笑里藏刀，翻脸讲规则：面对无理取闹，坚决不妥协。

Hide a knife in a smile, change faces and talk rules: In the face of unreasonable behavior,坚决 do not compromise.

1. 不要去讨好任何人，你只需要讨好自己。所有的贵人都是源于价值交换，不是低声下气委曲求全。人生不过就是一场体验，我们要给自己一些美好的东西和享受，任何妨碍你的消耗，你的伤害，你的让你不爽的人和事，都让他滚蛋吧。

1. Don't try to please anyone else; you only need to please yourself. All VIPs come from value exchange, not from bowing and scraping. Life is just a series of experiences, so we should give ourselves some wonderful things and enjoyments. Let go of anything that hinders you, any harm you suffer, or anyone or thing that makes you unhappy. Let them go.

2. 几千年的传统文化教我们做谦谦君子，温良恭俭让，仁义礼智信，在与别人打交道的时候，一个有修养的人，会把自己置于较低的位置，稍微抬高对方的身份，比如称自己为晚生，称别人为阁下，这是一种礼节，也是一种境界。

2. Over thousands of years, traditional culture has taught us to be modest gentlemen, gentle, respectful, thrifty, and generous, and to act with benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom, and faithfulness. When dealing with others, a person of cultivation will place himself in a lower position, slightly elevating the status of the other person, for example, by calling himself a junior, and referring to the other person as Your Excellency. This is both a form of etiquette and a level of attainment.

3. 不要害怕失去任何关系，让你不舒服的关系都是消耗你的，让你受伤的关系都是需要放弃的，让你心力交瘁的关系都是不值得的。

犯错是人类成长的一部分，3. Don't be afraid to lose any relationship. Any relationship that makes you uncomfortable is consuming you, any relationship that hurts you needs to be abandoned, and any relationship that exhausts you is not worth it.

4. 主持人杨澜说：“短暂的一生，不要去尝试讨好每一个人，因为做不到，永远有人不喜欢你，不喜欢你长的样子，不喜欢你说话的样子，不喜欢你吃饭的样子，不喜欢你走路的样子。你为什么要去讨好他，讨好自己就行。”

4. Host Yang Lan said, "In a short life, don't try to please everyone, because it's impossible. There will always be people who don't like you – who don't like the way you look, the way you speak, the way you eat, or the way you walk. Why should you try to please them when you can please yourself?"

5. 这样的人属于给脸不要脸，该翻脸时就翻脸。

5. Such a person is one who does not know shame and should turn their back when it's time to do so.

6. 如果有人看不起你，你也不要恭敬于他。如果有人挑衅你，伤害你，去霸凌你，你也要让他付出一定的代价，告诉他，你不是好欺负的，伤人者必自伤，玩火者必自焚，欺人者必自寻死路。

6. If someone looks down on you, do not show respect to them either. If someone provokes you, harms you, or bullies you, you should make them pay a certain price as well. Tell them that you are not someone to be easily bullied; those who harm others will harm themselves, those who play with fire will burn themselves, and those who欺人 will find their own path to death.

7. 我可以笑着给你讲道理，也可以翻脸给你讲规矩，人待我何我待人何，这是做人的基本礼貌，也是为人处世之道。”

7. I can talk to you about the reasons with a smile, or I can turn around and teach you the rules. How one treats me is how one treats others. This is the basic etiquette of being a person and the way to deal with people in society.

8. 不尊重你的人，不应该留在你的生活里。消耗你的人，离你越远越好。即便是自己没有朋友了，一个人生活，照样可以把日子过得精彩盎然，把生活过得红红火火。

8. People who do not respect you should not stay in your life. Those who drain you should be as far away from you as possible. Even if you don't have friends anymore and live alone, you can still live a vibrant and colorful life, and lead a lively and prosperous life.

9. 一段非常有力量的话：“我不争，不代表你可以抢；我善良，不代表我好欺负；我能理解，不代表我可以接受；我不惹事，不代表我怕事；我很讲理，不代表我不翻脸；我让步，不代表你可以得寸进尺。

9. A very powerful statement: "I do not compete, does not mean you can seize; I am kind, does not mean I am easy to bully; I can understand, does not mean I can accept; I do not cause trouble, does not mean I am afraid of trouble; I am reasonable, does not mean I cannot change my mind; I make concessions, does not mean you can push your luck.

10. 对于任何人可以笑着和他讲道理，也可以翻脸和他讲规矩。既有慈眉善目的菩萨心肠，也有杀伐决断的金刚手段。对尊重自己的人，就给予春风般的温暖，对伤害自己而又绕不开的人，就果断翻脸反击。对于不会做人而又无关紧要的人，就当个屁放了吧。

10. For anyone, one can discuss matters with them while laughing, or confront them with rules. Possessing both the benevolent and kind-hearted nature of a bodhisattva and the decisive and forceful methods of a vajra. To those who respect oneself, offer the warmth of spring breeze; to those who harm oneself yet cannot be avoided, act decisively and retaliate. For those who are not good at socializing yet are not of any importance, just let them go like a fart.

11. 然而，林子大了，什么鸟都有。世界大了，什么人都有。有些人根本就不尊重你的善意和礼貌，你越是恭敬于他，他越觉得你软弱可欺，懦弱无用，柔弱不堪，对你更加肆无忌惮，为所欲为，毫无顾忌。

11. However, when the forest is vast, there are birds of all kinds. When the world is vast, there are people of all sorts. Some people don't respect your goodwill and politeness at all. The more respectful you are towards them, the more they feel you are weak and vulnerable, useless and fragile. They become even more brazen and wanton towards you, doing as they please without any restraint.

12. 善良是一种修养，但不是一种软弱。对人好是一种情分，但不是自己的本分。活在这个世界上，我们不亏欠任何人，也不指望任何人扶我青云路，只想与人为善，予己方便，让自己的人生舒适温暖。

12. Kindness is a form of cultivation, but not a sign of weakness. Being good to others is a matter of goodwill, but not one's own duty. Living in this world, we owe nothing to anyone, nor do we expect anyone to help us climb the ladder to success. We simply want to be kind to others, make life convenient for ourselves, and make our own lives comfortable and warm.

13. 一段非常治愈的话：“人一旦不害怕失去，态度就会变得随你意，你随意。有时候失去比拥有更踏实，沉默是一场体面的退出，是一场理性的回避，是给别人留出空间，也给自己留有余地。”

13. A very healing quote: "Once a person is no longer afraid of losing, their attitude becomes as free as they wish. They are as free as they like. Sometimes, losing is more substantial than having. Silence is a dignified exit, a rational avoidance, giving space to others, and leaving room for oneself as well."