在人际交往中，如何优雅地反击他人轻视，提升自我价值感，是我们每个人都应掌握的技巧。让我们从心出发，学会用智慧与从容，化解误解，展现自信与魅力。

In social interactions, how to elegantly retaliate against others' belittlement and enhance our sense of self-worth is a skill that each of us should master. Let's start from the heart, learn to use wisdom and composure to resolve misunderstandings, and show confidence and charm.

1. 我们最恨别人势利眼。

1. We hate it when people are snobbish.

2. 但这个社会上，很多人都是看人下菜碟，你有实力，有价值，有本事，别人就高看你一眼，你过得很普通，他们就狗眼看人低。

2. However, in this society, many people look down on others. If you have strength, value, and abilities, others will look up to you. If you lead a normal life, they will look down on you with a dog's eyes.

3. 我们必须有足够好的心态去面对这一切，否则一辈子都在别人的世界里纠缠不休，苦不堪言。

3. We must have a sufficiently good attitude to face all this, otherwise we will be纠缠在别人的世界里一生，痛苦不堪。

4. 别人看不起你，最好的反击方式其实就是不反击，毫不在乎，不以为意，把看不起你的人当狗屁也就行了。

4. When others look down upon you, the best way to counterattack is actually not to counterattack. Be indifferent, not caring, not taking it to heart, and treating those who look down upon you as nothing.

5. 还记得有一次跟单位的小领导出门散步，遇到另外一个部门的小领导，他的岁数比我还小，但他所有的注意力都集中在单位小领导身上，给他让烟，点烟，而对旁边的我视而不见。

5. Remember once when I went out for a walk with the little leader of our unit, we met another little leader from another department. He was actually younger than me, but he focused all his attention on our unit's little leader, offering him a cigarette, lighting it for him, and completely ignoring me standing beside him.

6. 我当时非常生气，心想：什么狗官小杂种，这么看不起人！

6. I was extremely angry at the time and thought to myself: What a dog official, such a scoundrel, so much of a look-down-on-people!

7. 此后，每当想起这件事，都恨得咬牙切齿。

7. Subsequently, every time I think of this matter, I hate it with all my might.

8. 现在想想，真的没有那个必要。这个世界上狗眼看人低的人比比皆是，媚上欺下，自以为是的人数不胜数，谁能计较得了那么多？

8. Now that I think about it, there really wasn't any need for that. In this world, there are countless people who look down on others with a dog's eyes, flatter those above and bully those below, and those who think too highly of themselves. Who can keep count of all that?

9. 就好像你遇到一坨屎，屎会恶心你，你难道还要跟屎算账吗？

9. It's like when you encounter a pile of shit; it disgusts you, right? So why would you hold a grudge against the shit?

10. 所以一定要调整好自己的心态，不要跟垃圾人一般见识。

10. So, it is important to adjust your mindset properly and not lower yourself to the level of trash people.

11. 春秋时期，老子是周王朝的柱下史兼守藏史，名声显赫，德高望重。

11. During the Spring and Autumn period, Laozi was the Keeper of the Records and the Keeper of the Royal Library of the Zhou Dynasty, and he was renowned for his fame and his distinguished character and virtues.

12. 一个叫士成绮的人慕名前来拜访，当他来到老子的住宅，看到满地狼藉，而老子衣冠不整，蓬头垢面，士成绮非常失望，说：

12. A man named Shi Chengqi came to visit in the name of fame. When he arrived at Laozi's residence, he saw the place was in disarray, and Laozi was dressed in disorder, with a wild hair and a soiled face. Shi Chengqi was very disappointed and said:

13. 我以为你是一个圣人，所以千里迢迢向你请教，结果看到你这个样子，感到非常失望，你配做圣人吗？连一个普通人都觉得不齿！

13. I thought you were a saint, so I came to you for guidance from afar, but upon seeing you in this state, I am extremely disappointed. Are you worthy of being called a saint? Even an ordinary person would feel ashamed of you!

14. 老子闭目不言，不为所动。

14. Laozi closed his eyes and remained silent, unmoved by what had happened.

15. 第二天，士成绮觉得自己言语过分，特意找老子道歉。

15. On the second day, Shi Chengqi felt that his words were overly harsh, so he specially went to apologize to Laozi.

16. 老子说：你说我是牛，我不会真的变成牛。你说我是马，我也不会真的变成马。不管你怎样看待我，我还是我啊。

16. Laozi said: "If you say I am an ox, I won't really become an ox. If you say I am a horse, I won't really become a horse. No matter how you view me, I am still me."

17. 人性的一个弱点，就是在意别人怎么看待自己。其实只要你的内心有一个稳定的核，把持得住自己，别人的任何看法都改变不了你。

17. A weakness of human nature is the concern over how others perceive oneself. In fact, as long as you have a stable core in your heart and can hold yourself together, no opinion from others can change you.

18. 我们曾如此渴望命运的波澜，后来才发现，人生最曼妙的风景，竟是内心的淡定与从容。我们曾如此期待外界的认可，后来才发现，世界是自己的，和其他人毫无关系。

18. We once so eagerly desired the ups and downs of fate, but later we realized that the most exquisite scenery in life is the calm and composure of the heart. We once so eagerly awaited recognition from others, but later we discovered that the world belongs to us, and has nothing to do with others.

19. 真正厉害的人，在别人的世界里顺其自然，在自己的世界里独善其身。每个人都自成一个世界，我们要为自己的世界而努力，不要在别人的世界里浪费时间和精力。

19. The truly formidable individuals navigate others' worlds with ease while taking care of themselves in their own. Everyone has their own world, and we should strive for our own world, not waste time and energy in others'.

20. 一个看不起你的人，一定是一个素质低下，人品低劣，认知短浅的人，根本不值得你生气，更不值得与之较劲与纠缠。

20. A person who looks down on you is definitely someone with low quality, poor character, and shallow cognition. They are not worthy of your anger, let alone worth arguing with or entangling yourself in.

21. 常与同好争高下，不与傻瓜论短长。

21. Often compete with those who share the same interests to determine who is better, but do not argue with fools about trivial matters.

22. 对方狗眼看人低，就让他在狗的价值观里自得其乐，就像蛆虫喜欢拱屎，就让他拱吧。

22. The other party looks down on people with a dog's eyes. Let him find his joy in the dog's values, just like maggots enjoy scratching in dung; let him scratch away.

23. 遇到看不起你的人，就悲悯地看看这只低层次动物，微微一笑，淡淡走开，什么都不要在乎。

23. When you encounter someone who looks down on you, just compassionately look at this low-level animal, smile slightly, and calmly walk away, not caring about anything.

24. 目录部分1：改变对自己的看法1、不要动不动就把别人拿来跟自己比较。

24. Part 1 of the Catalog: Changing Your View of Yourself 1. Don't always compare yourself to others.

25. 不要再去在意别人对你的看法。部分2：采取行动1、把你的成就告诉亲朋好友们。

25. Stop worrying about what others think of you. Part 2: Taking Action 1. Share your achievements with your friends and family.

26. 锻炼身体。部分3：让这种感觉保持下去1、做志愿活动。

26. Physical Exercise. Part 3: Keep the Feeling Going 1. Engage in volunteer activities.

27. 保持一个强大的支持你的圈子。拥有良好的自我感觉意味着由内而外的欣赏自己。消解生活中的不愉快、接受自己目前的状态并不很容易做到，需要做出充分的自我调整：首先要改变自己的态度，在此基础上努力发展出一种能使自己感受到自我的价值、他人的关爱和自我满足感的生活方式。如果你正被这个问题困扰，可以试着参考以下建议。

27. Maintain a strong support circle around you. Having a good self-image means appreciating oneself from the inside out. It's not easy to dissolve the unpleasantness in life and accept one's current state; it requires substantial self-adjustment: first, change your attitude, and then strive to develop a lifestyle that allows you to feel your self-worth, the care of others, and self-satisfaction. If you are troubled by this issue, you can try to refer to the following suggestions.

28. 不要动不动就把别人拿来跟自己比较。那样只会降低你的自信，还会把心情搞得很糟。你是一个独一无二的个体，你有你独特的成长经历和天分。如果你不停地比较自己和别人，你的自我感觉不可避免的会变差，因为你总会找到比自己更强壮、更聪明或者更漂亮的人。你应该努力去变成自己想变成的那个人，而不是去模仿"邻居家的孩子"、学校里的女神或者你优秀的表姐。一旦你定义了自己版本的成功，你就有机会去实现它。你可能会觉得身边的人过的都比你好。问题在于，可能你更倾向于关注自己的缺点而非优点，根本没有注意到自己已经拥有了那么多。要知道，你所羡慕的那个似乎拥有无穷无尽的自信心的死党，也许也在羡慕着你的高智商或幽默感呢。

28. Don't always compare others to yourself. That will only lower your self-confidence and make your mood bad. You are a unique individual with your own unique growth experiences and talents. If you keep comparing yourself to others, your self-perception is bound to get worse because you will always find someone who is stronger, smarter, or prettier than you. You should strive to become the person you want to be, not imitate "the neighbor's child," the school goddess, or your excellent cousin. Once you define your version of success, you have the opportunity to achieve it. You might feel that everyone around you is doing better than you. The problem is, you may be more inclined to focus on your flaws rather than your strengths and have not noticed that you already have so much. Remember, that seemingly infinitely confident friend of yours who you envy may be envying your high intelligence or sense of humor.

29. 要建立自信心。想要拥有良好的自我感觉，爱上现在的自己和理想中的那个自己，关键在于拥有自信心。冰冻三尺非一日之寒，自信心不可能一天两天就建立起来，但你可以一点一滴的构筑起对于自己目前的状态以及未来可以取得的成绩的信心。要时刻提醒自己，你的身上有足够的闪光点，不要在意别人的评价；你觉得自己有足够的价值，那就不要管别人怎么说。在肢体语言上更积极振作。抬头挺胸，直视前方，不要无精打采总低着头。不要总一副坐立不安的样子，或者死板的把双臂抱在胸前，要给别人留下一种更加积极向上、平易近人的印象。试着做到这些，你会变得更自信。

29. To build self-confidence. To have a good self-image, to love the present self and the ideal self, the key lies in having self-confidence. The ice is three feet thick, and it takes more than one day to build self-confidence. However, you can gradually build up confidence in your current state and the achievements you can achieve in the future. Always remind yourself that you have enough shining points, don't care about others' opinions; if you feel you have enough value, then don't pay attention to what others say. Be more positive and lively in body language. Hold your head up, chest out, and look straight ahead, don't be listless and always keep your head down. Don't always look restless or rigidly cross your arms in front of you. Leave others with a more positive, uplifting, and approachable impression. Try to do these things, and you will become more confident.

30. 发展一项或几项特长，可以从自己的爱好入手。如果能拥有一手绝活，自我感觉会好一些。

30. Developing one or several special skills can start from one's own hobbies. If one can master a unique skill, they will feel better about themselves.

31. 多与能带给你正能量的人呆在一起，远离那些总是打击你的人。

31. Spend more time with people who bring you positive energy, and stay away from those who always bring you down.

32. 面临不熟悉的情况时，多去想能发生什么好事，不要杞人忧天的担心出问题。

32. When faced with unfamiliar situations, think more about what good things could happen, and don't worry unnecessarily about potential problems.

33. 要为自己的优点而自豪。每个人的身上都能找到闪光点，你也不例外。花点时间坐下来给自己的优点列一个清单，列不满一整张纸不要站起来。这不是说要你把"我指甲油抹得挺好看"之类的东西拿来凑数，而是要求你真正深入的挖掘自己，找出那些让你与众不同的闪光点：丰富的同情心，良好的幽默感，强壮的身体，旺盛的工作热情，等等。这个清单越长、越真诚，越有助于提升自信心。可以算作优点的品质有：富有爱心，勤奋好学，努力工作，待人友善，身体强健，聪明伶俐，反应机敏，平易近人，风趣幽默，等等。

33. Be proud of your strengths. There are shining points in everyone, and you are no exception. Take some time to sit down and make a list of your strengths, and don't stand up until you fill an entire sheet of paper. This is not about filling up the list with things like "I have nicely applied nail polish," but rather about truly delving deep into yourself to find those shining points that set you apart: abundant empathy, good humor, a strong body, a fervent work ethic, and so on. The longer and more sincere this list is, the more it helps to boost your self-confidence. Qualities that can be considered strengths include: being loving, studious, hardworking, friendly, physically strong, intelligent, quick-witted, approachable, humorous, and so on.

34. 把这个清单保存好，时常拿出来看一看激励自己。甚至可以考虑把它折叠起来放到钱包里。

34. Keep this list safe, and take it out to motivate yourself often. You might even consider folding it and putting it in your wallet.

35. 要是你真觉得自己的头发或眼睛美的惊为天人，那也可以列到这个清单里。优点不一定都得是上面说的各种严肃的东西。

35. If you truly think your hair or eyes are stunningly beautiful, they can also be included on this list. Not all virtues have to be the serious things mentioned above.

36. 不要因为偶尔遇到困难就对自己失望。有时候你只需要挺住，告诉自己困难马上就会过去。如果实在感到难受，一定要去找一个真正在乎你的成年人聊聊。另外，糟糕的情绪通常会反映在身体状态上。当你感到烦燥或沮丧的时候，注意一下身体有没有哪里感觉不对。考前紧张的时候是不是会胃疼？焦虑的时候是不是会头疼？注意身体给出的这些信号有助于你弄清楚自己为什么感到不爽，从而针对性地采取措施，使自己感觉好起来。有人认为想要拥有良好的自我感觉，必须每时每刻都保持开心。这是不可能的。如果某一天你情绪低落，尤其是当这发生在一连串开心的日子之后的时候，不要苛责自己，要提醒自己不爽的日子最终会过去。

36. Don't lose hope in yourself just because you occasionally encounter difficulties. Sometimes, you just need to persevere and remind yourself that the difficulties will pass soon. If you really feel uncomfortable, make sure to talk to an adult who truly cares about you. Additionally, bad moods often reflect on your physical condition. When you feel restless or depressed, pay attention to whether there is anything wrong with your body. Do you experience stomachaches when you are nervous before an exam? Do you have headaches when you are anxious? Paying attention to these signals from your body can help you understand why you feel unhappy and take targeted measures to make yourself feel better. Some people believe that in order to have a good self-image, one must stay happy at all times. This is impossible. If one day you feel down, especially after a series of happy days, don't blame yourself; remind yourself that the days of unhappiness will eventually pass.

37. 要努力培养一种积极的心态。你可能会想："呵呵，说着轻松，真那么简单就好了。"假如有个开关，一打开就能永远保持积极心态，你早就这么干了，对吧。这种想法其实是不对的。培养积极的心态其实就是你的一个决定，是你与生俱来的一种本事。当你意识到自己的心态过分消极的时候应该努力把心态扭转过来，从而使自己的心理状态更加健康。心态积极了，你的自我感觉会改善，对自己前途和成就的预期也会更好。针对脑海中闪过的每个消极的念头，都要求自己想出两三个积极的念头抵消其影响。比如，如果消极的想到"我今天看上去好疲惫啊"，你就可以说"但是我发型还不错，笑容也很灿烂"。更深的层次上，如果你想到"我在社交活动中实在是笨手笨脚"，你就应该对自己说"但好在我知道怎么逗别人笑，大家与我相处时感觉都还挺舒服"。

37. Strive to cultivate a positive mindset. You might think, "Oh, it sounds easy enough to say, but it's not that simple." If there was a switch that you could turn on to maintain a positive mindset forever, you would have done it by now, wouldn't you? This kind of thinking is actually incorrect. Cultivating a positive mindset is essentially your decision, a natural ability you possess. When you realize that your mindset is overly negative, you should strive to turn it around, thus making your psychological state healthier. A positive mindset will improve your self-perception and enhance your expectations for your future and achievements. For every negative thought that flashes through your mind, challenge yourself to come up with two or three positive thoughts to counteract its influence. For example, if you think negatively, "I look so tired today," you can say, "But my hairstyle is quite nice, and I have a bright smile." On a deeper level, if you think, "I'm really clumsy in social activities," you should tell yourself, "But at least I know how to make others laugh, and people feel quite comfortable when they are with me."

38. 与朋友们谈论自己时试着多用积极的方式。当然不是说要你在谈论自己的某项成就或者自己关注的某件事时不停地夸大其辞。你会发现你的乐观心态是可以感染别人的，此时你的自我感觉也会好起来。

38. When talking about yourself to friends, try to use more positive ways. Of course, this doesn't mean that you should keep exaggerating your achievements or things you care about. You will find that your optimistic attitude can be contagious, and at this time, your self-perception will also improve.

39. 要意识到你可以给别人提供很多帮助。也许你对自己失望的原因是你觉得自己对别人来说毫无用处，不被任何人需要。然而实际情况很少是这样。与你的亲朋好友聊一聊，你就会发现别人有多欣赏你、需要你。把你的真实感受告诉家人们，他们就会列出一长串你的优点。把你的困扰告诉朋友们，他们就会告诉你你的想法实在是不可思议，你的陪伴和帮助对他们来说是不可或缺的。越记得你是一个别人足够幸运才能认识的有价值的人这一事实，你就越能意识到自己可以给别人提供很多的帮助。当你感受到自己的价值的时候，你的自我感觉自然就会变好。

39. Be aware that you can offer a lot of help to others. Perhaps the reason you are disappointed in yourself is because you feel useless to others, that you are not needed by anyone. However, the reality is rarely like that. Talk to your close friends and family, and you will find out how much they appreciate and need you. Share your true feelings with your family, and they will list a long list of your virtues. Share your troubles with your friends, and they will tell you that your thoughts are truly amazing, and your companionship and help are indispensable to them. The more you remember the fact that you are a valuable person that others are lucky to know, the more you will realize that you can offer a lot of help to others. When you feel the value of yourself, your self-esteem will naturally improve.

40. 列一个使你感激的事情的清单。对自己失望的原因很可能是你觉得没有任何值得开心的事发生。自我感觉糟糕不一定只与对自己的认知有关，很可能与对自己周边环境的感觉有关。试着列一下这个清单，写下所有值得感激的事——身体健康，手足之情，甚至窗外的好天气——你很快就会发现自己没有什么理由不开心。你的世界充满了快乐、好运和希望，你所要做的只是发现它们。像对待上面提到的优点清单一样对待这个清单。写满一页纸，常拿出来看看，随时更新。

40. Make a list of things you are grateful for. The reason you may feel disappointed in yourself is likely because you think nothing good ever happens. Feeling bad about yourself may not only be related to your self-perception but could also be related to how you feel about your surroundings. Try making this list and write down everything you are grateful for—good health, family love, even the nice weather outside—you will soon find that you have no reason to be unhappy. Your world is filled with joy, good fortune, and hope, and all you need to do is to discover them. Treat this list just like the list of strengths mentioned above. Fill a page, look at it often, and update it whenever necessary.

41. 不要过分在意自己的长相。自己眼里出西施，在意自己外貌妆容的变化、偶尔做做长相的白日梦是无伤大雅的，但花太多时间打扮、经过任何一面镜子都要瞄两眼就不值得了。你应该去做更有意义的事。想要改善自我感觉，的确应该保持一个健康、整洁的形象，但不能把外貌变成生活的重心。一个使尽浑身解数满足自己美若天仙的幻想的人永远不会获得快乐和平静。实现这点的一个方法是限制自己打扮的时间。比如，要求自己出门前梳头化妆的时间不超过10到15分钟。如果超过这个限制，你一定就是在做吹毛求疵的无用功。

41. Don't be overly concerned about your appearance. It's harmless to notice the changes in your appearance and makeup, or to occasionally indulge in daydreams about your looks, but spending too much time on grooming, or glancing at any mirror whenever possible, is not worth it. You should be doing more meaningful things. To improve your self-perception, it is indeed important to maintain a healthy and tidy image, but you shouldn't make appearance the focus of your life. A person who goes to great lengths to satisfy their fantasy of being as beautiful as a celestial being will never find happiness and peace. One way to achieve this is to limit the time spent on grooming. For example, you can set a goal to spend no more than 10 to 15 minutes on hair and makeup before going out. If you exceed this limit, you are definitely engaging in futile nitpicking.

42. 不要再去在意别人对你的看法。你有没有被别人的言语伤到过？记住：侮辱别人的人常常只是为了使自己显得强大。这意味着，他们很可能缺乏安全感和自信心。所以以牙还牙的做法恰恰落入了他们的圈套，是不明智的。让这种人难堪的最好的方法，就是走自己的路，让他们去说吧。当然，不在乎别人的看法这件事，说起来容易做起来难。这不等同于完全拒绝他人的关心，而是要扪心自问你取悦这些人的目的是什么，伤害你的那些人是不是值得去在乎。通常，很快你就会发现，他们不过是你通向快乐之路的绊脚石，而不是你快乐的源泉。

42. Don't keep worrying about what others think of you. Have you ever been hurt by someone's words? Remember: people who insult others often do so just to make themselves look stronger. This means they may lack a sense of security and self-confidence. Therefore, the tit-for-tat approach exactly falls into their trap and is not wise. The best way to make such people feel awkward is to walk your own path and let them talk. Of course, not caring about others' opinions is easier said than done. It doesn't mean completely rejecting others' concerns. Instead, you should ask yourself what your purpose is in pleasing these people and whether the ones who hurt you are worth worrying about. Usually, you will quickly find that they are just obstacles on your path to happiness, not the source of your happiness.

43. 把你的成就告诉亲朋好友们。当你做到一件让自己很自豪的事时——考试考了好成绩，得了足球冠军等等——正是你最闪亮的时候。给自己点个赞的同时，给爷爷打个电话，给阿姨发条短信，分享一下这个好消息，或者与家人朋友一起庆祝一下。这样你的自我感觉就会慢慢变好，因为身边的人在为你加油。不要担心这会让自己看上去像在自我吹嘘。与挚爱之人聊这些事不是吹嘘。而且很有可能的是，如果你是在努力改善自我感觉时这样做，你不会表现得像在吹嘘。

43. Share your achievements with your friends and family. It's when you accomplish something that makes you proud—like getting good grades on an exam, winning a football championship, etc.—that you are at your brightest. While giving yourself a pat on the back, give Grandpa a call, send Auntie a text message, share this good news, or celebrate with your family and friends. This will gradually improve your self-perception, because those around you are cheering you on. Don't worry about appearing to be bragging. Talking about these things with your loved ones is not bragging. Moreover, it's likely that if you're trying to improve your self-perception by doing this, you won't come off as bragging.

44. 用心照顾自己的身体。从今天起用好闻的肥皂或洗面奶呵护自己的肌肤，还要清洁并修建自己的指甲。这不是说要你花好几个小时照镜子——洗个长长的放松的澡对你来说要好得多。花点时间用心去做个人卫生工作可以使你感觉自己是值得用心照顾的，意味着你认识到了你的身体值得投入一些时间和精力——这与使用大量的化妆品或买好多入时的衣服是不同的。如果你想去做个按摩来舒缓生活中的压力，不要犹豫！按摩一定能使你身心都感到更舒畅。

44. Take good care of your body. From today on, pamper your skin with pleasant soap or face wash, and make sure to clean and trim your nails. This doesn't mean spending hours in front of the mirror—taking a long, relaxing bath is much better for you. Spending some time paying close attention to personal hygiene can make you feel like you are worth the effort, which means you recognize that your body is worth investing some time and energy in—it's different from using a lot of makeup or buying a lot of trendy clothes. If you want to get a massage to relieve the stress in your life, don't hesitate! A massage is sure to make you feel more relaxed both physically and mentally.

45. 拓展自己的衣着风格。试验不同的衣着搭配，探索怎样穿让自己感觉最好。有时候你可能想穿的花哨点，有时候则相反，这都是可以的。这周就拉个朋友去逛街，挑五身颜色或风格上你自认为永远无法接受的衣服，尽情享受试穿的过程吧！如果某件你以为穿上会很糟糕的衣服实际上穿起来很棒，无需为此惊讶；如果它穿上去果真很糟糕，则大可一笑而过。虽然改变衣着风格不一定能提升你的自我感觉，但这样做至少可以帮你发现自己的另一面。

45. Expand your personal style of dressing. Experiment with different outfits to explore what makes you feel the best. Sometimes you might want to dress up a bit, and sometimes you might want to dress down, and that's all fine. This week, take a friend out for some shopping and pick out five outfits that you believe you could never accept in terms of color or style, and enjoy the process of trying them on! If a piece of clothing that you thought would look terrible actually looks fantastic, don't be surprised; and if it does look terrible, just laugh it off. While changing your dressing style may not necessarily improve your self-esteem, at least it can help you discover another side of yourself.

46. 还可以尝试换发型。女生可以绑个辫子，做个卷发或绑个发髻。男生可以尝试把发型做得蓬松一点，或把头发剪短。尽情地试验！你可以通过不同的仪容表现自己，没有哪一种方式是"正确"的。你永远是你自己。

46. You can also try changing your hairstyle. Girls can tie their hair into a braid, make curls, or tie their hair into a bun. Boys can try making their hairstyle more voluminous or cutting their hair shorter. Enjoy experimenting! You can express yourself through different appearances, and there is no one "correct" way. You are always yourself.

47. 交能带给你良好的自我感觉的朋友。朋友开始谈论减肥或节食话题时，尝试转换话题，引导他们聊点更有趣的事，比如聊聊他们的足球队最近表现如何，问问他家的小金毛几岁了等等。如果你的友人时刻都在关注外貌，尝试把对话引导到不那么表面的话题上去。如果你的努力总是无法见效，那可能是时候考虑换个价值观更深刻的朋友了。想一下你的朋友们是总在积极地赞赏你、支持你，还是总对你鸡蛋里挑骨头。如果某个朋友总在对你输出负能量，那你就该尽快甩掉这种人。也许这种做法听上去有些残酷，但这样做你的自我感觉才能得到提升。

47. Friends who bring you a good sense of self. When friends start talking about weight loss or dieting, try to steer the conversation away from that, and guide them to discuss more interesting topics, such as how their football team is performing recently, or how old their little golden retriever is, etc. If your friend is always focused on appearance, try to redirect the conversation to less superficial topics. If your efforts always seem to fall on deaf ears, it may be time to consider friends with a deeper set of values. Think about whether your friends are always positively praising and supporting you, or always finding fault with you. If a friend is always pouring negative energy on you, it's time to get rid of such a person as soon as possible. Although this approach may sound harsh, it is the only way to improve your sense of self.

48. 学点新东西。读点写世界局势的好文章，你会感觉自己对时事有了些了解，这会在一定程度上让你觉得自己更重要。这也可以帮你稍稍摆脱每天模式化的生活方式，享受探索的乐趣。去上节陶艺课，或看个纪录片，总之做点激发你的学习欲望，让你欣赏这个世界的事。马上你就会觉得充满能量，这得益于你自我改变的愿望以及你在这个过程中学到的知识。如果你学到了点真的很有趣的东西，不妨把它分享给别人。这会让你觉得自己能给予别人的东西更多了。

48. Learn something new. Read some good articles about the world situation, and you will feel that you have a better understanding of current affairs, which will to some extent make you feel more important. This can also help you slightly break away from the routine lifestyle of everyday life and enjoy the fun of exploration. Take a pottery class, or watch a documentary, in short, do something that ignites your desire to learn and appreciate the world. You will soon feel full of energy, which is thanks to your desire for self-improvement and the knowledge you have gained in this process. If you have learned something truly interesting, why not share it with others? This will make you feel that you have more to offer to others.

49. 锻炼身体。锻炼身体可以改善你的身体和心理感受。尽管减肥或改善体形不会对改善自我感觉有直接效果，但锻炼身体可以使你相信自己正在注意自己的身体，正在培养一种健康的生活方式。此外，运动时旺盛的激素分泌可以使你开心，这对身体是无害的。每天至少锻炼30分钟，热爱自己在此过程中所做的一切。日程表上这一丁点改变就可以显著改善你的自我感觉。锻炼时叫上一两个小伙伴会变得更有趣，大家还可以互相鼓励。如果在你想偷懒时身边的小伙伴能给你加油鼓劲，你甚至会感觉更好。

49. Exercise your body. Physical exercise can improve your physical and mental well-being. Although losing weight or improving your physique may not have a direct effect on improving your self-perception, exercising helps you believe that you are paying attention to your body and cultivating a healthy lifestyle. Moreover, the vigorous hormone secretion during exercise can make you feel happy, which is harmless to your body. Aim to exercise for at least 30 minutes every day and enjoy everything you do in the process. Even this small change in your schedule can significantly improve your self-perception. Exercising with one or two friends can make it more enjoyable, and you can also encourage each other. If your friends can give you a boost when you feel like slacking off, you may even feel better.

50. 做志愿活动。志愿活动是回报社会的一种很好的方法，可以帮你认识到自己为社会做贡献的能力，当然改善自我感觉不该成为你做志愿活动的唯一目的。寻找一种能让你充分发挥天赋的志愿活动：教需要帮助的人阅读，或者仅仅是与他们聊天。把这变成一个习惯，坚持每个月做几次。一旦你开始做志愿活动，你就会发现很多人都觉得你是有价值的，你不该总是对自己失望。保持记日记的习惯，可以让你沿着正确的路径逐渐改善自我感觉。你应该每周至少写个一两次，记录自己的进展，分别记下你的行动中让你自我感觉变好和变差的部分。改善自我感觉的道路不会一帆风顺，总会遇到困难，总会有感觉不好的日子。重要的是如实的记录发生的一切，并且总要扪心自问怎样才能让自己感觉更好。记住，你的这趟旅途还在进行中，这注定要花点时间。有点耐心，对自己好一点。不要对短期效果期待太多。

50. Engage in volunteer activities. Volunteer work is a great way to give back to society and can help you recognize your ability to contribute to the community. Of course, improving your self-perception should not be the sole purpose of engaging in volunteer activities. Find a volunteer activity that allows you to fully utilize your talents: teaching someone to read, or simply chatting with them. Make it a habit to do it a few times a month. Once you start doing volunteer work, you will find that many people perceive you as valuable, and you should not always be disappointed in yourself. Keep a journal to gradually improve your self-perception along the right path. You should write at least one or two times a week, recording your progress, and separately noting the parts of your actions that make you feel better or worse about yourself. The journey to improve your self-perception will not be smooth sailing, there will always be difficulties and there will always be days when you don't feel good. It's important to honestly record everything that happens and always ask yourself how you can feel better. Remember, your journey is ongoing and it is destined to take some time. Be patient, and be kind to yourself. Don't expect too much from short-term effects.

51. 花点时间重新读一下写过的日记，每周至少一次。这有助于让你认识到自己的成长。

51. Take some time to reread the diaries you have written, at least once a week. This helps you recognize your own growth.

52. 需要的时候给自己加油鼓劲。如果是白天，打开窗户呼吸新鲜空气，沐浴阳光；如果是夜晚，穿件干净的睡衣缩成一团，欣赏自己最喜欢的书、**或CD。压力太大？洗个热水澡，想象水流把你的烦恼冲走。也可以尝试原创一套用来让自己保持平静的动作。当你生气或压力太大时，做三个长长的缓慢的深呼吸，打开你最喜欢的音乐，寻找让自己的内心冷静下来的方法，之后再回去关注那些让你紧张的事。不要试图否认自己处在沮丧中。问题解决的越早，你的感觉就能越早好起来。

52. Encourage yourself when needed. If it's daytime, open the windows to breathe fresh air and bask in the sunlight; if it's nighttime, put on a clean pajama, curl up, and enjoy your favorite book or CD. Too much stress? Take a hot bath and imagine the water washing away your worries. You can also try a set of original movements to keep yourself calm. When you're angry or stressed out, take three long, slow deep breaths, play your favorite music, and find ways to calm your inner self, then return to focus on the things that make you anxious. Don't try to deny that you're feeling down. The sooner you solve the problem, the sooner you'll feel better.

53. 找到给自己加油的最佳方法，这样当你沮丧时，你就明确的知道该去做什么以使自己开心起来。

53. Find the best way to motivate yourself, so when you feel down, you will clearly know what to do to cheer yourself up.

54. 有时候让自己的自我感觉好起来的最佳办法，就是简单地停下手里的活，与小伙伴们出去疯一个晚上。

54. Sometimes the best way to boost your self-esteem is simply to put down what you're doing and go out with your friends for a wild night.

55. 列一个梦想清单。找个漂亮的笔记本，写下你想游览的地方，想拥有的经历，想认识的人，想学习的技能等等。梦想清单意味着一个开始：你将开启一段充满了乐趣，冒险和有趣的经历的人生。在清单中每一条的旁边画个方框，这个梦想实现的时候在这里打个勾。为未来设计一个激动人心的计划，并把实现这一计划作为生活的一个重点，有助于改善自己的自我感觉，因为这会使你觉得值得期待的事有很多。要确认你列出的清单上的冒险都是可以实现的，不管它们有多么稀奇古怪。如果你写下的梦想是永远不可能实现的，这反而会让你沮丧。

55. Make a list of dreams. Find a beautiful notebook and write down the places you want to visit, the experiences you want to have, the people you want to meet, the skills you want to learn, and so on. A list of dreams means a beginning: you will embark on a life filled with fun, adventure, and interesting experiences. Next to each item on the list, draw a square box, and mark it with a tick when the dream comes true. Design an exciting plan for the future and make achieving this plan a focus in your life. This will help improve your self-perception, as it will make you feel that there are many things to look forward to. Make sure that the adventures on your list are achievable, no matter how strange or peculiar they may seem. If the dreams you write down are impossible to achieve, it may actually make you feel frustrated.

56. 让榜样鼓舞自己。琢磨一下像你的榜样一样生活需要怎么做——无论你的榜样是你的母亲，你的数学老师还是周杰伦——并把你的想法付诸实践，学习他们如何慷慨地对待他人，如何面对失望或被侮辱的情况，如何优雅的度过生活中的每个微小的瞬间，如何享受生命本身的意义。尤其当你情绪低落时，闭上眼睛，想象一下你的榜样会如何应对现在的状况。来自外部的鼓舞可以帮你想象在挑战性的环境中自己会怎么做，可以让你感觉自己能够战胜困难。

56. Let the example inspire you. Reflect on how to live like your role model—whether your role model is your mother, your math teacher, or Jay Chou—and put your thoughts into practice, learning from them how to generously treat others, how to face disappointment or insult, how to elegantly spend every small moment in life, and how to enjoy the meaning of life itself. Especially when you are feeling down, close your eyes and imagine how your role model would handle the current situation. External inspiration can help you imagine how you would act in challenging environments and make you feel capable of overcoming difficulties.

57. 保持一个强大的支持你的圈子。如果你想持续的拥有良好的自我感觉，就不能总一个人呆着。你要向他人学习，包括朋友、兄弟姐妹、父母，恋人（如果有的话）和生活中其他任何重要的人，比如同事或邻居。你要在遭遇危机时求助他人，保证在你迷失时有人愿意倾听并帮助你。身边有各种热心的好人也可以让你因生活对你的恩赐而开心。实现目标很重要，但社交同样重要！养成习惯，保证每周有那么几段时间与别人呆在一起。独来独往的人注定会时常感到郁闷。

57. Maintain a strong support circle around you. If you want to continuously maintain a good self-image, you can't always be alone. You should learn from others, including friends, siblings, parents, lovers (if any), and anyone else important in your life, such as colleagues or neighbors. You should seek help from others when facing crises, ensuring that there is someone willing to listen and help you when you are lost. Having various kind-hearted people around can also make you happy because of the blessings life has given you. Achieving goals is important, but social interactions are equally important! Develop a habit to ensure that you spend some time with others every week. People who go it alone are bound to often feel melancholic.

58. 与自己挚爱的人呆在一起很重要，但你总有时间去认识新的朋友。拥有各种各样的挚友可以增长你的见识，还能让你的自我感觉更好。

58. It is important to spend time with your loved ones, but you always have time to make new friends. Having a variety of close friends can broaden your horizons and also make you feel better about yourself.

59. 小提示走路时抬头挺胸，良好的姿态有助于提升自信，让你无论走到哪里都让人眼前一亮。

59. Little tip: Keep your head up and chest out when walking. A good posture helps boost your confidence, making you stand out wherever you go.