跳出情绪黑洞，拒绝底层互害，勇往直前！

Break out of the emotional black hole, refuse to harm each other at the bottom, and forge ahead resolutely!

1. 你如果混得好一点，挣钱多一点，大家就会嫉妒你，联合起来坑你，你如果混得比大家差一点，老实一点，窝囊一点，别人就会欺负你，踩踏你，伤害你。

1. If you fare a little better and earn more, others will be jealous of you, team up to harm you; if you're not as good as everyone else, if you're honest and weak, others will mistreat you, trample you, and hurt you.

2. “如果你听见一个人说话，就莫名其妙的烦躁，内心充满无法解释的怒火，与他相处时，总会有一股难以名状的愤怒和反感的情绪，这不是你脾气不好，这是一种创伤后应激反应。

2. "If you feel restless and filled with inexplicable anger when you hear someone speak, and always have an unnameable feeling of anger and repulsion when interacting with them, this is not because you have a bad temper; it is a post-traumatic stress response."

3. 复旦大学社会学教授王波提出了一个底层社会互害模式。就是越是社会底层的人生存状况就越加艰难，主要还不是经济原因，而是同一个圈子里面的人，互相伤害，互相欺负，以大欺小，以强凌弱，没有底线和原则，没有同情和怜悯。

3. Professor Wang Bo, a sociologist at Fudan University, proposed a model of mutual harm among the underclass. It is that the living conditions of people at the bottom of society become increasingly difficult, mainly not due to economic reasons, but rather because of the mutual harm and bullying among people in the same circle, where the strong exploit the weak, the big oppress the small, without any bottom line or principle, and without any sympathy or compassion.

4. 你接近什么样的人，就会成为什么样的人。

4. The kind of people you associate with, the kind of person you will become.

5. 人生虽然有各种各样的是非纠葛，必然局束于人际关系的网络之中，没有绝对的自由， 但是我们可以通过智慧修炼自己，通过努力自主选择人际关系，远离人世间的一切消耗和伤害。

5. Although life is entangled with various kinds of right and wrong issues, it is inevitably confined within the network of interpersonal relationships, with no absolute freedom. However, we can cultivate ourselves through wisdom and through effort make independent choices in our interpersonal relationships, thereby keeping away from all the consumption and harm in the world.

6. ​如果你遇到这样的人，不要怀疑自己，也不必强求自己去适应，因为这已经是生理性厌恶了，只能是远离。”

6. If you encounter such people, do not doubt yourself, and do not force yourself to adapt, because this is already a physiological aversion, and it can only be to keep your distance.

7. 有些人不会给你带来任何快乐和幸福，只会给你带来源源不断的烦恼和痛苦， 他们的存在就像一个情绪黑洞，不断的向你倾倒情绪垃圾，用负能量来感染你，拉拢你，消耗你，让你也坠入他的情绪黑洞之中，万劫不复。

7. Some people will bring you no joy or happiness, but only endless烦恼 and pain. Their presence is like a black hole of emotions, constantly pouring emotional garbage onto you, using negative energy to infect you, entice you, consume you, and drag you into their emotional black hole, from which there is no return.

8. 我们想要改变自己窘迫的命运，拥有更加美好的生活，就必须要放弃掉一些消耗你的人际圈子，主动选择和建立有利于自己的人际圈子。

8. If we want to change our embarrassing fate and live a better life, we must give up some of the social circles that consume us and actively choose to establish social circles that are beneficial to us.

9. 一个人最有勇气的活法，就是远离一切情绪黑洞，跳脱一切底层互害。

9. The most courageous way to live is to stay away from all emotional black holes and break free from all forms of mutual harm at the grassroots level.

10. 如果你生活中有这样的人，一定要及时远离，哪怕是关系最亲密的人，哪怕是曾经相濡以沫的小伙伴，他已经变成了你沉重的负资产，如果不早点清除出去，将会成为压垮你的最后一根稻草。

10. If there are such people in your life, be sure to distance yourself from them in a timely manner, even if they are the closest of your relations, or even if they were once close companions who supported you through thick and thin. They have now become a heavy liability for you, and if you do not remove them early on, they may turn into the last straw that breaks the camel's back.

11. 你把一只螃蟹丢在竹篓里，它很快就可以爬出来，你把一群螃蟹丢在竹篓里，它们就再也爬不出来了，因为当其中一只螃蟹努力往上爬的时候，其他螃蟹会用钳子勾住它，把它拽下来。

11. If you put a single crab in a bamboo basket, it can quickly climb out. However, if you put a group of crabs in the same bamboo basket, they will never be able to climb out, because when one crab tries to climb up, the others will use their pincers to hook it and pull it down.

12. 心理学家说：

12. Psychologists say:

13. 不掉进任何人的情绪黑洞，远离任何人的消耗和伤害，我们才可以幸福快乐，行稳致远。

13. By not falling into anyone's emotional black hole and keeping away from anyone's consumption and harm, we can only be happy and go steadily towards our goals.

14. 近朱者赤，近墨者黑。

14. "Those who keep company with the red will turn red, and those who keep company with the black will turn black."

15. 如果我们处于底层，一定要想办法跳出来，消灭这些不健康的人际关系，让自己获得新生。

15. If we are at the bottom, we must find a way to climb out, eliminate these unhealthy interpersonal relationships, and give ourselves a new lease on life.

16. ​你不能去想他，不能看到他，不能听到他说话的声音，更不能与之交谈，否则你会心率加快，血压升高，血脉喷张，情绪起伏，难以入眠。

16. You cannot think of him, you cannot see him, you cannot hear his voice, nor can you talk to him, otherwise your heart rate will accelerate, your blood pressure will rise, your pulse will quicken, your emotions will fluctuate, and it will be hard for you to fall asleep.

17. 心理学家阿德勒说，我们几乎所有的痛苦，都来自于人际关系。

17. The psychologist Adler said that almost all of our suffering comes from interpersonal relationships.

18. 如果你是底层社会的一员，就会发现这样残酷的现实，你如果特别上进，特别优秀，特别努力，不甘心眼前的现状，跟你同一个圈子的人会千方百计的裹挟你，让你去唱歌，让你去打牌，让你玩游戏，一定要把你的上进心给消耗掉。

18. If you are a member of the lower social strata, you will find such a cruel reality: if you are particularly ambitious, outstanding, and hardworking, and are not satisfied with the current situation, people in the same circle as you will go to great lengths to drag you along, making you sing, play cards, or play games, determined to exhaust your ambition.