独立自主，拒绝依赖。在这个瞬息万变的时代，唯有坚守自我，才能在人生的舞台上独领风骚。

Independent and self-reliant, refuse to depend on others. In this ever-changing era, only by adhering to oneself can one stand out on the stage of life.

1. 弘一法师：“当你真正想通了，你就会明白，在这个世界上，你就是你，你的痛苦只能由你自己承担，你的疲惫也只能由你自己消解。即使有人同情你，那也只是暂时的，最后还是要靠你自己去收拾残局。

1. Master Hongyi: "When you truly understand, you will realize that in this world, you are yourself, and your pain can only be borne by yourself, and your exhaustion can only be alleviated by yourself. Even if someone sympathizes with you, it is only temporary, and in the end, you still have to clean up the mess yourself."

2. 靠山山倒，靠水水流，靠人人跑，靠石头翻跟头。你给别人当依靠，就会被别人不停地消耗，你给别人当大哥，就要给别人摆平一些麻烦事，给自己惹麻烦，你给别人当希望，就会被别人的思想和价值观捆绑，失去了对自我生命的主导权。

2. Rely on a mountain and the mountain will collapse; rely on water and the water will flow; rely on a person and that person will run away; rely on a stone and you'll trip over. If you rely on others, you will be constantly drained by them. If you act as the big brother for others, you will have to settle some trouble for them, which will bring trouble to yourself. If you become someone's hope, you will be bound by their thoughts and values, losing control over your own life.

3. 生命是一段孤独的旅程。

3. Life is a journey of solitude.

4. 不要依靠任何人，要依靠自己独立自主的力量度过余生！

4. Do not rely on anyone, but rely on your own independent and self-reliant power to spend the rest of your life!

5. 没有任何人对你的处境感同身受，你喜极而泣的成绩，别人以为是一种炫耀，你惊天动地的伤痛，别人以为只是随手拂过的尘埃。

5. No one can truly empathize with your situation. When you cry with joy over your achievements, others may think it's a show of arrogance; when you experience heart-wrenching pain, they may regard it as nothing more than a piece of dust to be casually brushed away.

6. 不要依靠任何人，没有人会无缘无故地帮助你，依靠别人只会付出更多的代价。不要让别人依靠你，我们只用渡自己，不用渡别人，一旦把时间和精力花在别人的身上，就会被别人所消耗、所捆绑、所束缚。

6. Don't rely on anyone; no one will help you without a reason, and relying on others will only cost you more. Don't let others rely on you either. We should only save ourselves, not others. Once you spend your time and energy on others, you will be consumed, bound, and restricted by them.

7. 人与人之间没有永远的朋友，没有永远的敌人，只有永远的利益。当你对别人没有利用价值的时候，你只是流落街边的一条野狗，没有人会搭理你，没有人会关心你，没有人会问候你，顶多别人会踢你一脚，嫌你挡了他的道！价值才是我们在这个世界上的通行证，有价值的人，别人都会高看你一眼，都会尊敬你，喜欢你，因为你可以给他带来好处。一旦你失去了价值，哪怕温柔的像一只小猫，别人都会嫌弃你掉毛。

7. There are no permanent friends or enemies between people; only permanent interests. When you have no use to others, you're just a stray dog on the streets, no one will bother to notice you, no one will care for you, no one will greet you; at most, someone might kick you away because you're in their way! Value is the pass we carry in this world. People will look up to, respect, and like those who have value, as they can bring benefits to others. Once you lose your value, even if you're as gentle as a kitten, others will still find fault with you for shedding fur.

8. 不依靠别人，也不允许任何人依靠自己，我们才能活得轻松，活得惬意，活得强大，活得自然！

8. Only by not depending on others and not allowing anyone to depend on us can we live a carefree, comfortable, powerful, and natural life!

9. ​因此，不要依赖任何人，没有光的时候，连影子都会离开你。我们要学会依靠自己，因为只有自己才是最可靠的。生命中最难的阶段，不是没有人懂你，而是你不懂你自己。对待生命不妨大胆些，因为你始终会失去它。因此，我们要学会相信自己，因为只有自己才能真正治愈自己。”

9. Therefore, do not depend on anyone, for even in the absence of light, shadows will leave you. We need to learn to rely on ourselves, as only we are truly reliable. The hardest stage in life is not that no one understands you, but that you do not understand yourself. Treat life with courage, for you will always lose it. Therefore, we must learn to believe in ourselves, because only we can truly heal ourselves."

10. 俗话说，管自己是神，管别人是神经病。我们的能力十分有限，管好自己就已经足够了，那还有多余的能量去眷顾别人？

10. As the saying goes, governing oneself is divine, governing others is madness. Our abilities are quite limited; managing ourselves is already enough. Where does the extra energy come from to care for others?

11. 一个人最了不起的活法，就是管好自己的事，经营好自己的生活，不去依靠任何人，也不允许任何人依靠自己。

11. The most remarkable way to live for a person is to manage their own affairs, manage their own life, not rely on anyone, and not allow anyone to rely on them.

12. 人世间一共只有三件事情，自己的事，别人的事，老天的事。自己的事自己做，别人的事不用管，老天的事不要问。我们都只是普通人，我们的精力是十分有限的，如果让别人依靠你，你就会活得很累，很痛苦，很无助，很折腾，很麻烦。甚至还要出钱出力，并且不一定可以得到别人的认可。

12. There are only three things in the world: your own affairs, others' affairs, and the affairs of heaven. Do your own affairs by yourself, don't meddle in others' affairs, and don't inquire about the affairs of heaven. We are all just ordinary people, and our energy is very limited. If you let others rely on you, you will live a very tired, painful, helpless, chaotic, and troublesome life. You may even have to spend money and exert effort, and there's no guarantee that you will gain others' recognition.