在梦的深处，我悄然苏醒，心中涌动着对爱的渴望。探寻爱的自我意识，如同攀登心灵的巅峰，每一步都踏着坚定的信念，向着自我关怀的极致迈进。

In the depths of my dreams, I quietly awaken, my heart brimming with a longing for love. Seeking self-awareness of love is like climbing the peak of the soul, with each step踏踏着 steadfast belief, moving towards the pinnacle of self-care.

1. 书要往后翻，人要往前看。

1. The book should be turned backward, while people should look forward.

2. 什么都不再期待，因为什么都不值得期待，什么都不想等待，因为漫长的等待只会换来冷漠相待。

2. No longer expect anything, for nothing is worth waiting for, and nothing is desired to wait, for the long wait will only bring about indifferent treatment.

3. 其次，学会独立思考和决策。恋爱脑往往导致我们过分依赖伴侣的意见和决策，而忽视了自己的想法和感受。为了治疗恋爱脑，我们需要学会独立思问题，并在需要时做出自己的决策。这样做可以增强我们的自信和自主性，同时也可以减少对他人意见的过度依赖。

3. Secondly, learn to think and make decisions independently. Love brain often leads us to over-rely on our partner's opinions and decisions, neglecting our own thoughts and feelings. To treat love brain, we need to learn to think independently and make our own decisions when necessary. This can enhance our confidence and autonomy, while also reducing our over-reliance on others' opinions.

4. 时间是什么？ 文学家说：时间就是金子。 医学家说：时间就是生命。 教育家说：时间就是知识。 军事家说：时间就是胜利。 史学家说：时间就是公正的法官。 哲学家说：时间就是真理的女儿。 美学家说：时间就是生活的希望。 经济学家说：时间就是财富。

4. What is time? The文学家 says: Time is gold. The 医学家 says: Time is life. The 教育家 says: Time is knowledge. The 军事家 says: Time is victory. The 史学家 says: Time is the impartial judge. The 哲学家 says: Time is the daughter of truth. The 美学家 says: Time is the hope of life. The 经济学家 says: Time is wealth.

5. 放下对别人的期待，没有人可以无缘无故帮你，也没有人愿意毫无回报的为你付出，对别人的期待，只会换来无尽的冷漠和伤害。

5. Let go of your expectations of others. No one can help you without a reason, and no one is willing to give without expecting anything in return. Expecting too much from others will only bring endless coldness and hurt.

6. 能够容忍小人，才称得上是君子；而与小人斤斤计较，一般见识，两者又有什么分别？

6. To tolerate the mean is what counts as being a gentleman; while to haggle and argue with the mean, showing a common level of understanding, what is the difference between the two?

7. 人类的悲欢并不相同，世间皆苦，悲喜自得。依靠自己的力量，独立自主撑起自己想要的生活，不讨好任何人，也不必委屈自己。

7. The joys and sorrows of humans are not the same; the world is full of suffering, and happiness comes from within. Relying on one's own strength, live independently and autonomously the life one desires, neither pleasing anyone else nor compromising oneself.

8. 尽心尽力去做事，能否成功，还得看天意。只要自己努力了，对得起自己，也就可以了。

8. Do your best in everything, whether you will succeed or not depends on fate. As long as you have made an effort and can hold yourself up to it, that is enough.

9. 一个有灵魂的人决不会只爱自己的生命，他必定能体悟众生一体万有同源的真理。

9. A person with a soul will never only love their own life; they must be able to perceive the truth that all beings are one and have their origin in the same source.

10. 最需要提防的就是我们的密友，因为他们对我们了如指掌。

10. The one we need to be most vigilant about is our close friend, as they know us inside out.

11. 别人不能够依照我所说的道理去做事，只是由于我的道理有不完善的地方，不应当责怪他不能行使，而是应当将道理重新加以完善。

11. Others cannot act according to the principles I have mentioned because there are imperfections in my principles. It is not appropriate to blame them for not being able to exercise them; instead, the principles should be improved and refined once again.

12. 思索，是勘探的重锤，叩击知识宝库的大门；思索，是导航的路标，指引人们驶向智慧的彼岸；思索，是创新的门窗，没有它，成功的阳光就射不进来。

12. Contemplation is the heavy hammer of exploration, knocking on the gates of the treasure trove of knowledge; contemplation is the road sign of navigation, guiding people towards the shore of wisdom; contemplation is the windows and doors of innovation, without which, the sunlight of success cannot penetrate in.

13. 这，既是做人的问题；又是胸怀的问题；更是智慧的问题。

13. This is both a matter of being a person; it is also a matter of the breadth of one's mind; more importantly, it is a matter of wisdom.

14. 回不去的昨天比明天更加想念，握不住的今天比梦想更加遥远。

14. The yesterday that can't be returned is more cherished than tomorrow, and the today that can't be held is more distant than dreams.

15. 如果你想要唤起世界的觉醒，把人们从死亡和黑暗的抗争中拯救出来，给予世界爱心与和平，给予生命不朽的阳光和光明，那么你首先自我觉醒吧！

15. If you wish to awaken the world, to rescue people from the struggle against death and darkness, to give the world love and peace, and to provide life with immortal sunshine and brightness, then first awaken yourself!

16. 此外，建立健康的沟通和界限。恋爱脑常常导致我们在关系中无法有效地表达自己的需求和感受。为了解决这个问题，我们需要学会建立健康的沟通模式，表达自己的需求和边界，并尊重对方的需求和边界。只有在清晰地表达彼此的期望和限制后，我们才能建立健康的恋爱关系。

16. Furthermore, establish healthy communication and boundaries. Love brain often leads to our inability to effectively express our needs and feelings in relationships. To address this issue, we need to learn to establish healthy communication patterns, express our needs and boundaries, and respect the needs and boundaries of others. Only after clearly expressing each other's expectations and limitations can we build a healthy romantic relationship.

17. 灵魂无非是一颗成熟了的童心，因为成熟而不会在失去。

17. The soul is nothing but a matured childlike heart, which, having matured, will not be lost.

18. 理想并不是要向人民索取什么，而是要向人民贡献什么。

18. The ideal is not to take anything from the people, but to contribute something to the people.

19. 一个人觉醒了，懂得生命的价值，以及如何实现这种价值，才是最好的人生。

19. It is the best life for a person to awaken, understand the value of life, and know how to realize this value.

20. 最顶级的爱自己，就是内心的觉醒。在路遥马急的人世间，活出属于自己的浪漫和精彩。

20. The highest form of loving oneself is inner awakening. In this world where life is fleeting and fast-paced, live out your own romance and brilliance.

21. 人生最难能可贵的是看透一切后还能每天保持着激情去创造去实现你存在的价值！做人一定要有气度，感恩能再一次醒来的自己，没有曲折的人生就失去了意义，天天都是新的开始。

21. The most valuable thing in life is to maintain passion for creation and realizing the value of your existence every day after seeing through everything! One must have a generous spirit. Be grateful for the self that can wake up again. A life without twists and turns loses its meaning; every day is a new beginning.

22. 我们不知道，明天和意外哪一个先来？我们苦苦筹划的一切，也许根本来不及实施，就会被死神收割。我们对未来所有的焦虑，或许根本就不会发生。事物是不以人的意志为转移，我们只能活在当下，经营好可以掌握的每一天。

22. We don't know which will come first, tomorrow or the unexpected? All the plans we meticulously make may not have enough time to be implemented and could be harvested by death. All the anxieties we have about the future may never happen. Things do not change according to human will; we can only live in the present and make the best of each day we can control.

23. 过去的事情就放他过去，不要在脑海里残留，否则纠缠不清，徒然内耗自己。

23. Let bygones be bygones, do not let them linger in your mind. Otherwise, you will be entangled and unnecessarily consume yourself internally.

24. 那只创造了你的形体并放进去生命的至高无上的手，除了创造你微弱的自我，或者像你一样微弱的生物而外，还给你提供了其他的救援。

24. The all-high hand that created your form and infused it with life, apart from creating your faint self or beings as faint as yourself, has also provided you with other forms of rescue.

25. 最后，寻求专业帮助。如果恋爱脑严重且影响到我们的日常生活和人际关系，我们可以考虑寻求专业心理辅导。专业心理辅导师可以帮助我们探索恋爱脑的原因和解决方案，并提供个性化的指导方法。

25. Finally, seek professional help. If being in love is severe and affects our daily life and interpersonal relationships, we can consider seeking professional psychological counseling. Professional psychological counselors can help us explore the causes and solutions to being in love and provide personalized guidance methods.

26. 有许多东西，应该遗忘，比如仇恨和嫉妒；有许多事情应该铭记，比如爱和关怀。

26. There are many things that should be forgotten, such as hatred and envy; there are many things that should be remembered, such as love and care.

27. 我们总是希望实现自我价值的过程一蹴而就，但是往往很多条件不能一齐具备，这就有必要认真地理解一下这三条法则，重新制定一下自我的定位。

27. We always hope to achieve the process of realizing self-worth all at once, but often many conditions cannot be present at the same time, which is why it is necessary to seriously understand these three laws and redefine our own position.

28. 人之所以读书，无非有三种目的。一是为了实际的用途，二是为了消遣，三是为了获得精神上的启迪和享受。真正的阅读必须有灵魂的参与，它是一个人的灵魂在一个借文字符号构筑的精神世界里的漫游，是在这漫游途中的自我发现和自我成长，因而是一种个人化的精神行为。

28. The reasons why people read books can be summarized into three purposes. The first is for practical use, the second is for leisure, and the third is to gain spiritual enlightenment and enjoyment. True reading requires the participation of the soul, as it is a person's soul wandering through a spiritual world constructed by textual symbols. It is a process of self-discovery and self-growth during this wandering, and thus it is a personalized spiritual behavior.

29. 欺诈是最危险的事，因为它会翻过头来骗自己。

29. Fraud is the most dangerous thing because it can turn around and deceive oneself.

30. 我们曾多想给自己找一座靠山，得到别人的帮助和扶持，后来发现，山上不是荆棘坎坷，就是狼虫虎豹，只有自己才是真正靠得住的那座山。

30. We have so often wanted to find a mountain to lean on, to receive help and support from others, but later we found out that on the mountain there are either thorny paths and obstacles, or wolves, insects, tigers, and leopards, and only ourselves are the truly reliable mountain.

31. 无论制造多少喷泉，也改变不了水往低处流的本性。

31. No matter how many fountains are made, it cannot change the nature of water flowing downwards.

32. 何必用舞台上的绘声绘色，来掩盖生活中的无声无息。

32. Why use the vivid portrayal on stage to conceal the silent and invisible aspects of life?

33. 平生无大志，只求活的真实，并随时记下自己真实的感受，借此留下生命的足迹。

33. Throughout my life, I have no great ambitions, only seeking to live authentically, and at all times, to record my genuine feelings, thereby leaving the footprints of my life.

34. 往事已经是板上钉钉的事实，已经不可改变。放下是最好的选择。

34. The past is a fait accompli and cannot be changed. Letting go is the best choice.

35. 聪明地掩饰自己的才华，也是赢得赞扬的最好途径，因为人们对于自己不了解的东西，总是抱有很强的好奇心。所以，不要一下子露尽你所有的本领，慢慢来，而且逐次增多。在展示成功之后，再去进行下一次；在获得热烈的掌声之后，再去期待更大的辉煌。

35. Skillfully concealing one's talents is also the best way to win praise, because people always have a strong curiosity about things they do not understand. Therefore, do not show all your abilities at once; take it slow and gradually increase them. After showcasing success, move on to the next; after receiving enthusiastic applause, look forward to even greater brilliance.

36. 如果真相是一种伤害，请选择谎言。如果谎言是一种伤害，请选择沉默。如果沉默是一种伤害， 请选择离开。

36. If the truth is a wound, choose a lie. If a lie is a wound, choose silence. If silence is a wound, choose to leave.

37. 你要净化自己的心灵，以你掌握的知识构建自己的内心世界，不断地进行改革创新，并坚持不懈地把它变成现实。这样做之后，你就会发现，和外部事物的无能为力相比较，自我控制的内心世界有着无限的潜能。

37. You must purify your soul, construct your inner world with the knowledge you possess, continuously innovate and reform, and persistently turn it into reality. After doing so, you will find that compared to the powerlessness in dealing with external things, the self-controlled inner world has infinite potential.

38. 亲爱的自己，你的身边充满赞美和批评，那些赞美都放大了你的优点，你没有那么好，要努力去看见你那被过与赞美掩饰的缺点，改进它。那些批评都放大了你的缺点，你没有那么坏，要记得去珍惜你那无法被真正抨击的优点，发挥它。

38. Dear self, you are surrounded by praise and criticism. The praise magnifies your virtues, but you are not as good as that; strive to see the flaws that are overshadowed by excessive praise and improve upon them. The criticism exaggerates your shortcomings, but you are not as bad as that; remember to cherish your true merits that cannot be truly criticized and bring them to play.

39. 一个人在举步维艰之时，往往会认命，以为自己再无其他选择的可能。可等那个困扰过去，又变得死不甘心起来。

39. When a person is struggling to take even a step, they often feel resigned, believing that there is no other possibility left. But once the trouble is over, they become extremely不甘心 again.

40. 成功是一种习惯——不放逸的习惯；失败也是一种习惯——放逸的习惯。放逸或不放逸，关键在"苦乐"二字上。有一位作家说得好：怕吃苦的人后半辈子吃苦，不怕吃苦的人前半辈子吃苦。总归要吃苦，不如趁年轻吃得起苦时，把苦吃了。

40. Success is a habit – the habit of not being lazy; failure is also a habit – the habit of being lazy. Whether one is lazy or not, the key lies in the words "suffering and joy." A writer put it beautifully: those who fear suffering will endure it in the latter half of their lives, while those who are not afraid of suffering will endure it in the first half. In the end, one must suffer. It is better to endure suffering while young and able to bear it, rather than to delay it.

41. 首先，增强自我意识和自信心。恋爱脑通常源于对自己价值感和安全感的缺乏。建议通过自我索和自我发展来寻找自己的兴趣爱好，培养自己的个人能力。当我们对自己有信心并且独立自主时，恋爱脑的出现可能会减少，因为我们不再完全依赖他人来满足自己的需求。

41. Firstly, enhance self-awareness and self-confidence. Love brain often originates from a lack of sense of self-worth and security. It is recommended to explore one's hobbies and develop personal skills through self-exploration and self-improvement. When we have confidence in ourselves and are independent, the occurrence of love brain may decrease, as we no longer completely rely on others to satisfy our needs.

42. 举例来说，假设一个人在恋爱关系中非常依赖伴侣的决策。他会经常问伴侣的意见并很难做出自己的决定。这种依赖导致他对自己的能力缺乏信心，并且对伴侣的决策过度依赖。为了治疗这种恋爱脑，他可以通过培养自己的决策能力，学会相信自己的判断，并在关键时刻独立做出决定。逐渐减少对伴侣意见的依赖，建立自己的决策模式。

42. For example, suppose a person is highly dependent on their partner's decisions in a romantic relationship. They often seek their partner's opinions and find it difficult to make their own decisions. This dependence leads to a lack of confidence in their own abilities and an excessive reliance on their partner's decisions. To treat this "love-brain," they can cultivate their own decision-making skills, learn to trust their own judgments, and make independent decisions at critical moments. Gradually reduce their dependence on their partner's opinions and establish their own decision-making patterns.

43. 世上没人能赎回已往，珍惜面前，别等失去再反悔。

43. No one in the world can redeem the past; cherish what is in front of you, and don't regret it after you lose it.

44. 最好不要跟小肚鸡肠的人打交道，特别是如果你自己也属于这一类人时。

44. It's best not to deal with people who are overly concerned with trivial matters, especially if you yourself belong to that category.

45. 周国平说：在一切力量中，最不可缺少的一种内在的力量，就是觉醒。

45. Zhou Guoping said: Among all forces, the most indispensable inner force is awakening.

46. 因为他不再被往事纠缠，不再为未来焦虑，不再把自己的价值和幸福寄托在别人的身上，他会拥有强大的内心世界，链接起宇宙深处最惊人的能量，为自己的人生保驾护航。

46. Because he is no longer entangled by the past, no longer anxious about the future, and no longer places his value and happiness in others, he will possess a powerful inner world, linking the most astonishing energies deep within the universe to safeguard his journey through life.

47. 我讨厌有时候显着听到了一些让本身心痛到死的话，还得装作若无其事。

47. I hate it when sometimes I hear words that hurt me to the core, and I have to pretend as if nothing's wrong.

48. 人生没有完美，所以不必为这份不完美而让生活不美好。接受人生的不完美，不苛求自己，凡事尽量看淡些，"糊涂"一点，你就会拥有美好的人生。

48. Life is never perfect, so there is no need to let this imperfection make life unenjoyable. Accept the imperfections of life, do not be too demanding of yourself, try to take things lightly, be a bit "ignorant," and you will have a beautiful life.

49. 工作是工作，生活是生活 追求完美人生是人类与生俱来的需求，可只注重事业上的成功，为工作失去生活，则是一生的缺憾。工作是工作，生活是生活，不要为了工作而失去生活。我们应该在做好工作的同时，不要忽略了生活。

49. Work is work, life is life. The pursuit of a perfect life is a natural need for humans, but to focus solely on career success and lose life for work is a lifelong regret. Work is work, life is life; do not lose life for the sake of work. We should not neglect life while doing a good job.

50. 恋爱脑是指因为情感产生的一种思维方式，表现为过于依赖他人、过分关注伴侣的行为、对感情过度计较等。虽然恋爱脑在恋爱关系中很常见，但过度依赖会给自己和伴侣带来问题。要治疗恋爱脑，

50. Love brain refers to a way of thinking that arises from emotions, manifested as excessive dependence on others, excessive attention to the behavior of the partner, and over-accounting for relationships. Although love brain is common in romantic relationships, excessive dependence can bring problems for both oneself and the partner. To treat love brain,

51. 杨绛先生说，我们曾如此期待别人的认可，后来才发现世界是自己的，和其他人毫无关系。

51. Mr. Yang Jiang said, "We used to eagerly await others' recognition, only to find out later that the world is all about ourselves, and has nothing to do with others."