1. 日常生活中，经常见到这样的人：眉头紧锁，面无表情，干什么都心不在焉，做一点事就怕自己吃亏，嘴里唠唠叨叨，一直在抱怨：抱怨遇人不淑，抱怨社会不公，内心充满了敌意与怨恨，不努力改变窘境，不去弥合分歧，于是你离快乐越来越远，离不幸越来越近。最终，抱怨把担心的事情变成了现实，苦果只能自己去尝。

1. In daily life, we often encounter such people: their brows are tightly knit, their expressions devoid of emotion, they are distracted in everything they do, afraid of being shortchanged in the slightest task, and they constantly complain: complaining about meeting unsuitable people, complaining about social injustice, their hearts brimming with animosity and resentment. They do not strive to change their difficult situation, nor do they work to bridge divisions. As a result, they move further away from happiness and closer to misfortune. Eventually, their complaints turn the things they worry about into reality, and they have to taste the bitter fruit themselves.

2. 大多数人产生抱怨情绪，最开始的时候只是因为担心某件事情会发生，从而怨愤或嗔怪他人。用抱怨提醒或者警告对方，似乎令人担忧的事情就不会发生了。但是，实际情况与之相反，抱怨非但不能消除忧虑，反而会使本来不会发生的事变成现实。

2. Most people develop a complaining attitude, initially because they are worried about something happening, leading to resentment or scolding towards others. It seems that by complaining and reminding or warning the other party, the things that cause concern will not happen. However, the reality is exactly the opposite; complaining not only fails to eliminate worries but can actually turn what would not have happened into a reality.

3. 抱怨，就是在吸引不幸。

3. Complaining is a way of attracting misfortune.

4. 面对眼前美好的人和事，要懂得欣赏，并感谢自己拥有的切。善待人生，不去抱怨，自然容易成为一个幸运儿。作为一种负面情绪，抱怨会吸引不幸，你还有什么理由不快速远离它呢?抱怨，其实就是在和别人诉说你内心的危机感。伴随着这种倾诉，危机感没有消失，反而会不断加强。起初，你并不相信事情会发生，只是防患于未然，但是随着抱怨次数的增加，你开始相信事情可能会发生，甚至觉得事情马上就会发生。

4. In the face of the beautiful people and things before you, you should learn to appreciate them and be grateful for everything you have. Treat life kindly, don't complain, and it's naturally easier to become a lucky person. As a negative emotion, complaining will attract misfortune. What reasons do you have not to quickly distance yourself from it? In fact, complaining is to诉说你内心的危机感 to others. Along with this venting, the sense of crisis does not disappear; instead, it keeps intensifying. Initially, you don't believe that things will happen, but only try to prevent them. However, as the number of complaints increases, you begin to believe that things might happen, even feeling that they might happen at any moment.

5. 你在抱怨给别人听时：别人未必会同情你，未必理解你，相反，还可能看你的笑话。一般人们都不喜欢跟爱抱怨的人在一起，因为这样的人没有好运气，谁愿意和运气不好的人在一起呢？

5. When you are complaining to others: others may not sympathize with you, may not understand you, but instead, they might laugh at your expense. Generally, people do not like to be around complainers, because such individuals are not lucky, and who would want to be with someone who has bad luck?

6. 习惯抱怨的人，无法赢得幸运之神的垂青。

6. Complainers cannot win the favor of the goddess of luck.

7. 从现在开始，停止抱怨，积极的去生活吧。

7. From now on, stop complaining and start living positively.

8. 第一，学会换位思考。抱怨是一种传染性极强的情绪，它可以让周围的人都陷入其中。为此，遇到令人厌烦的事要及时换位思考、努力给大脑积极的暗示，主动调节不良情绪，站在对方的立场上去看待问题，也许没有那么糟，自己宽慰自己，没什么大不了的，自己想通了，理顺了，这事就没那么不堪了。

8. First, learn to think from another's perspective. Complaining is an extremely contagious emotion that can draw everyone around into it. Therefore, when faced with annoying things, it is important to think from another's perspective, strive to give the brain positive suggestions, actively regulate negative emotions, view the problem from the other person's standpoint, and perhaps it won't be as bad as it seems. Comfort yourself, and it's not a big deal. Once you think it through and sort it out, the matter won't seem so unbearable.

9. 第二，学会感恩。一个人习惯抱怨之后，短时间内很难改变这种思维定式。不妨每天晚上睡前找出一件当天值得感恩的事情，哪怕是一些具体的让人感到温暖的小事，每天想想这些温暖的时刻，连续几天之后你会发现世界有那么多令人感动的瞬间，生活是如此美好。

9. Secondly, learn to be grateful. It's difficult to change this fixed mindset after someone gets accustomed to complaining. Why not find something to be grateful for each day before going to bed, even if it's something small and specific that warms your heart. By reflecting on these moments of warmth every day, after a few days you will realize that there are so many touching moments in the world, and life is so beautiful.

10. 第三，多和正能量的人在一起。在无法通过换位思考消除负面情绪的时候，就要和正能量的人在一起，看人家遇到烦心事是怎么处理的，是不是具备稳定的情绪，清晰的思路，有条不紊的处理着每件事，那么多的烦心事在这样的心态下也不算麻烦事了，久而久之自己也学会了处理事情的方式。

10. Thirdly, spend more time with positive-minded people. When you cannot eliminate negative emotions through empathy, you should be with positive-minded individuals. Observe how they handle their troubles; do they have stable emotions, clear thinking, and a systematic approach to handling each matter? With such a mindset, even numerous troubles will not seem烦扰，and over time, you will also learn how to deal with things in a proper manner.

11. 自己要会学积极的去生活，每天给自己一个开心的理由，养成良好的作息时间，用锻炼身体、听音乐这些积极的事情丰富自己的生活，其实谁都有烦恼的事情，谁不抱怨，谁能把自己哄开心了，这就是本事。

11. One should learn to live positively, give oneself a reason to be happy every day, develop good habits of work and rest, and enrich one's life with positive activities such as exercising and listening to music. In fact, everyone has things to worry about; who doesn't complain? Who can cheer themselves up? That is what counts as skill.

12. 心理调节的方法有哪些，每个人的生活都会遇到不顺心的事情，也难免会有心情低落，郁郁寡欢的时候，如果不及时调节的话，很可能会对身心造成伤害，以下分享心理调节的方法有哪些。

12. What are the methods of psychological adjustment? Everyone's life will encounter unpleasant things, and it is inevitable to have times when one is down and unhappy. If not adjusted in time, it may cause harm to both the mind and body. The following shares some methods of psychological adjustment.

13. 我们生活中的压力可能并非来源于所陷入的生活困境，而是来源于我们对这些生活经历所采取的反应。你无法控制生活降临于你头上的打击，但你却能控制自己对待这一打击的态度。所以，在面临心理压力时，你一定要做到：不要让压力占据你的头脑。

13. The pressure in our lives may not come from the difficult situations we find ourselves in, but from the responses we take towards these life experiences. You cannot control the blows life throws at you, but you can control your attitude towards these blows. So, when facing psychological pressure, you must make sure to: do not let the pressure occupy your mind.

14. 保持乐观是控制心理压力的关键，我们应将挫折视为鞭策我们前进的动力，不要养成消极的思考习惯，遇事要多往好处想。洞察你自己的心声。许多人对一些情形已形成条件反射，不加思索就做出反应。我们应多聆听自己的心声，给自己留一点时间，平心静气地想一想，努力在消极情绪中加入一些积极的思考。

14. Maintaining optimism is the key to controlling psychological stress. We should view setbacks as a driving force propelling us forward, avoid developing negative thinking habits, and try to focus on the positive aspects of situations. Listen to your inner voice. Many people have developed conditioned reflexes to certain situations and react without thinking. We should pay more attention to our inner voice, give ourselves some time, calm down and think, and try to incorporate some positive thinking into negative emotions.

15. 心理学家认为，保持冷静是防止心理失控的最佳方法。而每天早或晚进行20分钟的盘腿静坐或自我放松术，则能创造一种内心平衡感。

15. Psychologists believe that maintaining calm is the best way to prevent psychological loss of control. Engaging in 20 minutes of sitting cross-legged meditation or self-relaxation techniques in the morning or evening can help create a sense of inner balance.

16. 这种屏除杂念的静坐冥想能降低血压，减少焦虑感。有一项研究表明，过度焦虑烦躁的人每天花10分钟静坐，集中注意数心跳，使自己心跳逐渐变缓慢。10个星期后，他们的心理紧张均有一定程度的减轻。此外，按摩对减轻压力感也非常有效。

16. This meditative sitting that eliminates distractions can lower blood pressure and reduce anxiety. A study shows that people who are overly anxious and restless spend 10 minutes each day in meditative sitting, focusing their attention on counting their heartbeats, which helps to slow down their heart rate. After 10 weeks, their psychological tension was significantly reduced. In addition, massage is also very effective in reducing a sense of stress.

17. 许多妇女抱怨说她们时间老是不够用，事情也老干不完。这种焦虑和受压感对许多人来说已成为他们生活的一部分。那些为工作或生活疲于奔命的人。并不懂得生活的真正含义。要平衡自己的生活应尝试换个角度想问题，抽空去想一想或回味一下那些令自己快乐的事情。

17. Many women complain that they always seem to have insufficient time and that there is always more work to be done. This anxiety and sense of pressure has become a part of life for many. Those who are constantly busy with work or life do not understand the true meaning of life. To balance their lives, they should try to look at things from a different perspective, take some time to think about or reminisce about the things that bring them joy.

18. 当你为琐事而紧张不安，忧心忡忡是无济于事的，你应想个办法来解决这一问题。一个行之有效的方法是把一切都写下来。每天早起10分钟 ，把自己感受写满3页16开的纸，事后不要修改，也无需再重读。过一段时间你把自己的烦恼都表达出来之后，你会发现自己的头脑清楚了，也能更好地处理这些问题了。这种自我交谈方法能帮助你解决好多问题。

18. When you are anxious and worried about trivial matters, it won't help to be so; you should find a way to solve this problem. An effective method is to write everything down. Spend 10 minutes each morning early, filling three pages of A4 paper with your feelings. Do not revise it afterward, nor do you need to reread it. After a period of time, when you have expressed all your troubles, you will find that your mind is clearer and you can better handle these issues. This self-dialogue method can help you solve many problems.

19. 用某些哲理或某些名言安慰自己，鼓励自己同痛苦、逆境作斗争。自娱自乐，会使你的情绪好转。

19. Comfort and encourage yourself with certain philosophies or famous sayings, fighting against pain and adversity. Self-entertainment will improve your mood.

20. 用“制怒”、“忍”、“冷静”等自我提醒、自我命令、自我暗示，也能调节自己的情绪。

20. Using self-reminders, self-commands, and self-suggestions such as "control anger," "endure," and "remain calm" can also help regulate one's emotions.

21. 环境对情绪有重要的调节和制约作用。情绪压抑的。时候，到外边走一走，能起调节作用。

21. The environment plays an important regulatory and restrictive role in emotions. When emotions are suppressed, going out for a walk can help regulate them.

22. 心情不快时，到娱乐场做做游戏，会消愁解闷。情绪忧虑时，最好的办法是去看看滑稽**。

22. When feeling unhappy, playing games at entertainment venues can help relieve boredom. When feeling anxious, the best way is to watch something humorous.

23. 请你把注意力从消极方面转到积极、有意义的方面来，心情会豁然开朗。

23. Please shift your focus from the negative to the positive and meaningful aspects, and your mood will suddenly brighten up.

24. 例如，当你遇到苦恼时，可以将它抛到脑后或找到光明的一面，则会消除苦恼。

24. For example, when you encounter distress, you can put it out of your mind or find the bright side, which will eliminate the distress.

25. 消极情绪不能适当地疏泄，容易影响心身健康。

25. Negatively charged emotions that cannot be appropriately released are prone to affect one's mental and physical health.

26. 所以，该哭时应该大哭一场；心烦时找知心朋友倾诉；不满时发发牢骚，愤怒时适当地出出气；情绪低落时可以唱唱欢快的歌。

26. Therefore, when it's time to cry, you should have a good cry; when you're troubled, seek a close friend to confide in; when you're dissatisfied, vent your complaints; when you're angry, appropriately let off some steam; and when you're feeling low, sing some cheerful songs.

27. 白领们应该客观地认识和评价自己的承受能力，把握机遇，发挥自己的长处，并学会在快节奏中提高自己的心理承受能力，在各种事件中基本保持心理平衡。要科学安排工作、学习和生活，制定切实可行的工作计划或目标，并适时留有余地。无论工作多么繁忙，每天都应留出一定的休息、“喘气”的时间，尽量让精神上绷紧的弦有松弛的机会。对待事业上的挫折不必耿耿于怀，亦不要为自己根本无法拓展实现的“宏伟目标”白白地呕心沥血或累得筋疲力尽。

27. White-collar workers should objectively recognize and evaluate their own endurance capacity, seize opportunities, bring out their strengths, and learn to improve their psychological endurance in the fast pace of life, and maintain basic psychological balance in various events. They should scientifically arrange their work, study, and life, formulate practical work plans or goals, and leave room for flexibility as needed. No matter how busy their work is, they should allocate a certain amount of rest and "breathing" time every day, giving themselves the chance to relax the tight strings of their spirit. They should not dwell on setbacks in their careers, nor should they waste their energy and effort on "grandiose goals" that they fundamentally cannot expand or achieve.

28. 工作中若能“平衡”地利用身心各方面的功能，则获益匪浅。“平衡”是多方面的，诸如脑力与体力的平衡；左脑（抽象思维）与右脑（形象思维）的平衡；大脑各神经中枢的平衡；站、坐、走的平衡；用眼与用耳的平衡等等。这样能使生理和心理的功能潜力得以充分发挥，有益身心健康。每一个脑力劳动者都应根据自己的工作特点，使保健与工作结合起来。

28. If one can "balance" the functions of both the body and mind in work, it will bring great benefits. "Balance" encompasses various aspects, such as the balance between mental and physical abilities; the balance between the left brain (abstract thinking) and the right brain (visual thinking); the balance among different neural centers in the brain; the balance between standing, sitting, and walking; the balance between using the eyes and ears, and so on. This allows the physiological and psychological functions to be fully utilized, which is beneficial to physical and mental health. Every intellectual worker should combine health care with their work according to their specific job characteristics.

29. 工作及生活中的烦恼是难以避免的，将忧愁痛苦强行积郁在胸显然不妥。心情不好时，应尽量想办法“宣泄”或转移，如找知心朋友聊聊，一吐为快，或出去走走，看看**。电视等等。遇有大的委屈或不幸时，亦不妨痛哭一场。心理学家指出：痛哭也是一种自我心理保护措施，能使不良情绪得以宣泄和分流，哭后心情自然会畅快一些。困难时要看到光明面，失败时要多看自己的成绩，要有自信心，相信自己的力量。这样有利于理清思路，克服困难，走出逆境。

29. Worry and烦恼 in work and life are inevitable, and it is obviously not appropriate to forcefully suppress sorrow and pain in one's heart. When feeling down, it is best to try to "vent" or distract oneself, such as talking to a close friend to express one's feelings, or going out for a walk to see various things like TV. When encountering great injustice or misfortune, it is also not advisable to refrain from a good cry. Psychologists point out that crying is also a form of self-protection for the psyche, which can help vent and divert negative emotions, making one feel more at ease after crying. In times of difficulty, one should see the bright side, and in times of failure, one should focus more on their achievements. One should have confidence in oneself and believe in one's own strength. This is conducive to clarifying one's thoughts, overcoming difficulties, and emerging from adversity.

30. 要走出封闭的工作环境和自我小圈子，多交朋友。良好的人际关系有益于心理健康和事业的成功。脑力劳动者应该乐于交际，在交际中相互理解和表达交流思想感情，既能悦纳他人，也能悦纳自己。

30. To break out of the enclosed work environment and the self-imposed small circle, make more friends. Good interpersonal relationships are beneficial to mental health and the success of one's career. Intellectual workers should be sociable, understand and express their thoughts and emotions through communication, and be able to appreciate others as well as themselves.

31. 现代白领的业余爱好可以作为转移大脑“兴奋灶”的一种积极的休息方式，有效地调节改善大脑的兴奋与抑制过程，进而消除疲劳，使你从紧张、乏味、无聊的小圈子中走出来，进入兴趣盎然的境界。业余爱好的内容是广泛的，诸如琴棋书画、养鸟养鱼、花卉盆景、音乐舞蹈、旅游垂钓等等。可根据自己的兴趣和情况选择，扬长避短，适当投资，最好养成习惯，以缓解紧张感。

31. The hobbies of modern white-collar workers can serve as a positive way of rest to shift the "excitement focus" in the brain, effectively regulating and improving the excitation and inhibition processes in the brain, thus alleviating fatigue and allowing you to break free from the tight, monotonous, and boring circle, and enter an interesting realm. The content of hobbies is extensive, including playing musical instruments, chess, calligraphy, painting, bird and fish keeping, flower arrangement, music and dance, travel, and fishing, etc. You can choose according to your interests and circumstances, play to your strengths and avoid your weaknesses, make appropriate investments, and it's best to develop a habit to relieve tension.

32. 古人说得好：“流水不腐，户枢不蠹”。对于经常持续伏案工作的白领来说，养成体育锻炼的习惯具有重要意义。因为运动能有效地增强机体各器官、系统的功能，且能促进脑细胞代谢，使大脑功能得以充分发挥，提高工作效率，延缓大脑衰老。每天可安排一小时锻炼，或根据自身情况灵活掌握。旨在放松身心，增强体质。

32. As the ancients said, "Water flows and does not rot; a door hinge does not get worm-eaten." For white-collar workers who often work at their desks for extended periods, forming a habit of physical exercise is of great significance. Because exercise can effectively enhance the functions of various organs and systems in the body, and it can also promote the metabolism of brain cells, enabling the brain to fully exert its functions, improve work efficiency, and delay the aging of the brain. It is advisable to allocate one hour for exercise each day, or flexibly manage it according to one's own situation. The aim is to relax the body and mind, and strengthen physical fitness.

33. 如果遇有心理危机而难于自行解脱，不妨求助于心理咨询机构，可直接向心理医生咨询或拨通心理咨询电话。心理咨询被誉为“温柔的精神按摩”，通过心理医生的劝导、启发、安慰和教育，能使当事者的认识、情感、意志、态度、行为等发生良性转化，增强信心，进而保持身心健康。

33. If you encounter a psychological crisis and find it difficult to relieve it on your own, it is advisable to seek help from psychological counseling institutions. You can directly consult a psychologist or call the psychological counseling hotline. Psychological counseling is被誉为 "the gentlest form of mental massage." Through the guidance, enlightenment, comfort, and education provided by the psychologist, it can cause a positive transformation in the subject's cognition, emotions, willpower, attitudes, and behaviors, enhance confidence, and thus maintain mental and physical health.

34. 你改变不了环境，但可以改变自己;你改变不了事实，但可以改变态度;你改变不了过去，但可以改变现在;你不能控制别人，但你能够掌握自己。

34. You cannot change the environment, but you can change yourself; you cannot change the facts, but you can change your attitude; you cannot change the past, but you can change the present; you cannot control others, but you can master yourself.

35. 我所学到的最大经验是，我们的思想最重要。如果我能了解你的思想，就能了解你这个人，因为你的思想造就了你这个人，通过改变自己的思想，我们就能改变自己的一生。

35. The most valuable lesson I've learned is that our thoughts are the most important. If I can understand your thoughts, I can understand who you are, because your thoughts shape who you are. By changing our thoughts, we can change the course of our lives.

36. 若想改变人生，首先要改变我们自己。而改变我们自己，首先要正确的认识自己，敢于否定自己。

36. If you want to change your life, you must first change ourselves. And to change ourselves, we must first correctly understand ourselves and dare to deny ourselves.

37. 不必特地为了某些人，而改变自己，变得不是自己，而感到陌生。做真正的自己，总会有人喜欢真正的你!

37. There is no need to change yourself specially for certain people, becoming someone you are not and feeling alienated. Be true to yourself, and there will always be someone who likes the real you!

38. 一个人要在这个世界上立足，社会中生存，最好的方法就是不断地学习与改变自己。

38. The best way for a person to establish themselves in this world and survive in society is to continuously learn and change oneself.

39. 人不可能完美，却可以去追求完美，去接近完美。让我们对生活微笑以待，让我们学着改变自己，无愧生命的伟大，生活的美好!

39. No one can be perfect, but we can strive for perfection and approach it. Let us smile at life with anticipation, let us learn to change ourselves, and live up to the greatness of life and the beauty of living!

40. 一个能从别人的观念来 吧 看事情，能了解别人心灵活动的人，永远不必为自己的前途担心。

40. A person who can view things from others' perspectives and understand the mental activities of others will never have to worry about their future prospects.

41. 任何的抱怨都是无济于事的，只会让自己的状况更糟糕，尝试着去改变自己，你会觉得体内被注入了新鲜的血液，还会有更多新的发现!

41. Any complaints are futile and only make your situation worse. Try to change yourself, and you will feel as if fresh blood is being infused into your body, with even more new discoveries to look forward to!

42. 改变自己会痛苦，但不改变自己会吃苦。一个人的性格和习惯是很难改变的，如果想改变，那肯定是一件很痛苦的事。虽然是这样，但在很多时候，我们必须要改变自己。

42. Changing oneself is painful, but not changing oneself will bring suffering. It is difficult to change one's personality and habits, and if one wants to change, it is definitely a very painful thing. Although it is like this, in many cases, we have to change ourselves.

43. 一个人不管出自哪里，你的内心必须强大，不管别人怎么看你，你只有掌握一技，能改变自己生活的一技。

43. No matter where you come from, you must have a strong inner self. No matter how others perceive you, you only need to master one skill that can change your own life.

44. 遇到难于解决的问题，情绪消极的时候，不妨暂时回避一下，去做些其他事情来调解心情，如听音乐、散步等。等恢复乐观积极的心态时再去解决问题，往往会有意外的收获。

44. When faced with difficult problems and feeling negative emotions, it's not a bad idea to take a temporary break and do something else to adjust your mood, such as listening to music, taking a walk, etc. When you regain an optimistic and positive mindset, returning to solve the problem often yields unexpected results.

45. 想事情，不要过度悲观，朝好的方向想。好心情与坏心情仅仅是一念之差，与其悲观消极处理问题，不如积极的想想美好的未来，然后去创造条件，实际你的想法。

45. Think about things, but don't be overly pessimistic; think positively. Good mood and bad mood are just a matter of thought. Instead of dealing with problems in a pessimistic and negative way, why not actively think about a wonderful future, then create conditions to actualize your thoughts.

46. 不要过于完美主义，保持良好的心态。没有什么事情是完美的，当你把标准定的越来越高时，常常会因实现不了而感到失落。不妨实事求是，能超标准完成最好，达不到标准，下次继续努力。

46. Don't be too perfectionist and maintain a good attitude. Nothing is perfect, and when you set higher and higher standards, you often feel disappointed because you can't achieve them. It's better to be realistic. If you can exceed the standards, that's great. If you can't meet them, keep trying harder next time.

47. 不要过于挑剔，保持一颗宽容的心。当你看不惯别人的时候，不仅会造成与对方有隔阂，难以沟通合作，而且会影响自己的美好心情。学会宽容、谅解，对双方都有好处，事情才会朝着好的方面发展。

47. Do not be overly picky and maintain a heart of tolerance. When you cannot stand someone else, it not only creates a barrier between you and them, making communication and cooperation difficult, but it also affects your own pleasant mood. Learning to be tolerant and understanding is beneficial to both parties, and only then will things develop in a good direction.

48. 学会屈服。当遭遇重大打击时，往往会比较浮躁、悲观，但事情已经发生了，消极的心态无济于事，反而会让事情更遭。不如学会屈服，接受现实，重新开始。

48. Learn to submit. When faced with a major setback, one is often restless and pessimistic, but since the event has already occurred, a negative mindset is of no help and can even make matters worse. Why not learn to submit, accept the reality, and start anew?

49. 学会知足。俗话说，知足常乐。容易满足的人，一般拥有乐观的心态。知足不等于不思进取，是为了有更好的心态去面对未来的艰难险阻，实现目标。

49. Learn to be content. As the saying goes, "Contentment is the source of joy." People who are easily satisfied generally have an optimistic mindset. Being content does not mean ceasing to strive for progress; it is about having a better attitude to face the difficulties and challenges of the future and achieve our goals.

50. 对未来怀有美好的愿景。没有理想，没有目标的人，生活会显得枯燥无味，享受不到成功的乐趣。要保持乐观的心态，需要不断完成目标带来刺激，只有这样才会有源源不断的动力。

50. Hold a beautiful vision for the future. Without ideals and goals, life will seem monotonous and without the joy of success. To maintain an optimistic attitude, one needs to constantly achieve goals to bring stimulation, and only then will there be a continuous source of motivation.