探寻高效生活之道：摒弃抱怨、减少思索与社交的束缚

Explore the Path to an Efficient Life: Abandon Complaints, Reduce the Constraints of Reflection and Social Interaction

1. 不再装模作样地拥有很多朋友，愿意回到孤独之中，以最好的心态面对崭新的生活。真正靠得住的，从来不是人喊马叫的喧嚣，是强大的经济基础，以及温馨和谐的家庭。

1. No longer pretentiously owning a large number of friends, willing to return to solitude, facing the new life with the best attitude. What is truly reliable is never the noisy clamor of people shouting and horses neighing, but rather a strong economic foundation and a warm and harmonious family.

2. 真正让我们痛苦的并不是事情本身，而是我们的过度焦虑和胡思乱想，造成持续不断的精神内耗，让自己剪不断，理还乱，每天在烦恼之中纠缠。

2. What truly causes us pain is not the events themselves, but our excessive anxiety and overthinking, which leads to continuous mental drain, leaving us tangled and confused, caught up in worries every day.

3. 世上本无事，庸人自扰之。

3. There is nothing in the world, but the fool makes a fuss about it.

4. 我们或许无法支配自己的命运，但是可以支配自己对待命运的态度，不抱怨环境，不胡思乱想，不委屈自己迎合别人，一个人的世界里，独善其身，在无法逆转的命运格局之中，随遇而安。

4. Perhaps we cannot control our fate, but we can control our attitude towards it. We should not complain about our environment, indulge in idle thoughts, or sacrifice ourselves to please others. In one's own world, one should be content with self-improvement, and adapt to whatever comes in the face of an irreversible fate.

5. ​人最终获得快乐和自由只有两件事，第一个你有足够的经济基础，第二个你的家庭关系和谐，这就足够了。很多人的问题就是把时间，浪费在没有意义的人际关系上。”

5. Ultimately, there are only two things that lead to happiness and freedom for humans: the first is having a sufficient economic foundation, and the second is harmonious family relationships, which is enough. The problem for many people is that they waste time on meaningless interpersonal relationships.

6. “年龄越大你就会发现，其实根本不需要那么多朋友，你也没有时间去维持那么多朋友关系。

6. "The older you get, you'll find that you actually don't need that many friends, and you also don't have the time to maintain so many friendships."

7. 心有山海，静而不争。

7. The heart holds mountains and seas, yet remains serene and uncontentious.

8. 牢骚太盛防肠断，风物长宜放眼量。莫道昆明池水浅，观鱼胜过富春江。

8. Excessive grumbling may harm your intestines; it is best to take a broad view of the world's wonders. Don't say that the waters of Kunming Lake are shallow; watching the fish there is better than the rich scenery of the Fu Chun River.

9. 可是抱怨的后果非常严重：第一会让你陷入负能量的情绪之中，不能自拔，你随时提醒自己，别人怎么不好，环境怎么糟糕，命运怎么凄凉，不断给自己负面的暗示，那么你的整个生命都会在黑暗中精疲力尽。第二，你会让别人感到反感。没人喜欢一个爱抱怨的人，更没人愿意接受抱怨的信息，你的怨气太多，别人都会敬而远之，让你在人际关系中，陷入非常被动和孤立的境地。

9. However, the consequences of complaining are very severe: First, it will trap you in negative emotions, unable to extricate yourself. You are constantly reminding yourself of how others are not good, how the environment is terrible, and how destiny is bleak. You keep giving yourself negative suggestions, so your entire life will be exhausted in the darkness. Second, it will make others feel resentful. No one likes a complainer, and no one is willing to accept complaining information. Your抱怨 too much, and everyone will keep their distance, making you陷入 a very passive and isolated position in interpersonal relationships.

10. 一段很通透的话：

10. A very insightful statement:

11. 给自己足够的正能量，做一个独立而乐观的人。

11. Give yourself enough positive energy and be an independent and optimistic person.

12. 人生就是一场孤独的旅程，没有人能真正和你共情，也很少有人真心实意的关注你，帮助你，安慰你。不要对别人抱有不切实际的妄想和心存幻想的期待，每个人都是泥菩萨过河，只能渡自己。

12. Life is a journey of solitude, no one can truly empathize with you, and few people genuinely care about you, help you, or comfort you. Do not harbor unrealistic illusions or expectations in your heart; everyone is like a clay Buddha crossing a river, able to help themselves only.

13. 当你感到生活不顺心，工作不如意，或者遇人不淑的时候，都会心生怨恨，口出恶言，抱怨不迭。

13. When you feel that life is not going well, work is not satisfactory, or you meet someone unkind, you will feel resentment, speak ill words, and complain endlessly.

14. 只要我们拥有一个足够好的心态，拥有足够积极的态度，艰难险阻都会过去，雨雪冰雹都会消散，我们一定会迎来人生的春暖花开，阳光灿烂。

14. As long as we have a sufficiently good mindset and enough positive attitudes, all difficulties and challenges will pass, and all rain, snow, and hail will dissipate. We will definitely welcome the warm spring and blooming flowers in our lives, with radiant sunshine.

15. 不要多想，不要让一些不值得的事情困扰你的人生。

15. Don't overthink it, and don't let some things that aren't worth it trouble your life.

16. 抱怨是一种毒药，能够在潜移默化之中伤害自己。

16. Complaining is a poison that can subtly harm oneself.

17. 不要在心中装有太多的戏，事情还没有发生，就不要去猜测结局。行动还没有展开，就不要去患得患失，担惊受怕。事情还没有尘埃落定，不要透支焦虑，惴惴不安。事情过去了，就及时清空自己的内心和大脑，云淡风轻的生活。

17. Do not overfill your heart with plays, as the things have not yet happened, do not guess the outcome. As the actions have not yet been unfolded, do not worry about the potential gains or losses, or be fearful and anxious. As the matters have not yet come to a close, do not exhaust your anxiety or be worried about it. Once the matter has passed, promptly empty your heart and mind, and lead a serene and relaxed life.

18. 作家余华说：“精神内耗，说白了就是自己心里的戏太多了。言未出，结局已演千百遍；身未动，心中已过万重山；行未果，假象苦难愁不展；事已毕，过往扔在脑中演。”

18. The writer Yu Hua said: "Mental exhaustion, put simply, is all about having too many internal dramas. The ending has been played a thousand times before the words are spoken; the mountains have already been crossed in the heart before the body moves; false appearances and hardships are not unfolded before the act is accomplished; and after the matter is over, the past is left in the mind to play itself out."

19. 幸福不在于物质的多少和成绩的大小，在于你以什么样的态度去面对生活。

19. Happiness does not lie in the abundance of material possessions or the magnitude of achievements, but in the attitude with which you face life.