在悠悠岁月的长河中，悲伤与智慧交织，我们如何以善待他人为起点，实现自我成长与生活升华？这，便是人生旅程中最深刻的篇章。

In the long river of time, sadness and wisdom intertwine. How can we start with treating others kindly to achieve self-growth and elevate our lives? This is the most profound chapter in the journey of life.

1. 生活上，有一颗随缘心，你会更洒脱;有一颗平常心，你会更从容!在待人上，有一颗慈悲心，你会更积善;有一颗感恩心，你会更幸福!在做事上，有一颗因果心，你会更明理;有一颗不贪心，你会更快乐!在处世上，有一颗忍让心，你会更逢源;有一颗质朴心，你会更纯粹!

1. In life, having a heart that goes with the flow will make you more carefree; having a common heart will make you more composed! In dealing with others, having a compassionate heart will accumulate more good deeds; having a grateful heart will make you happier! In matters of action, having a heart that understands cause and effect will make you wiser; having a non-greedy heart will make you happier! In social interactions, having a yielding heart will make you more versatile; having a simple heart will make you more pure!

2. 首先，要端正心态，一个良好 健康 快乐的心态很重要，可以引领我们摆脱阴影，走向光明。

2. Firstly, it is important to have a positive attitude; a good, healthy, and happy mindset can guide us to overcome the shadows and move towards the light.

3. 人生是一本备忘录，打开是绚丽的今生，合上便是记录的前世，因为有了这一份感悟，我会整理一方空间，把那些点点滴滴的细碎拾掇起来，每一片的心情，都会剪叠成一只只千纸鹤装进思绪的行囊。 可难道是，今生前缘注定一半是风，一半是雨，风风雨雨演绎出一段生命的旅程。

3. Life is a memo, opened, it reveals the splendid present, and closed, it becomes a record of the past life. Because of this insight, I will arrange a space to pick up those trivial bits and pieces, each piece of heart will be folded into a thousand paper crane, packed into the bag of thoughts. But is it not that the destiny of this life and the past is注定一半是风，half is rain, and the wind and rain perform a journey of life?

4. 有时候，得不到是一种苦;有时候得到，也是一种苦。人生在世，总有很多事难两全。无求则品自高，放下也就是一份洒脱与超然。

4. Sometimes, not getting what one desires is a kind of bitterness; sometimes, obtaining it can also be a kind of bitterness. In life, there are always many things that cannot be fully achieved. When one has no desires, one's character naturally becomes elevated, and letting go is also a form of freedom and transcendence.

5. 善于学会 养生 ，起居有规律、饮食清淡。

5. Be good at learning to maintain health, keep a regular lifestyle, and have light and simple eating habits.

6. 生活和工作的不如意那肯定是有哪有一帆风顺的人生（无论是大是小都算吧）。

6. The dissatisfaction with life and work is certainly inevitable; after all, who has a smooth-sailing life (whether big or small, it counts)?

7. 每个人都有喜怒哀乐，真不开心的时候跟老婆说说，或者跟朋友唠唠，放松一下自己。时间会冲淡一切，现在你感觉解决不了的事，过一年之后你感觉那都不是什么事了，只是一种回忆。

7. Everyone has ups and downs in life. When you're really not feeling happy, you can share it with your wife or chat with your friends to relax yourself. Time will fade away everything. Now, things that you feel you can't solve, a year later, you'll find that they're not a big deal at all; they're just memories.

8. 生命是一种回声，你对别人的态度，最后会回到自己的身上。你冷眼看别人，别人也冷眼看你。你笑脸迎人，别人也会客气的和你打招呼。

8. Life is an echo; the attitude you have towards others will eventually return to you. If you look at others with cold eyes, others will also look at you with cold eyes. If you greet others with a smile, they will also greet you politely.

9. 可以出去走一走，看看一山一水，那种广阔，那种胸怀，会感染你豁达！或找三五好友，小聚一下，享受下偶尔的放松。至于我，有时候，会一个人漫无目的的溜达，走到哪算哪？直到负面情绪快没了，才回家。这也是一种方式吧，我还挺受用！

9. You can go out for a walk, take in the scenery of mountains and rivers, that vastness, that breadth of mind, will infect you with generosity! Or you can gather with three or five good friends, have a small get-together, and enjoy a bit of occasional relaxation. As for me, sometimes, I might wander aimlessly on my own, not knowing where I'll end up? Until the negative emotions are nearly gone, then I go home. This is also a way, and I find it quite satisfying!

10. 其次，让我们先来看看到底怎么样才叫如意？ 所谓如意就迎合和顺应我们内心对一个事物的期望，这其实是我们在用我们欲望的尺子在丈量我们的现实生活。 欲望通常存在一个即时满足的倾向，即当我们希望得到一件事物，我们就倾向于在最短的时间内得到它，而且欲望越强烈，我们能忍受的等待时间就越短，最好是立即就能得到满足。然而，在现实中，为了获得一件事物我们需要创造相应的条件，需要一个过程去完成这些条件的创造。比如我们想要获得好成绩，这要求我们找到正确的学习方法并付出长期的努力，我们需要克服很多困难，我们还可能需要等待一个较长的时间。但是，我们的欲望却希望我们在它产生的下一刻就立即获得好成绩，于是欲望与现实的差距就不可避免的产生了，这就是所谓的不如意！因此，如意往往只是在我们成功完成某件事物的那一刻才会产生，而不如意几乎是整个人生的常态。

10. Secondly, let's first look at what exactly is considered to be "as one's wish." So called "as one's wish" is about catering to and conforming to our inner expectations of a thing, which is essentially us using the measure of our desires to gauge our real-life situation. Desires usually have a tendency towards immediate satisfaction, that is, when we hope to obtain something, we tend to want it as soon as possible, and the stronger the desire, the shorter the waiting time we can tolerate, preferably to be satisfied immediately. However, in reality, to obtain something, we need to create the corresponding conditions, which requires a process to complete the creation of these conditions. For example, if we want to achieve good grades, it requires us to find the correct study methods and put in long-term efforts, we need to overcome many difficulties, and we may also need to wait for a longer period of time. However, our desires hope that we can immediately achieve good grades at the moment they arise, and thus the gap between desires and reality inevitably arises, which is what we call "not as one's wish!" Therefore, "as one's wish" often only arises when we successfully complete something, while "not as one's wish" is almost the norm throughout our entire life.

11. 别总是抱怨不公平，你要知道，这是一个相对的世界，你的'不公平对别人来说就是公平的。对于一个不懂得珍惜良机的人来说，无论机会多好，都是与他无缘的。

11. Don't always complain about injustice. You should know that this is a relative world; what is 'unfair' to you may be 'fair' to others. To someone who doesn't know how to appreciate good opportunities, no matter how good the chance is, it is as if it is out of reach for them.

12. 人们更容易对自己亲近的人发火，而不是他们讨厌的人。所谓亲近的人，就是大部分时间和他们在一起的人，这说明我们发火往往是因为我们对自己亲近的人有更多期望，或者说，想从他们那里得到更多东西，比如爱。

12. People are more likely to lose their temper with those they are close to, rather than with those they dislike. Those who are considered close are the ones we spend most of our time with, which suggests that we tend to lose our temper because we have higher expectations of those close to us, or because we want to get more from them, such as love.

13. 既要和现实的鸡零狗碎和解，又要保持对星辰大海的向往，既要脚踏实地，又要仰望星空，在现实和理想之间寻求某种恰到好处的平衡，便是最好的生活。

13. One must reconcile with the trivialities of the present, while maintaining an aspiration for the stars and the vast seas. One must walk firmly on the ground while also gazing up at the heavens. Seeking a perfect balance between reality and ideals is the best kind of life.

14. 你怎样去看待这个世界，这个世界就呈现怎样的样子。你心思狭隘，歹毒邪恶，世界就是人间地狱。你心思善良，爱人爱己，世界就是人间天堂。

14. How you perceive this world, that is how it appears to you. If your thoughts are narrow, malicious, and evil, the world will be like hell on earth. If your thoughts are kind, loving towards others and yourself, the world will be like paradise on earth.

15. 成长的路上，我们跌跌撞撞，哭哭笑笑，忙忙碌碌看人生匆匆，我们留下了什么又得到了什么也许，在某一天，我们会让生活折磨的麻木不仁，但当我们走过了欢笑，泪水，孤独和彷徨之后，便会发现：还有这样一份永恒的感情，叫我们明白有爱，就有幸福。

15. On the journey of growth, we stumble and fall, cry and laugh, and busily observe life's fleeting passage. What we leave behind and what we gain may be, perhaps, on some day, that we become numb and insensitive under the折磨 of life. But after we have walked through joy, tears, loneliness, and confusion, we will find: there is such an eternal affection that makes us understand that where there is love, there is happiness.

16. 人生我觉得要摆好自己的心态和思想，大家怎么看。

16. I think in life, one should set their own mindset and thoughts properly, what do you all think?

17. 何事都没有永远，也别问怎样才能够永远。生活有很多无奈，请尽量去充实你自己，充实属于你的生活。谁都不知道今天过去明天会如何，你现在要做的就是善待眼下的这一分钟这一小时这一天。

17. Nothing lasts forever, and don't ask how to be eternal. Life is filled with无奈, so try to enrich yourself and live a fulfilling life. No one knows how tomorrow will be after today, so what you need to do now is to treat this minute, this hour, and this day with kindness.

18. 人生如棋，你对手就是命运。人生如棋，它不用你去开局，因为它已经摆好了一个残局等着你。那里面有着希望，也会有失望。人生如棋，有时候也是一步错，满盘皆输，所以每走一步，请深思熟虑!人生如棋，重的也是棋品。人生如棋，在棋局中要的是努力。

18. Life is like a game of chess, and your opponent is destiny. Life is like a game of chess; it doesn't need you to start it because it has already set up a残局 for you to face. There is hope in it, and there will also be disappointment. Life is like a game of chess; sometimes, a wrong move can lose the whole game, so please think carefully before making each move! Life is like a game of chess; what matters most is the character of the player. Life is like a game of chess; what you seek in the game is effort.

19. 能肯定就是人人都想拥有一份有爱有质有量的婚后生活，希望能和至爱一起把这份美好的幸福快乐婚姻生活营造更加完美和谐!但是如果婚姻中没有爱，没有尊重没有理解，又那来的天长地久。如果爱情中不懂得珍惜不懂得拥有，又那来的幸福可言呢

19. It is certain that everyone wants to have a marriage life filled with love, quality, and substance, hoping to create a more perfect and harmonious happy marriage together with their beloved one! But if there is no love, no respect, and no understanding in a marriage, how can there be eternal love? And if one does not know how to cherish and possess love, where can there be happiness to speak of?

20. 不要在一件别扭的事上纠缠太久。纠缠久了，你会烦，会痛，会厌，会累，会神伤，会心碎。实际上，到最后，你不是跟事过不去，而是跟自己过不去。无论多别扭，你都要学会抽身而退。不要因为去绝美风景的路上偶遇了一条臭水沟，而坏了欣赏美的心境，而耽误了其它的美，要想想你为什么来这里。

20. Don't dwell on something that feels awkward for too long. If you do, you will become annoyed, hurt, tired, bored, saddened, and even heartbroken. In reality, at the end, it's not the event that you're at odds with, but yourself. No matter how awkward it is, you must learn to step back. Don't let an encounter with a stinking drainage ditch on the way to a breathtaking landscape spoil your mood for appreciating beauty, and delay the discovery of other forms of beauty. Think about why you are here.

21. 种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆，种善因结善果，种恶因结恶果。你广结善缘，与人为善，多行好事，既能得到上天和别人的福报，也能净化自己的内心，修炼自己的品行，让自己以正能量拥抱这个世界。

21. As the saying goes, "Plant melons and you get melons; plant beans and you get beans. Sow good seeds and you will reap good fruits; sow evil seeds and you will reap evil fruits." By cultivating good relationships, being kind to others, and doing many good deeds, you can not only receive blessings from heaven and others, but also purify your inner self, cultivate your character, and embrace the world with positive energy.

22. 一方面，我们每个人对事物的认识都是有局限性的，这就从根本上决定了我们在做事情的时候必然会犯错误，而这些错误可能会导致某项工作的失败或者偏离设定的目标。另一方面，外部环境也是不断变化的，而我们个人对这些外部环境的变化又通常比较滞后，这也会导致我们的行动与实际情况不匹配，从而使得我们的行动无法获得预期的效果。这两方面的因素使得成功的道路上，我们绝不可能一帆风顺，波折甚至是失败是必然会出现的。因此，我们必须要认识到这些困难和波折出现的必然性，增强我们的信心和毅力，积极勇敢地面对这些“不如意”。

22. On one hand, each of us has limited understanding of things, which fundamentally determines that we will inevitably make mistakes when doing things, and these mistakes may lead to the failure of a task or deviation from the set goals. On the other hand, the external environment is constantly changing, and our individual response to these changes is usually lagging, which will also lead to a mismatch between our actions and the actual situation, making our actions fail to achieve the expected results. These two factors make it impossible for us to sail smoothly on the road to success, and twists and turns, or even failures, are inevitably going to occur. Therefore, we must recognize the inevitability of these difficulties and setbacks, strengthen our confidence and perseverance, and actively and bravely face these "unfortunate" situations.

23. 这种耍酒疯就是不可取的，选择一个适合自己的方式去发泄，这样不用太压抑自己，对于心理是个很好的疏导方式。

23. It is not advisable to act drunk. Choose a suitable way to vent your emotions so that you don't have to suppress yourself too much. This is a very good way to relieve psychological stress.

24. 人生就是一个不停放弃的过程：放弃童年的无忧;成全长大的期望;放弃青春的美丽，换取成熟的智慧;放弃爱情的甜蜜，换取家庭的安稳;放弃掌声的动听，换取心灵的平静。爱因为不能拥有而深刻，梦因为不能圆满而美丽。人生，总是带着残缺的美，因缺憾而凄美。

24. Life is a continuous process of giving up: giving up the carefree days of childhood; giving up the expectations of growing up; giving up the beauty of youth for mature wisdom; giving up the sweetness of love for the stability of the family; giving up the melodious applause for the peace of the soul. Love is profound because it cannot be possessed, and dreams are beautiful because they cannot be realized perfectly. Life, always carrying the beauty of imperfection, is melancholic because of its shortcomings.

25. 真正的理解，是要在爱的基础上，以欣赏的眼光，以宽容的姿态，去与对方进行真诚的交流，交流的结果，可能因观念相同而成为相知。也可能因观念相左成为辩论的对手，但无论如何，都要尊重对方，哪怕他的观点是错的。理解的前题是爱，但基于爱的思维，也要有度，不能以爱的名义把自己的想法强加于人。

25. True understanding requires, based on the foundation of love, to engage in sincere communication with the other person with an appreciative eye and a tolerant attitude. The outcome of this communication may either lead to a deeper mutual understanding due to shared ideas, or become opponents in debate due to differing opinions. However, in any case, respect for the other person is essential, even if their views are wrong. Love is the premise for understanding, but even when thinking from a place of love, one must have boundaries and cannot impose one's own ideas on others under the guise of love.

26. 生命的最高境界，就是一个善字。善待别人是慈悲，善待自己是智慧，善待生活是修行。

26. The highest境界 of life is encapsulated in a single character: benevolence. Treating others kindly is compassion, treating oneself kindly is wisdom, and treating life kindly is cultivation.

27. 在乎自己是否有机会发言，却不在乎是否有人愿意听。在乎听到别人为自己鼓掌，却不在乎自己给别人鼓掌。在乎自己是否讲得很起劲，却不在乎自己是否讲得很浪费。在乎别人是否认真听，却不在乎自己是否认真听别人讲。

27. Care about having the opportunity to speak, but not about whether anyone is willing to listen. Care about hearing others cheer for themselves, but not about cheering for others. Care about whether one is speaking enthusiastically, but not about whether one is speaking wastefully. Care about whether others are listening attentively, but not about whether one is listening attentively to others.

28. 很高兴回答这个问题，碰到生活与工作中的不如意，这都很正常，需要自己找到合适的方法调整，比如有些女人不如意了就去购物或者找闺蜜唠叨下，这都是很良性的方式。

28. I'm glad to answer this question. It's quite normal to encounter difficulties in both life and work. You need to find appropriate methods to adjust on your own, for example, some women go shopping or vent to their best friends when they are dissatisfied. These are all very positive ways.

29. 生命的意义，自己不去探索，没人替你探索。生命的谜团，自己不去廓清，没人替你廓清。生命的刀锋，自己不去砥砺，没人替你砥砺。生命的火花，自己不去撞击，没人替你撞击。生命的火炬，自己不去高擎，没人替你高擎。如果生命的一切都要等待他人安排，那就只能度过一种不是自我生命的生命。

29. The meaning of life, if you do not explore it yourself, no one will explore it for you. The mysteries of life, if you do not clarify them yourself, no one will clarify them for you. The edge of life, if you do not sharpen it yourself, no one will sharpen it for you. The spark of life, if you do not collide with it yourself, no one will collide with it for you. The torch of life, if you do not hold it high yourself, no one will hold it high for you. If everything about life has to be arranged by others, then you can only pass through a life that is not truly your own.

30. 如果是对的，就别在意他人的评说，那只能左右你的判断;如果需要艰辛的付出，那就不要吝啬你的努力，从来没有一种真正的成功，可以毫不费力地生长于荒草丛中;如果付出与收获不对等，无须有过多的抱怨，这会让你的心更累;如果面临最彻底的失败，也不必和命运较真，我们来世上走一遭，都有许多不容易。 ;

30. If it's right, don't mind others' opinions, as they can only sway your judgment; if it requires hard work, don't spare your efforts, for there is never any real success that can grow effortlessly in the midst of weeds; if the effort and the harvest are not equal, don't complain too much, as this will only burden your heart further; and if faced with the most complete failure, don't argue with fate too much either, for in our journey on this earth, we all have our fair share of difficulties.

31. 佛说，生命中的许多东西是可遇不可求，刻意强求的得不到，而不曾被期待的往往会不期而至。 因此，要拥有一颗安闲自在的心，一切随缘，顺其自然，不怨怒，不 躁 进，不过度，不强求，不悲观，不刻板，不慌乱，不忘形，不以物喜，不以己悲。

31. Buddha said, many things in life are not what can be pursued but what can be encountered, and what one is overly eager for often cannot be obtained, while what is not anticipated often arrives unexpectedly. Therefore, one should cultivate a peaceful and carefree heart, embracing all as they come, following nature, not feeling resentment, not being impetuous, not going overboard, not demanding, not being pessimistic, not rigid, not being confused, not losing one's composure, neither being overjoyed by external things nor being sorrowful by oneself.

32. 该得到的，要付出努力抓到手，不该得到的，想也不要去想。做这样一个淡淡的女子，有自己的喜好，有自己的原则，有自己的信仰，不急功近利，不浮夸轻薄，做到宠辱不惊，也会大笑，也会打闹，心，却静如水。淡定安逸，学会懂得，从而学会慈悲。

32. Strive to grasp what you should have with effort, and don't even think about what you shouldn't have. Be such a serene woman with her own preferences, principles, and beliefs, not rushing for immediate gains, nor superficial and trivial, able to remain calm in the face of praise or blame. She can also laugh heartily and play around, but her heart remains as still as water. Serene and at ease, learn to understand, and thus learn compassion.

33. 千万不要自作多情。记住：他和你玩暧昧，就是不够喜欢你。男人真喜欢一个人，从眼睛就能看出来，他恨不得拴着你，怎么会忽冷忽热忽进忽退是，喜欢肯定有，总要他看着你顺眼才和你暧昧。所以，对暧昧你的男人一定不要多情，就算他常常拉你出来天天短信电话就算抱过亲过，也依然不代表什么。

33. Never overestimate your own importance. Remember: if he is playing around with you, it means he doesn't really like you. If a man truly likes someone, you can tell from his eyes; he would even want to tie you down. How could he be so hot and cold, coming and going? There must be some affection, but he would have to find you pleasing before he starts being ambiguous. Therefore, don't be overly affectionate towards a man who is being ambiguous with you. Even if he often takes you out, sends you daily texts and calls, and has hugged and kissed you, it still doesn't mean anything.

34. 禅语道：“肉眼看世界，全是名利；天眼看世界，无尽轮回；法眼看世界，皆是因果；慧眼看世界，俱是心幻；佛眼看世界，满是慈悲。”

34. Zen language says: "With the naked eye, the world is full of fame and wealth; with the divine eye, there is endless reincarnation; with the law eye, everything is karma; with the wisdom eye, all are illusions of the mind; with the Buddha's eye, it is full of compassion."

35. 不管你在深夜经历了怎样的泣不成声，有多少负能量，早晨醒来生活还要继续，这个城市依然车水马龙，开心或者不开心。这个城市都没有功夫等；成长，就是一个不动声色的过程，一个人熬过一些苦，才能无所不能。

35. No matter how heart-wrenching your tears were in the dead of night, no matter how much negative energy you've accumulated, life must go on when you wake up in the morning. This city is still bustling with traffic, filled with joy or sadness. This city has no time to wait. Growth is a silent process, where one must endure some hardships to become all-powerful.

36. 吃亏是福。生活中，许多人把吃亏看做是一种非常愚蠢的行为。然而，我们的判断有时却是错误的，一些亏只不过是事情的表象而已。有时，一件看似很吃亏的事，往往会变成非常有利的事。正所谓吃小亏占大便宜，聪明人往往能从吃亏中学到很多智慧。要知道世界上没有白吃的亏，有付出必然有回报。

36. Suffering a loss is a blessing. In life, many people regard suffering a loss as a very foolish behavior. However, sometimes our judgments are wrong, and some losses are just the surface appearances of things. Sometimes, what seems to be a great loss can often turn into a very advantageous situation. As the saying goes, suffering a small loss to gain a big advantage, the wise can often learn a lot of wisdom from suffering a loss. Remember that there is no free lunch in the world; there is always a return for what is given.

37. 你对自己好，就会变得更出色，在别人眼里，更加有价值。而你对别人付出太多，自己就会变得更薄弱，你的利用价值完了，也就完了。所以，学会爱自己，宠自己，把更多的机会留给自己。别总是对别人太好，老想着取悦别人，你越在乎别人，就越卑微。只有取悦自己，并让别人来取悦你，才会令你变得更有价值。

37. Taking care of yourself will make you excel and become more valuable in others' eyes. However, if you overextend yourself for others, you will become weaker, and your value will be exhausted. Therefore, learn to love and pamper yourself, and leave more opportunities for yourself. Don't always be too good to others and constantly think about pleasing them. The more you care about others, the more humble you become. Only by pleasing yourself and letting others please you will you become more valuable.

38. 你好我是小小豆苗，很高兴回答你的问题！生活不会十全十美，总会有这样那样的问题等你去解决！碰到生活与工作的不如意，不妨先放一放，做些你自己喜欢的事情，听听音乐，散散步，分散一下自己的心情，等心情好了，在冷静的想一想，该怎么解决你的困扰！

38. Hi, I'm Little Seedling. I'm glad to answer your question! Life is never perfect, and there will always be various problems waiting for you to solve! When you encounter dissatisfaction in life and work, why not take a break first, do something you like, listen to music, take a walk, and distract your mood. Once you feel better, think calmly about how to resolve your troubles!

39. 活得糊涂的，容易幸福;活得清醒的，容易烦恼。这是因为，清醒的人看得太真切，一较真，生活中便烦恼遍地;而糊涂的人，计较得少，虽然活得简单粗糙，却因此觅得了人生的大滋味。

39. Those who live in a state of confusion tend to be happier, while those who live with clarity often find themselves troubled. This is because clear-minded individuals see things too vividly, and once they take things too seriously,烦恼 are scattered all over their lives; whereas those who live in confusion, not being overly concerned with details, may lead a simpler and rougher life, but in doing so, they manage to find the profound taste of life.

40. 当生活不如意的时候，看看以下内容能否帮助你：

40. When life is not going as planned, see if the following content can help you:

41. 当不如意时最重要还是心态你的心情来平衡急急躁躁、胡思乱想那定更乱，不能一意孤行要和身边平时有份量的人商量多听听别人的意见（特别是刚踏入 社会 的年轻人）人人都会犯错可是还是要把错误减得更少[玫瑰]这样当你回过头时就会体会到一身轻松的美好！

41. When faced with adversity, the most important thing is your attitude. Your mood should be balanced, not letting impatience and wandering thoughts create chaos. Don't act on impulse; consult with people around you who are reliable and thoughtful, and listen to others' opinions (especially for young people just entering society). Everyone makes mistakes, but it's still important to minimize them [Rose]. In this way, when you look back, you will experience the wonderful feeling of being at ease!

42. 人生就是带雨伞时不下雨，下雨时却忘了带伞;人生就是勤奋工作时老板没看见，偷懒摸鱼时就被撞见;人生就是喜欢的男人不喜欢我，不喜欢的男人还是不喜欢我;人生就是当你开始思索人生是什么时，你已经成熟了。

42. Life is about carrying an umbrella when it doesn't rain, and forgetting to bring it when it does; life is about working diligently but the boss doesn't notice, and being caught loafing when you're caught napping; life is about liking a man who doesn't like you, and the one you don't like still doesn't like you; life is about when you start to ponder what life is, you have already matured.

43. 你怎么对待生活，生活就怎么回馈你。你浑浑噩噩，不思进取，得过且过，玩物丧志，生活就给你一世平庸。你敢想敢干，风风火火，雷厉风行，杀伐果断，生活就给你想要的成功和精彩。

43. How you treat life, life will reciprocate to you. If you are indifferent, not ambitious, just getting by, indulging in trivial things, and losing your passion, life will give you a life of mediocrity. If you dare to think and act, being energetic and decisive, taking firm actions, life will give you the success and excitement you desire.

44. 有位禅师有一个爱抱怨的弟子。一天，禅师将一把盐放入一杯水中让弟子喝，弟子说：咸得发苦。禅师又把更多的盐撒进湖里，让弟子再尝湖水。弟子喝后说：纯净甜美。禅师说：生命中的痛苦是盐，它的咸淡取决于盛它的容器。你愿做一杯水，还是一片湖水

44. A monk had a disciple who was always complaining. One day, the monk put a spoon of salt into a glass of water and asked the disciple to drink it. The disciple said, "It's so salty, it tastes bitter." Then the monk poured more salt into a lake and asked the disciple to taste the water. After drinking, the disciple said, "It's pure and sweet." The monk said, "The pain in life is like salt; its bitterness or sweetness depends on the container it is in. Would you like to be a glass of water or a lake?"

45. 面对生活中的种种无常，我们应该淡然以对。生命的精彩之处正在于它的不可预测。如果有机会可以知道今后的所有遭遇和经历，你愿意提前知道这些吗反正我不愿意。

45. In the face of the various impermanences in life, we should remain indifferent. The wonder of life lies in its unpredictability. If there was a chance to know all the future encounters and experiences, would you want to know them in advance? Well, I wouldn't.

46. 人生的路上，我们都在奔跑，我们总在赶超一些人，也总在被一些人超越。人生的要义，一是欣赏沿途的风景，二是抵达遥远的终点;人生的秘诀，寻找一种最适合自己的速度，莫因疾进而不堪重荷，莫因迟缓而空耗生命;人生的快乐，走自己的路，看自己的景，超越他人不得意，他人超越不失志。

46. On the journey of life, we are all running, constantly surpassing some people while also being surpassed by others. The essence of life lies in two things: first, appreciating the scenery along the way, and second, reaching the distant destination; the secret of life is to find a pace that suits oneself best, neither to bear the burden of excessive haste nor to waste one's life in indolence; the joy of life is to walk one's own path, to see one's own scenery, to not be disheartened when surpassing others, and to not lose one's resolve when others surpass you.

47. 有的人本来幸福，却看起来很烦恼;有的人本来该烦恼，却看起来很幸福。活得糊涂的人，容易幸福;活得清醒的人，容易烦恼。这是因为，清醒的人看得太真切，一较真，生活中就烦恼遍地;而糊涂的人，计较得少，虽活得简单粗糙，却得到人生的大滋味。于是世上的精明人，都在傻傻地仰视糊涂人的幸福。

47. Some people are inherently happy yet appear troubled; others should be troubled yet seem very happy. Those who live in a state of confusion tend to be happy; those who are clear-headed tend to be troubled. This is because clear-headed people see things too clearly, and when they take things too seriously,烦恼 are everywhere in life; while confused people, with less to reckon with, though living a simple and rough life, yet taste the great joys of life. Thus, the world's wise people foolishly admire the happiness of confused people.

48. 当工作不顺利的时候，看看下面内容，能不能给你一些建议：

48. When work is not going smoothly, take a look at the following content to see if it can offer you some suggestions:

49. 人生看淡了，不过是无常。事业看透了，不过是取舍。爱情看穿了，不过是聚散。生死看懂了，不过是离合。珍惜瞬息万变的此刻，珍惜稍纵即逝的激情。

49. Life, when seen with detachment, is just impermanence. Career, when understood, is just about choices and renunciations. Love, when seen through, is just about coming together and parting. Life and death, when understood, are just about separation and reunion. Cherish this moment that is ever-changing, cherish the passion that is fleeting.

50. 我们可能无法左右自己的命运，但可以左右对待命运的态度，不管自己处于什么样的境遇，都要以积极心看问题，以乐观心对世界，以欢喜心生情味，以豁达心过生活。

50. We may not be able to control our destiny, but we can control our attitude towards it. Regardless of our circumstances, we should view problems with a positive mindset, face the world with optimism, find joy in emotions, and live life with an open heart.

51. 苦是生活的原味，累是人生的本质。你走得再远，爬得再高，也脱离不了苦与累的纠缠。人生就是一种承受，一种压力，让我们在负重中前行，逼迫中奋进。无论走到哪里，我们都要学会支撑自己，失败时给自己多一些激励，孤独时给自己多一些温暖，努力让自己的心灵轻快些，让自己的精神轻盈些。

51. Bitterness is the original flavor of life, and tiredness is the essence of human existence. No matter how far you go or how high you climb, you cannot escape the entanglement of bitterness and fatigue. Life is a kind of endurance, a kind of pressure that compels us to move forward while carrying burdens and pressing on. No matter where we go, we must learn to support ourselves, give ourselves more motivation in times of failure, more warmth in times of solitude, and strive to make our souls lighter and our spirits lighter.

52. 懂得放弃，在落泪之前转身离去，留下简单的身影;学会放弃，将昨天埋在心底，留下最美好的回忆;学会放弃，让彼此都能有一个更轻松的开始，遍体鳞伤得的爱并不一定刻骨铭心。这一程情深缘浅，走到今天已是不易，轻轻的抽出手，说声再见，真的很感谢这一路有你。

52. Know when to let go, turn away before shedding tears, leaving behind a simple silhouette; learn to let go, bury yesterday deep in your heart, retaining the most beautiful memories; learn to let go, allowing each other to start afresh with ease, love that leaves you bruised and torn is not necessarily unforgettable. This journey of deep love and shallow fate has been challenging to reach this point, gently pull away your hand, say goodbye, I truly appreciate having you by my side all this way.

53. 生活其实很简单，有勇气后退就行了;生活其实很简单，胜利时保持安静就行了;生活其实很简单，把缺陷转化成动力就行了;生活其实很简单，不要被成功模式束缚就行了;生活其实很简单，在艰苦的环境中选择坚强就行了。

53. Life is actually very simple, just have the courage to retreat; life is actually very simple, just stay quiet when you win; life is actually very simple, just turn defects into motivation; life is actually very simple, just don't be bound by the successful model; life is actually very simple, just choose to be strong in tough environments.

54. 别人爱不爱你不重要，父母伴侣儿女爱不爱你不重要，关键是自己爱自己。

54. It doesn't matter if others love you or not, nor does it matter if your parents, partner, or children love you or not. The key is to love yourself.

55. 刘若英说过：“女人最好的宿命，不是嫁给一个多么宠你爱你的老公，而是要学会一个人也可以过得很精彩，一个人若没有让自己幸福的能力，那么两个人在一起也不会幸福。”

55. Liu Ruoying once said, "The best fate for a woman is not to marry a husband who spoils and loves you, but to learn how to live a vibrant life on your own. If a person doesn't have the ability to make themselves happy, then two people together will not be happy either."

56. 得饶人处且饶人，不仅是美德，也是智慧。宽容他人的过失，原谅别人的过错，会显示出自己的容人之量，展示出自己的人格格魅力，让大家更愿意接近我们与我们合作。给别人一条退路放别人一马，会使事情得到圆满的解决，也会让别人对我们敬重有加，为日后的相见或合作创造良好的条件。

56. To give others a way out and let bygones be bygones is not only a virtue but also a sign of wisdom. Showing tolerance for others' mistakes and forgiving their faults demonstrates one's capacity for forgiveness, showcases one's personal charm, and makes others more willing to approach and cooperate with us. Giving others a second chance and letting them off the hook can lead to a complete resolution of the matter, as well as earn us greater respect from others. It also creates favorable conditions for future meetings or collaborations.

57. 靠山山倒，靠人人跑，只有靠自己才能获取幸福。人生是一个悲喜自渡的过程，你惊天动地的伤痛，在别人眼里，不过随手拂过了尘埃。你欢呼雀跃的惊喜，在别人看来，不过是一种显摆和炫耀。放下对别人的指望和期待，自己善待自己，自己救赎自己，自己成全自己。

57. Relying on a mountain and the mountain falls; relying on a person and the person runs away; only by relying on oneself can one achieve happiness. Life is a process of self-resolution through joy and sorrow. The earth-shattering pain you experience is just a fleeting dust in others' eyes. The joyous surprises you celebrate are seen by others as mere showing off and boasting. Let go of expectations and reliance on others, treat yourself kindly, redeem yourself, and fulfill yourself.

58. 有些痛苦，可以挂在脸上让人知晓，有些只能埋在心底独自承受。有时候，刻在心上的比写在脸上的更痛苦，因为它损伤了你的骨髓和精神。我们常关注那些脸上痛苦的人，毫不吝啬地怜悯和慷慨;而对那里心里痛苦的人，我们又会忽视甚至冷漠。这个世上最难的，不是你伸出援手，而是走进他人心里。

58. Some pain can be displayed on the face for others to see, while some can only be buried deep in the heart, to be endured alone. Sometimes, the pain etched in the heart is more torturous than that written on the face, for it wounds your very bone and spirit. We often pay attention to those who show their pain on their faces, generously offering compassion and generosity; yet, we tend to ignore or even be indifferent to those who carry their heartache within. The greatest challenge in this world is not to extend a helping hand, but to step into the hearts of others.

59. 认清人生不如意是常态的事实，接受人生道路上的崎岖和坎坷，用热情和信心去拼搏奋斗，努力之后，把结果交给时间和上帝，得之，我幸，不得，我命！

59. Recognize that it is a fact that life is often not as one wishes, accept the rough and uneven path of life, and strive with passion and confidence. After making an effort, leave the outcome to time and God. If I get it, I am lucky; if I don't, it's my destiny!

60. 人的一生中，都会沐浴幸福和快乐，也会历练坎坷和挫折。幸福快乐时，我们总是感觉时间的短暂;而痛苦难过时，我们却抱怨度日如年。幸福和痛苦本来就是双胞胎，痛苦往往与幸福并存。学会享受幸福，也要学会享受痛苦，享受幸福会增加你的成就感，享受痛苦则会提高你的自信心和忍耐力。

60. In one's life, one will experience both happiness and joy, as well as hardships and setbacks. When we are happy and joyful, we always feel that time is fleeting; while in pain or sadness, we complain that days drag on. Happiness and pain are twins, often coexisting. We should learn to enjoy happiness, but also learn to enjoy pain. Enjoying happiness will increase your sense of achievement, while enjoying pain will enhance your self-confidence and endurance.

61. 俗话说的好:人生不如意十有八九，岂能件件都如意。那么，生活中遇到不如意的事，怎么办呢。

61. As the saying goes: in life, things do not always go as planned, and there's an 80-90% chance that things will not turn out as desired. So, what should one do when faced with things that are not as expected in life?

62. 有时候哭泣不是因为难过，有时候执着是一种负担，有时候放弃是一种解脱，有时候错过一些东西，就一辈子错过了。有时候守住不变的承诺，却守不住一颗善变的心。强迫自己忘了你，原来一切我并不能左右，很多事情的发展注定它有个结束，擦身而过的时候，我们应该学会遗忘。

62. Sometimes we cry not because we are sad, sometimes our persistence is a burden, sometimes giving up is a relief, and sometimes missing something means missing it forever. Sometimes we hold onto unchanging promises, but we cannot hold onto a heart that is fickle. Forcing myself to forget you, I realize that I have no control over everything; the development of many things is destined to have an end. When we pass by each other, we should learn to forget.

63. 不懂得放弃的人，总将生活中不如意绕在心灵的枝杆上，一生就像北方腊月的浓雾，挥之不去。就这么一味地自怨自哀，自暴自弃，于是青春美丽的容颜与悠悠岁月擦肩而过恰如风过竹面，雁过长空，就像苏东坡的一生人生长叹：事如春梦了无痕。

63. Those who do not understand the art of letting go tend to keep the dissatisfaction of life tangled around the branches of their soul, and their entire life is like the thick fog of the Northern winter, which cannot be dispelled. They indulge in self-reproach and self-contempt, and thus, the youthful and beautiful face passes by with the slow passage of time, just as the wind passes over bamboo leaves or a wild goose flies through the sky. It's as if it were Su Dongpo's entire life, sighing deeply: Things are like spring dreams, leaving no trace.

64. 无论是谁，我们都不可能实现我们定下的所有人生目标，总有些目标我们终其一生也都无法实现。因为实现一个特定的目标需要的达成的条件太多了，在我们短暂的一生中，尤其在我们生活的这个特定时代里，有很多条件的达成是受到个人能力和时代机遇的双重局限的，因此有些条件我们永远也无法达成，因而我们有很多人生目标必然无法实现。这也是一种人生的必然性，在面对这些“不如意”的时候，我们只有“放下”心中这些目标，我们才能不再执着。

64. No matter who it is, we cannot achieve all the life goals we have set for ourselves. There are always some goals that we will never be able to achieve in our lifetime. This is because achieving a specific goal requires too many conditions to be met, and in our short lives, especially in the particular era we live in, many of these conditions are limited by both personal abilities and the opportunities of the times. Therefore, some conditions will forever be out of reach, and thus, many of our life goals will inevitably remain unattainable. This is also a natural aspect of life. When faced with these "unfortunate" situations, we can only let go of these goals in our hearts to stop being obsessed with them.

65. 生活就是这样，脚长在自己身上，往前走就对了，直到向往的风景，变成走过的地方。人生本来就是一场即兴演出，直到每段旅程，变成我的舞台。踩着别人的脚印，不如开辟自己的领土，撞到南墙也决不回头，谁说爱好这件事成不了大事，没有做不成的梦，只有不早醒的人。

65. Life is like this, the feet are on your own body, just keep moving forward until the desired scenery becomes a place you've passed through. Life itself is an improvisational performance, until every journey becomes my stage. It's better to carve out your own territory than to follow others' footsteps, and I will never turn back upon hitting a dead end. Who says that hobbies can't be a big deal? There are no unattainable dreams, only those who don't wake up early.