在探寻自我成长的道路上，掌握顶尖自律，提升面对挑战的远见能力，是每个人不可或缺的智慧之光。本文将带领您走进这一心灵之旅，解锁潜能，激发内在的强大力量。

On the journey of self-growth, mastering top-level self-discipline and enhancing the foresight to face challenges is an indispensable light of wisdom for everyone. This article will lead you into this spiritual journey, unlock your potential, and ignite the inner powerful strength.

1. 投资人李笑来讲过这么一个故事：

1. Investor Li Xiaolai once told this story:

2. 心穷的人，嫌你穷，怕你富，恨你有，笑你无。最典型的特点，就是见不得别人好。

2. People who are poor in heart, they disdain you for your poverty, fear you for your wealth, hate you for what you have, and laugh at you for what you lack. The most typical characteristic is that they cannot bear others to be better.

3. 付出是一种因果关系。舍就是付出，是为自己做事的心态，要当作职业做，自己要勇于承担，承担是成长的开始，成长是成熟的开始，成熟是成功的开始。要懂得舍得的关系。舍的本身就是得。付出也就是“舍得”中的舍，先舍再求后得。要想在事业中成功，必须先付出，付出分两种：一种是有目的舍，是为了成事业，为利;另一种是无目的的舍，为求名，求得尊重、支持，换得别人同样的帮助。 在我们的事业中，是个人人为我，我为人人的行业。只有我们每个人都真心付出，全力的去帮助别人，才会得到同样的回报。但付出不能盲目付出。 ①要用对方法。不要有新人进来，表示关心什么都大包大揽，不让其它人插手，也不给别人锻炼的机会。如此下去，将使新人产生依赖性，无法进行很好的能力复制，这样对长期发展是不利的。 ②付出更要有行动。通过你所想的理论知识，付诸到行动，起带头作用，凡事作表率，人人都向好的学习，你的付出才能受人尊重。 ③要重在感情付出。而不是利益上的付出，我们跟朋友们发展，不是局限于业务上的帮助，而是要在工作、生活、感情上的各种帮助。不要没有利益就不做，有利益就尽力而为，这样很容易让别人认为你不是真心对他好，你不是用感情去付出，肯定也得不到下属的真心感激。 古人言：“授人瑰，手留余香”人是在帮助别人的时候最快乐而不是受人帮助的时候，因为你在帮助别人的同时，看到别人成长了，快乐了，这样也能让自己更快乐。所以，付出就是得到别人的支持、尊重、感激源泉。付出也是换起别人帮助你的基本条件，也许你的付出不一定全部都能得到认可和回报，但你不付出将永远没有回报。所以，付出是值得的，是快乐的，也是促使自己成功的动力之一。

3. Giving is a cause and effect. To give up is to give, a mindset of doing things for oneself, which should be treated as a profession, and one should be brave in taking responsibility. Taking responsibility is the beginning of growth, growth is the beginning of maturity, and maturity is the beginning of success. One must understand the relationship between giving up and gaining. To give up is in itself to gain. Giving up is also the "giving and taking" in which there is giving up first, and then seeking gain after giving up. To succeed in one's career, one must first give. Giving can be divided into two types: one is purposeful giving up, which is to achieve success and profit; the other is aimless giving up, which is to seek fame, to gain respect, support, and in return, to obtain others' same help. In our industry, it is an industry where everyone is for me, and I am for everyone. Only when each of us sincerely gives and fully helps others can we receive the same return. However, giving should not be blind giving. ① Use the right methods. Do not, when new people come in, show concern for everything and take over everything, not allowing others to get involved, nor giving others the opportunity to practice. This will make new people dependent, unable to replicate their abilities well, which is not beneficial for long-term development. ② Giving should also be about taking action. Through the theoretical knowledge you have thought about, put it into action, take the lead, be a role model in everything, and let everyone learn from the good. Your giving will then be respected. ③ Focus on emotional giving rather than giving for profit. Our development with friends is not limited to business assistance, but should be in various forms of help in work, life, and emotions. Do not not do something without profit, and do everything possible with profit, as this is easy for others to think you are not genuinely good to them, that you are not giving with affection, and you will definitely not receive the sincere gratitude of subordinates. The ancients said, "When you give a gem, your hands leave a lingering fragrance." People are happiest when helping others rather than when being helped because, while helping others, you see others grow and become happy, which can also make yourself happier. Therefore, giving is the source of others' support, respect, and gratitude. Giving is also the basic condition for others to help you. Perhaps not all of your giving will be recognized and rewarded, but not giving will never bring any return. Therefore, giving is worthwhile, is joyful, and is also one of the motivations that drive oneself to succeed.

4. 远离手穷的人，不要让他消耗你的资源，你才能走得更远。

4. Keep away from those who are poor in hands, do not let them exhaust your resources, and you will be able to go further.

5. 没事的时候，去到书店逛逛，认真的挑几本可以提升自己的书籍买回家阅读，不管是名著还是理财方面的或是激励方面的，都有值得我们学习的地方。喜欢看书的女孩，她一定是沉静且有着很好的心态，因为在书籍的海洋里，女孩可以大口的吸收着营养。喜欢看书的女孩，她一定是出口成章且优雅知性的女人。认真的阅读，可以让心情平静，而且书籍里暗藏着很大的乐趣，当遇到一本自己感兴趣的书时，会发现心情是愉悦的，而且每一本书里都有着很大的智慧，阅读过的书籍都会是女孩社交中的资本，相信没有人会喜欢与一个肤浅的女孩交往。选择了合适的书本，它能够教会人很多哲理，以及会让你学会以一种平和的心态去迎接生活里的痛苦或快乐。

5. When there's nothing much to do, go to the bookstore and carefully select a few books that can help you improve yourself to take home and read. Whether it's classic literature, finance, or motivational books, there are always things for us to learn from them. A girl who loves reading is usually calm and has a great attitude, because in the ocean of books, girls can absorb a lot of nutrients. A girl who loves reading is also a woman who speaks eloquently and is elegant and intellectual. Serious reading can calm the mind, and books are full of hidden fun. When you encounter a book that interests you, you will find that your mood is joyful, and each book contains a lot of wisdom. The books you've read will be your capital in social interactions, and I believe no one would like to interact with a superficial girl. Choosing the right books can teach you many philosophies and help you learn to face life's hardships or joys with a peaceful mindset.

6. 一个人要想成就一番事业，首先要树立成就的心态，也就是要想成功必先立志，敢于梦想，敢于挑战，才有可能会实现。其实我们每一个人都是成功者，为什么说我们是个成功者呢如果你不相信自己会成功就不会努力去做，也就不可能成功。一个人来到世上本来就是一种成功，所以说我们要相信自己一定会成功。为什么有些人不成功呢与外界有关系。 有一则老鹰的 故事 深刻的说明了这道理：一只鹰蛋从鹰巢里滚落了出来，掉在草堆里。有个农夫发现了他，以为是一只鸡蛋，把他拿回家去，放在鸡窝里。鸡窝里 有一只母鸡正在孵蛋，他和其他的鸡蛋一样，被孵化了出来。老鹰和 其它 小鸡一起生活，老鹰不知道自己是一只老鹰，于是每天和小鸡一样安于现状。农夫想让老鹰 飞上天，于是将它带到悬崖上，老鹰只是扑腾了下翅膀并没有飞起来，农夫心想：你是一只老鹰，就应该展翅高飞，如果不是，不如就这样死去好了，他将老鹰往悬 崖下扔去，老鹰使劲的挥动翅膀，终于他向天空高处飞去了。 你是那只不幸沦落在鸡窝里的小鹰吗”如果你是鹰的后代，你应该去追求属于你的蓝天。如果我是一只鹰，就不能活在鸡群里，就应该飞在九天之上，翱翔于太空，这才是我的生活。我要掌握自己的人 生，就要发挥我生命的潜能，活出我的生命意义。所以从今天开始我们就要把自己定义为老鹰，才会有展翅高飞的时刻。我们要成功的话就要远离那些有负面影响的 人，与成功的人交往，与成功的人合作，通过自己的努力，创造属于自己的一片天空。 在我们的事业中，在你选择以后你就是一群老板中的一员，必须怀着老板的心态工作，做每一件事。此时，您会觉得工作非常开心，因为你在为自己工作，为自己学习，任何的制度都变得不是约束，而是指导思想和动力的保障，把每一个上下的朋友都当成是紧密配合的合作伙伴，伴随你成就每一件事情，每一份收获，所以我们 要有积极的进取心，成就感和不断向上的精神，并且不断修正自己，改正缺点，千万不能有病态的心理，总认为工作都是为别人赚钱，给引荐人和上司卖力，明明是老板，硬要把自己当成打工的，这是定位错误，是阻碍成功的心态。如果一个人没有强烈一定要成功的欲望，那他是不会采取任何行动来达成目标的。一个人有了梦想以后，将梦想分为若干个目标，将目标再变成计划，将计划分成每个月的工作内容，然后以成就的心态去做，不是尽力而为的做，而是全力以赴，我相信每个人都能在最快的时间内实现成功。

6. If one wants to achieve great things, the first step is to cultivate a mindset of achievement, which means that one must set a goal to succeed, dare to dream, dare to challenge, and there is a chance of realization. In fact, each and every one of us is a success story. Why do we say we are successful? If you don't believe you will succeed, you won't work hard, and you won't be able to succeed. One's coming into the world is a success in itself, so we should believe that we will definitely succeed. Why do some people not succeed? It has to do with the outside world. There is an old story about an eagle that profoundly illustrates this: An eagle egg fell out of the nest and landed in a pile of grass. A farmer found it, thinking it was a chicken egg, took it home, and put it in the henhouse. There was a hen in the henhouse, sitting on her eggs, and the egg hatched along with the others. The eagle lived with the other chicks, not knowing that it was an eagle, and it lived a life of complacency like the other chicks. The farmer wanted the eagle to fly, so he took it to the cliff. The eagle flapped its wings but didn't fly. The farmer thought, "You are an eagle, you should spread your wings and fly. If not, it's better to die this way," and he threw the eagle off the cliff. The eagle flapped its wings with all its might and finally soared into the sky. "Are you the little eagle that was unfortunately born into the henhouse?" If you are the offspring of an eagle, you should pursue the sky that belongs to you. If I were an eagle, I couldn't live among the chickens; I should fly in the sky and soar through space, that is my life. To take control of my life, I must harness the potential of my life and live out the meaning of my life. Therefore, from today on, we should define ourselves as eagles so that we can spread our wings and fly. If we want to succeed, we must distance ourselves from people with negative influences and associate with successful people, cooperate with them, and through our own efforts, create a sky of our own. In our careers, once you make a choice, you become one of a group of entrepreneurs, and you must work with the mindset of an entrepreneur in everything you do. At this moment, you will find work very enjoyable because you are working for yourself and learning for yourself. Any system is not a constraint but a guide and a guarantee of motivation. Treat every friend above and below as a close partner, accompanying you in achieving every thing and every harvest. Therefore, we must have a positive spirit of progress, a sense of achievement, and a spirit of constant upward movement, and we must continuously correct ourselves, correct our shortcomings, and never have a sick mindset, always thinking that work is for others to make money, working hard for the referee and the boss. It is a wrong positioning to think that you are an employee when you are actually the boss. This is a mindset that hinders success. If a person doesn't have a strong desire to succeed, they won't take any action to achieve their goals. After a person has a dream, they divide the dream into several goals, turn the goals into plans, divide the plans into monthly work content, and then act with a mindset of achievement, not just trying to do their best, but giving everything they have. I believe that everyone can achieve success in the shortest possible time.

7. 有些人好吃懒做，不思进取，贪图安逸，却处处想着占别人便宜。一旦某一天讨不到好处，就会翻脸不认人。

7. Some people are greedy for comfort and lazy, not aspiring to make progress. They seek others' advantages at every turn. Once they fail to gain any benefits one day, they would turn their backs on others without recognizing them.

8. 远离心穷的人，因为他没有格局和成熟的心智，知道什么时候会给你布下陷阱。

8. Keep away from the poor and destitute, as they lack the perspective and mature mindset to know when they will set a trap for you.

9. 不要惧怕显露真实情绪。不论什么样的喜怒哀乐、柔情蜜意，都不应加以隐藏。一个经常压抑、掩藏情绪的女子，会被视为冷漠无情，没有人会喜欢和一座冰山交往；有困难时，应该向朋友求助。朋友会因你向他们求助而感到他们的重要性。他们不但不会轻视你，反而会引为知己，对你更加喜爱；不要斤斤计较。女性在交往中，要心胸开朗，豁然大度，千万别小心眼、小家子气。不要为一点点小事就大动肝火，斤斤计较，甚至在许多场合弄得大家都非常难堪而下不了台，这样会令人讨厌的；女性不要自视清高，在社交中，不能因为别人与自己脾气不同，身份有异，就显示出不耐烦或瞧不起别人的样子，当然也不要因自己的职务、地位不如人家，或长相一般，服饰不佳而过分谦卑，要落落大方，不卑不亢。

9. Do not fear to express your true emotions. No matter what kind of joy, sorrow, love, or tenderness you feel, they should not be concealed. A woman who often suppresses and hides her emotions will be seen as cold and unfeeling, and no one would like to associate with an iceberg; when facing difficulties, it is advisable to seek help from friends. Friends will feel their importance because you seek their help. They will not look down on you, but rather consider you as an intimate friend and love you even more; do not be overly concerned with small matters. In social interactions, women should have an open and generous heart, never be overly cautious or narrow-minded. Do not get extremely upset or argue over trivial matters, which can make everyone very uncomfortable and unable to pull themselves together in many situations, which can be讨厌的； women should not view themselves as superior. In social activities, one should not show impatience or look down on others just because others have different tempers or different social statuses. Of course, one should not be overly humble because of one's own lower position, or because one's appearance or attire is not impressive. Instead, one should be poised and dignified, neither too humble nor too proud.

10. “大肚能容天下能容之事，开口常笑天下可笑之人”， 宽容的

10. "A big belly can contain all that the world can tolerate, and a mouth that always smiles at all that the world finds laughable," is a saying about tolerance.

11. 俗话说：一年之计在于春，一生之计在于勤。

11. As the saying goes: The plan for a year lies in spring, and the plan for a lifetime lies in diligence.

12. 下几种： ① 目标自律，站在追求的角度，设立自己看得见，做的到的目标。 ② 态度自律：也就是把普通的工作做到最好，把自己当主人就能成为企业的主人。 ③ 责任自律：做个勇于承担的“责任人”， 有责任感才能做到知难而进。 ④ 执行自律：高质量的完成上级交付的任务，尊重上司。命有所受，善于执行者总是善于接受批评，并改正错误，把复杂的事简单化，工作讲效益。⑤ 学习自律：在提高中让自己成为不可缺少的一员，因为在学习的过程就是不断各界竞争资本的过程，自满是学习的最大天敌。⑥ 细节自律：也就是小事更要学会自我管理，在细节中求创新，因为习惯反映素质的高低，改掉自己的坏习惯，塑造健康的工作形象。 ⑦ 关系自律：要建立良性互动的工作关系，要追求和谐的同事关系，积极化解同事矛盾，不要盲目的表现自己，用自己的表现多弥补领导的不足。 ⑧心态自律：保持积极的工作心态，要带着一颗感恩的心去工作，勇敢面对敌视的目光及时调整会导致工作心态失衡的愤怒情绪。 只要拥有以上八大自律心态，所有的制度将变成基本的工作标准，将工作标准变成习惯，就不存在是对人的约束，所以自律是团队的灵魂，也是成功的灵魂。

12. Here are several types: ① Goal self-discipline: From the perspective of pursuing, set goals that are visible and achievable to oneself. ② Attitude self-discipline: This means doing ordinary work to the best of one's ability and treating oneself as the owner can make one the owner of the enterprise. ③ Responsibility self-discipline: Be a "responsible person" who dares to take responsibility, and only with a sense of responsibility can one move forward despite difficulties. ④ Execution self-discipline: Complete tasks entrusted by superiors with high quality, respecting superiors. Those who are good at executing are always good at accepting criticism, correcting mistakes, simplifying complex matters, and emphasizing work efficiency. ⑤ Learning self-discipline: In the process of improving oneself, become an indispensable member, because the process of learning is a continuous process of accumulating competitive capital from all walks of life. Complacency is the greatest enemy of learning. ⑥ Detail self-discipline: This means learning to self-manage even more in small matters, seeking innovation in details, because habits reflect the level of quality. Get rid of bad habits and shape a healthy work image. ⑦ Relationship self-discipline: Establish a positive interactive work relationship, pursue harmonious colleague relationships, actively resolve colleague conflicts, do not blindly promote oneself, and use one's performance to compensate for the shortcomings of leaders. ⑧ Mindset self-discipline: Maintain a positive work attitude, work with a grateful heart, courageously face hostile glances, and timely adjust anger that can lead to a loss of work balance. With the possession of these eight self-discipline mindsets, all systems will become basic work standards. Transforming work standards into habits means there is no longer any constraint on individuals. Therefore, self-discipline is the soul of the team and the soul of success.

13. 他刚刚从美国留学归来的时候，一位发小经常来找他，每一次都是大倒苦水，不是说公司领导是畜牲，就是说全球经济形势不好，让自己的事业受到波动。

13. When he just returned from studying abroad in the United States, a childhood friend often came to visit him, and every time he was pouring out his woes, complaining about either the company leaders being animals or the poor global economic situation affecting his career.

14. 乐观心态是，是消极的兴奋剂，积极的发动机。当你在积极乐观的时候保持平衡，当你在消极悲观的时是调整心情的兴奋剂。学会创造快乐，是我们的追求。 人生之路并非坦途一条，获得幸福之路并非心想事成，人生一世能够开开心心地一生，相信这是每个人心中的一个梦。

14. Optimism is both a negative stimulant and a positive engine. When you maintain a balance in your positive and optimistic state, it is a stimulant for adjusting your mood when you are in a negative and pessimistic state. Learning to create happiness is our pursuit. The path of life is not always smooth, and the path to happiness is not always as desired. To live a happy life throughout one's lifetime is a dream that everyone holds in their hearts.

15. 一个人最顶级的自律，就是远离带着穷气的人。

15. The highest level of self-discipline for a person is to keep away from those who carry a sense of poverty.

16. 有些人总说一些消极的话，不是叫苦连天，怨声载道，就是对别人攻击谩骂，好像全天下的人都对不起他。

16. Some people always say negative things, either complaining ceaselessly and complaining about the world, or attacking and cursing others, as if everyone in the world owes them something.

17. 时间已久，这位学生一点都不计较，她随意使用别人的东西，借用别人的饭卡到食堂大吃大喝，手头拮据就和舍友借钱，绝口不提还钱的事。

17. It has been a long time, but this student doesn't care at all. She freely uses others' things, borrows others' meal cards to eat and drink generously in the canteen, and borrows money from her dorm mates when she is short of money, never mentioning the matter of repayment.

18. 易中天在百家讲坛《品三国》出名之后，原本和他关系不错的一个同事，却和他疏远起来，两人的关系变得十分微妙。

18. After Yi Zhongtian gained fame from the "Appreciating the Three Kingdoms" series on the Baajia Lecture Hall, a colleague who had originally had a good relationship with him began to distance himself, and the two of them developed a very delicate relationship.

19. 其实这些问题纯属子虚乌有，查无实据，他本质上不过是对易中天的爆红而心生嫉妒。

19. In fact, these issues are completely unfounded and lack any evidence. At its core, it's nothing but jealousy stemming from his envy of Yi Zhongtian's sudden rise to fame.

20. 远离手穷的人，因为他经常占你的便宜，减损你的生活质量。

20. Keep away from those who are greedy, as they often take advantage of you and reduce the quality of your life.

21. 十一世纪成功的因素是很多，原因也是很复杂的，人与人的成功或失败的因素都是不一样的，现在感悟到了：不管在什么环境下做什么事情， " 心态" 很重要，可以说心态是万物的基石， " 想法决定格局，心态成就未来" ，那么只有我们摆正自己的心态，调整好八大心态，就一定能成功。 台湾励志大师陈安之说过，要成功最简单最捷径的 方法 就是向成功者学习，你没有得到而别人得到了，说明他比你优秀，就要向他学习，老是在那里抱怨、不服从、 对着干，其实是在搬起石头砸自己的脚，最终要毁了自己，还不如调整好心态，向他学习。心态由我们自身主观努力去调控的，心态的不同导致结局不同，心态决定 命运，心态决定成败。在这个世界上，成功者的比例占3%，一般人占了97% ，到底为什么有人会成功，成为这3%的人，有人一辈子却成为97% 的普通人呢差别就在成功者具有强烈坚定的信念和心态，并为之付出了大量的行动!

21. The factors for success in the 11th century were numerous, and the reasons were complex. The factors for success or failure between individuals are also different. Now I have realized that no matter what kind of environment you are in or what kind of work you are doing, "attitude" is very important. It can be said that attitude is the cornerstone of all things, "ideas determine the outlook, and attitude achieves the future." Therefore, only by correcting our own attitude and adjusting the eight attitudes, can we ensure success. The Taiwanese motivational master Chen Anzhi once said, the simplest and shortest path to success is to learn from successful people. If you haven't obtained something but others have, it means they are more outstanding than you, and you should learn from them. If you always complain, do not obey, and go against them, you are actually hitting yourself with a stone. In the end, you will destroy yourself. It is better to adjust your attitude and learn from them. Attitude is controlled by our own subjective efforts. Different attitudes lead to different outcomes, and attitude determines fate and success or failure. In this world, the proportion of successful people is 3%, and the general public accounts for 97%. Why do some people succeed and become part of the 3%, while others become ordinary people for a lifetime? The difference lies in the strong and firm beliefs and attitudes of successful people, and the large amount of action they take for it!

22. 首先，在接人待物上，不要看到有权有势，长得体面的人，毕恭毕敬;对于其貌不扬，位置偏低的人另眼相看，真正的能人从表面是很难看出来的。如果我们面对任何一个人都是同一种态度，同一种表情，同一种方式，那我们的朋友会更多，心态平和，也不会在某些场合出现尴尬。 其次，人生在工作中，切不要做成一两件事情，取得一点小成绩就目中无人，就忘乎所以，认为这个世界没我就不转了，那你会失去很多，团队的帮助，上司的小视，同事的气愤。此时应更多的想想“强中更有强中手，一山还有一山高”有多少能人在无声无息，有多少志士在低调的付出，一定要做到“成不骄，得不喜”的良好心态。而当你在工作中失意时，不要妒嫉，不要有报复心，工作就能变成享受，苦难都能变成快乐。契诃夫说：“要是火柴在你口袋烧起来，那你应该高兴，多亏你口袋不是炸药，当你的手指被扎了一根剌，那你应该高兴，因为这根剌不是扎在眼睛里，当你非常失落，非常痛苦的时候，你也应该高兴，因为你身也还有很多朋友，很多同事在你身边帮助你，既便没有这些，你也应该高兴，因为你有父母给你的一个健康的身体，好的头脑，既便失败，还可重头再来，永不言败。”“不以物喜，不以已悲”、“ 穷则独善其身，达则兼济天下”，保持一颗平常的心，淡看世间的起起落落，让我们终生拥有健康的身体，此乃革命的最大本钱。 最后，告诉所有朋友们，只要保持一种平常心态，就会天天开心，永无失败，永远快乐、幸福。

22. Firstly, in terms of social interactions, do not show excessive respect to those who are powerful, well-dressed, or look impressive. Do not look down on those who are not as attractive or in lower positions, as true talents are often hard to discern from their appearance. If we treat everyone with the same attitude, expression, and manner, we will have more friends, maintain a peaceful mindset, and avoid embarrassment in certain situations. Secondly, in life and work, do not become proud and oblivious to others after accomplishing a few things and achieving a bit of success. Do not think that the world cannot function without you. This attitude will cost you a lot, including the help of your team, the neglect of your superiors, and the anger of your colleagues. At this time, you should remember the saying "The best is yet to come, there is always a higher mountain" and realize that many talents are silently working, and many individuals are modestly contributing. Always maintain a good attitude of "not boasting in success, not getting upset in failure." When you face setbacks in your work, do not feel jealous or revengeful. If you do, work can become a joy, and hardship can transform into happiness. Chekhov once said, "If a match burns in your pocket, be glad that it's not dynamite; if a thorn pricks your finger, be glad it's not in your eye; if you are very down and very in pain, be glad because you still have many friends and colleagues supporting you. Even without them, you should be glad because you have the healthy body and good mind given to you by your parents, and even if you fail, you can start over again and never give up." "Not being overly joyful or despondent," "When in straits, cultivate virtue within yourself; when in ease, benefit the world," maintain a calm heart, calmly observe the rise and fall of the world, and let us have a healthy body throughout our lives, which is the greatest asset of revolution. Finally, I want to tell all my friends that if you maintain a calm and ordinary mindset, you will be happy every day, never fail, and always be joyful and happy.

23. 你可以在所有的时候欺骗某些人，你也可以在某些时候欺骗所有的人，但你无法在所有的时候欺骗所有的人。成功的人必定是高度严谨自律的人，必定是以高标准要求自己的人。 在我们中华 文化 里有一个词叫做“敬畏之心”， 这也是一种通过他律的自律，我们里要善于学习和养成这种常怀敬畏之心的习惯，不管是对于提高个人修养还是做人做事，还是对佛家 “因果报应”的认识，都是成功者一种良好的品格，这样不管身处位，都能做好团队建设。总之，只有每个人都怀着自律的心态来做好自律，就会让我们的思想、行动、结果都统一，才会让我们的团队稳固健康。自律分为以

23. You can deceive some people at all times, and you can also deceive all people at certain times, but you cannot deceive all people at all times. A successful person must be highly disciplined and self-disciplined, and must require himself at a high standard. In our Chinese culture, there is a word called 'the heart of awe', which is also a form of self-discipline through external control. We should be good at learning and cultivating the habit of always having a heart of awe, whether it is for improving personal cultivation, for being a person and doing things, or for understanding the Buddhist concept of "karma and retribution". This is a good character of a successful person, which enables one to do a good job in team building regardless of the position held. In summary, only when everyone maintains a mindset of self-discipline to practice self-discipline, can our thoughts, actions, and results be unified, and only then can our team be stable and healthy. Self-discipline is divided into...

24. 不要和心穷的人来往，因为这样的人内心十分狭小和阴暗，你不知道某一天他会做出什么对你不利的事情来。

24. Do not associate with people who are poor in spirit, as such individuals have a very narrow and darkened inner world. You never know what harmful actions they might take against you one day.

25. 有人说：“没钱只是穷的一种，更多的穷是由思想的贫瘠、人品的恶劣造成的。”

25. Some say, "Lack of money is just one form of poverty, but more poverty is caused by the barrenness of thought and the badness of character."

26. 舍友跟她要钱，她就很委屈的说自己的窘境。而舍友介绍给她的勤工俭学机会，她全都放弃了。

26. Her roommate asked her for money, and she complained about her predicament with a sense of injustice. Moreover, she turned down all the work-study opportunities introduced to her by her roommate.

27. 女孩到了二十几岁后，就要开始学着用心的经营自己了，它体现在自己的外表以及涵养上，每一个女孩都是特别的，都应该有自己独特的品位，可能很多女孩会觉得品位与时尚或奢侈品是挂钩的，其实不是，品味是一个人去观察事物时的态度，同样的东西，不同的人眼光下会出现着不同的版本，物品本身的价值与品位的高低是没有关系的，女孩要用自己的目光去欣赏一件东西，用高级的品味去挑选东西。在某些程度上，一个人的品味与她的气质是相辅相成，品位的高低取决于一个女孩在日常生活里对新事物的发现，品位是自己独特的味道，每个女孩都要有自己的品味，一个廉价的饰品只要戴出了属于它的另类，它也能够表现出自己的品味。平常的时候可以多看看时尚杂志，提升一下自己对服饰等的欣赏度。

27. After girls reach their twenties, they should start to learn to manage themselves with dedication. This is reflected in their appearance and修养. Every girl is unique and should have her own unique taste. Many girls may think that taste is linked to fashion or luxury goods, but actually, it's not. Taste is a person's attitude towards observing things; the same thing can appear in different versions under different people's eyes. The value of an item and the level of taste are not related. Girls should use their own eyes to appreciate things and select things with a refined taste. To some extent, a person's taste complements her temperament, and the level of taste depends on a girl's discovery of new things in her daily life. Taste is a girl's unique flavor, and every girl should have her own taste. A cheap accessory can also show one's taste if it is worn in a distinctive way. In ordinary times, one can read more fashion magazines to enhance one's appreciation for clothing and other items.

28. 贫穷不可怕，可怕的是身上自带穷气。

28. It's not poverty that's可怕的, but rather the poverty vibe that comes naturally.

29. 穷气就像病菌，会以很快的速度传递给身边的人，让大家陷入穷困潦倒的泥沼。

29. Poverty, like a germ, can spread quickly to those around, dragging everyone into the quagmire of destitution.

30. 感恩是我们成功的源泉，“受人滴水之恩当涌泉相报”这是中华民族传统的美德，感恩一切可感恩的人和事，包括坎坷、困难和我们的敌人、对手，因为事物永远不会孤立存在的，没有周围的一切就没有你现在的存在。 我们身边任何一个人都没有义务要帮助我们，我们每一个人都没有权利要求别人帮助，对身边的每一个人都怀有一颗感恩的心，将使我们的成功之路越来越宽，越来越好走，“助人者助已”， 成功是团队的共赢! 我们一定要有感恩的态，感恩就是感恩一切。

30. Gratitude is the source of our success. "He who receives a drop of kindness should repay a river of gratitude" is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. We should be grateful for everything that deserves gratitude, including hardships, difficulties, and even our enemies and rivals, because things never exist in isolation; without everything around you, there would be no existence of the present you. No one around us has an obligation to help us, and no one has the right to demand help from others. Carrying a heart of gratitude towards everyone around us will make our path to success wider and easier to tread. "Helping others is helping oneself," success is a win-win for the team! We must have a grateful attitude, and gratitude means being grateful for everything.

31. 他决定远离这个发小，否则自己的生活也会被搞得阴霾密布。

31. He decided to distance himself from this childhood friend, otherwise his own life would also be clouded with gloom.

32. 嘴穷的人，会给你的生活传递负能量，让你原本的生活质量不断下滑。

32. People who lack eloquence can bring negative energy into your life, causing your original quality of life to continuously decline.

33. 一个成熟知性的女人懂得自我提升，无论是内涵或外在的修养，都要不断地进行丰富自己，学会提升自我价值，由内而外散发出魅力，这种魅力，比浓妆艳抹出的美丽更加久远。那么，女人要如何提升自己呢？

33. A mature and intellectual woman knows how to improve herself, whether it's enriching her inner qualities or cultivating her outer修养. She constantly seeks to enhance herself, learns to boost her self-worth, and radiates charm from the inside out. This kind of charm is more enduring than the beauty achieved through heavy makeup and bright colors. So, how should a woman elevate herself?

34. 女孩到了二十几岁后，就要开始有目的性的去选择朋友，社会中的人脉非常的重要，而你选择加入的朋友圈也会对你的人生有着很大的影响，如果你的朋友都是一些积极向上乐观的人，你也会被他们感染的，如果你的朋友是一个悲观主义者，整天只知道报怨生活，却不会脚踏实地的工作，时间久了，你同样会被感染的。一个好的朋友可以让你的人生有着很大的改变，他会让你变得乐观。女孩到了二十几岁后，要多一些朋友，自私一点也就是说，要多交一些对自己有帮助的朋友，你可以从他们的身上学到东西，但是想交朋友，你就要对他们付出真诚，不要只是为了想利用他们才与他们交往，没有人是傻子，你对别人好与不好，别人也都清楚的看得到。用自己的真诚与那些有思想的优秀人交朋友吧！

34. After reaching their twenties, girls should start to purposefully choose their friends. Social connections are very important, and the circle of friends you choose to join will have a significant impact on your life. If your friends are all positive, optimistic people, you will be infected by their attitude. If your friends are pessimists, constantly complaining about life but not working diligently, after a while, you will be infected by their negativity as well. A good friend can greatly change your life, making you more optimistic. After reaching their twenties, girls should have more friends, which means being a bit more selfish, which is to say, to make more friends who are helpful to themselves. You can learn from them, but if you want to make friends, you should show sincerity towards them. Don't just want to use them for your own gain. No one is a fool; others can clearly see whether you are good or bad to them. Make friends with those thoughtful and outstanding individuals with your sincerity!

35. 最后，所有舍友心照不宣疏远她。

35. Finally, all the roommates inadvertently distanced themselves from her.

36. 当时易中天还是副教授职称，学校考虑给他评选正教授，那位同事却给领导写匿名信，罗列的易中天的一些学术问题。看到匿名信没起什么作用，又实名举报易中天存在生活作风问题。

36. At that time, Yi Zhongtian was still an associate professor. The school was considering promoting him to a full professor, but a colleague wrote an anonymous letter to the leaders, listing some academic issues with Yi Zhongtian. Seeing that the anonymous letter did not achieve any effect, the colleague then filed a实名 complaint (with their real name) against Yi Zhongtian for issues related to his lifestyle.

37. 李笑来都是耐心的倾听，久而久之，他发现自己的情绪完全被对方感染，也开始说一些负能量的话。

37. Li Xiaolai always listens patiently; over time, he found that his own emotions were completely infected by the other person, and he also started to say some negative things.

38. 学习是储备知识的唯一途径，知识能给梦想插上腾飞的翅膀;学习是给自己补充能量，先有输入，才能输出。成功是学习的过程。21世纪是一个“学习、改变、创业”的世纪， 在21世纪你要征服别人，必须用知识。人生最难的是改变观念，想改变观念，也要靠知识。如今知识更新速度快，如果不学习就会被淘汰。任何一个行业，只有内行才能赚到钱。而要成为内行，你就得学习。 有三个杯子，一个是杯口朝下搁着，一个是杯口朝上，可是杯底破了个洞，一个是杯子里头有脏东西。三个杯子都装不了干净的水。杯口朝下的水倒不进去，杯底破洞的边倒边漏，有脏东西水倒进去就脏了，不能喝了。当你抗拒而不肯接受时你什么都没有，学不到也得不到。当你边听边忘时你也许知道，却不是完全了解并可以运用。当你对事情有成见时你就得不到它原来的本质。 三个杯子代表了三种 学习态度 。对于学习态度，大致分为以下几种情况：有人认为，学习是年轻人的事，是学生的事，年纪大基础又差，就不想学习;从高等学府出来的，认为学了很多东西，知识够用了，不需再学习;也有人认为事业有成了，满足现状，有些人对一些新技术、新科学望而生畏，害怕学习，甚至为了不学习而找上很多借口，其实这都是一些片面僵化的认知，是我们人生学习道路上的障碍。 我们面对一个新生事物的时候，首先要摆正心态，摆出学习的心态。不管过去是否成功，都应忘掉过去，从头再来学习。学习不管对刚走出学校的学生还是在社会打拼的成年人，尤其还在社会不断发展的今天的成年人来说，学习不能停止，要保持积极的学习心态，才能立于无败之地。 古人云：“活到老，学到老”、“朝闻道，夕死可矣!” 我们又何必用那些无力的借口去搪塞别人，欺骗自己呢人生路漫漫，社会在发展，不断变化，仅靠学生时代所学的知识远远不够满足社会发展的需要在知识更新建设飞速发展的今天，不加强学习，提高自身修养，将无法跟上社会高速发展的脚步，更无法把工作做好。 总之，只有解决好思想上的认知问题，始终保持进取的学习心态，才能更进一步坚持学习，最终取得良好的成果、优秀的成绩，才能受所有人尊重，真正取得最后成功。

38. Learning is the only way to accumulate knowledge, and knowledge can give wings to dreams; learning is about replenishing one's energy, first comes input, then output. Success is a process of learning. The 21st century is an era of "learning, changing, and entrepreneurship." In the 21st century, to conquer others, one must rely on knowledge. The most difficult thing in life is to change one's mindset, and to change one's mindset, one also needs knowledge. With the rapid update of knowledge today, not learning means being eliminated. In any industry, only experts can make money. And to become an expert, you need to learn. There are three cups: one is upside down, one has a hole at the bottom, and one has dirt inside. None of the cups can hold clean water. The water cannot be poured into the one that is upside down, the water leaks out of the one with a hole, and the water becomes dirty when poured into the one with dirt inside, making it undrinkable. When you resist and refuse to accept, you get nothing, neither learn nor obtain. When you listen and forget, you may know something but not fully understand and be able to apply it. When you have preconceived notions about something, you cannot grasp its true essence. The three cups represent three attitudes towards learning. As for learning attitudes, there are generally the following situations: some people think that learning is the responsibility of the young and students, and those with poor foundations and older ages do not want to learn; those who have graduated from prestigious universities believe that they have learned a lot and have enough knowledge, so they do not need to learn anymore; some people think that they have achieved success in their careers and are satisfied with the current situation, while others are fearful of learning new technologies and sciences, and even find many excuses not to learn, which are actually one-sided and rigid cognitions, and obstacles on our path of life-long learning. When we face a new thing, we should first correct our mindset and adopt a learning attitude. Whether we have been successful in the past or not, we should forget about the past and start learning anew. Learning should not stop for those who have just graduated from school or for adults who are struggling in society, especially for today's adults who are continuously developing. To stay不败之地, one must maintain a positive learning attitude. The ancients said, "Live and learn to the end of life," and "Hear the way in the morning and die happily at night!" Why should we use weak excuses to deceive others and ourselves? Life is long, society is developing and changing, and knowledge learned in school is far from enough to meet the needs of social development. In today's fast-paced construction of knowledge updates, without strengthening learning and improving self-cultivation, one cannot keep up with the rapid pace of social development, nor can one do a good job. In short, only by solving the cognitive problems in thought and always maintaining an enterprising learning attitude can one further persist in learning, ultimately achieve good results and excellent performance, and be respected by everyone, truly achieving ultimate success.

39. 远离所有自带穷气的人，你才有机会变得富足而高贵。

39. Keep away from all those who bring a sense of poverty with them, and you will have a chance to become affluent and noble.

40. 作为女性，在社交场合，必须注意仪表的端庄整洁。在社交活动时，适当地修饰与打扮是应该的。切忌疲疲沓沓，不修边幅。每日洗澡并更换内衣裤，细心地对自己进行清洗。注意身体的保养及呵护，多锻炼，睡眠要充足，饮食要规律健康。

40. As a woman, in social settings, it is essential to pay attention to one's appearance and keep it neat and tidy. Appropriate grooming and dressing are appropriate during social activities. Avoid looking disheveled and untidy. Take a bath and change your underwear daily, carefully cleaning yourself. Pay attention to the maintenance and care of your body, exercise more, ensure sufficient sleep, and have a regular and healthy diet.

41. “成就、学习、付出、宽容、平常、乐观、自律、感恩”八大心态 。

41. The eight mental attitudes: achievement, learning, dedication, tolerance, calmness, optimism, self-discipline, and gratitude.

42. 作家杨天真上学的时候，有一位来自贫困家庭的同学，每个月只有靠学校的助学补助维持生活。舍友都很同情她，经常和她分享一些零食和生活用品。

42. When the writer Yang Tianzhen was in school, there was a classmate from a poor family who could only maintain her living expenses through the school's financial aid every month. Her roommates were very sympathetic to her and often shared some snacks and daily necessities with her.

43. 远离嘴穷的人，因为他可以给你带来负能量。

43. Keep away from people who talk too much, as they can bring negative energy to you.