掌控情绪，人生主记——心非全然，但主导一切

Master Your Emotions, the Main Memoir of Life — The Heart Is Not Entirely, Yet It Governs Everything

1. 如果想成功，就从小事做起，一步一个脚印的向前走。

1. If you want to succeed, start with small things and take one step at a time.

2. 想要内心强大，就要勇敢地去承受挫折，挑战失败，这跟打游戏一样，前期你很弱小，必须从挫折中获得经验，只要达到了一定经验你就会升级，就会强大。游戏再难的关卡你都会过去！

2. To become mentally strong, you must courageously endure setbacks and challenges failure, just like playing a game. Initially, you are very weak, and you must gain experience from setbacks. Once you accumulate enough experience, you will level up and become stronger. No matter how difficult a game level is, you will be able to pass it!

3. 每个时代都有各自不可磨灭的伟大成功者的思想精髓，并以文字的形式将其流传下来。应对世人事业的挫折、精神的荒芜、思想的消极、命运的困扰、生活的无助，他们期望用自我成功经历的点点滴滴因令人，用真实的故事去打动人，抚慰人们迷茫的心灵，为人们指明一条条通向成功与幸福之路。

3. Each era has its own essence of great successful individuals, which is preserved and passed down in written form. In response to the setbacks in people's careers, the barrenness of spirit, the negativity of thought, the troubles of fate, and the helplessness of life, they hope to touch people with the trivial details of their own successful experiences, to move people with true stories, to comfort the bewildered souls, and to point out paths leading to success and happiness.

4. 21只要路是对的，就不害怕遥远，只要认准是值得的，就不在乎沧海桑田。

4. As long as the path is right, one should not fear its distance. As long as one is convinced it is worthwhile, one should not care about the passage of time and the changing of the world.

5. 人生的价值、人生的意义，很多人都在寻找，愿我们从这本书中汲取营养，成就自我！

5. The value and meaning of life, many people are searching for, may we draw nourishment from this book and achieve self-realization!

6. 读《羊皮卷》——我要用全身心的爱来迎接今天，也有几年的时间了，从来没有认真的思考其中的内涵，现在把感悟总结如下：

6. Reading "The Book of the Sealed Scroll" — For several years now, I have been welcoming today with a wholehearted love, but I have never seriously pondered the profound meaning within it. Now, I summarize my insights as follows:

7. “我不是为了失败才来到这个世界上的，我的血管里也没有失败的血液在流动。我不是任人鞭打的羔羊，我是猛狮，不与羊群为伍。我不想听失意者的哭泣，抱怨者的牢骚，这是羊群中的瘟疫，我不能被它传染。”卷三中这样一段话让我记忆颇为深刻。是的，没有人是为了失败来到世上了，都是为了主宰自己的命运，为了体验世界和人生，为了渴求的美好，为了这一切，都在不停的努力着！但是，光有这份心和这个认知还是远远不够，还必须同时意识到，没有什么是可以不费吹灰之力得到了，成功也不是一蹴而就的，要想获得想要的，首先要付出，其次要懂得付出的方式，最后也是最重要的，就是要坚持住！

7. "I did not come into this world to fail, and there is no blood of failure flowing in my veins. I am not a lamb to be whipped at the will of others; I am a lion, not mingling with the flock. I do not wish to hear the cries of the disheartened, the complaints of the discontent, for this is the plague of the flock, and I cannot be infected by it." This passage from Volume Three is deeply etched in my memory. Indeed, no one comes into this world seeking failure; we all seek to master our own destiny, to experience the world and life, to yearn for the beautiful, and for all these things, we are tirelessly striving! However, having this heart and this realization is still far from enough; we must also be aware that nothing can be obtained without any effort, success is not achieved overnight. To obtain what we desire, we must first give, then understand the way to give, and finally, most importantly, we must persevere!

8. 以权交友权倾则情绝以利交友利尽则人散。范宏业

8. Using power to make friends, when power is used, affection ends; using profit to make friends, when profit is exhausted, people scatter. Fan Hongye.

9. 在人的一生中，都是在感性和理性之间保持一种平衡的状态。面对生活的时候，需要时刻提醒自己，理性是不可或缺的。僵硬的理性人生，对于普通人来说是很难做到的，纯然感性生活，却必然将一个人带入深渊。在斯多葛学派看来，好的状态是：“冷静而理性的欲望、面临威胁的理性审慎、惩罚邪恶的理性决心”。在他们看来，智者不会沉湎在情感之中，放任情绪的波动。

9. Throughout one's life, there is a balance between the senses and reason. When facing life, one must always remind oneself that reason is indispensable. A life rigidly governed by reason is difficult for an ordinary person to achieve, while an exclusively emotional life will inevitably lead one to the abyss. In the eyes of the Stoic school, a good state is characterized by: "calm and rational desires, rational caution in the face of threats, and a rational determination to punish evil." To them, wise individuals do not immerse themselves in emotions and allow their emotions to fluctuate.

10. 各种无用的、平庸的思想会经常与你的行动相违。敢于自我挑战的人不应找出不去思考的理由，就像你不应为自我找不去锻炼的理由一样。高额的悬赏是为那些勤于思考、敢于思考，并且能进行创造性思考的人所准备的。太难了，在人类的思想中，似乎有很多都是不可能做到的。但这又有什么呢？我们能理解这些不可能，然而对那些可能之物我们决不可放弃！一向以来，思想都是一部带动人类礼貌向前发展的发动机。

10. Various useless and mediocre thoughts will often contradict your actions. Those who dare to challenge themselves should not seek reasons to avoid thinking, just as you should not find reasons to avoid exercising for yourself. A high reward is prepared for those who are diligent in thinking, dare to think, and can engage in creative thinking. It's too difficult, in the realm of human thought, as many things seem impossible to achieve. But what of it? We can understand these impossibilities, but we must never give up on the possible! Throughout history, thought has been the engine that propels human civilization forward with politeness.

11. 而《羊皮卷》就是如许一本讲述人生法则的励志经典。用感恩的心面临糊口、对峙不懈、自我必定、爱护保重生命、节制情感、连结杰出的心态、正视本身价值，这几年夜主题便组成了《羊皮卷》的精髓地点。我们天天的糊口城市转变陡然——日新月异忘失落昨天，忘失落上月，忘失落客岁；健忘那些愁云暗澹的日子，健忘逐日的掉败和掉望。所有的一切皆成曩昔，新的一天业已到临。曩昔本身盼都盼不来的日子，此刻就在面前：我们要有此掀开生射中新的乐章；我们就要起头从分歧章节中进修成功的庞大奥秘。

11. And "The Book of羊皮卷" is just such an inspirational classic that narrates the laws of life. With a grateful heart to face life, perseverance, self-assertion, cherishing life, controlling emotions, maintaining a positive attitude, recognizing one's own value, these are the major themes that form the essence of "The Book of羊皮卷". Our daily life will change abruptly – we forget yesterday, the previous month, and last year; forget those days of gloom and despair, forget the daily failures and despair. All of that is in the past, and a new day has already arrived. Days that we used to long for are now before us: we should open a new chapter in life; we should start to learn the great mysteries of success from different sections.

12. 可是，哲学家不行，他们要上课啊，不对，他们要理解这个世界，解释这个世界。

12. However, philosophers cannot, for they have classes to teach, no, they have to understand this world and explain it.

13. 9成功的定义有很多种，有的人认为挣很多钱就是成功。而我认为，把简单的事，做得出人意料的精彩便是成功。

13. There are many definitions of success. Some people believe that making a lot of money is the definition of success. However, I think that making simple things extraordinary in a surprising way is the true definition of success.

14. 心理学家罗纳德·波特埃弗隆讲过一个故事：“从前有一对夫妻去登山，遇见了一位年老的智者，智者让两个人坐下，并且告诉他们，可以向他提出任何问题。于是，问他生命的意义，欣然回应。问他幸福的秘诀，侃侃道来。问他宇宙的奥秘，和盘托出。

14. Psychologist Ronald Burt Ehrenberg once told a story: "Once, a couple went hiking and encountered an elderly wise man. The wise man asked them to sit down and told them they could ask him any question. So, they asked him about the meaning of life, and he happily responded. They asked him about the secret of happiness, and he eloquently explained. They asked him about the mysteries of the universe, and he revealed everything."

15. 12其实，每一个人都是幸福的。只是我们太容易把重点放在自己烦心的事情上。所以，我们的幸福，常常在别人眼里。

15.12 In fact, everyone is happy. It's just that we tend to focus too easily on our own troubles. Therefore, our happiness is often seen through others' eyes.

16. 比来读了奥格·曼狄诺所着的《羊皮卷》。开初我总认为这是本写给已在职场中的人们的书，但是读完后我便感觉它不但是一本“贸易圣经”更是一本“人生圣经”。

16. Recently, I've read "The Richest Man in Babylon" by Og Mandino. Initially, I always thought this was a book written for people already in the workplace, but after reading it, I felt it was not only a "trade bible" but also a "bible of life."

17. 生活中，每当自己烦闷的时候，看看它，排忧解烦，没有什么是过不去的坎，人生坎坷会精彩，男儿自强更勉励，东山再起应人才，要学会笑遍世界，笑自己的失败，它们将化为梦的云彩，微笑终将可以换来财富。

17. In life, whenever I feel troubled, I look at it to alleviate my worries and distress. There's nothing that can't be overcome. Life's hardships will be rewarding. A man must strive for self-improvement and be encouraged even more, as the phoenix rises from the ashes. Learn to laugh across the world, laughing at your own failures, which will transform into the clouds of dreams. A smile will eventually bring wealth.

18. 有种流行的误解，认为斯多葛学派是冷漠的人。智者并不是钢筋铁骨，而是血肉之躯。古代斯多葛派一直否认这一点，爱比克泰德《论说集》中说：“因为我们都不应该像一座雕像一样麻木不仁，没有感情，相反，我们应该尽力保持与其他人，建立起来先天或者后天的关系，做一个虔诚的人，孝顺的儿子，友爱的兄弟，慈祥的父亲，守法的公民。”

18. There is a popular misconception that the Stoic school believed in indifference. Sages are not made of steel and iron, but of flesh and blood. The ancient Stoics always denied this, as Epictetus said in his "Discourses": "For we should not be as statues, insensitive and devoid of emotion. On the contrary, we should strive to maintain relationships with others, both innate and acquired, to be a pious person, a filial son, a loving brother, a kind father, and a law-abiding citizen."

19. 情绪可以管理吗？不完全。想到一个笑话：“大象踩着蚂蚁窝，愤怒的蚂蚁全部爬到象背上，象轻轻一抖身体，蚂蚁纷纷被抖落在地，剩下一只蚂蚁死死抱住象脖子，地上的蚂蚁齐声呐喊：‘掐死它，掐死它’。”你能够掐死情绪吗？如同抓住自己的头发让自己离开地面，奔赴月球。

19. Can emotions be managed? Not entirely. Let me tell you a joke: "An elephant steps on an ant hill, and the angry ants all climb onto the elephant's back. The elephant gently shakes its body, and the ants fall off one by one to the ground. Only one ant clings tightly to the elephant's neck, and the ants on the ground shout in unison, 'Squeeze it to death, squeeze it to death.' Can you squeeze emotions to death? It's like trying to pull your own hair to lift yourself off the ground and head to the moon.

20. 你会想，YYDS,有必要这么麻烦？这是一种拆分认知，当你因为孩子的作业始终完成不了，因为伴侣的生活懒散态度愤怒时，可以考虑，当下你的情绪属于哪个分类，对认识和控制情绪非常有帮助。当然，最好还是发泄出来。

20. You might think, YYDS, is it really necessary to go through all this trouble? This is a form of split cognition. When you are angry because your child can never finish their homework or because your partner has a lazy attitude towards life, you can consider which category your current emotions fall into. This is very helpful for understanding and controlling your emotions. Of course, it's still best to vent them out.

21. 从某种程度上说，内心强大和“成功”是正相关的。但成功不是谁都可以的，成功之前，你得能承受挫折，一个连挫折都不能承受的人，又怎会成功呢？

21. To some extent, inner strength and "success" are positively correlated. However, success is not for everyone. Before achieving success, you must be able to endure setbacks. How can someone who cannot bear setbacks ever succeed?

22. 轻财足以聚人，律己足以服人，责宽足以得人，身先足以率人。高攀龙

22. A light regard for wealth is enough to gather people, self-discipline is enough to win people's respect, leniency in blame is enough to win people's favor, and leading by personal example is enough to lead people. — Gao Panlong

23. 我们知道，那些优异的册本授与我们的工具，不是纯真的常识，也不是刹时即逝的刺激，而是保存的自傲和做人必备的才能和勇气，也叫醒我们的心灵，令人对成功果断信心。册本其实不是把外在的工具移交给我们，而是促使我们内涵的工具喷涌而出。奥格·曼狄诺的这本《羊皮卷》无疑会带给你最但愿获得的一切。

23. We know that the excellent books entrusted to us with tools are not pure common sense nor fleeting stimulation, but the preserved pride and the necessary talents and courage for living, which also awaken our souls and inspire unwavering confidence in success. In fact, books do not merely hand over external tools to us, but rather stimulate the inner tools within us to pour out. Undoubtedly, Og Mandino's "The Richest Man in Babylon" will bring you everything you most wish to obtain.

24. 一根最细小的鱼刺也可以扎破喉咙。一只麻雀大小的肉也可能挽救一条危弱的生命。生存无小事，珍惜每一口食物，把它当作救命的一口。

24. The tiniest fish bone can pierce the throat. A piece of meat as small as a sparrow might save a life in danger. There are no small matters in survival. Cherish every bite of food, treating it as a life-saving morsel.

25. 可以这样说，衡量一个人，看见他们恐惧、渴望、愤怒和快乐前的样子，才能认清他们的德性。只有在发生了一定事件，才能有更深刻的体验。蜜月旅行比婚检，更加可以发现灵魂上存在的问题。

25. It can be said that in order to truly understand a person's virtues, one must see them in their state of fear, desire, anger, and happiness. Only through experiencing certain events can one have a more profound understanding. A honeymoon trip is more likely to uncover the issues that exist within the soul than a pre-marital medical examination.

26. 爱比克泰德像一个清晰思路的顽童，类似苏东坡。他把人生当作是玩球的游戏，关键是如何将球玩好，而不是如何赢得球赛。外在之物是无所谓的，而如何运用这些外在之物则不是无所谓的。尘世并不能够腐蚀你，只要坚守信仰，追求德性，其他成就会自然来到，如果能够帮助其他人，就应该保持热情专注，而不是患得患失。

26. Epictetus is like a mischievous child with a clear mind, akin to Su Dongpo. He regards life as a game of playing ball, the key being how to play the ball well, not how to win the game. Material things are of no concern, but how to utilize these external things is not of no concern. The world cannot corrupt you, as long as you hold onto your faith and pursue virtue, other achievements will naturally come. If you can help others, you should maintain enthusiasm and focus, rather than be overly concerned about gain or loss.

27. 7我们之间的距离刚刚好，不多也不少，既能够互相拥抱，也可以随时忘掉。

27.7 The distance between us is just right, neither too much nor too little; it allows us to embrace each other and also to forget about it at any time.

28. 34笑而不语是一种成长，痛而不言是一种历练。

28. A smile without words is a kind of growth, and suffering without complaint is a kind of experience.

29. 用感恩的心面临糊口，面临糊口中的人事物；感触感染世界的夸姣，用所支出的爱净化本身的魂灵，去传染感动其他非己。我爱大志勃勃的人，由于他们给我灵感。我爱掉败的人，由于他们给我教训。我爱贵爵将相，由于他们也曾普通。我爱谦和的人，由于他们不凡。我爱富人，由于他们。我爱贫民。由于贫民太多了。我爱少年，由于他们朴拙。我爱长者，由于他们有聪明。我爱漂亮丽的人，由于他们眼中吐露着凄迷。我爱丑恶的人，由于他们有颗安好的心。

29. Face the struggle of making a living with a grateful heart, facing the people, things, and experiences in life; feel the beauty of the world, purify one's soul with the love one gives, and inspire others who are not themselves. I love ambitious people, as they inspire me. I love those who have failed, as they teach me. I love nobles and princes, as they too were once ordinary. I love humble people, as they are extraordinary. I love the wealthy, for their reasons. I love the poor, as there are too many of them. I love the youth, as they are sincere. I love the elderly, as they possess wisdom. I love the beautiful people, as they reveal a melancholic allure in their eyes. I love the ugly people, as they have a kind heart.

30. 心情不是人生的全部，却可以左右人生的全部。修炼好自己的情绪，千方百计取悦自己，才是最正确的活法。

30. Attitude is not everything in life, but it can influence the entirety of life. Cultivating one's own emotions and trying every means to please oneself is the most correct way to live.

31. 在这本书中，作者所展示的成功哲学是如此地慎密实用而又充满激情，它鼓舞了千千万万的成功人再攀高峰，更激励了千千万万尚在困境中的勇敢者重新获得信心与勇气，一往无前地为理想的实现而不懈努力……

31. In this book, the success philosophy presented by the author is so meticulously practical and full of passion that it inspires countless successful people to scale new heights, and it also motivates countless brave souls still in困境 to regain confidence and courage, to tirelessly strive forward to achieve their ideals...

32. 以前听说过《羊皮卷》，本以为是讲一个故事。结果一看，却发现这是一本励志的书。本书是举世闻名的励志大师奥格·罗狄诺继《世界上最伟大的推销员》创作的又一巅峰巨作。书中包含了一系列知识、智慧、技巧和原则，辑录了戴尔·卡耐基、本杰明·富兰克林等50位闻名遐迩的成功学大师的精华。这些大师们鲜活的成功启示如同一段段支流，读完此书，你将会把它们汇集成为自己企盼的奔流不止的大江大河，当你领悟完时，你会发现自己生活的变化会天翻地覆，身体仿佛有一股成功的体悟在缓缓流动，成功的大门随即为你敞开。真的会这样吗？带着这种疑问和好奇读了此书。

32. I had heard of "The Alchemist's Field Guide" before, thinking it was just a story. But to my surprise, it turned out to be a motivational book. This book is another masterpiece from the world-renowned motivational master Og Mandino, following his "The Greatest Salesman in the World." It contains a series of knowledge, wisdom, techniques, and principles, compiling the essence of 50 famous success masters including Dale Carnegie and Benjamin Franklin. The vivid success insights of these masters are like tributaries, and after reading this book, you will gather them into the endless rivers of your dreams. When you finally grasp them, you will find that your life has changed dramatically. Your body seems to be flowing with a sense of success, and the door to success will then open for you. Would it really be like this? I read this book with such doubt and curiosity.

33. 在《沉思录》中，马可引用了伊壁鸠鲁的名言：“关于痛苦：那些让我们无法忍受的痛苦终究也会夺去我们的生命，而那些长期持续的痛苦是可以忍受的。”重点是说，那些无法忍受的慢性疼痛会终究会杀死我们，所以，只要我们活着，就证明我们有能力承受更多。

33. In "Meditations," Marcus quotes the famous saying of Epicurus: "Regarding pain: those that make us unable to bear them will eventually take our lives, whereas those that persist for a long time are bearable." The key point is that the intolerable chronic pain will eventually kill us, so, as long as we are alive, it proves that we have the ability to endure more.

34. 2人不可能完美，却可以去追求完美，去接近完美。让我们对生活微笑以待，让我们学着改变自己，无愧生命的伟大，生活的美好！

34. Two people can never be perfect, but they can strive for perfection and get closer to it. Let us smile at life, let us learn to change ourselves, and live up to the greatness of life and the beauty of living!

35. 24脾气坏的人往往把天气和风向当作一个借口来掩饰他们那又暴躁又阴郁的脾气。——狄更斯

35. People with bad tempers often use the weather and wind direction as an excuse to cover up their irritable and gloomy disposition. — Dickens

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37. 羊皮卷这本书伴随我快四年了，其中有两年是每天早上坚持朗读，它给我带来了无与伦比的力量，失落失望的时候读读羊皮卷之三“坚持不懈，直到成功”，心情不好的时候读读羊皮卷之七“我要笑遍世界”，浮想翩翩的时候读读羊皮卷之九“我现在就付诸行动”……

36. Sample Review of "The Book of Virtues" 137. "The Book of Virtues" has been with me for nearly four years. For two of those years, I persisted in reading it aloud every morning, which brought me unparalleled strength. When I felt lost and disappointed, I read the third section, "Persevere until Success," from "The Book of Virtues." When I was in a bad mood, I read the seventh section, "I Will Laugh Throughout the World," from "The Book of Virtues." And when my imagination was wandering, I read the ninth section, "I Will Act Now," from "The Book of Virtues"…

38. 《羊皮卷大全》是我之前一直在看的书！这本书是从世界上最伟大的文献中摘选并整理出来的，作者都是近200年来美国各个行业中的成功人士，他们根据自己的经历，循循善诱地向世人告知成功的秘密以及由之所带来的幸福生活的意义。

38. "The Great Book of the Leather-bound Scrolls" has been the book I have been reading all along! This book is compiled from extracts and arrangements of the world's greatest literature, with authors being successful individuals from various industries in the United States over the past 200 years. Based on their own experiences, they guide and enlighten the world about the secrets of success and the meaning of a happy life that comes with it.

39. 这些年夜师们鲜活的成功启迪犹如一段段支流，读完此书，你将会把它们聚集成为本身企盼的奔流不止的年夜江年夜河。当你贯通完这启发人心的《羊皮卷》，你会发现糊口的转变已天崩地裂翻天覆地，身体里恍如有一股成功的体悟在缓结地活动，成功的年夜门随即为你敞开。

39. These masterful success inspirations are like tributaries, vibrant and vivid. After reading this book, you will gather them into the mighty rivers of your own aspirations, flowing ceaselessly. Once you have completed this inspiring "Sheepskin Scroll," you will find that the transformation of life has been cataclysmic, earth-shattering, and翻天覆地. Within you, there seems to be a subtle movement of the realization of success, and the doors of success will then open for you.

40. 自己能够爱多少人，内心能容纳多少人，自己的成就就能到一个什么样的位置，能够容纳3-5人，那就是一个小组长，能够容纳十几个人，可能就是部门经理，能容纳十几万，几十万人，可能就是县长甚至是市长，一生就是由许许多多的经历组成的，有好有坏，最关键的就是在经历这些经历的时候是什么样的心态，是昂首挺胸的迎接挑战，还是畏首畏尾的逃避和抱怨，一切都取决于我自己，我就是一切根源。

40. The number of people you can love, the number of hearts you can hold within you, and the level of achievement you can reach are all determined by the capacity to embrace 3-5 people – that's a team leader. The capacity to accommodate a dozen or so people might make you a department manager. The ability to hold tens or even hundreds of thousands of people could be a county magistrate or even a mayor. A lifetime is composed of countless experiences, both good and bad. The most crucial aspect is the mindset you adopt when facing these experiences: do you face challenges with confidence and pride, or do you shrink back, evade, and complain? Everything depends on myself; I am the root of everything.

41. 如你讨厌一个直接领导，那么不让他察觉到你的真实情绪显然是明智之举。如果你喜欢上一个人，而对方没有意识到这一点，最安全的做法就是让对方慢慢感受到你的爱意，否则容易将对方吓跑。商业谈判中，最好也不要让你的对手观察你的情绪反应，包括打牌、游戏等场合，人都需要一些控制，这些在人际交往中发挥重要作用。这些问题，本质上与善和恶无关。斯多葛派认为可以漠视，也就是无所谓的。

41. If you dislike a direct supervisor, it is obviously wise not to let them detect your true feelings. If you like someone but they are not aware of it, the safest approach is to let them gradually sense your affection, otherwise it is easy to scare them away. In business negotiations, it is also best not to let your opponent observe your emotional reactions, including situations such as playing cards or games, as people need some control, which plays a significant role in interpersonal interactions. These issues are essentially unrelated to good and evil. The Stoics believe that they can be ignored, or in other words, they are not a big deal.

42. 由爱自己推而广之，爱别人。在生活中，工作中，有些人天天抱怨、看谁都不顺眼、全身都是负能量，周围也没怎么有朋友，往往这类人的业绩也很差，运气也很差，根本原因在于：不会爱自己，不懂的欣赏别人，“尺有所短、寸有所长”，每个人都不是完人，要学会欣赏别人的优点。《羊皮卷》说：“想要赞美人时，高声表达要批评人时，咬住舌头”。在团队中也尤为重要，对于员工不能一味的指责、批评、要去发现每个人的长处，并发扬其长处，让合适的人在合适的岗位上做对的事情，效率更高，气氛也更融洽。

42. From loving oneself, extend to loving others. In life and work, some people complain every day, see no one in their favor, and are filled with negative energy. They don't have many friends around them either. Often, these people have poor performance and bad luck. The fundamental reason lies in: they don't know how to love themselves, they don't know how to appreciate others, "each has its shortcomings and its strengths," no one is perfect, and one should learn to appreciate the merits of others. "The Book of Virtues" says: "When you want to praise someone, speak out loud; when you want to criticize someone, bite your tongue." It is especially important in a team. Instead of constantly pointing fingers and criticizing employees, one should discover each person's strengths and promote them, allowing the right person to do the right thing in the right position, which leads to higher efficiency and a more harmonious atmosphere.

43. 搭讪高手 | 搭讪艺术家

43. Flirt Master | Flirt Artist

44. 他们的情绪如何产生，又如何被控制的呢？不管怎样，愤怒和平静之中，都蕴含着人性极端情况，有无可比拟的邪恶和冷酷。

44. How do their emotions arise and how are they controlled? In any case, both anger and calmness contain the extreme situations of human nature, with unparalleled evil and coldness.

45. 19天很蓝，阴云终要散；海很宽，思念也依然；距离很远，朋友藏在心里面；岁月绵延，祝福依旧在心间。压力即使再多，朋友陪伴，愿你安然。

45. 19 days of blue skies, the dark clouds will eventually disperse; the sea is vast, and longing remains; the distance is great, but friends are hidden in the heart; time flows on, and blessings are still in the heart. Even with all the pressure, with friends by your side, may you be safe and sound.

46. 总结一下：首先， 理解情绪需要“智慧”。从进化的角度来看，情绪的作用是帮助个体作出生存和繁衍的反应。在社交过程中能够起到沟通感情，传达意图的作用。在正常情况下，情绪能够帮助我们发挥自己机能，但是，如果情绪的强度过大，或者持续的时间过长，也会产生破坏作用。

46. In summary: Firstly, understanding emotions requires "wisdom". From an evolutionary perspective, the role of emotions is to help individuals produce responses for survival and reproduction. In social processes, they can serve to communicate feelings and convey intentions. Under normal circumstances, emotions can help us perform our functions, but if the intensity of emotions is too great or if they last too long, they can also have a destructive effect.

47. 而《羊皮卷》就是这样一本讲述人生规则的励志经典。用感恩的心应对生活、坚持不懈、自我肯定、珍惜生命、控制情绪、持续良好的心态、重视自身价值，这几大主题便构成了《羊皮卷》的精华所在。我们每一天的生活都会变化陡然——日新月异忘掉昨日，忘掉上月，忘掉去年；忘记那些愁云惨淡的日子，忘记每日的失败和失望。所有的一切皆成过去，新的一天业已来临。过去自我盼都盼不来的日子，此刻就在眼前：我们要有此翻开生命中新的乐章；我们就要开始从不一样章节中学习成功的巨大秘密。

47. And "The Book of Virtues" is just such an inspirational classic that tells the rules of life. To face life with a grateful heart, to persevere, to affirm oneself, to cherish life, to control emotions, to maintain a positive mindset, and to value oneself, these are the major themes that make up the essence of "The Book of Virtues". Our daily lives change abruptly - we forget yesterday, forget last month, forget last year; we forget those days filled with gloom and forget each day's failures and disappointments. Everything is in the past, and a new day has already arrived. Days that we longed for in the past are now within sight: we should turn the page to a new chapter in our lives; we should start learning the great secrets of success from different chapters.

48. 人不必要摒弃一切，应追求自己生命丰盈完美。当然，如果和美德有冲突，应该选择美德。因为生命之中，最优秀的品质在召唤我们，让我们的德性闪闪发光。情绪的目的是为了唤起，激励我们展现自我，突破自我。

48. It is not necessary for people to discard everything; they should strive for the richness and perfection of their own lives. Of course, if there is a conflict with virtue, one should choose virtue. Because in life, the most excellent qualities are calling us to let our virtues shine brightly. The purpose of emotions is to awaken and motivate us to express ourselves and break through ourselves.

49. 17火气甚大，容易引起愤怒底烦忧，是一种恶习而使心灵向着不正当的事情，那是一时的冲动而没有理智的行为。——阿伯拉德

49. 17 The fire of anger is very strong, easily leading to烦恼 of anger, which is a bad habit that leads the mind towards unrighteousness. It is an impulsive act without reason. — Abelard

50. 现在网络如此发达，每天都有各种各样的信息充斥在我们的周围，我们要爱自己，就应该有明辨是非的能力，拒绝不好的信息进入我们的大脑，同时要多学一些有营养的东西来丰富自己，加强专业知识的学习，内心是善良的，积极地，充满力量。有人说“小时候，相貌是父母给的，而长大以后则是自己给的”，就是这个道理，内心充满爱，充满慈善，则表现在面相上是慈祥、面善。内心的美好比身体的健康来的更重要。

50. With the highly developed internet today, we are surrounded by all sorts of information every day. To love ourselves, we should have the ability to discern right from wrong, reject bad information from entering our minds, and at the same time, we should learn more nutritious things to enrich ourselves, strengthen the study of professional knowledge, and maintain a kind, positive, and energetic inner self. Some say, "As a child, our appearance is given by our parents, but as we grow up, it is something we give ourselves," which is the same principle. An inner heart full of love and charity is reflected on one's face as kindness and amiability. The beauty of the inner self is more important than physical health.

51. 这种人往往为了验证自己PUA有没有成功，会对另一半提出非分要求，比如为他打胎，或者是把钱都给他。遇到这种情况，家人们要果断拒绝啊！千万不要为了一个渣男做出伤害自己的事情来！我那个大学同学后来是自己劈腿了，然后甩了这个女孩，还好没造成太大损失，不然后果真是不敢想象！

51. Such people often make unreasonable demands on their partners to validate the success of their PUA (Pick-up Artist) techniques, such as asking them to abort a pregnancy or to give him all the money. In such situations, family members should firmly refuse! Never do anything harmful to yourself for a scoundrel! My college friend later ended up cheating on the girl and then broke up with her. Fortunately, it didn't cause too much damage, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable!

52. 31我就喝了杯奶茶的时间，就一片绿了。深呼吸，调整心态，眼睛一闭一睁，这个月工资没了

52. 31 It took me just the time to drink a cup of bubble tea, and everything turned green. Take a deep breath, adjust my mindset, close and open my eyes, and this month's salary is gone.

53. 理解人的情绪，管理好情绪，是自由安宁人生，迈出的第一步。但是，这是一件非常困难的事情。

53. Understanding human emotions and managing them well is the first step towards a free and peaceful life. However, this is a very difficult task.

54. 很多人的内心不强大，最主要的就是无法很好地控制自己的情绪，总是为一点点小事发脾气，之前有个朋友，他就是什么事都太过于当真，太过于计较，以至于自己的脾气也很差劲，得罪了很多人。

54. Many people lack inner strength, mainly because they are unable to control their emotions well, always losing their temper over trivial matters. I had a friend who took everything too seriously, was too concerned about every detail, to the point where he had a very bad temper and offended many people.

55. 恐惧 指的是对恶的一种预料，包括 害怕、退缩、羞怯、惊恐、呻吟、担忧 等。 渴望 是一种非理性的欲望，包括 希望、厌恶、好胜心、生气、爱欲、愤恨、嗔怪 等。 快乐 指的是面对值得被选择的事物，而产生的一种非理性的激情，比如 沉醉、幸灾乐祸、欢欣、情难自已 等。

55. Fear refers to an anticipation of evil, including fear, retreat, shyness, panic, groaning, worry, etc. Desire is a non-rational longing, including hope, aversion, competitiveness, anger, love, resentment, and scolding, etc. Happiness refers to a non-rational passion that arises in the face of things worthy of choice, such as intoxication, gloating, joy, and being overjoyed.

56. 我们常常不是输给了别人，而是坏心情破坏了我们的思维，降低了我们的智慧，忧乱了我们的判断，从而输给了自己。心若不动，风又奈何。”

56. We often are not defeated by others, but it is our bad mood that ruins our thinking, diminishes our wisdom, confuses our judgment, and ultimately leads us to defeat ourselves. If the heart does not move, what can the wind do?"

57. 身为人民公仆，心系百姓疾苦，切莫一念之差，踏上不归之路。清山

57. As a public servant of the people, with a heart concerned for the sufferings of the common folk, do not let a moment's mistake lead you down the path of no return. Qing Mountain.

58. 其实我们很明白，成功的人中不一定都是聪明的，但是都的有惊人的毅力坚持下来了。我们生活在社会里，会遇到形形色色的人，不一定每一个都能理解我们或者被我们所能理解，总会遇到这样那样的挫折和磨难，而我们所能做的有限，仅仅是坚持住，守住自己最珍贵的东西，一直一直守护者，不让任何人抢了去。以前没有那么多的体会，直到踏上社会，开始工作，才发现，人看似平等，但真的是有很多区别的。别的不说，光天分和性格上就有很大的差别，做事情似乎总是不如别人那样花的时间少，做的事情却很好。其实一件事情的结局无非只有两个，要么完成预期目标，要么未完成预期目标。但是做一件事情的过程却可以有不同的方案，甚至彼此间可能会千差万别到截然相反。然而无论最后是什么样的结果，在做这件事的过程中，能够让人体会到很多的东西，从中学习到很多的东西。对我而言这就足够了，每个人的能力是不同的，虽然原来的起点可能都是一样的，但后来为什么不一样？因为他们所接触过的事情，各自采取了不同的方案去实现，经历的过程是不同的，从中体会到的东西更是不一样的。

58. In fact, we are well aware that not all successful people are necessarily smart, but they all possess惊人的 perseverance that allows them to persist. We live in a society where we encounter a variety of people, not everyone can understand us, or vice versa, and we will inevitably encounter all sorts of setbacks and hardships. Our options are limited; we can only hold on, protect our most precious things, and keep guard over them, ensuring no one takes them away. I didn't have so much insight before entering society and starting to work, until I realized that people may seem equal on the surface, but there are really many differences. To put it simply, there are great differences in talent and personality; it seems that we always spend less time on things than others, yet the outcomes are impressive. In reality, the outcome of a task is usually just two: either achieving the expected goal or not. However, the process of doing a task can have different approaches, and even be so different from each other that they are completely opposite. Regardless of the final outcome, the process of doing this task can allow people to experience many things and learn a lot from it. For me, that is enough. Everyone has different abilities. Although everyone may have the same starting point, why are there differences later on? It's because they have encountered different things, taken different approaches to achieve their goals, experienced different processes, and therefore have gained different insights.

59. 基本情绪组合以后，能产生更加复杂的情绪。如果你找一本英文辞典，可以发现有500多个与情绪有关的词语，康熙辞典的呢，会更多。复杂的情绪究竟有什么用呢？让人的精神生活更加丰富多彩？还是为了让世界拥有更多故事？

59. After combining the basic emotions, more complex emotions can be produced. If you look at an English dictionary, you can find over 500 words related to emotions, and the Kangxi Dictionary has even more. What is the use of these complex emotions? Are they to make people's spiritual lives more colorful and rich? Or are they to give the world more stories?

60. 控制自己的情绪。-别让别人以为你还没有长大。

60. Control your emotions. - Don't let others think you haven't grown up yet.

61. 我们不妨将自己的好运看作让他人也享受幸运的契机，而非一项权利;将我们的优势看作是取得更加辉煌成就的踏板，而非摆脱辛勤工作和个人挑战的一块挡箭牌。

61. Let us regard our good fortune not as a right but as an opportunity to let others also enjoy luck; let our advantages be seen as stepping stones to even greater achievements, rather than shields to escape hard work and personal challenges.

62. 痛苦 是灵魂的一种非理性的退缩，它其中又包含着 怨恨、悲悯、羡慕、妒忌、烦恼、忧愁、悲痛、苦恼、狂乱 等。克律西波斯将感情分类了70种，荻野弘之认为，如同欧几里得研究的《几何原本》，斯多葛哲学家构建了一个独特的伦理学体系。

62. Pain is an irrational withdrawal of the soul, which includes resentment, compassion, envy, jealousy,烦恼, worry, grief, distress, and madness, etc. Chrysippus classified emotions into 70 types, and Hiroyuki Okumura believes that, just like Euclid's "Elements," Stoic philosophers constructed a unique ethical system.

63. 我们要做的是，不要因为可怕的印象而加重我们痛苦，并告诉自己一些可怕的灾难即将发生。智者也会在危险面前颤抖，重要的是他坚持自己的理性能力，接受并超越这些感受，表现出自我控制能力。他没有被快乐的诡魅歌声所陶醉，也不惧怕痛苦的毒刺。

63. What we need to do is not to exacerbate our suffering due to terrifying impressions and to tell ourselves that terrible disasters are about to happen. Even the wise tremble in the face of danger; what is important is that they persist in their ability to reason, accept, and transcend these feelings, displaying self-control. They are not enchanted by the deceitful songs of happiness, nor are they afraid of the poisoned thorns of pain.

64. 11天空开始放晴，微风划过，如此轻柔，想每次你偷亲我的脸颊一样，我笑了，仅仅是因为想起了你。

64. On the eleventh day, the sky began to clear, with a gentle breeze passing by, so tenderly, just like your stealthy kisses on my cheek, I smiled, simply because I thought of you.

65. 21其实，每一个人都是幸福的。只是我们太容易把重点放在自己烦心的事情上。所以，我们的幸福，常常在别人眼里。

65. In fact, everyone is happy. It's just that we tend to focus too easily on our own烦恼 things. Therefore, our happiness is often seen by others.