不宁背影，是更大的运待在等候——探索命运的转机

The restless silhouette signifies a greater destiny waiting—exploring the turning point of fate.

1. 当你经历过泪水悲伤和苦难，会发现，原来幸福就是大晚上搂着自己心爱的人，看着俗不可耐的电视剧。

1. When you have experienced tears, sadness, and suffering, you will find out that happiness is simply snuggling with your beloved on a late night, watching those utterly unappealing TV series.

2. 3为人务须振作精神。不可稍形颓丧。人生处世必有不如意之时。愈不得意，愈能振作，便不难人定胜天。——张元济

2.3 It is necessary for people to be energetic and determined. One must not show any sign of despondency. In life, there will always be times when things do not go as planned. The more one faces adversity, the more one can be motivated to rise and overcome, making it not difficult for people to overcome nature. — Zhang Yuji

3. 在我们漫长的人生道路上，苦难也许就会在突然间毫不留情地降临我们身上，它会在短暂的时间内吞噬人们宝贵的生命，将一个好端端的世界弄得面目全非。有些人面对苦难，他们的选择就是毫无风度的地去叫苦连天，不去寻找解决的方法，导致的后果也许就是让苦难永远伴随他一生。

3. On our long journey through life, hardship may suddenly and mercilessly descend upon us, consuming the precious lives of people in a short span of time and turning a once peaceful world into a chaotic mess. Some people, when faced with hardship, choose to complain endlessly without grace, failing to seek solutions. The consequence of this may be that hardship becomes a lifelong companion for them.

4. 是的，一个人的天赋以及与其密切相关的擅长，对于我们的生命影响巨大。但天赋人人都有，却是隐性的，常常不易察觉；天赋和擅长也不是一回事，拥有天赋，并不代表就有了擅长。于是，我们经常会问：

4. Yes, a person's talent and the skills closely related to it have a tremendous impact on our lives. However, talent is something that everyone possesses, but it is隐性 and often not easily noticeable; talent and skills are not the same thing, having talent does not necessarily mean having skills. Therefore, we often ask:

5. 讲完了发现天赋、培养擅长及管理短板，讲完了艾瑞克森的“逆天改命”与“顺势而为”，文章最后，我想讲讲正在上映的纪录**《零零后》。

5. After finishing the talk, I realized it involves discovering talent, nurturing strengths, and managing weaknesses. After discussing Erikson's "Turning One's Fate Around" and "Acting with the Tide," at the end of the article, I would like to talk about the documentary "Zerzers" that is currently in theaters.

6. 艾瑞克森还是音盲。6岁时，他经过一个教堂，见很多人在练合唱。他听不到他们唱的音乐，只是纳闷，这群人发出这么奇怪的声音，为什么却那么快乐？他找到了一个答案，哦，他们在一起呼吸，呼吸的节奏是一致的，所以这么快乐。

6. Erickson was still tone deaf. At the age of 6, he passed by a church and saw many people practicing choral singing. He couldn't hear the music they were singing, but he was puzzled, why were these people so happy with such strange sounds? He found an answer, oh, they were breathing together, and the rhythm of their breathing was in sync, that's why they were so happy.

7. 喜欢发鸡汤的人都不怎么幸福，但也没有经历真正的苦难，因为真正过的好的和真正不幸的人都不会轻易被廉价的情感煽动。喜欢自拍的人同理。

7. People who like to post chicken soup for the soul are generally not very happy, but they haven't experienced true hardship either, because those who truly live well and those who are truly unhappy are not easily swayed by cheap emotions. The same can be said for people who like to take selfies.

8. 边境线上住着一对父子俩，某天，家里的骏马丢失了。父子俩特别伤心，过了几天，骏马自己跑回来，还带回了另外一匹马。

8. There lived a father and son on the border line, and one day, their precious horse went missing. Both of them were very upset. After a few days, the horse returned by itself, and it brought back another horse with it.

9. 愿我们，也愿孩子们，都能打破成见的束缚，唤醒天赋，顺势而为；

9. May we, and the children, all break free from the constraints of preconceptions, awaken our innate talents, and act in harmony with the trend.

10. 又一天，儿子骑马出去玩耍，坠马受伤，摔断了一条腿。父子俩泣不成声，抱怨命运不公。后来边境发生战事，朝廷在这里抓丁参战，儿子正在参军的名录之中，因为摔断了一只腿，不用上战场。而那一次战斗非常惨烈，全军覆没，儿子因此保全了一条性命。

10. On another day, the son went out to play on horseback and fell off, sustaining an injury that broke his leg. Both father and son wept in despair, complaining about the unfairness of fate. Later, there was a war at the border, and the court conscripted soldiers to fight here. The son's name was on the list of those to be drafted, but because of his broken leg, he was exempt from going to the battlefield. That battle was extremely fierce, and the entire army was wiped out, and it was because of this that the son preserved his life.

11. 14岁的池亦洋遇到橄榄球之后，又恢复了当孩子王时那个自信的自己。他在橄榄球上显示了过人的天分和热情，还幸运地被选入国家队，参加了国际橄榄球青年赛。

11. At the age of 14, after meeting rugby, Qi Yiyang regained the confidence of the king of children he was. He displayed extraordinary talent and passion in rugby and was fortunate enough to be selected for the national team, participating in the international rugby youth competition.

12. 苦难使人呈现坚韧，而一旦苦难成为活着的惯态，人将长久的浸*其中，反而不对苦难本身有多余感触。顺受等同于活着。这种无形的意志异常强大。苦难深处的人反而从没有想过放弃生命。只有经过幸福体验的对比，才会在强烈落差中无法把持感知的平衡。所以脆弱不堪。——七堇年

12. Suffering makes people resilient, but once suffering becomes a habitual state of living, people will be immersed in it for a long time, and they will no longer have any additional feelings about suffering itself. Endurance is equivalent to living. This invisible will is extraordinarily strong. People who are in the depths of suffering have never thought of giving up life. It is only through the contrast with the experience of happiness that one can no longer maintain the balance of perception in the face of a strong discrepancy. Therefore, one is vulnerable and fragile. — Qi Qinyuan

13. 运用刻意练习，从量变到质变。从天赋到擅长的过程，是一个主动学习、刻意练习的漫长过程，通过积累微小的进步，由量变引发质变，到达《卖油翁》里“无他，但手熟尔”和《庖丁解牛》中“恢恢乎，游刃有余”的境界。

13. By employing deliberate practice, one transitions from quantitative changes to qualitative improvements. The process from natural talent to proficiency is a long journey of active learning and deliberate practice. Through accumulating small improvements, one triggers a qualitative leap, reaching the level of expertise described in the story of "The Oil-Seller" where it is said, "There is nothing else, just the skill of the hands," and in "Pao Ding Carving the Ox," where it is described as "so vast, that he wields his blade with ease."

14. 1一个人最大的破产是绝望，最大的资产是希望。

14. 1 The greatest bankruptcy for a person is despair, and the greatest asset is hope.

15. 19自古以来的伟人，大多是抱着不屈不挠的精神，从逆境中挣扎奋斗过来的。——松下幸之助

15. Since ancient times, most great individuals have struggled and persevered through adversity with an indomitable spirit. - Konosuke Matsushita

16. 17好的运气令人羡慕，而战胜厄运则今人惊佩。——塞涅卡

16. Good fortune is enviable, and overcoming misfortune is awe-inspiring. - Seneca

17. 独立，是指自己去面对风吹雨打和各种困难。人类如果不去独立处事，在他人怀抱中生存，那么它也是一个失败者。

17. Independence refers to facing the wind and rain and all kinds of difficulties on one's own. If humans do not handle matters independently and survive in someone else's embrace, then they are also considered failures.

18. 比如长期被抑郁症折磨却打赢了二战的丘吉尔，比如被终身禁锢在轮椅上还写出《时间简史》的霍金，再比如身染小儿麻痹症、音盲、色盲、阅读障碍等多种疾患，却成为现代催眠之父的艾瑞克森。

18. For example, Winston Churchill, who was long tormented by depression yet won World War II, or Stephen Hawking, who was confined to a wheelchair for life yet wrote "A Brief History of Time," and also Erickson, who, despite suffering from multiple diseases such as polio, tone deafness, color blindness, and dyslexia, became the father of modern hypnosis.

19. 宝剑锋从磨砺出，梅花香自苦寒来。不是任何一个泛泛之辈都能够承担起社会的责任，也不是任何一个肉体凡胎，都能够取得骄人的成绩，上天想要让你过上更加优质的生活，承担更加高远的使命，所以他要磨练你，矫正你，砥砺你，把你变成一个更加强大的人，无论心性、品质、智慧、力量，都要比其他人更加优秀。

19. The edge of a sword is honed from constant sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold. Not just anyone can shoulder the responsibilities of society, nor can anyone with a mere physical body achieve remarkable achievements. If heaven wishes to grant you a more high-quality life and to undertake a more noble mission, it will refine and correct you, toughen you, and transform you into a stronger individual. Whether it's in terms of character, integrity, wisdom, or strength, you should be superior to others.

20. 所以，生活中，有时候我们应该事缓则圆，不要急于解决问题，因为事情的发生可能有其另外意想不到的原因。”

20. Therefore, in life, sometimes we should take our time to achieve a smooth resolution, not to rush in solving problems, because the occurrence of events may have unexpected causes.

21. 苦难的降临无法预知甚至不可抗拒，歌德说，弱者沉吟叹息，勇者却向着光明抬起他们纯洁的眼睛。当你笑对苦难，你发现苦难其实不过如此。

21. The arrival of adversity cannot be predicted or resisted, as Goethe said, the weak sigh and hesitate, while the brave raise their pure eyes towards the light. When you face adversity with a smile, you find that adversity is actually just like that.

22. 50人生在世，事业为重。一息尚存，绝不松劲。——吴玉章

22. In the span of 50 years of life, career is paramount. As long as there is a breath left in me, I will never relax my efforts. — Wu Yuzhang

23. 45患难困苦，是磨炼人格之最高学校。——梁启超

23. Adversity and hardship are the highest school for refining one's character. — Liang Qichao

24. 过去是未来最好的向导，一个民族要配得上它曾经历的苦难。

24. The past is the best guide to the future, and a nation deserves the hardships it has experienced.

25. 28人若是太幸运，则不知天高地厚，也不知自己能力究竟有多少；若是太不幸，则终其一生皆默默无名。富勒

25. If 28 people are too lucky, they do not know the sky and the earth, nor do they know how much ability they truly have; if they are too unlucky, they will remain默默无闻 throughout their lives. - Fulleer

26. 41战胜困难格言只要脊梁不弯，就没有扛不起的山。——洪战辉

26. Proverb of overcoming difficulties: As long as the backbone is not bent, there is no mountain that cannot be carried. ——Hong Zhanhui

27. 23熟悉的地方没有风景；不熟悉的地方有陷阱。

27. The familiar place lacks scenery; the unfamiliar place has traps.

28. 那一幕，多像100年后，你我每个人所要经历的人生。

28. That scene was so much like the life each of us would experience 100 years from now.

29. 看轻别人很容易，但是要摆平自己却很困难。随缘是一种进取，是智者的行为。随不是跟随，是顺其自然，不怨恨，不躁进，不过度，不强求；随不是随便，是把握机缘，不悲观，不刻板，不慌乱，不忘形；随是一种达观，是一种洒脱，一份人情的练达，是一份人生的成熟。

29. It is easy to undervalue others, but it is difficult to come to terms with oneself. Letting go is a form of progress, the behavior of a wise person. "Letting go" does not mean following, but to go with the flow, without resentment, without haste, without excess, without seeking too much; "letting go" does not mean being casual, but to grasp opportunities, without pessimism, without rigidity, without panic, without losing oneself; letting go is a form of optimism, a form of ease, a mastery of human relations, and a maturity in life.

30. 24凡事在成熟之前，都是有苦味的。——赛勒斯

30. 24 All things have a bitter taste before they become ripe. — Cato

31. 成功，就是征服自己。人，不怕渺小，只怕卑微，生活是公平的，要活出精彩，需要一颗奋进的心。以勤为本，以韧为基，尽自己的全力，求最好的结果，行动成就梦想，奋斗成就人生。

31. Success is about conquering oneself. People should not fear their smallness but rather their lowliness. Life is fair, and to live a spectacular life, one needs a striving heart. Take diligence as the foundation and tenacity as the basis, exert all one's efforts, strive for the best results, and action will realize dreams, and struggle will shape one's life.

32. 和苦难结伴而行，我们才能更加体会到幸福的美好；和苦难结伴而行，我们就会懂得更好的把握现在，珍惜拥有；和苦难结伴而行，你的生命将更加精彩……

32. Accompanied by suffering, we can better appreciate the beauty of happiness; accompanied by suffering, we will learn to better grasp the present and cherish what we have; accompanied by suffering, your life will become more vibrant...

33. 面对困难的时候，敢于拼搏的人，才是命运的主人！在山穷水尽的绝境里，再搏一下，也许就能看到柳暗花明；在冰天雪地的严寒中，再搏一下，一定会迎来温暖的春风！相信我吧！只有当你勇敢地面对种种挫折时，只要去顽强地拼搏，成功之神才会微笑地向你走来！

33. It is those who dare to struggle in the face of difficulties who are the masters of their own destiny! In the desperate situation of being at the end of one's resources, a final effort might just lead to a sudden breakthrough; in the severe cold of ice and snow, one more struggle will definitely bring the warm breath of spring! Believe me! It is only when you bravely face all kinds of setbacks and go on tenaciously struggling that the god of success will smile and come towards you!

34. 以后面对的困难我自己也没有办法想象，也不想去想太多，自己该尽的责任要尽，该做的事情要做。要快乐，珍惜亲人，享受生活。遇到合适的男人还要嫁，不要怕。这个世界上，活在别人眼里的，凡事做给别人看的，其身如尸，其心必腐，这种人永远找不到真正的自我。

34. The difficulties I will face in the future are unimaginable to me, and I don't want to think too much about them either. I should fulfill my responsibilities and do what needs to be done. Be happy, cherish your loved ones, and enjoy life. If you meet the right man, you should get married, don't be afraid. In this world, those who live for others' eyes, do everything for others to see, are like walking dead, and their hearts must be rotten. Such people will never find their true self.

35. 笑对苦难，是司马迁包羞忍辱发愤着书的坚毅；笑对苦难，是苏东坡无惧风雨登高抒啸的放达；笑对苦难，是徐霞客壮游天下书写人生的不羁。穿过岁月的风尘，无数先贤面对苦难时所展现的自信放达坚毅智慧，全都化作岁月长河中晶莹的一滴，在历史的天空中熠熠生辉。

35. Facing adversity with a smile is the tenacity of Sima Qian, enduring shame and humiliation to strive for his writings; facing adversity with a smile is the boldness of Su Dongpo, fearless in the face of storms and ascending to express his lamentations; facing adversity with a smile is the unrestrained spirit of Xu Xiake, traveling the world and writing his life. Through the dust of time, the confidence, boldness, tenacity, and wisdom displayed by countless sages when facing adversity have all become a crystal drop in the long river of time, shining brilliantly in the sky of history.

36. 怎么做才会不荒废不浪费天赋，将它培养成真正的擅长？

36. How can one avoid squandering or wasting their talents and cultivate them into genuine expertise?

37. 9每一个人可能的最大幸福是在全体人所实现的最大幸福之中。

37. 9 The greatest happiness of each individual is in the greatest happiness achieved by all.

38. 别人怎么看你，和你毫无关系。你要怎么活，也和别人毫无关系。

38. What others think of you has nothing to do with you. How you choose to live also has nothing to do with others.

39. 43逆境帮助生存，危机提高警觉，困境刺激思维。——余世维

39. Adversity aids survival, crises enhance vigilance, and difficulties stimulate thought. -- Yu Shiwai

40. 43迹多是在厄运中出现的。 培根

40. 43 Traces often appear in times of misfortune. Bacon

41. 我知道苦难无法使人更高贵，反而使人更卑微。它使人自私、猥琐、狭隘、猜忌，它把我们的注意力吸引在细小的事情上面。它没有使人超越人本身，却使人称不上真正的人；我曾残忍地写到，我们不是从自己的苦难，而是从他人的苦难中才学会了顺从。

41. I know that suffering does not elevate a person but rather makes them more humble. It makes one selfish, sordid, narrow-minded, and suspicious, drawing our attention to trivial matters. It does not elevate one beyond oneself, but rather disqualifies one from being truly human; I have cruelly written that we learn submission not from our own suffering, but from the suffering of others.

42. “观察、观察、继续观察”，是艾瑞克森在教学和生活中的一个咒语。他总是训练自己去找出呈现病人长处的隐微线索——能用来解决问题的长处。在某些方面，他接近个案的方式像福尔摩斯一样的伟大侦探。

42. "Observe, observe, continue to observe" is a mantra that Erikson uses in teaching and in life. He is always training himself to find subtle clues that present the strengths of the patient—the strengths that can be used to solve problems. In some aspects, his approach to individual cases is as great as that of Sherlock Holmes, the great detective.

43. 4我们克服了困难，我们就获得了新的力量。——艾默生

43. 4 We overcome difficulties, and we gain new strength. - Emerson

44. 6我更相信，成长教会我们的不仅仅是宽容与感悟，它是一种信念，让我们知道，凋零的可以是花，但绝不会是春天！

44. 6 I believe even more that growth teaches us not just tolerance and insight; it is a belief that lets us know, what may wither is the flower, but never the spring!

45. 有时候，坚持了你最不想干的事情之后，便可得到你最想要的`东西。

45. Sometimes, after persisting in doing the thing you least want to, you can get what you most desire.

46. 7译文：若想把千里的风光景物看够， 那就要登上更高的一层城楼。

46.7 Translation: If one wants to see enough of the scenery and landscapes over a thousand miles, one must ascend to a higher level of the city tower.

47. 25逆境帮助生存，危机提高警觉，困境刺激思维。——余世维

47. Adversity helps survival, crisis enhances vigilance, and difficulties stimulate thinking. - Yu Shiwai

48. 每个人都希望拥有快乐，没有人喜欢苦难。追求快乐是无可非议的，但是，不经过苦难就难以获得幸福和快乐，而经历苦难之后，回味起追求中的种种努力，忽然会觉得一切是那样来之不易，那样甘甜，这才是一种真正的有质量的快乐。

48. Everyone desires happiness and nobody likes suffering. Pursuing happiness is justifiable, but it is difficult to achieve happiness and joy without enduring hardship. After experiencing hardship, when looking back on the various efforts made in the pursuit, one suddenly realizes that everything is so hard-earned, so sweet, and this is truly a high-quality happiness.