人生经验启示：自强更生，避免内耗，能力破茧成蝶。

Life Experience Insight: Cultivate self-reliance, avoid internal consumption, and transform your abilities into butterflies breaking through the cocoon.

1. 我们终其一生，最应该要做的事情就是，不盲目，不较劲，不内耗，不焦虑，学会和自己和解。

1. Throughout our lives, the most important thing we should do is not to be blind, not to compete, not to waste internal energy, not to be anxious, and to learn to reconcile with ourselves.

2. 当自己的生活不顺时，可以找一个无人的角落默默哭泣，静静地梳理自己的情绪，在夜深人静的时候，把心掏出来，自己缝缝补补，然后睡一觉醒来又是信心百倍。无人问津也好，技不如人也罢，你都要试着静下来，自己该干什么就干什么，而不是让烦躁和焦虑毁掉你本就不多的热情和定力。心可以碎，手不能停，该干什么干什么，在崩溃中继续前行，才是一个成年人的修养。

2. When life is not going well, you can find a corner where no one is around to silently cry, quietly sorting out your emotions. In the quiet of the night, take out your heart, mend it yourself, and then wake up feeling full of confidence after a nap. Whether it's because no one cares or because you are not as skilled as others, you should try to calm down and do what you should do, instead of letting frustration and anxiety destroy the little passion and composure you have. The heart may be broken, but your hands cannot stop. Keep doing what you should do, continue moving forward in the face of collapse, which is the cultivation of a mature adult.

3. 人生就是一个遗憾不断，惊喜不停地过程，真正的完美不过是你肯放过自己，与自己和解。接受这个世界的不完美，接受自己的不完美！

3. Life is a continuous process of regrets and surprises. The true perfection is when you are willing to forgive yourself and reconcile with yourself. Accept the imperfections of this world, and accept your own imperfections!

4. 人生从来没有过不去的坎，也没有到不了的明天，有些事别人都过去了，只有你自己不肯原谅自己！人生漫漫，有聚有散，有得有失，这是再正常不过的事情，只要我们好好的生活，一切都终将会过去，但凡你觉得过不去的事儿，时间都会替你轻描淡写，天大的事再回头望时，也许会觉得不值一提！

4. There are no insurmountable difficulties in life, nor is there a tomorrow that can't be reached. Some things others have moved past, but it's only you who won't forgive yourself! Life is long, with gatherings and separations, gains and losses, which are the most normal things. As long as we live well, everything will eventually pass. Anything that seems insurmountable to you will be gently brushed aside by time. When looking back on major events, you might find them not worth mentioning at all!

5. 成年人的世界都是劫后余生。遭遇不幸时，学会远离人群。让自己处于安静的境地。孤独，可以治愈一切内伤。睡前原谅一切，醒来不问过往。一个人，唯有熬得住无人问津的日子，才配得上诗和远方。

5. The world of adults is a life after disaster. When faced with misfortune, learn to distance yourself from the crowd. Allow yourself to be in a quiet state. Solitude can heal all inner wounds. Forgive everything before going to sleep, and don't inquire about the past upon waking. One must endure days without anyone's attention to truly deserve poetry and the distant horizon.

6. 人生从来都不圆满，众生皆苦，唯有自渡！天意难违时，我们不妨用顺其自然的态度过随遇而安的生活。走出劫难，便是重生。熬出头时，天也亮了。

6. Life is never perfect, all beings suffer, and the only way out is to save oneself! When fate is hard to defy, why not adopt a natural attitude to live a life of contentment with what comes? Emerging from adversity is a rebirth. When you finally make it through, the sky will also brighten up.

7. 成年人的烦恼，和谁说好像都不合适。翻翻电话簿，有的人不能说，有的人不该说，有的人只能聊别的，到最后还是自己独自扛下来，默默消化，默默自愈！因为站的角度不同，看问题的方式不同，在人生的一次一次历练中，我们也在一次一次变得更强大，每一次经历都是成长，我们总能学到些什么！

7. The troubles of adults seem unsuitable to discuss with anyone. Turn through the phone book, some people can't be told, some shouldn't be told, some can only talk about other things; in the end, it's still up to oneself to bear it alone, to silently digest and heal by oneself! Because of different perspectives and ways of looking at things, as we go through life's experiences one after another, we also become stronger each time. Every experience is a growth, and we can always learn something from it!

8. 人一定要学会自渡，烦躁的时候不要说话，也不要做任何决定，安静地待会。成年人的烦恼好像和谁说都不合适，要学会自我消化，想开、看开、放开，睡前原谅一切，醒来便是重生。这个世界上从来没有感同身受，你可以消沉，也可以抱怨，甚至可以崩溃，但你一定要懂得自愈。这个世界上没有多少人心疼你，自渡是一种能力，渡人是一种格局，活着就该逢山开路，遇水架桥！

8. One must learn to help oneself. When you are烦躁, do not speak or make any decisions, just stay quiet for a while. The troubles of adults seem unsuitable to share with anyone. Learn to digest them internally, be open-minded, let go, forgive everything before going to sleep, and you will be reborn upon waking. In this world, there is no such thing as empathy. You can be despondent, complain, even collapse, but you must understand how to heal yourself. There are not many people in this world who care about you. Helping oneself is a skill, helping others is a perspective, and living means to clear the way when you encounter a mountain and build a bridge when you meet a river!

9. 既然谁都有烦恼，那就要学会自渡！烦躁的时候不说话，也不要做任何决定！已经是成年人了，一些难过的情绪，要学会自己消化。想开，看开，放开，不为难自己，不盲目较劲，很多事情你尽力了就够了，别自我折磨，好好爱自己！这世界没多少人心疼你。

9. Since everyone has their troubles, one must learn to help oneself! When you're烦躁, don't talk and don't make any decisions! You're an adult now; some painful emotions, you need to learn to digest on your own. Think positively, keep an open mind, let go, don't put yourself through hardship, don't blindly struggle. As long as you've done your best, that's enough. Don't torture yourself, love yourself well! There aren't many people in this world who care about you.

10. 人生在世，不如意的事十有八九，不用羡慕别人，谁家锅底都有灰，家家都有一本难念的经，当你在羡慕别人工作顺利，孩子争气的时候，别人也许正在羡慕你没病没灾，身体健康！没有感同身受，都只是站在自己的角度去看待问题，谁的人生也不是一帆风顺的，没有挫折，没点波澜，怎么能称得上是人生？

10. In life, there are nine out of ten things that go wrong. Don't envy others. Every household has its own dirt at the bottom of the pot, and every family has its own hard-to-read scripture. When you are envious of others for their smooth career or their outstanding children, others might be envying you for not being sick or troubled, for having good health! Without empathy, everyone is just looking at the problem from their own perspective. No one's life is smooth sailing. Without setbacks and a bit of ups and downs, how can it be called life?

11. 人，除了自渡，他人爱莫能助，想不开的事，先暂时放一放，交给时间，也许再回头看时，轻舟已过万重山！

11. For people, other than helping oneself, others can't do much; for things that one can't think through, it's best to put them aside temporarily and leave them to time. Perhaps when looking back later, one will find that the light boat has already sailed past ten thousand mountains!