在价值至上、效率为先的现代社会，提升个人价值，实现真正的社交向上，已成为无数人追求的目标。本文将探讨如何通过自我提升，构建优质社交网络，助力个人在职场与生活中实现飞跃。

In the modern society where value is paramount and efficiency comes first, enhancing personal value and achieving genuine social advancement has become the pursuit of countless individuals. This article will discuss how to build a high-quality social network through self-improvement, helping individuals achieve a leap in both their careers and lives.

1. 俗话说，圈子不同，不必强融。

1. As the saying goes, "Different circles, no need to force oneself to fit in."

2. 没有价值，你认识谁都没有用！有了强大的价值，谁都想来认识你。

2. Without value, knowing anyone is useless! With strong value, everyone wants to get to know you.

3. 不要去追一匹马，用追马的时间种草，等到明年春暖花开，无数骏马会为你而来。

3. Do not chase after a horse; instead, use the time you would have spent chasing the horse to plant grass. By next spring when the flowers bloom and the weather warms up, countless horses will come to you.

4. 愿你扎实努力，不负自己，变成一个价值不菲的人。

4. May you work diligently and make the most of yourself, becoming someone of great value.

5. 就像投资，有价值增长点，资本才会进入和扶持。没有价值增长点，原来的资本也会退出。

5. Just like investments, capital will only enter and support when there are valuable growth points. Without such growth points, the original capital will also withdraw.

6. 不再害怕拒绝不要觉得别人拒绝了你别人就不喜欢你之类的想法不要自我pua。

6. Do not fear rejection. Do not think that if someone rejects you, they don't like you, and don't engage in self-PUA (Pick-up Artist).

7. 一次，公司邀请格力集团董事长董明珠讲课，很多人跑过去跟董明珠牌照合影签名。而张琦只是远远看着，她想，我一个小透明，就是跟她合了影签了字，她认识我是谁啊。

7. Once, the company invited Dong Mingzhu, the Chairman of Gree Group, to give a lecture, and many people rushed over to take photos and get autographs from her. Zhang Qi just watched from a distance, thinking, I'm just a small nobody; even if I get a photo and an autograph from her, will she even recognize who I am?

8. 学会换位思考，在做任何事之前都要先站在别人角度去思考一下问题

8. Learn to put yourself in others' shoes and think about the problem from their perspective before doing anything.

9. 一次她到格力去，董明珠一眼认出了她，不仅主动前来握手问好，还邀请她到家中做客，相谈甚欢。

9. On one occasion, when she visited Gree, Dong Mingzhu recognized her at first sight. Not only did she主动 come forward to shake hands and greet her, but she also invited her to be a guest in her home, where they had a very pleasant conversation.

10. 最后一个是我认为最重要的一个那就是提高自信心，社恐的人呢他比较内向害怕与人打交道那也是不自信的表现，其实呢每个人的社交能力都是在后期慢慢培养出来的没有人天生的社交能力就很好我们要提高自信心，不要太恐惧社交最后呢我想说大学是一个小小社会，你要学会说话，还要学会向上社交，但向上社交有个前提是你得优秀，才会遇到优秀的人，大学也注重提升自己把提升自己放在第一位！加油各位大学生们！

10. The last one that I consider the most important is to boost self-confidence. People with social anxiety tend to be more introverted and afraid of interacting with others, which is also a manifestation of low self-confidence. In fact, everyone's social skills are developed gradually over time, and no one is born with excellent social skills. We need to enhance our self-confidence, not be overly afraid of socializing. Lastly, I want to say that university is a small society. You need to learn how to communicate and also how to climb the social ladder. However, the premise for climbing the social ladder is that you must be outstanding, so that you can meet outstanding people. University also emphasizes self-improvement and puts it as the top priority! Keep up the good work, everyone in college!

11. 所以，提升自己的价值，才是真正的向上社交。

11. Therefore, enhancing one's own value is the true way to upward social mobility.

12. 因此，不要浮躁，不要急功近利，上蹿下跳，好好深耕自己，提升自己的价值。等你光芒熠熠的时候，很多贵人都会向你伸出橄榄枝。

12. Therefore, do not be restless or in a hurry to achieve quick success. Avoid jumping around and focus on cultivating yourself deeply, enhancing your own value. When you shine brightly, many VIPs will extend an olive branch to you.

13. 为此，她拿出了辛苦存下的积蓄，买了一只名贵的香奈儿手包。当她小心翼翼参加富太太们的聚会时，还是受到了冷嘲热讽。在这个论富排辈的圈子里，顾佳无论怎么装，都掩饰不住身上的穷酸味儿。

13. For this purpose, she took out the hard-earned savings she had accumulated and bought a luxurious Chanel handbag. When she cautiously attended the gatherings of wealthy women, she was still subjected to sarcastic remarks. In this circle that values wealth and status, Gu Jia could not hide the scent of poverty on her, no matter how she tried to pretend.

14. 贵人不是求来的，是自己的价值吸引来的。

14. A贵人 is not sought after, but is attracted by one's own value.

15. 最后，顾佳并没有被这个圈子真正接受，还中了李太太的圈套，接受了一个濒临倒闭，毫无市场前景的茶叶厂，赔得血本无归。

15. Finally, Guo Jia was not truly accepted by this circle and fell into the trap set by Mrs. Li, taking over a tea factory on the brink of bankruptcy with no market prospects, resulting in a complete loss of capital.

16. 如果你不满足于现在的情况呢你可以试试向上社交遇到优秀的人你就和他成为朋友

16. If you are not satisfied with the current situation, you can try to elevate your social circle. When you meet outstanding individuals, you can become friends with them.

17. 电视剧《三十而已》中，顾佳是一个女强人，精明干练，处世灵活。他的丈夫许幻山生意不太理想，顾佳就想挤进富太太们的朋友圈，寻找强势资源帮助丈夫渡过难关。

In the TV series "30 Years and Over," Guo Jia is a strong-willed woman, smart and capable, and adept at dealing with situations. Her husband, Xu Huanshan, is not doing well in business, so Guo Jia wants to enter the social circle of wealthy women to seek powerful resources to help her husband overcome difficulties.

18. 社交的时候一定要保持社交距离给彼此留一个空间

18. Always maintain social distance when socializing to give each other some space.

19. 著名商业主讲人张琦老师，用她自己的话说，“我就是一个资质平平，长相平平，智商平平的人，我能够有几千万粉丝，线上一年100亿的播放量，是因为懂得聚焦努力。我没有社交，从来不参加任何无效社交。”

19. Famous business speaker Zhang Qi, in her own words, "I am just an ordinary person with average appearance, intelligence, and abilities. I have been able to accumulate tens of millions of fans and achieve a billion views online in a year because I know how to focus and work hard. I don't engage in social activities and never participate in any ineffective social events."

20. 你没有那个价值，就不要去攀扯那个圈子。否则，得到的只能是尴尬，狼狈，和耻辱。

20. If you don't possess that value, don't try to associate with that circle. Otherwise, all you will get is embarrassment, disarray, and shame.

21. 大学生在提升社交能力这一块我认为有很多种方法，现在大学生都是在寝室打游戏讨厌社交其实我也很不喜欢社交但是以后工作出社会一样要社交所以我认为有以下几点：

21. I believe there are many methods for college students to enhance their social skills. Nowadays, many college students are playing games in their dormitories and dislike socializing, and I don't like socializing either. However, after graduation and entering the workforce, socializing is still necessary, so I think the following points are important:

22. 因此，很多文章叫我们放弃无效社交，学会向上社交。向上社交固然好，可如果你是一个普通人，没有过硬的价值，那些牛人、精英、有权有钱的人，凭什么会看得起你，凭什么要接受你和帮助你。

22. Therefore, many articles advise us to give up ineffective social interactions and learn to engage in upward socializing. Upward socializing is indeed good, but if you are an ordinary person without solid value, why would those bigwigs, elite individuals, and those with power and wealth look up to you, why would they accept and help you?

23. 张琦原来是一个小公司的项目总监，工作很忙，很累，但她找准了自己的领域，争分夺秒持续深耕自己，让自己的专业水平和话术越来越优秀。

23. Zhang Qi was originally a project director of a small company, working busy and tired. However, she accurately found her own field, fought every second and continued to deeply cultivate herself, making her professional skills and language skills increasingly excellent.

24. 一个人的成功，离不开别人的帮助。俗话说：“龙上天，都要靠着一棵树”。没有别人的提携和抬举，你就找不到那个性价比最高的上升通道。

24. One's success cannot be achieved without the help of others. As the saying goes, "Even a dragon must rely on a tree to soar into the sky." Without the support and promotion of others, you will not find the most cost-effective path to upward mobility.

25. 大学生嘛都要参加什么活动或者社团多参加社团活动

25. College students should participate in various activities or join more student clubs and associations.

26. 你既然觉得你认为优秀的人那你就应该主动约人，这样也就给你创造了机会

26. Since you think the people you consider excellent are good, you should主动 make the effort to invite them out, which in turn creates opportunities for you.

27. 十多年后，张琦凭着卓越的专业素质和口才，在短视频平台获得巨大成功，而董明珠也主动关注她，成为她的粉丝。

27. More than a decade later, Zhang Qi achieved great success on short video platforms with her exceptional professional qualities and oratory skills, and Dong Mingzhu also actively followed her, becoming her fan.

28. 穷人讲面子，而富人讲价值。你如果没有价值，不可能挤进富人的圈子，富人也不可能让你分享他的资源。即便你厚颜无耻，奴颜婢膝，也只能给富人牵马坠蹬，端茶递水，不会被高看一眼。

28. Poor people talk about face, while the rich talk about value. If you have no value, you cannot enter the circle of the rich, and the rich are also unlikely to let you share their resources. Even if you have a thick face and no shame, or act like a slave, you can only lead horses for the rich, serve tea and water, and will not be held in high regard.