当“表白被拒绝”后，该如何处理关系？（表白被拒绝了，如何高情商回应？）

What should you do after a failed confession of love? (How to respond with high emotional intelligence after a confession of love is rejected?)

1. 20根据上面的拒绝理由来说，如果自己女的就说：你胸够大吗？自己是男的就说：你下面够粗吗？

1. According to the above reasons for refusal, if you are a woman, you might say: "Are your breasts big enough?" And if you are a man, you might say: "Is your downstairs thick enough?"

2. 跟女生聊天的误区其实是很多的，但是最致命的就是跪舔讨好，各种过度关心，这样子只会让女生感到厌烦，最终把你拉黑删除。其实小编我以前就是这样子撩妹的，压根就没成功过，还是后面看到了～《江寒必恋术》～这本专门教男生脱单撩妹的秘籍，才开始慢慢改变了自己，不仅仅是聊天的方式，更多的是情商方面的，让女生在跟自己聊天时候总是很舒服很乐意聊下去的。现在也都已经结婚了不再去撩妹了，单身的兄弟都该去看看，江寒必恋术，网上就有电子版，你会发现自己以前是多么的二货，单身都是自己活该的。

2. There are actually many misunderstandings in chatting with girls, but the most fatal one is groveling and flattering, showing excessive concern. This kind of behavior will only make girls feel annoyed and eventually block and delete you. In fact, I, the editor, used to be like this when flirting with girls, and never succeeded. It was only after I saw the book "Jiang Han's Sure Love Technique" that I started to change myself gradually, not only in terms of chatting methods but also more importantly in emotional intelligence. This made girls feel very comfortable and willing to continue the conversation. Now I'm married and no longer trying to flirt with girls. Brothers who are single should take a look at "Jiang Han's Sure Love Technique." There's an electronic version online. You will find out how foolish you were before and realize that being single was your own fault.

3. 15也谢谢你对我的尊重，谢谢你对我的青睐。

3. Thank you for your respect towards me, and thank you for your favor.

4. 9我们的距离太远了。(当个朋友就不错了，还想有的没的)

4. 9 Our distance is too far. (Being just friends is fine, but you want more out of it.)

5. 1自贬性的：我不值得你喜欢，有更好的人在等着你呢。

5.1 Self-deprecating: I'm not worth your liking; there are better people waiting for you.

6. 8如果我们早点认识就好了。(可以让你早点觉悟)

6.8 If we had known each other earlier, it would have been better (it would have allowed you to awaken earlier).

7. 你很好，我不适合你。你会找到更好的，

7. You're good, I'm not right for you. You'll find someone better.

8. 表白之前打好草稿表白之前，我们肯定是有点激动和紧张的，毕竟没经验。其实这个时候我们一定要做些小准备，如果你实在没有经验的话，你可以参考网上的一些表白语，但是我们一定要有自己的真实情感，不能太花哨。

8. Make a draft before confessing Before confessing, we are undoubtedly a bit excited and nervous, after all, we don't have much experience. Actually, at this time, we must make some small preparations. If you really have no experience, you can refer to some confession phrases online, but we must have our own genuine emotions and avoid being too fancy.

9. 3也希望你更加努力，不要放弃自己，有一天你会得到自己的幸福！

9. 3 Also hope that you work even harder and don't give up on yourself. One day, you will find your own happiness!

10. 准备表白器材说起表白，你总的让自己女朋友有这种表白气氛了，这个时候我们一定要准备一定的道具，道具有：鲜花，蜡烛，一次性饮料杯，花瓣等。

10. Preparing for a Declaration of Love When it comes to declaring love, you must always create a romantic atmosphere for your girlfriend. At this moment, we must prepare certain props, which include: fresh flowers, candles, disposable drink cups, petals, and so on.

11. 8虚情假意法：我从来没有遇到你这样优秀的，而且爱我的人，我非常珍惜，希望能够拥有你一辈子。就这样简单地爱着你，在漫长的人生里，感情日渐浓郁，只是生命是无常的，是不可预知的。我是不是可以拥有你的亲情，永远做你的妹妹……这样也许更长久些

11. The Art of False Sincerity: I have never encountered someone as outstanding as you, who loves me, and I cherish this deeply, hoping to have you for my entire life. Simply loving you like this, through the long journey of life, our feelings grow richer and more profound. However, life is impermanent and unpredictable. Can I possess your kinship, forever being your sister... Perhaps this would be a longer-lasting arrangement.

12. 29相见容易交往难，素昧平生天与渊。两心遥遥路径远，无需打扰各自安。

12. Meeting is easy, but friendship is hard; being strangers, we are as distant as heaven and the abyss. With our hearts far apart, the path is long; there is no need to disturb each other, let us be at peace.

13. 35还君之明珠，谢君之尺素。赠君以慧剑，盼君斩相思。

13. Return to you the pearls you gave, thank you for the letter you sent. Present to you the wisdom sword, hoping you can sever the longing for you.

14. 27今夜无风 风也有它的归宿 抱歉。

14. Tonight there is no wind, but the wind also has its destination. Sorry.

15. 你很好，但是我不适合你。

15. You're good, but you're not right for me.

16. 26我想我真的不适合你。(我根本就不喜欢你)

16. 26 I really think I'm not suitable for you (I don't like you at all).

17. 32你不是我喜欢得哪种类型得人，无论你追求我多久，我大概都不会心动，你好好得去找爱你得和你爱得人吧。

17. 32 You are not the type of person I like, no matter how long you pursue me, I probably won't be moved, go and find someone who loves you and someone you love properly.

18. 我想我需要更多的空间。

18. I think I need more space.

19. 20你好帅好可爱成绩好好好多人追你你是万人迷，你十全十美，我配不上你！

19. 20 You are so handsome and cute, with great grades. So many people are pursuing you, you are a crowd favorite, you are perfect in every way, and I don't deserve you!

20. 15我没你想的那么好，去和真正好的人交往吧

20. 15. I'm not as good as you think I am, go and associate with truly good people.

21. 33对不起，我已经有喜欢的人了，所以你不要再纠缠我！你这样会让我讨厌你。

21. 33 Sorry, I already have someone I like, so please don't keep pestering me! You'll only make me dislike you this way.

22. 我认为我们最好是朋友。

22. I believe we are best as friends.

23. 没关系，这并不是我的问题，只是两个人的合适度不够。

23. It's fine, this is not my issue; it's just that the compatibility between the two individuals isn't sufficient.

24. 49可是，这样好怪，真的很怪。（你这丑八怪，怪成这样还想吃天鹅肉）

24. 49 But, it's really strange, it's so odd. (You ugly thing, so odd-looking and still wanting to eat swan meat?)

25. 寻求朋友的支持。如果你感到尴尬和难受，可以寻求朋友的支持和理解。他们可以帮助你度过这个难关，并给你一些积极的建议和鼓励。

25. Seek the support of friends. If you feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, you can turn to your friends for support and understanding. They can help you get through this difficult time and offer you some positive advice and encouragement.

26. 我一直把你当作我的兄弟。

26. I have always treated you as my brother.

27. 2对不起，我只要想平淡的生活，你长得太刺激了。

27. 2 Sorry, I just want a peaceful life, you're too stimulating.

28. 31等一个世纪想与你沉沦，只是我自作多情。

28. 31 year old wanted to sink into the depths with you for a century, but it was all my own fancy.

29. 非常感谢您的尊重和青睐，但我真的很抱歉。

29. I am very grateful for your respect and preference, but I am truly sorry.

30. 50我家人不会接受你的。(别来烦我，我有男人了，并且是家里人一致同意)

30. My family will not accept you. (Don't bother me, I have a man, and it's the unanimous agreement of my family.)

31. 32拒绝理由：我和你不熟。对不起，我已经有喜欢的人了。

31. 32 Reason for refusal: I'm not familiar with you. Sorry, I already have someone I like.

32. 29昨天刚拒绝别个，说，我跟我男朋友和好了。

32. 29 Just rejected someone yesterday and said, "I've made up with my boyfriend."

33. 28你知道你有多猥琐么真的很抱歉我一看到你就吃不下饭所以请你不要再出现在我的视线。

33. 28 Do you know how creepy you are? I'm really sorry, as soon as I see you, I can't eat. So please don't appear in my sight anymore.

34. 47天涯何处无芳草 莫去独恋一枝花。

34. Wherever in the world there is no lack of fragrant grass, do not fall in love with just one flower alone.

35. 没有关系，感谢你的诚实和勇气，让我更好地了解自己。

35. No problem, thank you for your honesty and courage, it has helped me better understand myself.

36. 34你人真的很好。(我真的不想跟你在一起)

36. 34 You're really nice. (I really don't want to be with you.)

37. 11比较虚伪的：我现在学业为重（事业为重），目前还没有交男朋友的打算。

37. 11 Rather hypocritical: I currently prioritize my studies (or career), and I don't have any plans to date a boyfriend at the moment.

38. 16如果我们早一点认识就好了。(说不定你会早点觉悟)我现在学业为重(事业为重)，目前还没有交男朋友的打算。

38. 16 If only we had known each other sooner. (Who knows, you might have realized sooner.) Right now, my studies (or career) are my priority, and I don't have any plans to date a boyfriend at the moment.

39. 谢谢你对我表达了真实的想法，这对我很有启发和帮助。

39. Thank you for expressing your true thoughts to me, which have been very inspiring and helpful to me.

40. 18“不行诶……但是我电脑坏了还能找你的吧？”

40. 18 "No... but can I still find you if my computer is broken?"

41. 19拒绝理由：我和你不熟。对不起，我已经有喜欢的人了。

41. 19 Refusal Reason: I'm not familiar with you. Sorry, I already have someone I like.

42. 12青梅竹马的心有灵犀，两小无猜的天真烂漫，红颜知己的温柔呵护，痴心恋人的蜜语甜言，亲密爱人的无悔付出，所有的爱情保证，都是我想给你的前世今生。

42. The hearts of those who grew up together are intuitively connected, their innocent and carefree nature, the gentle care of a close friend, the sweet words of a devoted lover, the unwavering dedication of a cherished partner, all these guarantees of love are the past and present that I wish to give you.

43. 我觉得我真的不适合你。我一点都不喜欢你。

43. I really feel that I'm not suitable for you. I don't like you at all.

44. 37我也喜欢你只是我曾经喜欢过你，现在我不会再喜欢你了，男人洒脱一点。

44. 37 I also like you, but I have liked you before, and now I won't like you anymore. Men should be more carefree.

45. 19我们不能在一起，有个共同的母亲叫中国。

45. 19 We cannot be together, we share a common motherland called China.

46. 人家说你条件好。

46. They say you have good conditions.

47. 8我真的非常地不喜欢你，你再怎么说也没有用。你要怎样才可以明白我的意思啊我就是对你没有感觉。

47. 8 I really don't like you at all, no matter how much you say, it won't make a difference. How can you understand what I mean? I simply have no feelings for you.

48. 10虚情假意法：我从来没有遇到你这样优秀的，而且爱我的人，我非常珍惜，希望能够拥有你一辈子。就这样简单地爱着你，在漫长的人生里，感情日渐浓郁，只是生命是无常的，是不可预知的。我是不是可以拥有你的亲情，永远做你的妹妹……这样也许更长久些

48. The 10th method of insincerity: I have never met someone as outstanding as you, who loves me, and I cherish you deeply, hoping to have you for my entire life. Just simply loving you, as life unfolds, our feelings grow stronger and stronger. But life is impermanent and unpredictable. Can I have your familial affection, forever be your younger sister... Perhaps this way, it could last longer.

49. 517岁立志成为饭桶，长大后却成了吃货；被赋予萌眼神、也被赋予大胖腰；人生即是如此，你可以暴饮暴食，却无法拒绝变胖。挺住，意味着一切！没错，我不是虚胖胖“神龙大侠”。NOT AT ALL 我是死壮壮“熊猫阿宝”！

49. At the age of 5, I aspired to be a dumpling, but grew up to be a foodie; endowed with a cute gaze, I also gained a big, chubby waist. Life is like that – you can indulge in eating and drinking, but you can't refuse to get fat. Hold on, that means everything! No, I am not just a "Dragon Hero" who is slightly chubby. NOT AT ALL, I am a "Panda A-Pao" who is robustly chubby!

50. 但我会记得你的温柔。

50. But I will remember your gentleness.

51. 35你很好，只是我不能接受，感情不能勉强。

51. 35 You're good, but I can't accept it. Emotions can't be forced.

52. 29你知道你有多猥琐么真的很抱歉我一看到你就吃不下饭所以请你不要再出现在我的视线。

52. 29 Do you know how creepy you are? I'm really sorry, as soon as I see you, I can't eat. So please don't appear in my sight anymore.

53. 等女生不那么排斥和你聊天之后，你在多和她聊点开心的话题。就随便聊点，开场白就用“在干嘛呀？”（虽然很俗但是上手容易）然后和女生聊段子、笑话、或者聊周末安排，学点撩妹的套路啥的。被发好人卡代表起码她不厌恶你不是，即便被打击，也要大笑三声（起码表面工作要做足吧）。最后一定要脸皮厚，乐观向上，多哄多关心，不是那种动不动就宝贝～亲亲的那种，会显得你很油腻。当女生觉得和你聊天愉快之后，她就会不自觉的对你产生好感了，之前被女生拒绝的尴尬也会无形当中消失的。

53. After the girl is no longer averse to chatting with you, start by talking more about cheerful topics with her. Just chat casually, using "What are you doing?" as an opening line (although it's a bit cheesy, it's easy to start with). Then, discuss anecdotes, jokes, or her weekend plans, and learn some seduction tactics. If she gives you the "good person" card, it means at least she doesn't dislike you. Even if you're discouraged, you should laugh three times (at least you should do your surface work well). Finally, be thick-skinned, optimistic, and show more affection and concern. Don't be the kind who constantly says "darling" or "honey," as it will make you seem greasy. When the girl finds chatting with you pleasant, she will unconsciously develop a fondness for you, and the embarrassment of being rejected by the girl will disappear in the process.

54. 17我漠视除自己关注和重视之外的一切感觉和现象。

54. 17 I disregard all feelings and phenomena except those that I pay attention to and value.

55. 13感情不能勉强，我有自己的事情要做，原谅我不能答应伴随你。

55. 13 Feelings cannot be forced. I have my own things to do, forgive me for not being able to accompany you.

56. 3我不可能变班对的。(虽然理由很烂，不过挡你绰绰有馀啦)

56. 3 I can't change my classmate. (Although the reason is poor, it's more than enough to block you.)

57. 40不好意思啊，我们不是一个画风画出来的，我get不到你的点。

57. 40 Sorry, we're not from the same artistic style, I can't quite catch your point.

58. 38别急嘛，我们可以先作朋友。(我可以趁这个时候找男朋友)

58. Don't worry, we can be friends first. (I can use this time to find a boyfriend)

59. 你是我心中高冷男神呀男孩儿全是十分傲骄的，有的情况下回绝你，很有可能确实是由于傲骄，这类状况下干万别着急气馁，假如另一方问你为什么的情况下，你也就能够 对他说最大就是你的高冷男神，那样的话男孩子便会有一种十分考虑的征服欲。

59. You are the cold and aloof god in my heart. Boys are all very proud and conceited. In some cases, their refusal to you might indeed be due to their pride. In such situations, you should never get upset or discouraged. If they ask you why, you can tell them that it's mainly because you are this cold and aloof god. In that case, the boy will have a strong desire to conquer you with great consideration.

60. 7我想我应该给不了你想要的那种感情。所以我们之间可能真的不太合适。

60. 7 I think I'm not able to give you the kind of affection you want. So, there might really not be a good match between us.

61. 20知道我为什么喜欢用color而不是colour吗因为我不喜欢"u"。

61. Do you know why I prefer to use "color" instead of "colour"? Because I don't like the "u".

62. 41你认为我很优秀，希望你能和比我强一百倍的人在一起

62. 41 You think I am outstanding, and I hope you can be with someone who is one hundred times stronger than me.

63. 虽然女生拒绝了你是表明了她对你的态度，但女生对于她自己感兴趣的事情还是会有浓厚的兴趣，所以如果你投其所好的和女生聊天，或者在自己的朋友圈发一些她感兴趣的事或者做一个很酷的自己给她看，那女生说不定就会主动和你聊天讨论这些她感兴趣的事情了，你向她展示自己的机会不就来了么。

63. Although a girl rejecting you indicates her attitude towards you, a girl will still have a strong interest in things she is interested in. So if you chat with her about topics she likes or post things she is interested in on your social circle, or show her a cool side of yourself, the girl might just initiate a conversation with you about these topics she is interested in. Isn't that an opportunity for you to showcase yourself?

64. 12哈哈哈哈哈哈，你开玩笑吧，我有喜欢的人了你不知道吗。

64. 12 Hahaha, you're kidding, right? You don't know I have someone I like?

65. 38先森，你上厕所吗？怎么了？哦，就是让你撒泡尿照照。

65. Sir 38, are you going to the bathroom? What's wrong? Oh, it's just to let you pee and take a look at yourself.

66. 不要逃避或回避对方。如果你不想与被拒绝的人保持距离或交往关系，那么你应该尽量避免逃避或回避对方，这样只会让尴尬更加严重。

66. Do not avoid or evade the other person. If you do not want to maintain distance or a relationship with the person who has been rejected, then you should try to avoid evading or avoiding them, as this will only make the embarrassment worse.