在生命的高峰之巅，自律、坚韧、坚持，铸就通往成功之路。每一个梦想的起航，都是对自我的挑战，是对未来的期许。

At the peak of life, self-discipline, resilience, and perseverance pave the way to success. Every launch of a dream is a challenge to oneself, and a hope for the future.

1. 人生最顶级的自律，在于戒色，戒斗，戒得。

1. The highest level of self-discipline in life lies in refraining from lust, contention, and greed.

2. 年少之时，血气还未成熟，应该力戒色欲。年少肾气未充，骨髓未满，正是长身体、长智慧的关键时期，如果不谨而纵欲，则就像在砍伐生命之树，或戕害了身体，或败毁了德行，也耽误了大好时光，会使你一辈子一事无成。色不仅是指色情，也包括一切人间的诱惑。

2. In one's youth, when the blood and qi have not yet matured, one should strictly avoid sexual desires. At this stage when the kidney qi is not yet full and the骨髓 has not filled, it is the key period for growing physically and intellectually. If one is not cautious and indulges in desire, it is as if cutting down the tree of life, either harming the body or destroying one's virtue, and also wasting the prime of one's life, which may lead to a lifetime of accomplishing nothing. "Desire" not only refers to sexual desire but also includes all kinds of human temptations.

3. 他日，驴一鸣，虎大骇，远遁，以为且噬己也，甚恐。然往来视之，觉无异能者，益习其声，又近出前后，终不敢搏。稍近益狎，荡倚冲冒，驴不胜怒，蹄之。虎因喜，计之曰：“技止此耳！”因跳踉大阚（加口字旁），断其喉，尽其肉，乃去。

3. On another day, when the donkey brayed, the tiger was greatly frightened and ran away, thinking that it was about to bite him, and was very scared. However, upon going back and forth to inspect it, it noticed no special abilities, and gradually became accustomed to its sound. It approached and retreated several times, but never dared to attack. As it grew closer, it became more familiar and even dared to lean against and charge at it. The donkey could not bear the anger any longer and kicked it with its hooves. The tiger was delighted and thought to itself, "Its skill is limited to this!" Then it leaped up and roared loudly, severed its throat, ate all its flesh, and then left.

4. 柳宗元写过一篇寓言《蝜蝂传》。有一种叫蝜蝂的小虫，非常贪婪，见到什么东西都要抓过来放在背上，背上的东西已经越来越多，都已经步履蹒跚了，它仍然不断给自己堆积东西。

4. Liu Zongyuan wrote an allegorical fable called "The Story of the Ant-like Insect". There is a small insect called the "ant-like insect" which is extremely greedy. Whenever it sees something, it will grab it and place it on its back. The things on its back have accumulated so much that it has become limping, yet it still continues to pile on more things.

5. 人性的一个弱点，就是见不得别人比自己好。我们总想通过自己的努力或者其他渠道，高别人一头。

5. One of the weaknesses of human nature is the inability to bear others being better than oneself. We always want to surpass others through our own efforts or other means.

6. 你拥有的东西越多，负担越多，心灵受到的束缚也就越多。学会放下，顺其自然，清心寡欲，不被名缰利锁捆绑，不在患得患失之中自寻烦恼，才是最顶级的生活。

6. The more things you own, the heavier the burden, and the more constraints your soul faces. Learning to let go, go with the flow, maintain a tranquil mind with few desires, not being bound by fame and wealth, and not seeking烦恼 in the midst of fear of loss and gain, is the most superior way of life.

7. 人是为自己而活，又何必活在别人的眼光里。处处与别人攀比，本质上是跟自己较劲，自堕苦海沉沦不起。

7. People live for themselves; why should they live according to others' eyes? Constantly comparing oneself with others is essentially a struggle with oneself, leading to a downward spiral into the abyss of suffering.

8. 这里面提到了人的一生，少年时要戒万事万物的诱惑，懂得取舍，不要轻易被事物迷惑；青年时，血气方刚，遇事不要好斗，凡事要静下心来思考，做到三思而后行；老年时，人生阅历多，需要沉浸，戒贪，世间往往就是一个贪字害了人的一生，知足常乐，达到自己力所能及的事，不要过分贪图，更不要贪念不属于自己的事物。

8. This text mentions the whole life of a person. In the youth, one should refrain from being tempted by all kinds of things, learn to make choices, and not be easily deceived by objects. In the youth, with strong blood and vigor, one should not be eager to fight when facing things, but rather calm down and think about it, doing threefold consideration before acting. In old age, with abundant life experiences, one needs to immerse oneself in the present, refrain from greed. Often, it is the greed that ruins a person's whole life. Be content with what one has, accomplish what one is capable of, and do not overly pursue, nor be greedy for things that do not belong to you.

9. 年 老之时，血气已衰，在这个阶段，人更重要的是保持一颗平常心，正确对待得与失。因为人一生的辉煌阶段已慢慢过去，人不能总活在过去的辉煌中，应平淡对待利 益得失，快乐生活，颐养天年。

9. In old age, when one's vital energy has declined, it is more important for a person to maintain a calm and composed mind and to correctly treat gains and losses. Because the brilliant stage of a person's life has gradually passed, one cannot always live in the glory of the past. One should treat the gains and losses of life with a calm attitude, live a happy life, and enjoy the years of longevity.

10. 人生所有不幸福的根源，都是因为欲望太多。心中若有桃花源，何处不是水云间。心中若总是充满着各种各样的欲望，到处都是无间地狱，苦不堪言。

10. The root of all unhappiness in life is due to too many desires. If there is a Peach Blossom Spring in one's heart, where is not a place of water and clouds. If one's heart is always filled with all sorts of desires, everywhere is an unending hell, unbearable in suffering.

11. 懂得戒，才能得。唯自律者能自由，共勉。

11. Understanding the art of forbearance is the key to attaining. Only those who practice self-discipline can truly be free. Let us encourage each other.

12. 由是鼠相告，皆来某氏，饱食而无祸。某氏室无完器，椸无完衣，饮食大率鼠之余也。昼累累与人兼行，夜则窃啮斗暴，其声万状，不可以寝，终不厌。

12. Therefore, the rats informed each other, and they all came to the house of Mr. So, and they ate to their fill without any trouble. Mr. So's house had no complete utensils, and the racks were without a complete set of clothes; their food and drink were mostly leftovers from the rats. During the day, they would move about with people, but at night, they would stealthily gnaw and fight, making a myriad of sounds that made it impossible to sleep; yet, they never seemed to tire of it.

13. 说到戒与色这个词，你的第一反应可能是朱八戒在《西游记》中调戏嫦娥仙子后被取名为八戒的故事；或者李连杰主演的**《少林寺》不能和牧羊女呆在一起，最终留下了一道谨慎的伤疤，孔子在这里说的是我们年轻时的意思，我们都是朝气蓬勃的年轻人或是充满渴望的年轻女孩。我们对异性有着朦胧而美丽的遐想。这是正常的生理现象。但如果你过于沉迷于对异性的想象，你就会犯一个大错至少伤害你的身体，不可逆转地改变你的人生道路。

13. When it comes to the word "abstinence" and "sex," your first reaction might be the story of Zhu Bajie in "Journey to the West," who was named Bajie after teasing the Moon Goddess; or the scene in "Fist of Legend" starring Jet Li, where he couldn't stay with the shepherdess and eventually left a cautious scar. Confucius is talking about the meaning of "young" here, referring to us as spirited young people or longing young girls. We have ambiguous and beautiful daydreams about the opposite sex. This is a normal physiological phenomenon. But if you become overly immersed in imagining the opposite sex, you will make a big mistake, at least harming your body, and irreversibly altering the path of your life.

14. 人的欲望是无穷无尽的，少年戒“色”，其实就是是一种节制的生活态度。因为节制，所以淡然；因为简朴，所以安乐。于是，我们也终于能够明白孔子对颜回的那段赞美：“一箪食，一瓢饮，在陋巷，人不堪其忧，回也不改其乐。”简陋的小屋，一箪食，一瓢水……

14. Human desires are endless, and the renunciation of "passion" in youth is actually a form of life attitude characterized by moderation. Because of moderation, one is calm; because of simplicity, one is happy. Therefore, we can finally understand Confucius' praise of Yan Hui: "With only a bowl of food and a scoop of drink, in a dilapidated alley, others cannot bear the distress, but Hui does not change his joy." A shabby little house, a bowl of food, a scoop of water...

15. 结果，蝜蝂不堪重负，摔落山谷，一命呜呼。

15. As a result, the ant-like creature was overburdened and fell into the valley, where it breathed its last.

16. 90岁，就要挂在墙上了。

16. At 90, it's time to be hung on the wall.

17. 三年，麋出门，见外犬在道甚众，走欲与为戏。外犬见而喜且怒，共杀食之，狼藉道上。麋致死不悟。

17. After three years, the elk went out and saw a large number of wild dogs on the path, and wanted to play with them. The wild dogs saw this and were both happy and angry, and they all killed and ate the elk, leaving a mess on the path. The elk died without understanding what had happened.

18. 据我所知，戒色应该是说年少时如果过度沉迷于对异性的浮想联翩，就会铸成大错轻则伤害自己的身体，重则对人生轨迹有着不可逆转的改变。 所以孔子的君子三戒:少戒色，中戒斗，老戒得，戒色列为第一。

18. As far as I know, "abstaining from lust" should refer to the fact that if one is overly indulged in daydreams about the opposite sex during youth, it can lead to great mistakes. The consequences can be mild, such as harming one's own body, or severe, with irreversible changes to the trajectory of one's life. Therefore, Confucius' three warnings for gentlemen: young men should abstain from lust, middle-aged men should abstain from disputes, and elderly men should abstain from greed, with abstaining from lust being the first on the list.

19. 黔无驴，有好事者船载以入。至则无可用，放之山下。虎见之，庞然大物也，以为神。蔽林间窥之，稍出近之，\\\\\\然莫相知。

19. There was no donkey in Qiannan, but a well-intentioned person loaded one onto a boat to bring it in. When it arrived, it was of no use, so it was set free on the mountain. The tiger saw it and thought it was a divine creature. It hid in the woods to watch it, and gradually approached it, but neither of them knew each other well.

20. 不管多么厉害的人，必须放下贪念，才能活得自由美好。

20. No matter how formidable a person may be, they must let go of their greed in order to live a free and beautiful life.

21. 戒除占有欲，我们才能活得更好。

21. By giving up the desire for possession, we can live a better life.

22. 只是为了显示自己的优越感，不惜铺张浪费，骄奢淫逸，令人发指。

22. It is merely to show off their sense of superiority that they are willing to be extravagant, luxurious, and licentious to an intolerable degree.

23. 临江之人，畋得麋麑，畜之。入门，群犬垂涎，扬尾皆来，其人怒怛之自是日抱就犬，习示之，稍使与之戏。积久，犬皆如人意。麋麑稍大，忘己之麋也，以为犬良我友，抵触偃仆益狎。犬畏主人，与之俯仰甚善。然时啖其舌。

23. A man living by the river once hunted a fawn and kept it. Upon entering the house, the dogs drooled with longing, wagging their tails and coming towards him. The man was angry and scared, but from that day on, he held the fawn close to the dogs, teaching them and gradually letting them play together. Over time, the dogs became as the man wished. As the fawn grew older, it forgot that it was a fawn, thinking that the dogs were good friends to it, and it became more intimate with them, often pushing and falling. The dogs, however, respected the master and played with the fawn very well. But sometimes the fawn would bite its own tongue.

24. 《论语》云：“君子食无求饱，居无求安。”衣食用度无需奢华，能维持正常生活所需，足矣。孔子三岁丧父，十七岁丧母，上面还有一个残疾哥哥需要照料。生活虽然艰苦，但是小小少年却励志求学，安贫乐道：“饭蔬食，饮水，曲肱而枕之，乐亦在其中矣。不义而富且贵于我如浮云。”

24. The Analects says: "A gentleman does not seek to be well-fed, nor does he seek comfort in his dwelling." The clothing and food should not be luxurious, as long as they meet the basic needs for a normal life, that is enough. Confucius lost his father at the age of three and his mother at the age of seventeen. He also had an older brother who was disabled and needed his care. Although life was hard, the young boy was determined to pursue knowledge and was content with poverty and the path of righteousness: "Eat vegetables, drink water, lean on the crooked arm and rest my head on it, and joy is found within. Wealth and honor gained through injustice are as fleeting as clouds to me."

25. 60岁，退休了，政治生命就终结了，别人不会喊你领到了，喊你老赵老李，你要学会接受。

25. At 60 years old, once retired, your political career comes to an end. People will no longer call you by your title, but instead by your personal name, like Old Zhao or Old Li. You should learn to accept this.

26. 数岁，某氏徙居他州。后人来居，鼠为态如故。其人曰：“是阴类恶物也，盗暴尤甚，且何以至是乎哉？”假五六猫，阖门，撤瓦灌穴，购僮罗捕之。杀鼠如丘，弃之隐处，臭（上自下死）数月乃已。

26. After several years, a certain family moved to another province. When later generations moved in, the rats continued to act as they had before. The person said, "These are evil creatures of the shadowy kind, they are especially greedy and violent, and how have they come to be so numerous?" They borrowed five or six cats, closed the doors, removed the tiles to pour water into the holes, and hired a boy to catch them. They killed the rats by the heap, and discarded them in a hidden place, and the smell (from the dead above) lasted for several months before it subsided.

27. 70岁，朋友圈也没有了，孤独是人生的常态，你要学会悦纳。

27. At 70 years old, you no longer have a circle of friends, loneliness is the norm of life, you need to learn to embrace it.

28. 在别人看来，这样的生活黯淡无光，乏善可陈。但是，这就是颜回的全部。苦行僧般的日子不仅没有让他感受到忧愁，反而用积极阳光的心态去面对，活得更加快乐洒脱。贪图享受，欲望就会被不断强化，心智也会日渐迷失。

28. To others, such a life seems dull and unremarkable. However, this is the entirety of Yan Hui's life. Days lived like a mendicant did not bring him sorrow; instead, he faced them with a positive and sunny attitude, leading a happier and more carefree life. Pursuit of pleasure only strengthens desires continuously, and the mind can easily become lost.

29. 三十以后的壮年时期，血气方刚，容易为情、为名、为利、为面子、为女人（或男人）而与别人 发生争斗，这种争斗大部分是情绪化的，不是理智的，应该力戒这种争斗。如果刚勇斗狠，则或一朝之忿而死于非命，或甚至弄刀动枪而祸及社会。

29. In the prime of life after the age of thirty, when one is full of vigor and blood, they are prone to disputes over emotions, reputation, wealth, face, and women (or men). Most of these disputes are emotional rather than rational, and one should endeavor to avoid such conflicts. If one is overly bold and aggressive, they might meet an untimely death due to a moment of anger, or even lead to social unrest through resorting to weapons.

30. 永有某氏者，畏日，拘忌异甚。以为己生岁直子，鼠，子神也，因爱鼠，不畜猫犬，禁僮勿击鼠。仓廪庖厨，悉以恣鼠不问。

30. There was a person named Yong You, who was extremely afraid of the sun and had numerous taboos. He believed that his year of birth was the sign of the son, which is represented by the rat, and therefore revered the rat. As a result, he did not keep cats or dogs, and he forbade the servants to kill rats. He allowed the rats to roam freely in granaries, storehouses, and kitchens without any interference.

31. 随着年龄渐大，蓦然发现，辟邪剑谱就是一个寓言，一个人只有严格控制色欲，摆脱对情色的迷恋，才能连接起天地宇宙的强大能量，做出一番事业。如果总是想着下半身那点事，心猿意马，心浮气躁，怎么能够集中力量攻坚克难？

31. As I grow older, I suddenly realize that the辟邪剑谱 is an allegory. One must strictly control one's desires, free oneself from the obsession with sensual pleasures, in order to connect with the powerful energy of the universe and the cosmos, and achieve great undertakings. If one is always preoccupied with trivial matters below the waist, with one's mind wandering and restless, how can one concentrate and overcome difficulties?

32. 80岁，家人也不想搭理你了，你也学会释然。

32. At 80 years old, even your family doesn't want to bother with you anymore, and you've also learned to let go.

33. 这必须是关于禁欲的具体方法。儒家思想注重自律与和平。修身养性之后，就是要管家，然后治国安世。因此，这里的戒指颜色与佛教中的戒指颜色有一定的区别，它不指女性性别。一般来说，禁欲确实意味着男人成年后需要控制自己的血精。他应该遵守生理规律，决不透支。否则，对身体会有很坏的影响。孔子还希望广大青年能够把精力投入到学习和工作中去。一旦进入良性循环，在不久的将来会有丰富的生活果实等着你去收获。

33. This must be about the specific method of celibacy. Confucian thought emphasizes self-discipline and peace. After cultivating one's self and refining one's character, the next step is to manage the household and then govern the country and maintain peace in the world. Therefore, the color of the ring here differs from that of the rings in Buddhism, as it does not indicate the gender of women. Generally speaking, celibacy indeed means that men need to control their seminal fluids after they reach maturity. They should adhere to the physiological laws and never overexert. Otherwise, it will have very negative effects on the body. Confucius also hopes that the majority of young people can invest their energy in studying and working. Once entering a virtuous cycle, there will be abundant fruits of life waiting for you to harvest in the near future.

34. 年少时看《笑傲江湖》，嘲笑那些处心积虑寻找辟邪剑谱的人，因为“欲练此功，必先自宫”，如果不割掉命根子，彻底戒除色欲，绝不可能练成这种绝世神功。

34. In my youth, while watching "The Smiling, Proud Wanderer," I mocked those who were desperately searching for the辟邪剑谱 (Bi Xie Sword Manual), because it was said, "To practice this skill, one must first castrate oneself." It was believed that without cutting off the root of one's life and completely renouncing sexual desires, it was impossible to master such an extraordinary martial art skill.

35. 噫，形之庞也类有德，声之宏也类有能，向不出其技，虎虽猛，疑畏卒不敢取；今若是焉，悲夫！

35. Alas, the grandeur of its form resembles that of a noble, and the loudness of its voice suggests a powerful presence. If it had not displayed its prowess, even though the tiger is ferocious, it would have been suspicious and fearful and would not have dared to take it on. Now, however, this is what has happened. What a tragedy!

36. 戒色，是一个人走向成功的开始。

36. Abstaining from lust is the beginning of a person's path to success.

37. 温柔乡，英雄冢。

37. Land of tenderness, hero's grave.

38. 西晋时期，大臣石崇和国舅王凯斗富。王恺饭后用糖水洗锅，石崇便用蜡烛当柴烧；王恺做了四十里的紫丝布步障，石崇便做五十里的锦步障；石崇用赤石脂涂墙壁，王恺便用花椒。

38. During the Western Jin Dynasty, the minister Shi Chong and his mother-in-law's brother Wang Kai engaged in a competition of wealth. After dinner, Wang Kai used sugar water to wash his pots, and Shi Chong responded by burning candles as firewood; Wang Kai made a purple silk curtain barrier for forty miles, and Shi Chong made a brocade curtain barrier for fifty miles; Shi Chong painted the walls with red stone wax, and Wang Kai replied by using Sichuan pepper.

39. 人人都有攀比心。

39. Everyone has a sense of comparison.

40. 现在讲青年，一般是指从童年到青年中年的时期。在这段时间内，人的身心发育会出现继发性，继发性征象逐渐出现，青春期躁动也会随之而来。客观地说，荷尔蒙的分泌会加速年轻人对异性的期待。从主观上讲，在这个时代，每个人都有了解世界的能力。无论是使用影视作品还是小说，年轻人都会感到困惑。

40. When we talk about youth, it generally refers to the period from childhood to the middle of youth. During this time, the physical and mental development of a person will show secondary characteristics, with these secondary signs gradually emerging, and accompanied by adolescent restlessness. Objectively speaking, the secretion of hormones accelerates young people's expectations for the opposite sex. Subjectively, in this era, everyone has the ability to understand the world. Whether it's through films and television shows or novels, young people are likely to feel confused.

41. 柳宗元《三戒》写了三个寓言故事:,《临江之麋》《黔之驴》《永某氏之鼠》

41. Liu Zongyuan's "Three Admonitions" contains three fables: "The Fallow Deer by the River", "The Ass in Qian", and "The Rat of the Yong Family".

42. 《论语季氏》里提到君子有三戒，一戒：少之时，血气未定，戒之在色；二戒：及其壮也，血气方刚，戒之在斗；三戒：及其老也，血气既衰，戒之在得。

42. The "Li Ji" from the "Analects" mentions that there are three things that a gentleman should beware of: 1. When he is young, his blood and qi are not yet stable, so he should beware of indulging in desires; 2. When he is strong, his blood and qi are vigorous, so he should beware of fighting; 3. When he is old, his blood and qi have declined, so he should beware of greed.