything, or you will have nothing; do not try to know everything, or you will know nothing; do not aim to be able to do everything, or you will be able to do nothing.

32. 你之所以会痛苦，是因为脆弱的你看到了可怜的自己。

32. The reason you are in pain is because the vulnerable you saw the pitiful version of yourself.

33. 20人生不靠运气，而是看下棋的技术如何。 ——佚名

33. In life, it's not luck that counts, but how well one plays the game of life. ——Anon.

34. 16一见钟情这种事，浪漫但不一定长久。日久生情这种事，很难却更难分开。一见钟情永远和外貌有关，日久生情永远和习惯有关。越缓慢的爱上一个人，就爱的越长久。爱情可以有一瞬间，但真情却需时间浇灌。

34. Love at first sight is romantic but not necessarily lasting. Love that grows over time is difficult but even harder to part from. Love at first sight is always about appearance, while love that grows over time is always about habits. The slower you fall in love with someone, the longer the love will last. Love can happen in an instant, but true love needs time to nurture.

35. 56要么一无所有，要么光宗耀祖。如果你怕狼就不要去养羊，没有胆量就不要出来闯荡社会。把心变狠，把胃口变大，你的钱就会越来越多。现在社会比的是财力和实力，谁跟你比臭脾气。

35. It's either nothing or glory to the family. If you're afraid of wolves, don't raise sheep; if you lack courage, don't venture into society. Make your heart harder and your appetite bigger, and your money will keep increasing. In today's society, it's all about wealth and power; no one compares with you in bad temper.

36. 94纯粹由于机会而发生的事情何其多也，事先我们甚至不敢抱以期望！

36. How many things happen purely by chance, which we dared not even hope for in advance!

37. 不是每一条鱼都生活在同一片海里，不是每个人都处在同一个层次。不要跟别人争论，有些人不值得你浪费时间。

37. Not every fish lives in the same sea, and not everyone is at the same level. Don't argue with others; some people are not worth your time.

38. 一名访客和子贡闲谈，访客问：一年有多少个季节？子贡说：一年有春夏秋冬四季。哪知访客居然说：不对，一年只有三个季节，没有冬季。子贡不服，认为对方睁眼说瞎话，就和对方争吵起来。

38. A visitor chatted with Zigong, and the visitor asked: "How many seasons are there in a year?" Zigong replied: "There are four seasons in a year, spring, summer, autumn, and winter." However, the visitor surprisingly said: "That's not true, there are only three seasons in a year, without winter." Zigong was不服, thinking the other person was telling a lie with their eyes open, and so they began to argue with each other.

39. 分歧。人际关系的本质是情感的相互联系、相互卷入、相互拥有。它的基础是关系的双方必须有共同的情感。共同情感的存在，彼此的关系就存在；共同情感消失，彼此的关系就破裂。而分歧，正是共同情感消失的开端。分歧意味着人际关系双方不同点扩大，心理距离增加和彼此的接纳性下降。随之而来的是双方在知觉和理解上都朝不利于双方关系的方面倾斜，彼此都感到开始难以准确地判断对方。

39. Disagreements. The essence of interpersonal relationships is the mutual emotional connection, involvement, and possession. Its foundation lies in the fact that both parties in the relationship must share common emotions. The existence of common emotions ensures the existence of the relationship; the disappearance of common emotions leads to the breakdown of the relationship. Disagreements, on the other hand, mark the beginning of the disappearance of common emotions. Disagreements imply that the differences between the two parties in the interpersonal relationship are magnified, the psychological distance between them increases, and their acceptance of each other decreases. Consequently, both parties begin to tilt in perception and understanding towards aspects that are detrimental to the relationship, and they both find it increasingly difficult to accurately judge each other.

40. 133善于等待的人，一切都会及时来到。 ——巴尔扎克

40. "The man who knows how to wait will have everything come in due time." — Balzac

41. 60人生，有许多事情无法言说。有些快乐，别人未必能理解；有些悲伤，别人未必能感受。有些累，累在身上，累在心上；有些泪，挂在脸上，伤在心上；有些痛，无伤无痕，痛在心中。爱有天意，是否会眷顾自己；心有灵犀，为何总让人无语。

41. In the span of 60 years of life, there are many things that cannot be expressed. Some joys, others may not understand; some sorrows, others may not feel. Some fatigue is felt in the body, some in the heart; some tears, they hang on the face, but they hurt the heart; some pain, without injury or mark, but it aches within. Love has its intentions, but does it ever favor oneself? When hearts are attuned to each other, why does it always leave one speechless.

42. 82人逢危难总是有一个成败攸关的时刻。 ——雨果

42. In times of danger, there is always a critical moment that determines success or failure. — Hugo

43. 1巷子里的猫很自由却没有归宿，屋檐下的狗有归宿却始终低着头，人生这道选择题怎么选都有遗憾。

43. The cats in the alleyways are free but have no place to call home, while the dogs under the eaves have a home but always keep their heads down. In life, no matter how you choose in this elective question, there will always be regrets.

44. 138大多数走运的人都养成从最坏的结果考虑问题的习惯，谨防受到意外之灾的袭击，天天实行这个原则，严格地按此办事。 ——马科斯·冈瑟

44. Most fortunate people have developed the habit of considering the worst-case scenario, to guard against being caught off guard by unexpected disasters. They practice this principle every day and strictly adhere to it in their actions. — Marcus Gunther

45. 17时则动，不时则静。 ——佚名

45. It moves at 5 o'clock in the evening, and is still otherwise. ——Anonymous

46. 70快跑的未必能赢，力战的未必得胜，智慧的未必得粮食，明哲的未必得资财，灵巧的未必得喜悦。 所临到众人的，是在乎当时的机会。 ——-佚名

46. Not necessarily those who run fast will win, not necessarily those who fight fiercely will be victorious, not necessarily those who are wise will receive food, not necessarily those who are prudent will obtain wealth, and not necessarily those who are skillful will find joy. What comes to each person depends on the opportunities at hand. ——-Anonymous

47. 53人生最宝贵的不是你拥有多少的物质，而是陪伴在你身边的人。

47. The most precious thing in life is not how much material wealth you possess, but the people who accompany you.

48. 贫穷是不需要计划的，致富才需要一个周密的计划——并去实践它。

48. Poverty does not require planning, but wealth does—along with a meticulous plan and its implementation.

49. 72任何经历都是一种累积，累积的越多，人就越成熟；经历的越多，生命就越有厚度。

49. 72 Any experience is a form of accumulation; the more accumulated, the more mature a person becomes; the more experiences, the richer the depth of life.

50. 伟人之所以伟大，是因为他与别人共处逆境时，别人失去了信心，他却下决心实现自己的目标。

50. The greatness of a great person lies in the fact that when others lose confidence in the face of adversity, he is determined to achieve his goals.

51. 78无数人事的变化孕育在时间的胚胎里。 ——莎士比亚

51. In the embryo of time, endless changes of men are nurtured. ——Shakespeare

52. 63不等待机会所送礼物的人，就是征服了命运。 ——阿诺德

52. The person who does not wait for an opportunity to be sent gifts has conquered fate. — Arnold

53. 24世界上有许多做事有成的人，并一定是因为他比你会做，而仅仅是因为他比你敢做。 ——培根

53. In the world, there are many people who have achieved success in their endeavors, and it is not necessarily because they are more capable than you, but simply because they dare to do more than you. – Bacon

54. 两人谁也不服谁，你来我往，唇枪舌剑，一直吵了一整天。最后找到孔子裁判对错，孔子说，一年确是只有三季，子贡你错了。

54. Neither of the two people would give in to the other. They exchanged sharp words and arguments back and forth, and it吵了一整天. In the end, they sought Confucius to judge right from wrong, and Confucius said, "Indeed, there are only three seasons in a year, Zigong, you were wrong."

55. 126运气就象一个球那样圆圆的，所以很自然地，它并非总是滚落在最善良、最高贵的人的头上。 ——贝多芬

55. Fortune is like a ball, round and round, so it is natural that it does not always roll to the heads of the most kind and noble people. ——Beethoven

56. 74人生在世最大的勇气不是不怕死亡，而是坚强的活着，勇敢的面对生活带给的压力和考验！

56. The greatest courage in life is not the fearlessness of death, but to live strongly and bravely face the pressures and challenges life brings!

57. 28幸运每个月都会降临，但是如果你没有准备去迎接它，就可能失之交臂。

57. 28 Luck comes every month, but if you're not prepared to welcome it, you might miss it by a whisker.

58. 一个能从别人的观念来看事情，能了解别人心灵活动的人，永远不必为自己的前途担心。

58. A person who can view things from others' perspectives and understand the mental activities of others will never have to worry about their future prospects.

59. 12安全感不是别人给的，它取决于你有多爱自己，吃饱穿暖，手机有电，钱包永远不扁。

59. 12. Security is not given by others; it depends on how much you love yourself, having enough to eat and wear, your phone is charged, and your wallet is never flat.

60. 你知道该放下却放不下的人，你明白做错了却改不回的事，想断不能断的关系，想忘忘不了的往事，所有有了答案却还暂时无解的难题，你放心，往前走，直觉会把你带到终点，都会过去，都会放下，都会解开。琦殿

60. You know the person you should let go of but can't, the thing you realize you did wrong but can't make right, the relationship you want to cut but can't, the past you want to forget but can't, all the difficult problems that have answers but are still unsolved temporarily, take it easy, keep moving forward, your intuition will lead you to the destination, all will pass, all will be let go, all will be unraveled. Qi Dian

61. 71那专想等待良机的，无异在等待月光变为银质。 ——罗斯乔特

61. The one who constantly waits for a favorable opportunity is no different from someone waiting for moonlight to turn into silver. — Rostochet

62. 109人类假如不能利用机会，机会就会随着时光的波浪流向茫茫的大海里去，而变成不会孵化的蛋了。 ——乔治·爱利渥特

62. If humans cannot take advantage of opportunities, they will flow away with the waves of time into the boundless sea, becoming eggs that will never hatch. — George Eliot

63. 61如果你吃一堑还不长一智的话，那么让你失望的人又怎么可能让你失望一次呢？有的人不会愧疚的，毕竟满口的谎言，不需要成本？远离那个不断用负能量消耗你的人。记住。你不是佛，渡不了，所有的魔。

63. 61 If you don't learn from one failure, how can the person who has disappointed you do it again? Some people won't feel guilty, after all, isn't it costless to spout lies? Stay away from the person who constantly consumes you with negative energy. Remember, you're not the Buddha; you can't save all the demons.

64. 80许多人浪费了整整一生去等待符合他们心愿的机会。 ——尼采

64. Many people waste a whole lifetime waiting for opportunities that fit their wishes. ——Nietzsche

65. 18对任何事物，你都感兴趣，所以每当付诸实行时，你都觉得有无限的生机到来，而且从不会错过机会。虽然在短暂的人生里，你也可以体验到很多有意义的尝试。 ——佚名

65. 18. You are interested in anything and everything, so whenever you put something into practice, you feel a surge of infinite vitality, and you never miss an opportunity. Although in the brief span of life, you can also experience many meaningful attempts. ——Anonymous

66. 31努力的最大动力，在于你可以选择你想要的生活，而不是被生活选择。早安!

66. The greatest motivation for striving hard is that you can choose the life you want, rather than being chosen by life. Good morning!

67. 130机会似乎是很诱人的，事实上有很多遥不可及和美好的事物都是骗人的幌子。最好的机会，就在你的身旁。 ——约翰·拔罗斯

67. The prospect of 130 seems very tempting, but in fact, many distant and beautiful things are just deceptive illusions. The best opportunities are right beside you. - John Bross

68. 16真话如同咳嗽,多在压抑不住时喷涌而出;假话如同台词,常常要背熟了再说。

68. Truth is like a cough, often bursting out when it can no longer be contained; lies are like lines in a script, usually requiring memorization before being spoken.

69. 86幸运的时机好比市场上的交易，只要你稍有延误，它就将掉价了。 ——培根

69. A lucky opportunity is like a market transaction; if you are a moment too late, it will depreciate. ——Bacon

70. 20幻想一步成功者突遭失败，会觉得浪费了时间，付出了精力，却认为没有任何收获；

70. A person who dreams of achieving success overnight suddenly faces failure and feels that time and effort have been wasted, yet believes that there has been no gain.

71. 62如果你因失去了太阳而流泪，那末你也将失去群星了。 ——泰戈尔

71. If you weep because you have lost the sun, then you will also lose the stars. — Tagore

72. 122一个聪明人所创造的机会比他所发现的机会更多。 ——培根

72. The opportunities created by a wise person are more than those he discovers. — Bacon

73. 56当取不取，过后莫悔。 ——施耐庵

73. If it's 56, take it if not, don't regret it later. —— Shi Nai'an

74. 14用爱生活，你会使自己幸福!用爱工作，你会使很多人幸福!

74. Live with love, and you will make yourself happy! Work with love, and you will make many people happy!

75. 18狡猾和聪明的差距不在智力上，而是在道德上。

75. The difference between cunning and cleverness is not in intelligence, but in morality.

76. 66天才是百分之一的灵感加上百分之九十九的努力。

76. Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.

77. 80任何一件事，只要心甘情愿，总能够变得简单，不会有任何复杂的借口和理由。

77. 80 For any matter, as long as one is willing, it can always be made simple, without any complex excuses or reasons.

78. 3愚蠢的行动，能使人陷于贫困；投合时机的行动，却能令人致富。

78. 3 Foolish actions can lead to poverty, but actions that seize the right moment can make one wealthy.

79. 57要认准自己的机会。 ————皮塔库斯

79. 57 Be clear about your opportunities. ————Pittacus

80. 6好花盛开，就该尽先摘，慎莫待美景难再，否则一瞬间，它就要凋零萎谢，落在尘埃。 ——莎士比亚

80.6 When good flowers bloom, one should pick them first, for fear not to wait until the beautiful scene is no more. Otherwise, in a moment, they will wither and fade, falling into the dust. ——Shakespeare

81. 108对于不会利用机会 的人，时机又有什么用呢？一个不受胎的蛋，是要被时间的浪潮冲刷成废物的。 ——艾略特

81. What good is opportunity to those who don't know how to use it? An unfertilized egg is destined to be swept away by the tide of time. – T.S. Eliot

82. 90逆境是通向真理的第一条道路。 ——拜伦

82. Adversity is the first road to truth. ——Byron

83. 16机会不但会造出小偷，也会造出伟人。 ——佚名

83. Not only does chance create thieves, but it also creates great men. — Anonymous

84. 竞争颇似打网球，与球艺胜过你的对手比赛，可以提高你的水平。

84. Competition is somewhat like playing tennis; playing against an opponent who is better than you can improve your skills.

85. 人际冲突的过程 冲突不是一种静止的状态，而且一个动态的过程，在这个过程中，冲突双方的认知、情绪和关系都可能发生变化。美国学者潘迪（pondy）曾经提出冲突的五阶段模式：冲突潜伏阶段（latent conflict）、冲突知觉阶段(perceived conflict)、冲突感受阶段(felt conflict)、冲突外显阶段(overt conflict)、结果阶段(aftermath conflict)。 在冲突潜伏阶段，可能导致双方冲突客观条件已经基本具备，也就是说，双方相互依赖，而且在某些方面存在差异，难以兼容，但是，双方还没有明确意识到这种不兼容。当双方认识到他们之间的差异，而且认为不能相容时，就进入了冲突知觉阶段。当双方开始分析冲突性质时，思考应对策略，而且还出现一些情绪性的反应（如紧张不安、不舒服、愤怒等）时，就进入了冲突感觉阶段。在这个阶段，双方都需要做出选择：是回避冲突，还是公开面对冲突？只要一方将冲突公开化，就会进入冲突外显阶段，这时，双方可能发生言语上的争执、情绪上的对立，甚至行为上的对抗。在这个阶段，很容易出现冲突升级，将矛盾扩大化、情绪化。 冲突意味着人际平衡关系的破坏，经过一段时间的互动，双方关系一般会达成一个新平衡，这时就进入冲突的结果阶段。冲突的后果可能是两败俱伤，也可能是一胜一负，如果处理得当，也可能双赢。当然，能否达到双赢的效果，要取决于冲突的性质与双方管理冲突的水平。 （

85. The Process of Interpersonal Conflict Conflict is not a static state but a dynamic process in which the cognition, emotions, and relationships of the conflicting parties may change. The American scholar Pondy once proposed a five-stage model of conflict: the latent conflict stage, the perceived conflict stage, the felt conflict stage, the overt conflict stage, and the aftermath conflict stage. In the latent conflict stage, the objective conditions that may lead to conflict between the two parties are basically in place, meaning that they are interdependent and have differences in certain aspects that are difficult to reconcile, but neither party has yet clearly realized this incompatibility. When both parties recognize their differences and believe that they cannot coexist, they enter the perceived conflict stage. When both parties begin to analyze the nature of the conflict, consider response strategies, and exhibit emotional reactions (such as anxiety, discomfort, anger, etc.), they enter the felt conflict stage. At this stage, both parties need to make a choice: whether to avoid the conflict or to openly face it? As soon as one party makes the conflict public, it enters the overt conflict stage, at which point, both parties may engage in verbal disputes, emotional opposition, and even behavioral confrontations. At this stage, it is easy for the conflict to escalate, expanding the contradictions and making them more emotional. Conflict signifies the disruption of interpersonal balance, and after a period of interaction, the relationship between the two parties generally reaches a new equilibrium, at which point it enters the aftermath conflict stage. The consequences of conflict may be mutually harmful, or one party may win while the other loses, but if handled properly, it may result in a win-win situation. Of course, whether a win-win outcome can be achieved depends on the nature of the conflict and the level of conflict management by both parties.

86. 88一旦我们在世界上吸引了足够的注意，在其中扮演一个角色，我们顿时就像一个球一样滚动起来，而且从此再不停歇。 ——海涅

86. 88 As soon as we attract enough attention in the world and play a role in it, we roll like a ball immediately and from then on we never stop. — Heinrich Heine

87. 39失望并不可怕，怕的是一次次失望过后的平静安慰自己，心存侥幸试着继续相信。

87. It's not可怕 to be disappointed, but what's可怕 is the calm comfort after each disappointment, when one clings to hope and tries to continue believing.

88. 顾客后还有顾客，服务的开始才是销售的开始。

88. There are always more customers behind the customers, and the beginning of service is the beginning of sales.