在浩瀚的人生舞台上，我们每个人都是自己命运的主角。回首过去，是选择塑造了现在，而未来的路，终将回归于自我承担。在这本书中，我们将一同探讨“中年反思：一生的选择，终归自我承担”这一主题，引领读者在人生的每一个阶段，找到属于自己的答案。

On the vast stage of life, each of us is the leading character of our own destiny. Looking back, it is our choices that have shaped the present, and the path ahead will ultimately return to self-fulfillment. In this book, we will together explore the theme "Midlife Reflection: Choices Throughout Life, Ultimately Leading to Self-Responsibility," guiding readers to find their own answers at every stage of life.

1. 3我不是不懂感情，只不过是面部表情没你那么丰富罢了。

1. 3 I am not insensitive to emotions; it's just that my facial expressions are not as rich as yours.

2. 26我想这个世界没有谁生来孤单，每个人都拥有值得怀念的过去，而这些过去终将成为一生最美好的时光，陪伴我们度过孤独岁月。

2. 26 I believe that no one is born to be lonely in this world. Everyone has a past worth cherishing, and these memories will eventually become the most beautiful moments of a lifetime, accompanying us through the lonely years.

3. 我很好，从不委屈自己嘲笑别人，这些也许你已知道

3. I'm doing well, I never make myself feel bad by making fun of others, which I think you may already know.

4. 以前，总以为正确的选择，就符合我们内心的预期，后来才发现，真正正确的选择是，无论好坏得失，你都能欣然的接受。一路有一路的风景，一站又一站的趣味，鱼和熊掌不可兼得！

4. Previously, I always thought that the right choice was one that aligned with our inner expectations. Later, I realized that the truly right choice is to accept, with joy, whatever good, bad, gain, or loss comes your way. Each journey has its own scenery, and each stop offers its own fun. You can't have both the fish and the bear's paw!

5. 幸好爱不是一切，幸好一切都不是爱。再美好也经不住遗忘，再悲伤也抵不过时间。

5. Fortunately, love is not everything, and fortunately, nothing is all about love. No matter how beautiful it is, it cannot withstand forgetfulness; no matter how sad it is, it cannot withstand time.

6. 每一枚玫瑰都有刺，正如每个人的性格里，都有你不能容忍的部分。

6. Every rose has its thorns, just as every person's personality has parts that you cannot tolerate.

7. 18年轻时候的爱情，可以没有能力，可以没有钱，可以没有梦想，没有目标，没有计划，可以互相耗损互相伤害互相背叛互相欺骗，依旧可以爱得轰轰烈烈喜欢的死去活来。

7. In the youthful love of 18 years old, one can lack ability, money, dreams, goals, and plans. It can involve mutual consumption, harm, betrayal, and deception, yet it can still be passionate and intense, and one can love with all one's heart, loving until one is near death.

8. 终于明白要寻找的那个人是谁时，回首灯火阑珊处，却已空无一人。

8. When at last I understood who the person I was searching for was, looking back at the dimly lit streets, there was no one left.

9. 给我再去相信的勇气，越过谎言去拥抱你。明明不是陌生人，却装的，比陌生人，还要陌生。

9. Give me the courage to believe again, to embrace you beyond the lies. Even though we are not strangers, we act as if we are, even more so than a stranger.

10. 你总对我说：累了该休息了，痛了该停止了，哭了该放弃了，悔了该遗忘了，可是你忘了告诉我，心死了，怎么活

10. You always tell me: When you're tired, you should rest; when you're in pain, you should stop; when you're crying, you should give up; when you're regretful, you should forget. But you forgot to tell me, when your heart dies, how to live.

11. 2我们生活在不同的世界，难以互相理解，就像天空下起了雪，你觉得美，我觉得冷。

11.2 We live in different worlds, making it hard for us to understand each other, just like when snow falls from the sky, you feel it's beautiful, but I feel cold.

12. 告诉我 哪一碗酒可以照见你 让我掺着遗忘一口饮尽了它 也好过在这短暂的一生用每次日落远望 却换来夜色茫茫

12. Tell me which bowl of wine can reflect you. Let me mix it with oblivion and drink it all at once. It would be better than gazing longingly at each sunset during this brief life, only to be greeted by endless darkness.

13. 看着自己心爱的人挽着别人的手，那是多么痛啊！！

13. It's so painful to see the one you love holding hands with someone else!!

14. 原来、转眼和永远一样 原来、沉默不等于遗忘

14. As it turns out, a moment's glance is as long as forever. Silence does not necessarily mean forgetfulness.

15. 有种人、很喜欢、但只能是朋友…不忘初心，方得始终。只有去走过弯路，在那时候你才是更确信当初最想要的是什么。生命中的许多东西是可遇不可求，刻意强求的得不到，而不曾被期待的往往会不期而至。

15. There are some people who are very liked, but they can only be friends... Only by holding onto the original intention can one achieve the ultimate goal. It is only when you have gone through detours that you will be more certain about what you most want at the beginning. Many things in life can be encountered but not sought, and what is not anticipated often comes unexpectedly.

16. 我们总是在错误的时间，错误的地点，懵懵然就爱上那个人，然后，不得不用尽一生，遗忘。

16. We always fall in love with that person at the wrong time, in the wrong place, and in a daze. Then, we have to spend a lifetime trying to forget.

17. 虽然偶尔，我会痛彻心扉，但是这些我都毫不在乎

17. Although occasionally, I may experience excruciating pain, I don't care about all these.

18. 最初的相识相知，后来的相濡以沫，让我相信你就是我一直在苦苦找寻的幸福。但我猜到了过程，却未曾猜到结局。现在才发现，幸福有时距离我很近很近，甚至触手可及，但却也只是过眼云烟，转瞬即逝。其实，我想要的幸福真的很简单，我只想：愿得一人心，白首不相离。

18. The initial acquaintance and subsequent companionship have led me to believe that you are the happiness I have been tirelessly seeking. But while I guessed the process, I never anticipated the outcome. Now I realize that happiness can sometimes be incredibly close, almost within reach, yet it's just a fleeting mirage, vanishing in an instant. In fact, the happiness I truly desire is very simple; I only wish: to find one person's heart, and stay together till the end.

19. 你在这边，喜欢他，缠绵悱恻。他在那边无动于衷，就像陌路。不是你不好，而是你不是他要的好，所以只能相见时努力平淡，不见时努力忘记。

19. You are here, liking him, and feeling deeply entangled and emotional. He remains indifferent over there, as if he is a stranger. It's not that you are not good enough, but you are not the kind of person he wants. Therefore, you can only try to be calm when you meet, and try to forget about him when you don't.

20. 杨绛先生有言：“不必站在50岁的年龄，悔恨30岁的生活，也不必站在30岁的年龄，悔恨17岁的爱情，我们不能站在后来的高度，去评判当年的自己，这本不公平，如果让你重新来一次的话，以当时的心智和阅历，还是会做出同样的选择。”

20. Mr. Yang Jiang once said, "It is not necessary to regret the life you lived at 30 years old when you are 50, nor is it necessary to regret the love you had at 17 when you are 30. We cannot judge ourselves of the past from the height of today, as this is not fair. If you were given another chance, with the same level of understanding and experience at that time, you would still make the same choices."

21. 最怕的就是我一直觉得很重要的人，而他最重要的人却不是我。有人说，失眠，是因为你正在别人的梦里辛苦地忙碌着。很多事，只有亲身经历才会理解，一如情感：错过了，遗憾了，才晓得生活其实不须要这么多无谓的执着。

21. The most frightening thing is that the person I always think is very important to me is not the most important person to him. Some say, insomnia is because you are toiling hard in someone else's dream. Many things can only be understood through personal experience, just like emotions: only when you miss and regret, do you realize that life actually does not require so much meaningless attachment.

22. 不要对我妄下判断。你看到的只是我想让你看的部分。如果爱是场游戏，我是真的玩不起。在茫茫的人海里，谁是谁的定格？谁又是谁的过客？勉强地在一起，只会徒增伤悲。人生憔悴的脚步在行走，与其说将枯萎的情感蜿蜒着没有爱的年轮，倒不如把没有爱过的人再好好的爱一次。

22. Do not make hasty judgments about me. What you see is only the part I want you to see. If love is a game, I truly cannot afford to play. Amid the vast sea of people, who is the still image for whom, and who is the passerby for whom? Struggling to be together will only add more sorrow. The weary steps of life are walking, rather than saying that withering emotions twist into rings without love, it is better to love someone who has never been loved again.

23. 我不管前方是风是雨还是晴，我只知道，如若是你，随时随地，我会如约而至，哪怕赌上一生的运气。

23. I don't care if it's windy, rainy, or sunny ahead, I only know that if it's you, I will come as scheduled at any time, even if I bet on the luck of a lifetime.

24. 面具戴太久，就会长到脸上，再想揭下来，除非伤筋动骨扒皮。

24. If you wear a mask for too long, it will grow onto your face, and it will require breaking bones and skinning to take it off.

25. 漫漫人生的道路上，我们会遇见很多抉择的路口，当你选择了这条路的同时，也就意味着你将失去另一条路的风景。

25. On the long journey of life, we will encounter many crossroads of choices. When you choose this path, it also means you will miss the scenery of the other path.

26. 脚下的这条路就是最好的路，终会有星辰大海，花团锦簇。

26. The path under our feet is the best path, and it will eventually lead to the stars and the sea, surrounded by a brilliant display of flowers.

27. 17并不是所有的结束都是残缺，悲伤不会化成河流一般壮大反而会被声明中那些温暖而美好的事情所覆盖。

27. 17 Not all endings are incomplete, and sorrow will not transform into a river of grandeur but rather be overshadowed by the warm and beautiful things stated in the declaration.

28. 每一个在你生命里出现的人，都有原因，都有使命。喜欢你的人给了你温暖和勇气；你喜欢的人让你学会了爱和自持；你不喜欢的人教会了你宽容和尊重；不喜欢你的人让你知道了自省和成长。没有人是无缘无故出现在你生命里的，每一个人的出现都是缘份，都有原因，都值得感恩。

28. Everyone who appears in your life has a reason and a mission. Those who like you give you warmth and courage; those you like teach you to love and maintain yourself; those you don't like teach you tolerance and respect; those who don't like you make you aware of self-reflection and growth. No one appears in your life without a reason. Every person's presence is a connection, has a reason, and is worthy of gratitude.

29. 这个世界，看你笑话的人，永远比在乎你的多。遇事随心而为，不急不躁，随缘而安~~！对于那些无故指责我们的人，不要与他们争论，因为这样只会使自己变得愤怒。与其伤害别人，不如去宽容别人，宽容是治疗他人伤口最好的灵丹妙药。我们要学会容忍之心。

29. In this world, the number of people who laugh at you is always greater than those who care about you. When facing things, act according to your heart, without haste or impatience, and be at peace with fate~~! Don't argue with those who criticize us without reason, because this will only make yourself angry. It's better to show tolerance to others than to hurt them, as tolerance is the best elixir to heal others' wounds. We need to learn to have a forgiving heart.

30. 说过白头偕老的人，再次相见，避如豺狼。我喜欢上了个，不能拥抱不能牵手，甚至不能靠近的人。

30. Those who have said "to grow old together" now avoid each other like wolves when they meet again. I have fallen in love with someone I can't hug, hold hands with, or even get close to.

31. 我以为时间是最好的偏方，原来治好的全是皮外伤。如果真的失去了，那就假装从未发生过。

31. I thought time was the best medicine, but it turns out it only healed superficial wounds. If you truly lose something, just pretend it never happened.

32. 两个人在一起，最重要的感觉就是舒服。即使默默不语，也是一种默契；纵然两两相望，也是一种惺惺相惜。

32. The most important feeling when two people are together is comfort. Even if they are silent, it's a kind of默契; even if they are looking at each other, it's a sense of mutual affection.

33. 你想念一个人的时候，尽情去想念吧，也许有一天，你再也不会如此想念他了。

33. When you miss someone, let yourself miss them completely. Perhaps one day, you will never miss them as much as you do now.

34. 14世界大得真是可怕，哪怕我们再用力生活，用力爱，用力恨，也不过是一粒微小红尘，我们的烦恼大致相同，我们的苦闷，也相差无几。

34. The 14th century is truly terrifying. Even if we live with all our might, love with all our might, and hate with all our might, we are but a tiny, reddish speck of dust. Our troubles are largely the same, and our distresses are not very different from each other.

35. 我有没有说过对于我而言你是我的全世界，而对于你而言我只不过是你成长道路上的一个微不起眼的路人甲。

35. Have I ever said that to me, you are my entire world, but to you, I am just an insignificant passerby on your path of growth.

36. 爱你是前世弥留之际情感的延续，是今生轮回前不变的诺言。有一个人，你真的好想他快乐，所以你就宁愿自己不快乐；有一个人，离开他的时候你笑了，但是一转身，早已泪流满面。

36. Loving you is the continuation of the emotions at the moment of your last breath in a past life, and a promise that remains unaltered before the cycle of rebirth in this life. There is someone, whom you truly wish to be happy, so you are willing to be unhappy yourself; there is someone, when you leave him, you smile, but when you turn around, tears have already streamed down your face.

37. 我害怕的是，那些回忆，我还记得，你却已经忘记了

37. What I fear is that those memories, which I still remember, you have already forgotten.

38. 时间会告诉我，那段难挨的日子我是如何走过来。时间也会告诉你，你是如何失去一个愿意用生命爱你的人。你明知道自己不会和这个人在一起，还是会去享受这份恋爱的心情。然后到了合适的时候，离开，去和不爱但是很合适的人在一起。

38. Time will tell me how I got through those difficult days. Time will also tell you how you lost someone who was willing to love you with all their life. You know yourself that you won't be with this person, but you still enjoy the feelings of being in love. Then, at the right time, you leave to be with someone who is not loved but is very suitable.

39. 15你说你永远记得这温暖。你说你会因为那一点温暖，勇敢地活下去。

39. You say you'll always remember this warmth. You say you'll courageously go on living because of that little bit of warmth.

40. 5为什么伤害隔着那么远都能做到，而安慰，却必须在身旁才行呢？

40. 5 Why can one cause harm from such a distance, but comfort requires being by someone's side?

41. 听说，鱼的的记忆只有7秒钟，看见，转身，遗忘。游一圈，就已经不记得自己来时的路

41. It is said that fish have a memory of only 7 seconds, see, turn around, and forget. After swimming a lap, they no longer remember the path they came from.

42. 你在那里，我在这里，只是怀念，不再相见。青春，是一段你可以肆意挥霍的时光，爱了，痛了，哭了，笑了，然后你就真的成熟了，青春也就没有了。青春是一个短暂的美梦，当你醒来时，它早已消失无踪。

42. You are there, I am here, only to miss, never to meet again. Youth is a time when you can squander it as you wish. You love, you hurt, you cry, you laugh, and then you really mature, and youth is gone. Youth is a fleeting beautiful dream, and by the time you wake up, it has long disappeared.

43. 7后来我发现，你是留在我心里的一个倒影，轻轻浅浅，让我可以在某些时候想起。但那与真正的你，已经没有关系了。

43. 7 Later, I realized that you are a reflection left in my heart, faint and light, allowing me to remember you at certain times. But that has nothing to do with the real you anymore.

44. 下雨了，伞下我身边依旧留着你的位置宁愿醉着遗忘，也不要痛苦想起藏在眼里的那是一种比流泪更让心碎的眼神

44. It's raining, and under the umbrella, there is still a space for you beside me. I would rather be drunk and forget than to suffer and recall the pain in your eyes, which is more heart-wrenching than tears.

45. 本以为念念不忘的东西却在我们念念不忘的过程中被遗忘

45. The things we thought we would never forget are forgotten in the process of constantly remembering them.

46. 23默不作声的陪伴，远胜过千军万马的誓言。

46. The silent companionship of 23 is far superior to the oaths of tens of thousands of soldiers.

47. 谁是虚情假意，谁是真心爱你，谁会为你不顾一切，你是会明白的。最后地坚信一次，一直走，就可以到白头。惟愿这一生，执子之手，与子偕老。你敢天长，我就敢地久。一辈子很短，不因为固执而去轻言分手。

47. You will eventually understand who is insincere, who truly loves you, and who would do anything for you. Believe in it one last time, keep moving forward, and you can reach old age together. I wish for this life, to hold your hand and grow old with you. If you dare to be long-lasting, I dare to be eternal. A lifetime is short, don't lightly say goodbye because of stubbornness.

48. 12这是一个有风，猪都可以飞起来的时代，而我在这个时代里想做一棵树而不是一只猪，因为，风停了，猪会摔倒，但树却永远在。

48. 12 This is an era with strong winds, where even pigs can fly, but I want to be a tree rather than a pig in this era, because when the wind stops, pigs will fall, but trees will always stand.

49. 16我看过很多场日落，温暖的抑或悲凉的。光线把空气里的温度带走，把燥热的泥土变得冰凉，把周围荆棘高草的轮廓涂抹进灰蒙蒙的暗夜。

49. I have witnessed many sunsets, both warm and melancholic. The light carries away the temperature in the air, turns the hot earth into coolness, and paints the outline of the surrounding thorny tall grass into the gray and dim night.

50. 时光总有一天会将你我拆散，可是即便如此，在那个时刻之前，也让我们在一起吧。

50. Time will eventually tear us apart, but even so, let us be together until that moment comes.

51. 不是所有的爱都会有回应，时间久了，虽然还爱着，可是却也不再坚持自欺欺人的说只要她好，自己怎样都无所谓。

51. Not all love will be reciprocated; over time, although still loving, one no longer insists on deceiving oneself by saying that as long as she is well, it doesn't matter how things are for oneself.

52. 好希望在我被上帝遗忘时能有个人在我耳边轻轻的说：别怕，有我在

52. I wish so much that when I am forgotten by God, someone would whisper in my ear softly: Don't be afraid, I'm here.

53. 越过人性的沼泽谁真的可以不被弄脏我们可以原谅遗忘，但必须知道真相

53. Who can truly cross the marsh of humanity without getting stained? We can forgive forgetfulness, but we must know the truth.

54. 爱上，是最好的幸福，唯一不快乐的，是你不爱我。

54. The best happiness is to fall in love, the only thing that is not happy is that you do not love me.

55. 有时候开玩笑说出的话，往往是潜意识里的真正想法。人做任何事情都要看开一点。学会放弃，本身就是一种淘汰，一种选择，淘汰掉自己的弱项，选择自己的强项。放弃不是说不思进取，恰到好处的放弃，正是为了去更好地进取，常言道：退一步，海阔天空。

55. Sometimes, the things we joke about are actually the true thoughts lurking in our subconscious. In everything we do, we should maintain a light-hearted attitude. Learning to let go is in itself a form of elimination and a choice, eliminating our weaknesses and choosing our strengths. Giving up does not mean ceasing to strive for progress; a timely letting go is precisely to better pursue progress. As the saying goes: take a step back, and the sea becomes vast, the sky becomes boundless.

56. 实在放不下就继续喜欢吧，也许你会感动他，也许你会累到放手。

56. If you really can't let go, keep liking him anyway. Maybe you'll touch his heart, or maybe you'll be exhausted to the point of letting go.

57. 也许爱不是怀念、不是热烈，而是岁月，年深月久成了生活中的一部分。不管什么天气，记得随时带上自己的阳光。不管什么遭遇，记得内心装满开心的童话。傻孩子，你可以傻，但是真的不可以放不下！

57. Perhaps love is not nostalgia, not passion, but the passage of time, which, after many years, has become a part of life. No matter what the weather, remember to always carry your own sunshine. No matter what遭遇, remember to fill your heart with happy fairy tales. Dummy child, you can be foolish, but you really cannot let go!

58. 19并非没有委屈。但庆幸委屈来的早，才能轻而易举被新鲜感浇灭。

58. 19 is not without its grievances. But it is fortunate that the grievances came early, allowing them to be easily extinguished by the novelty.

59. 两个人为什么会吵架，不是没感情，而是用情太深。两人都爱深时，一点点矛盾都会让人受伤很重。因太重视对方，所以就放不下。其实很可惜啊，如果不爱，分手无所谓。但有感情，还是相互宽解和容忍吧。

59. Why do two people argue, not because they don't have feelings, but because they are too deeply in love. When both parties love deeply, even a little bit of conflict can cause a lot of hurt. Because they place too much importance on each other, they can't let go. It's really a pity, if there's no love, it doesn't matter to break up. But if there are feelings, it's still best to show mutual understanding and tolerance.

60. 碎了一地的诺言，拼凑不回的昨天。只是怕一开口就成了令人心酸的客套话。

60. Promises scattered on the ground, yesterday's memories irretrievable. I'm just afraid that as soon as I open my mouth, I'll say something that sounds like a heart-wrenching phrase of courtesy.

61. 渐渐的，两人从无话不谈变成了对话只有“晚安”“恩，晚安”到最后两人默契的达到了你不理我我也不理你的状态。

61. Gradually, the two of them went from talking about anything to only saying "Goodnight" and "Yes, goodnight," and finally reached a state of默契 where neither would acknowledge the other.

62. 我的心不是二十四小时营业的，所以他不会随时欢迎你光临

62. My heart is not open 24/7, so it won't be welcoming you at any time.

63. 其实，选错了就选错了，别一遍一遍地后悔，总寻思，如果当初怎么怎么样就好了，别欺负当时的自己。

63. In fact, if you made the wrong choice, just accept it. Don't keep regretting over and over, always thinking about what might have been if you had done something differently back then. Don't be harsh on yourself from that time.

64. 9阳光从窗口筛进来，于是纷飞的细微尘埃混合了木屑，营造出一番缥缈而真切的场景。

64. 9 Sunlight filters through the window, mixing with the flying fine dust and wood shavings, creating a scene that is both ethereal and tangible.

65. 后来所遇之人都胜过他，所爱程度却都不及他。

65. Everyone he met later was better than him, but none loved him as much.

66. 人生没有一条路是好走的，既然选择了，就好好的走下去，不要心存幻想，不要遗憾，只有过好每一个今天，接受遗憾，面对现实才好。

66. There is no easy path in life. Once you have chosen, walk it well, without harboring illusions, without regrets. Only by living each day to the fullest, accepting regrets, and facing reality, can you truly be better.

67. 无论你有多好，总会有不珍惜你的人；幸好，到了最后，所有不珍惜的人，都会成为过去。

67. No matter how good you are, there will always be people who do not cherish you; fortunately, in the end, all those who do not cherish you will become things of the past.

68. 时间在走,年龄在长懂得的多了,看透的多了,快乐越来越少了。

68. Time is passing, and age is increasing. I understand more, see through more, and happiness is becoming less and less.

69. 人活在这个世界上，有太多太多的无奈，总想找一个属于自己的快乐空间，却始终无法找到。面对着一次次的磨难，真的感觉好累好累，想逃避、可逃避终归不是解决事情的办法，只好一次次的去面对，去接受这无法改变的现实。

69. In this world, there are too many, too many helplessnesses. Everyone always wants to find a happy space of their own, but they can never seem to find it. Facing one setback after another, one really feels exhausted and overwhelmed, wanting to escape. However, escaping is not a solution to the problem. One can only keep facing and accepting this unchangeable reality.

70. 孤单不是与生俱来，而是由你爱上个人的那一刻开始。

70. Solitude is not innate; it begins the moment you fall in love with an individual.

71. 或许，一些过往只适合收藏，或许，一些心情只能在夜里流淌。

71. Perhaps, some pasts are meant to be cherished, and perhaps, some feelings can only flow at night.

72. 我喜欢你，喜欢你的一切，喜欢你的好，喜欢你的坏。我想你。却不能告诉你。喜欢你，也不能告诉你，因为我知道，你不喜欢我。

72. I like you, I like everything about you, I like your good, I like your bad. I miss you. But I can't tell you. I can't tell you I like you either, because I know, you don't like me.

73. 有的人，看清了现实，活得轻松自在；有的人，执着于自己，活得身心俱疲。

73. Some people, having seen through the reality, live a carefree and relaxed life; while others, being overly attached to themselves, live in both physical and mental exhaustion.

74. 或许只有在离得最远的时候，才能把曾经走过的那段日子，看的最真确最清楚。

74. Perhaps only when one is farthest away can one see the days that have passed with the most truth and clarity.