在自律的社交圈，情感边缘游走，他人不问，胜负不计。

In an autonomous social circle, emotions徘徊 on the edge, and others do not inquire; neither victory nor defeat is counted.

1. 人生不过就是一次体验而已，不管你多牛多厉害，多了不起，最后都要尘归尘，土归土，一切都不复存在。但只用为自己而活着，不用把自己陷入攀比的痛苦之中。

1. Life is just an experience, no matter how great or powerful you are, how remarkable you may be, in the end, everything will return to dust and soil, and all will cease to exist. But one should live for oneself, and not get trapped in the pain of comparison.

2. 一个人最大的弱点，就是不自主地和别人攀比。自己本来过着非常惬意的日子，看到朋友买了别墅，立即内心不平，也想着买一套更大的别墅，看到邻居买了豪车，立即心生妒忌，别想着买一辆更好的豪车。看到同事升职加薪，内心不服气，眼红耳热，耿耿于怀，自己也要努力的往上爬，如果爬不上去，也巴不得对方倒霉。

2. The greatest weakness of a person is to involuntarily compare themselves with others. One might be living a very comfortable life, but upon seeing a friend buy a villa, they immediately feel an inner sense of injustice and start thinking about buying an even larger one. If they see a neighbor purchase a luxury car, they immediately feel jealous and start thinking about buying a better one. When they see a colleague get a promotion and salary increase, they feel不服气, feel envy, and hold it against them. They also strive to climb up the social ladder, and if they can't make it, they even wish misfortune upon the other person.

3. 比如你遇到一个特别重要的人生困境，本来可以花钱摆平，但你舍不得那么多钱，于是动用自己的人情关系，结果一辈子都会成为你的心理负担，别人甚至还会提醒你，没有他的作为，就不可能有你的今天，让你一生都抬不起头。

3. For example, if you encounter a particularly important life困境, you could have resolved it by spending money, but you couldn't bear to spend so much. So you resort to using your personal connections, which results in it becoming a lifelong psychological burden for you. Others might even remind you that without their help, there would not have been your today, making it difficult for you to hold your head up for the rest of your life.

4. 每个人都有自己的因果和命运，无需介入别人的因果，尊重别人的一切现状，只要把所有的时间和精力都用在自己的身上，聚焦自己喜欢的事情，不必管别人的水深火热，过多的慈悲心只能吞噬自己，不会让你立地成佛。

4. Everyone has their own karma and destiny. There is no need to interfere with others' karma. Respect others' current situations. Just use all your time and energy on yourself, focus on what you like, and don't worry about others' plight. Too much compassion can only consume yourself, and it won't allow you to become a Buddha instantly.

5. 尼采说：“你要搞清楚自己人生的剧本——不是你父母的续集，不是你子女的前传，更不是你朋友的外篇。对待生命你不妨大胆冒险一点，因为最终你要失去它。生命中最难的阶段不是没有人懂你，而是你不懂你自己。”

5. Nietzsche said: "You should clarify the script of your own life—neither a sequel to your parents' story, nor a prequel to your children's, nor a spin-off of your friends' adventures. Treat life with a bit of daring adventure, because in the end, you will lose it. The most difficult stage in life is not that no one understands you, but that you do not understand yourself."

6. 当你学会不谈感情 ，不管别人，不争胜负，你将成为一个内心强大的人，磁场能量非常旺盛，人生运势也会越来越好。

6. When you learn not to talk about emotions, ignore others, and not to compete for victory, you will become a person with a strong inner self, with a very vibrant magnetic energy, and your life's fortune will also become better and better.

7. 一段醍醐灌顶的话：“成年人，少谈一些感情，多为别人的劳务付出买单，你会发现，自己越来越富有了，无论是从金钱上，还是精神上。

7. A profound thought: "Adults, talk less about emotions and pay more for others' labor. You will find that you become richer and richer, whether in terms of money or spirit.

8. 不争胜负，随心而活，快快乐乐地度过每一天。

8. Do not strive for victory, live according to your heart, and enjoy every day happily.

9. 无论你怎么表现，都会有人对你不友好，无论你怎么折腾，都会有人指指点点，说三道四，屏蔽一切不和谐的声音，按照自己的想法，勇敢的生活吧。

9. No matter how you behave, there will always be people who are unfriendly to you; no matter how much you stir up trouble, there will always be those who point fingers and gossip.屏蔽all discordant voices, live bravely according to your own thoughts.

10. 幸福是属于每个人内心的感受，不属于其他任何人的看法。

10. Happiness is an inner feeling that belongs to everyone, not the opinion of anyone else.

11. 生命是一条孤独的河流，只有自己才是人生的摆渡人。况且我们非常普通平庸，在生活的重压之下，泥菩萨过河，自身难保，根本没有能力去为一些无关紧要的人操心，不要在意别人对你的态度和看法。

11. Life is a solitary river, and only oneself can be the ferryman of life. Moreover, we are very ordinary and plain, under the heavy pressure of life, even the clay Buddha crossing the river is hard for itself, let alone having the ability to worry about people who are not important. Don't care about others' attitudes and opinions towards you.

12. ​如果你能悟到这一层，你会发现，世间有太多的乞丐和恶鬼，每天都在索取索取索取，但是他们能给予的，只有唾沫星子。”

12. If you can understand this level, you will find that there are too many beggars and evil spirits in the world, who ask for and ask for and ask for every day, but all they can give is just spittle."

13. 能够用钱解决的问题，千万不要动用感情，否则你会背负源源不断的人情债。金钱债容易偿还，人情债可是怎么都还不清，就像一个无底洞，你一辈子都深陷其中，不能自拔。

13. Don't ever use emotions to solve problems that can be dealt with money, or you will be burdened with an endless debt of favors. Money debts are easy to repay, but people's debts are impossible to pay off, like a bottomless pit, trapping you for a lifetime and preventing you from pulling yourself out.

14. 我们曾如此期待别人的认可，后来才发现，世界是自己的，和其他人毫无关系。

14. We had so eagerly awaited others' recognition, only to find out later that the world is our own, having nothing to do with others.

15. 最高级的社交自律，就是不要把自己的生命主导权交给其他任何人，不要高估自己在别人心中的位置，不要低估自己面对生活的能力。

15. The highest level of social self-discipline is not to entrust the control of one's own life to anyone else, not to overestimate one's own position in others' hearts, and not to underestimate one's own ability to face life.