揭秘五种常见教育误区，家长必读，避免孩子一生受伤害——育儿篇开篇

Unveiling Five Common Educational Misconceptions, Parents Must Read to Prevent Their Children from Being Harmed for a Lifetime — The First Episode of Child-Rearing Series

1. 怎样才能做好家庭教育呢？这对80后的父母是一种挑战，在做好家庭教育的同时，父母自己也要与时俱进，共同学习。通过《家长必读》的学习，找到了很多值得借鉴的地方。

1. How can one do well in family education? This poses a challenge for parents from the post-1980s generation. While focusing on family education, parents themselves must keep up with the times and learn together. Through studying "Parent Must Read," I have found many areas worth referring to.

2. 主动向孩子承认，我们哪里做错了，具体到我们说了什么，做了什么不对的行为，以及为什么不对等。

2. Proactively admit to the child where we have gone wrong, being specific about what we said and what incorrect behaviors we exhibited, and why they were not appropriate.

3. 和孩子修复时，仅仅用语言是不够的，最有效的情感连接方式是“拥抱”蹲下来真诚询问孩子：我们抱一下好吗

3. When repairing relationships with children, mere words are not enough. The most effective way to establish an emotional connection is through "hugs." Get down to the child's level and sincerely ask, "Can we give each other a hug?"

4. 等孩子情绪稳定下来，我们再针对事情做一个双向约定，无论是孩子还是父母，有错误，就要改正。

4. Once the child's emotions have settled down, we will make a mutual agreement regarding the matter, where both the child and the parents acknowledge that any mistakes made should be corrected.

5. 同时父母还要树立榜样作用，宝宝在阅读方面还不是很有兴趣，做为父母自己也意识到可能是家长做的不够好。如果仅仅是依赖老师在幼儿园对宝宝的引导是远远不够的，更多是需要家长的配合和一个很好的带头作用。通过这次幼儿园组织的“诵读经典阅读节活动”，宝宝比以前有进步啦！在家里的时候，就会拿出自己的故事书央求妈妈讲故事，这是在以前没有过的，这是宝宝一个很好的`行为，做为父母要善于发现，抓住好的机会慢慢去引导，一个好的开始是很重要的！

5. At the same time, parents should also set a good example. If the baby is not very interested in reading, the parents themselves may realize that it is due to their own shortcomings. Relying solely on the teacher's guidance in kindergarten is far from enough; more importantly, it requires the parents' cooperation and a good leading role. Through this "Recite Classic Reading Festival Activity" organized by the kindergarten, the baby has made a lot of progress compared to before! At home, the baby will take out her own storybook and beg her mother to tell a story, which was not the case before. This is a very good behavior for the baby. As parents, we should be good at discovering and seizing the right opportunities to guide them gradually. A good start is very important!

6. 这是在《家长必读》这本书中我所学到的，并且学以致用，收获很大哦！这无疑给我们年轻的父母们起到了导师的作用。在今后的育儿过程中需要学习的知识还有很多，我会细细去品味，去体会，从而取得更大的收获。很庆幸有这样一本好书陪伴着我们年轻父母和孩子们一起快乐的成长！

6. This is what I learned from the book "Parent's Must-Read," and I have applied what I learned, which has been incredibly rewarding! It undoubtedly serves as a mentor to us young parents. There is still a lot of knowledge to be learned in the future parenting process, and I will savor and experience it to gain even greater rewards. I am very fortunate to have such a great book to accompany us young parents and children in our joyful growth together!

7. 不对孩子做过高的期待和预期接受他们的当下，才能更为平和地与他们相处，陪伴他们慢慢成长。

7. Do not set overly high expectations or anticipations for your child. Accept them as they are in the present, so you can coexist with them in peace and accompany them in their gradual growth.

8. 当怒气快升起来时，在心理按下暂停键，深呼吸，觉察自己的情绪来源，平复心情，再开口说话。转移注意力，暂时离开孩子，冷静下来，给自己独立的空间释放情绪。

8. When anger is about to escalate, press the pause button in your mind, take deep breaths, be aware of the source of your emotions, calm down your feelings, and then start speaking. Shift your focus, temporarily step away from the child, cool down, and give yourself the space to release emotions independently.

9. 父母的大吼大叫和打骂、侮辱一样会让孩子的应激素水平增高，导致大脑结构发生变化。凶的越多，笨的越快。

9. Parents' shouting, hitting, and insulting are as harmful as physical abuse, causing the child's stress hormone levels to rise and leading to changes in brain structure. The more aggressive they are, the quicker the child becomes dull.

10. 看了《家长必读》一书后感慨颇深，就像卷首语说的一样，家庭教育是最早期的教育，也是对儿童影响较深的教育。家庭是孩子学习的第一课堂，是家长培养和教育孩子的重要园地。许多事业上卓有成就的人物在幼年时几乎都受到过良好家庭的影响。

10. After reading the book "Parenting Must-Read," I felt deeply moved, just as the preface says, that family education is the earliest form of education and also the one that has a profound impact on children. The family is the first classroom for children to learn, and it is an important garden where parents cultivate and educate their children. Many individuals who have achieved great success in their careers were almost all influenced by good family environments during their early years.

11. 有研究发现，父母的言语暴力会增加脑部左侧颞上回的灰质体积进而让孩子的言语理解能力、表达，能力就越差。

11. Studies have found that parental verbal violence can increase the gray matter volume in the left superior temporal gyrus of the brain, which in turn leads to poorer language comprehension and expression abilities in children.

12. 孩子一旦降生，他既属于家庭，又属于国家和社会，一个品行端正有着良好教养和技能的孩子，成人后会对社会产生积极的作用，父母在孩子的教育中是不能缺席的。前苏联教育家乌申斯基指出“孩子的第一任教师是父母。”孩子出生后通常都是由家庭抚育孩子成长，孩子首先接受的是来自于家庭对他的教育，孩子是从家庭走向社会，从家庭进入学校的。家庭教育是社会教育和学校教育的基矗对孩子的教育是否成功很大程度上取决于家庭教育的质量。

12. Once a child is born, he belongs to the family, the country, and society. A child with good character, proper upbringing, and skills will have a positive impact on society when they grow up. Parents cannot be absent from their child's education. The Soviet educator Ushinsky pointed out, "The first teacher of a child is their parents." After a child is born, they are usually nurtured by the family, and the first education they receive is from the family. Children transition from the family to society and from the family to school. Family education is the foundation of social and school education. The success of a child's education largely depends on the quality of family education.

13. 刚开始时宝宝不是很配合，如果执意让她去洗手会很反感，讨厌洗手。如果父母和孩子回到家后一起去洗手，告诉她洗手的重要性，然后看到家长们也是这样做的，她会很自然地跟着你的身后，自己洗着手，并且让她在洗手这件事中能够体会到乐趣，久而久之就养成了一个好习惯。这需要父母和孩子的坚持，需要父母的正确引导！

13. Initially, the baby was not very cooperative. If she is insistently asked to wash her hands, she would feel very resistant and dislike hand washing. If the parents and child go hand in hand to wash their hands upon returning home, and explain to her the importance of hand washing while seeing the parents doing the same, she will naturally follow your lead, washing her hands herself. Moreover, it is important to let her experience the fun in hand washing, so that over time, she will develop a good habit. This requires the perseverance of both parents and the child, as well as the correct guidance from the parents!

14. 我们批评过多，孩子就会喜欢谴责；挑剔过多，孩子就会喜欢抱怨；强制过多，孩子就会喜欢对抗。

14. If we criticize too much, children will like to be blamed; if we are too picky, children will like to complain; if we impose too much, children will like to resist.

15. 通过学习《家长必读》的学习后，使我受益匪浅。

15. After studying the "Parent's Must-Read" guide, I have greatly benefited from it.

16. 良好的习惯对人的一生起着决定性的作用，习惯的力量是巨大的！人一旦养成某个好习惯，就会不自觉地在这个轨道上运行。如果是好习惯，将会受益终身，反之，坏习惯也可能影响一生，甚至铸就无法弥补的大错。我家宝宝在好习惯培养方面，还需要父母一起努力。每次从幼儿园接孩子回家，第一件事就是洗手。这点很重要，可以让孩子学会如何去正确的洗手，养成讲卫生的好习惯。

16. Good habits play a decisive role in one's life, and the power of habits is immense! Once a person养成 a good habit, they will unconsciously operate in this track. If it is a good habit, it will benefit them throughout their life, whereas bad habits may affect their entire life and even lead to unforgivable mistakes. In terms of nurturing good habits, my baby still needs the joint efforts of both parents. Every time I pick my child up from kindergarten, the first thing we do is wash our hands. This is very important as it allows the child to learn how to wash their hands properly and develop good hygiene habits.

17. 通过种种方法和父母的努力与坚持，就会潜移默化的去影响着宝宝，不知不觉中就会让宝宝们形成很多的好习惯，这些好的习惯会让他们受益终身的。看到孩子们慢慢地受父母的影响学到了很多，并养成了一些好的行为和习惯，那种成就感是不言而喻。当然家长自身的学习是很重要的，不要让自己的坏情绪，坏习惯影响到宝宝，所以家长自身的行为举止和很好的约束力也是非常重要的。

17. Through various methods and the efforts and persistence of parents, this will subtly influence the baby, and without realizing it, many good habits will be formed in the babies, which will benefit them throughout their lives. It is self-evident that there is a sense of achievement in seeing the children slowly learn a lot from their parents and develop some good behaviors and habits. Of course, it is very important for parents to learn themselves, not to let their bad moods and bad habits affect the baby. Therefore, the parents' own behavior and good self-discipline are also very important.

18. 父母的语言暴力，会让孩子变成无头苍蝇，从自己的潜意识出发，做一些伤人伤己的事情，影响一生的幸福感。

18. Parental language violence can turn children into headless flies, acting out of their subconscious and doing things that harm both themselves and others, impacting their happiness for a lifetime.

19. 真诚向孩子道歉，让他感觉到平等的尊重，妈妈刚才太生气了，以至于打了你，是不对的行为。

19. I sincerely apologize to the child, making him feel equal respect. Mom was too angry just now, which led to hitting you, which is not the right behavior.

20. 理解孩子当下的状态，孩子各方面都还未发育成熟，很多行为不受大脑控制，有时也无法理解你说的话。

20. Understand the child's current state; the child has not yet matured in all aspects, many behaviors are not controlled by the brain, and sometimes they also cannot understand what you are saying.

21. 每天回到家都要坚持为宝宝讲喜欢听的故事，睡前也为宝宝讲睡前故事，让她在故事中学知识，明白更多的道理，更重要的是培养阅读的好习惯。家长在宝宝看书的时候可以一起阅读，并且要深情并茂的，让她们能够感受到读书是一件很快乐的事。在宝宝不愿看书的时候也不要强迫她，家长们可以换种方式，自己拿着书“津津有味，故作夸张的朗读”这样宝宝会很容易被吸引过来的。

21. It is important to stick to reading favorite stories to the baby every day when you get home, and also to read bedtime stories before going to sleep. Let her learn knowledge and understand more principles through the stories, and most importantly, cultivate the good habit of reading. When the baby is reading, parents can read along together and should read with emotion and enthusiasm, making them feel that reading is a very joyful activity. If the baby is not interested in reading, don't force her either. Parents can try a different approach, holding the book and reading "with relish, exaggerating in a dramatic manner," which can easily attract the baby's attention.